Arrogance, Expectations & Inspiration - Personal Q&A with my Brother | Ali & Taimur Abdaal
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- čas přidán 1. 06. 2024
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TIMESTAMPS
0:01:08 - Introducing Taimur
0:02:53 - Similarities and differences
0:04:11 - Fights and disagreements
0:04:50 - What inspires you about each other?
0:05:56 - Academic pressure growing up?
0:06:53 - Taimur’s weird instagram captions
0:08:14 - How the podcast + CZcams channel has changed our lives
0:09:20 - Taimur’s weird username
0:10:22 - Best and worst things about Oxford + Cambridge
0:11:29 - What are you proud of about each other?
0:13:39 - Does Ali brag about his accomplishments?
0:15:53 - Comparison
0:16:37 - The most annoying thing about having a doctor brother (Rant)
0:19:28 - Podcast preparation + scripting
0:20:02 - Hobbies, favourite movies and series
0:22:33 - Blog posts
0:23:26 - Our shared projects
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Who else thought the thumbnail looked like he just edited two of him lmaooo
Me😂😂😂💀
I was just about to say this 😭
Me too 🙋♂️
Tony Creates legit came here to type this, hahahahaha turns out everyone thought this
OMG yes
Imagine them fighting . So civil and using full standard english whilst also providing statistical evidence from various studies.
Aiyesha Amod ahamdulilla
I know right 😂😂😂 love those two brainiacs 👏
Aiyesha Amod haha
Ali's a sucker for life advices. Taimur doesn't like it. Civil w a r .
😂😂😂
I knew it, u cloned your self to be more productive,,
That’s why Ali has 48 hours in a day!
This explains so much
Ha
Lol
Lmmaooooo I cackled sooo hard at this
Wow, his brother is just so modest and lovely, being shy even about telling where he studied...
And that being Oxford
Cambridge Medicine and Oxford Math?? So strong.
the seed is strong?
I knoowwwww the combination wow
Hahahahahahahahaha
Hence the receding hair linex2 ... 😆
erikawithaktian sIS 😂😂
Their mum really said copy and paste
Lol so true
Haha good one
No, no they just have similar style
Every asian parents dream children
if they fight, it would be the most educative/productive fight
They would come away having learned a lot about the other side of the argument Ali would then probably update his second brain on this new information.
if they fight, it would be the most educative/productive fight
Not Overthinking Podcast in a nutshell
@@adamgil4159 this is so true lmao
24 minutes of Ali being assaulted by a plant 😂
I just wanted to write THIS :-D
I would have cut that leaf off after 0:00:01
🤣😂😂
🤣🤣🤣
Lool
"At 13 I decided I needed to get my life together.”
when i was thirteen i realized i should not eat sand because it is harmful for my health lols
At 13 I was still crushing over an anime character
“At 13 I decided I needed to get my life together.” At 13 I was developing my own escape and evade maps to get home from school. Going to an all black school was generally an exercise in survival.
Get out of that neighborhood or country ASAP and start a life somewhere safer 🙏
Me too! Oh America. It makes you strong though.
@@nowpresent2167 America is extraordinarily safe, quite possibly safer than anywhere else, but there are intense urban areas scattered around, with certain demographics and politics that account for the misleading violent reputation. I grew up and got out long ago.
Lmao
Taimur sounds like a mathematician; thoughtful, never settles for something obvious, to him there is not an absolute answer to anything and has to choose among thousand approaches to talk about anything. 🤔
While Ali sounds like a doctor. He has to keep things simple and speak to the pith so accurately that even a 5 year old can understand it easily! 😌
hmm, wonder what they studied in college
Exactly
Imagine how hard their parents could brag oxford and Cambridge kids daym
Just their mum actually 😊
What happened to his father?
@@xfire3778 Actually they were raised by a single mother who raised two gents. If my son's turned out to be like them I'd be very proud of them!!
Queen Bee where does he mention that?
@@xfire3778 In his other videos
22:29 when he mentioned "Naruto" - I instinctively knew Taimur was the better brother..
Hahaha hes a man of culture
SAME
You can see in Ali’s face how proud he is of his brother
Here for Taimur's laugh.
Imagine having a sophisticated, educated talk with your brother without fighting every two seconds.....😌
Nah never gonna happen😔
@-- lol I know. I meant that I can't relate because me and my brother always fight.
I do that lol
"You are actually wearing my tshirt right now" typical sibling thing😂
Damn you guys look like twins mashallah
They arent !!!!?????
ImLadyBlue91 I’m not sure 🙈🙈🙈lol
@@ImLadyBlue91 They're not twins. Ali is about a year or two older
Totally agreed hhhhhhh
@@ImLadyBlue91 nope Ali is older hahahaha😂😂
Ali, I do not see, find you arrogant nor boastful. Let no one put you in a box, preventing you from being yourself so as to please anybody. You are helpful and inspiring and one to look up to. Keep being you and how best it works for you.
Jonah Ebere I find that Ali takes A LOT OF PRIDE in whatever he does & celebrates being proactive, achieving goals be it personal or work etc. Being ambitious, go getter, proud of what u do & have, can still be a positive thing.. I actually like such public figures who inspire. I also like Taimur’s frank & authentic personality. Tbh I have met arrogant ppl. Ali just comes off confident & positively proud of the results & benefits from his efforts. 😊
@@Bebbolove I completely agree with you and I love seeing both Ali and Taimur, they give different perspectives based on their individuality and differences which gives these type of videos it's appeal and relatability.
Jonah Ebere Yea, the relatability.. At times, I prefer this type of personalities than certain success gurus who overdo it... 😝 Being proud in what he does & being able to convey his practicality to others in such a way many ppl understand is really cool. In fact I like the confidence. Proud does not always equal arrogance & negativity. As Long as it doesn’t get to your head.
@@Bebbolove very true.😁
Wish Taimur had a CZcams channel and do vlogs, too!
Nadia R C same!
@@cocopopp-6865 he does have one
@@ssp4321 whats it callled
@@cocopopp-6865 czcams.com/users/SwifterThanLight
The channel is of the name Taimur Abdaal. Click on the link above.
@@ssp4321 no it’s not
"You are basically building an app" boy you killed him.. Kiled his soul.
I agree with your brother 100% when it comes to feeling marginalized due to not being in the medical profession. I am a social worker and I barely can contribute to any discussion my friends have because all they talk about is medicine!
What do social workers do? What's your day to day routine like?
@@TheEliteunit shit all
@@TheEliteunit there are many different kinds of social workers. I work for a non profit as a project manager and mental health counselor. Some of my days are with clients in the community, some days are just administrative work
@@danyalk2660 God bless you for going into social work. You people are saints. You're the very safety net of society, and you deserve MUCH HIGHER pay. It's criminal how you guys are treated.
@@danyalk2660 Thanks for existing. I am exactly in your position, this elitism tires my mind ( which by the way is already exhausted from finding solutions for the invisible plagues of people's minds). More power and prayers to you.
I love how Ali describes the difference between being arrogant and confident. And Ali is confident but certainly not arrogant.
Real confidence comes only by knowing who you really are, independent of the external(self realization) .That inturn makes you perceive life situations with more clarity, and thereby the real confidence sets in.We are always confident about something only when we are well versed at it.
Amy 16 Beautifully well said!!!
Omg Taimur is so personable! I didn’t expect to enjoy this video as much as I did... I might start listening to your podcast
taimur - *explaining how he was binge watching naruto at 13 *
ali - visible disappointment
Although Ali always gives a disclaimer in the intro in this types of videos that this will not add value to life and etc. I always feel that I need to up my game on having actual intellectual conversation with people. Like, hearing you guys speak make me have inferiority complex.
Lmao accurate af
omg same
Me too
so true
You need to be more confident and steadily develop your interpersonal skills. Learn and grow more today than yesterday, everyday.
Taimur needs a CZcams channel ASAP. Guy is more down to earth.
You guys have different perspectives, but I enjoy them, they’re interesting in ther own way. I’m like Ali, a sucker for life advice, but I’m keen on Taimur’s desire of being an original thinker. Favorite siblings!
Every thing Taimour said is very true ! Specially when he was talking about growing up in a family that most of them are medics & the following problems & pressures ! I've been in that situation :|
I really loved their conversation. I find it very interesting and intelligent... And personally I really liked Taimur's personality and his approach towards life!
I absolutely love how real you two brothers are! It's so heartwarming and lovely to see!
i can see his brother gravitating towards a spiritual sense of meaning and i really like that, specially when he talked about ali and his external achievements
Taimur needs to feature more on your channel! Big fan of the podcast! Listening to you two has made my car journeys more enjoyable
Im sorry but I find Ali hilarious and he doesn’t even try to be funny.
Yes , same here. Don't know why 🤭😂
Lol me too
I low-key sometimes feel Ali is the living embodiment of Sheldon
Taimur should start a YT channel. He has a great sense of humour! Sorry, Ali!
Great discussion! And the part where Taimur said he felt marginalized is so true, growing up in a Pakistani family the one thing everyone dreams of is being a doctor or an engineer, anything outside that you're considered a failure. It's been happening for so long but unfortunately some people, especially in Pakistan, have no idea how that effects individuals growing up. This is a very serious topic and I think it needs addressing further!
It doesn't make sense anyway. A country needs qualified people in all fields, especially a developing country that cannot easily brain drain such people from other countries. Wish brother country Pakistan the best. Pakistan Zindabad! From Turkey.
19:46 Love Ali’s impression of Tam. I feel like I know them both so well from this one interaction alone
18:12 rings true to me as an Indian!! My dentist/doctor cousins are rewarded for the accomplishments and held in high regard and it doesn’t seem to equate to me, when I win an industry nomination/award or an award at work. I take comfort in knowing I’m not alone and it drives me to work harder.
The difference b/w "internal arrogance" and confidence is that confidence only appears when you are faced with a challenge, whereas arrogance is something that's constantly present in the way a person interacts with another person. Does that make sense?
Confidence is I can do it. Arrogance is only I can do it
Frankly you look confident in what you say. I can see you have things well sorted for you. I mean even I have and there’s a part of me that wants people to adopt some of the positives that I have. So I can see what you do.
You two are just lovely and honest. What a brotherhood.
You have a very endearing dynamic. I love these types of videos and the podcast, please talk about the "geting ppl to like you" idea on it. I'd love to hear your thoughts on that.
I've been listening to your podcast for a few weeks already and I really like how Taimur laughs. It's very infectious in the podcast. Was finally able to witness it in this video. I thought in the thumbnail there were two Ali hahaha
I'm Arab and I would say 80% of my family are Doctors, but neither my mother, father or family have ever pressured me to be a doctor. Ironically externally there seems to be an assumption that I will become a doctor (I'm not medically inclined by the way). It's to the point that me and my family were at mosque and an aunty came up to me, my mum and my sisters and starts asking about what we have applied to for uni. Neither me and my sister have applied for medicine and we tell her honestly what our choices are, and then the aunty says to my mum "But aren't they smart? Why wouldn't they pick medicine?" as if that has to be the default choice of everyone with good grades and a medical family. So it can be very pressuring. Even if you aren't pressured by your family, I find that there is a tacit expectation from teachers and acquaintances that arabs/asians/muslims in general will study medicine.
Ikr or engineering i feel like anything other then that is just condier employable btw wht did u do in uni and when did u apply for it , and got for alevels?
@@aena5995 Yeah me and my mum have this joke: " you could be a doctor or an engineer, or a doctor or an engineer". I am actually in my final year of Alevels and I have applied to do modern foreign languages. You?
Noor Ibrahim yeah I studied computer science and people always ask why I didn’t go into engineering 😂
Basically brown skinned ppl like u and me 😂
Im thiking of going aerospace engineering line
Confidence with humbleness is important. This can help reduce the perception of arrogance.
This was great! Such honesty! I appreciate the candor from you both! Very entertaining to watch!
Your brother is just as brilliant as you !! so much to learn from you both !! thank you so much for sharing !!
Though I like your tips on productivity and work but I like your brother's notions about taking our own selves too seriously, comparison and on the emotional front
I agree with Ali. Arrogance has 2 characteristics : either you think of others as inferior to you and/or has difficultly accepting the truth(denier of truth)
Thank you so much for making these! Been enjoying your videos for a month and by far it’s one of my most favorite youtube channels ever. I learn quite a lot, feel really motivated so your videos are the go-to at the end of rough days. Recommended it to everybody I know lol. And I wish you all the best. ;) Keep it up!!
This channel is great for my brain😁
Their parents must be so proud MashaAllah
Completely agree with Taimur and the pedestal given to Doctors in the Asian community
Best duo on the Internet 👌🏻I love ur podcast too!!
I got Taimur's feeling as an outsider and devalued. I am a chemical engineer and for years ppl did not understand what is a CE they understand mechanical civil but not chemical. So they just give me the same disinterested answers 😂
Yeah... people think CE= Chemistry + engineering lol
@Unsung Songs in my country they do because many do not understand what we do. they just think its a fancy name for a chemist :)
@@SolvayConference exactly lol
haha my brother finds chemical engineering boring yet quite useful in a way but his heartstring was pulled by mechanical hopefully and inshallah he can be that
Very humble and real chat between the siblings. It reminded me of my bonding with my sister!!
My brother and I love your channel Ali and thought this was hilarious and fun!! Taimoor is so cut and dry, what on earth ahahaha ❤️ I might just check out the podcast now
Just two nerds chatting - loved this.
ههههههههههههههه ، يوم اتابعه احس اني غبي وفاشل
Taimur, I feel you. ❤️ My older (and only) brother is a neurosurgeon! I’m obviously the family disappointment being just a psychologist. Happy to join you in one of these all meds gathering and talk spreadsheets all the time. Some might not see it this way, but spreadsheets can save lives too!
I've never seen someone calling a psychologist a dissappointment before, thats weird, where I live it is just as difficult getting in to med school as studying as a psychologist. It is just a matter of personal opinion which one you prefer the most
This was amazing we need more of this
Such brilliant young men. Love from Kenya
MASHALLAH BOTH OF YOU HAVE MADE SO FAR.ITS KINDA INSPIRATION.
Completely understood what Taimur was saying about feeling undervalued! Such a good video and had a laugh watching it :)
ooh god Taimur is so honest..Really like his vibe
I love the relationship between you two.
Your differences really make you both interesting. Wish you both well! 😁
yes this time i am too early ali will definately see my comment.... loved from second year foreign medical student in china
you need to do more of these videos with taimur, great video! love the channel btw :))
I love the Not Over Thinking podcast!!
Taimur's laugh is so wholesome and merry I can't help but laugh along! 😂
Well done, you are two accomplished brothers!
I love these q&a videos. and to add to the discussion about arrogance, I think you have every right to be confident and proud of what you've accomplished. I haven't heard a hint of arrogance coming from you at all.
Love the brother!! Honest and chilled 👍
this was so fun to watch they're both so lovely
Absolutely love your podcasts and the Q&As both of you do together!! Yall are so hilarious and entertaining that I missed my bus stop twice haha 🤦🏻♀️
Really interesting to watch you two after listening to podcasts😆
Ali and Taimur...a healthy dose of Yin & Yang. Perfect together. Bless you both. Love the two of you Together in CZcams 🙏🙏🙏☕☕☕
OMG BROTHERS ONE IN CAMBRIDGE -MEDICINE AND THE OTHER MATH - OXFORD IS JUST MIND BLOWING!!!...
GOTTA TONS OF KNOWLEDGE MAN!!
Oh, I loved this. Your parents must be very proud of you both.
Want to see more of you with Taimur!
Recently chanced upon ur channel and I must say really great content. In the med field too and it's great to see another one us giving us content not just in med. I subscribed. Keep up the good work
I loved this Q&A. I listen to your podcast every week.💃🏾
Love this chat! More please
Damn i feel like they have exact voice quality like literally exact...
The way of speaking and body language also is exactly same...
Wowww i know they are siblings but this much similarity without being twins...Amazaing
Just followed Taimur on insta for the captions. Was not disappointed.
have to admit i prefer taimur’s podcast topics as opposed to life advice topics just because they’re more enjoyable to listen to, but I still find the life advice stuff useful.
I recently started listening to your podcasts and love the discussions y'all have! Y'all have really nice voices & accents too btw :')
This guys are definitely goals
Taimur is super philosophical. Love him.
People like Ali make great employees. Taimur is the type of guy to use someone like Ali to grow his business.
after watching around 5 videos of yours, I am officially your fan now, while watching this
@4:50 is the left and right sides of my brain, but more eloquent. It's a constant battle between productivity and originality.
14:40 Regarding this,
Ali do believe in himself and is indeed successful in many areas and he is really meaningful.
He seem very respectful to others, while remaining very respectful towards himself.
Respect to both of you guys.
I feel like Taimur is hugely accomplished and would benefit a lot from understanding that from his own side. I sympathize with his struggles with being compared to physicians; a huge part of my social circle is physicians and though I chose to study dentistry for a multitude of reasons, it is by no means because medicine was somehow too difficult or unachievable. There is a certain idolatry with physicians, and though I agree that medicine is an incredibly difficult field, the fact that someone does something else doesn't mean we have to fall victims to our environment. That said I identify a lot with Ali as well, having interests in science, healthcare, design, and productivity. I think having a career that spans both something people need (healthcare) and want (self-development, online learning, etc.) is fascinating. It's been great following your journey, Ali. And I checked out Causal; it's super polished and I can see it being exceptionally powerful, so I hope Taimur finds a lot of success in that.
so for me
confidence: being / feeling comfortable with who you are
and then i think there are two type of arrogant
type 1: you think you’re better than someone else (which can very well be true)
type 2: you treat people as if you’re something better (i hate that)
This was highly enjoyable!
That intro is HILARIOUS! True Brothers!,,,,