Answering Your Questions About My Home Birth, Postpartum Depression, & Life with 3 Little Boys!

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  • čas přidán 5. 09. 2024
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Komentáře • 88

  • @JenevaGriffin
    @JenevaGriffin Před 6 měsíci +8

    I'm so stunned. Ive been present on 3 live births to support friends and it honestly shocks me that you were left alone birthing for so long. Especially on baby #3. I am honestly just baffled. I am so thankful that everything worked out and you had options. Praise God for that.

  • @christinewelch8365
    @christinewelch8365 Před 6 měsíci +20

    I would love to hear about biblical counselling and how you dealt with anxiety. Also how it helped deepen your relationship with Christ. Great idea for a video!!!

  • @jocelynnelson
    @jocelynnelson Před 6 měsíci +13

    What a whirlwind birth! I’m so sorry that the other midwife didn’t take you seriously. And it’s so cool that your husband helped deliver the baby! What an amazing memory!

  • @elenapeters4174
    @elenapeters4174 Před 6 měsíci +8

    The transition from 2 to 3 kid's was easy peasy lemon here too? The transition of 1 to 2 kid's was harder, the first baby was the hardest transition

    • @corablah9809
      @corablah9809 Před 6 měsíci +3

      Going from 0 to 1 baby was the absolute hardest. When our daughter was 2.5, we had a set of fraternal twins, 1 to 3 was SO much better than expected, despite zero external help other than my husband that works outside of the home.

    • @beans4853
      @beans4853 Před 6 měsíci +2

      Same here! Each additional child was easier.

  • @rosenetgonzales8942
    @rosenetgonzales8942 Před 6 měsíci +17

    I am soo sorry for your experience. Those 2 Midwives were so NEGLIGENCE. If you you ever decide to have another child PLEASE DO NOT use any of the First 2 Midwives. The one that actually helped you was the HERO. Glad things turned out Positive. I enjoy your channel. 🙏🙏

    • @hoperay6967
      @hoperay6967 Před 6 měsíci +1

      The first one was not neglectful. She knew she was going to gone. The on call one was at another birth. You can't be in two places at once

  • @LadyOrleans1919
    @LadyOrleans1919 Před 6 měsíci +6

    I just found your channel a few days ago. I’m so sorry for the way you were treated by those neglectful midwives. I hope you have or will report their sorry behinds to the proper authorities to make sure they never work as a midwife again ever. I’m so glad that you and your baby are okay. God bless. New sub.

  • @mrsstrople
    @mrsstrople Před 2 měsíci

    Aw, here in Canada (small town too) midwifery is handled equal to doctors and is so well managed (your primary midwife will definitely be available to attend your birth around due date). I have always had three midwives attend my homebirths.

    • @mrsstrople
      @mrsstrople Před 2 měsíci

      My second baby came in 2 hours, straight to pushing and they all still came when I said I was ready.

  • @thetraumainformedteacher
    @thetraumainformedteacher Před 6 měsíci +5

    Wow-God really took care of you! So thankful everyone is safe and healthy. He is adorable! It’s nice to know that God intervenes when we are the victim of others’ decisions.

  • @rosemaryharris6064
    @rosemaryharris6064 Před 6 měsíci +14

    You answered the questions so simply and wisely. I love your lovely attitude.

  • @tammygabaldon9907
    @tammygabaldon9907 Před 5 měsíci +1

    You go girl! Your amazing ❤

  • @teresabeamon9650
    @teresabeamon9650 Před 6 měsíci +2

    I would enjoy hearing you talk about the topic on depression and anxiety. I do struggle with it.

  • @mruggier0
    @mruggier0 Před 6 měsíci +10

    Your positive attitude in spite of a difficult labor (midwife issue) is to be commended. However shame on the midwife not taking a multipara seriously. Sure hope they learn from this. Thankfully it all turned out perfect but it could have went otherwise. I'm sure your primary midwife wasn't happy about you having to call for other help. Happy that she ( other midwife) was available and had pitocin to manage the bleeding. Congrats to you and your family.

  • @rosiejb3
    @rosiejb3 Před 6 měsíci +8

    Oh my word!! Im so sorry about your midwife experience!😢 grateful everything turned out well!❤ love your videos!!❤❤

  • @TLMwife
    @TLMwife Před 6 měsíci +4

    I love how genuine you are ❤ I had my first 6 months ago and the first few months I felt like a completely different person in the best and worst ways. PPD is so scary and hard to navigate as a new mom. Very glad this time around has been much more peaceful and redemptive for you! Congratulations on your sweet little boy ❤️

  • @reneeupdike2220
    @reneeupdike2220 Před 6 měsíci +2

    I would love to hear about the biblical counseling. You are such a "breath of fresh air" I can't imagine you getting depressed. I will pray for your mental health as well as the auto immune.

  • @jackiebecker3686
    @jackiebecker3686 Před 6 měsíci +2

    Just wanted to congratulate all of you on the birth of Leif. I am glad things turned out well with the whole birthing scenario. Also I am glad you took your mental health seriously and sought help. You are so important to many and your health is just as important . God bless.

  • @tebersole
    @tebersole Před 6 měsíci

    I’m thankful everything turned out well for your delivery! Children close in age are so special! Your boys will grow up to be best friends. My oldest three are now 25, 24 and almost 23. There are 16 months in between each and then all three got married within 17 months!

  • @jkcampbell5279
    @jkcampbell5279 Před 6 měsíci +1

    I’d love for you to do a video on postpartum depression/anxiety and the counseling you received. I experienced that with 3 of my 4 postpartum and experienced severe post weaning depression and anxiety with my youngest. I also had a counselor that was very helpful during that time. It happens to so many women, yet we feel so alone while we’re going through it.

  • @boething
    @boething Před 6 měsíci

    I didn’t sleep train, but I tried to follow my three kids. They’re all grown now and I’m a grandma. I’m a retired elementary school teacher, and all kids are individual. I didn’t teach until they were grown. You do you. Love your videos!

  • @lindahostetler4572
    @lindahostetler4572 Před 6 měsíci +6

    You are ever the inspiration! Even to us older people ❤

  • @jonesfamily9119
    @jonesfamily9119 Před 6 měsíci +2

    I am so happy it all ended well for you! Both of our kids were born at Goshen Birth Center with midwives. After I had our first, I hemmoraged and my midwife Rachel gave me something to slow it down but once i got home it was really bad and it made the first few weeks awful to the point I had to have help showering and walking bc I felt like I would pass out. She made note of it and with my second they gave me something to keep me from having the same problem and it was night and day with their recoveries! The midwives can truly make the experience! I am so sorry to hear how hard you had to work while in labor to get someone to you to help but happy to hear it worked out in the end.

  • @candimclane6739
    @candimclane6739 Před 6 měsíci +3

    Bless your hearts! Just love your little family! And have a Dr. Pepper ! Congratulations on that sweet baby! Good job daddy! 🎉❤😊

  • @margaretmast265
    @margaretmast265 Před 6 měsíci +3

    There is nothing like a hospital to have your baby. I thanked God over and over for a nice hospital I could go to when I had my babies.

  • @AnnaBKrahn
    @AnnaBKrahn Před 6 měsíci

    Congratulations on your new baby 🎉 Just a tip for you , how I replenish my blood very quickly is my drinking a juiced concoction of one beet, one carrot one apple, daily . I started one month before my due date, it does wonders.

  • @user-bi5ur3kq3m
    @user-bi5ur3kq3m Před 6 měsíci

    Homebirth is incredible and I'm glad you got to experience it even though the midwife situation was a mess!

  • @judithbutler9695
    @judithbutler9695 Před 6 měsíci +1

    You are brave, fun, funny and I’m so happy you’re back! I had my kids close together and it was such a blessing as adults they are so close today!❤

  • @kathleenmayer2729
    @kathleenmayer2729 Před 6 měsíci +3

    So happy for you. May you and your young family be filled with love, humor and laughter!!!

  • @allylagle
    @allylagle Před 6 měsíci +3

    I love your content and only live about an hour away from your town! Love the simplistic and humbling way you conduct your life.

  • @maddieandelismom
    @maddieandelismom Před 6 měsíci

    Would love to hear about the counselor and anxiety/depression story!!!

  • @myhandsrfullofluv4225
    @myhandsrfullofluv4225 Před 6 měsíci

    I love your channel. I guess it's nostalgic for me. Remembering back when I had just little ones. Life is so different now (11 kids; 15 down to 10 months)... I love every minute but enjoy reminiscing too. ♥️

  • @evelinapreiss
    @evelinapreiss Před 6 měsíci +7

    Can you share about your breastfeeding/pumping/formula journey?

  • @mruggier0
    @mruggier0 Před 6 měsíci +9

    I wanted to ask and was reluctant but here goes... if this is out of line please disregard and I don't want the negative Nancy's to hang me for asking. A long while back you mentioned you were adopted and had no idea of circumstances or didn't want to share. Do you think in the future you will touch on adoption for others considering or from your personal experience now that your a mother with several littles.

  • @jsmm2908
    @jsmm2908 Před 6 měsíci +3

    Oh my goodness what a stressful labor for you. Glad it all worked out.

  • @elle_nolt
    @elle_nolt Před 6 měsíci

    I’m disappointed in the home birth experience I had. I love having it home than in the hospital. Every birth I have had someone on the birth team not take me seriously and it makes me stressed out which I think is a big reason for my hemorrhaging. Also my last birth the midwife said given my history she would treat me before giving birth to help the bleeding. I have had 5 births. Two home birth, two natural hospital, and one c-section. It’s so frustrating when I’m in labor and there is that one person that doesn’t take me seriously. I’m glad you found one to come out. You might want to consider having your home birth midwife start an Iv with pit before you push to prevent the bleeding. My third I was on pit before he was born and that is the only birth I didn’t hemorrhage. It happens so quickly. I have always felt it took me three months to recover from the blood loss and taking care of littles. I still prefer being home for my birth I just wish that midwives would trust the patient more.

  • @angid3953
    @angid3953 Před 6 měsíci

    So glad to see you! And so glad you were delivered of baby boy safely. I love your videos-especially your cooking videos! You inspire me. Congrats again on sweet baby Leif! 🩵💙🩵

  • @MariaMendoza-hw4vu
    @MariaMendoza-hw4vu Před 6 měsíci

    Hi Kim! I’m so glad your doing well Praise God! You are a beautiful mom and may God bless you and your beautiful family! Thank you for sharing this video I loved it!♥️

  • @mt1885
    @mt1885 Před 6 měsíci

    hey girl- love the video! So glad your doing good! God bless you and your little family.

  • @amyvogt9880
    @amyvogt9880 Před 6 měsíci

    Please do a video and share on anxiety depression ❤️

  • @maclorelei
    @maclorelei Před 6 měsíci +1

    Congratulations on baby and home birth!
    I am interested in your autoimmune challenge. What a flare looks like to you and what are your go to flare toolbox helps…

  • @elenapeters4174
    @elenapeters4174 Před 6 měsíci +2

    Just love your attitude and energy, great video and plus a blessing

  • @melodygarcia86
    @melodygarcia86 Před 6 měsíci

    Ohmygoodness I can’t believe the first midwife blew you off! How scary! So glad you called another midwife was able to come and assist. So happy you and the baby are both well.

  • @mecrn9094
    @mecrn9094 Před 6 měsíci +2

    No blood transfusion for a liter of blood loss ?
    Glad you and baby are ok . Congratulations!

    • @Kim_Martin
      @Kim_Martin  Před 6 měsíci +1

      No but the midwife gave lots of iv fluids!

    • @elle_nolt
      @elle_nolt Před 6 měsíci

      The hospital didn’t give me any and I lost a liter in surgery and that wasn’t figuring in the blood I lost from the time I started hemorrhaging till I got to the hospital which was an hour before I was in surgery. They did watch my levels and said if it went down one point they would have given one. I think it takes a significant amount before they do a transfusion.

  • @ShirleyWaldeckmetiswoman
    @ShirleyWaldeckmetiswoman Před 6 měsíci +1

    I had severe post partum depression my doctor recommended no more children because with each birth it gets worst I had one more and then stopped

  • @susanluksetic977
    @susanluksetic977 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Great video.

  • @corablah9809
    @corablah9809 Před 6 měsíci +33

    Honestly that initial midwife was neglectful, why would you take on a birth you KNOW you can't attend to, because you'll be on vacation? And expecting another midwife you know to pick up your slack, and they can't, because they run their own midwifery business. I also bleed after my deliveries(birthing center and homebirth), it's just shocking that they'd chance you bleeding out because they don't want to call in a third midwife to get there. Im so sorry

    • @mariahl.2052
      @mariahl.2052 Před 6 měsíci +4

      She didn’t know she couldn’t attend. She didn’t know she would go overdue

    • @corablah9809
      @corablah9809 Před 6 měsíci +9

      @@mariahl.2052 my midwives always made the assumption you'd give birth at 37 weeks or 42 weeks, it's definitely standard practice.

    • @amymalo7390
      @amymalo7390 Před 6 měsíci +4

      It’s very common for a midwife to have a vacation or sebatical planned way in advance and their clients are always made aware of the possibility that they will not attend a birth. I definitely agree that the midwife on call was neglectful though!

    • @Rach4729
      @Rach4729 Před 6 měsíci

      ​@@amymalo7390agreed the on call midwife was neglectful! The random midwife though was amazing to immediately say yes and come!

  • @Shay2020.
    @Shay2020. Před 6 měsíci +1

    Due with my first.. planning unmedicated hospital birth. Did u have fears? I have many!!!

  • @user-mf4xc1dw5y
    @user-mf4xc1dw5y Před 6 měsíci

    Did you have a blood transfusion losing so much blood as you need strength for breast feeding and being a mum?

  • @jennajantzen2639
    @jennajantzen2639 Před 6 měsíci +1

    I worked for the midwife I believe you had. Sounds just like her 😫

    • @Kim_Martin
      @Kim_Martin  Před 6 měsíci +4

      now I'm CURIOUS. Email me , I'd love to chat! It's kimberlymartin0921@gmail.com

  • @kathysmith1451
    @kathysmith1451 Před 6 měsíci +2

    I love world War 2 history also.

  • @kammiesnanakrajci5465
    @kammiesnanakrajci5465 Před 6 měsíci +11

    The morale of this story is to have baby #4 in the hospital.

    • @Ama.921
      @Ama.921 Před 6 měsíci

      Or have backups on speed dial

    • @Rach4729
      @Rach4729 Před 6 měsíci +5

      Switch midwives to the one that actually showed up! The one who refused to show up when a third time mama said it's soon time should be named and avoided.

    • @GD-fk9fi
      @GD-fk9fi Před 6 měsíci +1

      Amen! To have 4th in the hospital 🙈

  • @changescome3
    @changescome3 Před 6 měsíci

    This isn't directly related to your new baby but it kind of is overall - I remember you saying in a video a while back that you were adopted. I get the sense that your adoption was a very positive thing but is there any part of that experience that changed or impacted your own journey to and in motherhood?

    • @Kim_Martin
      @Kim_Martin  Před 6 měsíci

      Thank you for your question! So yes, overall my experience with adoption has been positive! I don't know that my adoption has influenced or impacted my motherhood journey specifically, but it has obviously impacted me as a person, thus impacting my parenting.

    • @changescome3
      @changescome3 Před 6 měsíci

      ​@@Kim_MartinThank you for answering! Is your adoption story anything you would ever share? And is adoption on yours and Daryl's hearts at all? I enjoy your channel. 😊

  • @andrewyoder9277
    @andrewyoder9277 Před 6 měsíci

    I was just thinking recently ,where is Kim you went through quite abit with that midwife thing

  • @colleenwilliams1452
    @colleenwilliams1452 Před 6 měsíci

    😅I was born before the war finished. My dad went to war from 1939 to 1945 with the 2nd AANZACEcholon.

  • @ritabaker3113
    @ritabaker3113 Před 6 měsíci +1

    🙏🙏❤️

  • @olgat2231
    @olgat2231 Před 6 měsíci +1

    💝

  • @robynhogle2435
    @robynhogle2435 Před 6 měsíci

    I worked in Daycare for over 30 years. I do not believe in sleep training. So many moms start sleep training far to early. Many moms get their infants into a routine and stay with it. Unless there is a health reason not to. Infants feeding needs are all different depending on nutrition requirements. And if your baby is premature that is another ballgame. Not meaning to be rude or anything I'm just saying.

  • @ktrayan1
    @ktrayan1 Před 6 měsíci

    Praise the Lord you got a midwife there!!

  • @user-qk4ht6yq4u
    @user-qk4ht6yq4u Před 6 měsíci

    Where is your head covering?

  • @frandemianczyk
    @frandemianczyk Před 6 měsíci

    ❤🙏🏻❤️

  • @lkbeirute1
    @lkbeirute1 Před 6 měsíci +1

    What is the new baby's name? Did I hear Leaf?

    • @Kim_Martin
      @Kim_Martin  Před 6 měsíci +3

      Yes, his Name is Leif Wilder!

  • @LittleValleyAcresFarm
    @LittleValleyAcresFarm Před 6 měsíci +1

    I’m sorry the midwife was not considerate. I have always had midwives but I do a hospital birth. If you have bleeding drinking red raspberry leaf tea helped me with that.

  • @makingitwithmaudie
    @makingitwithmaudie Před 6 měsíci

    Please don’t use them again. I would complain to someone. That is insane. I’m so glad you all are okay!

  • @AngiDas
    @AngiDas Před 6 měsíci +3

    I’m am thankful you and your baby are ok but that midwife was neglectful to your health especially your history. Hopefully you are doing ok but don’t be afraid to reach out for help if you need it.

  • @alisondoughty2194
    @alisondoughty2194 Před 6 měsíci

    🏆🙏

  • @mrs.9315
    @mrs.9315 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Girl, you are downplaying this story and being EXTREMELY generous to the midwive(s). A liter of blood is not insignificant. While blood volume can change depending on sex, weight, age, and pregnancy status usually females only have about 4.5L of blood TOTAL in their body. Thank God you are ok!

  • @ktrayan1
    @ktrayan1 Před 6 měsíci

    Kim!!! I can’t believe that about the midwife. That’s horrible and I can’t believe she wouldn’t trust you on your third kid lol

  • @ksmill09
    @ksmill09 Před 6 měsíci

    Oh honey that was scary.

  • @peggyschram917
    @peggyschram917 Před 6 měsíci

    Neglectful midwives!