Sibling Grief | Meghan Gross | TEDxFortWayneStudio
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- čas přidán 21. 11. 2021
- When I was 3-weeks away from turning 13, my 7-year-old brother (my only brother), was hit by a car and died. My loving parents were trying to survive and I felt alone. No one could relate to my loss. Sure, people could attempt to understand the despair my parents felt, but putting themselves in the shoes of a 13-year-old girl? No one wanted to touch that with a 10-foot pole. People would call and ask me to tell my parents they were thinking of them. But what about me? It felt as if people thought my loss was lesser because it was my brother. As I’ve grown and had a family of my own, I’ve begun to understand more about sibling grief. My grief experience of loneliness and exclusion isn’t unique-there is an underwhelming number of resources for siblings- in fact, they are often called the “forgotten grievers.” I have a unique perspective on sibling loss. A common sibling loss story is one of cancer, suicide, or old age.
I am an actual sibling who has gone through this unique type of loss. I’m in a healthy place to help people feel seen and heard by talking about my experience and what helped me.
In an effort to help other siblings, I’ve started The Andrew Project as a way to create more resources for siblings. I’m currently writing a children's book and will be published in a compilation book published by DaySpring in the fall of this year. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
I’m 27 and I lost my 26 year old sister two weeks ago. People keep telling me to be there for my mom and to stay strong. I feel lost.
I'll soon lose my 23 brother, im 24, of cancer. I already feel the grief bc he is terminal. Life sucks but we can make it beautiful for others.
lost my brother last feb. hope you're doing okay...
I’m praying for you, and sending comforting and loving vibes your way. I am so very sorry for your loss my friend. When my brother was killed I kept hearing “how is so and so” doing? Like how I was feeling didn’t matter as much and then I felt really bad if I got too down and wasn’t trying to check up on my family all the time… my heart is with you and again I am very sorry for what you’re going through… if you have any inclination (not that you should) to talk to someone, I know in my area I was able to get free grief counseling through our local hospice office. Even though my brother wasn’t terminally ill, they still saw me and helped me for free… god bless and try to breathe..
I'm 32 & lost my 26 year old brother 3 weeks ago. It is so hard to live a normal life anymore. Feels like a part of my heart has been ripped out by force. My future with my brother, the dreams we had, have been crushed without warning. People keep telling me the same. I just want to talk to more & more people who are in a similar situation as I am. Been watching these videos on YT & they have been a little helpful but the smiling face of my brother & the thoughts of what could have been always fill up my eyes with tears. I love my brother & always will. I hope you do the same for your sister.
@@ragtagboyrebel I am so sorry. I’m almost 5 years out from losing my brother, and sometimes it still feels like it happened yesterday. It’s a pain that is indescribable. Thinking of you. I have just started counseling again, because it is helpful. I hope when you’re ready you can find a way to have some comfort as well. Bless you during this awful time.
I lost my 33 year old sister 8 months ago in a car accident. I miss her every single day and it gets harder and harder whenever someone says the word "sister".
I lost my big brother 10 years ago when I was 19 and he was only 24. To say that it is the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with would be a massive understatement. Looking back now, I spent a long time trying to figure out who I even was anymore without him. He was my big brother, the one I looked up to and the one who had all the answers. He was always there. Now I was all alone to fend for myself for the first time.
Not a day goes by that I don't miss him and wish he was still here. Holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries are still tough every year. What gets me the most is how much life I still have left to live without my brother and how many moments he will miss out on. That my kids won't know who their uncle was or have any of their own memories of or with him. What gets me through it is reminding myself how much of a gift life is and how fortunate we are for every single moment we get. I like to think I'm living for both of us now. Much love to everyone out there who gets it ❤
im 18 and i lost my 23 year old brother 2 months ago. reading all this felt like seeing someone voice my exact thoughts
i can so feel you...i lost my elder sister 1 month ago....i am so clueless...i am unable to process in my mind...sudden bus accident...the only jolliest person who always made me laugh has left me forever
i lost my brother when I was 13 he was 18 the night we had a “funeral” i was crying for the rest of the week non stop. People were saying “be strong” “take care of your parents” “i’m sorry for your loss” and even just that triggered me to ball
I lost my brother last year. His birthday is next week. The pain is crazy. I think about him everyday. I dream about him at night. When working, I just feel like quitting. Nothing in life matters . I miss him every second. The pain is unreal. I’m so sorry bro, I should’ve done more.
This is exactly how I’m feeling. I lost my brother on November 18th at 31 years old. Nothing matters. I’m so lost
Hope you’re doing better now man. I miss mine everyday but with the power of god I keep moving forward and appreciate all life has cause I know that’s what our brothers want for us. One love bro 💚
I lost my big brother 9 days ago in a tragic and unfortunate accident. He was 36 years old and would be 37 next month. I have tried to find grief counseling through my health insurance and EAP program at work and it seems like no counselors are accepting new clients. So here I am on CZcams watching videos and reading the comments from others who have experienced this. It is comforting to know that there are so many of us who are hurting in the same way. I am determined not to let the loss of my big bro send me back in to drug or alcohol addiction. I will face this, I will heal from this and this moment won't stand still in time forever. This too shall pass. Reading the stories of others lets me know that's true.
I also lost my 36 year old brother last month. He died of cancer and the pain is unbearable.. he has so much life left to lead. I'm sorry for your loss, you are not alone.
Bro your words resonate with me....I recently lost my sister....it helps reading the comments knowing you are not the only person going through this pain...definitely has helped me
I lost mine a week ago. I'm 39 and he would've been 43 in 3 weeks. Still in shock. It feels like it won't go away
Going to therapy as well, and I'm here on you tube as well
Siblings are a born best friend. A hole that can not be filled by anything else
Not always true ....my 2 old brothers hated me the day I was born.
I just lost my 33 year old little sister ❤ I’m 37 she meant the world to me and I miss her so much this pain is unimaginable 🥺🕊️
So sorry. I lost my sister last year and I feel the same. 2:26
Losing my big sis is the worst pain I have ever had.
Losing my only brother at 16, he was 10 tragically and suddenly shakes me to my core everyday. This is so true. Seeing people take siblings for granted is infuriating. I’d give anything to have one more day.
One hour
One second🥺
A whole day!
For 1 min at least saying goodbye . I miss him sm
I loss my brother less than a month ago. This has been the greatest pain I felt. My brother and I had such an amazing relationship. He was one of my best friends. He knew how to make anyone laugh and growing up I could never stay mad at him for long. I’m glad to have had such an amazing friendship with my big brother. This hurts to no end. I still don’t believe this is real. What’s sad is that I was the one the doctor’s called to tell me he was gone. My brother and I are my mom’s only children so of course it has been hard for her also. However, it’s been difficult to grieve since I need to be strong for her. Although, it’s nice to see there are other people who understand what I’m going through I hate the fact that you all feel and understand this unbearable pain I have. Praying for everyone who has loss a sibling. I know any loss is sad but this one here…I have no words. 😢
same… been a month for me, he was my best friend, we even look alike people think we are twins ! ( even though we are opposite genders) during the funeral people would touch my face and cry when they see me, and say not only i looked like him. but i talked and mannerisms were identical. now it just feels like i lost myself and nothing makes sense anymore
lost my brother as well two months ago and he suffered a terrible death from cancer that was preventable but our health care is a mess. He was my best friend as well. Pain is unbearable and a big part of me has died as well.
@@br0kensun Praying for you and your strength. It hasn’t gotten easier but it’s become slightly more manageable. I do have my grief outbursts where I just cry. 🙏🏾
@@AnnetteBereznicki Praying for you and your strength,🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
This jnightmare just started for me and I was informed first as well… currently looking for answers and something that help ease the pain..my only brother my best friend 💔💔
It is 11 years since my sister passed. The grief and guilt I have still is crippling, especially around the anniversary (now). The intrusive thoughts and nightmares of her hooked up to life support is the greatest horror I’ve ever experienced
I totally empathize and sympathize with you. I had to remove my brother from life support because my parents wouldn’t come for him. I lost him 6 months ago. I hope you can find some peace and relief from the nightmares
I lost my favorite person of 37 years old. My older brother Teddy, just 5 days ago. This deep darkness swallows me whole.
Praying for you. Just loss my 45 year brother less than a month ago. Sadly I know what you are experiencing.
I lost my brother almost 5 years ago. He was 18 and I was 20. My new grief has been realizing how different I am, things are, and how far away he seems from this lifetime. I miss him every single day. September is his bday month and it’s always the hardest for me. I wish this video was here when I was looking everywhere for the internet when everything (his loss) was still so fresh.
I hope are you are doing well since this post, I just know your relationship with him was special, and nothing could change that it happened. It will always have happened and nothing can alter that
@@relaxandpanic8988thank you so much 🤍 it was so special. As much as my heart hurts for the short time he had here on this earth, I’m so grateful for the bond we had.
Lost my 20 yr old brother from a car crash when I was 18. I wrote down the events leading up to my final day with him a few weeks later when I had the motivation. I wish I wrote more of our memories down, because after just 4 years it becomes a blur. He passed Nov 28, 2018. I only got a week off work, then Christmas came and they scheduled me in. I had to call in sick because no one talks about how loss affects your immune system. They thought I was lying just because I wanted to enjoy the holiday. Little did they know I was at home crying all day and my mom wouldn’t even leave her room so I had to take care of her. Then when I returned to work my manager called me in her office and asked me why I kept calling in sick. I was about to cry and say because I just lost my best friend. But before I could get a word out my manager stopped me in my tracks and said “None of that, leave your outside problems outside not at work”… I was taken back by this in shock and just nodded and went back to work. I wanted to quit so badly but needed money for college. Then in January I had to return for my final six months of highschool. Some of my so called “friends” didn’t even check up on me. They acted as if nothing happened and went on about their day. Then when it came to social media they acted like they were there for me but never actually were. I went onto college in the fall, ditched the job and those so called friends. Then covid hit a few months later and everything was online. So I had no real friendships and felt so alone during the past few years. Finally 2022 came around and some of my depression lifted but still not fully. I’ve made some good friends this year as we’re back in person. Which leads me to believe it will get better eventually. I just want to remind those who feel alone during loss that some day it will get better ❤️🩹 No one can truly understand your pain unless they’ve gone through it themselves.
I just lost my brother almost a year ago and I find myself struggling when ppl ask are you an only child because I was a sister for 28 years and now all of a sudden I'm technically an only child and I never wanted to be. When my mother asked me if I wanted a brother or sister, I always said BROTHER, so he belonged to me. Sibling grief is a strange journey that no one really sheds light on. It's always parent-focused, and yes, it is a GREAT LOSS for parents ( Ive lost a child as well) but losing a sibling is also devastating. I still say I have a brother referring to it in the past tense just stings a little
How did you cope with the loss? My brother is receiving end of life care currently. I'm 28 now, turning 29 on the 17th and he is two years younger than me. He has special needs and we've always been extremely close. He's my best friend and the fact that we have days left together is breaking me.
@@beckylouise875 I couldn't imagine how much it must hurt knowing your brother will pass soon, my heart truly aches for you and your family. When it comes to coping I didn't at first but I had a major breakdown which led to me going to therapy. That's been a major help
@@natoshaporter7961 It truly is one of the hardest things and nobody can prepare you for it. Therapy, that's a good idea. Something I've never tried but I do think talking to someone could help. Thank you for responding to me x
My one and only brother... was murdered 7 years ago...I always say "I have 5 sisters and 1 brother"...
I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine how incredibly difficult that must be. 💔 I just lost my brother, my very best friend in the world.
Thank you for sharing. My only sibling passed in 2018 and I still struggle to answer that question. It feels wrong to say no, but feels too personal to explain the complicated yes. It always feels good when people who knew him reach out, it helps to know he’s not forgotten. I moved to england shortly after he passed and I still find it so strange that no one here ever knew him. It makes it harder to relieve his memories sometimes when no one around shares them. He was a great brother.
I was 10 when my 12 year old brother died from leukemia. I heard from so many people that “you need to be strong for your mother” What people don’t understand is that you lose a big piece of yourself when your sibling dies. You miss the opportunity to become an uncle, you miss playing on the same team, and you miss all of the relationship for the rest of your life.
It’s been 35 years since that happened and it bothers me more now than it ever has. So much was missed out on and I never realized how much when I was a boy. She’s right though, people checked on my parents but never on me.
The solace that gained from that awful event was to cherish the relationships I do have. How much I love seeing my kids together and how much I love coaching, because I get to relive those years we had together, for as short as it was.
This resonates with me a lot. My situation is a little different as I was 20 when my 7 year old sister passed away from leukemia. I’m 22 now, and I’ve still never had a real conversation with my mom about it because when I would try it’s always “I know, it was my daughter”. It’s very difficult to feel like your feelings aren’t valid after losing someone who meant so much to you. It’s one of the hardest things someone can go through. Thank you for sharing your story.
Fellow sib!! My 18 year old brother died from ALL leukemia in 1997. Id love to chat with you further. I have a podcast channel dedicated for us surviving sibs.
I'm so sorry. That's also so terrible for people to tell children to be strong for adults... that's completely wrong.
The child needs strong, reassuring, aware adults to show up and help the child to feel, process, what is going on within them (the child).
Being strong for adults, can make children deny their feelings, become hyper-responsible...and it impacts all areas of life.
I hope you've been able to hold space for that younger part of you, bear witness, and let it feel, be, as a child would, with that incredible loss.
I wish you healing, connection, and love. What a beautiful thing you have, with your kids and coaching 💫
Had exact same thing told to me. So when I started to snap they got angry because I should not be snappy and irritated. I should help my mom and be strong, get a job, bf and be a good daughter. I just said- let me grieve for f sake! Let me be normal. Not a machine. Let me be normal human being.
No one talks to me now out of all the people I knew. Which is okay I guess. It's now a year since my brother passed due to a stroke. You would think this can't happen to 33 year old, but it did.
@@Thegripspot I also was told to be strong for my mom, understandably so, I guess. I was 23 and my sister was 20 when she passed. I never received a card or phonecall aside from 2 friends, as everyone was justifiably concerned about my parents. I actually returned to work a couple days after the funeral because sitting alone in the quietness of my apartment was unbearable. I have never properly grieved, and doubt I ever will, 33 years later. That part of me just stays stuck in the last moments in the hospital.
My brother died a year and one month ago. It’s still so hard to say. But, when people ask I tell them I have a brother because he will always be my brother. But if they do press on I am always honest and ruin the mood.
lost my 22 years old sister 42 days ago. the pain is unexplainable and immense. may everyone who lost a loved one heal soon. Aameen
I lost my brother two weeks ago.
I know in my heart I will always be missing him
Lost my brother almost 3 years ago. You're darm right, people take their siblings for granted...oh, to go back!! Your brother is in eternity with Jesus Christ. There is much hope in that. I am so, so sorry for your loss.
Miss you everyday David, I love you forever
I lost Angel 7 years ago on Thanksgiving, he was 21 and he was coming home for the holidays. An 18-wheeler took his life that day and he didn't make it home. I felt him, when it happened and I will never forget that day. He was a nurse and I was not ready to let him go. I believe that apart of me died that day too. That I lost a light inside of my mind and soul... Each day is a blessing but a hard one as well. What can you do but grieve and move forward little by little each day.
I lost my brother yesterday at 29. I don’t know why, nothing makes sense and I just want him to come back ❤ we are only a year apart. I’m lost…
I recently lost my twin brother to suicide. I found him. That day replays in my head over and over again. I miss him.
I lost my little sister and only sibling 6 weeks ago to an accidental overdose. She was 38 and I’m 40, a mom of 3 and desperately trying to cope with day to day normal life. I finally started cooking and doing household chores again last week but not a day goes by when I don’t sob uncontrollably, feel more anger and rage than I feel is healthy, and feel like I wish the earth would swallow me up. It’s true, so many people talk about what “my parents” must be going through and tell me to be strong for my kids. I try. But how can you give when you are broken? I haven’t gone back to work yet and don’t know when I can.
I wouldn’t wish this pain on my worst enemy.
I lost my big brother just over a month ago. He had cancer and we thought he was getting better but then he died suddenly at age 36. The pain I feel engulfs my entire body and mind and leaves me in shambles. Imaging a future without him is the most painful feeling. He deserved to live... He had so much left. Life is truly unfair and incredibly painful. I will love him forever. I know that I'm lost in a world without him.
I am so sorry for your loss of your little brother. I lost my brother a year and 2 months ago. He was 50 years old and I was 48. Even though I was a lot older than you, it still hit me like a ton of bricks. I see a therapist to help me through this. I miss him so much. Even though he was older, I still acted like the older sibling. Everyone at school knew that if they made fun of my brother, they would have to deal with his sister. And yes, I did get into some fights to protect him. I would do it all again!!!! I am going to take your wonderful suggestion about having a journal and putting together a goody box of things he liked, Star Wars being a big example. I miss him and will always love him. I love you Chippie! I am so thankful you are with God and you don't have to hurt anymore with your body. I will see you when it's time. Your nephew and doggy say Hi!!
My big bro just passed on 8/10 at 50 & i am 48. He was the super protective one. And we were more than siblings, definitely bff’s. I am struggling with my identity now that he isn’t on this physical plane. Probably should do therapy but i have had bad experiences with therapists. Thank you so much for sharing your story. Love to us, Chippie & Chris ♥️
JP & Marigold
I just want to say that I'm sorry to hear of both of your losses.
I'm in a similar position, lost my baby bro 5 weeks ago (my mum 8 months ago and my older sister 7 months ago). I'm 53 and his 50th birthday is next week. Im distraught and have no idea what I'll do on his birthday. We were only recently planning to spend it together.
He was my very best friend too and whilst our other relationships in our lives may come and go, I really thought we'd grow old together. Nobody knew me like he did and vice versa. I remember him having speech therapy when he was really young and apparently I was the only one who understood him and used to do most of his talking for him (that soon changed lol after his therapy and he swiftly became the life and soul of every social gathering ❤) the mutual understanding and trust remained though. We were protective of each other.
I think our siblings are our first ever friends and even feel like an anchor point. They're our roots and when they're ripped away it's incredibly difficult. I don't really have the words for it but it's like both my history and my future were wiped out when I lost him.
May they all rest in peace and we all gain comfort from their memories 🙏 I feel comforted hearing both your stories, it makes me feel less alone.
I lost my older brother suddenly 2 months ago. I work in a service industry. I had a set back in my healing when a long term client of mine said “your brother died because he did something bad in his past life and he had to pay to the price. That is what happens to everyone who dies young they have to make up for what they did”
I didn’t know how to respond as we were not on equal social standing. It was very hurtful and I’ve sunken deeper in my bad place.
I lost my 22 year old sister, the youngest of our siblings, five years ago. Life is never the same since.
I lost my brother 3 years ago (he was 22 and I was 24) and it was, and still is, traumatic and the worst thing I have ever dealt with. It's true that time helps and heals, but life is just never going to be the same. I can't help but think about all the times that my brother and I were supposed to have that were stolen from us. And I still deal with a lot of difficult memories from the months right after his death where I felt my grief was undermined and pushed aside as people only asked how my parents were, and how they were doing, and asking me to take good care of them. It still hurts me to think today that I had no one close during that time. I don't ever want to take away from anyone else's pain, because it was so difficult for everyone, but it's so important to make sure everyone's grief is acknowledged.
My mom and dad are both living and together, so they shared their grief with each other. My older brother has a wife and three kids, so he leaned on them. I didn't have a SO at the time. Usually, at family events, my grandmas funeral a few years before, for example, my younger brother was the one I would sit by and talk to while my older brother was with his family and my mom with my dad. So, at my younger brother's funeral, everyone fell into their old routine... but my partner was missing, and no one seemed to notice that I was isolated. I even had an empty seat next to me at the funeral, and looking down at it, knowing that's where my brother should have been sitting.. was an unexplainable and terrible feeling. The whole situation is still painful, but it's thinking about how alone I felt the whole time all this was happening that never fails to bring tears to my eyes. I've been able to cope with just about everything else to some extent, but this still haunts me. The funeral was so traumatic. I felt so awful and upset losing someone so important to me, but it was like some twisted nightmare where no one acknowledged my pain, and instead told me to take on the burden of helping others through that time. (And of course, I was there for my parents/older brother as much as I could be, but it felt like no one was there for me.)
All of this is to say, if you know someone who is experiencing grief, check in on them.. and if you are close to them, be there for THEM. It's okay to ask about the family, but please make sure your loved one has someone looking out for them too. And it is especially important for those who have lost siblings, because I think it's way too common to feel this way. Offer them any help you are able and willing to give and let them decide what they need.
Thank you for sharing that. I’m sorry you felt so alone after your brothers death. I can relate.
I'm sorry you lost your brother.
Took my older brother in so many times to get him better. He was self-destructive-suicidal, addicted to Xanax-just a very sad soul.
August 9th he got into a car crash that our mom witnessed. Nearly died and spent a month in ICU then went straight to my home. Fast forward to November 15th, 2022, his 32nd birthday. My sisters, 16 and 17, my fiancé and our cousin came home to surprise him with a cake. They got the candles ready while I tried to get him out of the bathroom. Ended up busting the door down and there he was. I knew I was too late by his eyes. Did CPR for 8 minutes. Cut off the machines three days later when his organs were failing.
Never got any answers because they didn’t do the toxicology we requested. Deemed an autopsy medically unnecessary. His evidence has since been destroyed.
Eddie was swept under the rug his whole life and now his death. It was the most traumatic experience I hope to ever have to endure in this life. No resources, no support. Just sailing through this life now.
I lost my big sister suddenly 2 weeks ago. Im 20 and she was 23. She was my best friend in the entire world. The pain in indescribeble and it hurts constantly… we had so much planned together… I cant even beleive What is happening
i recently lost my 18 yr old sister at 17 to a mass shooting, i completely agree with u! everything is so confusing and sad, we had planned so much of our lives based off of each other and it feels like everything was ripped apart
I lost my 25 years old brother last week! He looked up to me ! Everyone except me to cry faster cause as an older sibling, I have to be strong for everyone ! I am losing my mind , I don’t know if I can cope with this , but I know he is in god hands now ! So I have to let him rest in peace
I’m 13 years old, my parents have been doing foster care since I was 6 years old. You might be thinking how does this have anything to do with grief, but, it has everything to do with grief. When I was younger we might have foster kids up to a month, and they’d leave. The past two, however, we’ve gotten very close to adopting. My little sibling who is 4, we will be adopting sometime later this year. The two year old went to their bio family on the 28th of April, days after my 13th birthday. This loss in the family, after had having them for nearly 2 and 1/2 years, which was nearly their entire life, it’s very hard for me.Evens though it’s been less than a week people haven’t checked in on me, especially adults. It can be very to loose a child, in whatever way that look like, wether it was in a car accident, or even just foster care, it’s still very hard for the child. Especially, the child knowing they’re not going to our Heavenly Father, but instead, going to drug addicts, who hardly tried to keep the child. So, please check in on them, love on them, instead of just telling them it’s “okay” tell them you’re here for them and will listen to them.
So wise for 13. This is a great point. This is a grief issue. You are right.
I lost my only sister from my mom 4/30/23 Nothing in my life feels the same she was only 20 I miss everything about her ,I love you baby girl 💔
Thank you for sharing your story ❤️
I’m 22 lost my 21 years old brother about 12 days ago, I’m so lost, I needed him here me.
I'm one of five siblings- the only boy. In 2022, I lost one of my sisters. She was my best friend. We were 6 years apart but still very much like twins. We were always extraordinarily close and really loved being together. Even in my 30's, spending time with my sister made me feel the most at home of any place in the world. When she died, my sister's and I were wrecked but no one saw that . Everyone wanted us to be strong for our parents. It wasn't until my dad said "I'm really sorry this happened to you. I'm really sorry you lost your sister and with so much of your life ahead" that I really felt seen. That moment broke me but made me decide to not let my own grief be pushed to the background. I resonate with this video so much.
Amazing! What an incredible woman! What a kind beautiful heart ❤️
Wow. That is the most hated question for me too....
Does not get better at any age. My bro died aged 47. Widows have a word siblings oooh
Seeing my brother in a body bag hurt me so bad it’s a pain nobody should go through.
❤ I know my twin sister passed a couple of years ago when we were 22 our birthday was around the corner. She passed in September 24our birthday is nov 28.
It feels like a skip year in grief where everyone’s confused that I’m 25 but my sister still just wanted passed to me.
I lost my 28 year old brother, my only siblings this week. Life has changed.. nothing really matters.
Praying for you and your strength. I sadly know what this feels like. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Lost my only sibling as well, my brother who was 23 and died of a motorcycle accident 😭
it's been 11 years since my sister passed away, i was 8 and she was 12 and i stil miss her so much, i grew up missing her and most people don't get how could i still be missing her... they even ask me if i remember her ,and that question always breaks my heart and make me feel so lonely cuz no one gets that children love their siblings i loved my sister and we were super close to eachother eventhough we were kids .
I have lost my brother who was only about 2 months old. It hurts so bad even though it has been 6 years now. No one ever thought of us that we have lost a sibling because of the short time we spent together but yes it mattered to us and i am still hurt.
I am 21. Before i was born, my sister, Janelle, died. After she was born, but before she died,our brother Devon was born. And then Janelle passed. Years passed, and then my older sister Faith was born. And then me a year later. The reason years passed was my parents' grief over Janelle. Fast forward to may 6 2015, my brother Devon overdosed and died. He was 21. Now it's just me and Faith. She used to be a middle child but now she is the elder. My brother Devons birthday is october 10 1993. Mine is exactly 9 years later on october 10 2002. We got the same day. Me and my brother. And given that he died at 21, on may 6, and we have the same birthday, i am older than him now. He is 9 years older than me, but when he was 21, he never lived past may 6. Im 21 now, and I have. This month has been a lot harder than most. Hug your siblings.
I lost my sister 5 days ago and I am struggling . My body physical hurts, I try to stay busy, not sleeping etc.
I lost my brother when he was 14 years old he was shot and killed 10 years ago. I lost my sister she was 21 she was laced with fentanyl 2 years ago. Im devastated for life 💔 they both died at the scene
Just hope my brothers get it
I(26) lost my youngest brother(16) on Valentine's Day 2023. He got in a car crash as a passenger in the back seat, and was in the ICU for 3 days before he passed away.
I can't even describe what I'm feeling everyday. We were very close as I literally watched him grow up, and I don't know how to move on with life.
I'm autistic and was already suffering from depression and burnout when it happened. Since his passing, the only thing I want is to be with him
The world needs you. Every bit of you. I'm so sorry this happened. Capture the memories when you remember them. Capture your feelings. It will help you now and later. Praying for you @basv. I've been there. So have the many people who have watched my video and left these comments.
😭😭😭1 week ago I was the first to find out I lost my only brother my baby my best friend. I feel like is not real and the moments it sort of sinks in I feel like someone is ripping me inside out . Writing this and it still feels unreal I have not seen him yet and I don’t know how I’ll be able to get through this. 💔💔💔😭😭😭
I loss my brother Dec 18,2022 worse pain ever
My twin forever ❤
i am 23 and lost my 9 year old sibling through sepsis from her surgery, she have hirschsprung’s disease, she had her colostomy but 2 days after, she died, she died last january 25,2023, its very hard, sooooo hard
I’m 24 years old and have two younger siblings: a 21 year old sister (born December 19th, 2001) and a 12 year old brother (born June 23rd, 2011). I don’t know how I would go on living if I lost either of them.
Lost my brother last year 2022 January he was 31 years old, heart attack. He had phycosis mental health.
He's my angel 🤗💗
I lost my brother suddenly 5 years ago. He was 29. Now I've just lost my sister at 39. I am 45 and the oldest of what was 4 and now is 2. It hurts so much I can't breathe. Dreading the first time someone will ask if I have siblings.....not sure how I will respond. Trying to be strong for my parents and my remaining sibling but its so hard....
What kind of prompts would you put in the journal to give to them? I love the idea
Depending on age, I'd probably ask favourite memory(memories) together, ask them to draw pictures of either just their sibling or of the two of them together, or places to stick photos if they don't want/like to draw, I'd definitely include several pages asking for pictures or a few words of how they're feeling 'today', Things they did that made them happy or would make them happy this week, maybe they've got a lock of hair from their sibling or could create a memory teddy or cuddle cushion from clothes (get mummy/daddy's permission first though)
Siblings favourite songs, TV shows, games, activities, friends names, school friends, important dates
Questions they'd want to ask, either of Siblings, other relatives, God.
Prayers or hymns (or other songs or lyrics) that provide comfort or help them make sense of what they're feeling
Letting them know it's OK to feel whatever they're feeling. Grief has 7 stages so I suspect it's the same for children too.
Prompts as to who they can or would like to talk to that helps them feel heard/understood.
Lost my lil cousin 4day ago
My twins sister just passed away March 29❤️🩹 She was only 24.
I cannot imagine losing a twin because I did not have one, but I can only imagine it is a very distinct bond. The loss of my brother has had such a profound effect on me, I just can't imagine if he had been my twin on top of that. I'm sorry for your loss.
Sib, can we chat more about your twin? And my greatest empathies for you.
The exact same day I lost my 22 year old sister. I’m sorry. My heart goes out to you. The pain is truly indescribable. God bless you.
I am going to hate answering this question and this is probably going to come up.
Hlo
Did you share DNA? If u don't have DNA proof, it's just hearsay.
it’s been 10 years since i lost my brother 🥺 the pain will never goes away.. ❤️🩹
I lost my little sister and only sibling 6 weeks ago to an accidental overdose. She was 38 and I’m 40, a mom of 3 and desperately trying to cope with day to day normal life. I finally started cooking and doing household chores again last week but not a day goes by when I don’t son uncontrollably, feel more anger and rage than I feel is healthy, and feel like I wish the earth would swallow me up. It’s true, so many people talk about what “my parents” must be going through and tell me to be strong for my kids. I try. But how can you give when you are broken? I haven’t gone back to work yet and don’t know when I can.
I wouldn’t wish this pain on my worst enemy.