How Single Muslim Mothers are Treated Online
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- How Single Muslim Mothers are Treated Online
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Thank you for defending your sisters in Islam. May Allah bless you
But at the same time, we also should CAUTION our sisters against absorbing the feminist propaganda especially if this toxic ideology has infiltrated some of these popular Muslim women speakers or those who are referred to as"skheikhas" or "ustadhas". Many of these have been indoctrinated by secular universities then they learn Islam, but by then the beliefs gets contaminated with modern feminism ideas that often times run contrary to Islamic practices . When these ideas reach ignorant sisters, this causes them to turn on their husband even if they did not originally had a such a dispute. This was discussed at my masjid years ago. These women can convince wives that their husband is cheating on her not in a romantic since but he is not giving her her due in terms of resources, selling her short, etc. This creates resentment in them and they become ungrateful for the good that he provides (discontentment). The Prophet (bpuh) warned about the dangers of women being discontent with the provisions of the husband(Book 36, Number 6597). Thus, while we should NOT put down divorced Muslim women who are single mothers but we also need to take caution that some of fo these sisters did not divorced with an actual cause ie.domestic violence, infidelity, genuine incompatibility, etc. Not ego or arrogance (' I am better than my husband, more educated, i deserved better because xyz, etc, I want to be happy, comparing marriages to online couples or neighbors, etc).
Too many Muslim men have fallen into the Fresh & Fit nonsense.
its not nonsense, its reality. Men are not respected anymore. Simp fest.
@@alfatir14 1 is too many. I wouldn't say it's a lot of Muslim men, but more the irreligious ones with the occasional deceived 'religious' one.
@@muxishine Most Muslims are less religious unfortunately
& how many women have fallen into the disbelief of feminist ideology that they think is from Islam, anyone who follows and believes in a non-Muslim ideology knowingly is a disbeliever and this red pill kufr backlash is due to women selling out to feminism first, FACTS.
@@alfatir14 what is fresh and fit? never heard of that.
May Allah enable us to find spouses that are righteous and compatible
Amin.
Ameen
أمين
Jazak allahu khairun brother for sticking up for us may Allah reward you
Aamiin
You're minimising a very complex set of issues which doesn't really hit the nail on the head and the presumption of perfection and their experience being a reason to deflect any valid and constructive criticism from them and no personal accountability to potentially having wrecked their homes and made selfish destructive decisions rooted back in many matters, it's better to address the elephant in the room than to ignore it, this just proves how mosques are failing the Muslims in reforming the Muslim community as they deal with issues that are not of the most importance and danger to Muslim community and instead focus on watered down topics that have no true reformative objectives...
@@thecultarchives3440Akhi periods. Do you use them? Secondly what are you even yapping about?
Brothers and sisters in Deen we have to be careful. Perhaps Allaah Al-Hakeem may test us with what we criticize someone else about😮😮😮. Be careful.
O you who have believed, be persistently standing firm in justice, witnesses for Allāh, even if it be against yourselves or parents and relatives. Whether one is rich or poor, Allāh is more worthy of both.1 So follow not [personal] inclination, lest you not be just. And if you distort [your testimony] or refuse [to give it], then indeed Allāh is ever, of what you do, Aware
Is not breaking up your family with selfish actions injustice?
As a divorced, single Father, I understand completely.
Sorry but normally this doesn’t apply to men unless it’s an exception. it’s just not the same for men.
@@MrGizmoalchemist dont undermine this brothers struggles? you have no idea what he may be going through. both genders can have it hard. be emotionally aware
@@Ihtel_y_0 جزاك الله خيراً
@@alfatir14 wa iyaaka !
@Ihtel_y_0 but they domt tho. And u know fully well how women are judged whereas a man is not. Save ur tears for the ones who acctually suffer.
The way certain people speak about single mothers is disgusting, we are Muslim first and foremost, leave your cultures behind when its completely against Islam, like do they realise some of the most beloved women in history, our mothers were single mothers, from the Prophet Muhammad SAW himself an orphan raised till 6 to a single mother, to Abraham leaving Hagar and Ismail in the dessert raised by his mother, to the prophet Muhammads wives our mothers other than Aisha AS all being divorced/widowers, would they have the nerve to speak to them disrespectfully, not to compare women of now to them, but treat people according to their character and how youd like to be treated, women are not just objects of desire for us
MashAllah
Get out of fairytale land. Muslims will always put their culture first.
Bless
Alhamdulillah I was a Single Muslim Mum for over 12 years. I can tell you that us single Muslim mothers work overtime to make sure our kids dont miss out on habing whats really important. Often we DONT have the support of the Muslim community that the single sahabiyaat and single Muslimahs of the past had because many of our communities are fractured and dont run on the basis that it takes a community to raise a child. Unfortunately. We are of course not perfect but I think it lacks wisdom to use this topic to get views and rile up young mens minds to think negatively about women who are single handedly raising the next generation of this ummah.
It’s good especially in this society to have some type of societal shame for single motherhood because it serves as a preventative for divorce. Which in this society women are already incentivized to divorce. The community structure is not capable of supporting the children of single mother households so its best to prevent it as best as possible
@@chef4823 be quite.
@@umm2656 No
Sister we tye same, I'm still single over now 15 years, I have raised my 3 girls without support, and no mam would accept me due to my children, niw my first daughter has finished her university studies, she's 23,and the second one had finished her secondary school education, tye third one is second year of secondary school
@chef4823 oh so you want two unhappy parents raising a child because you believe the child comes out great when the parents are forced to stay together? Lol you men are so weak and pathetic.
Think about the ashaba there isn’t a single record of them talking about divorcees in the same way.Rather they married and protected them.Something these red pill Muslims warn against.These guys do it so they can ensure women never leave abusive marriages like the ones they create and Allah knows best.
In the west alot of the single mothers caused their divorce and are very individualistic and incapable to sacrificing some of their wants to be in a stable relationship for their children. Most cases the women initiated the divorce causing herself to be a single mother
@@chef4823 in the east are the same most initiated by woman. In Malaysia for example duriing covid d-vorce rise 44 percent (96 percent in sabah) all those woman are so ready to jump ship when thing is difficult
@@redemissariumDivorce rates rose during covid all over the world and the main reason was domestic abuse, and we all know it
They married multiple wives.Thats how the single mother problem was solved.Ask todays muslim women,if they agree to polygamy.
@@noonwraith401 Many are ok with it,even if most arent.I know i am.Also that doesnt give an excuse to use and degrade single mothers the two are unrelated.It's making an excuse for people seeing single mothers, actual believing women and more so mothers as one or few time use objects.By all means approach one for marriage, even as a second wife but give her the rights you would give to any other woman,don't keep her as some sort of dirty secret and diminsh her right and needs or leave her alone.
People seem to forget that the prophet Salla Allahu Allayhi wa Sallam married single mothers. We have Ahadieth that describes his care for them and his care for their children as well.
The value of person, as a whole and as his role in society, is determined on the basis of their piety be it man or woman. The pious Muslimah is a treasured woman who is the most joyous of all the blessings Allah bestows upon his servant after the blessing of Islaam en Sunnah as per the Hadith.
There are still many of them everywhere even when the most noticeable women are of those who lost their way.
"Is not the evidence of two women equal to the witness of one man?" They replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her intelligence."
@@TR13400
Yet this deficiency in intelligence is not held against her (she is not sinful or blameworthy), and it is completeness for her since Allah created her in that way.
Mind your own religion, you used to argue about whether women have souls but now you want to complain about us..may Allah guide you and us
@@TR13400No one cares. Buzz off.
That has a specific application Christian @@TR13400
You are ignorant, under islamic law child belong to the father and when married the child of those singlemum will be returned to the father
May Allah make it easy for all brothers and sisters who went or currently going through hardships 🤲 May Allah grant them righteous spouses 🤲
Aameen
Some of the single parents out there worth a hundred "men"
May Allah grant us good character and manners
Aameen
Some of the single parents out there are worth a thousand "women" May Allaah protect us from the evil women and men, Aameen.
Entitlement like this is exactly why man avoid modern singlemom completely
@@redemissariumI’m sure she avoids them too 😂
@@Summertime45356she couldn't that's why she's a single mother 😂
JazakAllah khayran for speaking the truth and reminding the brothers making these comments to think more kindly. There are many reasons women end up as single mothers. They are doing the hardest and most important of jobs - they deserve support and recognition not condemnation.
Alhamdulillah. Finally, a voice of reason in an increasingly disappointing world. Some brothers are clueless about our struggles. They dont like feminism? Same here. But its precisely their ignorance that partly drives some women to take on some feminist ideas. They are partly responsible for the problems they complain about. JazakAllah khair for speaking up for us, brother. Allahumma baarik.
I’m a single mum and don’t take on feminist ideologies. Not sure why Muslim does and for what reason when Islam has been perfected for us. There’s nothing attractive about feminism regardless of how men test women. We know what Islam says about marriage and divorce, so whatever these men claim against single mums are baseless. They just need to be reminded about their Deen and quit following their whims and desires
Taking on feminism is a choice. No one drives you to take on a baatil ideology. If you aren’t forced into an arranged marriage, then the person bears some responsibility for the failure of a marriage . I’m excusing people forced into a marriage . I observed many Muslim immigrant women take on feminist ideology. Feminism has led to the dissolution of the nuclear family.
@@charlesirby1643This comment is talking about the cause not the result.
1. Why do you assume a divorce isn’t the qadar of Allah, but instead the blame of the couple?
2. Feminism in itself is a reaction. Which means anyone who has ever followed it chose to because they pushed by someone or felt some type of way about something.
Is this excuse you will give in front of Allah SWT and said you never have any other option to be given by Allah?
Everything is qadar of Allah but some of this is you choose yourself, the chosen spouse if not arranged marriage, choosing divorce rather than make peace and work it together with the spouse, etc.
Stop blaming everything, even blame Allah SWT naudzubillah. Talk to the trusted men in your family (father/brother) with sound logic and clear head what went wrong and what should be done
This made me teary… Thank you for speaking up for us . ❤
Barakallah feek my brother for supporting us your sisters on deep, much love from Mombasa kenya, i have raised my 2 kids until now tye first havi graduetat in university and the secondary has finished her secondary school
Can I ask why didn’t you remarry? Asking out of curiosity . There are many Muslim men in Mombasa, Kenya. Wouldn’t it have been easier to remarry to avoid struggling as a single mother?
@@charlesirby1643 divorce is a big impact on people's emotional and mental health. I suspect she's not ready yet.
Wow may Allah reward this man for his wala wal bara with women and going out on a limb to set a good example to boys watching him
I am a little confused about the message to the brothers, but I would say the main thing is they shouldn’t backbite, or slander their sisters in Islam. Even if the sister don’t cover they shouldn’t backbite her but they should make dua for her. May Allah forgive all the Muslims those I know and those who I don’t know. Ameen.
I think you are still unaware of the whole story...There is this huge dawah bro who really messed up big time...He proposed a temporary marriage to a single mom to "protect" himself from zina and basically said that since she is a single mum she shouldn't have any desires and that she will be fine with not provided for and will be fine with being kept a secret...BTW this temporary marriage is completely haram.. so yeah
@@jenniferjasmineo5787 huge?
@@CaliphForCaliphate what do you mean?
@@jenniferjasmineo5787why would any woman agree to such an arrangement? If she does she shares the sin.
Well said!
Jazakallah khairan brother ustadh saajid there is alot of brothers on this red pill movement at this stage just hating on women.
They are fake men or even better someone who is physically just male not even a real man. Rude disrespectful and disgusting behaviour and language.
So women have not been at the root cause of a lot of these problems by selling out Islam for feminism, secularism and liberalism, red pill is kufr and feminism is kufr but the first to commit kufr were the women, the elephant in the room has to be addressed not deflected from to appease women as if they have no accountability or constructive criticism to rightly face as well as their fathers and mothers who failed them from the start.
@@thecultarchives3440 I dont see redpill as kufr, it actually neutral. It just like management, sociology etc,
What they dont know is there are a lot of "married" single moms too.
Absolutely
Unfortunately, if these types ever marry, that's what their wives will end up being.
Jazakallah khair for standing up for us single mothers 🙂. I have never encountered more judgmental attitudes than those from some Muslim brothers. May Allah heal their hearts and guide them to change for the better.
JAZAKAllah brother!
100% spot on, subhanallah. Theres a saying in academia: For real people, if something works in theory, but not in practice, it doesn't work. For academics, if it works in theory it always works in practice. Point I am getting at is those who are online constantly and espousing RP, excessive hatred towards single mothers and championing men's rights & SMV nonsense will get a wake up call soon that this is all a niche online virtual-reality, the real world doesn't function like that.
Mashaa Allah brother
I think we're taking losers who are chronically online way too seriously
And rightly so, they're losers and that's the danger, they're spreading ignorance around them and influencing others, especially the young, their kind is quickly multiplying.
Unfortunately these ppl get the most views and get the attention of impressionable boys by which they create more of their kind.
Alhamdulilah, this is such an affirming take.
Jazakallahu khair brother Saajid
Thank you brother for speaking up for single mother out there.
Jazak Allahu Khayrun brother Saajid.
Mashallah
May Allah reward you !
Standing up for the oppressed.
So, you stand up for the man who has to deal with an ex-wife who uses Western court to leave him penniless and fighting every day to see his children, all saying how much of a believing woman she is?
Sisters do this and guys like me won't be silenced.
Don't forget, all of the Prophet pbuh's wives were widows except Aisha.
Off the top of my head, I know at least one was a single mother, and Umm Habiba's late husband went down the wrong path before he died. I won't mention details here out of respect, but nowadays, it could've called it a traumatic experience. If a woman today was in our mother's situation, many people would've viewed her as beneath them.
Marrying multiple women in Islam is not supposed to be about marrying multiple women. It's about protecting the women of the Muslim community. That's clear to see in the life of the Prophet pbuh.
Learn about and reflect on the Seerah.
Keyword widows bro. That's different than the women who red pill talks about. In fact majority of red pill men always make exceptions for windows almost every time and a lot of them refer to them as good women who are in a position of no fault of their own. So he's being deceptive in his commentary.
@@redpillscience1288 Juwayriya bint al-Harith is a divorcee
It doesn't matter the reason why a man marries multiple women. Protecting women is only one reason. The Prophet (SAW) also married for political reasons. What matters above all is if the man does justice by them all.
@shahidabdoullakhanzorovr1564 Yes it does matter. Majority of men think marrying multiple women is for their own sexual desires, yet it's NOT. It's clearly stated in Quran that marrying multiple women is for the sake of taking care of orphans/widows/women who don't have a mahram to take care of them.
@@BG-iz1wv except it doesn't though. Nowhere in the Quran or hadith is stated that a man can only marry widows and divorcees as 2nd, 3rd and 4th wives. As per to the concensus of the scholars, a man can marry upto 4 wives for whatever the reason it may be is as long as he is being just to them. Don't spread misinformation just because a certain part of islam doesn't align with your desires and idealogies.
MashaAllah.. great man may Al mighty grant you jannah yaa rab.
JizakAllahu khair. ❤❤❤
Amen, thank you brother
Barak Allahu feek 👍
This is so beautiful mA-thank you. May Allah reward you for being respectful. Ameen. It’s appreciated.
Well said brother Allaahumma barik
Sauda, Umm Habiba, Umm Salama were all single mothers when the Prophet peace be upon him married them.
What about the Muslim men those women took the kids from?? Ya ackhi this is a bigger topic than you understand
This Women has nothing to do with Single Mothers. Most of them have been married as Virgins,lived long time with the Husband,divorced and then this happened. Again nothing to do with Single Mothers
@@susanneal6063what are you talking about? Of course those are single mothers who use Western Courts to demonize and strip rights of being fathers away from their ex-husbands. These are the majority of single mothers. Not widows or abused women. It's those selfish women covered in f3m1nism that are the focus of the disdain for single mothers. Those women exist and it is important that brothers are not their 2nd victim.
This is also a lie used by abusive men. In the US, no court allows kids to be taken from a parent unless abuse is proven. If the mother is taking the kids away from the men, that means she was able to prove (not aligation) the fact that this man is a danger to the kids. Or sometimes, men do not go to the court because they do not want to pay child support or share their property, then they complain about the women taking the kids away. How about man up and raise your kids? Then our community, out of ignorance blame the woman who is left with kids as the bad one instead of shaming the men in to taking responsibility and raising the kids they left unprotected. This is not fair to the kids and the woman. Of course, there are exceptions.
Literally nobody's forcing them to marry a single mother, but they spend their time bashing them.
Lmao you should see what they say about men who reject single moms.
@@noonwraith401 why do you care about what people say? Men say things too about women who don't accept broke men
But at the end nobody can force you to marry someone you don't like so why waste your time spreading hate on the internet
Also in our culture the men are the ones who propose marriage to women so they can go directly to propose to Virgin and childless women which makes this debate completely unnecessary
@@africandaisy310 tell that to the hijabi influencers.They define polygamy as filth and call muslim men insecure if they dont marry single moms.
@@noonwraith401
They are nothing but the product of western culture they are mostly born and raised in western countries that's why they talk that
you should ignore these specimens and try to follow positive examples
Feminist/ red pill podcasts will only make you see the worse in people they are very toxic
You are myopic and biased. It's easy to find sisters with greater bashing energy than the brothers but instead of recognizing that the Muslim Red Pill is a reaction to the misandry that sisters fill the internet with, you put the responsibility back on men. Trash women exist and pointing them out is a warning for all of the brothers
Thank you brother ❤❤❤❤❤.
Drop the white knight beta garbage, there are much bigger issues to be concerned with
i think he's speaking from an Islamic perspective. Using words like beta isnt really helpful!
@@redalert3727when you fail to acknowledge the damage that sisters are doing in Western Divorce Courts, being called a Beta is the least of his troubles.
@@shonehi546tim9 Of course there's bad women and bad men. But Saajid didnt say anything bad or controversial, and has spoken about feminism before.
@@redalert3727 here he didn't and it needed to be said. A single mother, looking at statistics, has most likely ruined her marriage and has participated in some form of Parental Alienation and is using the Western Courts to extort money from her ex-husband. White knighting for women like that and not stating that this is the driving force behind the Red Pill is negligent at best and propagandist at worst. These women exist and warning young brothers about them is a service to the community. Red Pill is a reactionary awakening to what women have done. It's a harsh truth and the worst part is when you realize that you have been a Captain Simp-a-lot, too. The statistics don't lie.
Thank you so well said
Saajid good on you, well done.
Thanks
بارك الله فيك
Say it louder for the people in the back! Unfortunately i feel a lot of the prejudice stems from culture, a lot of brothers have been brough up surrounded by this mindset. We should hold the parents responsible aswell they need to teach their sons better and not just coddle them!
Not just immigant culture, but also Western culture, the one which allows women (some, not all 🙄) to weaponize divorce and custody laws.
You need to look at divorce statistics and studies that explain properly why it happens. This mindset as you call it is simply acknowledgement of what is happening.
I agree with this sentiment. However, I also agree that single men who have never done it to not feel guilty for the mistakes of failed couples. If you're willing to pick up what someone else no longer cherish out of the goodness of your heart then may Allah s.w.t. bless you. But it's not an obligation, to pick up what others left behind.
Akhi this is something also heavily exists among individual public speakers online. There's more than one Nouman Ali Khan exists. May Allah protect our sisters
Very very well said. Finally a real man in sight.
Wise words. Allah bless you, Man. ❤
This video to me is unbelievable. I gave never been with a Muslim sister in life but and I've been firm on my Deen for over a decade. I just take what's available to me because no one wants to be alone but I've suffered through 20 years if disastrous relationship because a lot of women don't respect God enough that along with me being a practicing Muslim men. To read that there are so many sisters out here that's experiencing this but I gave those same situations my all and they weren't even Muslim is mind boggling. May Allah(SWT) guide us all to good and believing women for good and believing men. Leave the disbelievers amongst themselves or remove the from blocking our paths to union. Aisalaamualaikum brothers and sisters ❤
Thankyou for saying this. You are very brave , because i know you will now have plenty of Muslim influencers tearing you down for saying this.
Well said, brother. Most of these brothers luck maturity and wisdom.
I think a lot of young men are carrying a huge trauma of being disrespected and humiliated by their mothers and sisters for the purpose of suppressing their gheerah and also witnessed the treatment of of their fathers by them as well, acting obviously under the western influence. They are lashing out. May Allah guide the Muslim men and women
Thank you.
You're such a good guy. Mashallah
If we’re talking about THAT couple, then we now know that she lied lol. Typical behaviour.
It is disheartening, I was told a couple of days ago after I turn down for the second times a temporary marriage, that I will not get better because of my age and being a single mom. He proceeded to say that the arrangement will be helpful to my situation referring that I must struggling. Online muslim marriage sites are full of muslim men who want intimacy in halal hookups.
Allah messenger never had a temporary marriage as far as i know. We muslim men should follow his example.
Thank you brother Saajid for defending your sister honor. There are meny muslim brothers who have a platform who dont want to adress this mess.
Is this regards to that Zaid guy? Lol
Compare this gentleman with that kid Ali dawah: no mentioning names, no taking that side or the other, reasonable and well spoken Allah ybarek, when you use CZcams you can’t in no way say I’m doing daawa yet talk like a teenager
Thank you for proving me again that reverts are not only the future but the present of Islam!
As salaamu alaikum wa rahman tu Allahi wa barakatu is there an email or a way I can contact u to ask a question?
1. How does one find out a certain person is a woman, a divorcee, also has a child
2. End of story
💯
As a man, It's not ghaira if you're not absolutely enraged when people talk in that almost dehumanizing manner about Muslim women. I don't care how many comments you typed under Fatima's post telling her to correct her hijab
JazakAllah Kayr for speaking about this.
I already knew there was something wrong. And here, the truth has been revealed. People need to stop giving input when they aren't needed. So quick are people to make a verdict without hearing both sides.
MashAllah
Thank you sir! I’m not a single mom but there are lots of misguided people out there.
Khadijah was a single mother…. To show how far we are from the sunnah
Wasn't she also a business owner, similar to what we call CEO today, yet she was VERY HUMBLE AND SUPPORTIVE? Sadly how many sisters have used their credentials against their husbands "I have PhD, I have a Masters, I am more educated than you are, etc"? This is also far from the Sunnah.
JazakAllahu Khair for what you said"We need to be good Parents" this Toxic People call "other Mens Children". This are the Kids of OUR Ummah. This are Abdullah, and Amatullah from tomorrow and not some Trash which we can be "disgusted" by. We talk about Orphans rights while abusing Muslim Kids from Broken Homes. You dont have to marry single Women but dont dare to disrespect the Smallest of our Ummah only cause they dont have both Mother and Father together. Im a Revert and my Ex Husbands Family looked down upon me cause i grew up with an alcoholic Stepfather and they slandered me only cause i was divorced more then once....Allah repayed them they now have 2 Kids 2x divorced! Always be carefull what you speak about other People
Brother saajid lipham need to step up and marry those strong happy hijabi singlemom. Afterward you will understand why man avoid them 😂
Boys avoid them, actual men don’t. Our Prophet ﷺ amd the sahaba were men.
@@Summertime45356 you cant compare woman at those time with nowaday women.
prophet says: If any woman asks her husband for divorce without some strong reason, the odour of Paradise will be forbidden to her. (Sunan abu dawud)
You wouldnt want such divorcee to be ur wife
@@Summertime45356yeah lets compare mother of believers to todays women.How logical.The prohets wife agreed to polygamy.You guys hate polygamy.hypocrites.
@@noonwraith401do you want me to take you to account for calling me a hypocrite without basis? I ABSOLUTELY DO NOT hate polygamy, it is a sunnah of our Beloved ﷺ. This baseless accusation just goes to show your arguments have no validity
@@Summertime45356 Just ask majority of muslim women if they accept polygamy.And then comeback to me.They will give hundreds of excuses and even compare it to filth.
I know this will trigger many men lol because you have stated some truth about their wrongdoings that they somehow justify. Allah has made many righteous and good women and many righteous and good men on this earth as time goes by that ratio is decreasing on both sides. Iam sure some men who are being triggered may have some bad experiences with women or some may just not have been raised or well educated in how to treat and respect women. What both men and women need to understand and accept is there is absolutely horrendous male and feamle musims and there is also amazing lovely Muslim male and feamales. and we can not continue to treat those lovely ones the way we treat the bad ones and even the bad ones need to be advised and ignored. Many extreme ideologies are becoming more popular among men and women of hating the other gender and quite frankly it's extremely sad. Men and women should not be at war and hating one another and competing to be the better gender ultimately the genders have their place in society and their own roles and cannot be compared but as allah said the reward he will give the believeing men and women will not be gender based it will be due to there efforts and intentions ect. so please my brothers and sister stop the hating and if you must hate then direct it to the right people and do not generalise. May allah put more love and mercy between the genders and protect the good muslims from the oppressive muslims who tarnish the gender roles of each because it's not one sided. and any issue that is directed to one gender is not a proof of that genders evil as a whole but rather a problem that exist within it. hating the other gender due to trauma or bad expirences is understandable but at some point we have to be mature enough to know not all those females or males are the same and they are surely not in their degress of good and bad. submit to understanding the deen how Allah wants us to understand it and how we should treat people not how our hearts and feeling want to treat people because sometimes our traumas and emotions are misplaced and need guidance from quran and sunnah.
jazakallahukhair for the advice you gave to the borthers Sajid lipham and that in no way is a belittling of men because many man would not dare to act the way Sajid has explained. So if you are triggered by his advice then either change the way you behave or adress your emotions that are not allowing you to accept the truth.
How are they wrong doers please explain? If they're calling out single mothers with the exception of widows?
O you who have believed, be persistently standing firm in justice, witnesses for Allāh, even if it be against yourselves or parents and relatives. Whether one is rich or poor, Allāh is more worthy of both.1 So follow not [personal] inclination, lest you not be just. And if you distort [your testimony] or refuse [to give it], then indeed Allāh is ever, of what you do, Aware
Is not breaking up your family with selfish actions injustice?
@@redpillscience1288 single mothers can be single for various reasons many of which are not haram or wrong. to refer to the wrong reasons a mother maybe single is very strange as single mother status by default is not something wrong or bad. "Single mother" does not equal bad ungrateful lowly bad women lol. please stop with your comments your wasting your time with your uneducated and bias perspective.
@@redpillscience1288 You sound like a toxic masculine.
Women can be divorced for many reason which are halal, such as abuse, neglect, mistreatment of any sort, can't produce kids, and so on. If your tiny brain and the tiny brains of the other toxic men can't comprehend that and choose to judge ALL divorced women as "bad". Then YOU guys are the problem. A lot of negativity and judgement can be said about the terrible men out there, yet the mature people understand it's unfair and unjust to generalize and assume that all men are bad. No, there are amazing men out there too just as there are amazing women out there too. There are also divorced men and divorced women who are amazing too who deserve love and a second chance with someone better. And there are some that are terrible. If you don't have the maturity to comprehend that and choose to be a tiny brain who's disrespectful and unjust towards others by assuming the worst in them, then you are transgressing and you will be judged by Allah in due time.
You're minimising a very complex set of issues which doesn't really hit the nail on the head and the presumption of perfection and their experience being a reason to deflect any valid and constructive criticism from them and no personal accountability to potentially having wrecked their homes and made selfish destructive decisions rooted back in many matters, it's better to address the elephant in the room than to ignore it, this just proves how mosques are failing the Muslims in reforming the Muslim community as they deal with issues that are not of the most importance and danger to Muslim community and instead focus on watered down topics that have no true reformative objectives...
@@thecultarchives3440 No, you're missing the point.
Just as there are imperfect Muslim women out there, so are there imperfect Muslim men.
So no one is more blame worthy than the other.
Divorced women are, therefore, not less worthy than divorced men.
Both Muslim men and women should choose wisely who they marry or accept to be married to in order to avoid these avoidable divorces caused by wrong choices.
The Prophet(pbuh) is reported to have said in the following Hadith:
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser.
Sahih al-Bukhari 5090
Please note that this Hadith is also applicable to men and the reasons why women accept to marry them.
BarakAllahu feekum.
May Allah make it easy for our Palestinian brothers and sisters and all those who are suffering around the world
سبحان الله وبحمده وسبحان الله العظيم،عدد خلقه ورضا نفسه وزنة عرشه ومداد كلماته🧡 اللهم صل وسلم وبارك على محمد ﷺ وآل محمد ﷺ💚Glory be to God, praise be to Him, and glory be to God the Great, the number of His creation, the satisfaction of Himself, the weight of His throne, and the ink of His words. O God, bless and bless Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, and the family of Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him.
Well done ✅👍
Be neutral ok but we knew them when they single, if it's their fault why promote bad energy, if they change & humble to be 2nd wife it's better, it's a 2 way street overall. Or as you said it's a preference which is valid too.
Overall Muslims need to leave bida for sunna for unity & build successful structures & individuals to set up sunna of earlier nika.
aIot of the delays in society and calls to sin are by ppl who don't want good for others.
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Alot of the time you're rolling the dice with single mother's and its not worty the risk. Just saying honestly from man's point of view.
Thank you for addressing this disgusting issue. جزاك الله خيرا
Divorces should marry divorcess,virgins for virgins.Its no that hard.
Life is not that linear.
Are you making haram what allah made halal? Are you the god of this universe to dictate rules like this? Fear Allah brother. May Allah guide you.
@@bloxinaron3803 Its called common sense.
@@noonwraith401 we are ruled by Allah’s rules not your “common sense”
Besides virgins already marry virgins and divorcees marry divorcees but we should never shame people who do what Allah has made halal by his wisdom and grace.
@@bloxinaron3803This is the norm.Stop trying to gaslight me.I am not going against Allah.Tell me if you agree with polygamy first?
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To be honest. I dont know what the purpose was of attacking muslim brother that were never married before. You keep on saying things like that previously married muslim woman experienced things that you didn’t. What is the goal here? Is it to let the brothers feel bad? Everyone has their own struggles in life. For one person it may be a divorce and for the other maybe poverty. It seems like playing the game of which problems are bigger and that should not be the goal of this message. To inspire people you can be firm and honest, but in this regard you can better guide by showing the right example or teach what the right behavior should be, thats more beneficial. And a lot of muslim brothers and sisters for that matter are minding their own business.
Show respect to all women, but DO NOT marry civil marriage in Kufr lands or lands that follow kufr laws. If a single mother muslim woman divorces you, you end up paying for children that is not even yours. Also brother are you married yourself? I am married nikkah only 20 years Alhamdulillah in U.K, no divorce here. I am the imam of the household, if my wife wanted to leave i would persuade her not too, but the door is clearly marked.
i can see the benefit though because she would need money to support herself and her kids
@@MH-bf4uu nikkah marriage yes. There is no legistlation in islam for an ex-hisband to provide for children not belonging to him.
@@MH-bf4uu she needs to seek that from the biological father, and follow the Sharia.
@@allykhan8594No where here in the U.S. is a step- parent required by law to pay for a child that's not biologically theirs especially after a divorce, unless you've legally adopted them. So don't spread false fear, trying to keep men from marrying single mothers.
Legally, everywhere, only a biological parent or adopted parent is required to support their child financially.
@@BG-iz1wv U.K you DO!! The world is not u.s.a.
The world has changed a lot, religion is not enough for modern day women. Its either you adapt or end up paying child support.
You really don't get the point.He is talking about baseline respect we should have as a society with each other, which is lacking in this day and age.
Based on your logic, it can be said that religion is not enough for modern day men either. There are a ton of "Muslim" men out there who expect a women to be 100% practicing yet he's out smoking, drinking alcohol, not lowering their gaze and flirting with any women they come across, have no respect for their peers, barely pray, they're hypocritical and so on. Stop the double standards and stop the gender war.
There are terrible men and terrible women out there. But don't forget that we shouldn't judge the good men and good women based on the terrible filth that's out there. Don't just point fingers at women, because there are men who are bad as well.
@@fareehan1 I get the point but he also misses the problem. ITs men that are being attacked not women. Most men know that these single mothers like to freak around bad boys who end up making them pregnant and then left them. Its majorly to put them under criticism due to their consistent cycle of chasing bad boys. And for a fact that is, no man does ever want a women with another mans kids. Face reality or play victim to your fault.
You have to take care of your children regardless, so what are you even talking about?
@@fareehan1 I can't believe he deleted my replied comments. Can careless for these fkn simps. Good luck.
Thank you, brother for being a reasonable voice in all this madness.
Thank you for standing up for us. Yes i have been through so much alhamdulillah and for people to say we are lesser somehow is heart breaking.
Question: do you stand up for men, who have been defamed, extorted, had the crime of Parental Alienation committed against them, and left in financial ruin via the Western Family Court System by women?
The reason that this video is nothing but pandering is because he completely ignored this reality!
I used to be a single mother and it's just ridiculous how some of these men talk life isn't black and white. Now I've remarried to a brother who's never been married before it just happened tjat way. Marriage is rizk it's not a fairy tale it's work. Everyone brings in their baggage into the marriage wether you've been married before or not everyone has baggage! The men and women need to grow up 1nd stop seeing marriage as a product it really isn't it's more than that. May Allah guide us all Ameen
You are the exception.Childless men dont prefer single moms.
@@noonwraith401 I'm not the exception, yes there are many men who prefer childless men and I don't judge them and I don't care everyone should choose what's best for them, but there are childless men who don't care and I've come across them and I've come across men who do have children and have the audacity to judge single mums when they're single dads. Stop judging people let me tell you now marriage is rizq I remarried at the age of 34 with a 14 year old duaghter, I know many other women who have had similar things happen to them and they interestingly enough remarried men who have never been married beofe but I guess they're all exception to the rule. It's qadae and it's rizq and allah is generous
@@Onajourney519 It is exception.Its mostly desperate men that go for single moms if he is single childless.Single mom should marry single dads.Virgins for virgins.And no single chidlless men or women dont carry the same baggage as a single parent.
@@noonwraith401 my husband is far from desperate Allah gave me a very good man he's a Madina graduate has a job and takes care of his mum. I prayed for an upright man and Allah gave it to me. Stop passing judgements on people
@@noonwraith401 let me further my husband had the choice of women who've never been married before he just didn't find what he's looking for, he found it in me.
May Allah bless u brother
And some of us did not have a choice, we aren’t all just feminists leaving our husbands to be spiteful.
The statistics are against you. More likely that a single mother left a good man than he was abusive. So, warning younger brothers about women like this is a public good.
Brother, consider trimming the beard.
why brother?
@@kakarote100 it will just be neater. It’s actually distracting. But it’s okay
@@fredflinstone6601 he is already neater to Allah SWT already as he is. And that's all that matters. He is not trying to please society.
Great message, this is from a Muslim brother.
We should be sensitive to Muslim women who are divorced.
Ask questions if you are going to marry one 100%, but just do it in a sensitive way.
And May Allah make us better Muslims.
Where I live there are alot of practising Muslims, but similarly alot of muslims that don't take the religion seriously, and we can't have strong unity if we don't share strong faith first.
Kick out islam👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Unfortunately, misogyny is not called out enough in the muslim communities
You're going to get called a simp now 😂
Who cares.
By toxic, disgusting, immature men?
That's okay. They have a lot to lose anyways and Allah will judge them in due time.
Thank you for defending them. I know excellent sisters who were abandoned or who left abusive marriages
Finally someone with logical, and not with their twisted misogynistic mindset consistently attacking women, and telling women how to be as if they are women themselves.
I agree with you on this. The way other brothers are acting is the so called Red pilled behavior. I am not sure if this happened to their sisters or their daughters, would they talk the same way? As a widow at 36, this is the behavior that scares me to get into marraige again. It's not easy to find a spouse any way but people make it difficult as well. Sisters in masjids also avoid women like us who are widows or divorced. The few that I talked to about marriage asked me to give my small 2-3 years old kid away to my in laws. My kiddo lost a father and they want her to lose her mother as well. What kind of jahala is this?