How To Stop Overthinking & Overanalyzing In Social Situations! (How To Overcome Fear & Anxiety)
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- čas přidán 22. 08. 2024
- Julien Blanc helps a client overcome social anxiety! (Powerful action steps!)
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How To Stop Overthinking & Overanalyzing In Social Situations! (How To Overcome Fear & Anxiety)
Julien Blanc reveals how to overcome anxiety and how to let go of fear in social situations!
How to stop overthinking and overanalyzing in social interactions has never been so easy... This video will help you deal with social anxiety (as well as approach anxiety) and provides you with a new approach to overcoming anxiety for good!
#fear #anxiety #lettinggo
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he might need to drop the aderall before anythign else. dudes pupils were gigantic
He could not let go of his filter in front of other people. Man that was so raw. Felt like I was watching myself and wanted to scream "just let it go!" "Stop holding back."...
Wildly helpful, thank you.
Tru dat his videos are slightly helping realise it's not just me and we can get off this filtered LIFE THAT sucks the life out of us!
How's it been?
That guy in the white jacket kept starring at the guy like he's some food. Lol
Lmao I thought that too
Bruh didn’t blink once
Now I can't focus on anything else 😭😭😭😭
This guy reminds me of Tyler in some way.
Best comment
“You will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realize how seldom they do.”
― David Foster Wallace
what is seldom?
@@tekiero rarely
The thing is I'm way more concerned over the possibility of people not thinking about me that much as I think they do than I am about what they think of me... And I'm very concerned about what they think.
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Thanks bro. Its my everyday situation. I always have this problem, i feel like I’m gonna cry in social situations. I believe everyone’s calm there except me. Then i end up overthinking and having extreme pressure in head.
Extremely common... Definitely apply for the mentoring to get this handled: julienhimself.com/mentoring-application
Did this video help
The dude next to Stefan was realizing some deep shit... I love seeing that!
Mad props to you, Stefan, and the dude next to him haha!
“Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson
Huh
What if your fear is death? 🤣🤣
@@amunra4015 just do it like nike
I question that
@@BOSprodz why?
Man in the white hoodie was staring into that guy so intensely......
This video helped me realize some past hurts I’ve had that made me this way. When he started asking him what he was protecting himself from I actually started crying asking myself the questions.
Glad this resonated so deeply and was helpful! 🙏
The inner critic in your mind is a helpful assistant in growth and realization, but the harder you cling and grasp at it as if it is an actual, living entity, the more pain and distress it will cause. It's important to let go and see things through the eyes of pure perception. Knowing that everything is perfect and meaningful in it's true, ordinary nature
Needed this, thanks
everyone says "let go" but like how I can do that? Can you give me a practical example?
@@user-nr5xp6yd8z Have you tried meditation?
I died when you said “you should know, you named it the Z factor.” Putting the pressure ON😂
Frr
This is different for neurodivergent peeps. Trying to find the right words while being overstimulated is a whole different beast. Extreme analyzing is a way of life.
That was a great moment. Props to him being vulnerable during that exercise. I know he can conquer his fears.
Stephan if you're reading this, mad respect to you man! I can really resonate with you weirdly enough, you're not the only one (don't know when this was recorded, but hope you're feeling better now). You sound like you're from The Netherlands, if so gimme a reply and who knows we can connect!
I´m also from the Netherlands lets do this!
I'd be down for this as well dudes, let's go!
yeah he does some trainings in amsterdam
Kaaskoppen ✊🏽💪🏽
Perfect timing. I did the last exercise and had some very powerful insights. Thank you Julien!
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I no longer get surprised by Julien’s timings with certain topics. Great content as always!
Thanks!! 🙏
When he started to do the back and forth and he was tapping into that hidden part of him and julian asked him what he is protection himself from that really hit something inside of me....i had to bawl my eyes out and cry like a spill of tears I felt so many emotions at that point tears kept coming.... Man im still a little bit emotional now from it.... Feelings of pain hurt sadness, just at the same time, i never knew that i was being so hard on myself... Not only that i have put all kinds of layers over the core reason of it all.. I must get into contact more with that part, it felt like some kind of hypnosis in a way..... It really hit me, Jeez the lengths we go to to protect ourselves, and hide away things on the inside because we simply dont know how to deal with it... Its like feeling lost like a child that is lost...... It hurts... Why am i letting this part of me confine who i can be, what i can do, what i believe in about myself in such a self degrading way... Its mean... I want to believe in myself and i want to banish all of the things that are holding me back from that, im longing for it and just want to break free from all of it... I underestimate my capabilities and so by doing that i at the same time put a lock on them.. And it makes it so hard to get them out in a fluent natural way, the amount of self awareness and inner dialoge that is going on in me also during certain conversations i have is really a struggle i know what's going on at the same time but i find it so hard to stop it.... Maybe that's where im doing it wrong... But trying to just breath and relax doesnt seem to help neither at that point, i try but i still feel to much tenseness and stress in the body... Im going to practice this method you showed in the video sometimes alone with myself.... And see what comes from it maybe it will bring up some underlying issues that i really need to look at, oo man im just so grateful for your videos they really address certain aspects that i want to work on and let go off. Thank you so much for that Julian 🌸 what do you think will be a good step from here?
Not going to lie watching that last exercise and seeing that emotion gave me a little bit of a release. You asked all the right questions, you’re awesome!
Thank you!! Glad this helped!
I have anxiety issues an asperges which makes things quite hard, main reason I express myself through art,music,photography,producing sounds and poetry which enables me too captivate the moment by pushing myself into uncertain situations which take me out of my comfort zone, an as hard as I find it I need to do it I need to in order to learn how to socialise with others 😅
Fuk I just worked out what completely shut me down at 17 in my prime so much I made my self sick trying to not talk about it . The strange thing is why didn’t someone just tell me it’s ok to show weakness in emotion, people can see your still a straight up legend . They have been wanting me to open back up for years. As I was the Center of attention!!! Trippy shit watching that then
I asked myself the question :why do I overanalyze everything. answer: I have to analyze everything so I can act appropriately and respond in what seems like an intelligent manner. I feel that everybody needs to see me as highly intelligent which is stupid. I shouldn't put in the effort because I am highly intelligent. If they aren't intelligent enough to perceive that, then I don't care. It does not matter. ( Apparently I also have a fear of them not liking me.) Why am I so worried that people perceive me that way. I guess that would be ego. I need to lay down that ego because I am, extremely intelligent I need not worry at all about what people think and enjoy the fact that I'm pretty f****** fantastic. And if people don't perceive that, that's their loss not mine.
It just occurred to me that I'm extremely insecure because I am completely uneducated. That does not equal unintelligent. Whew! I need to let that go
Wow! thanks for this comment! So true.
@@supremeintrovert7404 thank you for the acknowledgment and your gratitude!
You goooo, Cherratina! =D Congrats! You went a long way by simply calling out your own thoughts and pondering where you were headed with them. Sweet. :)
Were you a gifted child or always told that you're smart? I have an ego attachment to my intelligence and it's really holding me back and lowering my self worth because I have nothing to actually show for my intelligence. I also don't have an education, I never finished 1 year of college and now I'm 25. Sure I could go back because it's not too late, but then I'd have 4 more years until I can finally feel like I've "proven myself". I wonder who I need to prove myself to, I guess society mainly and partially my Dad, although he was sort of a laissez faire parent who didn't tell me to go to college. If I can stop worrying about people thinking I'm smart, maybe I can attach my ego to something else that I'm actually good at rather than intelligence which I was born with and doesn't even mean anything tangible since I work entry level jobs that anyone can do. The issue however is that I'm not really good at anything! Why is being good at something even a requirement for me to be socially confident? Is it possible to just be a man who exists, doesn't do anything special, and has great confidence and charisma? I realize this might be seen as overanalyzing but I think it's bringing me closer to what I want. Which is to be socially free and good with people both women and friends.
@@FaCiSmFTW litteraly summed up my life.. I didn't go to college. I was always told I was smart and that I will do something big in life. Only to end up working at a restaurant.
Omg just watching this gives me anxiety, i would totally run! 😥
This one made me tear up man. Wanted to give man a hug. I relate to him too 🥺
Good to know i wasnt the only one facing this problem. Only showing the part of ourselves that isnt vulnerable
What's most personal is most universal, yes! 🙏
@@JulienHimself i reside with having that second person/personality that feels safe to show people rather than truly being who i am. I have a fear of being judged and being rejected
I've done the last exercise by putting video on pause after each Julien's question - got a good insight about my protective side. The thing is, previously I've mostly tried to confront it, to stop it etc. But what I've realized playing the "protector" role, is that "he" cares for me and that's why "he" is protecting me. "He" KNOWS that his actions are correct, but he's also open to change his mind if he see the reason for that. And by verbalizing what's on "his" mind "he" can reassess the current situation and let loose those protection shield. Maybe not fully, but at least to some extent, relevant to your current personality and situation. Because chances are that this protection layer is no longer relevant. This was huge for me. Thanks, Julien!
Nice, so many characters in ourself and they all have their own goals, when you take the time to listen to all of them and to love them, you gain some confidence.
You're actually very good.
Good job for helping people with that
I think my social anxiety has calmed down allot since I've gotten older and smarter and completely understood what he was saying about your ego trying to elicit your actions and speech because you wanna be seen as a certain type of person not caring is probably the best I've ever felt in my life I mean it's not permanent it slips through I definitely still need help it's when talking to my friends and people I've known for a long time and it feels weird that I'm changing as a person Infront of them and sometimes I try to put myself back in shoes that don't fit me anymore it's really not that deep or maybe it is but it was always hard for me to understand people are not perfect either and nobody has it right and everyone is hiding there version of crazy since I was 17 due to some unfortunate events throughout my entire life that's all I'll say I've always wanted to be singing/ rapper and my music can get detailed and Im a perfectionist maybe like that guy but definitely not as nervous when you understand cadence and lyrics so we'll and your better then most people out it makes it very hard to put stuff out and actually finish cause I'm always striving for that perfect song that doesn't exist I used to release allot then it stopped maybe cause ADHD and anxiety but we're all healing and I'm Lucky to be in the position I'm in right now we're I can actually do that
just realized i also used to be loudest on high school then people got annoyed of me so i had been silent for recent years
Sad man how are you doing now?
@@lewischime5737 well i can say i have improved a lot thanks to julien i started going out met new people and approach new people it was fun and yes life is amazing currently i have been working on my career development so i don't go out much as i used to but yess now i'm doing much better. Thanks for asking and good luck to u too
@@bipultamang7061 that's great to hear glad doing your doing better now
I was the loudest in primary school then became shy in high school
Great post Julien, I myself and many others definitely appreciate the content. You have such a good outlook on life and do great justice by sharing/teaching these ideas. Thank you and keep up the good work!
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This made me cry
Man that first question really sent this man on a journey inside, he really thought about it, cool
Glad this resonated!
I'm always surprised by how normal looking the people are in these sessions. I expect them to be nerdy looking but if anything they look above average usually. Interesting
Just because you look a certain way doesn’t mean your excluded from certain types of problems. We all go through shit regardless of the way we look.
that says more about you than them
The RSD crowd really changed since the early 2000s.
This is exactly what i needed right now!Thank you, Julien "2 minutes, 2 minutes" Blanc🖤✊
Lol 😉
Awesome stuff Julien great to see you always growing and helping others in such amazing ways
Bro in white jacket is just 😂❤️
I think It's all about getting judgment from others that our inside keepsus being ourselves.
Most artistic chart I’ve ever seen
Haha, thanks! 🙈
White jacket guy is rocking his ancestral germanic hairstyle 🤟🏻
This guy is waking up million of souls for free
this was a very deep one, very relatable, Julien is a great teacher
It's like watching myself, I know that his mind is racing when he asked "express what are you thinking right now"
Guy in white jacket is giving him such good attention 🥺 i need that in my life
all guys there look like me when i feel anxious 😂😂😂
who is like me
Youre an awesome guy for real. When he finally was able to stop the storyline and no filter the voice that made me lose my own haha. Glad to have attracted this
Thnx Julien... I've got a new mindset that makes me feel amazing :) I let the universe be in charge.
So thankful I found this channel! Literally changing my life for the best
Powerful and deep, thanks for sharing Julien!
If I were to truly let go, everyone in there would be extremely terrified. I am quite a nutcase when nobody is looking. If it wasn't for some sort of filter, I would not be able to be in society. Because i can't be who i want to be most of the time, i have pretty bad social anxiety, but if i was me, people would be running for the hills.
hey with the last exercise u really got to the point of steffans problem. For me it was a wow moment. great job dude
Thanks! Glad this was helpful!!
It's strange seeing someone as handsome as this dude having social anxiety, gives me comfort. Like I'm way less handsome than him...I would pay good money to have a face like that. And yet he's even more nervous than I've ever been.
Watching this the second time around just to observe the White Shirt guy and see him doing the excercise in his head 🤣🤣🤣
Didn't expect the guy breaking up wow As 'whacky' as this exercises are they really show how people (especially guys as seen in most these vids and jordan peterson ones) are in serious need of let loose, open up, look at their own motivations and find self worth.
It's like no one ever let them know life is theirs and have nothing to prove...just like idk a dog or a bird outside. You can always try to be better but at minimum you should always feel the right to say and be whoever you are. No shame in being honest or have weaknesses.
If your parents, family, school, friends or religion didn't do that for you, people like julien are doing very valuable job. I am a bit shy myself at times but can't believe how some people have that much anxiety talking by the phone or even to a crowd when it's such a friendly environment and such simple questions.
my guy in the white jacket is staring into his soul
I was waiting for people to comment on white jacket guy hahah 😆
It's so much easier when you're the other side of the screen!!
That was amazing, really got to the core of what was going on 🙏💪
Glad you enjoyed it!
He def should have narrated "why is this guy staring into my soul"
Isnt it funny that the room is full of men? And society is acting as if only females would struggle with such things and need help but this is a perfect proof that men suffer a lot.
You are great man Julien.
“Because we would be named A but we’re different and go opposite” if in the situation.
But “Why don’t you tell me what you took from it, I’m intrigued as to what you remembered” if ceo / serious 🤷🏽♂️
Great video ✨
Thanks Brother, watched 4 time's now, with loads of realising & releasing...
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Great video Julien. This was deep and hit home bro frfr. Also shoutout to Steffan 💯💯
the dude with the white jacket staring at him the whole time 😂
That was great how you were able to help him recognise the issue, which was that secondary part of him, the 'filter'. I am interested to know how you proceeded to solve this issue you though, how you got rid of that filter for him so he could be himself?
You can apply here for a free coaching session if you'd like to go deeper on this: application.julienhimself.com/ 🙏
I couldn’t handle the dude in white next to him. My inner voice would have been like, “I literally can’t handle the way this guy next to me is staring at me so intensely, I can’t even think, he’s judging me, it’s weird how close he is, why doesn’t he just look at the floor in front of him…”
So you're uncomfortable when under full attention. Sounds like work to be done
This was so dope.
Thanks!
I heard my voice and my answers and story and it was very heavy and hot and unpleasant. I will attend a live event.
You're the best julien
Thx 4 everything 🙏
When he says narrate the little voice
I see a pattern where all take that as a question
N start answering
And not taking it as a direction
N u follow.
When I was younger I was the class clown and was very popular and talkitive but I was told I was inmature and no one would tell me secrets and that sounds dumb but sense than I always feared not being respected and taken seriously. Wholy shit as I’m writing this the guy is relating so much to me
I'm stuck in a constant state of anger
You are awesome Julien!!👊
🔥👊
Nice video. It reminded me a scene of Robin Williams coaching Ethan Hawke in Dead Poets Society movie and letting his fear go
Wow i loved that example
Amazing work! Always ❤️
Awesome video man
Have you published any books? I would love to get one and read it!
I love this. It's remind me a Fight Club somehow - great content!
So, I’m naturally a pretty goofy, easy going, relaxed guy. I’ve put on a front for so long due to anxiety and I feel like my genuine self is not normal or impressive at all. How do I start opening up to my co workers and close friends when I’ve put on a front for so long?
A lot of inner work... You can apply here if you'd like my help with this: application.julienhimself.com 🙏
god damn this is more like a therapy lesson for this guy. shit gets deep.
Glad this resonates! 🙏
im making beats too so i can really relate to the problems of that guy
Same - I learnt there’s no such thing as writers block you’re just judging the production too much and the standard of what’s good is too high
@@ShoaibKhan-bz5qm exactly
It's amazing to see just how afraid people can be to speak authenticity at a seminar that is based on authenticity. I mean everyone knows what's stifling themselves, how hard is it to just say what it is???
How do everyone know what is stifling them and obviously it is hard for them to just say stuff as that is why they are there
The soul saver 🙏
🙏🙏🙏
Awesome stuff, ty Julien!
Thanks! 👊
How do you know in wich state /scale at any moment you are
BTW great value offering law nr. 2
You are important. Now go get em
Really inspiring!
I'm not taking anything from Julian he's a great dude very knowledgeable about mind and feelings but I have to say most of what he says is common sense all it takes is the ability to assess yourself and be honest to be able to make the changes you need or have to make. Are people really this naive about themselves or what's going in these days???
I don’t think that it’s being naïve. The current state of this world is causing mental problems. Statistics show depression, anxiety, & suicide rates have gone up. Also, not everyone can notice common sense. Anxiety/Depression can block your thought processing and even lose awareness.
Im leveling up and im taking this seminar , oh and i know one of the people there 🙂
The guy staring the whole time is the reason i get nervous to talk to anyone... You never know who could be like this
If it bothers you that someone gave you their full attention then it sounds like you're uncomfortable and there is work to be done.
Fear and self interest are the two levers of humans.
I just have to say that this...the guy in the white jacket is in a trance.
Hi Julien, do you have a schedule for upcoming seminars? Are they only for people in your mentoring group? thx
The guy staring next to him.. wtf lol
STOP THINKING.....TAKE CONTROL OF THE THOUGHTS IN YOUR HEAD🤘🔥 BECOME WHO YOU WANT TO BE
Lol, this is unfortunately what "mainstream self-help" teaches... Which sounds good and inspiring, but isn't practical or helpful. 👉 Watch the video! 👊
@@JulienHimself ok, thanks
Hahaha. You got the wrong idea of the video bro. Stop believing those bullshits
"Be indifferent to what makes no difference" - Marcus Aurelius
Love the hairstyle
Julien I would say that if he was being honest the answer would be " I'm afraid I look like a loser, that people think that I am weak or not good enough" at least that is what my response would have been
Wizardry haha. Great insights👏
Thx! 🔥👊