My husband of 33 years, decided to “come clean” about his transactionship with babe (the wh0re of Havasu), all this while moving states, dealing with his cancer …and of course as soon as his cancer spread in what turned out to be his final four months, he came back so I could take care of him. That was the worst couple years of my life and I almost didn’t make it. I had to grieve what I thought my life was, grieve the marriage, grieve the death…it took a full year to stop waking up at 4 am, stop the constant ruminating, stop the fear and uncertainty…BUT, I’m here to say that was almost 2 years ago now and I’m doing great!!! I found a great therapist, kept myself busy and moving forward every day and started to live again. Freedom is a great feeling. I don’t wish harm on anyone but I say, may people like Miss Amanda get exactly what they deserve…AND, your videos helped me a lot!
I am so grateful to you for sharing your story with me and the community. May it inspire others and bring them hope of getting through this devastating crisis. 💕
@@KristinSnowden yes…this is exactly what helped me, people like you(and the community, basically survivors) with their experience of surviving to thriving. I think once you realize the person you trusted the most is a poser, it’s much easier to untangle yourself with logic, rather than emotion. I’m grateful to be out of that vortex of chaos, I do things to please myself, surround myself with authentic people and work on myself. Journaling has been wonderful because it’s concrete evidence of all the good and positive changes. Every day progress, the key is not to give up. Life after being enslaved for decades is FAN FREAKNG TASTIC!!!!!!!!
I caught my wife cheating on me 17 years ago. For complicated reasons, I never really dealt with the trauma at the time, and in fact never even considered the possibility that I had experienced trauma until learning about betrayal trauma very recently. I found that I would have an extremely strong stress reaction when hearing about other people who had been cheated on. In just the last few months, I've been practicing a kind of exposure/CBT therapy in which I've finally been confronting long-buried feelings. The saying 'time heals all wounds' is naively false, as it stands. It amazes me how raw a 17-year old wound can be when it wasn't adequately treated at the time, and how it can still be addressed.
Glad you're able to identify untreated wounds now and process through them. Betrayal trauma is very, very real. I wish you the best on your journey toward healing.
I can relate, my husband cheated on me about 13 years ago. I recently realized that I never dealt with the trauma at the time. This happened multiple times with random people. What was worse, the women were much younger than me. Looking back, I never even thought that this was happening at the time. When I learned about it, I confronted him. Then came the Sherlock Holmes, the admissions, the rationalisation. Talking about it now, he still has 'very good reasons ' for doing what he did. The videos I've watched thus far, is helping me put my feelings and reactions into perspective. I don't feel safe with him, after all these years. I'm ready to deal with this and get the help I need.
What is the name of the 12-step group you recommend for a betrayed partner? I was a bit confused on your website in the free resource section. Maybe I’m not finding it? There is nothing on betrayal trauma there. Please share link, I could really use some help ❤
Hi. Any free group on sexandrelationshiphealing.com and Prodependence anonymous. Sometimes Alanon is helpful as well, as it’s for people who love/live with an addict.
Hi. My private practice is full but I hold regular, small groups. I’m always posting new ones. My next one is a 6 week session starting March 4. www.kristinsnowden.com/live-workshops join my mailing list for updates.
My husband of 33 years, decided to “come clean” about his transactionship with babe (the wh0re of Havasu), all this while moving states, dealing with his cancer …and of course as soon as his cancer spread in what turned out to be his final four months, he came back so I could take care of him. That was the worst couple years of my life and I almost didn’t make it. I had to grieve what I thought my life was, grieve the marriage, grieve the death…it took a full year to stop waking up at 4 am, stop the constant ruminating, stop the fear and uncertainty…BUT, I’m here to say that was almost 2 years ago now and I’m doing great!!! I found a great therapist, kept myself busy and moving forward every day and started to live again. Freedom is a great feeling. I don’t wish harm on anyone but I say, may people like Miss Amanda get exactly what they deserve…AND, your videos helped me a lot!
I am so grateful to you for sharing your story with me and the community. May it inspire others and bring them hope of getting through this devastating crisis. 💕
@@KristinSnowden yes…this is exactly what helped me, people like you(and the community, basically survivors) with their experience of surviving to thriving. I think once you realize the person you trusted the most is a poser, it’s much easier to untangle yourself with logic, rather than emotion. I’m grateful to be out of that vortex of chaos, I do things to please myself, surround myself with authentic people and work on myself. Journaling has been wonderful because it’s concrete evidence of all the good and positive changes. Every day progress, the key is not to give up. Life after being enslaved for decades is FAN FREAKNG TASTIC!!!!!!!!
I caught my wife cheating on me 17 years ago. For complicated reasons, I never really dealt with the trauma at the time, and in fact never even considered the possibility that I had experienced trauma until learning about betrayal trauma very recently. I found that I would have an extremely strong stress reaction when hearing about other people who had been cheated on. In just the last few months, I've been practicing a kind of exposure/CBT therapy in which I've finally been confronting long-buried feelings. The saying 'time heals all wounds' is naively false, as it stands. It amazes me how raw a 17-year old wound can be when it wasn't adequately treated at the time, and how it can still be addressed.
Glad you're able to identify untreated wounds now and process through them. Betrayal trauma is very, very real. I wish you the best on your journey toward healing.
I can relate, my husband cheated on me about 13 years ago. I recently realized that I never dealt with the trauma at the time. This happened multiple times with random people. What was worse, the women were much younger than me. Looking back, I never even thought that this was happening at the time. When I learned about it, I confronted him. Then came the Sherlock Holmes, the admissions, the rationalisation. Talking about it now, he still has 'very good reasons ' for doing what he did. The videos I've watched thus far, is helping me put my feelings and reactions into perspective. I don't feel safe with him, after all these years. I'm ready to deal with this and get the help I need.
You are are great therepist thank you so much God bless you .
Makes complete sense. Still awful situation to be in
Thank you!
From someone who was cheated on you are a Godsend
You're amazing! Thanks for making me feel not alone.
You are definitely not alone
Excellent explanation
Glad you think so!
Thank you , very helpful 🙏🏻 can you please put a link to videos you refer to in the text ?
I had to move out of state to get out of the fight flight mode it did the trick
What is the name of the 12-step group you recommend for a betrayed partner? I was a bit confused on your website in the free resource section. Maybe I’m not finding it? There is nothing on betrayal trauma there. Please share link, I could really use some help ❤
Hi. Any free group on sexandrelationshiphealing.com and Prodependence anonymous. Sometimes Alanon is helpful as well, as it’s for people who love/live with an addict.
Do you still have patients? And do it virtually??
Hi. My private practice is full but I hold regular, small groups. I’m always posting new ones. My next one is a 6 week session starting March 4. www.kristinsnowden.com/live-workshops join my mailing list for updates.
These small groups are live but virtual. www.kristinsnowden.com/live-workshops
How can o join your group
I have groups on my website and sexandrelationshiphealing.com also has a ton of groups.
You are are great therepist thank you so much God bless you .
Thank you for your kind comments.