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My man just celebrated divorce by getting himself another 18 years of child support payments.
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Don't forget college fees.
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He should move to Mexico. đ€Ł
I'm some states it's 19 now
Don't sleep with someone you aren't willing to raise a child with.
Or try a brand new invention called birth control.
Wrap it up !
@@xiomaragomez6649 No, just don't do it. Condoms fail and sometimes (as it appears in this case) they try to get pregnant, probably she's trying to get financial provision
But they have so much in common. I mean they even live in the same country - barely. LOL
Don't marry someone you're not going to die with.
Those sirens in the background are symbolic. This dudeâs life is an emergency đš
EXACTLY đđđ
Yeah I heard that perfect timing right
Dudeâs a simp - She hooked him with what she got, he couldnât tell his passions âNoâ, now heâs like âWell, gotta make the best of the situation, God will provide!!!â đ Like heâs a bystander to this. She found a sucker, hooked him, now sheâs got child support for the next 18 years.
đ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł Savage comment bout the sirens in the background
Man o' man!!!đđđ
How can you even consider leaving your daughter to move to another state with a women who doesnât have a job but you do???đ€·ââïžđ€Šđœââïž This is just stupid!!!
Why get involved with a woman without a job, across country & several kids. Thatâs an expense & on top you knock get up đ€Šđœââïž
Heâs having a new baby lol why would he not be in a newbornâs life
Sounds like a divorce in the making
@@sophia8405 there's no divorce to happen. They're not married.
To be close to his other daughter?? He's put himself and his kids into a bad place.
He's definitely that person who is good at making bad decisions.
He doesnât always make decisions, but when he does, theyâre bad.
Fooling around with an unemployed divorced mother of three is the epitome of stupidity. This man clearly lets Mr. Happy make his decisions for him.
And he's about to make another doozy of a bad decision. Unfortunately he called the wrong show today, and got terrible advice for his situation.
@@calebmallen I totally agree that he got bad advice here. The call should have steered around why should they get married to begin with.
Why he got divorced in the first place?!
For all the young men out there who might be listening to this, do not become this guy.
Yes! Keep it in your pants unless it's with someone you want to raise a kid with!
Her being pregnant attests to the fact that the two of them were âon the same pageâ for at least 10 minutes or so âŠâŠ.
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Yeah, that's probably how long it took for them to finish the bottle of Boones Farm..
10 minutes? Bit long in my book.
yeah right? the could give the baby a very happy adoptive home.
Oh dear that is one mucking fuddle!
This guy canât even string together a coherent sentence. What a nightmare this is for all these children involved.
So he got married, had a child, marriage falls apart. He gets a new girlfriend who also has several kids, knocks her up and now has to figure out how to put this cluster bomb together. Anyone else see how messed up that all is?
some people are just born stupid and never learn
Keep your pants on, build the relationship first and GROW UP !
I guess the saying goes Wait till marrige before u have children. Or wear your helmet to thr football game.
Summary before finishing the video. Nice đ
Pretty much nailed it
This guy was seriously considering moving away from his child to a lower cost of living area, where he will then take on financial responsibility for someone elseâs kids? Wow.
This is a perfect example of how stupidity should be painful.
I paid for all my mistakes now im making more........ right out of the gate. He seems silly.
So, he put another baby in a single mother with three other kids, while being fresh from a divorce himself? What a huge honkinâ mess!
I thought my life sucks until I heard this call
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It doesnât even sound like he wants to marry her with how he worded it.
Cause he doesn't...
He feels obligated because of the child.
He sounded less excited than someone buying an overpriced used car out of necesity.
The older you get, the more you see how Biblical morality is really good sound financial/life advice.
Soooooo true!!
Yes yes yes! Makes so much sense!
It doesn't need to be biblical. đ
Yep! Older I get the more I realize this to be true.
Seriously. It bothered me when he invoked God, saying that He will provide the way, when clearly he is not following Godâs way.
It just bugles my mind how people get themselves in these situations... Who I really feel for are the kids which didn't choose to live in this craziness.
This is chaotic
Boggles hon.
Me too. I feel bad for kids who have parents that put them in positions that they have no control over. It's so unfair. This guys life is a mess and he has created families all over the country by making impulse decisions and not seeing anything through. People like this should stop procreating
Ladies, choose your men wisely!!! Fellas, choose your further wife wisely!!
Best advice
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Perfectly stated sheesh. This is crazy
@@Melissa.712 they always have kids with the worst humans
this guy was ready to abandon his daughter b/c of inflation... what a keeper loool
And hereâs the kicker, another woman was willing to breed with him before he has anything figured out in his indecisive life.
He should just move to Mexico now. đ€Ł
@@JustinCase780 loool
@@JustinCase780 Or New Mexico đ đ€Ł
@@mph5896 New England
I feel for the kids. They didn't do anything to deserve being involved with these losers.
and that will bleed over to the rest of the world and society
What's really tragic is that these mistakes often cause problems down the generations. Bad childhood leads to them also being losers and bringing up their children poorly.
@@littleripper312 Also consider the genetics being passed on.
he might however benefit by checking whether it is really his,someone else might have been in there before he was.
Imagine being the child who got produced just to provide the mother with a new source of income.
the caller's life is a disaster.
An explosive mess.
Some people love drama and chaos. đ€Ł
Beta bux probs
Having watched a couple of train wrecks in slo-mo, it could be worse. A family I know has 1adult child who is more child than adult. A age 40 she still can't or won't get it together. She has moved away then back in with mama & dada. This time she brought her 2 children her husband & her boyfriend with her.
Her son is 12, is already having sex with his "girlfriend". Her daughter is 13 & prego - oh, the daughter's boyfriend has moved in!
The woman's mother is an enabler. She just keeps giving too many chances. The woman's father has checked out, was too frustrated with his wife's indulgence of their 40 going on 5 daughter.
I stay out of it. A few times the 40-year-old infant has asked me for money, gift cards etc. I am afraid to talk to her because I would lay it out, say everything I think of her, her terrible life decisions, taking advantage of her mother, setting a terrible example for her children, driving her father away with her chaotic life.
My life is far from perfect, yet, through many wise decisions, I put my life back together after divorcing an abusive cheater. The divorce was painful while it was also quick. I wanted out so I got myself out, got screwed over so badly I was living in a storage shed for a few months, trying to figure out what to do.
The smartest thing I did was to save up cash & non-perishable groceries in a climate-controlled storage unit that a friend allowed me to use.
I had money, food, sort of had shelter. I knew it was temporary.
Seeing other people who had divorced at around the same time I did, I saw what train wrecks look like. Two of the guys had gotten married right after their divorces & regretted it. One of the women got a serious STD, one of them had an unplanned pregnancy from a ONS. She didn't even know the guy's full name, couldn't find him to tell him about their baby.
Single (divorced) & celibate works for me.
Kids always end up paying for the sins of their parents.
I swear!! Harsh but the bitter truth!
No they dont. Kids dont suffer if both parents do their best to work out past mistakes
@Jessica Smith omg same thing with me đł đ±
Ah, the long distance pregnancy. Sounds like the start of a romantic comedy movie to me đ
Yes, they need to stop watching "Sleepless in Seattle" and use birth control. đ€Ł
LOL oh my
Yeah, is this the most train wreck call ever on the Ramsey show? Seems more like a Jerry Springer segment.
I love how these "Christians" are living their lives all wrong but then mention scripture "God will provide" uh huh.
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They are human just because they are Christianâs. Are you perfect. Nope.
The sirens in the background were very fitting.
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Hahahahahhahaha best comment ever!
Can't understand why people "have" to have a relationship or kid etc .. talk about filling a void when you're not even able to take care of yourself. .
The guy should make sure to get a paternity test.
I was kind of surprised the doctor didnât mention it.
And a vasectomy while heâs at it.
With long distance girlfriend, yup, its a must.
@@shalzsoulz3656 Id say get one with anyone you're not married to, and even if you are, it won't hurt
She does work. She is working him right now.
Him and probably multiple other baby daddy's. She's making bank.
Facts, check out her 'how to' guide called 'The Mark'
The pain of this disastrous situation will be felt by the children, the extended family and everyone else. What a selfish choice. He isnât âbuilding newâ he and gf are building a new family on a foundation of sand.
How does this woman support herself and her children if she is unemployed? Is she on welfare? Or living off of child support payments?
She probably pulled this trick on her ex(es) before.
He also said she has savings. If she does she needs a new source of income before she burns through her savings. Hence this pregnancy.
What a mess. Use protection people
Yes. Contraception is a great investment if you're concerned about money.
@@languay1 Excellent. That's going in my quotes book.
I canât believe that people like this even able to meet anyone. Itâs pretty bad idea to get married for them.
What a mess! This is what occurs when the big head doesn't do the thinking, yet the little head does.
If she's not working, she should move. But before all of that, DNA test.
Where are all the guys who post about greedy women who abuse men? This is one time these hard questions need to be asked.
How is she living in NYC if she isnât working?
@@haleytruslow7200 did you listen to it? 2:48 he said she does not work, so you'd have to ask her how she gets along, but it probably helps by the fact that he never said she was in NYC. Upstate NY can be very inexpensive.
They are both adults; how do you not avoid this situation? He should probably be sure he is the father since they donât live in the same town. Is she not working because she is living off support for her three kids?
Looks like she got LUCKY.
He fell into that cat trap
I was seeing if anyone else pointed this out before I commented
Yup!!
Maury Povich: âYou are not the father.â
Stop all communication and do nothing until there is a paternity test. This is bad advice youâre getting.
Exactly, the first piece of advice should have been to get a paternity test.đ
A good first step. A necessary first step.
It's very likely this was an internet romance. so yes, I'd be very suspicious. This guy sounds very naive and not the brightest bulb in the pack
What a disaster. This guy canât even hold a conversation about his actions ⊠heâs moving to NY and paying for everything. Sounds like he picked a winner also.
This guy should have kept his fly zipped.
Dude you don't have to marry her, you can just co parent
EDIT: "She doesnt work" bruh how is this even a question lol
recipe for disaster ("co-parent").
@@magnuspym As opposed to marry a train wreck that wants you to blow up your life too?
Get married or leave. Don't be roommates.
@@jimroscovius I don't know how you could interpret everything I said as anything but "leave" lol
The dangers of hookup culture right here đŹ.
Deadbeat and broke h0 are perfect match. It's gonna be an awesome family!
First problem ... You recklessly got involved with a single mother. Do nothing until you can confirm that kid is yours.
Agree, but thatâs gotta be one heck of a fun conversation. âHey, once we make sure you havenât been screwing everything else, letâs get married.â
Even if the baby is his I wouldnât move in with her just pay for the child it doesnât even sound like they are engaged sounds like a one night stand gone wrong and trying to force marriage which u shouldnât do
@@BabyGators I wouldn't get married at all. I'm just saying do absolutely nothing, not even acknowledge possibility you are responsible for the child, until you confirm the child is yours. Laws are weird across states and some will use anything at all to stick a man with child support even if the child is not theirs and the mother lied. Hence, DO NOTHING until you are sure what your liabilities are in this scenario.
The sirens in the back had me on the edge of my seat lol
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Not using protection pre marriage or before you know someone extremely well is insane.
This guy is an indecisive mess yet two women have allowed this man to breed them. Amazing and sad.
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Like the opening scene in the movie idiocracy
He is being used if u know, used women with multiple kids and no father allowed him to drill her so that she can have an atm
That's what I'm saying!!!! Jeez
Facts!!! Crazy! Iâm lost as to how is this dude your best option?!
PLEASE DO NOT GET MARRIED because of an unplanned pregnancy!!! I don't understand how grown adults can have an unplanned pregnancy!! đ€Šââ
I agree sounds like a night Stand I would just let her stay in her state and just pay child support
Sadly, It happens all the time.
So so happy that I got a vasectomy & never had childrenâŠ. People make choices in their livesâŠ..
Happy knife, Happy life.
All that means is that you're raising someone else's child.
Yep same. No kids snipped male. The capitalist machine can stay mad, I am living my best life. Some people wanna hate but its ok, we all make different life decisions and follow different paths.
People making babies like their house plants. This type of behavior is sickening.
He is going to be living in poverty for the next 18yrs
New York state (where his pregnant girlfriend is) requires men to pay child support till age 21.
@@kensmith2796 Ouch!
He played with..l
So is the childđą
Sounds like yâall were on the same page when you were diddlin đđđ
Do not marry if you don't feel so. Do not do anything you could regret in 15-20 years.
Listen to his voice, he's already regretting it.
RIP to our fallen comrade. You are hooked for money for 18 years.
18 + 4 for college.....
New York state (where his pregnant girlfriend is) requires men to pay child support till age 21.
What a mess, he doesnât need any more kids and her too . Horrible decisions and drama, not a life I would want
"Oops baby"
Makes me understand why some of my male friends had vasectomies because they didnât trust single women looking for a baby daddy. He was dumb to be so careless with someone who was not a wife.
Do not have kids when youâre not ready to have kids
Why do people do this to themselves? Choices, choices. Think!
Seems like a lot of missing information here. I didn't really hear anything about a relationship or desire to be with someone you love. More just how can I fix a stupid mistake. You can't. On the surface it sounds like another failed marriage waiting to happen.
My feeling exactly. I hope he does not compound his problems by getting remarried to someone he does not have love for.
Modern American culture, everyone! Grandpa would be proud.
Lol. Child of divorce here.Broken families are not one big happy arraignment.
Do not marry someone who doesnât have a job that is a huge red flag. How do people miss these things?
This guy does not have the balls to solve for his problems and it causes him to find the worst possible ways to cope
Exactly, "in my grief" he decided to knock up a total stranger? Yikes.
Make sure you get a DNA test.
This was extremely exhausting to get through and listen to.
Like a breath of fresh air to me since I have always avoided marriage,single mothers,and having kids.
Even Rachel was a little exasperated by this caller.
The lady would move to him. He has a home, a job, and a way more stable life. She doesnât even work and has multiple kids. How does she support herself. This is a big issue. I was waiting for them to ask the guy, but by the way he was talkingâŠ. I doubt heâs even divorced yet.
Those sirens couldn't have came in at a better time in this clip
Run while you can dude!
Too late, ankle wraps are on and their not coming off!!!!!
Wow...
He has a kid, she has kids, another one on the way, they don't even live together... does this guy know how difficult this is?
I agree I wouldnât let her move in because i donât want all that responsibility on my back for kids who isnât his and she has no job
@Dementia Joe Also, New York state, where she is currently residing, requires males to pay child support till age 21. She knows exactly what she is doing. She ain't moving to CO.
The caller sounds like he's binge watching COPS on Hulu while talking to Rachel and Jon
I live 50 minutes outside of Denver and the cost of living here is INFINITELY cheaper than New York. Still expensive of course but way cheaper
She must not live in NYC, maybe upstate NY
New York is a HUGE state. Presumably sheâs not in NYC.
New york City isn't the entirety of new york the state..... upstate new york exists and a good portion of it is a cheap ghetto.... just saying..... you are either on a farm or the ghetto there in upstate.
The kid isn't his-- it's Chad or Tyrone's.
Alpha f's; beta bucks
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This guy needs a strong male role model in his life for directions. He's literally effing up his own life step by step.
He needed the late Kevin Samuels God rest his soul
He sounds a little too old for that.
Just đđ» wear đđ» a đđ» fuuuking đđ» condom!!!!đđ»đđ»đđ»đđ»
It's not that hard boiz!!!
This is a pure mess
Sounds to me like he knocked up another married woman and doesnât know what to do
Dna test kit
This man needs Dave to come box his ears!
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I think this dude's ears have already been boxed. Seems brain damaged to me.
Omg this was totally painful to hear. I had to leave after he said ...she has 3 kids....
He sounded clueless
He has not even given himself breathing space.
I don't think this guy has the slightest inclination of the Mariana Trench sized hole he just dug himself into. Ignorance is bliss, live in the moment.
Bless his heart; he's clueless and involved in a mess.
Bless his heart? He just created more problems for two people.
@@David-wo9un âBless his heartâ means heâs not too bright.
This sounds like a disaster if I was him I will let her stay in her state to raise the child and just send money.this doesnât even sound like a gf because they live in two different states sounds like it was a accidental pregnancy đ€° from a hookup.they donât even sound like they are even engaged.especially she has no job everything will be on him.
I hope they arenât gonna get married just because sheâs pregnant. While Iâm all for getting married before having kids, I donât think being knocked up is a valid reason to get married⊠or they just might end up right where this started. Divorced again.
*Edit: Iâm saying this because I get the impression heâs not ready to be married again since he said, âIn my grief, I rushed into a new relationshipâ. That doesnât sound like someone whoâs ready for this. Canât speak for the girlfriend bc we didnât hear from her. Take care of your child, carry on the relationship and eventually get married if you really want to spend the rest of your life with her but not just because you got her pregnant.
hahaha- the sirens moment- the look in their eyes was great-
What a cluster. One bad decision after another. Can't fix stupid.
Should have just bought a flesh light dude,..
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I can't believe I see this comment on a Dave Ramsey video
Sirens in the background is definitely fitting. Lol
Umm um umm umm ummmmm um ummmâŠitâs so cringing to listen that I forgot what he was saying
How does that woman have three kids and no job. Probably living off of alimony and the money that her three kids get for child support. Now she got this guy trapped too. Big mess. I hope they get married....at least live in the same zip code.
Condoms are like $5 at the gas station. Way cheaper than âmergingâ families.
If people followed God's plan for relationship, marriage and having children these issues wouldn't happen
Everybody in the comments is roasting this poor man. However things do happen in life and at least his man enough to step up and take responsibility for his child. So many men run from the children that they bring into this world. At least he is trying to be there for his current child and his future child.
Moving away when he doesnât have to certainly looks like running away from the current child.
This is called the bare minimum and deserves as much pat on the shoulder as putting your dirty dishes away (cue: it's called being an adult and not! helping the woman). The sad thing is that so many men are below this baseline.
Um having a child with someone does not just happen.....
Get a DNA test.
That should have been the first piece of advice; good chance heâs not the father.
God I hate when people have kids "by accident". đ
I got pregnat to a druggie wash out guy. I didn't know he was a druggie. And he lied about being snipped there. My six month daughter and I got our blood tests. He took off when it was his turn to get the D.N.A. test. The Florida Marshals ran after him. He quit his other job as a clerk and probably sold drugs to keep alive. I was 21 and he was 32. He's most likely dead now. But my eldest daughter Faith turned out fine. I'm so happy I kept her.
Stay single. Bag it or get snipped. Make sure all those kids are yours. Men a rational, smart able to calculate and avoid đ©ty situations except when it comes to women.
the guy's a complete mess.
I feel bad for all of the women listeners yearning to be with the caller but unfortunately he is occupied.
@@David-wo9un lol he's being sarcastic
@@paulchakola7372 sarcasm doesnât always translate lol
Lol
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There were a lot of bad choices that happened here or the lack of. However, the advice given was not the best advice. The conversation should have been around is marriage the best option for him. It sounds like they have not really decided on each other. He clearly stated that he was on a rebound. He is just going to wind up divorce again. You can not make a bad discission right. Marriage is not always the answer.
Not really. A relationship is what you make it, it doesn't have to be bad; he doesn't have to be divorced.
âEverything okay back there?â
Rachel is hilarious.
you can take your kids out of state?....ridiculous caller,,,should move back in with mommy
Sirens going off... such a perfect analogy me thinks đ€