I think most of us are pretty reasonable as to not expect others around us to adopt a minimalist lifestyle. The problem comes in when you live with Hoarders. Its one thing when someone keeps some "just in case" items and another thing when someone holds on to so much crap that expired food occupies every cabinet, rooms are completely in inaccessible, the back door is blocked and there are goat trails in the hallway. My Dad isn't a minimalist in the slightest sense but his possessions don't infringe on anyone else on the house. My mother however has completely taken over and makes the house look like a department store and storage unit. She flipped when I tossed some expired food to make space for something I was going to use. It's embarrassing to invite anyone over and the house is so uninviting, not to mention everything is twice as hard to do because there is so much crap that has to be moved just to do basic chores or cook. My advice to anyone in this situation is to temper your expectations with those around you and start working on moving into your own space.
You just described the house I grew up in. I'm an adult now and still working to unlearn some hoarding tendencies (and internalised shame about hoarding) but deep down I'm very much a minimalist. Sending big hugs for anyone still having to live in that kind of house as I know how destructive it can be. It gets better. ♥️
i swear its like you're describing me in my houshold , i know how it feels like .. objects really consume them with out them feeling , i really want to cook invite ppl over and just feel like "home" but how can i feel that if i am not even confortable in my own . i find myself day dreaming of how i'll have an organised normal home 💔
I am currently living with my sister who is NOT a minimalist and boy oh boy do I get the urge to clean and organize her stuff 😭😭 ... So that hit home for me 😂😅
I used to be a hoarder myself, but seeing how bad my parents’ hoarding tendencies slapped me back into reality. It’s not fun when you’re the one who cleans the house 🙃
After watching a lot of videos and channels on minimalism, I’ve come to the conclusion that I am more of a maximalist. I learn about minimalism because of the intentionality behind it, the aspect of quality and doing the most with your time and resources. However, I live in bright coloured home with things that make me happy, because of memories connected to those things. Not every maximalist I know is messy and dirty and not every minimalist I know is clean and lives in a dust-free home. I think for both, intentionality is a keyword in how you experience it.
Maximalism is a decor style not a lifestyle. People confuse maximalism with clutter, disorganization and messiness, and not all maximalists are like that.
I can’t explain how frustrated I am living in my home with my husband and grown son who are anything but minimalists. It’s literally like pulling teeth, if not harder, to get them to declutter anything. Because I’m married I cannot just declutter the house as my husband thinks everything we have is necessary or if we have duplicates we may need them someday. I honestly sometimes break down and cry as the stress and anxiety I’m having is overwhelming. The only things I can declutter are my personal belongings, ie. mostly clothes, shoes, jewelry and similar. I’ve been trying to declutter our office which is basically a storage room for junk. I have an autoimmune disease which slows me down so much and I have barely any energy as well as pain on a daily basis. I love videos like yours and that of others but there are times when I’m watching them and I’m just getting more frustrated as I can’t reach my goal. I really appreciate you doing this video as I’m sure there are others in our same situation.😊❤️🙏
Hi there. Now I don't know your exact living situation but it could help if you could explain to your family that having less stuff is important to you. That it could help live a simpler, more enjoyable life because you feel overwhelmed by your things. Of course they still might not listen, my family certainly didn't, but I just decluttered what I had control over and made peace that the rest of the apartment does not reflect that. However, I did realize that my family started to declutter some stuff as well after seeing how tidy my room was and how easy it was to maintain that. I wish you much strength. Do what you can, it is enough.
If the reason behind your husband's refusal to declutter is his just-in-case mentality, then you need to address that. I would suggest inventorising everything you have in the house and identifying their usage purpose. It would help your husband to realise how many options he has when a certain item breaks down/emergency happens, and he will be more willing to let go of the really extraneous stuff. But if it doesn't work....then you need to let it go, for your own peace of mind. Just create a clutter free space of your own and leave him to enjoy his junk lol.
Sorry for the long response in advance. I'm a minimalist currently living with my partner who grew up extremely poor so he has a hoarder's mentality of "I need to keep this in case I need it because I don't know if I'll have the money to replace it". I also don't know your guys situation, but I feel like there might be a case of conflicting mental health needs. On your side is just the very fact that if the clutter is bringing you to the point of breakdowns, that's a serious issue of damaging your mental health, which your husband needs to take seriously if he cares for you (it might sound harsh but like, it should be a simple fact that you don't want to do anything that causes your partner mental harm let alone a full breakdown). As well as the fact that you have an autoimmune disorder, living in a cluttered house makes it so much harder to clean can negatively affect your physical health, which again your husband should care about. On his side, if he grew up in a situation similar to that of my partner's or has some other deep rooted childhood problem, he will need work over time to address and I'm always a big advocate for therapy. In the immediate, having an emergency budget might help, or like showing that you can sell duplicates for those "just in case" needs. Def agree with what @Evelyn Teo said above. I would also add that even just going through all the stuff that you have to keep and finding proper organization and aesthetic homes for everything helps a lot (with or without your partner). My partner is messy and when he moved in with all his shit, it stressed me out how everything piled up and he just wasn't good at cleaning. At some point I decided I couldn't live like that anymore and without throwing out anything (unless I got his permission) I took note of what he used a lot and what he didn't and found homes for everything that was both easy for him to find and was aesthetic. I installed shelves, got nice boxes, etc. So even if he doesn't clean, since everything has a designate spot it takes so much less time and effort for me to. Our apt building also has storage lockers we can rent, so we did that as well and that's where I put most of his "just in case" items. But yeah, honestly, ask your husband for help to inventory everything (you can even phrase it to him in a way he'd be willing like "what's the point of having just in case items if we don't even know what we have/if it still works," it's kinda like double checking your emergency medical and food supplies on regular basis). and if he still refuses to get rid of duplicates or unnecessary items, then maybe you can box those up separately, keeping the better version more easily accessible, and store those in harder to reach areas to leave more room for other stuff. And honestly check in to see if he forgot you even had some stuff. That's a sign that he might be more willing to declutter.
Oh god, I completely sympathise. I didn't think there were other people in the same situation! It's hard living with a maximalist, all I can say is that in my situation it's taken a long time but my other half has slowly started to declutter 👍 not at all on the scale I want but it's a start! I'm sure I'm time your family will see the fruits of your labour and want to get involved themselves. Lead by example I reckon? Good luck 🤙
When you become a minimalist. You truly realize people who over fill their homes, only do it so, from a psychological-factor. Almost as if they're over-compensating for a void they feel.
@@12012channel Most of the time, a lack of an actual personality so they use minimalism to both act in place of a personality and to give themselves a sense of superiority. They don't want to admit that there isn't anything that actually makes them better than anyone else, so they just act like not having a lot of things makes them more worldly or whatever.
Minimalists tend to suffer from commitment issues and may sometimes be avoidant in personal relationships. We all do things to fill a void whether big or small. We do what we think will make us happy.
Finally someone came up with this video. It's not easy to live with a family of maximalists. I had a quarrel last year with my mom for being a maximalist and constantly buying things. But I have come to terms with her way of living. Thank you for the great content as always!
It's taken a long time for me to stop arguing with my partner who's a maximalist so I completely understand. Kinda nice to know there's others like you out there! 😆
Ohhh boy! My mom and I have had nasty arguments over the years about her love for clutter in the house. She actually said she likes clutter! I hate clutter so much. Minimalism is so much easier on the brain and body because you're not being swallowed up by stuff and losing things all the time.
You are SO underrated! I wish you had more views! You have inspired me in my minimalism journey. I personally follow spending more money on investments . And in doing so, i make sure that i t looks good. Very solid advice!
in apartments like in new york city,. stuff also invites bugs of all kinds because everyone lives so closely together and you will always have a dirty person in the building. when your house is filled with stuff, bugs find more places to hide and it is harder to clean crumbs off the ground/surfaces as stuff is overloaded there. if you also move often, moving with stuff is a huge nightmare. so minimalism depends on many things, including the city you live in. lastly, remember one thing. when you bring stuff into the home, that is each square footage of space you are paying to rent that space for that stuff instead of you using it to openly walk around/about. no one has thought of this before in this angle at least never heard anyone say this but each item represents a rental/mortgage fee on your property.
When you said decluttering issue, that hit hard. As this is essentially what some minimalist identify with. I live at home and am very fortunate that I have parents who respect my space and I respect theirs. I just help the, to understand the importance of not letting our things over take us. Declutter and breath happily.
I love your videos - this one is great ! "Minimalism starts with you." It builds compassion towards others, not a war with others' realities. Tough, but minimalism can cultivate genuine compassion in a human. Thank you for that episode. :)
OMG, I absolutely LOL'd at the 'move out' line. I definitely have that motivation at times. And I definitely have a 'declutter issue' at this point :-) Totally appreciate your message of accepting differences.
My dad loves how spacious my room became after decluttering. The situation is, after researching about minimalism himself, he still don’t quite get the concept. I think it’s because he thinks owning newer, better equipment for his career is an investment, however, I think it’s unnecessary to spend that much on a new phone every few months...
Maximalism is not the same as Clutter, disorganized and hoarding according to deidre sullivan :A common misconception is that maximalism encourages hoarding items and overstuffing rooms. While it embraces the idea of excess, it's not in the way you might think. It promotes repetition, patterns, bold palettes, intricate graphic details, and one-of-a-kind possessions. Maximalism is a loud style composed of mixed patterns, excessive, but curated collections, and saturated colors. Its strongly opposed counterpart minimalism encourages paring everything down to its bare minimum, but maximalism encourages utilizing your space in the boldest way possible
Enjoyed this. Thanks goodness I now live alone. And I love it - would not live with a maximalist ever again. The worse is when some people have a lots of things, because one.......day...... they might need it. Although the day for needing never comes. I buy and keep what I like and actually use. Enjoy my simple but rich life - easy to keep my studio apartment clean, no debt and have all the free time I could ever dream of. Less is more - how true this is. Kindest greetings from Switzerland.
Great video. Another issue is when your maximalist significant other has so much stuff and is so disorganized that they misplace something of value and it then costs either a lot of money to replace or we have to spend time searching for it. Then when you present the idea of taking the time to declutter and organize things to avoid this issue later, they are not interested. This is incredibly frustrating!
If that happens I get asked 'where did you hide it' or 'you must have tidied it away somewhere' etc. Clutterers never seem to understand that things get lost because they just get left lying where they are dropped.
This is so relatable. I appreciate showing some of the cluttered spaces. Sometimes, I am embarrassed to film in those spaces but I've come to accept that that is what my space will look like living with family.
Living with a maximalist family, I could resonate with it completely. Thanks, Cheng, for this wonderful video. You always inspire me. Definitely gonna try the ideas that you mentioned. Keep growing. Keep shining, Cheng 💪
I can't be the only person who laughed really hard when he said "atrocious" LOL Great video! I live with my parents as well so it slightly gets difficult sometimes
I live with my non-minimalist husband~ I use to live with my non-minimalist messy parents too and I agree that it’s possible! What’s more interesting is when they slowly get influenced by you. Is a positive situation ~ my next goal is to - show those who said to me “wait till you have kids”. I would like to show them that even with kids, minimalist is possible too! No excuses 😌
Ah, it’s so fun to see more of the context of your life! I like to see the contrast of the “normal” or messy spaces with the little oasis of peace you have created for yourself. I always appreciate your humor and visual storytelling.
Hey man I really like your videos and personality! They have a really clean polished look and I like the different angles and shots you get around your place, you also come across as a genuine guy trying to help other people improve their lives. Im a small channel myself but hope your channel keeps growing!
I am for the first time here, i'm a newbie and i got facinated by your channel, your visions, your tips and learnings, you editing is so clean and i love your voice and smile. What a pleasure to watch you and learn from you. I'm so glad i found you. 🥰
It's funny. I wanted to organize my home so I started watching videos for inspiration, but I felt so frustrated that I thought, the only way to feel better about my space would probably be to get rid of everything as I always felt overwhelmed, then I came across videos on minimalism and I found the answer to my organization problem. I needed to purge my home of all the unnecessary things. I've started doing that and my anxiety is gone. I feel such a weight off my life since I started getting rid of stuff and feel so much better about my future. I look forward to organizing and cleaning my home and I can finally relax without feeling like I should be doing something. We are a family of six and not everyone is in agreement with what I'm doing (especially my husband), but I will continue with whatever I can control. Tfs...I really like your content.
"we think that everyone else should live this way" YES. so much. i really appreciate your mindset here, and that you're spreading that to other people. we should appreciate and accept that others are going to live their lives the way they see fit.
Smart young man living at home. Better to live at home so you can save for future. I hope you are saving....my youngest son, did not save while living at home. He was too into fashion, cars, girls. 😁 Older son did so. Okay home is cluttered because business related. Emma, NYC
Not a minimalist here, but I find minimalist perspectives very helpful in my daily battle with the clutter monster. My grandparents were avid collector married to spartan minimalist and madly in love with each other to the end of their days (90 and 96j years old). Their lives were different and they gave each other time and space to be their own persons. Their house was a good size and they had common rooms and they had their own areas. The common living areas were very clean, tasteful, not minimal, but not cluttered. Grandma had the run of the attic where she kept most of her collections and she would rotate pieces in and out to and from the common areas. She liked to do international travel and cruises and brought stuff home. It made her happy. Grandpa had a den and bedroom that were his and had very few things. He rarely bought anything new preferring to repair and reuse. By the time he died he had a bicycle that he had actively ridden for 30 years while his friends bought a new bike every year. But they gave each other the space to be themselves and didn’t try to control each other’s personal styles. Their lives were somewhat independent and they really enjoyed the time they spent with each other. Maybe a weird marriage but it was 1000% successful.
I live with a maximalist. As a compromise, I keep my bedroom very clutter free and we have a house rule that things can't be left sitting on surfaces - items must have a home. Most of the time this works well.
I find myself in the same position as you and while I do practice minimalist mostly on myself, I tend to step beyond my boundaries and enforce it a bit in the house but just enough to make things more simple and easier without interfering with their hobbies and passions part of daily life. Great video as always!
Thanks for your open mind and inclusiveness. My friends are maximalists, but are slowly starting to understand the benefits of intentional choices. I don’t try to change them, as I was like that a few years ago and my journey is on going. They just see how much flexible time I have, and that small changes can have a positive impact in our daily life.
Hey, first time commenting but I have been binge watching your channel for the last four days. I needed to have an update on minimalism cause I have tried to be a minimalist for two years but lost it a bit somehow. Your journey is really inspiring and I'm already trying some of your techniques (I love the wishlist ...). Thanks for your content and positivity!
I really love your videos! It's refreshing to see another minimalist that is more in tune with how I practice minimalism and not judging and verbally attacking me because I own a toaster (lol that really happened).
Hi there ✨ I discovered your channel few days ago and felt inspired by your words which are helpful and simple. As I was a maximalist and trying to consume less, your videos helps me to understand what i want in my room to be comfortable and live simply ! Your videos are refreshing, sometimes fun and most of respectful of others ways of living ! The algorithm got me and I liked it for once ✨♥️
You're confusing maximalist with messy and cluttered. Have you seen what good maximalist style looks like? It's supposed to be a cohesive mix of colors, textures and patterns that when done well, can be just as freeing as minimalism. It's actually harder to pull off good maximalist style in a home without making the inhabitants feel overwhelmed in the space.
Growing up I didn’t know what minimalism was but my dad hates having excess stuff around; my mom loves surrounding herself with stuff. Every yr my mom took a trip to visit her sisters my daddy used to throw away everything ( now my mom doesn’t buy stuff she doesn’t need) LOVE MY DADDY.
Hey, CK! THANK YOU SO MUCH! I stumbled upon this video and i can somehow relate to your situation. I am living with my mom and my older brother. We are tooootttallly different and it is very challenging. My brother is into diff hobbies especially cycling, has looots of photography equipment and also got two bikes even if he only has one pair of legs. 😪 While my mom, idk she has looots of plants and also loooves to keep things even if she does not use them anymore 🥺 which i do not understand. I realized, i was too pushy before and I'm trying to convince her in decluttering her stuff. I was really wrong in this matter. But I am still learning though. 🥺 Thanks a lot to this. I learned about something good today- being respectful to other's space and being appreciative. 🤗 More power!
If overwhelmed with other peoples' clutter, I find it helpful to ask myself, 'why do I want a tidy, ordered, uncluttered home?' The answer is always 'to have inner calm and peace of mind.' Note that it is INNER calm. One day after getting really stressed and depressed about clutter, I just said 'I choose the inner calm regardless of the external circumstances. I don't need them to change in order for my mood to change'. It's been difficult but I find the more I do this, the easier it becomes. Being obsessed with tidiness and order can be just as bad as being a clutterbug.
'Minimalism starts with you, not your surroundings.' That is so true, and that is why this is the best video so far I have found on this topic. A true minimalist should be able to peacefully co-exist, if he has to, with an extreme hoarder, because minimalism is a Stoic philosophy about one's own inner being, not the kind of house one lives in. I have long since given up, for example, getting my wife to change her clutter habits which were driving me mad. I simply say to myself 'yes there is clutter, but it does not affect me or define me' and try to retain a sense of inner calm. I realise also that my 'ideal' home where everything is perfectly in order and to my own taste cannot co-exist with other people; if I want that I have to live alone in 'splendid isolation' which comes with its own problems as well.
Omg this really hit home for me because I still live w my parents. But I REALLY want to become a minimalist. And it seems almost impossible to become one because whenever I tried to get rid of clothes my parents say that I’m wasting money or perfectly good clothes even tho I wear 20% of my closet. I want to get rid of things but it’s hard bc they’re always like “we paid good money for that” and I’m like 😑 this entire dresser is EMPTY. But I wanna get rid of stuff and completely redesign my room into a minimalistic space but it’s HARD to declutter living w maximalists XD but I’m always understanding and I’m excited for the prospect of making my room minimalist XD anyways thank you for this video ! You’re so underrated !
Great video. I struggle with this kind of situation a lot lately. My issue is mostly having to clean a more maximist space. I live with my girlfriend and while I don't mind doing my share of the cleaning, sometimes it irks me having to move 13 separate items just to dust off the top of the TV stand. Quite a few spots in the home are that way. It almost feels like I simplified my life, but can't live a simplified life because I have to live in someone else's complexity.
I'm glad that you addressed the objective of minimalism! I kind of have a low opinion of people who take this as a trend without having a clear purpose or because they are merely trying to justify their lack of belongings.
I'm one of your Indian follower and really love watching your minimalism videos. I'm trying to incorporate tiny minimalism changes each day. All thanks to you.
“All the tabs on her computer...atrocious” 😂😂
Alicia Ashley lol i laughed at that part too
It was so smooth...😂
Lol I was like damn blunt
Perfect. 😂
I laughed when he said this!! Too funny!
I think most of us are pretty reasonable as to not expect others around us to adopt a minimalist lifestyle. The problem comes in when you live with Hoarders. Its one thing when someone keeps some "just in case" items and another thing when someone holds on to so much crap that expired food occupies every cabinet, rooms are completely in inaccessible, the back door is blocked and there are goat trails in the hallway. My Dad isn't a minimalist in the slightest sense but his possessions don't infringe on anyone else on the house. My mother however has completely taken over and makes the house look like a department store and storage unit. She flipped when I tossed some expired food to make space for something I was going to use. It's embarrassing to invite anyone over and the house is so uninviting, not to mention everything is twice as hard to do because there is so much crap that has to be moved just to do basic chores or cook.
My advice to anyone in this situation is to temper your expectations with those around you and start working on moving into your own space.
You just described the house I grew up in. I'm an adult now and still working to unlearn some hoarding tendencies (and internalised shame about hoarding) but deep down I'm very much a minimalist.
Sending big hugs for anyone still having to live in that kind of house as I know how destructive it can be. It gets better. ♥️
extreme hoarding is a mental illness. My Grandmother was like that. You can only take care of your own mental health
i swear its like you're describing me in my houshold , i know how it feels like .. objects really consume them with out them feeling , i really want to cook invite ppl over and just feel like "home" but how can i feel that if i am not even confortable in my own . i find myself day dreaming of how i'll have an organised normal home 💔
you just described my relatives. hoarders n maximalists. its hard to do anything cuse you have to move so much crap.
5:26 “once you let them know about your decluttering issue - ahem - I mean, minimalism” 😂🤣😂🤣
I am currently living with my sister who is NOT a minimalist and boy oh boy do I get the urge to clean and organize her stuff 😭😭 ... So that hit home for me 😂😅
Same here she recently moved in and has like 15 large boxes worth of clothes alone. I’m tryna be patient but goddamn lmak
I did that to my sister some time ago. Let me just say ... I wish I didn't 😅
Bro... I lost it when you said move out. xD
That was hilarious 😂
When it comes to other people, I agree that we just have to coexist and make them understand. Nice video as always!
Well said, thanks Ryan!
You look reaaaaaaally similar!
My mom is a hoarder and it really irritates me. Thank you for reminding me to always understand them. Another inspiring video. ❤️
My mom too. I secretly, slowly throw some of her things away.
I am a hoader too 😂 It is extremely hard to bring myself to get rid of things
I used to be a hoarder myself, but seeing how bad my parents’ hoarding tendencies slapped me back into reality. It’s not fun when you’re the one who cleans the house 🙃
After watching a lot of videos and channels on minimalism, I’ve come to the conclusion that I am more of a maximalist. I learn about minimalism because of the intentionality behind it, the aspect of quality and doing the most with your time and resources. However, I live in bright coloured home with things that make me happy, because of memories connected to those things. Not every maximalist I know is messy and dirty and not every minimalist I know is clean and lives in a dust-free home. I think for both, intentionality is a keyword in how you experience it.
Maximalism is a decor style not a lifestyle. People confuse maximalism with clutter, disorganization and messiness, and not all maximalists are like that.
I doubt you are a maximalist. You are probably just normal.
I can’t explain how frustrated I am living in my home with my husband and grown son who are anything but minimalists. It’s literally like pulling teeth, if not harder, to get them to declutter anything. Because I’m married I cannot just declutter the house as my husband thinks everything we have is necessary or if we have duplicates we may need them someday. I honestly sometimes break down and cry as the stress and anxiety I’m having is overwhelming. The only things I can declutter are my personal belongings, ie. mostly clothes, shoes, jewelry and similar. I’ve been trying to declutter our office which is basically a storage room for junk. I have an autoimmune disease which slows me down so much and I have barely any energy as well as pain on a daily basis. I love videos like yours and that of others but there are times when I’m watching them and I’m just getting more frustrated as I can’t reach my goal. I really appreciate you doing this video as I’m sure there are others in our same situation.😊❤️🙏
Hi there. Now I don't know your exact living situation but it could help if you could explain to your family that having less stuff is important to you. That it could help live a simpler, more enjoyable life because you feel overwhelmed by your things.
Of course they still might not listen, my family certainly didn't, but I just decluttered what I had control over and made peace that the rest of the apartment does not reflect that. However, I did realize that my family started to declutter some stuff as well after seeing how tidy my room was and how easy it was to maintain that.
I wish you much strength. Do what you can, it is enough.
If the reason behind your husband's refusal to declutter is his just-in-case mentality, then you need to address that. I would suggest inventorising everything you have in the house and identifying their usage purpose. It would help your husband to realise how many options he has when a certain item breaks down/emergency happens, and he will be more willing to let go of the really extraneous stuff. But if it doesn't work....then you need to let it go, for your own peace of mind. Just create a clutter free space of your own and leave him to enjoy his junk lol.
Sorry for the long response in advance.
I'm a minimalist currently living with my partner who grew up extremely poor so he has a hoarder's mentality of "I need to keep this in case I need it because I don't know if I'll have the money to replace it". I also don't know your guys situation, but I feel like there might be a case of conflicting mental health needs. On your side is just the very fact that if the clutter is bringing you to the point of breakdowns, that's a serious issue of damaging your mental health, which your husband needs to take seriously if he cares for you (it might sound harsh but like, it should be a simple fact that you don't want to do anything that causes your partner mental harm let alone a full breakdown). As well as the fact that you have an autoimmune disorder, living in a cluttered house makes it so much harder to clean can negatively affect your physical health, which again your husband should care about. On his side, if he grew up in a situation similar to that of my partner's or has some other deep rooted childhood problem, he will need work over time to address and I'm always a big advocate for therapy. In the immediate, having an emergency budget might help, or like showing that you can sell duplicates for those "just in case" needs.
Def agree with what @Evelyn Teo said above. I would also add that even just going through all the stuff that you have to keep and finding proper organization and aesthetic homes for everything helps a lot (with or without your partner). My partner is messy and when he moved in with all his shit, it stressed me out how everything piled up and he just wasn't good at cleaning. At some point I decided I couldn't live like that anymore and without throwing out anything (unless I got his permission) I took note of what he used a lot and what he didn't and found homes for everything that was both easy for him to find and was aesthetic. I installed shelves, got nice boxes, etc. So even if he doesn't clean, since everything has a designate spot it takes so much less time and effort for me to. Our apt building also has storage lockers we can rent, so we did that as well and that's where I put most of his "just in case" items.
But yeah, honestly, ask your husband for help to inventory everything (you can even phrase it to him in a way he'd be willing like "what's the point of having just in case items if we don't even know what we have/if it still works," it's kinda like double checking your emergency medical and food supplies on regular basis). and if he still refuses to get rid of duplicates or unnecessary items, then maybe you can box those up separately, keeping the better version more easily accessible, and store those in harder to reach areas to leave more room for other stuff. And honestly check in to see if he forgot you even had some stuff. That's a sign that he might be more willing to declutter.
I completely relate to your problem. I live with a maximalist husband as well, and the clutter makes me really anxious too.
Oh god, I completely sympathise. I didn't think there were other people in the same situation!
It's hard living with a maximalist, all I can say is that in my situation it's taken a long time but my other half has slowly started to declutter 👍 not at all on the scale I want but it's a start! I'm sure I'm time your family will see the fruits of your labour and want to get involved themselves. Lead by example I reckon?
Good luck 🤙
When you become a minimalist. You truly realize people who over fill their homes, only do it so, from a psychological-factor. Almost as if they're over-compensating for a void they feel.
true.
And what psychological-factors are minimalist compensating for? Cause they definitely are.
@@12012channel Most of the time, a lack of an actual personality so they use minimalism to both act in place of a personality and to give themselves a sense of superiority. They don't want to admit that there isn't anything that actually makes them better than anyone else, so they just act like not having a lot of things makes them more worldly or whatever.
This take reeks of ego
Minimalists tend to suffer from commitment issues and may sometimes be avoidant in personal relationships. We all do things to fill a void whether big or small. We do what we think will make us happy.
Finally someone came up with this video. It's not easy to live with a family of maximalists. I had a quarrel last year with my mom for being a maximalist and constantly buying things. But I have come to terms with her way of living. Thank you for the great content as always!
Thanks for sharing! Hope this can help you out!
It's taken a long time for me to stop arguing with my partner who's a maximalist so I completely understand. Kinda nice to know there's others like you out there! 😆
Ohhh boy! My mom and I have had nasty arguments over the years about her love for clutter in the house. She actually said she likes clutter! I hate clutter so much. Minimalism is so much easier on the brain and body because you're not being swallowed up by stuff and losing things all the time.
Your mother is not a maximalist but a person with spending issues.
You are SO underrated!
I wish you had more views!
You have inspired me in my minimalism journey.
I personally follow spending more money on investments . And in doing so, i make sure that i t looks good.
Very solid advice!
Thank you so much! Will continue to work on more.
All the best to you and your minimalism journey!
in apartments like in new york city,. stuff also invites bugs of all kinds because everyone lives so closely together and you will always have a dirty person in the building. when your house is filled with stuff, bugs find more places to hide and it is harder to clean crumbs off the ground/surfaces as stuff is overloaded there. if you also move often, moving with stuff is a huge nightmare. so minimalism depends on many things, including the city you live in. lastly, remember one thing. when you bring stuff into the home, that is each square footage of space you are paying to rent that space for that stuff instead of you using it to openly walk around/about. no one has thought of this before in this angle at least never heard anyone say this but each item represents a rental/mortgage fee on your property.
I can see the blank photo frame being replaced with the 100k subscriber certificate from CZcams pretty soon! Great content man!
Appreciate the support!🙏
When you said decluttering issue, that hit hard. As this is essentially what some minimalist identify with. I live at home and am very fortunate that I have parents who respect my space and I respect theirs. I just help the, to understand the importance of not letting our things over take us. Declutter and breath happily.
I was needing this video. I live with my parents and it's hard being a minimalist with maximalists
I love 'never too small' as well. Another nice video.
I just moved into a van so my amount of belongings has drastically changed. I have to say, I am way happier with less stuff.
How are living in your van? How do you shower...etc.
I love your videos - this one is great ! "Minimalism starts with you." It builds compassion towards others, not a war with others' realities. Tough, but minimalism can cultivate genuine compassion in a human. Thank you for that episode. :)
This was the video I needed the most.I always wanted to make others minimalist as well which gave me so much stress.Now I can live peacefully.
Same, but I still feel stress about it hahah I need to work on that
“Remember the tabs she had on her laptop? Atrocious.” I laughed out loud at that one. Reminds me of trying to ever use my boyfriend’s laptop. Scary.
This Video is exactly what i needed right now! Thank you so much for your awesome content!
Glad it was helpful! Thanks for the support Danny!
OMG, I absolutely LOL'd at the 'move out' line. I definitely have that motivation at times. And I definitely have a 'declutter issue' at this point :-) Totally appreciate your message of accepting differences.
I dont know how Cheng come out with great ideas every week.
😂Squeezing my creative juice dry every week!
My dad loves how spacious my room became after decluttering. The situation is, after researching about minimalism himself, he still don’t quite get the concept. I think it’s because he thinks owning newer, better equipment for his career is an investment, however, I think it’s unnecessary to spend that much on a new phone every few months...
Thanks for the comment Polly. I know how you feel! Sometimes being understanding can be the best yet simplest solution.
CKSPACE Thank you for the reply. It’s probably only a problem for minimalists only. xD
Maximalism is not the same as Clutter, disorganized and hoarding
according to deidre sullivan :A common misconception is that maximalism encourages hoarding items and overstuffing rooms. While it embraces the idea of excess, it's not in the way you might think. It promotes repetition, patterns, bold palettes, intricate graphic details, and one-of-a-kind possessions. Maximalism is a loud style composed of mixed patterns, excessive, but curated collections, and saturated colors. Its strongly opposed counterpart minimalism encourages paring everything down to its bare minimum, but maximalism encourages utilizing your space in the boldest way possible
I laughed so hard when you said “atrocious” ! Haha 😆 Sooo many tabs !!
I love this kind attitude. If everyone was like you we would have world peace!
Enjoyed this. Thanks goodness
I now live alone. And I love it -
would not live with a maximalist ever again. The worse is when
some people have a lots of things, because one.......day......
they might need it. Although
the day for needing never comes.
I buy and keep what I like and
actually use. Enjoy my simple
but rich life - easy to keep my
studio apartment clean, no debt
and have all the free time I could
ever dream of. Less is more -
how true this is. Kindest greetings from Switzerland.
Great video. Another issue is when your maximalist significant other has so much stuff and is so disorganized that they misplace something of value and it then costs either a lot of money to replace or we have to spend time searching for it. Then when you present the idea of taking the time to declutter and organize things to avoid this issue later, they are not interested. This is incredibly frustrating!
If that happens I get asked 'where did you hide it' or 'you must have tidied it away somewhere' etc. Clutterers never seem to understand that things get lost because they just get left lying where they are dropped.
This is so relatable. I appreciate showing some of the cluttered spaces. Sometimes, I am embarrassed to film in those spaces but I've come to accept that that is what my space will look like living with family.
Minimalism, declutter,
CLEAN HOUSE, CLEAN MIND 👍💖
that moving out bit transition, 90% smooth hahah
Living with a maximalist family, I could resonate with it completely. Thanks, Cheng, for this wonderful video. You always inspire me. Definitely gonna try the ideas that you mentioned. Keep growing. Keep shining, Cheng 💪
I can't be the only person who laughed really hard when he said "atrocious" LOL
Great video! I live with my parents as well so it slightly gets difficult sometimes
New subscriber!, nobody had ever explained this so eloquently and in such a respectful way in regards of non minimalists.
I live with my non-minimalist husband~ I use to live with my non-minimalist messy parents too and I agree that it’s possible! What’s more interesting is when they slowly get influenced by you. Is a positive situation ~ my next goal is to - show those who said to me “wait till you have kids”. I would like to show them that even with kids, minimalist is possible too! No excuses 😌
Ah, it’s so fun to see more of the context of your life! I like to see the contrast of the “normal” or messy spaces with the little oasis of peace you have created for yourself. I always appreciate your humor and visual storytelling.
I love how you pace your words, it is so calming. Watching your video to better understand how to cope living in a maximalist household.
Hey man I really like your videos and personality! They have a really clean polished look and I like the different angles and shots you get around your place, you also come across as a genuine guy trying to help other people improve their lives. Im a small channel myself but hope your channel keeps growing!
I am for the first time here, i'm a newbie and i got facinated by your channel, your visions, your tips and learnings, you editing is so clean and i love your voice and smile. What a pleasure to watch you and learn from you. I'm so glad i found you. 🥰
It's funny. I wanted to organize my home so I started watching videos for inspiration, but I felt so frustrated that I thought, the only way to feel better about my space would probably be to get rid of everything as I always felt overwhelmed, then I came across videos on minimalism and I found the answer to my organization problem. I needed to purge my home of all the unnecessary things. I've started doing that and my anxiety is gone. I feel such a weight off my life since I started getting rid of stuff and feel so much better about my future. I look forward to organizing and cleaning my home and I can finally relax without feeling like I should be doing something. We are a family of six and not everyone is in agreement with what I'm doing (especially my husband), but I will continue with whatever I can control. Tfs...I really like your content.
"we think that everyone else should live this way" YES. so much. i really appreciate your mindset here, and that you're spreading that to other people. we should appreciate and accept that others are going to live their lives the way they see fit.
Smart young man living at home. Better to live at home so you can save for future. I hope you are saving....my youngest son, did not save while living at home. He was too into fashion, cars, girls. 😁 Older son did so. Okay home is cluttered because business related.
Emma, NYC
Not a minimalist here, but I find minimalist perspectives very helpful in my daily battle with the clutter monster. My grandparents were avid collector married to spartan minimalist and madly in love with each other to the end of their days (90 and 96j years old). Their lives were different and they gave each other time and space to be their own persons. Their house was a good size and they had common rooms and they had their own areas. The common living areas were very clean, tasteful, not minimal, but not cluttered. Grandma had the run of the attic where she kept most of her collections and she would rotate pieces in and out to and from the common areas. She liked to do international travel and cruises and brought stuff home. It made her happy. Grandpa had a den and bedroom that were his and had very few things. He rarely bought anything new preferring to repair and reuse. By the time he died he had a bicycle that he had actively ridden for 30 years while his friends bought a new bike every year. But they gave each other the space to be themselves and didn’t try to control each other’s personal styles. Their lives were somewhat independent and they really enjoyed the time they spent with each other. Maybe a weird marriage but it was 1000% successful.
Awww, that's so lovely 🙂💖
I live with a maximalist. As a compromise, I keep my bedroom very clutter free and we have a house rule that things can't be left sitting on surfaces - items must have a home. Most of the time this works well.
I find myself in the same position as you and while I do practice minimalist mostly on myself, I tend to step beyond my boundaries and enforce it a bit in the house but just enough to make things more simple and easier without interfering with their hobbies and passions part of daily life. Great video as always!
Glad that this can relate to you! Thanks Remus
By definition, I am simple. I see Cheng's new video, and then I click :)
Co-exist, not move out, that the point
Just found your stuff one-video ago and I love what’s going on here!
Thanks for your open mind and inclusiveness. My friends are maximalists, but are slowly starting to understand the benefits of intentional choices. I don’t try to change them, as I was like that a few years ago and my journey is on going. They just see how much flexible time I have, and that small changes can have a positive impact in our daily life.
Thank you for being honest and sharing your experience.
This is actually very sweet. I don't like ideas or movements that alienate yourselves from others.
Great ideas my friend... definitely resonated with me. Completely agree with not trying to change or impose minimalism on others!
Glad that you enjoyed it!
Your videos are so helpful, thank you so much!
Great content as always!
Always keeping me motivated thank you.
Hey, first time commenting but I have been binge watching your channel for the last four days. I needed to have an update on minimalism cause I have tried to be a minimalist for two years but lost it a bit somehow. Your journey is really inspiring and I'm already trying some of your techniques (I love the wishlist ...).
Thanks for your content and positivity!
I really love your videos! It's refreshing to see another minimalist that is more in tune with how I practice minimalism and not judging and verbally attacking me because I own a toaster (lol that really happened).
Amazing Video!!! Great Subject to Talk About Been Waiting For This Advice I Really Needed It!!!!
Glad it's helpful and you enjoyed it! Thanks Joe!
Hi there ✨ I discovered your channel few days ago and felt inspired by your words which are helpful and simple. As I was a maximalist and trying to consume less, your videos helps me to understand what i want in my room to be comfortable and live simply ! Your videos are refreshing, sometimes fun and most of respectful of others ways of living ! The algorithm got me and I liked it for once ✨♥️
"Pack up backpack, move out" 😂😂😂
I love watching your videos while I declutter on weekends.
You're confusing maximalist with messy and cluttered. Have you seen what good maximalist style looks like? It's supposed to be a cohesive mix of colors, textures and patterns that when done well, can be just as freeing as minimalism. It's actually harder to pull off good maximalist style in a home without making the inhabitants feel overwhelmed in the space.
Fr
Thank you so much for this video. I really enjoy your content 🙂
Growing up I didn’t know what minimalism was but my dad hates having excess stuff around; my mom loves surrounding herself with stuff. Every yr my mom took a trip to visit her sisters my daddy used to throw away everything ( now my mom doesn’t buy stuff she doesn’t need) LOVE MY DADDY.
I found this encouraging! Thank you!
your views on minimalism are wonderful. Sometimes i feel like it also applies to any form of living/lifestyle too. accept, embrace and understand :)
Don't know why but I like the way you speak. Very stable and humble
Hey, CK! THANK YOU SO MUCH!
I stumbled upon this video and i can somehow relate to your situation. I am living with my mom and my older brother. We are tooootttallly different and it is very challenging. My brother is into diff hobbies especially cycling, has looots of photography equipment and also got two bikes even if he only has one pair of legs. 😪 While my mom, idk she has looots of plants and also loooves to keep things even if she does not use them anymore 🥺 which i do not understand. I realized, i was too pushy before and I'm trying to convince her in decluttering her stuff. I was really wrong in this matter. But I am still learning though. 🥺 Thanks a lot to this. I learned about something good today- being respectful to other's space and being appreciative. 🤗 More power!
the b-roll on CKSPACE videos is always so good
I love the tape that you put on the table. It was priceless.
Ms. L. Churchill
Thaankkk you for this video!!! I have gained great insight, because I too live with people who carry many more things than myself.
Love.....very well said. Totally agreed with what u said. Tks for sharing.
man the shot transitions are so beautiful.. respect :’)
Very nice video again👌 Stay awesome dude
Thanks for the support! Stay awesome too!
@@CKSPACE :) Your videos were the final deciding factor in becoming a minimalist, I haven't looked back! Thanks man!
Thank you so much! This helps me in a personal level 💛
early congrats on 50k subs! you deserve it and way more! thanks for the video, it’s great as always
Thanks a ton Noah! Will continue to work more meaningful videos!
really good topic to talk about! this affects me very much when in am at my parents...
If overwhelmed with other peoples' clutter, I find it helpful to ask myself, 'why do I want a tidy, ordered, uncluttered home?' The answer is always 'to have inner calm and peace of mind.' Note that it is INNER calm. One day after getting really stressed and depressed about clutter, I just said 'I choose the inner calm regardless of the external circumstances. I don't need them to change in order for my mood to change'. It's been difficult but I find the more I do this, the easier it becomes. Being obsessed with tidiness and order can be just as bad as being a clutterbug.
'Minimalism starts with you, not your surroundings.' That is so true, and that is why this is the best video so far I have found on this topic. A true minimalist should be able to peacefully co-exist, if he has to, with an extreme hoarder, because minimalism is a Stoic philosophy about one's own inner being, not the kind of house one lives in. I have long since given up, for example, getting my wife to change her clutter habits which were driving me mad. I simply say to myself 'yes there is clutter, but it does not affect me or define me' and try to retain a sense of inner calm. I realise also that my 'ideal' home where everything is perfectly in order and to my own taste cannot co-exist with other people; if I want that I have to live alone in 'splendid isolation' which comes with its own problems as well.
Love your thoughts! Watching from the Philippines...
i love your content bro. honestly love it
exactly what I needed. thank you ck!
Glad I could help!
Such a good video. Loved it.
Omg this really hit home for me because I still live w my parents. But I REALLY want to become a minimalist. And it seems almost impossible to become one because whenever I tried to get rid of clothes my parents say that I’m wasting money or perfectly good clothes even tho I wear 20% of my closet. I want to get rid of things but it’s hard bc they’re always like “we paid good money for that” and I’m like 😑 this entire dresser is EMPTY. But I wanna get rid of stuff and completely redesign my room into a minimalistic space but it’s HARD to declutter living w maximalists XD but I’m always understanding and I’m excited for the prospect of making my room minimalist XD anyways thank you for this video ! You’re so underrated !
Great video. I struggle with this kind of situation a lot lately. My issue is mostly having to clean a more maximist space. I live with my girlfriend and while I don't mind doing my share of the cleaning, sometimes it irks me having to move 13 separate items just to dust off the top of the TV stand. Quite a few spots in the home are that way. It almost feels like I simplified my life, but can't live a simplified life because I have to live in someone else's complexity.
I absolutely love watching Never Too Small too.
love your videos!
you’re channel is growing so much , proud of you 💕😌
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My husband is a natural minimalist... And my mom is open with minimalism.. and i am learning and starting.. so we are good to go 💓
I always enjoy your videos and find them very helpful and relaxing.
Thank you very much!
Your videos are always so helpful
I'm glad that you addressed the objective of minimalism! I kind of have a low opinion of people who take this as a trend without having a clear purpose or because they are merely trying to justify their lack of belongings.
Thanks for the info. It's helpful.
Great! Thanks for your sharing.
My pleasure!
Very timely
I have always loved 'Never Too Small' .. such amazing spaces!
Oh I love never to small - channel too !!!!
I'm one of your Indian follower and really love watching your minimalism videos. I'm trying to incorporate tiny minimalism changes each day. All thanks to you.
All the best!