Why Is It Said That In Old Age, One Should Not Go Visiting Around? Reasons You Must Know.
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- In this video, we explore the reasons why it's often advised that people in their later years avoid frequent social visits. As we age, our perspectives and lifestyles change, often leading to a preference for solitude over sociability. This shift is not contradictory but rather a natural progression of life experiences.
We'll discuss the following key points:
1. *Disturbance:* Visiting others' homes can be intrusive. Each family has its dynamics, and your presence might not be as welcome as you think, causing unintended disruptions.
2. *Causing Trouble:* Frequent visits can lead to unnecessary disputes and misunderstandings. What might seem like innocent conversation can quickly become a source of conflict, especially in close-knit communities.
3. *Psychological Imbalance:* Differences in economic conditions can create discomfort and jealousy. Visiting friends or family with significantly different financial statuses can lead to feelings of inadequacy and comparison.
In old age, many find peace in solitude and prefer to maintain a certain distance in social interactions. This isn't a lack of interest in relationships but rather a way to preserve tranquility and mental well-being. Instead of home visits, meeting in neutral, public places can reduce the stress and inconvenience of hosting.
*Key Takeaways:*
- *Embrace Solitude:* Learn to enjoy your own company and find fulfillment in individual activities.
- *Limit Home Visits:* Reduce the physical and mental strain by opting for social interactions outside the home.
- *Adapt to Changes:* Understand that changing your social habits with age is a natural and healthy progression.
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Never depend on relationships for fulfillment in life. Having a dog or cat will bring more happiness than wearing a mask in socializing with humans.
There is only one close and personal relationship that you'll ever need and that is the Lord Jesus.
@@djienbrown amen to that
That is faith lol
No truer words have been spoken. Bette Davis said relationships leave you unfulfilled and disappointed. She said she tried on her work for fulfillment
“It is not good for man to be alone…” GOD the FATHER
“A quiet and modest life brings more joy than a pursuit of success bound with constant unrest.” - Einstein
Very true!
One's health challenges and changes. Finances. Distance to travel. One learns to become one's best friend.
Well stated !
There are a lot of people with health issues.... You make your own Joy or your own misery!!!
for most people, there are also family challenges - if you have a family that still "connects" you are very fortunate. I think this is something that more people are searching for as our family structure becomes more fragile - or, perhaps, disappears.
I'm 69, I stay with my daughter's family for 6 months and another 6 months with my son's family. I did visit friends, ex students and travel, once in a while but I've truly changed. Now, I just want to stay in my comfort zone. Go out once a week to buy my essentials , have a hair cut/wash, pedicure. I enjoy my present life. I'm hoping I can leave this world as happy as I am now 😅😂😊
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Wait until you get to be 75, your comfort zone becomes so precious.
Don't be idle. If one have money. What better way than do charity work.
Peace ✌️🕊️✌️One Love ❤
Thankfully I'm moving to Mexico for my retirement life, it's very different there, we always get together with friends and family even in old age, we have places for senior citizens where they go eat, dance, meet others, and have fun. Same thing with families, we visit all the time for lunches on weekends, for barbecuing, all kinds of celebrations, your neighbor keeps eyes on you, if you get sick they will visit you and bring food. This happens because of the Mexican culture, it's always about socializing until you die. When you get sick, you will always have someone by your side and it's a good feeling. Viva Mexico!❤❤❤❤❤❤!❤❤
Isn't this the opposite of what the video is about though?
Yes! Some cultures are much more fun- loving and caring than this one! AND YOUR COMMENT IS VERY IMPORTANT!
Lol
Yes indeed, a life shared is better than solitude. Just pick the right people.
India was that way once upon a time. No longer.
Alone, but never lonely.
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Alone is NOT the same thing as SOLITUDE.
Never lonely with GOD.
Absolutely... Jesus keeps me company....
I can't decide if I have lost interest in life or if I am just experiencing true contentment. I seem to be happy doing nothing in particular.
Yes, well said..me to!
If you're not suffering from depression then you're contented!
..... and that's okay
Living by yourself may inadvertan cause depression.@@bong9476
No one goes through life alone ; all that we put into the lives of others someday somehow comes back into our own. Choose wisely….
My in-laws only call if they want something or have something to boast about. Who needs them?
Very good advice. Only insecure people fear solitude.
@zhu.... 3905 Not really. People are of different personalities. No need to play judge.
Love yourself, apply your wisdom,enjoy life,love,and laughter .Accept what you can't change,enjoy the moment, cherish memories...people change, times change. Things will never be the same.Enjoy every moment. Do what you have to do to pass on with love and peace in your heart.
Those of us who have been Anti-social from childhood, become more comfortable in ourselves. Be. Stay true. I salute you.
All those years when you have enough energy, you try to prove something to your self, family and friends. Your kids are living in their own. But when you get to your 60s and you are retired, the freedom to be alone is heaven.
One's welcome by friends wears out quickly. Get a dog or cat. It's forever loving and will never tire seeing you everyday.😊
I’d like to have a cat but I rent and the rules are no pets sadly.
@@Bluelady777 maybe you can move to a pet friendly place☺️
@@edgardovillacorte7012 very little landlords offer pet friendly homes in this area
I wouldn't want to live some place where I couldn't have a pet. Have you considered moving?
I’m 62, just retired, and live alone. I’m currently having a new house constructed. Celibate since 2002 (I’ve never met a kind woman). I visit my son and daughter occasionally and could not be happier.
Gosh, that's a real reality check for us women. You've never met a kind woman, that's a serious statement. Well I'm glad to hear that you're happy regardless. ❤
@@TinaRossetti-ty6zyPeace to you!!! What a kind statement!!! Question, why are you shocked by this statement? Many women who are older state the same
@@TinaRossetti-ty6zy I think you are kind!
@Alan-Iv9rw Nor I real man, pish!
People do say this, “ I could not meet a kind women or man”, and they go on in life being lonely and sad or content with loneliness and sadness.
There are so many people in the world and yet we all are saying the same thing. Is it maybe because of own fears and insecurities. “Every moment is a bead in a chain, our past does not haunt us, the past is haunted by us (RENAISSANCE).
If we just take a chance and just let it be for what it is an “Experience”.
I totally agree. People come with different energies and familiarity breeds contempt.
True. When even spouses become too familiar with one another they too begin to have contempt for one another
True
"No relationship can survive contempt"
As I'm getting older(75) , I hate empty conversations, answering questions,putting on shows ect. Most of important peoples in my life is gone, so I basically learned to be alone. It will be nice to have a lady around now and then.
@@douglasjones5880 you will meet the right lady in yr right timing-- God has a plan for you 🙏
At 68 i have l have learned a few life lessons.
A friend will be the first one to screw you.
Just because you love your kids in no way means that they give a shit about you.
Never visit during a holiday.
Keep your life to yourself, no one cares and it breeds jealousy.
Once every 18 months or so i visit my kids. Never during holidays.
I can feel the " oh fk he's back".
I don't keep tabs on my ex and i can feel my kids doing the censorship thing when they mention her.
Keep old friends just that, old and no more contact.
If someone never calls you or never answers your text, you don't mean ahit to them. I have been so busy translates to I don't care.
Get over it and don't worry.
Wow, so true!
Goodness, me, 10:23 i must be getting wise. It was only two days ago when i said to a friend i dont like visiting people anymore,neither do i like being visited, i prefer to meet up outside the home, a cafe, restaurant or go for a nature walk... neither do i entertain neighbours, i did so in the past and loved it until one neighbour changed the dynamics, and i started to see them all differently... im glad i watched this video, it shows me that im not only getting old, but im also getting wise.
From u.k.
It’s a shame you, or should I say we think like that!
Same exactly happened to me!
You have to grow a thick skin!
Or be TOTALLY isolated, especially if you have known them
for over 50 yrs!
@madcyril4135
it is a shame, I agree. But I truly believe that we can get negative around people when we're in their company for too long. Judgmental, on the petty things that can niggle away at us . I suppose it's human nature. I like to keep it short and feel happy that I've enjoyed someone's company and look forward to seeing them again.....
People are tired of being hotel rooms for friends. To many leeches in the world. They come make a mess, cost money expecting free meals. And then leave. Would they do the same for you. NO! I don't let people in my home any longer. I get noting out of it but the work load, expense, and am over it.
Hi if you live abroad you suddenly find out just how many more friends you have that really miss you and want to visit , but not in an hotel , oh no , in your free b&b , and insist you drive them everywhere and be a taxi to the airport , on leaving they will give you£20 or so like it’s a fortune for you , no more !
@@christinebeames712 I live on a large ranch over looking the ocean, I know what you mean.
Sounds like you know my in-laws.
Look back at any above 25 and you'll see that people come and go. Don't make other people the center of your life, they will keep coming and going until you die.
@@user-kz5cw2gj3w very true-- I'm in my 60-s and iv built every one else up in life and I'm now left behind--- iv been selfless all my life and iv been left for dead!!!!! Focus on you and not others!!!!!
72 and living alone for 15 years…oh and I’m blind too…I’m very happy and thanks to the internet I am able to “see” and talk to family and friends via internet…as long as you have a computer there is no reason to be “lonely”
Hi Cathy.
I enjoyed your comments
Hi Cathy my brother also lives on his own and is blind and the computer is a lifeline to him. It enables him to read the newspapers,get all the sports results E mail friends and family etc. He finds the time passes quickly and is never lonely.. Wishing you lots of Irish luck☘️
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Hello, I have a question. you said you were blind how can you do computer? I don’t get it!
Google computers for the blind.@@tranghoang6248
There is a lot of good advice here. I am 71 but prefer visiting in the home vs. out in public. Conversations cannot be as easy in public places. The part about some friends being well off vs. some not being so much can cause these problems you mentioned , but I would hope at older age we would know this is true and not let these issues be obstacles if friends truly care for each other. As we age, our friends die and it's important to spend time with the ones you have left because you could end up with none at all.
I see already visiting family will be an issue. Family members our age are already struggling and we are not. Showing at my sister in law or brother in law is just going make the jealous. They may stupid decisions early in life but are struggling.
I agree more, perhaps, with what you say here than in some of what the narrator says.
I'm 74 and mostly lead a quiet life with my cat, though I visit friends once or twice a week.
I still care much more about world events than anyone I know and, therefore, can't have the conversations most important to me, but I listen to the amazing programs we now have access to on a daily basis and take part in the online discussions.
It warms the cockles of my heart to talk to so many people around the globe who are very well-informed and care as deeply about the major issues affecting us now. ❤
Truth is as you get older all of the people you know start passing on. Once a large group of people, has now dwindled down to only a few. You want to be alone for multiple reasons, tired, sad, missing your loved ones and you lose the spark of having fun, because there is no one to go have fun with anymore.
I am a hermit, but now and then I take my golf cart out at night and drive through the sprinklers on the golf course like a little kid all by myself. Shhh don't tell.
Watch out for AlleyGaters, even during the days esp. i believe ur living in Florida, SC, Louisiana, PolyAna ... as stoiped traditional retirees do.
and run when u kants even w/o ur pants when more frequent n much louder furry Mr/Ms HarryCane visit u B4 they land in ur house.
The occasional chat to neighbours and people out walking tends to be enough sometimes. But other times, it can feel quite miserable if the weathers bad and we can't step outside for days on end..
When you're young, you have many friends, a few best friends & lots of acquaintances. As you age you have less friends, 1 or 2 best friends & even less acquaintances!!!
The best friend to have is a dog or a cat. They will love you unconditionally even if you are the poorest person in the world
I had many friends and acquaintances, all but a few are dead.
Choose your company wisely.
This video describes my life down to the finest details. I’m 52, and went through all these problems with my neighbors who I socialized with…too much. I don’t do gossip and having to explain my life to neighbors who will probably gossip about whatever I tell them. These traps are easy to fall into with the best of intentions on both sides. I think well meaning people can end up falling out because of pettiness and envy.
💯 agree with you ❤️
I find misunderstandings to be a huge problem.
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I have been many faces to the world and now alone the world shows me who I am. I am grateful for the experiences and lessons for it made me so proud of who I am. People will continue to cross paths with me but, I draw the the line for which they cross. I have in my old age earned that right and my peace is not for sale. I respect, tolerate, care and love but my peace is not for sale. Life is an experience- enjoy it while you have it. Life is not just about people but about a different language and sound, the kind that being alone can teach one. I wish all who read this a beautiful journey of life.
That's a lovely analogy.
I find as I get older I am much happier to be in the peace and quiet of my own hom!! In any caes no one listens to you anymore!!! The young just do not listen to what you have to say!!😃😃
Keep active and keep social..it is not good for people to totally be by themselves. There is so much to be interested in.
I agree. There’s no reason I can see why one shouldn’t be social even in one’s later years 😮
Im 64yrs old. I always had close friends but as time goes by.I notice that people in their sixties have also changed. Im more close and happier with family and my grandkids.We still have movie night and my grandson is 19.It keeps life simple because for me aging people say things that was never said..Young people for me have much better topics and communication skills...So I love hanging out with my adult kids and grandkids.And their friends are always welcome. And they believe im a cool grandmother.❤❤❤
@linda....6224 Oh wow, lucky you, enjoy your second childhood ....
Attitude is the key. 😀
I’m 68, married and retired. You can’t believe the immense joy I feel being stress-free at home with my two dogs and two cats compared to intermittently being around humans in any environment and feeling uncomfortable with their presence.
After my parents passed away.I never new That,I would be alone. My daughter doesn't want anything to with me. I have learned to get involved with the church. Plus the senior center. As you get older you don't really care.I have enough things to do. I do gardening and 🥫 . Plus growing fruit and vegetables. One more thing, I dehydrated foods too. And make my own bread and other stuff. I thank God for guidance and his blessing, each day. And pray for peace and love . Pass it on Mark 😊
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As long as you are praying, seek help to be honest and ask yourself why your daughter doesn't want you .....
I take a vastly different view than most. True retirement is 6 feet under. Im at 60 and still working...started learning the Piano 4 years ago. Just bought a camper that needs renovation. It's my side project which I have no clue wtf I'm doing.
The point is to keep stretching your mind and skills and social circles.
ha ha sounds fun , stay good from UK.
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Ia m 64 look like 40 i go gym socialise i have friends i travel and studying psychotherapy. I've never been that balanced .
That's a very healthy approach and ideal for many people to keep themselves busy and occupied.
This also vindicates the message in this video in so far as there will always be some of us who aren't necessarily interested in leading the life others have chosen, hence best not to do your own thing in solitude if that's what one prefers, rather than frequenting others and come away feeling inadequate. 🙏
This is so true .l dont like visiting but if i have to half an hour is enough .lm only happy in my own home .Age has changed me .
In his youth, individual is constantly searching for some wonderful world, which he is convinced exists, but he cannot find it at all.
And then the day comes when he realizes that this wonderful world is inside each individual personality. But it is some strange magic - the world is inside us, and we see it outside of us. Everything we see is within us.
When a person realizes this - the search ends, and the most beautiful part of the play begins.
When I was young, my father told me: "You go through life alone". I did not understand. But now that I am old, I understand. People are all different, and want to live their own lives. Familiarity does breed contempt. Better to be alone, in harmony with the Way. Peace and contentment.
Never depend on relationships to be fulfilled in life.
We will be finally alone at last.
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I am grateful to God for my friends .We all are in the bracket of 55-75 years of age. We almost every weekend have potluck get together in anyone's house . Which has kind of become a rotation. We all respect each other. Everyone's children are adult and have their own families. We once a year visit them for a month or so. We pray together, we drink and dance and celebrate life together. We go for the movie together. Sometimes we organize musical evening and have fun. Honestly no need to be fearful that you will " disturb" your friend's family. We all live as couples only.
I agree partly on your opinion. But getting older does not mean you have to isolate yourself. The key is socializing and interaction. In our Filipino culture there are lots of opportunity to be with friends and loved ones. It’s because we have strong family ties, and we build friendships that lasts. It’s us who determines our destiny with God guiding us. So surround yourself with relationships, it’s your choice to be lonely. Solitude is a virtue😀
The way the world is going today you’re scared to go anywhere. You go minding your own business and some nut job comes along and starts shooting people they don’t know. It’s sad and unsettling. I’m 69years old and it seems like they are people who don’t care for anyone but themselves. It’s just sad.
That happened at a very busy mall here in Texas about a year ago. I would never had thought it would happen but it did.
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From u.k.
You are powerless, but the aged have no chance!
Visit my son once every 6 wks half hour drive, then
train half hour.
Major city, don’t like cities!
Don’t feel safe, my son loves it!
Always glad to leave.
I’ve cooked too many meals for people who canceled right before I was expecting them. And when they did show it was nice but, they never invited me over . I felt like they only came because they had nowhere else to go. I would rather not entertain such people anymore.
Some good advice here. I grew up as a loner, but I can mingle if need be. Life can become more complex as we age. Codependent people may have a hard time with this advice. Remember God, Jesus and The Holy Spirit are always with us.live in accordance with our Lord's laws.
The Chinese Snots lockdown , a gift from left politicians did a lot to change lifestyles forever. Some scardy cats still wear masks! Which never could have stopped an airborne pathogen. Thanks Dr. Phony and Co. America go back to God. Follow Louisiana replacing the 10 Commandments back in schools. Teach your children the Gospels of Christ.
It's better to be engaged in some activity rather than living in isolation, I am 64 years old, enjoying my retired life, being a teacher helps me in planning my daily schedule. Every thing depends on our attitude, it's better to live happily without disturbing others including our children. Good guidance from Buddha Zen
God provides better advice through Solomon and of Proverbs in the Bible! 🙏
Im 65,my wife just passend away feb. 2024. Both parents of mine already in heaven also my 7 siblings. I was sad then when they died, but not like what I'm now experiencing due to my wife's death.We been very together for 36 yrs.Every day I cry.I miss her so much.I do praise God 4 she's now comforted in heaven.Ŵhen here, she's very sick n bed ridden.I believe Jesus is our life giver
Juses will guide you and comfort you ❤
May the Almighty give you strength and courage to tread on the thorny path of Life!
Hope alone helps ❤
Surely your Dear Wife does not want you to cry. Please take care of yourself with down time and prayer.
You gave her love and care and a good life. She loved you…. it’s a huge Grace in this Day and age. Cherish the great times you had. You are a good soul . Gods grace will be with you
Out of all the retirement videos I've watched, this random A1 generated video hit the nail on the head describing my life now at 61. This is what no one talks about. I'm happy to see I'm not alone in thinking this way.
Love God and love your neighbor! Do no harm!
As an old man of 80 sometimes visiting friends or close relatives is sensitive by their looks and appearances when in conversation .
Yes, not entirely untrue! Being more mindful will help.
its true,as you get old you get different feelings.
I totally agree with this because I’m experiencing solitude as I get older and make my self busy.
I suffer from people's presense, not from their abscense. {Pablo Picasso}
They drain me dry.
For me, (82) the Internet has been a sort of communication extension without the physical contact.
Still like to see friends occasionally though!
I am 68 and i love vesiting my friends and family .
When i feel lonly i visit my old friends ,
Almost 63 and retired. Stay active, walk a 🐕, create art or food. LOVE yourself and others. ❤
What the heck just keep fit and get going doing new things.
Join a martial arts school
Do 🏋 weight lifting
Dance school moon walking
Meditation
Explore cooking , don't waste time on empty philosophy
Keep going man being alive itself is so precious enjoy every moment.
Wishing good life to all mankind.❤❤❤
Try jiu-jitsu, easier on the old muscles
I'm 53 and I've already started distancing from others. I now have very few friends that I can count with my fingers.
The advice here is DISENGAGE FROM ONE ANOTHER, DON'T TALK AMONGST YOURSELVES.
To whose benefit is that? Is that because those in control of the western world don't like us sharing information, engaging in societal/political activities???
Are we supposed to just keep quiet and die lonely deaths- to ignore all the things we can see and NOT work to change them?
I'm 74 and not about to disengage! I'm working in support of JILL STEIN, as a matter of fact!
Yeah, they'd love it if we all just rolled over and quietly gave up the ghost, wouldn't they!
Get involved in local politics. It will be more productive and you're less likely to face dissapointment. National politics is completely captured, even if some politicians are not.
@@jimbo7577 Both are worthwhile! Just carefully vet the candidates- very carefully!
"1. *Disturbance:* Visiting others' homes can be intrusive. Each family has its dynamics, and your presence might not be as welcome as you think, causing unintended disruptions."
Visiting others' homes can be intrusive or the visit may be welcomed.
"2. *Causing Trouble:* Frequent visits can lead to unnecessary disputes and misunderstandings. What might seem like innocent conversation, can quickly become a source of conflict, especially in close-knit communities."
Close-knit communities: "If you see in any given situation only what everybody else can see, you can be said to be so much a representative of your culture that you are a victim of it."
~ S. I. Hayakawa
"3. *Psychological Imbalance:* Differences in economic conditions can create discomfort and jealousy. Visiting friends or family with significantly different financial statuses can lead to feelings of inadequacy and comparison."
All wars are conflicts over values. Money changes everything.
I agree totally with point no. 1.
Totally agree with you.
1 and 3 are so true. I don't go to people's homes unless they invite me. When I was young, my apartment had many sleep overs and endless cooking. Those days are gone.
How can i copy this comment i want to keep it in my notes...
@@bluerose4599 , take a screenshot
Before watching this I thought that something is wrong with me. Now I understand why, being alone makes me happy, because I follow no rules or have any schedule I just do things base on my mood. I hate to visit other people house, even my own kids, because I hate being restricted. I dislike small talks, or when people complain I am a critical thinker, and can’t engage in superficial conversation. I stop seeing the world from a prospective of good and evil, as a result it almost impossible to have meaningful and deep conversation with most people. Sometimes I feel like I am outside of the world looking in, and unable to makes sense of what is happening. I am very happy with my life, but most people think I am strange. My advise do whatever makes you comfortable and be happy with your life.
I'm 82 and I look forward to to seeing my friends who want to come by, call first. Yes you can bring your dog on a leash.
There should be a meeting place where friends who are free doing nothing. It can be in a park or coffee shops. Me myself don't like a friend to visit me where i live
Excellent video ! It describes me perfectly. I’m 68 . Now I understand why I prefer being alone , why I’m happier and happiest when I’m by myself - alone,, why I don’t go out anymore, why I don’t want anyone coming over , why I don’t wanna go to someone’s home and so on .
This is so absolutely true!! My sentiments exactly & I never imagined anyone else would understand how I feel!!
"Familiarity breeds contempt". Matthew13:55-57 (ESV)"
Born alone die alone! Better than an age with someone who’s grown to hate you but stays from fear. Reap the Whirlwind😎
...here's the thing, we are not born alone ever...we have a mother that births us. Saddest thing for me is somebody dying alone. Somehow I've been present when my father and brother died. By luck or design I don't know. Both in different countries...I was there with them. We matter.
My Mother studied only till grade 8. Yet she was the wisest girl I've ever known! Once she crossed 60, having lost my father to a violent crime,which took him away prematurely, she decided she would visit only me at the different military stations I was at. She refused to visit anyone else. She knew this wisdom. Highly intelligent, she was able to work her house and keep it alive, green and clean. Her self respect being most important, only death could take her away, curse the Chinese for COVID. Solitude was so valuable to her, that there came a stage when she wouldn't even like the company of her children or grandchildren. She would talk to herself. She would read, write, watch TV and even speak to the plants in her beautiful garden. Bless you Ma.😢
Many of my friends are dead. Others live far away. Still others are very engaged with family.
Human beings “ need “ to interact with other human beings even if it’s only once in a while …… !
No we don't!
Once in awhile the key word.
I've become very selective!
Yes we do but never depend on relationships to be fulfilled in life. Get a dog or cat instead.
@@tdgdbs1"No man is an island". We were not created to be completely isolated. There will be times in your life when you will realise this. As you get pass 60, a lot of unpredictable and inevitable changes will take place in your life.
When you are old there is nobody including your children, grandchildren to listen to you. If you understand this in right perspective, you will win the situation. I am 69, live in India.
Absolutely true, every word could easily match my own experiences and heartaches where acquaintances, fair weather friends and especially where family members are concerned.
The same dynamics seem to arise when frequenting the local businesses in the small Irish village where I currently reside; familiarity breeding contempt and the inevitable liberty taking by others at my expense. Watching this video has given me a huge confidence boost to know that I am not the only elderly person afflicted by this phenomenon and that choosing periods of solitude is beneficial to one's own peace of mind and wellbeing.👍
Wow, that is so wise. .My wife and I have been married imany years. We have no children. We have been separated for about 7 years and help each other and every Friday I take her out to eat. We get along good now that we are separated. She has her friends and they get together. I have a few and we seldom get together. Being alone is good
Im 60 and LOVING MY SOLITUDE! My curious mind keeps me busy and entertained!! Absolutely NO NEED to even talk! 👌💯💜
The reality you brought out on the visitors is touching. As a kid, I grew up having friends of my parents with thier childern coming and spending weekends. Gathering of different community groups etc. The spirit was high, hosts very happy to be hospitable by all their means. Now any guest, if comes will literaly only be brought to directly saying the purpose of his visit and that we are about to leave, today there is no gas, electricity. Off course, mutually understood! So disintegrated is our social connection ...😊
Thank you for reminding that its not proper to disturb other homes in old age. But true👍👍👍
Anecdotes of other people screwing up their relationships with family and friends, will not chase me into isolation from my own family and friends. Live how you choose to, make the life you want, not the life others advise for you. If someone invites you to visit, but didn't really want you to, that is their problem, not yours. All these hidden agendas and unspoken complaints, just don't match up with my own life experiences. People like that, don't reach prominent positions in my life as friends. I am fortunate that my close family members are all genuinely nice people, also.
Theres to much presure in a social enviroment!!!! I feel judged-- only to hear shallow talk im so bored and just want to go home and watch a movie on my couch with my dogs--- love my alone time !!!
'The more words spoken the more likely that some will find a critical ear.' Moi.
Be stoic. Nothing bad matters
Yeah i agree with you. . Thanks to Marcus Aurelius. .
It's all meant to be. Let it just happen.
The thing is though, people in cafes who are alone and old nearly always look unhappy and withdrawn. And a social system cannot be bucked and changed without conflict. Even so, our social stystems and norms need changing.
They should have a dog or a cat who will love them unconditionally. If one doesnt have money they wont have friends and even relatives.
50 isn’t old. I’m a recent widow and visit neighbors who can’t get out with some baked goods. I’ve also had dinner parties on his birthday and for Father’s Day. Life should be celebrated!
I’m older than all of you. Sometimes I’m glad I don’t have noisy kids running around. Other times I celebrate family occasions which are fun, but a lot of my events are funerals.
I have found that since"covid" people have changed socially, they seem to have built walls round themselves and have become selfish and short tempered, maybe it,s me ? but I prefer to be on my own more these days at 68y/o,
I have a plaque in my window which reads " the more people I meet, the more I love my cat", strengh is solitude! without a doubt....😌😌😌....😻😻💗✝...
Tim , iso agree I’m 79 and such a lot of the people who took the poke despite it being experimental rather than risk flu ,seem altered , not as fit and grumpy , it really showed how the pack mentality kicks in ,
The "middle way" is best. Time to be with others, time to be alone.
Good video. After 30 years I have stopped having my in-laws visit. They are users, hypocrites, self-interested, and ego driven. No need for them at all. Peace without them.
Why so negative, friends are forever a treasure for me, if they are truly friends you can understand each other without explaining. I love to be with them once in awhile not necessarily visiting nin their house we can just meet eat outside ❤❤❤
Some good points here.
Unfortunately, too many communities lack suitable "third places", i.e., neither home nor work/school but public spaces that are readily accessible, open to social gatherings, and not prohibitively expensive to enjoy on a regular basis.
I'm an old woman with a chihuahua. Know what? I like it! No worries & unconditional love. ❤️💛😇💛❤️
Very fruitful and meaningful analysis.
Make new friends but keep the old.
One is silver and the other gold.
I find it’s difficult to make new friends.
@@kafizola5695 The best way to make a friend is to be a friend.
In the solitude , solitary comfort of own home with own hobbies & free from anyone in the presence of the Lord, one will find sanity, serenity , quietness, peace of mind that is called the SUCCESS of LIFE !
No news is GOOD news !
Thanks be to the Lord for His Grace & Mercy.
Excellent and truthful video - best tips for everyone.
Shallow, frivolous and otherwise non-stimulating conversations that drones on and on is what keeps me away from social circles. It’s like going to repetitive PTA meetings.
Be energetic and enthusiastic, I'm 64 but always felt 19, evening I go to park do my calastanics workout, the youth admire and I inspire those old and the young. It keeps me fit and fine. Walk walk in the light, walk walk in the light, walk walk in the light, Walk in the Light Of The Lord
This is Great, I've always been a hermit & I know about these complications he speaks of all too well.
I am now 66 years and hubby is 72 years old. We are still healthy. I have an association from old office friends and once a year I will have gathering and selection of members and auditor. My husband and I are the only one at home. My son sends his kids to the school near our house so we are busy making sure they eat lunch and sending them to school while their parents are working. I read the newspaper everyday and do some sewing if needed like my husband torn pants etc. Now is the time to have a lot of rest - sleeping in the evening. 😂
Thank You For The Awareness…🤲👍👍
A am 67 traveling the world .Get a life the last breath is the only moment of loss .I am not rich in money but in faith in the human race .
I’m in my 60s and I’m adjusting from a life of having to get up to go work for an employer to one of doing things for myself and spouse as well as caring for my aged mother. I’m not rich but I get by ok.
I cherish opportunities to learn new things, new domestic skills as well as perform periodic but routine household chores.
I keep in touch with my friends and peers using social media platforms and I keep up to date with what’s happening around me and around the world. I continue to socialise in person with friends and peers wherever the opportunities arise and regularly attend worship services.
My child who is married and has children, live in another part of the country but we keep in touch regularly via social media and we get together once in a while.
The two relationships a person staying alone must have is......1) A close personal relationship with God, our Creator.......2) A mutually loving relationship with "man's best friend " the dog.
Wow. Yes, I need time to spend by myself, but listening to this I had to turn it off. THat's why I can not practice Zen Buddhism. It's a disregard of the all the sutras. especially the Lotus Sutra. What gives me joy, besides being outside working in an Apple Orchard, is being around young people who challenge my ideas and expand my life. I am not ready to die. Support the youth !
Am retired this year and already prepare for myown business in plant production.
Here in Germany I am a graduated biologist and professional gardener, just love growing stuff outside.
Some people grow old, and some grow up. At 72, I am lonesome but not lonely, although if I could meet the right woman to share this life it would be great, but I've just about given up. I wonder why it takes almost a whole lifetime to see things as they really are. Being insatiably curious helps to avoid the drudgery of every day. I have my cat and my plants and I love to cook. I have learned not to expect too much from people since they're not likely to change their way of thinking. I hate it how the media tries to inoculate us into a "don't worry, be happy, keep buying" stupor. Thank goodness I can see the truth. There are many reasons to be bitter, and many to be amazed. My most important characteristic is that I'm a good person who is not religious, but I do see some of the positive things it does for people.