what to do when moving to a new city alone

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  • čas přidán 18. 03. 2023
  • In this video I am talking about the sturggles of moving to a new city alone. I discuss the ways to be okay from days 1 to month 3 to a few years. Moving to a new city is really tough and especially when you dont know anybody. With these tips hopefully you can see that it is hard for most!
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Komentáře • 85

  • @Akanchwua
    @Akanchwua Před 2 měsíci +29

    Fucking HELL I needed this video. I moved to a completely new city on my own almost 3 months ago and I'm having a complete crisis and it feels like everything is falling apart......so glad I found this. Everything you said is true, the fun has worn off, reality is setting in. Have minimal money and feel like.....wtaf am I doing. Thank you thank you thank you

  • @notequalto5179
    @notequalto5179 Před rokem +149

    Healthy relationships typically take some time to build. So it's totally okay if you don't have a deep friendship or romantic relationship until much later after you've moved.

    • @MaureenBlanco
      @MaureenBlanco Před 11 měsíci

      how long?

    • @notequalto5179
      @notequalto5179 Před 11 měsíci +7

      @@MaureenBlanco there's not really a definite amount of time. Deeper friendships take a few months to build I've found. Of course, it can depend on a lot of things. But it certainly won't happen overnight.

  • @leticiaissa3449
    @leticiaissa3449 Před rokem +61

    I remember a few months ago commenting on one of your videos how I felt like i wasn't enjoying studying abroad as much as I thought I would. 2 months later, I can definitley say that I don't feel that way anymore as I did. I'm leaving in a month or so to go back to my homecountry, and although I will be coming back after the summer, a part of me is sad that I am leaving even if it's for 4 months. Funny how just a few months can change your perspective on living abroad.

  • @jenessam.hernandez4331
    @jenessam.hernandez4331 Před 8 měsíci +30

    I just moved to a new place alone and learning so much about so many things! I kind of missed the ball on this one in my 20s and now finally doing it in my 30s. This new place is so beautiful and excited for what the future holds. ✨

    • @tr1ckster726
      @tr1ckster726 Před 7 měsíci +2

      Hey I am in my 30s too. I quit my job and was going to move last October, and then I just... Stayed. It has been eating away at me for the last year. It's like I said I was going to do something, and then I didn't do it! I know I HAVE to do it though.

    • @jenessam.hernandez4331
      @jenessam.hernandez4331 Před 7 měsíci +1

      I recommend doing it! Of course, ensure you have a job and finances in order but it’s so rewarding. I have really been loving it and going to move to another new city in December. It’s okay to be alone and you learn so much about yourself. I totally understand how you must feel. Why don’t you try booking an Air BnB in the area you are interested in for 2-3 months to get a feel for it. That way you can get a better understanding of what it’s like for you. I wish you all the luck!

  • @ramune_flowers
    @ramune_flowers Před 7 měsíci +12

    I‘m in the 4th month abroad now and I’m struggling so hard. Thanks for the calming video.

  • @joshuaherring1711
    @joshuaherring1711 Před 4 měsíci +4

    As a person that restarted/moved 4 times so far, these are great tips!

  • @ngoquynhbopj
    @ngoquynhbopj Před rokem +7

    Love when you deal with the frighten of studying abroad and being alone in such a direct and honest way. I also gonna study abroad this Aug and your videos make me less frightened about going to a new country with tons of new things and stresses. ❤❤❤

  • @jakelennon6057
    @jakelennon6057 Před rokem +5

    What a beautiful soul :) Thankyou for taking the time to articulate so well a difficult time in people's lives and giving people understanding, support and action plans, bravo :)

  • @cariwalker7549
    @cariwalker7549 Před rokem +8

    I’m 32 and have always lived with my mom and so has my brother. Right now I’m living with my mom, my brother, his wife and 2 kids, and my sister-in-law’s niece. It’s hard. It’s really hard. And I hate my job and there isn’t anything to do in my town because it’s going downhill. So I’m planning on trying to get a new job in a city about an hour and a half away and getting my own place. The reason I am choosing this specific city is because I do have family there. I have aunts and uncles and cousins there that used to live in my hometown but moved years ago and who I only saw on thanksgiving and Christmas until they got married and had kids and then there was wedding and baby showers and birthdays. But still, I don’t have much of a relationship with them as I wish I did. But I wanted to move somewhere new away from my current stress where I don’t know anyone except for a handful of family members. Currently in the process of looking for a job now! Wish me luck! 😁👍🏻 hoping to get closer to my family while living there and make at least 1 close friend and maybe date. I know it’s gonna be so scary but I’m also excited at the same time. So many pros and cons of me staying in my hometown but moving out and getting a new job or getting completely out of my comfort zone and trying new things

  • @kylarose9025
    @kylarose9025 Před rokem +5

    You are so comforting and relatable basically thank you for existing :-)

  • @heartfillialucy2041
    @heartfillialucy2041 Před 9 měsíci +3

    Watching your videos really makes me feel like it is not just me who feels this way. It is a big move and for a couple of days I have been in constant emotion rollercoaster of feeling excited but also crisis 😂😂

  • @summer5779
    @summer5779 Před měsícem +1

    Seriously needed to hear this. Thank you for posting

  • @bubblegumplop9511
    @bubblegumplop9511 Před 8 měsíci +4

    I was having an existential crisis a while back since i'm moving away from home for med school and I could not be more terrified, but watching this video really helped calm me down. I can't thank you enough for this

  • @rebeccasrandomness3045
    @rebeccasrandomness3045 Před rokem +2

    These are some great tips and I love that you are so openly sharing from your experiences

  • @oliviaremak7071
    @oliviaremak7071 Před 18 dny

    This has been so reassuring for me! I’m doing a major cross country move totally by myself to a new city for school where I know NO ONE and I’ve been so anxious about it.

  • @Insert_Smiley29
    @Insert_Smiley29 Před měsícem

    Thanks for the video! I’ve struggled with isolation most of my teen years and I didn’t do great in school, but now I’m looking into LA film school which is all the way in California (I’m a Wisconsin girly)- but I’m really pushing for this because it’s something I really really wanna do but it’s just so intimidating! ❤

  • @misosoupbaby
    @misosoupbaby Před rokem

    Thank you for making this!! 🥹

  • @CallMeSummers
    @CallMeSummers Před měsícem

    Earned a sub! Needed this advice, got offered a job in the East Coast. Gonna be alone in a new city, keep it up!

  • @Unique247official
    @Unique247official Před měsícem

    This exactly what I been needing to do excited it’s coming close, to get away from the toxicity in my hometown

  • @hannahpeeples6737
    @hannahpeeples6737 Před rokem +6

    I'm studying abroad at the University of Edinburgh this fall and was just worried about loneliness and these concepts yesterday! Thank you!

  • @udays6170
    @udays6170 Před rokem +2

    I scrolled down to look at the comments, which is when I realised that this video was posted a couple of hours ago! I'm moving to the US soon, really excited :)

  • @laily1981
    @laily1981 Před rokem +2

    Watching this from France where i am currently studying abroad! Thanks for the tips :) I agree that the first week can be the hardest, I remember being very homesick but once school started and I made some friends I felt much better.

  • @photoniccannon2117
    @photoniccannon2117 Před 7 měsíci

    Your personality is A+, made my day 😂

  • @jpg.
    @jpg. Před rokem +1

    I appreciate this video. I am about to graduate from university and move to a new city all by myself. I am excited about the opportunity but am certainly anxious about how I will meet new people. I worked this past summer in a different city all by myself, however I wasn’t too worried about it as I was coming back to school where my girlfriend, friends and family were. Now I don’t have the comfort of knowing that it is temporary, so I am worried. Hopefully I can use some of these suggestions and can make it through haha.

  • @viiyaxyz
    @viiyaxyz Před rokem

    I'm about to move to Malaysia for University all on my own so I've just been mentally preparing myself for whatever I will face. And get as many tips n advice so thank you sm for this video it helped :)

  • @Trooperos90
    @Trooperos90 Před měsícem

    Awesome vid and personality;) u are so unique.

  • @SungHatonn0
    @SungHatonn0 Před 20 dny

    Thank you 💙🙏🏽

  • @Lonebadger567
    @Lonebadger567 Před rokem +3

    Thanks for sharing. Thinking about moving to Nashville to pursue a music career. The thought of it is scary and exciting at the same time. But I feel burnt out in my hometown and I need to go after my passion and purpose.

    • @pansexualdickhaver6878
      @pansexualdickhaver6878 Před 11 měsíci

      As a born and raised nashvillian, we welcome you,friend. We have a ton of out of towners moving here so should be pretty easy to find people to become cool with that relate to your experience. And there’s obv plenty of places to perform your music lol if you have any questions on the city,feel free to ask

    • @facelesssinger2134
      @facelesssinger2134 Před 3 měsíci

      I live in Nashville, it's mostly connects that'll get you far. There is wayyy to many homeless here and it's depressing

  • @seeco1017
    @seeco1017 Před rokem +2

    Needed this, moving to Portland Oregon tomorrow and I am anxiousss

  • @TheApothecary_
    @TheApothecary_ Před 7 měsíci

    You are not alone !

  • @Kolia_1959
    @Kolia_1959 Před rokem +4

    I'm a Colombian exchange student in Indonesia for 1 year, I'm in my 6th month, and I'm feeling like shit with myself. I watched full two of your videos and, I don't know why, but they make me feel less worse. Thanks, maybe I'll watch the others. :)

  • @BenTheBot
    @BenTheBot Před rokem +6

    Thank you for this video. Moving to an entirely different state in a couple days, and I’m very excited but also kind of nervous to be in a place where I have no connections. It’s gonna be all about making new friends, lol

    • @dumpsta-divrr365
      @dumpsta-divrr365 Před rokem +1

      Good luck ben!!

    • @BenTheBot
      @BenTheBot Před rokem +1

      @@dumpsta-divrr365 Thank you!! I’ve been in Atlanta for 6 days now and it’s been great so far!

    • @playdate8827
      @playdate8827 Před 10 měsíci +1

      @@BenTheBotmade new friends?

    • @kyleekroh2181
      @kyleekroh2181 Před 3 měsíci

      Update?

  • @Foxuniverso
    @Foxuniverso Před rokem +1

    Lately ive bwen feeling a bit down by things in my life and i consider at times moving to a small town. My fam is not up for it, and i dont even have a plan lol. But when i actually think about it i feel relaxed but when i visualize my life there and how it'll be with new friends and stuff, idk why, but i feel pretty anxious. Id miss where i live now pretty badly tbh...

  • @user-pe3by3bc4e
    @user-pe3by3bc4e Před 3 měsíci

    Moved to the US. Really appreciate this as I am in the questioning week. 😢

  • @emiliapaul1916
    @emiliapaul1916 Před 9 měsíci

    I moved to a new city for the first time in my life and ofc the first time is the biggest because I moved abroad. I moved to live with my long distance boyfriend (and to go to uni) so I had a built-in best friend who already lived here for a year and took care of all the stressful things (he even found me a job). I’ve been here for 1,5 month and he went back to our home country to visit family and I stayed here. Alone. Without any friends. I feel so alone but the thought that I am going to meet people once the academic year starts makes me hopeful in all of the moments when I go insane for a second and think that it’s going to be like this for the rest of my life.

  • @amandabrandt3471
    @amandabrandt3471 Před 10 měsíci +8

    it's so true that if you have your basic needs like sleep and nutrition covered, you're so much better equipped to exist in an entirely new place

  • @AnlStarDestroyer
    @AnlStarDestroyer Před rokem +1

    I’m actually moving to DC next month and I’m terrified. I’m scared of losing my current friends and not making new ones there and so many other things

  • @joanna3083
    @joanna3083 Před 7 měsíci

    Hi I'm just in the 3 months crisis and wow thanks I just feel I really needed normalization of unknown cause I have similar striving for perfect figured out life. Haha I was lookinng for super specific adivices but having fun, sleep and good sadwinth may help

  • @Nahimana.219
    @Nahimana.219 Před 8 měsíci

    Interesting how I came across this video, because I’m fresh out of the military, back in cosmetology school and plan on moving from Georgia to Texas, I have family there but I’ve never met any of them so I’m technically going to move there along

  • @bp3108
    @bp3108 Před 11 měsíci +3

    Hello,
    Move abroad for a short time. I am from Ecuador, South America. The fact that I move to Japan was a total cultural change. Want to remind everyone how strong and brave we are to move far from home. It is okay to feel all this emotions and you are no alone. I can tell you that it is hard, but as a phrase I like to repeat rain it is not permanent and sun will always comes up. Best advice if you feel any emotion start to learn to feel the emotion and let it go. Do not keep the emotions in you because some of them will get together and one day explode. Also there are always good people that will help you and show you that kindness still exist and that will help you through your journey.

    • @horseconfused
      @horseconfused Před 6 měsíci

      I am Ecuadorian too, and i also happen to be moving to Japan
      I am so close to my family and already have mental issues so I’m scared for my future self when i move, im going to Osaka institute of Fashion for 4 years and possibly permanently afterwards…
      Me da mucho miedo porque yo me conozco y yo sé que definitivamente me voy a deprimir pero tengo que estar preparada para eso porque, bueno mi sueño desde chiquita era mudarme a Japón, no sé cual es tu caso amigo pero, a pesar de todo esto, yo sé que lo lograre, y en cambio, tú también lo lograrás.
      Abrazos

  • @mebjones83
    @mebjones83 Před 8 měsíci

    Great video! “Or maybe your normal, and that’s fine.” 🤣

  • @mirandasara104
    @mirandasara104 Před 2 měsíci

    It's one of those days. I just moved across the country

  • @RickyPetersen
    @RickyPetersen Před 8 měsíci +1

    That beans egg bread combo is crazy lol

  • @user-jf4bq8bw5n
    @user-jf4bq8bw5n Před 9 měsíci

    We’re alike in so many ways

  • @wendyortiz736
    @wendyortiz736 Před rokem

    Thanks

  • @user-ex8qq3ts6m
    @user-ex8qq3ts6m Před 8 měsíci

    I'm looking forward c🎉

  • @lokitori2542
    @lokitori2542 Před rokem +1

    I ❤love you already when I hear you said
    “50% of the problems can be solved with a good night sleep and a sandwich 🥪 “ 😂

  • @jiemanoshyoung5415
    @jiemanoshyoung5415 Před rokem

    I think humen really need to social,but not staying in alone.

  • @nataliemores
    @nataliemores Před 19 dny

    i thought there was a bug on your wall ....but it was on my computer screen

  • @Akanchwua
    @Akanchwua Před 2 měsíci

    P.s please come to Bristol so we can hang out :))))))

  • @LittlePilangton
    @LittlePilangton Před 2 měsíci

    WELL I'M ABOUT TO MOVE TO EUROPE WITH A SCHOLARSHIP ! i might be tiny scared because i have to get ready 😭

  • @coznow
    @coznow Před 11 měsíci +1

    I'm moving to a new city for grad school this fall and I'm so scared I'm not going to make any friends :( I don't know a single person there

  • @elainegozum6360
    @elainegozum6360 Před 10 měsíci

    hi, I'm thinking about transferring in another county, but like how, like how do I survive? for example, I don't have that much money, and I want to apply for a job.

    • @elainegozum6360
      @elainegozum6360 Před 10 měsíci

      I'm 17, turning 18 next yr and I'm trynna run away lmao

  • @walou3917
    @walou3917 Před 10 měsíci

    i wanna move but dont have a car, should i get one in my current state or wait till i get to where im moving and get it in that state? (plan on leasing)

    • @EmpathAwaken
      @EmpathAwaken Před měsícem

      Get it in the state you're moving to because you will have to pay for your plates and registration twice if you get it in your current state. Also, when are you moving?

  • @AryendraMakesMusic
    @AryendraMakesMusic Před 3 měsíci

    you are literally me

  • @melisatel
    @melisatel Před rokem

    ♡♡♡

  • @akshathag8526
    @akshathag8526 Před 10 měsíci

    Cheryl crow

  • @user-ex8qq3ts6m
    @user-ex8qq3ts6m Před 8 měsíci

    🎉❤

  • @Axel1Axel2Axel
    @Axel1Axel2Axel Před 20 dny

    all ive taken from this is that you really like sandwhiches

  • @Korre84
    @Korre84 Před 8 měsíci

    Charleston?! No no no. You "visit" Charleston. You LIVE in Columbia or Greenville and you VISIT Charleston from time to time.

  • @musselmanmedia5236
    @musselmanmedia5236 Před 5 měsíci +1

    girls can move to a new city and get a bf within a month.....

    • @Embearr
      @Embearr Před 2 měsíci

      we’re not trying to get murdered

  • @TheChoice2121
    @TheChoice2121 Před 10 měsíci +2

    Someone likes sandwiches

  • @haggle196
    @haggle196 Před 2 dny

    go to the church and socialize brev