pleaase don't take this the wrong way, bc in written form i always get in trouble haha.. but said very lovingly: aren't you scared sharing such a personal journey for the whole world, when you can't know the outcome or even WANT to keep it private? i'm not an influencer so i don't know how people decide what to share and not, but does it not sometimes scare you? 💕
I’m a very open person, I have no problem sharing these things. In fact, it makes me feel super good sharing, that’s enjoyable to me. It all depends on how your personality is I guess ! No worries, your question is super kind 💚
I love watching you two on video! I have had 3 kids naturally and had my third when I was 42. You are definitely at a good age for kids. I heard and tried this, but prop your hips up right after on a pillow or two and lay in that position for 30 minutes or so. I wish you much happiness in your motherhood journey!
Omg I’m the type of person who doesn’t want kids and am terrified to have kids, but I absolutely adore you two and I’m so intrested by this, I’m so happy your so open about it, and I love being able to see how you guys feel about it.
I love how open you are both being about having children. These public conversations give people who feel isolated in their journey a connection. Have you considered employing a doula to support you through this process? They can advocate for you and the choice you have made to have a natural birth. You may even be able to find one who is European and working in Korea. This might help to bridge any cultural gaps you feel in a sensitive way. ❤
Giving birth under good conditions (meaning your not in any danger or you need a c section) is the best thing to experience in my opinion. After two kids i kind of wanting to experience ut again, its terrifying and so beautiful at the same time. And i gave never felt atringer and more powerful in my entire life.
Sissel I just want to say that you really inspire me. I am a very nervous girl but every video of yours relaxes me. Also, I am a serious person, but when I see you chilling I become more playful. And I really deeply love people and life like you. In addition to feeling understood, I am less embarrassed to show others who I am, as you do, is so cute. I love the changes you make in me, I feel like I created a little relationship with you,
My favourite couple. Sissel is so beautiful in and out, Jake is handsome and so supportive. I always look forward to your uploads. God bless you big!!!
I wasn’t afraid to give birth at all. I guess I just thought it’s part of the process and millions of women around the world have done it and I can do it too. 😂 It was painful but honestly the second the baby comes out the pain is gone. You are holding this little miracle in your arms and the pain is forgotten. I was 27 when I had my first and 31 and 33 with my other two. ❤
I had a natural unmedicated birth in a birth center (not hospital). I didn’t do any coached pushing and only pushed when my body wanted to. I’m a smallish woman, my baby came out almost 10lb and I didn’t tear at all! I would highly recommend finding a facility that you feel comfortable in, it makes a huge difference for sure.
Great seeing both of you!! I totally understand your point about hospitals and women believing in their own bodies, I'm a nursing student and over the years they taught us different ways of giving birth. Here in Spain mothers choose more and more to give birth in water. There are some hospitals specialised in that technique, worth giving it a read if you're interested! Sending lots of hugs and love from here!💚💚💚
It so lovely that you share the process with us. Knowing that in a few years I will be in the same place🤗. It feels like a safe place where we can all share and helps eachother out.
you guys talking about having more than one child was so interesting to me, i never thought of it that way about having a sibling as an adult. i was on the fence for having more than one, but now that makes more sense!
Yeah! Tbh I didn’t have a good relationship with my sister as a kid, but now I couldn’t live without her. I think it’s soooo powerful the bond there is between siblings 💚
I love that you're feeling comfortable sharing this journey with us! I'm a midwifery student and have been looking into post-graduate practicals in korea- but it's very hard! All the best
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Sissel, you were on my mind a couple days ago and I got randomly excited and happy thinking of you being pregnant. I prayed for you to get pregnant very soon, I just have a very good feeling that God will bless you with a child sooner than later🤗☺️ wishing you and Jake all the best on this journey💛
Good luck in your journey! I love our country and the birth process in the US. We have our husband/ partner with us through the whole birthing process … natural or c-section. My husband was able to cut the babies cord with all 5 of our kids. Plus, we keep our babies with us since the minute they are born until we leave the hospital. Bonding is important!
It sounds so dystopian to choose not to see your child during your birth! I'm not planning on having kids but if I did that sounds terrifying, there can be so many accidents if you're not conscious!!! My mom had all of us 5 kids naturally through vaginal delivery with no complications so it's definitely possible! She had me, the eldest, at 30 and the youngest at 38!
You are really lucky to be able to trust your body to endure giving birth. Personally, since I have endometriosis and vulvodynia, I would definitely choose c section over natural birth if I ever have a baby. I just don’t trust my body to function normally, since it never really has. Best of luck to you on your journey 💚
All the best on your journey, Sissel! This is the trick that my OB/GYN told me that got me pregnant within a month after months of trying (of course, it could've just been a coincidence but who knows!)--not to track ovulation or an active week, but just to relax & be intimate with my partner as soon as my period would end, every two days until the next period.
I'm currently 7 months pregnant and the part about Korean birthing practices and how different it is here is something I relate to so much. it is also very scary to me and also I am so terrified of not being respected or listened to because "thats just how we do it here" kind of mindset.
I had a baby in Korea just last year! My experience was very different as she was born on the military base. However, I’m really familiar with options there because we were instructed to find a backup hospital to give birth at just in case, and many women in our community elected to have their babies elsewhere because they wanted a more natural approach. Many women recommended Houm birthing center in Seoul. They have everything you could want for a natural birth, as well as the ability to provide medical intervention if that becomes necessary.
I had a water birth in South Korea. The name of the birthing center is GM Cheil Birthing Center. It is in 광명 and cheaper than the birthing centers in 강남. They have an English speaking midwife. I highly recommend it. My birth was all natural without interventions. Baby stayed with me at all times from right after birth until we left the hospital which is not common in Korean hospitals.
Yes!!! I literally just commented about my checkups being at Medi Flower named that in 2014. It is actually Houm now! So wonderful to know many women still love it to this day!
thank you for sharing this journey!! i’m definitely not ready to have kids yet, but you opened my eyes to so many things to consider (in a good way). ive been watching you since high school and now i’m a corporate girly haha. love your content soooo much!!
Why am I giggling by watching the chemistry between you two😩😩🥰🥰 it’s feels so comforting getting to know this part of your life. Good luck!! You’re gonna be amazing parents
I like how you and Jake are so open about this journey and Jake's straightforwardness makes me laugh😆 3 kids...that's a lot of work! I always admire my mom who had twins (me and my older sister) and my younger sister by 2 years; so not a big age gap. I hear from her sometimes about how difficult it was to raise 3 young children at once and, I can imagine we weren't easy kids. I work in education (partly because I like working with kids) and deal with difficult teenagers on a daily basis but I don't think I feel ready for my own children. I just sometimes feel like the mother of all the kids in my school 😂
seeing you two talking so openly about this makes my heart melt...you are such a comfort couple. me and my boyfriend are a lot similar to you and I hope in the future we can have the same lovely life you have, sending lots of love and good luck on this journey
I love how u share your journey to inspire others but also your self and not doing for others. Wishing your all the best and happiness throughout this journey. U AND JAKE CAN DO THIS. FIGHTING 🎉
My kids are growing up trilingual and its worked well for us to have one person speak their mother tongue with the kids and then English as communally ❤
Money is good, but it’s about being mentally ready for a child. I was a teen mom and that was something I needed more than anything. Granted I got lucky, money, a home etc. but being mentally able to switch to being a mother. Was the true challenge
So cute! Thank you for sharing!! Still trying as well 😭 we are “young” the only one of my friend trying. So refreshing to have “young” 20s wanting children. Feels like it’s rare these day. 😅
We found out we were pregnant with our first when we lived in Korea back in 2014. We could not believe how wonderful healthcare is even back then. We did all of our checkups at Medi Flower in Gangnam. Such a great experience, and we loved it.
so, multilingual kids, you've gotta have a LOT of patience, and don't get scare if they don't start talking at the "normal rate", they might not start talking till 3 or 4 years old. and this is completely normal, there is no learning disability there, no autism or whatever. It just takes a bit longer for their brain to process everything.The youtube family where the dad is Korean and the mom is German, and their daughter is named Roa I think, even though they had gone to a specialist that said she would be starting to speak late, many people scared them into thinking their daughter was on the autism spectrum, so much so they took their daughter to an autism specialist and the specialist confirmed what the previous doctor told them that it was just because she was learning 2 languages at the same time. Second language acquisition linguists have documented this well already, they have stats on it. But usually when they do start speaking, their level is usually higher in each language than other kids their age that only speak one language. But in order for that to happen too, each parent really really needs to have the discipline to stick with it and insist that the kid respond in the target language. If you're staying long term in Korea, you won't need to worry too much about the Korean, and English will be easier for them because that's the common language you both speak, so really it's the Danish that you really need to push.
Yess absolutely ! I’ve heard and studied this as well so we are prepared. I actually have bilingual cousins so I grew up seeing my aunt raising her kids with Danish language even though they don’t live in Denmark, so I have someone to learn from with their successes and mistakes. Thanks for taking your time to write all this down for me, I really appreciate it ! 💚
It's shocking to me how many people still think that bilingual kids are disabled/disadvantaged just because it takes them (on average) a while longer to start speaking than their peers 😭😭 like, give that little brain some time to figure it out
Thanks for letting us be a part of your journey. It's such a cozy feeling seeing the two of you and your love and kindness toward each other. I am 33 years old, old for a woman says my doctor ;-) and don't know how to answer the question if I want kids. Happy you two know the answer for you and you're on the same page. Stay as you are, you are awesome together and your kid will have great parents. Greatings to Korea from Germany!
Being in a similar process rn I love your pregnancy journey videos! Also what u said about 25 being a totally normal age to have kids, i totally agree! I'm 22, and my husband and me have just started trying for a baby. I don't talk about it with my friends, bc I know everyone will act as if I'm a teen mom 🥲
Jeez, I’m not a fan of this whole way we approach motherhood these days age wise .. it’s so hurtful to women 😭 but omg good luck with your journey !! That so exciting 🥹💚
Seeing you guys together talking about this journey was beautiful, i can see everything is going to be okay and I'm very thankful you are sharing this with us. The best of luck.
i love these videos so much sissel 🤍🤍 you and jake are a perfect match and will be amazing parents !! thank you for sharing this part of your life with us ☺️ i wanted to ask if you can please do a video on married life? how do you guys split up chores, finances, travels, responsibilities, or boundaries etc ❤ would love to hear about it from your perspective
I think it's been years that I've watched you again, I remembered you were hanging out with your boyfriend in one of your videos. Glad that you guys are going strong, wishing you guys a wonderful journey through getting your baby.
so glad you mentioned confidence regarding financial stability. no one ever is truly ready - anything could happen. ive seen people wait years and then something happens, and suddenly theyve been fired with a baby. there will always be hardships. im 22, pregnant, and my husband doesnt have a high income, but we make it work. id rather have babies now than wait til my 30s which comes with its own problems
I loved this video! You’re so right about being in your twenties as not being too “young.” You both have the capabilities of taking care of a child physically and mentally. Not that there won’t be difficult parts of the journey, but I think you guys will be such sweet parents ❤ Rooting for you!
I see at the 10:30 mark Jake is rubbing your ear, I have never seen anyone else do that before! I am always touching my husbands ear, it might seem weird to others but it's such a sweet gesture!
cute! you guys seem even closer. one thing i wanted to say about the multi-language is that they advise sticking to one as the main language in the first years as this often causes the children to be slow(er) learners, i used to look after a little boy who spoke Italian with his mum, Spanish with his dad and English with me and i noticed that it wasn't helping his understanding and learning at all. also super crazy about the C sections there, i imagine because Korean women are so petit that its a lot harder for them to give birth
That’s definitely something to research! I heard so many contradicting things on this topic .. 💚 and it’s not because they’re more petite, the babies are also smaller, so it’s not an issue at all with that 💚
I can't believe were on this stage now where we are talking about starting a family. I am rooting for you guys, and whatever hurdle you face, I hope you both get through it healthily. 💖
this video was like a warm hug omg thank you so much for sharing this with us ⭐️ i wish you guys all the best, i look forward to the next steps of this journey !!
I'm going to be honest, some time ago when I found your channel I thought you were a little stuck-up person but I kept watching your videos because I like them and you are the opposite. You seem like a really nice, warm person. I'm glad I kept watching your channel. Also with all due respect, Jake's laugh is amazing, is a very sincere laugh. You guys make a really lovely couple, you can see how much he loves you. All the best in this journey.❤
Have you guys considered education regarding your future child? I know it’s a long time ahead, but I can’t help thinking about the Korean school system vs the Danish, and how tough I’ve heard that the Korean school system can be. - Wishing you two the best and the safest, most fantastic pregnancy 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
You seem like such a nice, really great couple. ❤ you seem authentic. Of coruse i dont know you in reality. But you come across honest and in love and secure and respectful to each other. ❤
Do keep in mind that the babies grow up in Korea and will have a lot of Korean input from outside of the home! Danish will be such a small part when they start going to school. It's also good to know about linguistic theory before starting :). I studied multilingualism so I'm passionate about this haha
Hi sissel just discovered your channel. I wish you all the luck in the world in you journey. The universe will come together and grant you and your husband all your wishes. Yes, like you said, there is nothing compared to seeing and touching your baby for the first time. I am a great grandmother wishing you guys all the luck in the world . Blessings from this part of the world.
It's really good to hear your talk about all this. Honestly, I feel like a lot of people in their 20s are frightened of birth. I keep hearing "I don't want to do 'THAT' to my body," when literally the vast majority of female bodies have the mechanisms, muscles, hormones, ancestral and genetic knowledge to build, grow and deliver the baby. You're not doing anything 'to' your body. The body is built for the task of doing it. Your body does it naturally, instinctively. So, I found your thoughts and perspective very refreshing! Since you are a researcher/planner, you probably already know all this, but I'll throw my two cents in anyways about what helped me have a natural birth with my son almost 7 years ago. Feel free to ignore. ☺1. I highly recommend watching a ton of youtube videos and finding birth positive instagram accounts and watching a lot of different kinds of births. This reallly helped me understand what happens in a lot of births 2. FIND A DOULA. No joke this is probably the main thing that will help you and Jake really make a natural birth happen. Seriously, having a 3rd party solely focused on supporting you (bc at a certain point you will be lost to the world and deep in labor land) and supporting Jake was priceless to me. I didn't give birth in Korea, but i know English speaking ones exist there. It is so so so worth the money. 3. BOOKS! Here are the ones that really helped me the most: INA MAY'S GUIDE TO CHILDBIRTH, SPIRITUAL MIDWIFERY (also by Ina May Gaskin), BIRTHING FROM WITHIN by Pam England, and CHILD BIRTH WITHOUT FEAR by Grantly Dick-Read. I read others, but these were the most helpful for me. I would also say if you have access to a class you and Jake can do, definitely take the opportunity. Birth never goes how you expect it, but it is helpful as a part of the mental and emotional process to do stuff together as a couple. We did a class on the Bradley Method and even though we only used a fraction of the tactics taught in the class, it really gave my husband space to begin thinking about what was going to happen to my body, which I think really helped. And it gave him more of the practical info so he was more prepared for the experience of me being in physical pain, which is difficult for a lot of men. 4. Honestly, in the end, breastfeeding ended up being more difficult for me than birthing (and kind of more rewarding, too? maybe?). I think I'll save the breastfeeding advice for a later date, tho! I'll post it on the future video you'll make when you're preparing for your baby to arrive.🤗 Lastly, I'll say this regarding conceiving...It took my husband 15 months to conceive. We were older than you (31-32 years old at the time), but healthy and totally 'fine' and in great shape. I know food is a very personal thing, and there is no magic bullet, but I will say that when I switched away from vegan/vegetarian eating (heavy plant based) I began to feel much better, so much more energy and then a few months later, we conceived. I basically focused on high-quality bone broth, red meat, oily fish, whole milk, TONS of eggs and good cheese and also high quality beef liver (one of the best things for folate--almost nothing is better as far as being nutritionally dense). I think one of the major benefits of switching my diet up was that the nutrition in these foods are super bio-available...I could tell after a while that my body was able to better extract the nutrition from these foods, instead of struggling to get it from fruits and veggies and fighting through all the non-digestible fiber all the time. The nutrition is there in these foods, but plants make it difficult for our bodies to get at. I still ate fruits and veggies, but balanced it more toward the meat, eggs, etc and felt much better for it in the end. (Which was absolutely shocking to me at the time.) This book was super helpful (I still sometimes read through it), and it may be interesting to you, even though you aren't over 30: HOW TO CONCEIVE NATURALLY by Christa Orecchio. I've also heard a lot of good things about IT STARTS WITH THE EGG by Rebecca Fett, but have never read that one myself. Anyway, thanks for allowing me my little soap-box (or rather my humbly suggested ideas). Conception, pregnancy, birth, baby feeding, motherhood, parenting, all these things are so personal. And you and Jake will make your own way. But I love that you are gathering a bunch of ideas and ways and stories and then make an informed (rather than fear-based or ignorance-based) decision about what you will try. Good luck and I am loving following your journey! PS: my last little thing is that for normal pregnancies, midwifery care (even in a hospital setting) is usually best. If you can find a midwife there, or a natural birthing center, it is totally worth it! But I'm not sure what the availability of this is in Korea, so didn't want to make a big thing about it.
This is SOOOOO helpful ! Thank you truly for taking your time to write this for me, I’m so thankful and honored. What a beautiful journey you’ve been on, I’m so glad you’re sharing it! I’ve actually switched from mostly white meat and vegetarian diet to eating more red meat now and my energy??? Wow, I feel so energetic haha. Also I’ll definitely be looking into the books you recommended and doing some research on doulas here. Again, thank you so much. It makes me happy to learn from women who’s gone through this beautiful experience 💚
You two are such a cute couple to look up to and I really/we really (I just talk for all of us now) appreciate your both openness about this journey. It's so unique and lovely! This kind of topic is mostly kind of tight-spoken and not this warm, cozy, natural vibe. So thank you! A big hug from Germany and all the best - looking forward to your guy's next video!
Thank you for sharing! My wife and I are an international couple as well…she is Mexican with Portuguese ancestry and I am Vietnamese. We had challenges getting pregnant but we didn’t stress about when we were first married then of course when we least expected it my wife got pregnant. Then a few years after our first child we wanted a second child but had difficulty and we were tested and really nothing came out of that so we kind of stopped stressing about it and figured that we were fine with one child then of course we got pregnant again. We have seen this happen with friends and family. Pregnancy happens when you stop stressing about it.
Hey Sissel, I wondered about what you and Jake planned on doing for your child's education . Do you plan on putting them in a korean school ? or international maybe ? Ive heard the korean school system is very hard and mentally chalenging..
Definitely not Korean school, we both strongly agree on that. So international it is, at least while we are here in Korea. For Denmark we don’t really know, it depends on their language abilities. If they lack in Danish we’ll get them into a Danish school I suppose - but again we haven’t really thought about that step 💚
@sissel I had my first daughter Hope aged 24, that was 27 years ago this summer, she was born by c section a very difficult pregnancy and she was born very early hence her beautiful name, i went on to have 3 more children ,2 boys and another girl all born by c sections all planned bar one emergency one where my other daughter decided to come 7 weeks early in the middle of the night but again I was awake, the boys were both also born early. My children are aged now between 20 and 27 and the recovery from c sections is not easy( cant imagine choosing to have one for absolutely no reason!), in my case I had no choice as I had very difficult pregnancies. But despite my babies being early i still expressed breast milk( which was given to them via a tube into their tummys), I still spent as much time with them bonding with them and they all grew thankfully into fantastic , wonderful healthy adults. Everyones pregnancy and birth experience is different ( and you have a wonderfully refreshing attitude about this hence why i love following you), i had my first two children in the UK and the other two in Ireland where my Husband and I have lived for many years and europeans no doubt have very different birth experiences to some Asian countries ,( we dont have the post birth centres you seem to have, which after baby number 1,2, 3 and definitely 4 would have been heavenly!!). ❤❤
Actually, since not many people are so open to talk about this topic, it feels refreshing, in some way educational and open minded. Like seeing how people around my age think about it, what worries you have and how you see it and what are you experiencing. Because pregnancy and having family is not something just temporary, its for a whole life. So I am glad you are sharing you journey wit us. It can give some perception into what may (in distant future) await me and it can help me maybe to change my perspective and to know what to expect, because as I can see know it doesn't happen always in like a matter of one night. I like how you both talked about it from both POV
I am now just 60y old.(young) When I was 21y I got married and I became pregnant at 23y. It was totally normal in those days i.e. beginning of the 80’s. All of my friends got married after being together for about 3 years. Then when you were about 2 years married you started to work on a baby. So I became a mom at 24y. In the beginning years of our relationship I didn’t think about babies at all and we even did not talk about it. Then after the 2 years of marriage, I suddenly got the baby feeling and wanted a baby so badly. We agreed on it directly and I got pregnant within 3 months. Being a young mommy was totally fantastic!! Then, about the tearing during giving birth….In my country the doctors do an episiotomy when they see that there is a possibility of tearing. Tearing can go the wrong way. When they cut it will be done at the safest place so that no essential parts are getting damaged. About being afraid for giving birth and experiencing a lot of pain.. I wasn’t afraid at all and did not focus on the stories of friends who already became a mommy. Every body is different and every person too! We all experience things in our own way. f.e. the pain that I feel and can’t coop with, can be not bad at all for you. So I suggest that you don’t worry and just wait and see. Everything will be ok! And most importantly….one minute after you gave birth, you already forgot the pain because you have the most precious gift of your life! 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡
Wow I never knew we are almost the same age! That makes me feel even more connected to you haha i really enjoy following your journey and i am sure later when i will try to have a child your videos will help me 😊
Is Jakes love language physical touch? He is so sweet and affectionate the way he reaches for you. Its so lovely and refreshing to hear your thoughts as you share this journey
My 3 sisters and me were all born at home in the presence of 1-2 midwives (friends of my mother, then becoming our godmothers), with the youngest being born in the water. ☺️ If I ever get kids, I think I would try home-birthing as well. Probably a sacred experience. Sweet to see you're on a similar track with naturalness.💚
Hey Sissel, I’m following u for years and the funny thing is u started ur pregnancy journey at the same time as me 😊 I feel it’s kinda difficult nowadays to get pregnant or at least get an successful pregnancy. I feel like the topic around pregnancy involves so much thoughts and plannings and worries. Really I always thought for example how did my parents just have kids so Easily without pressure or stress 😅😅😂😂😂😂 I wish u goood look on your journey, lots of cute babies and a happy life!!
Hi, Sissel and Happy Sunday!😊😊😊😊😊😎☀💙💙💙💙💙💙🇺🇸🌷🇰🇷💚💚💚💚💚💚🎇🎇🎇🎇🎇🎇👍. This is so cool! You two are the best of the best with good vibes and a great city with a large shield that protect you. And I like it. So, it's a miracle that your baby is coming real soon and I'm so excited! AHHH!😍😍😍😍😍😍🎇. Good luck, Sissel! And I'll be praying for you and the baby.😀😙💙💙💙💙💙💙🙏🇺🇸🌷🇰🇷💚💚💚💚💚💚😊🎇🎉👍
I always enjoy your videos ❤ This series has been super helpful to me and my husband as well since we will also have our baby in Korea (maybe not for a few years though)~ Sending love to you both 🥰
me personally and please dont get it wrong as @Yeodoongiiie said do not take it the wrong way. i think mid 20's is a right time to get pregnant and i'm saying this by experience when i think of my mom, she had me when she was 26 and i think that age or 24-30 in particular is a great time to get pregnant, not saying yall should i'm saying those are great ages.
I’m usually not one to share my personal opinions but just a suggestion for thought. In terms of how many kids to have, sibling birth order is actually something that drastically affects kids’ mental health and parents often don’t consider this. I think it’s great that Jake shared his experience as an only child because statistically only-children are the #2 birth order type to feel the effects mentally on their sibling situation if that makes sense. However, the #1 birth order that is at risk of experiencing lifelong mental impacts is a middle child of three specifically (something to do with more than three kids and the impact isn’t as heavy). Just food for thought as mental health issues continue to increase for younger generations in today’s society 💗
25 is very young in my country! i personally don't believe the supposed prime age because I know multiple people who had kids above 30 and had many healthy children (as in above 3+). Almost all of the people I know, which is a lot cuz I'm quite socual lol, have at least one sibling. But also it's quite different because my country is poorer so at 25 most people don't even live on their own and still live with their parents. And university lasts around like 7 years or more so I will graduate at 25 maybe 26, who knows
Wholesome QA video :) Long message to read incoming: Like Jake said... it comes naturally to think, want and ponder on starting a family 30+ 🌻 I am 31 y/o this year and almost 2 years into very steady relationship in London (not where my family is based, that's Norway and China haha) and some weeks ago for first time my best friend from uni days popped the how many kids inside a Uber after few rinks and meal to next designation during a double date while visiting and HAHA it was the first time my partner honestly said without a beat 2-3! I AM LIKE 2 MAXXXX!! (we talked about wanting to have own family one day on our first date when the topic came up). We are happy with our life currently and he is 1 year younger than me (29) and we will discuss to move together maybe perhaps next year, as now I am happy and need to sort out my career situation and myself + savings. Although my female friend is 3 years younger than me but we are both concerned about biological clock and financial stability long-term (but like Jake said it is about confidence and comfortability) and all that, but nothing need to be perfect, it is all about joy and responsibility, however, hard to not think and compare to others/society/cultural demands and norms not to mention fees and lifestyle change/adjustment. Also none of my friends besides 1 have a child and they don't live in London/UK but Norway so I think that is a factor too in terms of timeline and well, I would like to move to more outskirts in the future haha, but cannot give up all the todo's yet haha 🌳🌳🌳🌳 I don't want to rush and try to think about getting OOOOOLLLLD as a women but it is hard and I am sure a lot of people relate to this with or without steady romantic partner and uncertainty and all... but I know it is all about being comfortable and on same wavelength with partner and sharing the end goal dream not just getting pregnant together but life joys and sadness and it is so lovely to see you have that Sissel with Jake - you are the only CZcamsr I follow that vlogs with talking and show your face openly! :) lol I reflected as I typed! Long message but best of wishes, happiness and positivity in this journey and process💚 🎀🎀🎀🎀🎀🎀🎀🎀🎀🎀🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼 Kind regards, Lucy
pleaase don't take this the wrong way, bc in written form i always get in trouble haha.. but said very lovingly: aren't you scared sharing such a personal journey for the whole world, when you can't know the outcome or even WANT to keep it private? i'm not an influencer so i don't know how people decide what to share and not, but does it not sometimes scare you? 💕
I’m a very open person, I have no problem sharing these things. In fact, it makes me feel super good sharing, that’s enjoyable to me. It all depends on how your personality is I guess ! No worries, your question is super kind 💚
I totally agree with your comments
@@sisselab THANK YOU FOR being so open and vulnerable, and hopefully your journey will help others! Hope nothing but the best and happiness!
I love watching you two on video! I have had 3 kids naturally and had my third when I was 42. You are definitely at a good age for kids. I heard and tried this, but prop your hips up right after on a pillow or two and lay in that position for 30 minutes or so. I wish you much happiness in your motherhood journey!
@@cynthias4159 I had my daughter age 46 naturally.
Omg I’m the type of person who doesn’t want kids and am terrified to have kids, but I absolutely adore you two and I’m so intrested by this, I’m so happy your so open about it, and I love being able to see how you guys feel about it.
I love how open you are both being about having children. These public conversations give people who feel isolated in their journey a connection. Have you considered employing a doula to support you through this process? They can advocate for you and the choice you have made to have a natural birth. You may even be able to find one who is European and working in Korea. This might help to bridge any cultural gaps you feel in a sensitive way. ❤
I’ll 100% look into getting a doula ! I wonder if there are any here hmm.. 💚💚
Giving birth under good conditions (meaning your not in any danger or you need a c section) is the best thing to experience in my opinion. After two kids i kind of wanting to experience ut again, its terrifying and so beautiful at the same time. And i gave never felt atringer and more powerful in my entire life.
That’s so beautiful … I absolutely love that 💚
Sissel I just want to say that you really inspire me. I am a very nervous girl but every video of yours relaxes me. Also, I am a serious person, but when I see you chilling I become more playful. And I really deeply love people and life like you. In addition to feeling understood, I am less embarrassed to show others who I am, as you do, is so cute. I love the changes you make in me, I feel like I created a little relationship with you,
You’re so sweet love 😭 life is such a playground, I don’t know who told us it’s a serious thing but they’re definitely wrong 💚💚💚
off topic....does anyone besides me love Jakes's laugh. He could be a voice-over for a Disney movie. Lol
Hahahahahaa 🤣💚
I had the same thought !!
I thought the same!!!
My favourite couple. Sissel is so beautiful in and out, Jake is handsome and so supportive. I always look forward to your uploads. God bless you big!!!
You’re making me blush🥹 thank you love 💚
Over the years, you’ve become one of my favourite CZcamsrs 💚
You’re too sweet 😭💚 I’m honored !!!
I wasn’t afraid to give birth at all. I guess I just thought it’s part of the process and millions of women around the world have done it and I can do it too. 😂 It was painful but honestly the second the baby comes out the pain is gone. You are holding this little miracle in your arms and the pain is forgotten. I was 27 when I had my first and 31 and 33 with my other two. ❤
That’s so beautiful 💚🥹
I had a natural unmedicated birth in a birth center (not hospital). I didn’t do any coached pushing and only pushed when my body wanted to. I’m a smallish woman, my baby came out almost 10lb and I didn’t tear at all! I would highly recommend finding a facility that you feel comfortable in, it makes a huge difference for sure.
That sounds sooooo beautiful ! I found some natural birthing centers too here! Whenever we get pregnant we’ll go and visit them 💚
Great seeing both of you!! I totally understand your point about hospitals and women believing in their own bodies, I'm a nursing student and over the years they taught us different ways of giving birth. Here in Spain mothers choose more and more to give birth in water. There are some hospitals specialised in that technique, worth giving it a read if you're interested!
Sending lots of hugs and love from here!💚💚💚
I’m definitely interested in water birth ! I haven’t heard about it here in Korea though, that might be worth researching ! 💚 thank you so much!
So cute! Wishing you two the best in this journey ✨💫🎀
omg you’re everywhere natalie hahaha 💓
It so lovely that you share the process with us. Knowing that in a few years I will be in the same place🤗. It feels like a safe place where we can all share and helps eachother out.
100% ! That’s so exciting love 💚
I love how open both of you are in this journey, it’s so refreshing and such a beautiful process ❤️
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you guys talking about having more than one child was so interesting to me, i never thought of it that way about having a sibling as an adult. i was on the fence for having more than one, but now that makes more sense!
Yeah! Tbh I didn’t have a good relationship with my sister as a kid, but now I couldn’t live without her. I think it’s soooo powerful the bond there is between siblings 💚
I was trying to get pregnant for a year already, then I watched your first pregnancy video and felt so emotional, guess what: I was already pregnant!
Omg that’s so beautiful 😭 congrats love ! 💚
I love that you're feeling comfortable sharing this journey with us!
I'm a midwifery student and have been looking into post-graduate practicals in korea- but it's very hard!
All the best
Sissel, you were on my mind a couple days ago and I got randomly excited and happy thinking of you being pregnant. I prayed for you to get pregnant very soon, I just have a very good feeling that God will bless you with a child sooner than later🤗☺️ wishing you and Jake all the best on this journey💛
You’re so sweet 😭 thank you so much 💚
Good luck in your journey! I love our country and the birth process in the US. We have our husband/ partner with us through the whole birthing process … natural or c-section. My husband was able to cut the babies cord with all 5 of our kids. Plus, we keep our babies with us since the minute they are born until we leave the hospital. Bonding is important!
We shared the same journey. Found out I was pregnant 2 days ago!!! So scared yeet so happyyyyyy 😢❤❤
Congratulations!❤ Hope you have a smooth pregnancy 😊
🎉 congratulations I hope you have a safe and beautiful pregnancy/, delivery.
Oh my gosh love !!!!!! Congratulations! I’ll be keeping you in my mind 💚💚💚💚
It sounds so dystopian to choose not to see your child during your birth! I'm not planning on having kids but if I did that sounds terrifying, there can be so many accidents if you're not conscious!!! My mom had all of us 5 kids naturally through vaginal delivery with no complications so it's definitely possible! She had me, the eldest, at 30 and the youngest at 38!
I agree with Sissel, 25 years old is the perfect age to have a baby! Do not wait
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You are really lucky to be able to trust your body to endure giving birth. Personally, since I have endometriosis and vulvodynia, I would definitely choose c section over natural birth if I ever have a baby. I just don’t trust my body to function normally, since it never really has. Best of luck to you on your journey 💚
I’m so sorry to hear that …. 💚💚
you two are so wholesome! 💖
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All the best on your journey, Sissel! This is the trick that my OB/GYN told me that got me pregnant within a month after months of trying (of course, it could've just been a coincidence but who knows!)--not to track ovulation or an active week, but just to relax & be intimate with my partner as soon as my period would end, every two days until the next period.
I'm currently 7 months pregnant and the part about Korean birthing practices and how different it is here is something I relate to so much. it is also very scary to me and also I am so terrified of not being respected or listened to because "thats just how we do it here" kind of mindset.
Omg !! Almost time love ! I wish you a peaceful and smooth birth 🥹💚🫶🏼
I had a baby in Korea just last year! My experience was very different as she was born on the military base. However, I’m really familiar with options there because we were instructed to find a backup hospital to give birth at just in case, and many women in our community elected to have their babies elsewhere because they wanted a more natural approach. Many women recommended Houm birthing center in Seoul. They have everything you could want for a natural birth, as well as the ability to provide medical intervention if that becomes necessary.
I just had someone send me Houm! You’ve got no idea how relieved and happy I am reading about this place just knowing this option exists in Korea 😍💚
I had a water birth in South Korea. The name of the birthing center is GM Cheil Birthing Center. It is in 광명 and cheaper than the birthing centers in 강남. They have an English speaking midwife. I highly recommend it. My birth was all natural without interventions. Baby stayed with me at all times from right after birth until we left the hospital which is not common in Korean hospitals.
Yes!!! I literally just commented about my checkups being at Medi Flower named that in 2014. It is actually Houm now! So wonderful to know many women still love it to this day!
thank you for sharing this journey!! i’m definitely not ready to have kids yet, but you opened my eyes to so many things to consider (in a good way). ive been watching you since high school and now i’m a corporate girly haha. love your content soooo much!!
Thank you so much for being here with me for so long !! Congrats on your corporate girly era girl 😍💚
Why am I giggling by watching the chemistry between you two😩😩🥰🥰 it’s feels so comforting getting to know this part of your life. Good luck!! You’re gonna be amazing parents
I’m so glad 🥹💚 thank you love
I like how you and Jake are so open about this journey and Jake's straightforwardness makes me laugh😆 3 kids...that's a lot of work! I always admire my mom who had twins (me and my older sister) and my younger sister by 2 years; so not a big age gap. I hear from her sometimes about how difficult it was to raise 3 young children at once and, I can imagine we weren't easy kids. I work in education (partly because I like working with kids) and deal with difficult teenagers on a daily basis but I don't think I feel ready for my own children. I just sometimes feel like the mother of all the kids in my school 😂
Wow I always thought it sounds like so much work to have twins! It’s beautiful, but whew I hope I can just do it one at a time haha 🤣 💚
seeing you two talking so openly about this makes my heart melt...you are such a comfort couple.
me and my boyfriend are a lot similar to you and I hope in the future we can have the same lovely life you have, sending lots of love and good luck on this journey
Thank you so much 💚🥹
I love how u share your journey to inspire others but also your self and not doing for others. Wishing your all the best and happiness throughout this journey. U AND JAKE CAN DO THIS. FIGHTING 🎉
My kids are growing up trilingual and its worked well for us to have one person speak their mother tongue with the kids and then English as communally ❤
Money is good, but it’s about being mentally ready for a child. I was a teen mom and that was something I needed more than anything. Granted I got lucky, money, a home etc. but being mentally able to switch to being a mother. Was the true challenge
Absolutely ! 💚
So cute! Thank you for sharing!! Still trying as well 😭 we are “young” the only one of my friend trying. So refreshing to have “young” 20s wanting children. Feels like it’s rare these day. 😅
Best of luck ! 💚
Seeing you two happy makes me happy as well. Wish you luck in your process!
Can't wait to see you being parents! Love to see you together and I'm sure you are going to be amazing parents! Wishing you all the best guys!
We found out we were pregnant with our first when we lived in Korea back in 2014. We could not believe how wonderful healthcare is even back then. We did all of our checkups at Medi Flower in Gangnam. Such a great experience, and we loved it.
You two warm my heart❤ Best wishes in this journey! What a fortunate baby that's going to have such mature and loving parents like you😍🥰❤️💖
so, multilingual kids, you've gotta have a LOT of patience, and don't get scare if they don't start talking at the "normal rate", they might not start talking till 3 or 4 years old. and this is completely normal, there is no learning disability there, no autism or whatever. It just takes a bit longer for their brain to process everything.The youtube family where the dad is Korean and the mom is German, and their daughter is named Roa I think, even though they had gone to a specialist that said she would be starting to speak late, many people scared them into thinking their daughter was on the autism spectrum, so much so they took their daughter to an autism specialist and the specialist confirmed what the previous doctor told them that it was just because she was learning 2 languages at the same time. Second language acquisition linguists have documented this well already, they have stats on it. But usually when they do start speaking, their level is usually higher in each language than other kids their age that only speak one language. But in order for that to happen too, each parent really really needs to have the discipline to stick with it and insist that the kid respond in the target language. If you're staying long term in Korea, you won't need to worry too much about the Korean, and English will be easier for them because that's the common language you both speak, so really it's the Danish that you really need to push.
Yess absolutely ! I’ve heard and studied this as well so we are prepared. I actually have bilingual cousins so I grew up seeing my aunt raising her kids with Danish language even though they don’t live in Denmark, so I have someone to learn from with their successes and mistakes. Thanks for taking your time to write all this down for me, I really appreciate it ! 💚
It's shocking to me how many people still think that bilingual kids are disabled/disadvantaged just because it takes them (on average) a while longer to start speaking than their peers 😭😭 like, give that little brain some time to figure it out
Thanks for letting us be a part of your journey. It's such a cozy feeling seeing the two of you and your love and kindness toward each other. I am 33 years old, old for a woman says my doctor ;-) and don't know how to answer the question if I want kids. Happy you two know the answer for you and you're on the same page. Stay as you are, you are awesome together and your kid will have great parents. Greatings to Korea from Germany!
Being in a similar process rn I love your pregnancy journey videos!
Also what u said about 25 being a totally normal age to have kids, i totally agree! I'm 22, and my husband and me have just started trying for a baby. I don't talk about it with my friends, bc I know everyone will act as if I'm a teen mom 🥲
Jeez, I’m not a fan of this whole way we approach motherhood these days age wise .. it’s so hurtful to women 😭 but omg good luck with your journey !! That so exciting 🥹💚
Seeing you guys together talking about this journey was beautiful, i can see everything is going to be okay and I'm very thankful you are sharing this with us. The best of luck.
Thank you for saying that love 💚
i love these videos so much sissel 🤍🤍 you and jake are a perfect match and will be amazing parents !! thank you for sharing this part of your life with us ☺️ i wanted to ask if you can please do a video on married life? how do you guys split up chores, finances, travels, responsibilities, or boundaries etc ❤ would love to hear about it from your perspective
Thank you so much!! And that’s a good idea 🥹💚
You are such a lovely couple. You compliment each other so well. I wish you well in your journey to be parents. You will rock it.
Thank you so much 💚
I think it's been years that I've watched you again, I remembered you were hanging out with your boyfriend in one of your videos. Glad that you guys are going strong, wishing you guys a wonderful journey through getting your baby.
Jake's surprised expression on like.. in korea made me laugh so bad😂
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Sissel, you‘re gonna be great parents. I‘ve been on your channel since the beginning and your relationship with Jake is just goals 🥺💜
Awww thank you so much 💚
If you wait till your financially ready..you'll never be ready. Everyone always wants more. You have them and find ways to provide
so glad you mentioned confidence regarding financial stability. no one ever is truly ready - anything could happen. ive seen people wait years and then something happens, and suddenly theyve been fired with a baby. there will always be hardships. im 22, pregnant, and my husband doesnt have a high income, but we make it work. id rather have babies now than wait til my 30s which comes with its own problems
I loved this video! You’re so right about being in your twenties as not being too “young.” You both have the capabilities of taking care of a child physically and mentally. Not that there won’t be difficult parts of the journey, but I think you guys will be such sweet parents ❤ Rooting for you!
Thank you so much 🥹💚
I see at the 10:30 mark Jake is rubbing your ear, I have never seen anyone else do that before! I am always touching my husbands ear, it might seem weird to others but it's such a sweet gesture!
Yesss haha he always does that, it feels so nice 😍💚
cute! you guys seem even closer. one thing i wanted to say about the multi-language is that they advise sticking to one as the main language in the first years as this often causes the children to be slow(er) learners, i used to look after a little boy who spoke Italian with his mum, Spanish with his dad and English with me and i noticed that it wasn't helping his understanding and learning at all. also super crazy about the C sections there, i imagine because Korean women are so petit that its a lot harder for them to give birth
That’s definitely something to research! I heard so many contradicting things on this topic .. 💚 and it’s not because they’re more petite, the babies are also smaller, so it’s not an issue at all with that 💚
This is such a beautiful series! Thank you for sharing your journey, it’s really helpful and insightful xxxx
Thank you so much! I’m glad 💚
I can't believe were on this stage now where we are talking about starting a family. I am rooting for you guys, and whatever hurdle you face, I hope you both get through it healthily. 💖
Thank you so much 🥹💚
Jake:Beautiful eyes,beautiful nose
Sissel: I want mooree😂(wishing more passion, energy and footwork for both of you😄)
this video was like a warm hug omg thank you so much for sharing this with us ⭐️ i wish you guys all the best, i look forward to the next steps of this journey !!
Thank you so much love ! 🥹💚
I'm going to be honest, some time ago when I found your channel I thought you were a little stuck-up person but I kept watching your videos because I like them and you are the opposite. You seem like a really nice, warm person. I'm glad I kept watching your channel. Also with all due respect, Jake's laugh is amazing, is a very sincere laugh. You guys make a really lovely couple, you can see how much he loves you. All the best in this journey.❤
Ahahaha glad you came around 🤣💚
Hahaha! I'm glad too☺️ Greetings from Puerto Rico 🇵🇷
Love both of your openness and honesty around this topic- wishing you all the best 😊🙏
I'm sending you baby dust! I hope that it won't be long till you're recording an announcement! 🥰
Thank you so much 💚🥹
Have you guys considered education regarding your future child?
I know it’s a long time ahead, but I can’t help thinking about the Korean school system vs the Danish, and how tough I’ve heard that the Korean school system can be.
- Wishing you two the best and the safest, most fantastic pregnancy 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
International schools while in Korea but we haven’t thought to the point of Denmark yet 💚
I appreciate your videos, thanks to you I’ve been less scared about pregnancy and getting pregnant.
I’m so glad 🥹💚
You seem like such a nice, really great couple. ❤ you seem authentic. Of coruse i dont know you in reality. But you come across honest and in love and secure and respectful to each other. ❤
Do keep in mind that the babies grow up in Korea and will have a lot of Korean input from outside of the home! Danish will be such a small part when they start going to school. It's also good to know about linguistic theory before starting :). I studied multilingualism so I'm passionate about this haha
Yesss the Danish will have to be a big part of their lives. Thankfully I’ll spent considerably more time with them than Jake since I work from home 💚
I love how u take the time and answer every single question in the comment❤
Hi sissel just discovered your channel. I wish you all the luck in the world in you journey. The universe will come together and grant you and your husband all your wishes.
Yes, like you said, there is nothing compared to seeing and touching your baby for the first time.
I am a great grandmother wishing you guys all the luck in the world . Blessings from this part of the world.
It's really good to hear your talk about all this. Honestly, I feel like a lot of people in their 20s are frightened of birth. I keep hearing "I don't want to do 'THAT' to my body," when literally the vast majority of female bodies have the mechanisms, muscles, hormones, ancestral and genetic knowledge to build, grow and deliver the baby. You're not doing anything 'to' your body. The body is built for the task of doing it. Your body does it naturally, instinctively. So, I found your thoughts and perspective very refreshing! Since you are a researcher/planner, you probably already know all this, but I'll throw my two cents in anyways about what helped me have a natural birth with my son almost 7 years ago. Feel free to ignore. ☺1. I highly recommend watching a ton of youtube videos and finding birth positive instagram accounts and watching a lot of different kinds of births. This reallly helped me understand what happens in a lot of births 2. FIND A DOULA. No joke this is probably the main thing that will help you and Jake really make a natural birth happen. Seriously, having a 3rd party solely focused on supporting you (bc at a certain point you will be lost to the world and deep in labor land) and supporting Jake was priceless to me. I didn't give birth in Korea, but i know English speaking ones exist there. It is so so so worth the money. 3. BOOKS! Here are the ones that really helped me the most: INA MAY'S GUIDE TO CHILDBIRTH, SPIRITUAL MIDWIFERY (also by Ina May Gaskin), BIRTHING FROM WITHIN by Pam England, and CHILD BIRTH WITHOUT FEAR by Grantly Dick-Read. I read others, but these were the most helpful for me. I would also say if you have access to a class you and Jake can do, definitely take the opportunity. Birth never goes how you expect it, but it is helpful as a part of the mental and emotional process to do stuff together as a couple. We did a class on the Bradley Method and even though we only used a fraction of the tactics taught in the class, it really gave my husband space to begin thinking about what was going to happen to my body, which I think really helped. And it gave him more of the practical info so he was more prepared for the experience of me being in physical pain, which is difficult for a lot of men. 4. Honestly, in the end, breastfeeding ended up being more difficult for me than birthing (and kind of more rewarding, too? maybe?). I think I'll save the breastfeeding advice for a later date, tho! I'll post it on the future video you'll make when you're preparing for your baby to arrive.🤗 Lastly, I'll say this regarding conceiving...It took my husband 15 months to conceive. We were older than you (31-32 years old at the time), but healthy and totally 'fine' and in great shape. I know food is a very personal thing, and there is no magic bullet, but I will say that when I switched away from vegan/vegetarian eating (heavy plant based) I began to feel much better, so much more energy and then a few months later, we conceived. I basically focused on high-quality bone broth, red meat, oily fish, whole milk, TONS of eggs and good cheese and also high quality beef liver (one of the best things for folate--almost nothing is better as far as being nutritionally dense). I think one of the major benefits of switching my diet up was that the nutrition in these foods are super bio-available...I could tell after a while that my body was able to better extract the nutrition from these foods, instead of struggling to get it from fruits and veggies and fighting through all the non-digestible fiber all the time. The nutrition is there in these foods, but plants make it difficult for our bodies to get at. I still ate fruits and veggies, but balanced it more toward the meat, eggs, etc and felt much better for it in the end. (Which was absolutely shocking to me at the time.) This book was super helpful (I still sometimes read through it), and it may be interesting to you, even though you aren't over 30: HOW TO CONCEIVE NATURALLY by Christa Orecchio. I've also heard a lot of good things about IT STARTS WITH THE EGG by Rebecca Fett, but have never read that one myself. Anyway, thanks for allowing me my little soap-box (or rather my humbly suggested ideas). Conception, pregnancy, birth, baby feeding, motherhood, parenting, all these things are so personal. And you and Jake will make your own way. But I love that you are gathering a bunch of ideas and ways and stories and then make an informed (rather than fear-based or ignorance-based) decision about what you will try. Good luck and I am loving following your journey! PS: my last little thing is that for normal pregnancies, midwifery care (even in a hospital setting) is usually best. If you can find a midwife there, or a natural birthing center, it is totally worth it! But I'm not sure what the availability of this is in Korea, so didn't want to make a big thing about it.
This is SOOOOO helpful ! Thank you truly for taking your time to write this for me, I’m so thankful and honored. What a beautiful journey you’ve been on, I’m so glad you’re sharing it! I’ve actually switched from mostly white meat and vegetarian diet to eating more red meat now and my energy??? Wow, I feel so energetic haha. Also I’ll definitely be looking into the books you recommended and doing some research on doulas here. Again, thank you so much. It makes me happy to learn from women who’s gone through this beautiful experience 💚
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I am so happy to see you two happy and in love with each other ❤
So happy and so in love 🥹💚🫶🏼
You two are such a cute couple to look up to and I really/we really (I just talk for all of us now) appreciate your both openness about this journey. It's so unique and lovely! This kind of topic is mostly kind of tight-spoken and not this warm, cozy, natural vibe. So thank you! A big hug from Germany and all the best - looking forward to your guy's next video!
I’m so glad you feel that way love ! 💚
I hope the very best for you throughout this new journey 💚
Thank you so much 💚
Happy to see the positive things that you've shared, hoping & praying you'll get pregnant soon ❤
Thank you so much 💚
I am sure the babies are gonna be beautiful and well loved ❤❤
Thank you for sharing!
My wife and I are an international couple as well…she is Mexican with Portuguese ancestry and I am Vietnamese.
We had challenges getting pregnant but we didn’t stress about when we were first married then of course when we least expected it my wife got pregnant. Then a few years after our first child we wanted a second child but had difficulty and we were tested and really nothing came out of that so we kind of stopped stressing about it and figured that we were fine with one child then of course we got pregnant again.
We have seen this happen with friends and family. Pregnancy happens when you stop stressing about it.
Jake is already getting the father figure. The baby is around soon. God bless ❤
Hey Sissel, I wondered about what you and Jake planned on doing for your child's education . Do you plan on putting them in a korean school ? or international maybe ? Ive heard the korean school system is very hard and mentally chalenging..
Definitely not Korean school, we both strongly agree on that. So international it is, at least while we are here in Korea. For Denmark we don’t really know, it depends on their language abilities. If they lack in Danish we’ll get them into a Danish school I suppose - but again we haven’t really thought about that step 💚
@sissel I had my first daughter Hope aged 24, that was 27 years ago this summer, she was born by c section a very difficult pregnancy and she was born very early hence her beautiful name, i went on to have 3 more children ,2 boys and another girl all born by c sections all planned bar one emergency one where my other daughter decided to come 7 weeks early in the middle of the night but again I was awake, the boys were both also born early. My children are aged now between 20 and 27 and the recovery from c sections is not easy( cant imagine choosing to have one for absolutely no reason!), in my case I had no choice as I had very difficult pregnancies. But despite my babies being early i still expressed breast milk( which was given to them via a tube into their tummys), I still spent as much time with them bonding with them and they all grew thankfully into fantastic , wonderful healthy adults. Everyones pregnancy and birth experience is different ( and you have a wonderfully refreshing attitude about this hence why i love following you), i had my first two children in the UK and the other two in Ireland where my Husband and I have lived for many years and europeans no doubt have very different birth experiences to some Asian countries ,( we dont have the post birth centres you seem to have, which after baby number 1,2, 3 and definitely 4 would have been heavenly!!). ❤❤
Both of you are so beautiful and more in love than ever! ❤ love to see you like this! Good luck and trust the divine timing ✨
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Actually, since not many people are so open to talk about this topic, it feels refreshing, in some way educational and open minded. Like seeing how people around my age think about it, what worries you have and how you see it and what are you experiencing. Because pregnancy and having family is not something just temporary, its for a whole life. So I am glad you are sharing you journey wit us. It can give some perception into what may (in distant future) await me and it can help me maybe to change my perspective and to know what to expect, because as I can see know it doesn't happen always in like a matter of one night. I like how you both talked about it from both POV
I am now just 60y old.(young) When I was 21y I got married and I became pregnant at 23y. It was totally normal in those days i.e. beginning of the 80’s. All of my friends got married after being together for about 3 years. Then when you were about 2 years married you started to work on a baby. So I became a mom at 24y. In the beginning years of our relationship I didn’t think about babies at all and we even did not talk about it. Then after the 2 years of marriage, I suddenly got the baby feeling and wanted a baby so badly. We agreed on it directly and I got pregnant within 3 months. Being a young mommy was totally fantastic!! Then, about the tearing during giving birth….In my country the doctors do an episiotomy when they see that there is a possibility of tearing. Tearing can go the wrong way. When they cut it will be done at the safest place so that no essential parts are getting damaged. About being afraid for giving birth and experiencing a lot of pain.. I wasn’t afraid at all and did not focus on the stories of friends who already became a mommy. Every body is different and every person too! We all experience things in our own way. f.e. the pain that I feel and can’t coop with, can be not bad at all for you. So I suggest that you don’t worry and just wait and see. Everything will be ok! And most importantly….one minute after you gave birth, you already forgot the pain because you have the most precious gift of your life! 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡
What a beautiful story, thank you so much for sharing that with us 🥹💚
Wow I never knew we are almost the same age! That makes me feel even more connected to you haha i really enjoy following your journey and i am sure later when i will try to have a child your videos will help me 😊
Thank you so much 💚
You're so cute together, hoping the best in this journey 💖
As a beautiful mother and handsome father, please spread your superior genes for the advancement of humanity. Perfect couple, indeed!
I am literally enjoying all ur videos & get so excited when ure posting!! 😭👍❤️
I’m so glad 😍💚
This was such a nice Q&A!
You guys are so cute!❤
this made me smile, love u guys!
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Is Jakes love language physical touch? He is so sweet and affectionate the way he reaches for you. Its so lovely and refreshing to hear your thoughts as you share this journey
Haha he definitely wasn’t when we met but I think because mine is he got super physical too and I loooove it 💚
@@sisselab ohhh that makes it even sweeter 🥺 you’ve grown together 🥰
The way your husband is touching your ear is soooo cute 🥰
My 3 sisters and me were all born at home in the presence of 1-2 midwives (friends of my mother, then becoming our godmothers), with the youngest being born in the water. ☺️
If I ever get kids, I think I would try home-birthing as well. Probably a sacred experience.
Sweet to see you're on a similar track with naturalness.💚
That’s sooooo beautiful !! Makes me emotional to think of a birth surrounded by women 🥹💚👼🏻
Hey Sissel, I’m following u for years and the funny thing is u started ur pregnancy journey at the same time as me 😊 I feel it’s kinda difficult nowadays to get pregnant or at least get an successful pregnancy. I feel like the topic around pregnancy involves so much thoughts and plannings and worries. Really I always thought for example how did my parents just have kids so
Easily without pressure or stress 😅😅😂😂😂😂 I wish u goood look on your journey, lots of cute babies and a happy life!!
Hi, Sissel and Happy Sunday!😊😊😊😊😊😎☀💙💙💙💙💙💙🇺🇸🌷🇰🇷💚💚💚💚💚💚🎇🎇🎇🎇🎇🎇👍. This is so cool! You two are the best of the best with good vibes and a great city with a large shield that protect you. And I like it. So, it's a miracle that your baby is coming real soon and I'm so excited! AHHH!😍😍😍😍😍😍🎇. Good luck, Sissel! And I'll be praying for you and the baby.😀😙💙💙💙💙💙💙🙏🇺🇸🌷🇰🇷💚💚💚💚💚💚😊🎇🎉👍
Thank you Justin 💚
@@sisselab You're welcome, Sissel!😊😀😙💙💙💙💙💙💙🇺🇸🌷🇰🇷💚💚💚💚💚💚😊🎇🎇🎇🎇🎇🎇👍. And god bless.💙🍾🌷💚🎇👍
I always enjoy your videos ❤ This series has been super helpful to me and my husband as well since we will also have our baby in Korea (maybe not for a few years though)~ Sending love to you both 🥰
I’m so glad ! That’s so exciting though, best of luck to you two 💚
@@sisselab Thank you so much 💜
me personally and please dont get it wrong as @Yeodoongiiie said do not take it the wrong way. i think mid 20's is a right time to get pregnant and i'm saying this by experience when i think of my mom, she had me when she was 26 and i think that age or 24-30 in particular is a great time to get pregnant, not saying yall should i'm saying those are great ages.
You're giving your kids such a gift by making them trilingual hahaha
We hope so ! I always look to Alexandra Olesen and her sister - fluent in English, Danish and Korean 💚
I’m usually not one to share my personal opinions but just a suggestion for thought. In terms of how many kids to have, sibling birth order is actually something that drastically affects kids’ mental health and parents often don’t consider this. I think it’s great that Jake shared his experience as an only child because statistically only-children are the #2 birth order type to feel the effects mentally on their sibling situation if that makes sense. However, the #1 birth order that is at risk of experiencing lifelong mental impacts is a middle child of three specifically (something to do with more than three kids and the impact isn’t as heavy). Just food for thought as mental health issues continue to increase for younger generations in today’s society 💗
Awww! Such a warm video from the cutest couple)
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I‘m so happy bc of your new video💚
Yayy welcome back! 💚
25 is very young in my country! i personally don't believe the supposed prime age because I know multiple people who had kids above 30 and had many healthy children (as in above 3+). Almost all of the people I know, which is a lot cuz I'm quite socual lol, have at least one sibling. But also it's quite different because my country is poorer so at 25 most people don't even live on their own and still live with their parents. And university lasts around like 7 years or more so I will graduate at 25 maybe 26, who knows
You two are beautiful people & good hearted. A tiger mom is very protective, loving, funny, responsible etc. You are a lucky man Jake...
We are both so lucky to have each other 💚
Wholesome QA video :) Long message to read incoming:
Like Jake said... it comes naturally to think, want and ponder on starting a family 30+ 🌻
I am 31 y/o this year and almost 2 years into very steady relationship in London (not where my family is based, that's Norway and China haha) and some weeks ago for first time my best friend from uni days popped the how many kids inside a Uber after few rinks and meal to next designation during a double date while visiting and HAHA it was the first time my partner honestly said without a beat 2-3! I AM LIKE 2 MAXXXX!! (we talked about wanting to have own family one day on our first date when the topic came up). We are happy with our life currently and he is 1 year younger than me (29) and we will discuss to move together maybe perhaps next year, as now I am happy and need to sort out my career situation and myself + savings. Although my female friend is 3 years younger than me but we are both concerned about biological clock and financial stability long-term (but like Jake said it is about confidence and comfortability) and all that, but nothing need to be perfect, it is all about joy and responsibility, however, hard to not think and compare to others/society/cultural demands and norms not to mention fees and lifestyle change/adjustment.
Also none of my friends besides 1 have a child and they don't live in London/UK but Norway so I think that is a factor too in terms of timeline and well, I would like to move to more outskirts in the future haha, but cannot give up all the todo's yet haha 🌳🌳🌳🌳
I don't want to rush and try to think about getting OOOOOLLLLD as a women but it is hard and I am sure a lot of people relate to this with or without steady romantic partner and uncertainty and all... but I know it is all about being comfortable and on same wavelength with partner and sharing the end goal dream not just getting pregnant together but life joys and sadness and it is so lovely to see you have that Sissel with Jake - you are the only CZcamsr I follow that vlogs with talking and show your face openly! :)
lol I reflected as I typed!
Long message but best of wishes, happiness and positivity in this journey and process💚
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Kind regards,
Lucy
Sissel, jeg er sikker på at I nok skal blive fantastiske forældre, alt held og lykke til graviditeten ☺
Tusind tak💚