Limerence in dating and after a breakup!

Limerence is a state of intense romantic infatuation or obsession with another person, often characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one’s feelings but not necessarily by a genuine emotional connection. This emotional phenomenon can be incredibly euphoric but also distressingly painful, especially when the feelings are not mutual or after a breakup.
After a breakup, individuals experiencing limerence may find themselves caught in an addiction cycle, driven by the deep emotional void left by the separation. This cycle often involves obsessively thinking about the ex-partner, idealizing past moments together, and experiencing intense emotional highs and lows. The brain, accustomed to the dopamine surges associated with romantic interaction, craves these feelings, leading to behaviors aimed at recapturing the emotional intensity, such as seeking out reminders of the ex or attempting to re-establish contact. Breaking this cycle requires time, self-reflection, and often the support of friends, family, or professionals to move towards healing and recovery. #datingadvice #anxiousattachment #datingcoach #dating101 #detachment #limerence #obsessed

[@luckystriker6606]

This is what happens to me right fking now. Logically I know she is arrogant, cold and not good for me. But the emotional part of my brain is so stuck. I can think what I want it keeps bringing her up. I fking hate it. I am reading this book: The Power of Attachment: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships. Does this give me the tools to solve my childhood corewound? I do believe it. But i am not an expert.

[@silvermine2033]

I’m in the same situation. I know she is not good for me, but the emotional part of my brain won’t shut off. Hopefully in time, that it just passes.

[@satyajeetpatnaik3780]

Same here dear! Even if she left me with so rude behaviour, I am just thinking about all the sweets talks and the bright sides she showed when we were together. It wont hide the dark side of her. She is rude, no empathy, lack of accountability and egoistic with child like behaviour. Its completely true that I was anxiously attached, sometimes I face these limerence too. But I know one day its not going to impact any more. I am slowly trying to see things the way they are rather than expecting them how they should be. Atleast it provides little relief.

[@yoohoo952]

Now we aren't allowed to think what we want

[@gayathrikumar5643]

U are. But are some destructive thoughts worth it?

[@yoohoo952]

@@gayathrikumar5643yes I enjoyed parallel life in my head for a while, then it diminished somehow

[@suvaskhati8161]

Solution?

[@luckystriker6606]

Heal your core wound

[@serialheartbreaker]

@@luckystriker6606sure how lol

[@serialheartbreaker]

how can i make it stop?

[@randyneumeyer2107]

Nice ,short video. I'm not sure the f word was necessary throughout. I guess that's how young people think they have to talk to make a point.

[@rogerdaryl5737]

Never had a gf to begin with 😂