What is Love - scientifically? | Dr. Liat Yakir | TEDxEilat

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  • Millions of songs, tales, books, films were written about it. It's created and vanished every second, throwing women and men into an emotional swirl - 'Love'.
    But what love exactly is - Scientifically? How is it created in our brains? Why it occupies our minds so much? How do we choose the one, and the next one…? What our genes tells us about parity? Is it built to last?
    During our talk we will answer these questions by reviewing cutting edge scientific research on love and parity. Armed with the fascinating scientific insights we will try to predict how human love and parity patterns will change in the future - changes that are already taking place right now.
    Liat holds a Ph.D. from the Molecular Genetics Department at the Weizmann Institute of Science in Rehovot. Her research interests include topics in biochemistry, genetics and evolution. Today she is passionate about science communication and science education for the benefit of society. In addition, she studies the evolutionary roots of human behaviors, in its female and male colors.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

Komentáře • 254

  • @squamish4244
    @squamish4244 Před 6 lety +60

    Knowing that love is just a bunch of chemicals doesn't diminish the mystery or the romance, because the romance is in the actual conscious experience of love, which is like explaining what a sunset looks like or what the wind on your face feels like. We can explain those things scientifically too, but that doesn't take away from their power.

  • @johnpierson1335
    @johnpierson1335 Před 7 lety +196

    "Listen Morty, what people call love, it's just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits you hard, and then it slowly fades. Leaving you stranded in a failing marriage." - Rick Sanchez

    • @jonathanlawrence2249
      @jonathanlawrence2249 Před 2 lety +4

      Instablaster

    • @artofmybody2882
      @artofmybody2882 Před 2 lety

      Amazing

    • @burcopresents
      @burcopresents Před 2 lety +5

      “We love people who have died” - Amelia Brand

    • @moro653
      @moro653 Před 4 měsíci

      Exactly👌​@PrinceKoopa

    • @moro653
      @moro653 Před 4 měsíci +1

      I object that quote ,true love exists if both partners are willing to build together their life with care ,understanding each other etc.. As well as holding the responsibility and take the bitter with the sweet.

  • @Filemon610
    @Filemon610 Před 7 lety +422

    Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me no more.

    • @J0KIT0KI
      @J0KIT0KI Před 7 lety +5

      Trpajs dammit 4 minutes to late

    • @Frodli89
      @Frodli89 Před 7 lety +10

      I expected comment like this :D

    • @OttomateK
      @OttomateK Před 7 lety +2

      43 minuttes too late

    • @lcfreiree
      @lcfreiree Před 7 lety +21

      The reason why i clicked in this video haha

    • @search895
      @search895 Před 7 lety +6

      Trpajs Oh I knew I wasnt the only one.

  • @MichaelAlexander1967
    @MichaelAlexander1967 Před 4 lety +19

    You make a great case for equality, & your data is very compelling & interesting. Thanks for such a scholarly talk that supports & unravels some of the nuances of creations greatest gift - love.

  • @north_star8
    @north_star8 Před 2 lety +14

    Very good presentation and smart woman. My beliefs are being challenged all the time by the knowledge I seek and I'm happy to have found this. Sick of being ruled by too many emotions and overthinking. Education is truly invaluable.

  • @jshir17
    @jshir17 Před 5 lety +28

    there is no such 'thing' as Love. There are only acts of love and people who are loving.

  • @JorgenLePoulpe
    @JorgenLePoulpe Před 7 lety +163

    Just came for the "baby don't hurt me no more" comments, I'm already out

  • @monks311
    @monks311 Před 7 lety +22

    what is love
    Baby don't hurt me
    scientifically
    No more!

  • @starlightwhispers6781
    @starlightwhispers6781 Před 2 lety +4

    I like how it starts off with biology and ends with very important and essential boundaries within society (e.g economy)

  • @thog8090
    @thog8090 Před 7 lety +19

    Interesting lecture, but I do have some doubts. For one, I got the hunch that a polygamist society will be far more volatile; reason being, young men with lots of testosterone who want to find a female. It could be a bit unstable so to speak. Nor do I completely know how it would be for the kid. Having said that, the "natural" thing, if you can use such a term, is that a child is taken care of by society. By that I mean not the state, but the extended family like uncles grandparents and further. In current society where moving is an easy thing, you don't have the option.
    This is just brainstorming by me, and not fixed ideas.

  • @byronloves7472
    @byronloves7472 Před 5 lety +10

    This is what you get when you think Love is a feeling... you get all this jumbo of evolution... Love is a choice. It’s choosing to do what’s best for someone else without regard for yourself. God is Love

  • @jamil19
    @jamil19 Před 2 lety +8

    Excellent talk.... nature always wins at the end.

    • @jamessidis4298
      @jamessidis4298 Před 2 lety

      We're machines, programmed by selfish molecules called genes 💀 those words

  • @philippehenryifabrejesuset2538

    GOD IS LOVE BUT BEYOND IT AS WELL..

  • @TheMagodana
    @TheMagodana Před 5 lety +6

    Love is not quantifiable by science., so as lust, As a result, the two are confused. Especially modest lust vs obvious extreem lust which are driven by a series of chemical bonds and interactions. It's sad that most often, people fall in lust to each other and think they are in love with each other, when things go wrong, they are inclined to try address the non existing problem. . . With that said, Love is far beyond the physical bonds and has more to do with a consistant /permanent choice to put the other person first instead on oneself.

  • @rudiadams9771
    @rudiadams9771 Před 7 lety +10

    17:08 on the verge of a paradigm shift. The day the power of love overrules the love of power the world know peace

    • @Colonelgames
      @Colonelgames Před 4 lety +1

      For real. Hendrix was a prophet from God man

  • @cosmic_snot
    @cosmic_snot Před 7 lety +2

    Great talk! Thank you.

  • @sharayutravels
    @sharayutravels Před 3 lety +1

    Excellent talk about illusion of love

  • @dhjun6211
    @dhjun6211 Před 7 lety +9

    We just are breeding machines, and it won't change from one day to another. But we can decide what we want as we are no longer slaves to out genes. Our biology however is still an enormous part of us.

  • @MsTemekiaPowell
    @MsTemekiaPowell Před 7 lety +4

    Thank you for this prefect self reflection and deeper understanding. I Am now going to learn more about this doctor and her unfoldings.

  • @iunnbrynveig3309
    @iunnbrynveig3309 Před 6 lety +17

    Great talk. I wonder what birds think of us and rabbits.

  • @ibrathebadboy3650
    @ibrathebadboy3650 Před 7 lety +30

    Love is scientifically and everything else is the permission to have sex,no one can argue with that.

  • @antonioalvarado7594
    @antonioalvarado7594 Před 4 lety +22

    Just wasted 19 minutes listening to a divorced woman pushing dna-bound polygamy, saying monogamy is for peasants. That's 2019 for you.

    • @anthony8385
      @anthony8385 Před 2 lety +2

      Yep, sounds like another person making excuses for bad behavior

    • @michellerahn
      @michellerahn Před 5 měsíci

      Do you have a better idea?

  • @panda59043
    @panda59043 Před 5 lety +4

    Drinking speeds up this process ❤️

  • @Seximann
    @Seximann Před 7 lety +10

    This woman is sooo cute!

  • @kelsnake
    @kelsnake Před 4 měsíci

    What if there is a perspective yet not revealed? One that takes into your facts but one that makes wayyyyyyy better sense. I wish I had the space to explain it to you.

  • @ingihafsteinsson
    @ingihafsteinsson Před 2 lety +1

    this kind of concludes that we are material beings, witch we are not and will never be. We are spirits and inhabit this dimension. We are the one being on Earth who can change everything about our minds, control how we precede the world, control our fears, become spirits of love, yes my friend you can create the future.

  • @KeKKi
    @KeKKi Před 7 lety +6

    "Not the one on the bench..." *silence*

  • @bboypepa
    @bboypepa Před 7 lety

    didn't saw that conclussion coming at the end

  • @fandomvids4513
    @fandomvids4513 Před 7 lety +4

    Nepal bata Khoii xau..??

  • @teamjesus7087
    @teamjesus7087 Před rokem

    "Love is real, real is love Love is feeling, feeling love Love is wanting to be loved.
    [Verse 2]
    Love is touch, touch is love Love is reaching, reaching love Love is asking to be loved." John Lennon

  • @laraoneal7284
    @laraoneal7284 Před 7 lety +1

    What is the "baby don't hurt me " reference?

  • @RillianGrant
    @RillianGrant Před 5 lety +3

    You can tell that it is the future because there are memes referenced in serious scientific talks.

  • @c.brownell8618
    @c.brownell8618 Před rokem +1

    I wish I had known this fifty years ago!

  • @chuckdog7935
    @chuckdog7935 Před 5 lety

    Thx you

  • @kirandora8010
    @kirandora8010 Před 11 měsíci +1

    I think love is endless emotion

  • @enzantakeshita8838
    @enzantakeshita8838 Před 7 lety

    I was so upset that this video didn't open up with the song, or even a slight reference to it

  • @rogersthilaire8179
    @rogersthilaire8179 Před 7 lety +17

    Despite the errors in contextualizing the information, she still arrived a reasonable truth. That is all this is controlled by the Will. So therefore choose.

    • @billrodriguez7561
      @billrodriguez7561 Před 7 lety +2

      Although the creation order is hidden by flawed options evident in an out of order world. We will see women play a much needed greater role in the sea of humanity as the creation order slowly reappears. Good chat. Live well smart lady

    • @AlricoAmona98
      @AlricoAmona98 Před 2 lety

      cool story bro

  • @2011work2008
    @2011work2008 Před 5 lety +15

    Simple you want to know what LOVE is?
    “We love God because he first loved us” (1 John 4:19). God is the first cause of all that is good and right in the world. Wherever and whenever love exists on earth, it only exists because it is a reflection of God's perfect love that created us and sustains us. The Bible also teaches that “God is love ❤️
    The Bible has a lot to say about the bonds of love and devotion. ... 1 Corinthians 13:4-5:
    “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."
    That’s love ❤️

    • @Xarkom89
      @Xarkom89 Před 4 lety

      Eh people have killed because of love. :P

  • @0Emster0
    @0Emster0 Před 7 lety +1

    i would love to meet this woman

  • @thumosforlife3396
    @thumosforlife3396 Před 7 lety +3

    Love has several elements but they must be discharged all at once. “A grilled cheese sandwich is a dish that requires at least two elements, bread and cheese. Without either element, we cannot make the dish. Likewise, if your action did not include all the elements of love, then you did not love properly.” The book, Thumos Adulthood Love Collaboration, by Mark Canny and Nickantony Quach, gives us “a direct, practical, and cogent answer to the following questions without resorting to gimmickry: what is love? What is it made of; how does it work; is there an expected outcome; how do we discharge the power of love; who does or does not love me; who do I love?” More at Ri4C Book 701, or #thumosbook

  • @alfiecollins5617
    @alfiecollins5617 Před 5 lety +10

    Love is the only reality

  • @v0ider852
    @v0ider852 Před 7 lety +3

    sorry I disagree, just cause you find some gene in those two similar species who mates differently doesn't mean it(gene) are related to mating. Anyone who has a scientific background could judge this. It is extremely hard to tell what gene is responsible for what. It's just like an excuse to justify such behaviours.

  • @lucid_gabe
    @lucid_gabe Před 4 lety +3

    guess that’s why they call em “love birds”

  • @filonin2
    @filonin2 Před 7 lety +8

    Me? Him? Me? Him? You? Us?

  • @branbeelotus
    @branbeelotus Před 7 lety +18

    Can love really be explained scientifically ?

    • @grumpfieldthecat4652
      @grumpfieldthecat4652 Před 6 lety +6

      You. Do you feel that oneness when you are asleep? If not then this is just another illusion of the mind. Some say when a lie is repeated a hundred of times it will feel like a truth.

    • @mazlumcelik891
      @mazlumcelik891 Před 2 lety +2

      The goal of this video was trying to explain that and now you ruined it

    • @michellerahn
      @michellerahn Před 5 měsíci

      Is there any other explanation?

  • @chucksl21
    @chucksl21 Před 5 lety +1

    Not honoring the Creator of Marriage and originator of love is what leads many to divorce. Evolution doesnt account for joy, sadness or laughter. I learned growing to beware love advice from people who have failed at love and marriage.

  • @franciscocriollo2648
    @franciscocriollo2648 Před 7 lety +8

    Haddaway can explain this.

  • @nokoolaid
    @nokoolaid Před 7 lety +31

    Sounds like she's trying to make a case for her own behavior.

  • @georgeadair3325
    @georgeadair3325 Před 6 měsíci

    Do you know what unconditional love is ? Do you know you have to let go to grow in life

  • @jardolph4681
    @jardolph4681 Před 6 lety +1

    ...
    TED is pretty well defined Programing
    ANYBODY can get up an adlib a TEDx, and this is for sure an "x", she is winging it,

  • @yafavbrujita762
    @yafavbrujita762 Před 5 lety +2

    So statistically speaking.. once women started having Voices, self respect and no longer were barefoot pregnant in the kitchen divorce rates became high. Got it.

  • @laraoneal7284
    @laraoneal7284 Před 7 lety +3

    What is the point of this vid. It seems very ambiguous.

  • @karanbhardwaj6931
    @karanbhardwaj6931 Před 2 lety

    Hi mam I Am in Love This was very HARD TO GET HER BUT SUCCESSFULY I GOT HER...
    I WILL assure I will never Leave HER hand in My life ...
    AND The name Of my Only love is🥰
    [ BIOLOGY ] ❤️💙

  • @googleuser1225
    @googleuser1225 Před 5 lety +2

    Loving hurts

  • @adamrainey4633
    @adamrainey4633 Před 6 lety +4

    Funny how she doesn't mention the cause of her divorces...

    • @Kevin-jc1fx
      @Kevin-jc1fx Před 3 lety +2

      Certainly not the fact that she got married without better reasons than temporary fuzzy feelings in the stomach.
      You know how it goes. Whatever goes wrong, there is always a gene 🧬 you can blame. 😂

  • @FrederickFNNoronha
    @FrederickFNNoronha Před 6 lety +1

    Interesting insights. But Dr Yakir talks as if the planet would be able to cope with all the needs, wants and demands of the human species. Where do all the resources come from to support all those single-parent families?

  • @princesswendylucarcarillo3154

    LOVE IS JUST A CHEMICAL REACTION FROM OUR BRAIN

    • @Xarkom89
      @Xarkom89 Před 4 lety +8

      As is everything else, what's your point?

    • @hamzaabou4821
      @hamzaabou4821 Před 3 lety +2

      Every emotion is that case lol hh

  • @BeaveHolio
    @BeaveHolio Před 7 lety +2

    Polygamy is rare up until farming happened and for some reason these systems totally collapsed later into monogamy, cheating is common but polygamy is practically non existent even in cultures that don't have a taboo against it. Also the bottom ranking incas probably had 0 women or 1 woman between multiple men although what probably happened was a lot of the concubines cheated with the lower status men but that is conjecture.

    • @jamesblack9499
      @jamesblack9499 Před 5 lety +1

      like our culture many low status men are single

  • @alexanderg8466
    @alexanderg8466 Před 5 lety +1

    this video was a relief.. Don't sk me why :v lol

  • @sonnyandreotte5451
    @sonnyandreotte5451 Před 7 lety +3

    obviously this woman has never heard of mgtow.
    go ur own men, go ur own way.

  • @filonin2
    @filonin2 Před 7 lety +1

    I broke the window again!

  • @jarfuloflove7320
    @jarfuloflove7320 Před 7 lety +25

    Long story short: single mother scientist envisions a future social order oriented to funneling resources to single mothers.

    • @FrederickFNNoronha
      @FrederickFNNoronha Před 6 lety +3

      The guys are going to take it as a justification for promiscuity, while the women are going to read it as "funnelling resources to single mothers". Yay! Happiness all round... Dr Yakir achieves the impossible; and that too, with science.

    • @jamesblack9499
      @jamesblack9499 Před 5 lety

      most single mums are not scientist ....they are ummm below average it is not in the communities interest to encourage single mums

  • @TheSilvereyeChannel
    @TheSilvereyeChannel Před 7 lety +8

    I have to say I like it this is actually very interesting

  • @rmanobalaji6475
    @rmanobalaji6475 Před 8 měsíci

    1. It is in our gene to make our genes stay here.
    2. Monogamous is the only option for some creatures.
    3. Love hormone receptor

  • @rebecatrevino3837
    @rebecatrevino3837 Před 7 lety +11

    As we are not animals, it is our choice to stay and work at a relationship. And that is an everyday thing. Love is a choice.

    • @theworldisgreenerandgreener
      @theworldisgreenerandgreener Před 5 lety +1

      Yes, and she forgets humans have cultures, and cultures mold reality and ways of seeing and being in the world.

    • @jasonnadal9721
      @jasonnadal9721 Před 5 lety +3

      We are animals though. Duh.

    • @PatrickSteil
      @PatrickSteil Před 5 lety +3

      Agree! Love is a choice. We have much more advanced brains that any other animal species - one that can make rational (or irrational) choices. I believe strongly that the problem is more that people mix up love and attraction. I am married for almost 3 decades. I have occasional attractions to other people, but I choose every day to love and cherish my wife and the life we have built. The day I choose to spend time with someone I am attracted to I choose to love someone else and it all falls apart.
      To try and argue that humans would be better off practicing polygamy is ridiculous. Look at how deeply it hurts when one of our deep relationships is broken. Imagine a society filled with that. Science can't be used to tell us what to do. It explains how stuff works, not why or what to do about it.

  • @iony10
    @iony10 Před 5 lety +25

    Everything sounded good and interesting until she started spilling her ideology and opinions of "the new world order" at the end.

  • @terrorists-are-among-us
    @terrorists-are-among-us Před 3 lety +1

    What is this test called? I'm not joking.

  • @minejycraft4757
    @minejycraft4757 Před 2 měsíci

    I don't know... Something I have never experienced?

  • @MrGurushit
    @MrGurushit Před 5 lety +2

    Blind Science

  • @nischalparajuli9115
    @nischalparajuli9115 Před 5 lety

    From nepal

  • @nataliadourado8007
    @nataliadourado8007 Před 6 lety +2

    An answer to Twice's question haha

  • @BeaveHolio
    @BeaveHolio Před 7 lety +1

    We've been subsidizing female promiscuity for a while and it's only lead to disaster where its worked, but it mostly has not worked because most women are no like that.

  • @siyabongaximba1216
    @siyabongaximba1216 Před rokem

    Can we measure the level of "lies" 🤔 scientifically , if so , the court will have no trouble finding evidence

  • @Ka9radio_Mobile9
    @Ka9radio_Mobile9 Před 4 lety

    Play misty for me some one!

  • @joshuat5140
    @joshuat5140 Před 3 lety

    Always will believe love is god love can not scientifically explained I believe love is the most important thing in life love will cause you to do things you normally wouldn't and love will feel voids when alone to me love is life and everything beyond it because love is god

  • @ilhamben3464
    @ilhamben3464 Před 6 lety +2

    What's up with baby dont hurt me ni more imaoo lol

  • @__-cd9ug
    @__-cd9ug Před 7 lety +4

    Reading the comments here, you can easily notice that this isn't a TED Talk about originality.

  • @filonin2
    @filonin2 Před 7 lety +45

    Baby don't hurt me, no more!

  • @matthewnelson9809
    @matthewnelson9809 Před rokem

    IM A RECOVEREYU ADDICT AND FREASH OFF REHAD AND PAPER AND DONT WBT TO GO BACK WORD TOO MUCH LOVE MATT

  • @computerghost596
    @computerghost596 Před 7 lety

    BABY DONT HURT ME DONT HURT ME DONT HURT ME NO MORE (crowd goes wild)

  • @mohammedtaha6203
    @mohammedtaha6203 Před 7 lety +1

    so only jahngiz khan is the winner hhh

  • @thenewageriseth
    @thenewageriseth Před 4 lety

    Omg most of these comments are fuckin killin me! 😂

  • @metamorph3702
    @metamorph3702 Před 7 lety +61

    Baby don't hurt me
    Don't hurt me
    No more

    • @madcircle7311
      @madcircle7311 Před 6 lety

      Maria hah, just watched that before coming here

  • @storminmormn6283
    @storminmormn6283 Před rokem

    That ending sounded like a terribly written ending from a high school or college essay.
    Trying to tie up everything nicely but taking huge leaps in assumption and guessing without actually leaning on evidence or facts.

  • @OneRandomLeo
    @OneRandomLeo Před 2 lety +1

    To put my two cents in, I'd say to each their own. If you want to be monogamous, go ahead, as long as you are in agreement with your partner about it. But today's society is super controlling and pushes monogamy onto everyone, regardless. It's legally NOT possible to be married to two people at the same time at the moment, and THAT needs to change.

  • @happysunday4262
    @happysunday4262 Před 2 lety

    if you have problem with your own parents change parents, change BF , change husband, change religion, change nationality

  • @Javichuck
    @Javichuck Před 7 lety +1

    Resumen en español: Mujer despechada después de fracasar en su matrimonio 2 veces se inventa una TED talk de 20 min para que le den mas subvenciones como madre soltera

  • @AdamAtlanta404
    @AdamAtlanta404 Před rokem

    if being monogamous makes me the top 0.0001 % im all for it. makes me want it more

  • @mori.kurogawa7936
    @mori.kurogawa7936 Před 4 lety +1

    "Hey, hello there, handsome man... can I have your saliva sample, please?"

  • @EpicShermanTank
    @EpicShermanTank Před 7 lety

    fruit? no. bread? no. fruit and bread? probably not.

  • @MrMadhwal
    @MrMadhwal Před 7 lety +10

    Srsly No one, Baby dont hurt me.

  • @mikeandes2901
    @mikeandes2901 Před 4 měsíci

    Such a sad understanding of love

  • @thenewageriseth
    @thenewageriseth Před 4 lety +5

    Brotherly love and familial love and unconditional love are REAL.
    Romantic love is chemicals in the brain.

  • @Thesla6
    @Thesla6 Před 3 měsíci +1

    Lust my friends lust, flesh desires is all sin
    Have discipline and self control

  • @anthony8385
    @anthony8385 Před 2 lety

    Really promising evidence here. In other words enjoy yourself and blame your genes later on. I hope I don't see her vision of a perfect world come to pass. Ghandi's spiritual love is a different kind of love then her proposed biological one as well.

  • @user-yl9bv4vy1n
    @user-yl9bv4vy1n Před 6 lety

    Napal yeahhhhhhhh

  • @jayampandit4980
    @jayampandit4980 Před 3 lety

    Jayam

  • @fieryelf
    @fieryelf Před 6 lety +11

    Sounds like she's trying to rationalize her need to dump men left and right...

  • @bingliu3518
    @bingliu3518 Před 6 lety

    无聊 不自信 紧张 看的我快睡着了啊 然后只有结尾才说了关键点 前面都在说废话 我也是醉了

  • @RillianGrant
    @RillianGrant Před 5 lety +2

    "Last words to god" sorry what? Don't you go to heaven?