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I used to feel like my husband and I were "unequally yoked". In other words, I felt spiritually superior to him. I wanted him to lead, but I had no concept of submission. I felt like he had to be good enough first, then I would be willing to submit. As it turns out, most of what I thought I knew about scripture was wrong. I grew up in an unbiblical church. God opened my eyes to all of that and over the last few years, we've been studying the Bible and growing together in our God-given roles.
Same! ❤️
I feel this so much. Thank you for sharing
Same!
Don't give up ladies
This. My behavior says a lot to my family and once I started behaving biblically, they soon followed.
This is 💯 on point! After giving my heart to Christ I went through something very similar as my husband became so angry that I was changing so much as I grew in Christ. I started standing my ground in love and refusing to participate in ungodly things and I started to show him even more love when he would say mean awful things. As I set a Christ like example in my home and turned to prayer and studying Gods word and meditating on it day and night I started to see a big change in my marriage. God is truly faithful and tho my husband isn’t serving Christ yet he is very very close and even went to church with me to see me get baptized and now respects my prayer time as I kneel every night at my bedside and my husband has even now started asking questions about the Bible and I finally had an opportunity to open my Bible and show him how to read it ( he didn’t know what the books and chapters and verses worked in reading it. He’s brand new to this and I can see The Holy Spirit directing him and softening his heart). I don’t do anything except let Gods light shine brightly from within me and pray diligently for both my husband and my daughters salvation. Both of whom are showing signs of God working in their hearts. God is so Good!✝️🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
ALL glory to God! Thank you for sharing!
I used to think was as the only one that was going through this. I said to myself before watching this that I would do whatever advice you give. So now I am equipped. I became a born again believer 4 years ago and my husband is still not there. In fact, he doesn't even go to church at all. I even stopped and almost lost hope. And then I came across this video. It is like I had CZcams for this video only. Thank you. This is incredible. You have to have gone through this or be going through this to understand just how difficult it is. But God.
I am going through this currently! This is inspiring and encouraging to hear!
Praise God! 🙏
I would hate to have a religious wife...
Thank you sweet sister! Thank you for this glorious testimony. ❤
I literally have to pause just to sob. Finally. Finally. Someone who has walked through this and gets it. I’ve only been married a year (together for 5) and he’s in his “rebellion”. He didn’t grow up in the church and neither did I but now more than ever he is resisting anything Jesus related. This spoke so clearly to my spirit and I feel such comfort. Letting go is so freeing. Thank you for sharing your testimony, God really did speak through you to me. Please pray for me to go back to my first love Jesus and keep my eyes on Him no matter how hard it gets. Pray for him and his family to experience the One who changes everyone He touches. Thank you 🤍
Please pray for my husband, my marriage, and our children... This video resonates deeply with me and I am so heartbroken living like this.
Oh friend, big hugs! Trust me, I know how hard it can be! I don’t say these things lightly. But keep leaning on the Lord! Keep digging in and growing in your walk. One day at a time! Xoxoxo
Yep! I can relate. When Christ took ahold of me and I started reading my Bible my husband told me this was going to be the end of our relationship. And after a few years he became a follower of Christ. And now 8 years later we both live everyday for the Lord. Greatest blessing ever. Raising our 3 boys to love Jesus! Thank you
All glory to God!!! Thank you for sharing!
Can I ask all of you sisters in Christ, please pray for my husband (BB). The doc gave him a few weeks left, stage 4 cancer. He needs Jesus. I have gone thru from A-Z just as the wonderful woman talks about in the video. Had small breakthrough last month, back to rejection. I can't fathom him dieing in his sins! This is in God's hands. Need prayer warriors. A soul hangs in the balance. 🙏🙏🙏
PRAYING for your hubs, BB, to humble himself & accept the ultimate gift of salvation, making Jesus his personal LORD & savior. I'm so sorry he's suffering with cancer, that must be so hard on you, too. The other day Justin Peters shared a powerful baptism testimonial with the title: This May Be The Most Moving Video You'll See In 2024
Maybe check it out & see if it might move him to repent & put his faith in Jesus.
I’m sorry this is happening-terrible situation. I just said a prayer for your husband. I pray for you, sister. May the Lord soften your husband’s heart and strengthen you in this hour of need and sorrow ❤✝ God bless you
Praying for your husband
The unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife if she’s a believer. 1st Corinthians 7:14-16
Just prayed for you ....
I'm tired of the wait. He's on auto pilot. Could care less if we go to church or not. Only cares about his fleshly desires. I feel single, spiritually. The only time he prayed daily, on his knees was when i wanted a divorce. I was literally checked out. God opened my eyes and brought me out of my hopeless mindset. Now, all i can think is why does it take a tramatic event for him to seek the Lord. I NEED a leader. I fear what God may allow to get his attention again. Not a divorse but what about a health concern . Pray for my husband and for me. He knows better than he's doing.
Maybe you should fast and pray on it regularly. P.U.S.H. Pray until something happens🙏🏾🙏🏾🥰
As long as he’s not abusing you keep fighting sister. Is easier said than done trust me I know. Maybe just ignore and live yr life silent treatment.
What do yiou mean by abuse??@Starsunshine777
How are things currently?
My story is similar. Once I took my hands off of it and realized it’s not my job to be his Holy Spirit and trusted God to get to His son. I focused on my relationship with the Lord and my husband is coming around. Slowly but surely.
Yes, I am so tired of being my husband's Holy Spirit. He claims he's Christian but it's like he has no conscience! I know all the verses about how I should be but just don't know how to execute what I know.
Please join me in praying for my husband, Andrew. He was raised in a very legalistic church and was severely abused by his parents as a child. He also was an active combat vet during the war in Iraq and struggles with PTSD, which he self-medicates with alcohol and weed. He has such a good heart, but he has so much underlying pain that it is hard for him to understand the concept of God's grace.
😢 may the Lord see him through
And grant him a new heart
I have never clicked on a video so fast! I have been struggling with a VERY unbelieving husband and have been looking for help! Thank you thank you thank you SO much for making a video on this. I now have this along side my prayers ❤
You are not alone. I too have a”VERY unbelieving husband”. It’s very lonely.
@@kari7398 @Faunaflys You might want to read "Wild at Heart" by John Eldredge, former Navy SEAL. Jesus is the very definition of masculine.
The Holly Spirit only is the one responsible for anyone’s conversion
Praying alongside of you all! XOXO
I've been a believer in Jesus Christ since 1986. Everyone has their own spiritual journey that they are on. My wife of 28 years left me and my children after using the "I don't see any real spiritual fruit in your life..." argument to allege that I wasn't in fact a true follower of Christ and she believed she had to leave in order to not be unequally yoked. At the time my grown children even took her side. 16 months later and she's an "out and proud" lesbian who dates women. But it's too late. My life and all that I worked to establish as a family is destroyed. Be very careful about how you "observe" spiritual fruit in other people's lives. You don't know as much as you think you do when you judge a person using that spiritual fruit metric.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. My husband is a true non-believer, calls himself an atheist now, but I’m not leaving him and we met and married in church. It’s a difficult situation but I’m not even thinking of that bc I love him and our family. Your wife had other plans that had nothing to do with your spirituality. I just want to encourage you that your life is not destroyed. Don’t give up. Walk by faith and trust God that everything works out for your good. You can continue to build your family, even without your beloved wife. Turn that energy to continue nurturing your children and build the trust and loving relationship with them. I know you are hurting right now but you will get through it a stronger person and father for yourself and children. I will be praying for your strength and encouragement from the Lord.
We´ve had a life changing few months and a lot of tough things happening and in the middle of all this chaos my husband got saved! It´s a miracle. He started reading the bible without my knowledge and came to me and asked me to teach him to pray. I was chocked to say the least. Now we are finally on the same page and we can share our faith and that is the best feeling ever. Thank you Jesus!
ALL glory to God! Praise Him-- how beautiful! 😭 Praying for you both as you walk, together, in the narrow path of the Lord! XOXO
Thank you. ❤
Oh! Tears started to roll when read your message and him asking you to help him to pray WOW
God bless you and your whole household x
Thank you
I pray every day that God will help me be the wife Peter tells us to be and almost every day I fail miserably. You said quit letting our husbands hurt us and I believe that is key. I will now add to my prayer that God would help me to overlook the offenses. Thank you so much for this video and encouragement ❤
Love your testimony. Never stop praying! I prayed for over 2 decades for my husband to be serious about his walk with the Lord. ❤
And what’s the result sister is he now saved ?
My husband divorced me almost 8 years ago after he got caught having an adulterous affair with a woman at woek. I was a baby Christian at that time and tried to fo everything I could to save the marriage. I have grown up so much spiritually. I realize only God can xhange his heart. I continue to pray for his salvation and our reconciliation. I am committed to standing for him and our marriage until death do us part.
1 Corinthians 7
13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
God untethered you from this man by His grace! He allowed for his sin to expose him and lead to the only biblical grounds for divorce. You can ask the Lord for a believing husband and marry him without being in adultery.
Amen. I'm in the same boat as you. I've grown so much as a believer. Hubby is in God's hands. And God hates divorce. I'm trusting God to change him. As long as they are alive God is at work 😂. Till death do us part. Stay strong and hold on to God. His timing is perfect. I'm standing by you sis ❤
Everything you describe is my marriage. He professes to be a Christian, but no fruit. 15 yrs of trying different things, ways, prayers and to be honest, it just keeps getting worse. Now the main arguments are about him wanting the kids and I to partake in things that are not godly, that are very worldly (sometimes demonic). We say “no thank you” and he gets very angry. I’ve just been trying to keep the peace when he is home; sometimes it goes well, sometimes it doesn’t. It’s very exhausting. I’ve been praying for so long for a change in my husband’s heart, for him to submit to the Lord and follow Christ with his whole heart. I won’t give up praying for him. God is good, no matter my circumstances. He is faithful and always provides my needs. Prayers from any of the ladies here would be most appreciated! Thank you for this video! Helps me to know I’m not alone. ❤️ God bless
Such wisdom because it is the word of God. It might be good to remind the ladies of this sometimes. More broken homes could be prevented. We don’t always get instant answers to prayers. We have to do our part of putting God first and grow in our own maturity in Him. Thank you.
There is this Christian movie that is like C.S. Lewis' The Screwtape Letters. This movie is called Nefarious which is about a demon possessed death row inmate that is having a psychological evaluation from an atheist. The demon in the prisoner brags about how the atheist has fallen for his schemes. This might wake your husband up.
Sister, we ladies wiĺl be holding you and your children before our Heavenly Daddy for protection while HE hounds your husband into love and submission for HIMSELF! To God be all The Glory. Do not give up....God bless your household beyond measure.. ❤ & 🙏🏻
❤ I will put your family in my prayers. My husband also is struggling right now with being fruitful and having conviction. Sometimes he will play media that is very awful and seems demonic for sure ..and I don't like it in front of the kids. Let alone asking them to engage...would be infuriating. But letting rage take the wheel isn't ok I know. Hard situation. Keep strong.
Maintain that spiritual armor!
Ephesians 6:10 ❤
Have you ever heard of the book Created to Be His Helpmeet, by Debbie Pearl? You may want to check that out. I think her godly wisdom is pretty spot on when it comes to a Christian wife and the unbelieving husband. Praying for you both.
Pray for me. My husband & my children. That I will be a blessing to my husband & children and we can all serve the Lord together.
I’m asking for Prayers for our marriage. My husband has turned back to drinking and has been more abusive the last 5 years. I’m still Praying for him but no longer living with him. We have been separated for over a year now. I’m Sad but still believing. I’m working on my relationship with God. Thank you for sharing your story and Encouragement. Please keep Us in your Prayers!!!😢🙏🙏🙏
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Praying for you and your situation sis!
❤🙏🏻
Im slowly learning how to be Biblical wife and my husband and I have never been happier. He is growing into his leader role so well. He still doesnt come with me to church even though I go every Sunday. He recently told me that with everything going on in the political climate and seeing how insane everyone has gotten, he is starting to believe that the Bible is true and Christianity is the worlds truest religion. Hes coming around, all I can do is pray and let the Lord shine through me without words.
I just found your channel recently and I know with my whole heart our Lord brought me to you. I’ve learned so much already and this topic today just confirmed I’m in the right place. My husband has a false and broken belief in the Lord and it’s overwhelming to navigate as I seek the lord. I believe God will eventually reach him and he will receive Him. Praise God in advance! I don’t know how long it will take but I know Jesus is going after my husband. Thank you for your encouragement and sharing Gods wisdom and word with us sister❤
Lifting you and your husband up in prayer. God Bless you
I struggle so much coming from church feeling so uplifted and I feel such a heavy sick feeling of him saying im forcing to put him in a box that he doesn’t want to be in. I try and just give to God and focus on my relationship and my walk with God. When I’m home alone and he’s out with friends I feel alone and so heavy hearted and cry. I asked in church to pray for my husband. He says he will go to church for me I tell him I want him to go because he wants to. I need help and guidance, our 10 year marriage is hurting.
Have him go with you! If it's a solid church, the preaching may save him
@@Perezfambak it says in the Bible to not push, let God speak to him and let God. Let go and let God. It is not my place but His. All I can do right now is pray show him God’s love and be a godly wife. He told me he is seeing changes.
I’m just watering the mustard seed and allowing it space to grow
I am in this situation and thank you soo much for the encouragement. Married for 2 years with a 5 month old beautiful son and my husband recently shared with me that he no longer believes in God, Jesus and the Bible. I have cried several times and feel so lust as I tried discussing this with him. After reading 1Peter3 and listening to you and others and a completely leaving it in God’s hands and trusting HIM with everything, I feel some peace and I will love and submit to my husband and work on myself to be that vessel that the lord will use. Thank you for your prayers for me and other women experiencing this.
I am soo glad I found your channel.
Big hugs, friend!
When he is struggling and he sees the peace in you that you have because the Holy Spirit he will want to come back .. continue praying for him WITH your heart
@@youtubeu6174 thank you so much
Please lift up my husband, Dennis!!! Thank you❤
Thank you! I needed to hear this message AGAIN! I’ve known these things for a few years now yet I continue to nag, pout and give him a major guilt trip! Honestly, my husband is in full blown rebellion right now- trying to prove a point that I will never be able to change him! And I know he’s right… I can’t change him but I know the One who can yet I continue to be the one trying! I know I need to surrender him over to the Lord once and for all! It’s just so hard when we are clearly on two different paths! He’s living for the world and I am trying to die to self and live for what’s to come! Everything is a battle from our finances to just our daily ways of living! I hate what he loves and vice versa! It’s such a challenge! But I know there are many women in the same boat! Thank you for sharing your story! It gives me hope! ❤️🙏🏻✝️
ik this is true bc the Lord told me when you change your husband will not going to lie i started seeing change in my husband while i was focusing on my walk then i gave up not being consistent bc the spiritual warfare was picking up and took my eyes off jesus but now im back pray for me that i will be persistent this time abd keep my eyes on jesus
I love your story! This is so encouraging and reaffirming the things God has been showing me as well. I have a long story - my husband and I used to lead worship and prayer nights and soon after getting married- he walked away from everything and I felt like “wait! This isn’t what I signed up for?!” But God has had an amazing plan! It’s been 11 years and we are still a work in progress but suddenly he’s been coming to church. There is SO much to the story but there’s been a break through. So if you are in the thick of this- don’t give up! I SO relate to this story!
Trust the Lord.
Two things God really showed me was to share an venerable heart to my husband and submit to my husband (out of worship to the Lord) and pray! Our Lord is trustworthy and good!
Same applies to our children. We instruct them, but the biggest impact we have is through our prayers and example.
This was exactly the perfect “box handed out at the women’s retreat”. Answer to prayer. Thank you, sister.
Good stuff, Heidi! I have found this to be true in my own marriage. Also, when I am busy nagging and manipulating and complaining trying to control, I do not experience God’s peace. When I work on fully trusting in God and letting go of that control, that’s when I have His peace.
Amen! I was convicted of my nagging as well. The Holy Spirit truly showed me how my conduct should be. Thank you sister in Christ for sharing! God Bless you
Thank you sister,
My husband and I go up and down. I’ve been called many names by my husband,Jehovah Witness, a Nazi Christian, and have just felt so hurt, because I wouldn’t allow our son to watch what he was watching. What you said about in Ephesians chapter 6 that we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities and powers. I have literally seen this.
I need to submit FULLY but I’m terrified, because I’ve told my husband that I need my alone time with the Lord, and where I can’t get comfort from my husband I only find from God.
Please keep praying sister, my husband and I have a son who is autistic and I’m trying to homeschool him with an online Christian School (his second year) and I’m struggling.
I don’t know how to juggle being a teacher, a mom, and a wife but stepping away and not overwhelming myself. 🥺🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Thank you
I am a young pastor and I came across your testimony and I thank God I did. You are a living example of 1 Peter 3:1-2. I needed a real life testimony to be able to share with my sisters in Christ who are in this exact position. Thank you for sharing it so passionately. May God continue to bless your marriage and family.
All glory to God!
Thank you for sharing your story. This is also my story, but it’s not over yet. I have faith that my husband will also come to love and serve Christ. Such great encouragement! Blessings to you and your family!
God was also testing and refining you during your arguments after you had surrendered your husband to the Lord. I’m sure there was a time when you learned to give a soft answer rather than reacting in anger while also setting boundaries and being a good example.
Yes. This is so important. Not to come off condescending or controlling. To be slow to speak and quick to listen!
Wow, thank you so much for sharing this, I’m 33 and married 10 years and this is exactly what I’m going through and I’m so glad to see you not sugar coating anything and sharing this truth and teaching us younger women how to be biblical women and even how exactly to help bring our “believing” husband to Christ. God bless you ❤🙏
Thank you for this. Needed it so much. God bless you. My heart has been so broken and I have felt so alone in this walk with the exception of knowing the Lord has his hand in mine and a hand full of wonderful women praying with me and for us. ❤
Excellent!!! Been there!!! God is able!
1Peter is what God used with me and Peter (my husband)! It sounds like exactly what I went through. But we served together in the last few years of marriage. He is in heaven now.
Amen sister! I'm currently in the midst of this. I gave my husband to the Lord and am working on myself at being a better Christian. Fighting the enemy daily, taking every thought captive!
“Every thought captive” is *mind-blowing* because your brain is actually re-wiring new pathways. You are literally becoming a new creation. Praise God, His mercy endures forever!
Thank you. Needed this reminder. Husband is divorcing me and this week is first meeting in courts and first time seeing each other shy of two years.
Still, this is wonderful reminder to continue this. I was getting bogged down by the harsh realities that come with divorce. While faithfully walking with God, I asked him to speak again. This was clear guidance from God.
Just continue to be still, dont push my own beliefs, and let God do the changing. In this video, the marriage won, it appears mine has failed, but, I trust my life in God’s hands.❤
Amen! Don't loose hope! He will not fail you ❣️ don't give up!
Amazing testimony. My husband has grown a lot over the years but don't think he's given everything to Christ. I pray for him and my daughter constantly. I know God will work in them in His time. Wonderful video Heidi.
Praying for you, your husband and daughter. God Bless you
thank you so much xo
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I want to thank you for this video. I've had a relationship with Christ since age 16. I'm now 27. I graduated from a Bible college with a Bible degree. I know what the Word says and I know who Christ is. It's safe to say that I "know" what I'm supposed to be doing as a wife to help bring my husband to Christ. But my emotions and need for control rule over all else. I've recently started in this journey of giving God the controls and simply trusting in Him that He will bring my husband truly to His side. I'm by no means great at this yet - being the wife and mother God's called me to be - I fail almost daily. This requires a new level of focus and submission to Christ than I've ever had before. I'm glad to say that I'm not trying like I used to... instead I'm learning to fully trust Him. Again thank you for this video; it's the encouragement I needed to hear today to keep me fueled for this journey, this gift of marriage God has given us.
You might not realize how honest and helpful this video is. I needed this, I’m going through this now with my husband(our family)❤ I thank you for this amazing video that gave me hope to keep going🙏🏼
I hope you see this as this video was posted 5 months ago, but God knew i needed to see it now. Our marriage is just coming out of a major crisis and will take a long time to heal. This video popped up as a suggestion on CZcams today. Not a coincidence. I only saw this channel a week ago and immediately felt drawn to subscribe. Not a coincidence. It is soooo refreshing to hear someone be transparent and speak unapologetically the truth of situations, difficulties, give godly advice,... Thank you and know that you've been used by the Most High God.
Great video! And wanted to point out that you did the right thing by not nagging, but you also stood up and spoke the truth in love by setting boundaries which is a good thing. Alot of churches give Christian wives wrong advice that enable evil to continue. The Lord never nagged people to follow Him, but He did speak the truth in love and set clear boundaries! Thank you for being vulnerable and transparent, feels like a breath of fresh air in a world of flattery and fakeness❤
ALL glory to God- I appreciate you all so much, truly! May the Lord be glorified through us all!
This is the same for me as well but with my wife. I have to do well to be patient with her for the scriptures say
2 Timothy 2:24-26 (NASB95): The Lord’s bond-servant must not be quarrelsome, but be kind to all, able to teach, patient when wronged,
25 with gentleness correcting those who are in opposition, if perhaps God may grant them repentance leading to the knowledge of the truth,
26 and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, having been held captive by him to do his will.
We are ambassadors of Christ Jesus and need to follow his example.
Don’t worry about your spouse do not idolize your spouse. Jesus said follow me.
Thank you for sharing it helps build the faith in our brothers and sisters in Christ who are going through this.
Thank you for such a down to earth chat. When you finally disclosed what changes you made in your own life and surrendered your husband to God I knew why I was listening to your video out of any that I could have clicked on. I’ve had the worst day feeling overwhelmed and have cried and prayed but to be honest have felt so abandoned. My husband and I have been together 4 years. I was widowed 7 years ago and his marriage ended a similar amount of time ago. Both with scars from the past we took quite a while to get married and have now been married about 6 weeks. He’s a wonderful, gentle, patient …. atheist. You video was confirmation to what God’s been trying to gently say to me for a while now “spend good quality time with me”. Thank you again.
I needed this reminder to just focus on the Lord, His word, and pray! I have been praying about this every day!!!! I spoke to an older lady at church and she told me this also. We are now praying together at every service for salvation for my husband and family and for her family. What a blessing this message was today, thank you!
That's amazing- praise God!
This is very encouraging!!!!!
FATHER is telling don’t desire to be with my family. Meaning just keep praying and serving where I can. I keep wanting to to to talk but they my husband and children cannot hear me. I have to give to the FATHER!!!!
I LOVE my family so much !!!!!!!
I miss them . My prayer is they all be gathered from the heathen!!!
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A part 2 to this could be about leaving a gap and submitting BEFORE he’s in line or if he IS in line but you’ve been doing his job in various areas. I heard you talk about that briefly in the biblical womanhood series and the “gap” concept really impacted my marriage. ♥️
Yes- we definitely will! XO
I don't quite know what led me to your videos, but I am so glad that I found you. I am with my husband for 17 years and next year we'll be married thirteen years. I gave up after ten years and we separated for almost two years but we're back together and although things are better than they were, they are still not where they should be. I would be eternally grateful for your prayers for him, for me, and for us.
I needed to hear this! Great reminder to surrender my husband to the Lord, stand up lovingly for what is right in God's eyes and continuing to seek the Lord. By the Spirit, my husband wil come to Christ!
This message, soothed a few wounds. My husband works in an environment where he gets impacted with a lot of evil, my prayer for him is that he persists in his faith, that wherever he goes, he will bare the fruit of Christ. Thank you for sharing such an intimate message.
It's awesome to hear your backstory! So many of us can relate to your story. Thank you for pointing us and our husbands to Christ. Your channel is the most calm and encouraging channel for real life advice that I've found. Thank you!!! 💗🙏💗
ALL glory to God, thank you for your kind words & encouragement! XO
Thank you soooo much for this video and this video should be packaged in a pretty shiny box at the women’s retreat because it truly just blessed my entire understanding of my spiritual journey, specifically pertaining to my husband and our marriage! May God continue to bless you and your family and ministry🙏🏾🙌🏾❤️
Wow this is my first time here hearing from you.. I stumbled across your video by accident honestly or maybe it was God‘s will for me to be here.. my husband and I have been married for at least two years now and our marriage is very rocky a lot of arguments over our spiritual life…he is a man who was born and raised in church, but does not live the lifestyle and now after seeing this video I can humbly say that I haven’t been living the best lifestyle myself.. we’ve gotten to a point where we’ve both thought about divorcing because I’m trying to grow more spiritually and he’s not interested whatsoever .. there are things about me that is shifting and changing and he doesn’t like that. I spend more time in the word and declining old activities please keep us in prayer because I want to fight for our marriage, but most importantly I want to win my unbeliever husband back to Christ.. thank you for opening my eyes on how to do this by letting go and fixing myself to live a righteous lifestyle..
This has truly been encouraging. I’m leaning into spending intentional time with God and my 2.5 year old daughter does it with me. My husband has been doing Bible studies more consistently but I can see and feel the enemy pushing and tempting him back to old habits and ideas. It’s so discouraging and it’s hard not to throw up my hands or weep that anything will ever change. I trust in Gods timing and could use prayers to have a patient heart while He works on my husband.
Thanks for this. Really needed it. My husband professes to be Christian, is loving and caring, but has a bit of a drinking problem. I needed the reminder that I need to surrender him to Christ. Prayers will be appreciated.
Great encouraging video. Thank you for sharing your story.
All glory to God- hope it can be an encouragement to others!
*You know* how much videos like this encourages me. Thank you for your testimony, Heidi. 🙏💕💕💕
Praying always my beautiful friend! BIG hugs! XOXO
Thank you for your video which comforts my heart, because I am tired. I let go and let the Lord work for my husband's salvation. I feel less alone in this situation and it encourages me to continue to be a model for my husband because my greatest prayer is that he will know the Lord and love him as I do 🙏🏻
Everything you shared is true! It took my husband 25 years to come the point of professing to be a Christian! But guess what? After another 25 years he is not showing fruit or growing! But I came to the point of not listening with “his” ears and telling God “oh, Lord! He so needs to hear this! Now I listen with my own ears! I focus on my spiritual growth! Being intimate with my Lord and my obedience is what Jesus wants from me right now and my efforts to live a Christlike life may impact my husband someday. Thank you for your teaching, Heidi! I too, had to learn by myself but God is faithful and I am still hopeful!
Wow this is what I do ... Listening with" his" ears, always searching for something to lead him to Christ. Thank you for the conviction, that I need to stop doing that and listen with my own ears and focus on my own relationship with Christ.
God told me that the person I choose to marry is how I reflect my love towards Him as an act of worship.
Thank you for sharing this wisdom! It is so encouraging!
This video was a blessing to me. I feel beyond defeated and god just blessed me with this testimony. Identical to how I’m feeling. Thank you.
I’ve read that verse and it seriously hasn’t clicked til now!!! 🤯 thank you 🙏
Beautifully put, thank you for this . The truth is not popular, keep putting these out. Those of us who are meant to hear it will.
Amen! 🙏🏼
This truly blessed me. Thank you. Please pray for me.
You have NO idea how timely this video is today. My husband and I had a fight over this exact thing this morning.
Praying, friend! 🙏🏼📖
Keep praying for your husband. God is faithful!
Thank you for this video. I got saved in 2020 a little over a year after my husband and I got married. It was a bumpy ride for me into the kingdom because I was trying to figure out what I believed during Covid times and many churches not meeting. I was not a great example as it has taken me a few years to let go of habits and become emotionally stable and find a good church. My husband is a professing atheist who believes all religion is a cult. I’m also desiring children and he is not. We are opposites in every way but he loves me and is content to stay with me. Having such little accountability in my home is difficult because I really could live my life in a way that he would find ok, but that I know in my heart is not actively moving towards holiness.
I’m wondering if you could do a video or a part 2 on how you would suggest maintaining physical/emotional intimacy when your husband is not on the same page as you, as well as how to respectfully decline things that you believe to be sinful. Were there certain “compromises” that you made where you chose to do things with him that maybe you wouldn’t prefer, but that weren’t sinful, so that you could connect? I think this is my biggest issue. I want to maintain a healthy physical and emotional relationship with him (we are both in our 30’s), but he rejects a lot of who I am, is not interested in hearing my thoughts on things, and has admitted that it’s because I’m a Christian and he doesn’t like what I believe. I’m not faulting him for this and I completely understand why he finds it distasteful, but I would love to know if there is practical encouragement on how to connect with him in ways that are not sinful and would show that I’m taking an interest in who he is as a person so that we aren’t just living parallel, but separate lives. I know there will always be sacrifices and we will not have the same closeness that a Christian couple would have, but I struggle because as I move closer to the Lord, we have less and less in common. This is a sacrifice I’m willing to make, but I am hoping there’s a way to maintain some sort of connection with him that isn’t based on sin or old habits.
Hope that makes sense.
Thank you SO much for this video. It’s the only one I’ve found on this subject that addresses it so directly.
Thank you. I started to see him coming around but I had some hiccups and I have slowed down and to be honest I see the effects. Thanks for this
This has been my life for a long while now! You are speaking the story of my life. I need to get more disciplined and not let Satan gets his foothold in me to get me to stop
Amen- praying alongside of you! XO
Thank you for the honesty. I have experienced everything you talked about and a lot of tears have been shed over the years. I definitely have gotten grinded down as far as I can go and finally gave it to the Lord a few months ago. My eyes have been opened that I am not fighting my husband but the hooks that Satan has in him. And you're right, it's been extremely difficult and nasty. This video was such an encouragement to keep going and to do my part by clinging to the Lord. Thank you, God bless!
Eye opener 😍 PRAISE THE LORD 🙌🙌🙌 Thank you ❤️
pray for my husband Justin...he believes in God. but not Jesus Christ anymore. Situation changed him. I want him back to fear and love Christ
Praying!!!!
Wow! This was amazing and so important. I also have been with my husband since high school. I got saved when I was 21 an we jus had our second daughter. And I remeber how hard our life got and how satan used that. My husband is not saved yet and I know I have´nt been living my life as I should either. But I still believe. This was so encouraging, thank you! You´ve given me new hope. Love this channel.
Love your testimony. This applies to all those people in our lives. Parents, siblings, friends, etc.
Our focus should be on our relationship and growing in Christ. God can change hearts and minds!
❤❤❤❤❤❤.....very encouraging....all the key words mentioned.... are amazing... God Bkess you...Trust in the Lord for HE is Faithful ...
Thank you so much for sharing. Perfect timing! May God bless you for being vulnerable to share
Thank you for sharing, encouraging and inspiring. I really needed this and it was as though you were speaking directly to me and the challenges that I feel I’m facing in my marriage. I am so very grateful. God bless you and your family.
Heidi, I’m dealing with this right now, boy it hurts and is straining… I’m not giving in though and I’m going to push even hard in my relationship with the LORD… My husband is a believer, but there is NO FRUIT! But just like you said as long as he’s still alive GOD can change his heart and I’m excited and patiently waiting for that day while I continue to pour into the LORD for myself and our family… Thank you Heidi for your videos, they are so encouraging and biblically sound and have helped me in my walk tremendously… You truly are like a big sister in Christ (Titus 2:3-5) helping the younger wives to love their husbands/children… So thank you!
I also suggest he read the book "Wild at Heart" by John Eldredge, former Navy SEAL.
@@autistic-lutheran-carnivore I have bought him so many Christian books that aid in being a better biblical man, and many other things like, finances…ect he refuses to read them… But I’ll try with the book you recommended since he’s ex military… Ty
ALL glory to God- praying alongside of you, friend! XOXO
@@HeavenlyMindedHome Thanks Heidi!, after dinner tonight he out of know where said he wants to go to church with me???? I did not question him of poke or pry I was like “Okay”…. PRAISE GOD, now I’m just praying GOD will keep his mind on coming all week since the enemy will be busy trying anything to talk him out of it…
Thank you for sharing, was so helpful. I’ve been using that scripture for the last month reading it over and over! I’ve had some really difficult moments feeling alone in my marriage I’m serving God and he isn’t but I will not give up! Thanks again for the encouraging message. God bless you
Mel
ALL glory to God! Keep on going- one day at a time!
Thank you for that Video Heidi. This is what I face for a few years now. Like you I've tried nearly anything, but nothing happened. Your Video gives me hope and I see many things clearer now. 🤗 so I pray that I will become that wife Peter tells us to be. I pray for you all and your husbands.
I cannot imagine telling my wife I wanted to go to seminary and have her respond to me like that. I honestly cannot picture how that would play out. I don’t know why I’m focused on that part… but here we are.
Good thing my husband completely understood why I would ask that. 😎
Absolutely agree. You need patience, trust in the Lord, and God's Word !
Thank you so much Heidi for this!! We just spoke to my heart and thanks for sharing your story!! Can you please pray for my husband Robert to know our Lord and Savior!!! Go Bo’s you!!! 🙏💜🙏
Thank you thank you thank you for the lifeline. I’ve been drowning in this.
Wow, this was the first video I've watched on your channel. I can so relate. Only thing is that I haven't gotten on the other side yet. We will have been married 33 years next month. Recently (since last spring) I got to the place of focusing on me. I still have a ways to go before I can overlook my frustration and pain. I try, but can still be triggered. I can see how it can work (the Peter verses) it is just doing it that is hard. I'm spending lots of time with the Lord, studying my Bible and memorizing scripture. I know that I have to have the Lord's help. But I am still in the struggle part and pretty worn down. I think i may have strongholds that need to come down. Your video encouraged me. Please pray for me to be successful in being Christlike and that my husband would put the Lord first in his life. It occurred to me this week that to develop the fruit of the Spirit I might need to be put in situations (my marriage) where I get to practice being kind, loving, patient, etc. This is my opportunity to display that fruit. Again, it's mostly in my head and not being applied.😊
Thank you sister for this sweet encouragement ❤ and for pointing me to Christ and His word!
You are so welcome- may the Lord be glorified! XOXO
Yes, it is a difficult way to learn loving like Jesus! This is all about. Learn to Love like Jesus. But our spouses Are our sparring Partners. Don’t we give Up! You Said it! It’s an eternal Invest. So, don’t we gib Up!!!!
Amen! 🙌🏻🙏🏻📖
I really needed this today. Thank you for this. Praise God ❤️
You have no idea how timely this is for me. ❤
Thank you! I needed to hear this!
I have been married to an angry unsaved man now for 33 years. I have been saved for 37 years. As a typical woman I married him thinking “I can change him”. I have paid the price for over 3 decades now. Not going to lie, it been horrible. I would never ever do it over again. My 3 adult children are my saving grace. Only one has been born again. They were raised in church but two want nothing to do with God. All 3 children think I am crazy for staying in the marriage. All their friends parents (including “Christian’s “) are divorced. They always tell me “just leave him mom”. I am not a hero to them 🤷♀️. I have tried everything but finally handed him over to God about 15 years ago. He is Gods problem. I pray for his salvation, even though I am so weary and discouraged. I don’t even feel like it at this point but, I do. I have come to the realization that not every person will be saved. Yea okay, Gods got this but don’t lead people on with that catch phrase allowing them to think it going to happen. It may happen on his death bed but as of now it’s been 35 years of hardship for me. I’m not sugarcoating this. My husband is getting worse, as time is getting crazier, my husband is getting more and more agitated and angry. I have watched his whole face/countenance change over the years. He is not physically harming me but he mentally and verbally abused me. I’m not looking for sympathy, I made a terrible decision 33 years ago, I am definitely paying the price. I am such a joyful and thankful person and I love to help people and animals in need. I do it outside of the perimeters of my marriage. That’s my story, don’t give people false hope. Do not marry someone who is not saved!! Don’t do it!! You will regret it 😢
I am praying for God to give you peace. I'm asking him to save your husband and transform him with grace. In Christ's name, Amen
It is interesting, I think, how serious the approval of a potential spouse was and the involvement of the family…. Now we’ve largely done away with that and testimonies like this are the norm. But God. His word is truth and we continue to live in His ways and trust His saving grace! Praying along side of you, sweet friend!
I agree with you, I was born again 1 year ago and married my fiancé who is not born again. We were together when I was born again and went through a lot of trials before the Lord saved me. A great conviction to stop having sex outside marriage set in about a week after my new birth. Before Jesus, I was jealous, manipulative, full of anger and my husband was afraid to marry me, which I can understand. He soon saw that I wasn't the same person he once knew and wanted to marry me. He waited 2 months before the wedding without sexual relations, and it was my pastor at the time who married us. I don't come from a Christian background, in fact I'm the only Christian in my family. It's very difficult because I feel misunderstood by the people I love around me. I don't recommend anyone to marry an unbeliever because it's very difficult to live with someone who doesn't know Jesus. In spite of everything, the Lord is gracious and I see the blessings of marriage in many ways. I have repented of having made a bad choice of husband. My husband is very open to the Gospel and lets me live my faith completely. He has difficulty believing that the Lord can love him because he feels dirty. he's not sure yet. I pray every day for his salvation and I ask the Lord for wisdom to help me love him as he loves me. I pray for you my sister 🙏🏻
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Thank you for sharing your story. May God give you peace and strength and endurance to honor your marriage covenant 🙏. I take rest in knowing that God sees our struggles and knows are heart. We look forward to eternity for our rewards living with Jesus. God bless you sister, I do pray for your husband to receive his name in the book of life
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What refreshing advice this is. It’s not easy but Christ will enable as you trust Him. I think it’s also important to be honest with yourself and your husband. He does need to know that you need him in the role of godly protector as only he can fill. It’s his purpose, but in gentle, patient and respectful ways. With gratitude and thankfulness for who he is. And of course pray!
Being a virtuous woman will impact more than just your husband. “Strive for peace with everyone, and for the holiness without which no one will see the Lord.” Hebrews 12:14 The presence of the Lord in a trusting holy woman is the devil’s worst nightmare!
the key word in that verse is "Respectful", a respectful woman would not be arguing and fighting with her husbanc
I'm glad that you're having this video today my husband was saved before I was there was no fruit for years and it was very difficult and it put a strain on our marriage which they're already was I was encouraged by my pastures wife pastor and other women in the church and I'm glad I listen to them and the Lord he gave his life to the Lord for years ago and boy what a difference I see in him he's still struggles with certain things but so do I and God is good
Thank you. I appreciate your authenticity and work for the Lord! ❤ Please pray for my marriage 🙏
Years of guilting him to come and having fights about it or him using it to his advantage bc he knew I'd do anything to have him come. Then one day, I stopped. I'd ask before leaving but no manipulation or guilt.
I found a book 30 days of praying for your husband and I did it. Not please God send him to church... I wanted a conviction 😊 It was praying for his day and how God could lead him. 10 months and 15 days he started wanting to come with us. A year later he did a purpose class with me. Now hes planning a missions trip. He's not completely out of the devil's cluches but the Lord is patient and I pray.
I'm not married but this was an inspiring video. Thank you for sharing.
You are so welcome, an important topic indeed. 🙏🏻
Nothing preaches to them like our conduct and character....