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7 Things You Should Never Apologize For
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- čas přidán 16. 08. 2024
- If you struggle with the unhealthy habit of apologizing too much, even for things that shouldn’t be held against you, then it’s time for a change. There are certain things in life that you absolutely should never have to apologize for.
Credits
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Denise Ding & Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Audrey Giovanni
CZcams Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
· Otim, James. “7 Things You Should Never Apologize For.” Retrieved from iamfearlesssou... 22 March 2018
· Zane, Crystal. “10 Things You Should Never Apologize For - Not Now, Not Ever!” Retrieved from www.zanebaker.... 13 September 2019
· Anton, Emil. “15 Things You Should NEVER Apologize For.” Retrieved from www.alux.com/n... 21 October 2018
Did you enjoy this video? What are you apologizing for?
Should you apologize for eating a pizza? Comment below why not.
If it's not yours, yes
NO JUST NO
nope unless it not yours.
No way pizza is like oxygen everyone needs it
NOO!!
7 Things You Shouldn’t Apologize For
1. Being successful because you earned it
2. Spending your own money
3. Saying no when you need to
4. Not prioritizing the drama of others
5. Ending toxic relationships
6. Asking for help
7. Wanting to be happy
Great content as usual, thanks Psych2Go 😊
Seriously agree with you on #2! She would try to control what I bought for my self and if it didn't fit her interest then I would get continuous negative remarks.
💖
You deserve likes, not those comments who ask for.
Thankyou Sarah!
8. Playing video games for hours
Does anyone else say sorry before the person tells you to stop saying that, then you end up saying sorry again after...
All the time.
Yeah..
Yup.. yup..
My mom gets mad at me because of that
I do this all the time.
I ended a friendship with a toxic person and it didn’t make me feel guilty
Edit: he’s too scared to even talk to me now
Good!
I think I'm in a friendship with a toxic person I lied once and I still keep saying sorry and she's still mad at me and when I say sorry she keeps doing "YOU SHOULD BE" or things like "I STOPPED WATCHING MY FAVORITE MOVIE BC OF YOU" and I don't even stop her from watching her fav movie and idk why I'm telling you this but I am
I gave her a chance but she ghosted me, but it's ok it was 2 weeks ago
@@somehumanonline_ bro she needs to take chill pills
@@Luka-qr9kf yea
Other people: “Stop saying sorry so much!”
Me: “Okay, sorry”
*TRUE STORY*
SAME
Every day.
@agglittersparkle aren't u a youtuber
@@georgiajett2109 loll same😂😂
for me its more:
someone: stop apoligizing.
mE: sOr- uGhghhsuhbqbq scREEE-
I apologize for everything I do honestly, let’s see if I relate to this video now
*everything I feel I did wrong
Sorry to hear that
Same
Me too
@@hel2727 Sorru
Sorry, I misspelled sorry.
summary of the video:
1. Being successful because you earned it 1:03
2. Spending your money 1:37
3. Saying no when you need to 2:14
4. Not prioritizing the drama of others 2:49
5. Ending toxic relationships 3:33
6. Asking for help 4:12
7. Wanting to be happy 4:52
You got to it before me 😂
I hate it when people post these comments... just let people watch and dont spoil it... that too much to ask?
Fiergaenger09 GD its just for people who dont have time to watch the whole video/ want a quick summary
Thanks. ❤
Fiergaenger09 GD if you find this happens on a lot of videos maybe it would be best for you to not read the comments until you’ve finished the video.
Some people find these types of summaries helpful.
others - “drop toxic people”
me - how to drop your siblings and family
*-make it look like an accident-*
VerseMaster Oop-
O want to know how to
Strikkie2010 no thanks
Hahaha
"You don't get it, a million sorry's is not equal to one thank you" - Emilia, Re:Zero
YES ANOTHER RE;ZERO FAN-
Person: It’s fine, you don’t have to apologize. You should stop saying sorry so much
Me: oh ok, sorry
Sorry, I can't stop saying sorry aha-
That is literally me all the time
Help I can’t stop IM SORRRYYY 😔
I'm sorry, it's just second nature.
Oh. Sorry!
And what am I supposed to answer?!?! Yeah ok lmao??
"Don't be fearful of reaching out to others and asking for help when needed."
Social anxiety: 👁️👄👁️
Omg me every time! I cannot talk to people I don’t know and sometimes even to people I know 😂😳
Sameee😅😫😪😓😭😢😧😩
Sam G. Yeah lol
Irl:
Anxiety: 💪👁👅👁👌
🙏 🙏
*Social anxiety has entered the chat*
Here’s a mini true story:
I once forgot my jacket at the playground, there was a stack of lost jackets and I looked through them but I couldn’t find my jacket. So I decided to go outside, I opened the door but then realized that when I was going to go outside to get it, the door would close and the doors would lock, so I took a jacket from the lost jackets and placed it there to prevent it from closing. After taking my jacket I said “I’m sorry” to the jacket. I’m weird.
iCereal haha kinda cute ☺️
I talk to things to
@LPS Pawtucket same 😂
@LPS Pawtucket am i a clone of you
LPS Pawtucket
Have you be spying on me or something I still do that and I 10
Canadian: this is our culture apologizing for absolutely everything.
im canadian and i dont actually apologize that much
am i actually a canadian?
IF IM NOT A CANADIAN WHO AM I????
Hello, Sister. My sister never apologizes for anything.
@@wetlink0096 u h -
Y o u r e f r e n c h ?
@@chaiwriter1531 i am kinda french
but its from new brunswick
which is in canada sooooooooooooo
@Peach29 2 hi
1: being successful because you earned it
2: spending your money
3: saying no when you need too
4:not prioritizing the drama of others
5: ending toxic relationships
6:asking for help
7:wanting to be happy
8:(bonus)TERRABLE SPELLING
THANKS
Terrible*
Hehe that's so sweet 😁
marieke r/woosh
Btw I'm serious please stop taking things serious
Kanak Randheer I meant you stop correctting people it is annoying
Accidentally bump a stranger: “I’m sorry”
Stranger bump me: “I’m sorry”
This always happen to me
same 😂
Ok
Usually they bump into us & we say sorry first, no..?
Oof
Acharich Speaks If you don’t understand what the comment meant, just re-read it again until you understand, I had to do that too ;-;
"Don't be fearful of reaching out to others and asking for help when needed."
Me : Okay, *sorry*
Off topic but ur pfp is so cool
me: knocks over a old doll.
also me: sitting there for 3 hours saying sorry and praying that it won't haunt me...
hope you have a wonderful day!:)
Rijul Bhagat Lol my mom had once brought over these creepy wooden dolls (i think they were from China, she likes to travel) and I was *terrified* of them. Thankfully she threw them out after a couple of years
@@PriyaGupta-fc9yf hahahah lol
@Razan Al Barwani same! ahah lol
Lol I can relate,Sometimes if I find something scary and I drop it or accidentally do something to it that I saw in horror stories I say sorry in my mind so much lol
Me: **bumps the table**
Also me: *sorry*
AHAHAHAHAHAHHA
SAME GFSHFHFSBD
Why is this me?
Table: it's ok you're the one who bump into me bc I don't move at all so yeah I forgive you bye
Table be like: it’s fine u already paid for ur mistake. Feel that pain!!!! When hot dishes r u the table: Table: What’s wrong with these ppl they don’t apologise when they’re hurting me when I’m sacrificing myself so they can eat and live but when I don’t mind they apologise??? I will never understand humans. Sorry for my weird sense of non-existent humour
"You don't have to apologize for everything when it's not even you fault"
Me: oh im sorry👁👄👁
be baptised in the holy spirit by praying to Jesus there is only one way to heaven and that is by accepting Jesus Christ into your life. Repent and accept Jesus. No adulterers, fornicators, liars, murderers, idolators will inherit the kingdom of God (Heaven) I love you all brothers and sisters, a wave of anointing is coming please get right with God because he is about to build you up 😊Ask Jesus to give you the spirit of truth (holy spirit)
Lol 😂😂
Aden Edy or don’t and realise what you’d be getting yourself into
😂😂😂
Apologize for slavery.
Why am I apologising for everything? "I'm Canadian"
I apologize for touching someone- (also hello fellow Canadian!)
Then when you do something important and got asked rudely for something that ain't got to do with you,do you say sorry after declining thier rude cry for help?
I'm Canadian too
uh I just said sorry about you being Canadian, *a m I o k a y*
I Don’t Need To Apologise For Anything
**Bumps into my dog**
“Sorry”
My dog:
👁 👄 👁
Holy cow 110 likes most ive gotten-
Alla ! Same :O
😂😂
*bumps into a non living object*
"Sorry"
Holy cow 75 likes-
I did that to an object
I have such a hard time telling people no. I don’t want to seem like a mean person. But I have the hardest time asking for help because I like to figure things out for myself. I don’t want to be annoying or a burden either.
Unfortunately same :/
Same
Same here
Sometimes you have to be mean bc people like taking advantage I’m not saying to be a asshole just if you don’t feel like doing tell them how you really feel we’re all humans if you need help just ask so what if they make fun of you at least you stepped up and ask you did something they’ll probably won’t ever do
Naturally, thats how u think but why do something that YOU dont want or cant do? Doing it cuz u think u'll hurt them is worse. People rather u do something for or with them willingly not forcefully (unless the person abuses and loves to control others which is another reason to say no).
Everyone: “STOP SAYING SORRY!”
Me, an intellectual: “I apologize.”
That’s literally what I just said 😂😂 Great minds think alike.
That or 'My bad'
I should use this if I apologise for anything meaningful because sorry no longer means anything.
I want to apologize
Eunhye XD
I'm curious what other people think about saying "I'm sorry" when someone tells you they're having a problem that you know you can't help with. I have a friend that gets on my case for this because she sees it as accepting responsibility for their problems. And in a way it kind of is? Like shorthand for "I'm sorry that I can't help with that." I've tried "that sucks" but it feels dismissive. And "are you ok?" but as someone that suffers from depression I know the pressure behind that question. "I'm sorry" just feels right to me, anything else feels dismissive of their problem. Sometimes I use "Can I help?" but "I'm sorry" is the first thing I'm compelled to say when I feel like someone is having a problem I can't help with. And I'm just not sure if my friend is right about that being an unhealthy response or not.
Yeah, it’s like how if someone your friend knows died, you would say ‘I’m sorry’. It’s not, ‘I’m sorry, that was my fault’ it’s ‘I’m sorry for your loss’ or ‘I’m sorry you have a problem’. And at the same time, it’s ‘I’m sorry I can’t help you’ or ‘I’m sorry I can’t do anything about it’. It’s expressing your sympathy for them as well.
You're expressing how you feel, not apologising. You feel sorry for not being able to help, but it's not your fault.
5:13 OMG THEIR A REVELUV!! Yasss! Red Velvet makes us HAPPY with their debut song HAPPINESS
I was literally trying to find a comment talking about it kshsksh yesss
XDD YESSS
OMGHDDJJD I KNEW IT WAS SOME TYPE OF RED VELVET SONG
AND LITERALLY THE CHOREOGRAPHY
I know! I found another reveluv! Yes!
"Hey, I'm sorry!"
"Why are you apologizing?"
"I'm not talking to you, I'm talking to myself."
I like this one! Sounds like me when I apologized for all I did to myself months ago.
👏👏👏
Well jeez! I`m Canadian! (doesn`t apply to all)
i’m sorry 😭 hugs to you 🙌💕
unknown human being Canadian doesn’t have anything to do with this....
???
Guy: *bumps into me*
Both of us: “oh sorry”
Guy: “Don’t apologize”
Me: “Oh, sorry”
Sorry for commenting
@@Malak88088 sorry for replying to your comment
Sage Stripe sorry for replying to your comment
aaa a sorry for replying to your comment. :(
@@siennavarg8971 i replied and i am sorry.
Oh wow, little person's cracking some moves right there.
Lol?
Should we laugh?
It's a red velvet's song called "happiness" 😆
@@husnaliyana8393 YESS reveluv
That little person dances better than I do.
The animation is dancing to happiness by red velvet 😭❤️
yesss !
The five most frequent regrets at life's end:
1. I wish I had the courage to live a life that was true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
3. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish I had let myself be happy.
^^ so true
I won’t regret for number 4! I m happy that I m not touch with those because trust me it feels worst to be abused by a narcissist for 13 plus years
And I wish I never had any friends, I was way better off by myself
Thank you for this list. It's the reminder I needed ❤️
Feelings ,schmeelings. They will get you in trouble all day every day :) . Nobody truly cares just keep it to yourself and move on lol
Saying sorry is a force of habit. As I grow more I realize my self worth and that’s finding my happiness.
That last part when you added the dancing part I quickly noticed it was “Happiness” by Red Velvet that it was dancing to, It made me happy to know that you know them too. It’s just the simple stuffs that makes me smile, thank you for the whole video it was really relatable and self discipline to saying sorry less. TY :)
“Is there anyone in your life currently who drains you of your happiness, motivation and self esteem?”
Me looking at a big list of names from people at my school: *yes.*
Hey if it helps, as soon as you graduate, you never have to see those people again. Graduated 5 years ago and I still don’t miss it
Kay Jones thanks those words help. 4 more years
Mac_ Playz101YT you got this 💕
see my best friend ruined my entire self-esteem about singing- Sooo
@@kayjones7301 that’s what i keep telling myself.
"is there anyone in your life who drains you of your happiness and self-esteem?"
Yes. I know him. He's me
Lol same. However you should never let yourself deprive you of happiness. Lacking self esteem is fine but lacking happiness? Hell no!
Lucy Heartfilia hahaaa u got me there 😂
@@-king-6481 XD
It's true tho
same :'3
There was someone. ..an exfriend
“I never apologize. Sorry that’s just the way I am. “ -Homer Simpson.
😂 you got me there
Genius-level xD
Genius level past 100%
200 iq
such inspiring words
5:27 the animation is dancing happiness by red velvet!😍
This was really helpful! My little brother lately has fallen into a mindset where he thinks he needs to say sorry for everything. Maybe showing him this can help calm that down. Thank you, your channel is really helpful and amazing!
Sometimes apologising is better than going through the stress of an argument.
I’m sorry. 😢
@elxhim felt that
The answer to this is to thank other people for their time or whatever they "gave" you. You don't have to start an argument to not portray that you did a mistake
Yes, but not in the long term. People that fell entitled to an apology usually take your apology as weakness, and the arguments won't stop. They will also try to use your apology against you, as in you apologised, therefore you must have been at fault.
@@Flying_Spaghetti_Monster did u read my comment
guy: * *bump me* *
me: sorry
guy: * *walk away* *
me: ʷʰʸ ʷᵒⁿ'ᵗ ʰᵉ ˢᵃʸ ʰᵉ'ˢ ˢᵒʳʳʸ ᵗᵒᵒˀˀˀ
.
.
my brain: IS HE MAD?
+ when you're sensitive and overthinker 🙃
Some people think and feel as if the space they take has to be respected. Like a person walking a straight line and won't care if he bumps into someone else. Some call it rude, angry, aggressive.. or just someone who doesn't give a fack. Sorry is a word to start or end a conversation.
true-
no one:
me: _how did you do the small font text ?_
Bruh literally me
story of my life
I feel you
The happiness dance at the end
i am genuinely concerned that an animation can dance better than me
People: stop saying sorry
Comment: sorry
Meanwhile...
"You know yourself the best"
Me:..but i didn't even know who i am...i didn't knew i had depression..
I Don’t Deserve To Be Sorry For Anything
When all you do is say sorry for everything :/
ARMYYYY
"Stop apologizing so often"
*_"Sorry"_*
Bts
If you say sorry to everything, you are lying most of the time. You can't be sorry for it all! Stop lying.
@@myozbubble 👁️👄👁️
lowkey kinda early, psych to go honestly has helped me so much
Same
Same
Same
Same
Same
You forgot my favorite reason for constantly apologizing.
A crippling fear that every action I do is “bad” and even small mistakes will lead to people hating me, and the only thing that could fix it is constantly apologizing.
Video:Parent hugs and loves kid
Me: *I wish that was me*
Same.
**looks at my brothers getting all the love except me**
Same.
“Hey, you could pour soup in my lap and I’ll probably apologize to you.”
- John Mulaney
sorry bout your carpet man
*-Canadians
Why the hell would I do that
This very tall child is pretty wisdomous.
I will add one more thing.
" When you love someone"
Cause I'm a kpop fan, idols are apologizing for dating someone. They don't need to. Love is not a crime. That toxic people should know that.
This really need to be changed 😥
Yeah
reasonable kpop fan
Yeah but the contract doesn’t allow it depending on the company
Lavender Forest I’m not saying there is but for example JYP doesn’t allow idols to date
Me: **doing nothin**
My toxic fren: *YOURE OUT OF THE GROUP*
Other toxic fren: **swears**
My toxic fren: *nice*
LIKE WHAT DA I DID NOTHIN-
That's cuz they are toxic. They're made that way. No fixing them. And ignore the other person they have no manners. Ppl think jus cuz they anonymous they can say anything on social Media
If you know theyre toxic, thats one step in the roght direction. Identifying the issue is the first step to getting rid of it.
Definition of toxic
My "online friends" in a nutshell
Give them a friendly reminder you don't wanna be in the group anyway
I've somewhat recently came out of a long, toxic relationship. Now I find myself apologizing for not being available, not wanting to listen to friend's problems all the time, and asking for help. Even when I know I'm doing it for the better of myself, I hope I can break these habits I gained over the past few years and go back to being comfortable with prioritizing my happiness first 😊
The only way that number 7 is wrong is when someone’s way of “fun” is by hurting others
Like the example with the video with music. Imagine this is happening at night and you live and apartment, not your own house. Think about your neighbors who may have to work tomorrow or just got baby to sleep! This is really harmful and you should apologize for that.
i don't think hurting others is a way of "fun" :l that's just wrong!
@@cutie-zp2vk Most of the times it's not intentional, but just a side effect of not thinking about the consequences of your actions properly
Agreed.
cutie psychopaths might not feel that way :/
For Canadians like myself,
*don’t apologize to objects for running into them*
Jk, the objects have feelings too
Edit: omg!! Tysm for 1.2k likes!!
Lmaoooooo
The objects should apologise to you for being there lmao
NEVER
I once tripped and said sorry to the floor
Creative Username :3
Agreed. Like take this earlier today I tripped on a box and I said sorry to it
whats that feeling when u win a quiz u didn't even knew anything about but ur friend did a lot of hardwork and study for that quiz and u just start feeling u know that u didn't deserve it and while everyone is praising u, u feel like she was the one who deserved it as she studied more than me for this quiz..
Me: *bumps into classmate*
Classmate: oh sorry
Me: no I’m sorry
Classmate: NO IM SORRY!
Class looking at us:😒😒😑😑
Teacher making us shush: ShHhHhHhHhHh!
Teacher also making class shush:SHHHHHHHHH
whole class and me and classmate: WERE SORRY!!!!!
Teacher:😮😮😵
So true
XD
Me whenever I talk or talk to myslef in school: Teacher: ShHHhhhhHHhhhhHHhhhhHHHHhhhHhHHHhHhhhHhhhhhhHHHhhhhHhHhHh
Me: “excuse me miss, is it okay if I go to the toilet?”
Teacher: “sure but make sure to be quick”
Me: “okay sorry”
Teacher: “wait what”
*i get it because you said sorry because itll be slow-*
😂😂 (i love ur profile pic btw)
Ha.
Armyyyyyyyyy
@@atinyxo4508
bruh
"Don't be fearful in asking for help"
Me: *too shy to ask a question in school*
When the help doesn’t help...
True story on #4.
So between my best friend and I, they are the most outgoing of the two of us. They end up in more relationships and generally have more people going after them. They also have more things going on in their life that they want to share with me. This meant that they kept on calling me to tell me about this, which I didn't mind. Until I got tired of hearing the same things over and over again. Because I don't know how to say no (and they don't know how to take no for an answer) I ended up ignoring their phone calls. And they just kept calling (even at two in the morning sometimes). Then one day they just stopped.
When the time came for me to send them a message (they needed to get back to somebody and that person thought that they were being ignored so they turned to me) my friend ignored all my messages, even though they were important for THEM and not me.
I was going to an emotional rough patch a few days later and ended up sending them a 3-minute-long apology voice note. That they only listened to days after I had sent it and had given a cold response in return. A week later they sent me a message saying that they were done being petty and that we could talk again.
My “best friend” made me feel bad because I got the highest grade in the class and I smiled and then I stopped smiling and then after class she said why did you not celebrate I just glared at her and I didn’t say anything
I could relate to this...it sucks because it's true that the ones closest to you are the ones who REALLY know how to pull you down.
I have a cousin, they sometimes encourages me sometimes but then downgrades me. If I don’t laugh at their jokes I’m “holding” my laughter back. They say they support me and listen to me, so I try to do that too. But then they make me feel bad. If they kill me in a game celebration is allowed but if I kill her celebration is not allowed. If I’m first place they get mad and sometimes end the call because they are mad I won and they didn’t. When we were playing this game, one of the whole group was chosen as a killer we made a promise to tell the other person if one of us was the killer, when I was it. I TOLD HER, and then I accidentally killed her. I told her if she wanted to kill me I would let her but, she became the killer and broke the promise and killed me WITHOUT telling me. I was angry she didn’t tell me she was the killer NOT because she killed me.
They use all the secrets I’ve told them against me to keep me with them or do what they tell me to do. And then they says it’s “just a joke” even tho I tell them to not make such jokes because it makes me rethink my decision and makes me think I shouldn’t have told them.
And I have another cousin who makes me do everything she could’ve done themself. They don’t like it when I JOKE with them but they JOKE all THEY TIME. Funny story: I was working on something upstairs and then farted and it stank, Then that cousin came upstairs and I told them to stay away because I didn’t want them to smell the fart and make fun of me, THEY think the opposite and thinks it’s because I think of them badly and calles me a stupid bi***, like all the time. IF I CALL Them A NAME LIKE THAT They WOULD BE REALLY MAD AND STUFF. When they joke they expect others to NOT be mad, but when we joke THEY BECOME MAD. LIKE CHOOSE ONE “NO JOKE” or “YES JOKES” WE MAKE LITERALLY THE SAME JOKES, IT IS REALLY ALL ABOUT IF ITS me or THEM
And what your “best friend” did was just 🤨
5:14 That’s happiness by red Velvet!! 💕
I was like: this choreo seems oddly familiar and then it hit me when I saw the “la la la” i was like “THATS RED VELVET!”
I thought so too! So happy someone else found it 😂
Yayayyayay💜💜
U a multifan by any chance? I see you're a blink and reveluv! Do u stan any boy groups?
Haha Lol
I just realised that haha
Yess I was so happy
I apologize for everything from closing the door too fast to someone else making a mistake
Your animes are so adorable especially that dancing at end 😍
My dream is to study abroad but my parents didn't let me chase my dreams saying it's too dangerous
Asking for help. Seeking Therapy or taking to someone who cares is a huge show of strength
I feel like sometimes apologies are more saying "I understand" than "I want to be better for you". For example, when you are in a position of authority, and someone asks you to do something, and you can't do it because it is out of your range of control. You acknowledge the person and understand their request, but inform them that you cannot do more and feel bad that you cannot do anything about it.
@Telephassa Rose yea, thats a nice way of summarizing what i said in a sentence.
👍
Almost everyone: Stop saying "Sorry"
Me: s-sorry
😂😂🤣🤣🤣 sorry that made me laugh
Black Thunder394 meeee
This comment section is starting to make the word sorry sound weird
Me: “I apologize?”
@@fal4thought aaaaarmyyyyyyyyyyy
Regarding the toxic friend topic: I have a slightly uncommon situation where my friend isn’t necessarily a toxic person, she’s just inconsiderate. It’s not like she’s mean or anything; she’s really nice and extroverted. I don’t really think she did anything wrong...The issue is, she can be extremely talkative and say some things that come out the wrong way. I’m sure she doesn’t mean it, but I don’t know how to tell her without sounding rude or aggressive. Another problem is that she can’t take a hint. Sometimes I need to take a break from her, but she constantly calls me and texts me everyday, saying things like, “Am I not good enough?”, “I’m sorry I’m such a big screw-up.”, “Do you hate me?/Are you mad at me?” And of course I’m not angry with her in any way, and I tell her this. I usually let her know that I’m out somewhere or just simply can’t talk, but whenever I respond late or don’t see her message, she spams me with these guilt-tripping messages. That’s why I don’t know how to confront her about this. And another thing, she often is rude with my parents or sister if she comes over at any time. She never addresses my parents, or straight up ignores them, and she doesn’t respect my sister’s space sometimes. I honestly don’t know what to do about her, and I sometimes wonder if I’m overreacting. I could really use some advice, especially if you’re in a similar situation. Thanks.
They highlight of this video, is that I literally started hearting my favorite Kpop group Red Velvet song "Happiness". The song literally gives me so much life. Great video!
"Tolerating your own voice in a recording is the best form of acceptance."
-Some random Meme
Why isn't this a proverb
I can't
my voice sounds so crusty and ugly
I've mastered it but still have some difficulty with accepting who I am and my self esteem, my voice is one of the few things I really like about myself
Someone: *bumps into me*
Me: sorry!!
Them: *walks away grumpily*
Me: bruh-
Why’d you say bruh? It was just as much your fault as his so though it might be rude he is in the right by walking away grumpily
@@aharrypotterfan5951 *but he bumped into me*
@@aharrypotterfan5951 I'd say bruh too if some blind dumbass walked into me and storms away angrily.
@@aharrypotterfan5951 if his/her fault was as much as that guy then that guy should apologize too, right?
Lmao that’s exactly what my reaction would be😂
One of the things I would add to the list is "speaking up for yourself" or "speaking your truth."
I did that yesterday and I had to remind myself I did nothing wrong, it's not a crime to say what I feel
It sounds like i say "Sorry" so much cuz, instead of "excuse me" or "Pardon" I just say sorry. It's frustrating when others tell me to stop saying sorry cuz I'm not actually apologizing.
Me: I barely apologize
Also me: *apologizes after someone trips me*
Canadian and proud
I’m not Canadian but I’m a hufflepuff so that’s basically the same thing
ģhØsт
I mean you’re not wrong. Or make it easier here’s this
Gryffindor/Slitherin= American
Ravenclaw/hufflepuff= Canadian
That’s at least how I think of it and I’m sorry if I misspelled anything
Alexis Clayfield Yea Lol also I think you’re good on spelling☺️
ģhØsт
Thank you but that’s only because I use microphone. Also takes me a minute to use it because of my goddamn stutter. Can be really annoying when you can’t even say the word stutter
"Is there anyone in your life who drains you emotionally?"
Me: uh yeah, my fucking parents, and I literally cannot properly get away from either of them, because I live with my mom, and she keeps trying to force me to interact with my father(I'm ashamed to even call him that) while turning around and saying "you have a choice, and you have a voice, you get to decide how much time you spend with your dad" and THEN when I'm trying to make a point against her when she tries to force me to socialize, go somewhere I don't want to etc. she gets all pissy and suddenly "I am your mother, we are going" and I swear, she fucking WONDERS why I no longer like being near her! I mean, I'm kinda toxic and I am aware of that, but nothing pisses me off more than someone who is very obviously toxic and either doesn't realize it, or has such a fat ego that they can't admit it.
@Ginger Racoon I see that you’re frustrated, I’m here if u want to rant more?
Some parents always are just flip flopping their arguments all the time and being hypocritical/toxic in the process.
If you realize that's happening, you can break the cycle one day. They can't control you forever if you don't want to associate with them.
Armyforever 9597 thanks, honestly I'm a bit scared, because my brother is going of to college in a few weeks(in another state no less), and he's the only one in this bullshit family that keeps me sane! I'm absolutely terrible at keeping friendships, especially when I don't see them physically, because of anxiety I have no social skills and often have nothing to talk about, so I just decide not to try in the first place. It scares me that he'll be so far away that we might grow apart and never get to communicate. And hen he does leave, I'll have to deal with both of my parents alone; my mom is gonna get lonely bc I like putting my on mental health first by staying away in my room whenever I can, and my father is going to continue to force me to socialize with people I don't like and have nothing to talk about with, and the thing I hate most about him is that my piece of shut father doesn't see my social anxiety as a "good reason" *not* to socialize and stay at his house all day, the only way I can get out of him dragging me places I don't want to go is by using my Chronic Eudicardia(chronic hives itch no known cause) as a scapegoat. Just last year he wanted to drag me and my brother all over the city(I just wanted to sit on the air mattress I was sleeping on and draw) I asked if we could just go back to his house because I wasn't in the mood and didn't have the emotional energy to do anything else, and I added that the hives on my feet were beginning to burn, and this fucker says-- and I fucking quote "Well, not having the energy to go isn't really a good reason but, since your feet are burning I guess we can go back." And then sighs in disappointment like it's *my* fucking fault!! And what's more, a few days later he was dragging me and my brother to a New Years Eve party thing with his friend Harley(his hairdresser, he's chill so I didn't mind), and me and my brother were making Mac n Cheese using a really good recipe my brother found, I ended up doing a lot of the work(according to my brother) and I asked my father to help clean up and he said "well it's your job to clean up after yourself" and then I replied "well you're gonna eat some of it right? (There's a rule in our family that whoever eats, cleans, so that the work load is kinda balanced)" and replies "well yeah" and STILL refuses to help! Mind you, this took a lot of ingredients, multiple pans, and damn near two hours before we could even get it in the oven, and made one hell of a mess as he doesn't have much counter space. And then, when we get there, this fucker doesn't eat anything at all! The only ones who thanked me and my brother were Harley and his wife, and even they didn't eat any of it! So I was understandably pissed, as that was hours of work, and cleanup from me and my brother, all for nothing. And on the way back, he says "thanks for helping Duncan with the MAC n Cheese (dead name), even though he did most of the work." And me and my brother were in so much shock at the diminishing, sexist, bullshit he just said, but holy shit I had never been so livid, if we weren't in the car, I woulda slapped the shit outta him right then and there. And all that's only in the span of three weeks, there's countless other shit I could talk about, but I'd rather not make this any longer than it has to be. Long story short; both of my parents are toxic, but my damned father is the most disgusting piece of shit I've ever had the displeasure of interacting with, and that coming from a butch who was bullied as a kid for having a broken leg, and being a ginger. God this world is bullshit. But honestly I'm just glad my brother is getting out while he can, he's going to culinary school, and I'll miss him, but I hope he does well. I doubt you'll have read this far, but if you have, thanks for letting me properly rant, it's been a scarily long time since I've been able to do so without hearing "I understand your anger, but you need to let it go"
@@gingerracoon7216 I hope everything gets better for you and one day, you can get out of the house and start you're own life just as you're brother is doing. I thought I had it bad here but what you 're going through is way way worse
I hope you're parents start acknowledging you're hard work and that you all become a happy family again , good luck
Ginger Racoon took a while to read 😂 but don’t worry about that. And no you shouldn’t need to let go of ur anger, the people who told u that are just stupid af and doesn’t know how to help u or they think it’s no biggie. People like to compare pains and they may compare ur pain as nothing big. Which is not true because everyone’s pains is equally big in different ways.
Now about this situation. Well you spoke a lot about ur dad but what about ur mum? It seems that u have more anger toward ur dad than your mum? Am I wrong? Please correct if I’m wrong.
Btw I’m not a psychologist but I know how it feels when you want someone to talk to and I want to be able to help someone even if I can’t get that, you know what I mean right?
Anyways if you want to rant more, I don’t mind, I’ll gladly listen to it(well read it but u get it).
I can see that you clearly didn’t have a good childhood and it was probably traumatising I assume, again correct me if I’m wrong. And your parents being toxic is not helping at all.
You have already been damaged emotionally and mentally when you were younger. And your parents continuing to do so, is obviously not good for your health. You don’t have to tell me but I’m guessing you might be in ur teenage years, I am too, and i just want to ask whether if there’s a reason why they are like that? Perhaps something bad happened to them for them to be like this to you? I know it’s about you, but first I’m trying to understand if perhaps the parents had a reason why they’re being like this towards you and obviously no reasons will be good enough for why they’re treating u like this as you are being affected mentally and emotionally, but I hope you understand what I mean?
And sorry for the longggg paragraph😂
I was wondering whether you are able to leave with ur brother or not? Or is there any friends that are willing to keep you for sleepovers etc? Oh waitttt sorry I’m so stupid 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ I just realised we’re in quarantine so never mind that. Well it’s gonna be really hard...I know this suggestion I’m about to make is gonna sound stupid to you but just hear me out alright?
Have you ever sat down with your parents and actually spoke to them about how you feel and why you feel this and that and that you really don’t want to go out etc, you don’t have to go into details or anything, u can just give the brief of it.
I know it’s a crazy thing to do, but that is one of the simple solutions you can do in this time, otherwise if there wasn’t any quarantining then I would’ve said that you should sleep over at ur friend’s house to get some space away from them and maybe take a walk if u want,to clear ur mind a little. It is proven that if you walk for a certain amount of time(I’m sorry but my memory is crap😅so idk the exact time) it helps lighten ur mood up. I’m not joking about that fact it’s true!
But if you think talking to ur parents is not gonna work at all, and they won’t listen to you then let me know and you can continue to rant as well and I’m still here for you!
Another thing that you never need to say sorry is whennu speak your mind. Do not say sorry for saying what you think of someone or something that they are doing, dont care if they act sad, fake cry or yell at you for being "rude". All you gotta do is tell that person what you are thinking, if they dont respect that then they are the only ones in the wrong.
I have a habit of 'apologizing too much' and even feel guilty whenever I want to make myself a priority (another habit of prioritizing myself last), so this video really resonate with me. So, thank you so much for uploading this. It's really eye-opening.
canadian ppl be like:
*omg I'm so sorry object for tipping you over*
come on guys,1K pls?
Apologize for being white.
Jay Smith um, if you’re trying to find racial justice, just know you are no different from other racist people 🤦🏻♀️
@@jaysmith3448 ?I was stating a joke of how canadian people like to say sorry alot and I'm not trying to be rude,I find it cute actually XD
@@jaysmith3448 and I'm not white actually,I'm black 😅
true
Psych2Go: things you should never apologize for
Canadians: We don’t do that here
*Sorry, we don't do that here.
As I Canadian I can confirm that
I am Canadian myself too :DD
I especially needed this video, I apologized for saying "I'm sorry" on accident because people told me not to because I do it way too much. I'm just too afraid of people getting upset at me or hurting people that I felt like apologizing beforehand would protect me and them from getting hurt
As someone who has been around toxic people my whole life I relate to a lot of this thanks so much you just saved me thousands of dollars of therapy I realized a lot of what I went through isn't my fault thanks so much
Love the skits in the animation, the animator looked like she had fun and I had a lot of fun watching it for sure.
Nice
yes
Title: "7 Things You Should Never Apologize For"
Me: **laughs in Canadian**
Ocarina Kitteh YES
I dont get it :-I
why? Do Canadians always apologize for everything or sth else I dont know?
daisyblouse same im confuzed-
ReeseQuake there's some stereotype that Canadians apologize a lot. Is it true though? Maybe. I say sorry a lot, and I'm Canadian. Once I said sorry to a table because I bumped into it. 😂
Thank you. This was very helpfull. I was apologizing for EVERYTHING like EVERYTHING.
no was my first word and I still believe it is cause I was tired of everyone asking me stuff. it doesn't make you a bad friend if you say no once in a while. you have your own life to live, don't waste it letting others take advantage of your kindness.
“Have you ever wondered why you’re constantly apologizing, even when you’re not wrong?”
It’s called being Canadian
lol but im not canadian
It’s called being an empath raised by narcissists
I grew up in Canada and yes, it’s a Canadian stereotype! I do apologize a lot.
Mari well you’re not wrong....
Someone spils coffee at me
Me- I'm sorry
And you should be sorry.
jk lol
Lol
Someone stabbed me a knife
Me: sorry!
@@lulusart4576 Idk why but I'd do the same
I apologized for something that I didn’t really feel bad about, but she’s so delicate that she thinks that I hate her if it say that I don’t care about it, so I’m taking a break from that person, because it seems like she’s mad at me all the time and she always tells me her problems like I’m her therapist. Don’t get me wrong, she’s my friend and I love her, but it’s just so exhausting to just listen to her talk about her problems and bragging for how skinny she is and how long she stayed up for, and then whenever I do anything she gets mad at me even though another friend did the exact same thing.
It was a 24-year-old college who first told me (27!) that I constantly apologised.
“Hey, in this team you are the one giving the orders, don’t apologise for it!”
I began to watch my self and saw that my most often used word was “entschuldigung”
And get this, even/or especially then when I was right! Even today (56) I still hardly dear to contradict other people, I still feel, I’m not allowed to, have no right, my opinion cant possibly be right, you are stupid, don’t put yourself forward… hear the “parents”? but sometimes at work, or with the builders etc. you have to.
so, I think nr. 8. should be: believe in yourself and your experience to state your opinion without guilt!
Video: stop saying sorry
A person in the comments: "I apologize"
Me: forgive me *FOR I HAVE SINNED*
lololol
xD
🤣
Wow! I am speechless😂
-Punish me daddy I've been naughty-
my mom gets mad at me when I say sorry but when I say “okay” she gets mad, and when I don’t respond she gets even more mad
Oml me having a Asian mom, totally agrees 😂😭💀💜
@@user-if7ib4zu7k WHATEVER YOU DO IT'S ALWAYS WRONG
"Sorry I said okay." "Just don't say it again." "Okay." A conversation
gummy_ fr0gz me: *falls down stairs* mom: OMG (irl name) BE CAREFUL UGH!! 😒 “i’m sorry i’m sorry” don’t say sorry to me! “sorry” stop with the sorrys! i’m sick of this ‘oh i’m sorry i’m sorry’ “okay” like it’s not okay you have to stick up for yourself and stop saying that “okay” *continues saying that i can’t keep saying sorry*
gummy_ fr0gz she would get upset for me saying sorry for saying okay lol
I did have a old friend who was manipulating me quite a lot, after months of it I decided “okay this is enough” but after I did that, she sent all her friends and everyone else after me because she spread fake rumors with everyone else believing them and not hearing my side of the story. She’s still doing it today but I decided to ignore her and everyone else that decided to bring me down. So if anyone’s reading this and is dealing with this then cut them out of your life periodt.
I continuously apologise for so many things. This video helped me a little, but I’m still always saying sorry!
My friend: stop being so nice. Say something mean to me
Me: i’m sorry but I incapable to say anything mean to you
My friend: StOp SaYiNg sOrRy
Me: I apologize
My friend: . . .
Technically its not sorry
Apologize for being white.
@@jaysmith3448 uhm W H A T. first how do you know they are white, and two why should they apologize? it's not their fault they were(possibly) born white just like anyone else. nobody chooses what race they were born so they can't apologize.
Jay Smith racism
The belief that different races possess distinct characteristics, abilities, or qualities, especially so as to distinguish them as inferior or superior to one another.
So basically, you’re being racist, thinking that all white people think slavery is good and that all white people are racist. Besides, you don’t know if they’re white and you can’t choose what you look like.
You’re the racist here. You’re the bad guy now. If you want to stop racism, stop being racist yourself
@Jay Smith ... Hi Jay👋🏻 ... I’m Eurasian ... 1/2 Swedish: 1/2 Chinese . . . I have what’s called porcelain skin ... you can see my veins and I was always told how beautiful my skin was, because it was blemish free . . . I became very self conscious and couldn’t accept all the compliments I would get every day. Sounds like a good problem to have, like “Mo money/ mo problems ...” 😣 ... I’m telling you all this because you seem to be unhappy about something else that doesn’t have to do with the color of one’s skin ... I was given up for adoption and the people who were supposed to get me and knew my heritage beforehand ... decided after seeing me, that they didn’t want me because I wouldn’t look like their natural child. They didn’t say it was because I looked💯% Asian, but I did. I had black hair and dark gray eyes and they were both blonde and blue eyed ... legally they were obligated to take me, but the director of the organization would never force a child on people who obviously didn’t want to be my parents and were showing their bigotry but hid it in saying how it was best for me to go to a different family. I’m grateful I didn’t look like I did at 2 ... blonde hair and almond shaped blue eyes😏 ... My parents told me God had made sure I went to the right family. They were white, but had dark hair and my mom had dark brown eyes ... I’ve got an older brother who was born looking exactly like what that family wanted ... I’ve never looked like anyone but me. I grew up in a town of about 35,000 people ... but no Asians ... I was called ... Casper👻 ... Ricer🍚 ... my “favorite” exotic🥡... by members of my parent’s family, who were careful not to say it in front of my parents ... even when I was very young, I knew some of them didn’t think I belonged. My brother ... never heard anything even close to reminding him, he was adopted. As if we needed to be reminded🙄 ... I have always acted as if it didn’t bother me ... I also pretended I was colorblind ... I was determined not to judge a person by the color of their skin. I know how it feels not to fit in ... even within my family. We’ve come a long way ... but recent events show us just how much farther we have to go ... I hope you don’t dislike me because of my skin. I couldn’t help it ... I even remember that they didn’t make cosmetics light enough to match my skin ... not a problem for a man, but what if I had acne, I wouldn’t have been able to cover it ... I still hate to have my picture taken ... I don’t ever look like the others and I cringe at the thought of everyone walking around with a camera in their hands🙅🏻♀️ ... I can’t imagine what horror that would’ve been. I’m sorry I went on ... I’ve had this bottled up for over 50 years ... I wish you all the best and I pray you will live long enough to experience racial equality . . .I wish I could say I will too, but I just don’t know anymore. You have your whole life ahead of you and you can be a part of the change ... your children will live in a different world... I truly believe that. God bless you Jay🙏🏻 ... Lisa💝 ~ TPWK ~ That means Treat People With Kindness ... @Harry_Styles . . .
5:14 He's dancing to Red velvet's hapiness, that's sooo cute and a good detail 😂💗
5:12 really threw the lemon and started dancing 🤣 I love this channel
Thank you so much , your video always remind me that there’s still people that want to support us ( like for real )
the moral of the story: don’t say sorry unless you actually mean it
agreed
But sometimes we do feel we mean it coz we think we have done something wrong
Yeah right
Lynnette Mashiri of your convicted you have done something wrong or not doing something
Sorry, i’ll stop saying sorry.
Wait, i’m sorry for saying sorry again.
*help*
Person: forgets to tie shoes
Me: trips
Also me: omg I'm so sorry
This doesn’t really need a sorry lmao
It’s not even your fault so “sorry” is an invalid word here
@@disrespecc9678 yeah it's the point
lmfao
*trips*
OMYGOSH IM SORRY
That’s so me, too!
How could you possibly trip because of someone else's untied shoes
5:14 that person dancing to red velvet happiness is such a mood
1. Being successful because you earned it
2. Spending _your_ money
3. Saying "no" when you need to
4. Not prioritizing the drama of other people
5. Ending toxic relationship
6. Asking for help
7. Wanting to be happy
*You're welcome*
When she said "It can be difficult to accept that sometimes the people we love, are not good for us." I burst into tears.
Guy: *bumps into me and I fall on the floor*
Me: sorry
Guy: no, I’m sorry.
Me: sorry it’s ok sorry.
Mind: why am I saying sorry? Sorry for wasting your time?
Yeah good point
If someone crashes into my table.
Them: Sorry
Me: No, I'm sorry, I shouldn't have put my table here. It's my fault
Aren't I a darn idiot?
Benjamin Mansfield alright
In order tbh i appologize for everything specially my disabilities;my feelings;my nationality;my sexuality;my not wanting in order to date ever again or get married or have kids;my beliefs;;my health issues;my meltdowns;;tons of stuff….in order tbh I’m always totally ashamed of myself…at times I can’t accept who I really am….in order tbh I hate myself….
I ended a toxic friend with my friend since grade 4 since he rat my phone out and even tho I didn't use it, now he's a better friend it's now a two way friendship :)