DL Hughley & Vlad Reflect on Their Moms Badly Treating Their Dads Before They Died (Part 13)
Vložit
- čas přidán 19. 12. 2023
- Watch the full interview now as a VladTV CZcams Member - czcams.com/users/vladtvjoin
Part 14: • DL Hughley Clowns Keke...
Part 12: • DL Hughley: Keke Palme...
Part 1: • DL Hughley on Diddy Se...
--------
Vlad and DL Hughley highlighted their shared belief in traditional gender roles and men being the financial providers in a relationship. The conversation referenced Tyler Perry, who was criticized for suggesting that a woman could cover the mortgage while the man pays the light bill. Vlad explained that he always assumed a financial position in his relationships, while Hughley criticized men who allowed women to take care of them financially. Hughley also discussed the negative impact on his relationship with his mother due to her mistreatment of his dying father, a sentiment echoed by Vlad. The interview showed the pair sharing traditional views of masculinity and the idea that men must provide and protect, as well as the negative social and personal repercussions if they fail in these roles. - Zábava
Watch the full interview now as a VladTV CZcams Member - czcams.com/users/vladtvjoin
Shame shame vlad, more great men under a mil than over. Bad metrics dood. No intelligence of life exp in that comment
This clip hits deep. Shows that a lot of Men are literally only loved for what they can provide and when he can't anymore he's discarded. Truly sad.
Nothing new tho
That is a constant.
Women love valuables and Kids.
Men love wife and kids.
Hence Men love unconditionally. Women love conditionally.
@@healthnurture8025 damn...
@@healthnurture8025oh please. Stop the lies. Men love on the condition of the woman looking hot and young. If the best wife gets fat or sick, men are statistically more likely to leave. Men have entire families on the side and you come here thinking they love their wives unconditionally 😅
Women are only with you based on what you can do for them and how you make them feel
This clip hit different. Two grown men of different races who honored their fathers and loved their mothers but seen how death can change the living. Even change those you hold in the highest regard like a parent when you see how they treat someone you loved and respected. 💯
Women have saturated the job market after they started working, unlike when Vlad was younger and I was younger. So now wages aren’t good and prices are high due to women in work place and fed. So now women make more and men don’t but they want a man who makes a lot but is like 1% of the men population.
I love when the conversations are i depth and constructive, real life shit.
fck the gossip, drama, he said she said,
My take is if you in a relationship married or otherwise and you guys together maintain your household......so be it .....a dude letting his woman take all the weight is pathetic.....nowadays it's very rare for a dude to take care of everything and be respected as the head of household in all areas without a woman feeling salty at some point ....sad how there Mother's showed out in the end
"Only women children dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved on the condition that he can provide"- Chris Rock😢
Seems like it...
@quanbrooklynkid7776 it's like if a dude don't have the basics like his own place, car and job he'll get overlooked. But the same guy leave chick's alone and grind for a year get his own basics stack a little bit. He'll have self confidence then he can pull a couple chick's. They'll notice him then. Just like we do.
Needed this right now fellas. “When you’re not sure if your mother ever loved you…” chills.
That part about their mother's disrespecting Their fathers is crazy... Makes you look at love, different. Cold blooded world. Love is the most conditional thing on earth
Makes you question what they previously said about being a man don't it? He did everything he said what makes u a man just to not be appreciated by the person he did it for.
@@HitmanHimmy between what I experience with women, friends and even my own family I've came to the conclusion life is only about power.
It's not about God. Love family friendship. It's about power. You have power. It's about whatever you say it is. If you get some power you can either be a hero or a villain. Try to not let anyone get power over you because they might be a villain. Work hard to become Superman.
I'm sure there were things the husband did that y'all didn't see.
@@lisai2110 there is no excuse when a man handles his business and the relationship made it that far together...
Crazy just 30min ago I got into a huge argument with my mom. I called her to tell her some good news about a “milestone” in my life and she just casually said some foul shit about my wife. The same wife when my fam was struggling financially she took out every dollar she had from savings and gave it to us with no expectations to get it back. Yet my own blood didn’t help us out and at the time we were just dating. My moms never had an issue with gossiping and just saying foul shit about anyone including her own kids.
You better have checked her for disrespecting your wife
Since your mother has so much smoke for your wife, make sure NOT to invite her into anything where your wife is included.
You need to make it clear to your mother that disrespect towards your wife will not be tolerated .
@@AyesheIsAlwaysLovelyhe’s a mamas boy, you know he won’t do that
Sorry Young Blood But .......WE DON'T GET TO CHOOSE OUR PARENTS and I say this....as someone who. i can say blessed with a mom who protected me the best she could. and I known of PLENTY who's story is a Mirror of your story. - My Condolences to you sir'. Keep Up The Fight - Keep That Positive Energy Flow. your going to need it NOW more then ever !
My grandma still treats my grandpa like shit and he literally built their house with his own 2 hands that she lives in 🤷
Well that's your grandma's fault for taking it 😂
This was a great conversation. I divorced my wife, cause I saw those same evil traits in her and I've had the most peace of mind since.
Dodged a big one!
My ex was evil, too. Many women just don't have the capacity to love. That's a foreign energy to them.
@@KtotheG to bad most men don't learn this until older.
I'm in that boat right now and it's sinking fast.
They are Satanist’s prob have a life insurance policy on you too.
i'm crying while watching this. going thru this as I type this. lost my woman, lost my job, lost my kid, lost my place, loosing my sanity. trying to keep myself motivated but its incredibly painful to live thru this and hear someone else that has gone thru it and ask yourself where to begin. I cannot feel sorry for myself, I just need to dust myself up, work on myself and get the fuck up and be strong for myself again.
Never give up. It's not easy, but make sure to get up and get out of the house every morning.
All things pass and tge good things will come around,life has its ups and down. Stay strong and focused.
Dust yourself up.
Take the first step, second step, and so on ..............
Yes, hang in there. Being in a simular situation I pray that God helps me to the other side. I'm ready to leave it all behind for a piece of mind.
You ain’t gone like to hear this big dawg but someone gotta let you know the real.
If they still alive you gotta move like they dead, if they dead you gotta move like they alive and left you.
You can always make a new family, find a new job, make a new kid. Shit your story might just be starting.
The one thing you can’t give yourself is another you, love the one you have now because truly love isn’t part of this world right now.
I remember my Mom treated my Dad bad while on home hospice. My Dad would say things to us kids that weren't exactly true but it was what came to memory because he had dementia! He'd say something like i went to the bank & walmart today, but we all knew he didn't. My Mom would say with lots of attitude "He's Lying!" When i tell you all 7 of her adult children turned around to confront her & defend our Daddy... she turned her sassy tail right on around and went in the kitchen 😂
He wasn't shit.
Man, I’m so sorry to hear that @vladtv. I’m literally in tears over hearing how your father was mistreated. I have dealt with similar realities. Both you and DL have my sympathy. This story needs to be discussed more. Y’all have helped some ppl better embrace their pain, for real, for real. This is deep coming from men in respect to their mothers.
Thanks April
@@vladtvplease stop talking over your guest and allow them to complete their thought.
This is why some men end up beating women. The disrespect
@@hbdhbd6611This.
Thank you two for being so vulnerable to speak about this. This is great therapy and perspective as a woman. ❤
I ruptured my Achilles at the gym and my now ex hesitated to come get me and never visited me while i was recovering unless i asked her to. When people show you how much they care abojt you, believe them.
These two don't even realize that their stories about THEIR OWN mothers are exactly why a man should NOT strap on a cape and pull 100% of the weight (nor take care of another male's child). 19 times out of 11, she won't appreciate it anyway.
Nevermind. KEEP doing it.
😂
Well said sir
Facts
Nah you 💯 on that! Bingo!
B.B King has a song that say
No one loves me but my mother But she might be jiving too ..
take this as a lesson to all parents and future parents... dont do this to your partner because the kids will remember this look at them two and they are grown
My mom treats my dad like shit now in their 70s and he treated her like shit when they were in their 40s. The deserve each other and if you were a kid that grew up with a dad who hardly came home and was screwing chicks on the side, you would understand why
@@HarmlessCommentthat screwing chicks on the side ruined my relationship with my dad. It’s unforgivable for a man to selfishly disrespect your child’s mother and the children. How could you not have resentment and anger for the guy that intentionally hurt your own mother?
the sad part is it might happen to them as well cause they believe their manhood comes from taking care of women when it should be how much stress they can handle
When a man thinks he's a man based on how women perceive him, he will always be different in different eras cause he just wants to appease a woman. Once he isn't needed or can't provide for her the same, she will not respect him anymore cause their foundation was based on him taking care of her!
@@TheHarryDunne maybe she hurt him, and that was his only way to get payback
If he really was foul he would have left, and took you with him. Or just left the family all together, but as children in this society we don't see our mothers as foul even though a lot of the things they do are foul. It's a gift and a curse.
The gift is you connect with someone. The curse is because you connect with a foul person your life will be the same UNLESS you acknowledge who your parents truly are, and try to be different. Once you pick sides, you will become the person who side you took!
Seems like u side with your mom though
As someone who worked for hospice sgency for 10 yrs, i was surrounded by families of dying family members...anger towards the dying could be a coping mechanism, a very unhealthy coping mechanism but still some ppl dont know how to handle losing that person
wow
No judgement included, but that is still selfishness
These guys sat there and told y’all they can’t understand men that don’t do everything for a woman then turned right around and started talking about how dirty their mothers did their fathers on their death bed after doing everything for her smh you can’t make this ish up.
And dj vlad and DL hughly are in they 50’s so they mothers are from that generation everybody loves bringing up saying when the women was soooooooooo much betterrrrrrrrr and wifey material lol….if women back then didn’t appreciate men can u imagine how if u give your all to a woman from this generation how she going do u?lol
My sentiment exactly. You cannot take these guys serious just running off at the mouth and talking big to puff themselves up..
@user-eq9zc3mey7i yup
@@tonysnow2224Well put.
Trick mentality
Never let any woman destroy your spirit not even your mother. God put women on earth to help man, not the other way around. Once a woman sees that you will allow her to disrespect you she looses respect for you.
And women cannot love any man she cannot respect
This is pimp talk
That is pure nonsense!
You don't speak for "God".
@@onceagain6184
1 Corinthians 11:3
Genesis 2:18
Ephesians 5: 22-33
Proverbs 21:19
Proverbs 27: 15-16
@@everett894Don't waste your time
@@everett894 NONSENSE. FAIRYTALES
I can relate my mother took my father through it glad he’s still alive and well and no longer dealing with the BS
Wow! You guys are telling my story, and my experiences with my elderly parents!
Key point they both explained how their mothers treated their fathers like trash before they died and these men provided a good life for these women tells you how much paying all the bills won't gain you any respect at the end. So quite frankly as a man what are you achieving by paying all the bills if it's not respect??
U cant buy respect
Those women were bad people. It’s not about the money. The bigger question is, why did their fathers choose them?
VLADs mother sounds like she may have been a narcissist. DLs mother too. But like i said in another post… those kind of nasty, mean spirited, mean girl women ALWAYS have husbands. ALWAYS.
Kind women like Michelle Williams from destiny’s child are perpetually single. 🤷🏿♀️ men need to explain this.
That's what they saw when they were old enough to see but when they were young and blind how did he treat her when they were babies and younger???? A woman don't forget...
They’re really feeding their own ego
Exactly
Hughly has so much wit and wisdom to share. This is why it's particularly aggravating how much Vlad interrupts and talks over him.
So Im a bit perplexed at the fact both VlaD and DL would still argue that paying all their households expenses when they both said their mothers treated their fathers poorly as they were dying. DL said his father was an excellent provider and took in children that weren’t his, yet his mother treated him like a POS as he died. This was actually an argument against their point 🤔
Some people lack self awareness
You don’t know the dynamics of their relationship. Simply that.
DL has actually argued that he did not value his wife or treat her the way he should have for a period of time. He respects his wife. His wife is not his mother. The idea is to be the provider because women respect providers but never be in a relationship with someone who would take you providing for them for granted.
These gentlemen are carrying out their duties, on behalf of their fathers, and the scriptures in “honoring their parents.”
@@meeraftaddesse8956 everyone don’t want a provider. Did you bozos ever consider that? Stop infantilizing women. Women these days want a partner.
This has me in tears 😢 I love men were able to be so honest about the pain WOMEN inflict on the family. Yes we do not know what caused the anger but your boys are watching it and become men who lived it. We must protect our men hearts too ♥️ We need ya'll healthy, strong, peace of mind, and providing. I apologize on behalf of all mean harmful WOMEN. ❤
This was deep brother’s. It touched me. Keep up the good work.
So DL's mom was completely provided for and enriched and still didn't have respect for her husband? Should've made her pay bills then
Seriously I was confused because the front end of what they were saying didn’t match the back end of what they were saying. Smh
@GauchaisProverb that's exactly what I was thinking... I can't tell if they was trying to motivate men or warning men about "being a man" I think vlad and DL going home and tell their women " Bitch, on second thought... your ungrateful ass about to pay some bills around this camp!" 😮
Bars. Don't save these heauxs.
Clearly you cannot take what comes out their mouths seriously.
@@GauchaisProverbi think DLs saying when his father died his pension and life insurance left his mom money to live off
At 27-28 I went through something like this. I was dating this young lady and while inwas was dating her injured myself in the military. Long story short she ended up leaving me for another guy because essentially i couldn't provide her with the money i could before, even though we didnt live together i had my own place she had her own place, i still gave and money and stuff when i could. When she left me for that guy it was like something in my mind shattered and just looked at relationship and dating completely, obviously my life turned back around and I'm doing well again, however her life has been spiraling ever since. She's obviously not with that guy now but ever few months she calling for help or to vent and i just dont give a damn. Not that i want anything bad to happen to her but i just couldn't give 2 bones about it. The most interesting part about it is any time she brings up anything with a relationship she still some how comes off like shes doing me a favor with that even after telling her I'm not interested, but ever since then i tell men at the end of the day if she has certain requirements you have yours and stand firm on them
Why don't you just block her
Don’t date women who are transactional… find a woman who wants to build. Human life is fragile.. it’s almost impossible to rely on one individual to provide.. it’s crazy women fought for equality just still be a liability financially. Some of these women so selfish they make 6 figures and still don’t want to pay any bills.. must be nice huh ? To find a sucker to pay all the bills (because he only feels like a man when he do) while she spend her money on material things and trips
Exactly bro! We have to stand on shit.
I've never understood keeping in touch with an ex. Especially one that burned you. It makes zero sense
Stop keeping in touch with her bro. Stop being her toy and grow a pair.
I'm confused...pay everything and be treated like gum on the bottom of a shoe
There's always more to the story the children don't know what their parents relationship behind closed doors were do they!
I love what DL said "i was born to him". That touched me when he said that.
The reality is that most men don't make enough money to provide for a family. Sad but true.
Why they making kids and taking a wife then?
@@BonusHolehe’s wrong. Most men make enough money to provide for a family. What he probably means is that those same men probably can’t afford to live a certain lifestyle by with his money only
@@BonusHolethat’s the entire point. As much as we shit on women for having kids when they’re in poverty or otherwise unable to parent properly we need to hold men accountable for creating children they can’t afford to take care of properly. No matter how you look at things kids are expensive. From the every angle you can think of they cost money. I wish people in general spent more time thinking of the cost and emotional labor that goes into creating life and take that more seriously. These kids are being failed by irresponsible breeders.
@@babyshaq05235no that’s not true. If you are making less than 100K you likely can’t afford to raise a kid in this world. Most men are barely making above 50K. Let’s be realistic, day care alone costs at least 1000$ a week and that’s if you care that they aren’t messing with fentanyl in the back (if you from NYC you know what I’m talking about 🙄). If you don’t want to like in poverty and struggle or raise your kids in the ghetto or want to provide a decent home you need to be making at least 100K.
If we as a society are OK with abortion, having children is entirely the choice of women. They can kill a mans child legally if they choose.
I don't believe in abortion personally. But society in general does so children are on women and are a woman's choice.
Women who don't believe in abortion also need to not believe in sex before marriage otherwise they are just a problem.@@dinkyboss
Honest question. Why is a woman’s respect so important if it’s so fickle? If her respect is solely based on what you can do and provide, and not just based on the fact that you are a human being, why is it so important?
Because most men (especially black men) are just plain stupid and weak when it comes to these crazy selfish women.
ALL women are not like this. Many women are with men who are horrible providers and are basically slaves and work horses in their relationship and still walk on eggshells. I wouldn’t. But i have close friends who do.
We need each other more than we know.
Vlad is a cornball. All he has is money
Because the respect of even 1 woman will make the world see you in a more positive light. Women claim men run the world but that's always been a lie. Even when they wearing the Hijabs and are covered from head to toe, it's women calling the shots.
Women don't have the pressure to rise to the occasion that a man does and could never understand what its truly like to be a man.
This is why if you’re married and don’t love or respect the person you’re with anymore, just get a divorce. You will not treat the person right on their death bed.
They went through all of this and still want to push the narrative of taking care of a woman by any means but in the end they still do you dirty! Make it make sense millionaires!! 🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️
Right bro! It makes no sense! Ask for your woman to contribute. Don’t give her a free ride only for her to be ungrateful and work against you!
Haha
@@Drewcat07I agree.
Yo Son this brought tears to my eyes. R.I.P to all the moms and dads
This ain’t about mothers. They can have every other day for the year. This is for the FATHERS only.😢
Most men don't have game. Big L once said forget a Benz cause he could pull Skinz on a pedal bike.
This is a real conversation.
Me and my moms beefing too and I never thought I would be able to look at my moms in a negative light until now smfh
Well this sure hit home. As a man who was never loved by his mother I can feel this to my soul.
"When you're not sure of your mother ever loving you, then anyone else loving you is a debate. it's a jump-ball at best. It's something that wish i could accept but not something i necessarily need. And it's horrible for the people around you "
DL Hughely
Boo hoo
@@user-os3fz1yt6fno doubt I loved that I wasn't if that makes had all the freedom in the world got to living at an early age , I understand shit 9th kid 5 years after my closest sister my mom was done I was grateful she was batshit crazy by the time I was done I suppose, come to find out from about the time I was six she took life insurance out on me and my nephew 😅
@@JoeBlanton-wq3sm no one cares
@@user-os3fz1yt6f not even I you twat.
💯
Life is a trip. When a woman loves a man he usually treats her badly but a woman who really could give a damn about a man he treats her like a queen.
As a child your real parents “relationship” should never make u feel a type of way against them.
You’re absolutely right, unless they include the child into the drama!
@@brem8918 one thing I learned is you never know your parents relationship before u was born, the private conversation behind closed doors, what happened when u was at school. You love yo parents, now if they abuse u that’s another story other than that u have no clue as a child what’s going on.
For real. I tell my children that if they hear us argue. I tell them we have known each other WAAY before you were thought of, “mind yours and don’t take (Ours) personal because it has absolutely nothing to do with you”..and they get it now.
Vlad lacks emotional maturity
Let’s put the labels to the side man. I don’t care who you are to me if you’re inflicting pain on a person bcz of your treacherous reasonings then i can’t respect you
lol lol! This is 2023 98.9999% of Americans are not rich. Just everyday working people. Rich people can’t speak on regular working people issues. Mortgage rates are 8-9%. Groceries are through the roof. Yes you need two incomes these days. lol my dad paid all the bills. He said that was the dumbest thing he could have done. He always told me. Get a woman who has a career. So ya’ll can make things shake together.
your dad is a wise man
YES, but your goal should be to never be dependent on her income. She WILL resent you. Especially if she has children who are troubled, but she works too much to give them the attention they need. I know women going through this and they have zero respect for how nonchalant their men are about how hard she has to work.and how they can’t see how little they have time to be good mothers. They resent their men, a lot!
Why don't you tell these women to grow up and put their big girl pants on and stop wining. It's called adult hood.@@brittneysperspective8433
@@brittneysperspective8433 Well I’m 14 years in 4 kids. She does good, I do good we work together. We want nicer things we both work. Also nobody carries all the load in my relationship. Not finically not with the kids. It’s very very balanced. I pick up from school. Take them to all their sporting events. Helping with homework every night. Because my gets home later than I do. I’m 14 years in deep worry about your relationship. This is true team work over here. We don’t live out of our means like most people. We have a nice house we bought about 10 years ago. No need to move into a bigger house. To try to keep up with the jones. We take 5 or 6 vacations a year. 3 with the kids 2 or 3 just us. Don’t confuse my wife with you ma’am.
A man could give a woman everything that she’s ever desired but if she didn’t participate in the work that it took to obtain those things then she’ll never appreciate the man or the possessions💯💯💯💯women will literally let you do everything that’s in their best’s interest then tell you “Ok but I didn’t ask you to do anything of those things tho” when you try to get them to understand that you’re doing it out of love 🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️💯💯
You made yourself her genie, that's your error. It's not all about her. She's supposed to be devoted to you.
I tell my son “twice as much is never twice as good”.
Spoken like a black man that wants to blame a woman for his poor choices and lack of drive😂
You need to choose better🤣
When men provide they still get dissed!! Dam!!
That’s bc they’re not the first choice ..
@@latoriawilliams5423that's what Chris Rock said
@@LifeEntityyes he sure did say that …. On his comedy special. I forgot about that 😊
Vlad always over talking.
About nonsense too
Damn... have a heart y'all...
Yeah, he thinks he’s the encyclopedia of everything
But you most likely a subscriber and watching.
@@bleakone9097ofc 😂
This helps me understand his mindset when it comes to women so much more. Mommy issues AF!
This should be shared to the world. The last 5 minutes could really help some people
They literally just highlighted the plight of men who they deem “weak”
My woman doesn’t have to pay anything. However, everyone can’t afford to do that. So, this is bs!
I make my woman pay for everything.. idgaf I’m broke and cheap asf
@@Helmuesi911😂
@@Helmuesi911🤣🤣
@@Helmuesi911salute
I agree!
I'm calling my mom rt now...God bless these brothers that's tough😮
💯 ❤️
This has to be one of the most deepest emotional conversations I have ever heard on Vlad. Thank you brothers for sharing this. 🙏🏾❤
My mom took care of my dad until his last breath . She is the goat
My mom did too when my dad was sick. She treated him the same way she did when they met.
I’m confused. Vlad and DL spent the first half of this video saying men are only worth their wallets. They then spent the second half of the interview being upset with their mothers because they didn’t respect their fathers after they were no longer financially useful. 🥴
Damn
They dummy’s
Amen to that..big dummies as Fred Sanford use to say@@ProofThatAstrologyIsReal
They were caught up in projecting their machismo
@@ProofThatAstrologyIsRealthey really do it to feed their own ego. That’s why they talk crAP about other men
I’ve said this a thousand times. Being a father / husband is a thankless job!
That's why many men are saying no to marriage and children. And society is getting angry at them. They think we were really put here to serve and save the world.
Yes it is.
nah you wit the wrong woman if your wife and kids dont respect you
@@gzstayreal That's just the thing... most modern American women are the wrong women. Look at our divorce rates. They've been over 50% since the '70s when second wave feminism kicked into high gear. Bad marriages are the norm, not the exception.
Its a child support thirst-trap, actually.
It’s like Vlad is indirectly interviewing himself in every interview
Traumatized,he needs to speak to someone,at least him and DL have similar experiences
You never disrespect your parents just walk away
They don’t deal with them; they don’t argue with them.
Or what?
Wtf🤦🏾♂️😂But yall saying basically in the beginning give the woman everything and at the end both of ur moms messed over both Dads!! And the Dads sound Great!! At the end of the day she still want Respect you lol
Vlad and DL are simps is what I take from this.
This one hits my heart
I really thought I was the only one dealing
with this with my mother. Vlad and DL
got much respect for both of you
My parents split long ago, but less than a week after my father passed, my mom was already calling him outta his name in front of us. Some of them really are evil.
You shouldn't have respect for DL or Vlad. It was their fathers who did that. What DL was saying his a man should be is wrong. That's exactly what their fathers did and still got done dirty at the end of their life.
This was a venting session.
DL talking crazy first he talks about how it’s important to pay all the bills for a woman in order for her to respect u in the beginning but at the end he tells how his dad paid all the bills and didn’t get fully respected.lol….fellas y’all better stop believing u can buy respect from a woman I’ve learned that the hard way….
DL talks big to puff himself up. Not to be taken seriously
Both of u talking abt your issues with your parents makes me think of my roller coaster relationship with my parents. I remember things and actions and I hate it. I love them, but it's at a distance💔
It really hurt. I'm living it, too... 🙏🏾
They buying love based on their moms
Most couples have to share the financial burden out of necessity. These two are out of touch with regular people.
There is a difference between that, and a man completely relying on a woman. Or putting the families financial burden on his womans back.
Women who have been through this, understand what they are talking about.
I have a close friend with a man like this. He THINKs he contributes equally, and they have a 50/50 relationship, but they don’t. He does the bare minimum and she resents him.
He will only work 30hrs a week at his job, and He pays the rent only. He contributes no other money to the household. They have never had a family vacation and her birthday is ignored every year. She handles the kids birthdays financially.
They have three kids in a two bedroom. They NEED a bigger place. One of their children has to sleep on the couch cause they don’t have a room. They can’t move, cause he won’t work more and refuses to pay more in rent. My friend pays all the other bills which actually are more than their rent. (Car notes included.) she was 9 months pregnant with two jobs. While he only worked 30 hrs. Had to call her friends to borrow money.
Her co workers were baffled that she was pregnant and working so many hours. But she had to to make sure their cats didn’t get repoed. She couldn’t understand why HE wasn’t embarrassed his pregnant girl had to work so much. He never budged to do more!
That is not equal contribution and most 50/50 relationships are like that. The man simply does less while the woman does more. She has to come home and still raise the children. He did not see his families finances and social standing as HIS responsibility. It was hers, and he is just there to help out where he can. She dresses constantly. It breaks her heart they are in that small space, but he refuses to work more do they can have a better place. On Facebook he presents himself like father of the years.
True but still Most men pay majority of necessary bills. No matter how much shes paying.
@@travisstrickland7270 in what community? Not the black community. Men do not pay majority of the bills. Some not even half.
@brittneysperspective8433 Lol yea we definitely do. Many of yall just live in pookieville. U think that's normal 😆.
@@travisstrickland7270 most black men are “pookie ville”, you live in a dream world if you deny this. I live im Atlanta. Tons of success black ppl and is still common with BM that they make less than their partners and are financially dependent on their women. Most black men cannot afford to pay 50% of the bills, let alone mosr
Sad thing to hear, bless the real fathers in their children’s lives. I had a mother like that. I can relate. I always say my dad raised me and the wisdom and things he taught me can never be taught by a woman. He taught me how to handle a bank account vs my mom even spending every thing behind his back. She never was really around and when she was she was angry and would hit. My dad never hit his kids yet he was always able to talk to us if we did some thing wrong and we understood. Kids always need a father.
I would love to hear the mothers' perspective. I would not be surprised if there was some unhealed trauma. They may be seeing the effect and not the cause. Caring for a mate is more than providing for them financially.
💯
Facts ....
It should not matter. If he was so bad to you leave, don’t wait until he’s disabled and abuse him. Sicko.
DJ Hughley USUALLY on point but, ninja, no amount of money determines my manhood. I agree that if a woman makes more than you, yea, she ain't respecting you... But do you respect yourself? My self worth ain't predicated on how SHE views me. When I'm fed up enough, I can leave or she COULD put me out... Period, point blank. I hope this dude ain't went too Hollywood. Ijs. As far as the mother/father dynamic... Totally agree.
As they say, "all's fair in love AND war." War is grimy. Relationships can be, also... But most people only see the negative connotation. Sun Tzu says, " Do wtf you gotta do to stay sane and live righteous." Or sum to that extent... lofl. Period.
Amen, only a fool would let a women dictate how he views himself.
If a woman treats your father like snit in his last days, he MOST LIKELY treated her like snit for much of their entire relationship. She never told you about it, so you could hold your father on high. Then, you take that and hate her with it. So she got treated like snit by the dad and the son. Sad.
That’s not always true.
@@cleathercobbin6230 That's what most likely means.
Do I detect a little bias here!
😴😴😴
@@staffmember189nah your just making up your own little scenario.
This was powerful. I can tell had tears in his eyes
I’m sorry but I got to disagree with DL my grandfather suffered a catastrophic illness that he had to have four heart bypasses my grandmother never once lost respect for him once he could not work anymore. She never disrespected her husband she never talk ill of him. She never once came out even at his death, and said that he was, not a man. We like to talk about the Constance of life but the one thing that’s constant life is the unexpected things happen.
I’ve witnessed something similar. I know a lady that was treating terribly by her husband when they were young and middle-aged (abuse, cheating, etc.). As an elderly man roles completely reversed. His drinking caught up to him, he mismanaged his money, he basically grew to rely on her. She went from meek and mild to Diary of a Mad Black Woman.
nigga this aint what they talking about 🤦🏽♂️
🧢
Y'all love making up stories
Im glad the 1960s are over. Im not paying shit for a woman. Be strong and independent ladies.. That's what y'all fought for and I happily support not paying for a grown ass woman. Thanks America. Women lost value anyways. 😂😂😂
@@ksager123 nd playing victim
this might be one of the realest clips in his whole catalog ✊🏾 it’s heartfelt for sure
My mother treated my father poorly. We wasn't rich but my dad provided everything and more and my mom acted as tho she never loved him or wanted him. I always felt bad for my father. He provided, wasn't abusive, didn't cheat, did everything asked of him. I was afraid of marriage because of what I seen I just knew I didn't want that marriage.
My mom was very much like that. He left me every thing his pension and whatnot because I was 17. He wrote that I was capable of taking care of myself because she left us. She maneuvered it with the VA and social security that she was taking care of me. She had the same name as me and cashed checks. Eventually they found me. After she passed away. I told them I had no idea. They replaced the money into my son’s bank. I won’t touch his savings
Did you all ever ask your moms why? Why the animosity? I wish ppl asked their parents the hard questions ... just observing only gives us a partial perspective
@nishashawn2021hell naw they ain't ask, because they are online lying. 🤣🤣🤣 They know thier Dads wasn't shit.
@@nishashawn2021 no I never asked. My mother admitted she ain't love my father. But without my father she wouldn't have survived. And my father held my mother on a pedestal so you couldn't say anything to her, about her, nothing. But it definitely made me view marriage as something I didn't want especially if that's what it looked like.
@@joyell821 lol lol
Vlad doesn't like a lazy woman, but if she's got her shit together, he'll pay all her bills. That's called simpin, my dude.
My mom said she witnessed this with my grandmother years ago when my grandfather had cancer & was on his oxygen tank so I can relate although my grandmother was wrong she had a flashback from the cheating & the abuse & had a moment where she was mean to him
EXACTLY!!! That's what theses dudes don't understand, the damage you do early on to the relationship is going to come through in the end.
@HarmlessComment how about leave then? Dont stick around for 40 years and then play victim
So she couldn’t find forgiveness and harvested hate
@@elbowgang9715Oh, so its easy to leave a man who abusing you? Just cause a woman stays doesn’t mean she wasn’t a victim or it want that bad. Women stay for a lot of reasons, and reactive abuse is often a response to abusive relationships.
@HarmlessComment the better question is why did he cheat? I bet her behavior had something to do with it.
This is one of the very few Vlad conversations I stopped doing everything just to listen. Father’s need more respect 😂😢
Never really heard anyone talk about this....that was interesting. Good topic. That was deep.
Because of their salaries, DL and Vlad are detached from the realities of the average man. The average man needs some type of financial assistance. If he does not, after he pays the bills, the woman will have more money than him. How does that sit with the fellas??? Basically, these guys are the men that their mothers would have wanted, yet they have animosity towards them...
My ex wife treats me the same way Vlad and DL Hughleys mom treated their dads. I work, pay all bills on time, graduated from college and do everything I can to be a part of my 2 sons life. However I am treated w/ nothing but disrespect. I hate to see productive men go through this, I wish there was more we could do to stop these abusive women, but unfortunately this behavior is taught to them from their mothers who have been married multiple times and think they know everything.
You are a deadbeat and want credit for being an adult. Who gives a shit if u work and pay bills.
Leave and take the kids. She abusing them too I bet.
“When you’re not sure if your mother ever loved you, with everyone else it’s a debate.” WOW, true facts. Got personal experience w/ that one fr.
So basically do and give everything for a the woman and still get treated bad in the end.. 😂😂😂 y’all have to stop getting advice from men once they get money
Yeah bro these dudes with money are the last mf’ers to take relationship advice from
So this probably explains why Vlad prefers to date bw.
I’m a teacher in TN I make 60k before taxes. Rent is 1500 a month car note is 750. Then u have gas, groceries, phone bill etc…50/50 is must if you ain’t in the top 10%
Tryna tell ya! Nice hung wrong with having your woman contribute to the household! These dudes got it backwards!
I agree. If a woman is struggling or barely making ends meet and she meets a man who pays bills and helps around the house that shouldn't be looked down upon.
Great part of the conversation
Good clip
As a man ur value in the people around u is what u bring to them. I'm African & there's a good number of stories where men in their sunset years are treated like crap even by their kids. The kids n mother will ship off to Europe or States n leave the father behind in despair. If u have a son teach him this lessons early even though society may deem them as toxic.
I can relate, because my Mother treats my old FATHER like shit ,
It makes me not like her that much for real,
because all he did was take care of her ever since they been together , and she never had any appreciation for him 😡
I have formally charged my mother
financial restitution for how she
treated my father in the past.
# Restitution movement.
U lying. He ain't even marry her ass or live in the same house as u.
This explains why Vlad is so cold hearted. Real life
My son's mother and I are into it right now arguing to the point it gets really bad. This makes me look at our situation from a different perspective.
A man should pay for everything if he can afford it & that's the agreed upon arrangement. BUT if the man & woman are working class & both have jobs, then why is the man expected to pay all the bills & for all the dinners, etc.? You're basically just a walking wallet then. God forbid you fall on hard times. Then that woman is gone.
Exactly. And as we just heard from their own mouths…Their father’s provided and gave all just to be treated like a shit sandwich in the end and they still feel to stay to traditional standards. Shows me how warped their minds are since they have both become wealthy enough to give a woman an extravagant lifestyle.
There is nothing wrong with a woman making more money than you. What matters is WHO spends WHAT.
Most women don’t want a man who makes less than them.
Huh? 😒Care to Elaborate on this? If they are a family and living in the same household… both if their incomes are the families resources. Why does who spend what matter? Especially if the family cannot survive without HER income, and he’s does NOTHING to relieve her of that. That should be a man’s goal
I think some men live in a dream world about money. NO woman wants to be a mother with small children to nurture, and STILL have to work 40hrs a week to make sure all the bills get paid. Especially when she has a man. When does she mother?
One of the realest segments, I’ve ever seen. Wow
This was a good segment, I can’t lie to ya!
Imagine how small you've to feel that paying 100% of a household bills makes you man enough. There are soo many ways to become a man besides paying bills!
True.
There’s many stories of successful men who before they had their success their women helped with bills and had their back. They were a team and the moment the man became successful he took care of his women because she earned that and showed she will go through anything with him
There are also stories of men who relied on their women to financially take care of them before their careers took off and then ditched their women after they struck gold.
@@blackhaze7350 that is true both can happen
Damn I felt this clip!!!!!
Damn, so sorry to hear that Vlad. I have a lump in my throat listening to this.
These women dont repect trick men they'll take your money and pay another mans bills 😂😂!!!
It sounds as if DL''s mother may have only been with her husband, was for him to provide for her and children that were not his. It does seem as if she ever loved him, it's was all about needing someone to support her!!
Facts that why a man should never be a step father.
Maybe
Great conversation