A Survivor Story: Wesley Hogue
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- čas přidán 5. 09. 2024
- Wesley shares his story of child sexual abuse, to provide a deeper understanding of the experience of survivors.
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I don't even have a "bad feeling" about my son's soccer coach and I STILL will NEVER allow him to be alone with my boy,no camping trips,no sleepovers - NONE OF THAT SHIT. I'll take my own boys camping, there's LITERALLY NO REASON for a kid to be spending the night with an adult. Parents need to ask themselves "why does this grown ass man wanna hang out with kids?" Just WHY??
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True
Because he is SICK. He was likely abused himself as a child, & learned this behavior - it's been going on for so, so, so, so, so many years!
Exactly you're right!!
She had a bad feeling about this creep. Not to guilt or shame but we have to go with our instincts. These people are so slick at getting other peoples trust. These people put themselves in trusting positions of power and opportunity and I have a special needs brother who a principal of an elementary school took advantage of. I remember him telling me and I had to force my mother to believe him. I don’t know if she ever did anything. If it were me, I would have handled it myself. What message does this send to your child if you don’t go after these predators. My brother wound up in a mental hospital 2 years later for 3 years. He never spoke of it again. Evil. Just plain evil.
Great parents that LISTENED to their son!
But they should never have rushed the kid into forgiving the perpetrator. That is a terrible, misguided mistake on their part. They need to allow the kid to be angry first.
Absolutely
They had their suspicions, but let him spend time with Mr. Bob anyway.....
Great parents huh? Pre warning to son, does Mr Bob touch ur pee pee?
As if they were baiting Mr.Bob..parents wanted a Pay out.
Let's not get this story twisted .
I was molested by a family friend who was a chem teacher and football coach. No one ever knew because I had no one to tell who actually cared. I didn't like it but I was already messed up from family abuse and neglect so to me, it seemed like he (the abuser) was the only one who actually cared about me. It took me many years to realize this was abuse and to face how much it affected me in different ways.
I hope that anyone reading this who is being abused or has been abused FIND SOMEONE TO TALK TO ABOUT IT. Don't bottle it up and try to forget about it. The body has a memory and the emotions will come up in other ways - ways that will affect the people around you as well as yourself.
I wish I could give you a warm big hug for all the pain, neglect and abuse you undeservingly endured. I am so proud of you for healing, getting help, that takes a lot of courage, determination and willpower. My heart breaks 💔😭. You are and have always been so precious and so worthy❤️🤗
MR. D YOU ARE THE LIGHT OF THE MOST HIGH GOD!!! GO OUT SBD BE THAT LIGHT THE MOST HIGH MADE TO SHINE ON OTHERS!!! YOU ARE SO BRAVE AND SO LOVED!!!
EVE, GREAT REPLY!!! KEEP SHINING THE MOST HIGH'S LIGHT!!!
@@Cookie-jx1hv Wow what a beautiful reflection of the Most High's uplifting and loving light you are. I appreciate your radiant warm and kind words to Mr. D and myself. May God continue to bless you, you're a diamond ✨💎✨ keep shining beloved, you are so treasured and appreciated ❤️🙏
@@evezazzle5974 Thank you my dear for the encouragement!!! WE MUST LET OUR LIGHT SHINE ON OTHERS SO THAT THEY KNOW THEIR EXPERIENCES AND SACRIFICES WERE NOT IN VAIN!!! HOW BRAVE ARE THOSE WHO SPEAK OUT...FOR THEY SHOW US LOVE!!! AND THOSE WHO ENCOURAGE THEM WITH LOVE AND KINDNESS TO COME OUT OF THE DARK!!! WOW!!! MAY THE MOST HIGH BLESS YOU AND KEEP YOU BOTH IN HIS LOVING ARMS AND PROTECTION.
That poor baby! So glad he has a supportive family!
Wesley, ... Thank You for turning this man in. Do YOU realize how many children you have saved? Im so PROUD of your BRAVERY. YOU took ALL his power away. No more of him because of YOU. I pray for your healing...."Be Still and Know That I Am God." Your a great young man.
So glad his parents were so supportive. So many aren’t and just ignore it.
Wesley was such a sweet innocent child...thank goodness for his parents for believing him. Glad "Mr. Bob" was brought to justice. Unfortunately, I doubt "Mr. Bob" learned from his mistakes
I don't know how long ago this happened, but i just saw it today, and my heart is overwhelmed with love for his dad. He said ,"'i knew my dad loved me". That is the kind of love i had from my dad. I just wished every child could have experienced a father'love like that. Thank God for real fathers.
I also had a father like that, he loved me above EVERYTHING! So sad though 😓, he died of cancer when I was 12,5 years old (after fighting hard for 1,5 years, even if the doctors gave him 3 MONTHS 😔) 😭.
I am an adult know, got 5 children and 3 grandchildren and top degrees at the University...I miss him SO much, SO often and I wish he was with us all (I hope he's proud of me)! 😰💔💞💓
This makes me cry. Never had it and never will
I agree! The strength and love this father and mother showed is something I cannot even wrap my mind around. I want to be that for my children!
@@pinkpugginz God is a Father.
@@pinkpugginz I had one, but he was absent in a physical way... I saw him when I was a little girl a couple of times and recently like two years ago when I became an adult. It was ok, I prayed for him and still hope overall he is ok.
I just realized thank God how He guided that man that preached that night who was molested and had the freedom that God gave Him because God as a Father guide Him in every single step to the process.
When I was studying psychology thoy I didn't finished the carreer God showed me verses of the Bible telling me He was my counselor, and He is unto today.
This father is so incredible! I am so happy your son had you and your wife.
I am so glad Wesley told his parent. His parent is amazing. I am happy his mother keep talking her son about bad touch. That justice was done for Wesley.
God bless you honey. I'm 65 and was molested by my father from the age of 3 to 15. I too never knew it was wrong. I thought everybody's father did this as my father also molested my siblings, all 8 of us. To this day I have not let it go or forgiven or given it to God. You are an inspiration.
Grace Gonzales my abuser apologized in 2017... the Lord allowed me to finally see he’s a different person. I forgave and it hurt. I’ve gone through PTSD. I forgive my abuser daily who still works on mending the relationship. It’s not easy. It’s been 30 years. Daily process Jesus walks with me.
Grace Gonzales you don’t have to forgive to heal. I hope you continue to heal, you are a survivor.
I'm so sorry you went through that.
Grace Gonzales it wasn’t your fault and you never deserved it.... you were just a child... a child of God and you still are. God bless you.... Grace.... what a beautiful name.
Grace -look at Louisa Hay heal your life-it may help a little. Sorry you had this experience and I hop you can now begin to let somethings go-start small.
How delightful Wesley's smile is. Bless him. I'm also a child sexual abuse survivor.
Forgiveness is a tricky thing.
Some clarification on forgiveness: Forgiveness is spiritual and emotional freedom and healing. Forgiveness isn't ignoring what happened, letting the perp go on unpunished. Thankfully this young man and his family understand that. Forgiveness is healing for the survivor, letting go of the power of what happened to you, while simultaneously seeking justice for the perpetrator through legal action. Forgiveness doesn't equal no consequences for a perp, but freedom for the victim to be a survivor.
I don't understand why it's called "forgiveness" and not just "letting go". To me forgiving something means you no longer feel that that person is in moral debt to you. Why would this be a good thing?
Stop telling people to forgive. It's a myth perpetuated by people that dont know shit about being victimized and their lives destroyed.
Thank god more men are coming forth with their stories! Let the crippling stigma of sexual abuse be torn down for everyone.
Inspiring family whose love and faith have turned darkness and pain into Victory.
So glad he was able to move forward with his life.
The fact that she kept asking makes me believe that she felt something was off.
Fabulous parents. They had the full confidence of their son. Brave boy too.
So glad to hear of a family believing their child and protecting their child!! Way to go!!! God bless this young man and family!!
You are a strong young man. God bless you!
God did bless him ! , he gave him a pedophile for a playmate , some caring loving god that poor boy follows , i'd look for a better one A.S.A.P.
@@robertcarey8294 There are sometimes wolves in sheep's clothing.
You are the most awesome Godly parents I’ve found on my journey ! Thank you thank you!
I’m now 66 and I’m just learning to forgive.
I wish every parent would react the way your parents did. Thank you in Jesus name, amen
Sonja Jefferson Yes bless them once they knew, they were ever so good. 😢
So glad this young man had the support he needed.
It’s so sad and devastating if the parents don’t believe their child.
Excellent parents ! I can’t believe so little parents don’t do this these are the type of people who need to be parents.
I thank you Wesley for sharing your story. I too have forgiven and moved on. You've saved many life's by telling your story. How Blessed you are with God loving parents who made sure this monster never hurt you or other children again.🙏❤️🇺🇲
I hope Wesley continues to find peace and healing through his life. Not everyone gets justice and that doctrine doesn’t help everyone, but what a beautiful family.
Good Parents but the story illustrates how we have to follow our gut instincts when it comes to people esp caregivers... and partners too.. yeah they will try to win you over with their charm but we have to remember those inner warnings and not put our trust in these folks
Yvonne Gonzalez I totally agree. Sadly so many push back those initial gut instincts & even worry more about being offensive. If my years on this earth at this point have taught me anything it's that you can never be too careful where your kids are concerned & to be totally honest... I'd err on the side of caution & just not let your kid be with hardly anyone who could take advantage of them. And I mean as harshly as that sounds even maybe with ppl you "dont" necessarily have reservations about. As stated here, manipulators will go all out to gain your trust.
Yvonne Gonzalez Exactly. Good rule of thumb a bad feeling - just follow it where a child is concerned understanding taking a chance is NEVER worth it.
bchbounds Yes. We dont take chances where protecting children are concerned.
Wow! Powerful testimony on forgiveness and healing. Thank you.
I wish the parents would have stuck with their initial reservations, but am glad that they at least handled the situation so well after the fact. The sad fact is so many d ONT.
Shoulda, coulda, woulda. Don't even mention it. It is of no benefit. Move forward. It's the only way.
@@gazels11 🙄
Always listen to your children.
Trust your children.
This is a beautiful example of what incredible parents are. They took action and It's so sad how rare that is. If your child says someone has touched them or you feel something is off with someone around them than you ask those questions and also keep those people away from your kids if you feel something is wrong about them. Always ALWAYS listen to your babies. I'll always listen to mine.
So heartbreaking how often this happens
A true great young man who has taught us through his own adversity in ways we couldnt compare but inspire us with his truth and heart!
it’s so refreshing to see parents that handled this well. I just watched two videos from this series where parents basically left their kids to deal emotionally with the situation on their own and that is so horrible. Also this mom was proactive about saying tell me if anything is wrong. Parents need to tell their kids up front if anyone touches you, bullies you, blackmails you we will fight them tooth and nail for justice (I mean obviously you have to hear both sides of the story with bullying). Too many parents compound the abuse by not believing their child, telling them to get over it, or even enabling it.
And I love how she talks about how they didn't pressure him; the disclosure happened over weeks. They constantly affirmed him and made him feel supported, so he continually felt safe sharing a little bit more.
@@BlueGeen yes my thoughts exactly!
Wonderful parents. This should be the reaction of support from all parents. Allow the child to express things in a supportive atmosphere, then take appropriate actions against the perpetrator, but never lose sight of supporting your kid throughout.
HalleluYah! Darkness to Light...truly.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I thank PaPa GOD for the wisdom ( on forgiveness). As you know the forgiveness is for your son, to give him a chance to move on. Very strong courage. My sister's and I went through things of this same nature.
Thank you for your testimony. It is echoing through the years. May our Lord keep using your life to help others. You are a light among light, Not only a Light among the darkness!
Glad the parents listened
Listened and believed him!
So glad his parents took Bob down. Everybody's parent need to be supportive and strong like Wesley's. No child should be too fearful to confide and trust their parents to protect them from predators. Wesley's story should help all of us to know you can survive and live a productive life.
Praise God!!! I
Thank you for being g transparent this will change someone's life!!
Thank God for your story. This is horrible but your voice is being HEARD! We believe you!
You’re a brave man Wesley. What wonderful parents!!
God bless you
The power of God is real
What AMAZING PARENTS!!!!
God Bless you for sharing this story with others , as most people don't think it happens to men , it only happens to women . I myself was date raped at the age of 15 . I asked him to stop but he just continued . We were in his family barn loft . When he was finished he said he had to go in his house for something. There was a open window in the barn that faced the back door to his house . As time went on , I sat up in the loft crying and wondering what just happened , and when was he coming back. It was winter and it had started snowing, and I knew I better get back to my bothers girlfriends house at the time, as she lived out of town and about two blocks from where my date lived . When I got there I went to the washroom and noticed that I was bleeding so I call his girl friend into the bathroom and told her I had to go to the hospital. I said to her what had happened and that I was bleeding. She then proceeded to tell me that from now on I would bleed every month and to make sure I didn't get pregnant I should take cod liver oil or jump around a lot . I had no cod liver oil but loved gym so ever time we did something that I had to jump down from , I made a point to jump extra hard . I think it was a little over a month when I went to the washroom and felt something different . I recall looking before I flushed and I saw what looked to me like a small fetus so I breathed a sense of relieve at the time that now one would know I had gotten pregnant . I'm now 63 and was never able to have children . To this day I wonder what would of happened if I had told my brother instead of his girlfriend , and maybe he might of made sure I went to the hospital , and things would of turned out different in my life . Wow can't believe I shared all that for the first time , yet maybe it might help someone else. God Bless you All .
It’s so good you have now been able to share this, it also took me deacades to speak about my own molestation by my dad. I had told my sister and then my husband early in our marriage but never ever really talked about it. It took learning about my own son’s sexual abuse and getting his perpetrator prosecuted to come out and speak about my own. I still can’t discuss it with my family , they don’t want to hear about it, but can talk about it with my husband . I’m sorry you had to endure this silence for so long, many years of not being able to talk about it causes so much mental turmoil. 😢
Hello Brenda, you are so brave to tell your story and I hope you are healing from what happened to you.
What great loving parents!!! God bless you all!
I never told my parents because they would never believe me. They are abusive. When they did find out through my brother as an adult they told me to forget about it and that it wasn't that bad.
So sorry for what you went through
Thank you Wesley for standing up to this monster your are a Hero!
Sad story..but yet a wonderful out come..Your free...
It's seldom you hear about parents doing what it takes to protect their children, and take the actions necessary to get the perpetrator in trouble.
HIS PARENTS KNEW ABOUT IT...
THEY SUSPECTED IT...THEY SHOULD NOT HAVE HAD BOB AROUND THEIR SON...
100%
True that. If they already were suspicious why they didn't act before anything happened? Both are guilty
Yea that stresses me out too. She knew something wasn’t right from the first time she met Bob .. yet sent her son with him, even alone at times. 😢
I was looking through the comments to see if anyone else thought what i did. 'm glad they stood with him and believed him but they obviously suspected and still let Bob hang around their son. What were they thinking?
Thank you for sharing your story ❤️. God is so good
Wesley is a wonderful young man. God bless him in his continued healing. May the Lord always keep Wesley and his parents in His divine sight.
It's so wonderful how the father said that it is the victim who needs to forgive in order to heal without letting the crime commited appear as something that can be forgiven.
What an amazing beautiful young man!! Wonderful family!
I cried for you as well, my dear beautiful brother. May you always be blessed by God's love. Wishing you a great life and may you continue to share your story and help others! Xo
My goodness! This is such a wise kid!
Well done Wesley. God Bless.xx Beautiful Mom and Dad. xx
If the parents are concerned enough to keep asking, then why let him go camping?!
BEAUTIFUL STORY!!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!!!
These parents are magnificent, glorious people. Such a blessing.
Thank you all for being so brave.
🙏 amen and God bless you. You have a mission to help others through there pain. Many blessings 🙌
If they suspected it why allow him near him
Thank you!!!!!
Exactly 🙄
They failed big time
Bless him and all the family ❤️
What a brave young man! He was so blessed to have such loving amazing parents! You can just see the love between his mother and father, a rarity these days
Praying for complete healing of all the children abused, and there are far too many! And with the organizations that promote pedophilia, they should be arrested!!! The damage they do to these children is beyond evil!!! Please pray for my son too, he was a victim also, still traumatized and depressed after 11 years, I just pray the Lord gives him complete deliverance
Fantastic podcast! Thank you for your courage to share. And, thank you for Glorifying Almighty God in your experience! You have helped so many others who have gone through what you did. May God bless you all.
Great story. God bless you Wesley
it is good they listened and believed their son, But as a mother,,,you should always follow that instinct when you feel something isnt right with a person
absolutely love this family.
God bless you all. And, thank you
it is hard to comment - i don't know how to speak to this - i just love you all and want so much for you - i do believe that your strength and it's effect is much bigger than we can all know - - and the rippling out is more powerful than the bad - i will continue to try to never underestimate the power of truth - you all are just great - great people
It's so sad because despite what his mother said about him being a con artist, I think she feels guilty bc she trusted him. I would. I'm not blaming the parents. The one to blame is the predator but please parents, follow your instincts and teach your children to do the same.
Beautiful, brave, strong, amazing young man x
I love children so much. These things have made it so hard for people that genuinely love children and just love the joy of their childhood. You feel like every move you make toward a child MUST be with a complete witness lest you he accused or misunderstood.
Wonderful testimony. U are courageous n i admire your bevery. This story will touch n change millions of lives around the globe!
God bless you! May he help and protect you through your life 😚
What a loving family. Seem like really decent folks. I wish them the best
Thank you
What a beautiful soul ❤️
My son and I had the talk before his first church camp. Trust no one
Praise the Lord! Thank you for sharing
What an amazing testament to the power of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ!!!!
Parents...WOW.... its so logical and normal thing to do, but soooo many does not...so many.......tooo many
My mother to this day still calls me a liar and I’m thinking this is very instrumental in me not healing so through the creator of the universe i before him ask forgiveness and ask to have forgiveness for my grandfather who molested me and my mother and all those around me that believed her when she said I was just a liar!destroyed so much of who I was supposed to be.so… forward in forgiveness in Christ Jesus .
I have sympathy for the victim and his parents BUT the parents asked several times if the child was being abused all the while allowing the suspect access to their children. So they had suspicions.
The Holy Spirit leads you to ask those questions... its not always suspicion.
Thank you 🙏 ❤️for sharing 🙏❤️
Thank you!!
Excellent
Research why someone is so interested in being with kids , why would they be in a place were there alone with children, obviously not everyone is a predator, yet why are they so keen to be alone .. yet I understand the parents when predators groom families
What wonderful family to take it to Jesus God Bless all of you
Amazing Young man! Wonderfull with aware parents listening to their own intuition! Predators are clever/sneaky😰
This was so powerful
God bless you
The mother was on point👍
God bless you 🙏 and all the best in life 💕
2 corinthians- GOD IS AWESOME !
I'm glad you told.....
I can definitely relate... Any time I am in stress the anger toward my molester surfaces...
Why do you put so much stress on forgiving the molester? It's up to the boy who was his victim to forgive him if ever. It is healthy only if it goes naturally. Otherwise it puts additional stress on the boy and keeps him frustrated.