My Entitled Daughter Cut Ties with Me for Cheating on Her Mom and Refused to Reconcile Even After...
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- čas přidán 6. 08. 2024
- 00:00 1st story:
My daughter just contacted me after 17 years asking if I want to meet my granddaughter. AITAH for telling her that I don’t care about her or her daughter and to never contact me again? (u/WideCorners in r/AITAH)
05:59 2nd story:
My sister is being abused by my ex-fiancé, but I don't care and won't be helping her (Sudden_Diamond_80 in r/TrueOffMyChest)
12:34 3rd story:
AITAH for getting mad at my wife for having a secret abortion after I told her I didn't want kids? (u/Electrical_Tour3016 in r/AITAH)
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OP cheated but he’s entitled enough to be owed forgiveness for destroying multiple lives.
And he thinks he deserves to show her how much she hurt him lol
Story 3 OP: "I don't want a child. We take 4 precautions just to ensure pregnancy can't happen."
Op's wife: "A pregnancy did happen and you don't want kids so I got rid of it."
OP: "WTF, YOU IDIOT. I SAID I DIDN'T WANT KIDS BUT I'M LEAVING YOU ANYWAY."
Exactly. I feel bad for that woman. She married an idiot and wasted so many years with a selfish ah. No amount of therapy OP does will work for him. He sounds insufferable.
So why did she marry a guy who didn't want to have kids in the first place?
She probably didn't want them at first @vanzy01
I'm confused; they're married, so it wasn't her problem, it was their problem. She should have told him.
A lie of omission is still a lie.
OP didn't deserve all that crap
Their marriage is in serious trouble, and not just because he lost his crap. She didn't tell him, she fixed **their** mistake without asking for his help
@@vincentcleaver1925I wouldn't have divorced her over it... Angry sure, relationship counciling sure cause it should be a mutual thing and all that jazz
I can't stand cheaters with the "things just happened" crap. They wouldn't apply that logic outside of their own circumstances, that's how you know it's bull.
Cheating man describes how he “helped” a coworker in an abusive relationship out of it with his magical support penis, and then ignores the fact that he abused his wife and child emotionally-which, arguably is just as bad as physical violence as wounds of the heart cut deeper than just hitting someone-and the wounds last longer. Some people literally die of a broken heart from grief and sadness after someone cheats on them. I know-two people in my extended family ended their own lives after cheating and divorce happened to them. They couldn’t survive the pain inside. Narcs gonna narc, I guess. Everything is about him and what he wants/needs. He wasn’t supposed to have consequences for his own actions, I guess 😂
Sorry mate, but "magical support penis" is now stuck in my brain XD
“Magical support penis” 🤣🤣
Magical Support Penis had me laughing so hard. Thank you so much for this comment I've had a rough day.
The OP in the second story sounds like she dodged a bullet. Is he serious? "I cheated on you but I'm mad because I'm not getting the reaction I wanted from you. I married your sister but I'm upset because my kids don't like you"
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Story 1: “I was extremely drunk.” A drunk man’s words are a sober man’s thoughts.
I'm pretty sure "I can make that jump" isn't a thought I have sober.
@@MacerXGP okay that was pretty funny.
I remember st1
There was other ways of helping the coworker getting out of that abusive relationship, cheating never is one of them.
He sounded so proud of himself, its almost like he took advantage of the situation. And 17 years later he knows her ex is in prison? People don't go to prison for 17 years on a domestic... so this dude is keeping up with her, but he stopped fighting to keep his daughter in his life after a year?
@@HauntedGalMarsooooh good point. I didn’t even think about that.
3rd story op is insane for making himself the victim
It's the lack of communication that pissed him off he didn't get a choice maybe he would have changed his mind on having a child
@@unbidweevil25 I believe an unhinged person like him would make sense that someone would have taken such actions discreetly because of his reaction which is out of left field with accusations and violence, like how he did then when she told him about the abortion, he is a shitty person overall
@@mohamedemad2051I see who the shitty people are
OP got lied to and left out of a decision about an accidental pregnancy because his partner didn't trust him, but okay, he's the problem
i love how he updated it with "i was drunk" no drunk person would sound like that.
and the daughter i feel so bad for her i bet she feels she has to please her father in order to not abandon her again.
Ops so entitled, the fact he thinks he’s entitled to an apology after HE cheated is so narcissistic.
'Comments tear OP a new one'
Hells yeah
Story 1 yta I heard this one before. Infidelity hurts more than your spouse. At least op called her back.
Honestly when I first heard this story I thought the daughter would call OP telling him she's in the same situation as the woman he had an affair with.
Story #2: John cheated because he _wanted_ to cheat, not because OP didn't "fight for the relationship." Not surprised to see that OP's mother supported this relationship when she's also a cheater. Ironically enough, despite the excuses that he made, John knows damn well that he *downgraded* by getting with the sister.
The update of the first story look like he's lying to convince us he's not the A. He is and a lier.
The guy who doesn't want kids is very narcissistic. It really seems like he puts him self and his feelings above his wifs feelings, he gives mixed reactions, and gets mad no matter what lol
What mixed reaction?! She didn't give him a chance to have a reaction.
The way she handled it, like it was an affair she was hiding, because it was something she was hiding from her husband, is a deep red flag.
This is a trust issue, this is I can't tell my husband because he will think I'm trying to baby trap him, this is I don't trust him not to leave me
It's not how you participate in a partnership
Holy moly OP in thd first story is a monster. Hes the one that destroyed his family, yet hes mad his daughter wouldn't forgive him? So full of himself the swine
1st OP: I CHEATED AND RUINED YOUR FAMILY SO YOU SHOULD APOLOGIZE TO ME
1 Affairs aren't a mistake. 2 He got involved with someone who was in dangerous situation instead of just being a good friend, opportunistic. 3 The commenter is right, he waited all this time for a sad stupid small victory. 4 I'm glad he was able to listen and hope he doesn't mess it up.
S2 Jane was probably up to some competitive sibling crap. What a prize she won😑
St 1 op is the AH YTA you deserve nothing!
S1 Dude justified cheating cuz he "helped" his AP. Dude drank the poison from his APs marriage and saturated his life with it.
In 10 - 15 years....OP might still be able to have kids, but odds are "Clara" wouldn't be able to then... So, I feel like he's thinking solely about himself.
He is a total narcissist, and he IS planning to have kids later and will just ditch Clara.
She lied to him. He didn't want kids, but she did and made an entry in her planning journal, which she should have shared with him long before.
He admired her detailed planning and commitment, he didn't get a fair chance to change his mind based on how she felt. The journal planning was not brought up and I argue that reading it changed his mind, where two perfunctory queries about 'you still sure you don't want to have kids?' didn't.
Good news, hopefully they learned better, but go on, tell people how they should feel about not even being told that they had a potential kid
@@vincentcleaver1925 Please point out the part of my comment that tells people how to feel about being told they have a kid, and I will edit it out for you.
@@vincentcleaver1925 he didn't want kids so she didn't have one and he still finds something to complain about. If she had kept it he would have whined that she got pregnant. But she aborted, which is what she assumed they agreed to since both of them didn't want a baby last time they talked about it, so now he's mad she did the thing it was implied she should do in case she did get pregnant.
I think it's funny that Story 1 OP came back with an update that he called back his daughter to apologize and it's TOTALLY fine, and she didn't even think he needed to apologize for rejecting her attempt at an olive branch. Right. Sure. Dude's still rewriting history as we speak.
Story 2: OP definitely dodged a bullet.
Story 3: OP is ridiculous and irrational. Going back and forth on what he wants and getting mad when wife prioritizs his wants over her own. Clara should have kept the baby, f what he wanted. She should divorce him because he's a garbage husband.
Husband is mad because wife is not sharing what she wants and hide potentially life-aftering events from him. That's a serious breach of trust, even if it is coming from a good heart.
Then you suggesting that she should keep the baby and ditch the guy, while according to the story she did want the exact opposite, is completely ridiculous. You should let go all the hate you have in you, you would be a better person 🙂
@@benoitfranquet3886 Husband acted like a child, and borderline abusive. By his own words he blew up at her even though she did exactly what he wanted and denied herself children. And he’s not oblivious. He knew she wanted kids from the fact she brought it up multiple times. He was too self centered to even give it a thought.
I said she should ditch him because she denied herself the single most important thing in life for his sake. Big mistake that she will regret when she is older. And it certainly looks like it isn’t as clear cut that she’s happy with how things are. She married him hoping he would eventually change his mind, and she cried when she got the abortion.
And gosh it’s so played out and tiring when people slip in nonsensical personal insults. All it does is tell us your arguments have no merit, otherwise you wouldn’t need to try to discredit me by attacking my character.
@@benoitfranquet3886"serious breach of trust" buddy HE SAID HE DOESN'T WANT KIDS and she gave him what she wanted.
why is he upset over that?
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@@benoitfranquet3886I get you, a marriage is 50/50 and a discussion definitely should’ve been had! It’s not f what u want and I’ll do what I want, it’s let’s discuss this as a couple! Idk why people think this is so far fetched. If my partner thought like her I’d feel shitty and not like a good partner
That first story left a bad taste in my mouth
I think what men/ fathers don’t realize is that when they cheat on their wives, they are also cheating on their children. Most times they think they can just leave the spouse behind, and can just continue their relationship with the children as if nothing happened. Cheating wrecks children. A spouse can move on, no DNA, children are connected to the cheating spouse forever, but very often their feelings are collateral.
Story #1: OP is obviously in the wrong for cheating and he deserved to be divorced. At 15, the daughter was plenty old enough to have it informed opinion about her father's adultery, and right to want little to do with him. That's 100% fair. OP got what he deserved, but let's just be real, 17 years is a long time to be alone. It's not unrealitic that OP is just waiting for his life to be over since he doesn't have anything left.
Call them out on there behavior
Im 24 f and I 100% dont want kids or a lover/partner so I can understand op
Op is nta, he cheating and he's the AH for it she had 17 years to contact her stop blaming the teenage phase i m a teenager myself and that has nothing to do with it
Yta
She followed your rules and you left her when she followed your wants
She walked away from him, nta
What does she want
no he walked away by not actually fighting. he shouldn't have fuckin cheated
Op in story 1 is completely ta for cheating, but it's been 17 years, and his daughter said that she came because her mom asked her too. Not excusing his actions, but 17 years is a long ass time him not wanting a relationship with his daughter at this point is understandable. He was definitely a dick move for what he said and not fighting longer.
bro didn't wait a year or even tried just cut contact.
that's show hes didn't care nor wantied to fight for his child and make shit right.
@@HeoBaby24 he did a wait a year, got told she wanted no contact and respected that. Why does everyone here advocate for reaching out after someone has told you they want zero contact? Predatory mindset
@@InTheDemonsWake see why are you trying to make it weird? what we're telling him is to keep the fuckin door open. don't get upset at your CHILD for being upset that you ruined your family and isn't automatically forgiving
@@HeoBaby24 because it's a dangerous notion that needs to stop being perpetuated full stop. If a child asks for zero contact, you need to accept that.
@@InTheDemonsWake yah but that doesn't mean cut them off too. your just showing you never cared or gave a shit bout your kid.
You "only" gave her a year, she's a kid and you showed her she isn't important!
Or you could flip that coin over and reveal a daughter who spent a year showing him she didn't want contact. She initiated, she bears the guilt, child or not. Reddit likes to pretend you're not responsible for a single thing you do until you graduate college
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How many years should the dad have waited on that call or text from his daughter even though she cut all ties from him
actions have consequences. he should've dealt with them and try to make an effort and be in his childs life not cut her off when if didn't fit his time frame.
this isn't some petty teenage argument with they're father.
she has to deal with the life altering shit of her father cheating and giving a bullshit excuse of "helping a coworker"
she has every right to be made and not wanting anything to do with his ass even then she shown shs still want him in his life
Oh hell, she knew how he feels about abo, so she heroically protected him from the bad word?! And the misandrists in comments still think he was a baby and wishy washy?
Either you're OP or the biggest pickme with the way you're defending his ass in the comments lmao 😂
Devil advocate here. Yes, the dad was wrong for the affair, but the wife participated in alienating the daughter from her father out of anger and spite. Understandable. He's entitled to be hurt. He tried to maintain his relationship. She said no. So he left her alone. Probably because of her mom. She waited 17 years to try and reconcile. He's entitled to his feelings as well. A lot of time lost.
The daughter probably just asked what had happened. Should the Mum have lied to the daughter to protect OP? He tried for a year with his child, then felt fully entitled to bounce and not look back. The daughter needed time to heal too, but as a child that stuff changes your character.
OP sounds so selfish; glad he finally extracted his head out his ass.
I strongly disagree. The wife telling the daughter the truth is not alienating her. There was no mention that daughter wanted to maintain a relationship with OP but wife discouraged it. And OP forfeited all right to a relationship with the people he betrayed. He's lucky daughter decided to reconcile at all, and he was once again the bad guy when he didn't immediately accept it. OP is not entitled to feel hurt or like a victim. He was always the sole bad guy in this story, from start to finish, and at no point was he ever a victim.
He alienated himself when he decided to take advantage of the woman in an abusive relationship, abusing his own family in the go. The mother just told what happened. Children have a right to know why the relationship of their parents breaks apart.
Op still doesn't sound like he understands what he did was wrong, even after 17 years.
telling her the truth ain't alienation. because she'll start thinking she was at fault for what happened.
she's 15 not 5 she deserves to know why her parents are getting divorced
He didn’t try to keep a relationship at all. That little effort he put in wasn’t nothing. He let his daughter go but kept up enough with his AP enough to know her ex was in jail yet keeping contact with his daughter was so hard since she would’ve forgive him when he wanted.
Story 2 op is giving too many red flags
how? they got cheated ans decided to move on with life
Story3: nta. Op is damn right. She betrayed his trust and took away his consent. He is her husband and the father of a child. His opinion matters and she shouldn't decide something like that on her own.
he made his op clear multiple times he doesn't want kid's.
she put his opinion first and abort the thing he didn't want.
he has no right to be upset now that she did it when he made it clear he never wanted it.
he's the ahole
especially when he made sure she wouldn't get pregnant.
He didn't want to have kids so what the heck is he mad about?
@@vanzy01 seriously he kept going on and on about not wanting kids. Yet is upset when his wife respect her husband's wishes?
OP is a bit of an idiot because his wife did a massive sacrifice for HIM. Sure, he can get mad that she didn't tell him, but not really to this extent.
That being said, I do not know what his stance in abortion is, and I do not know what are his reasons for not wanting kids.
You guys are just misandrist redditors. How hard is to listen to the video? Op said it. It was a massive breach of trust and he loves her so much that he would have raised the kid rather than her having the procedure. She went behind his back. Have you never been in a relationship?
Both are the ah.
Cheaters are unforgivable.
But children who cut off their parents are also unforgivable. Yes, 15 is old enough to be held responsible.
no just no. the daughter didn't cheat and ruined her whole family. instead of op making an effort to reconcile he cuts her off because she isn't automatically going to forgive her for CHEATING ON HER MOTHER.
the daughter doesn't owe him shit but he should grateful she still wants a relationship with him.
you can't cheat and expect your kids to be okay with it.
op the ahole the but the daughter isn't.
"children who cut of parents is unforgivable" no she needed time and space from him to process and he decided for her.
Sounds like someone's a cheater him/herself.