Growing Older, Grey Hair, Wrinkles, Menopause ~ Embracing the Wisdom of Aging
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- Accepting that we are all getting older and all that goes with it can be a scary process. We get old, our hair turns grey, wrinkles appear, menopause happens and for me the best parts are still to come! In this video, I talk about growing older, my grey hair, menopause how I am embracing it all. There is a true wisdom in life over 50 that comes, bringing a welcome self-acceptance and a becoming of who we truly are! Thanks for keeping me company dear souls on this magical journey. Xxxs Wendy. (p.s There is also a moving house update too!)
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The most interesting part of letting my hair go naturally silvery gray...other people's reactions. I'm astonished of how many people feel the need to tell me that my hair is turning and suggest a "perfect" color for me... 🙄😒. What is with that? I love my hair, and wrinkles I'm getting. I'm good in my own skin!
I am 45 have some greys coming in fast and love it too❤
yes sometimes this happens to me too1! xx
Yes. It is a startling beauty to see another fully loving and being exactly themselves, when that is a foreign concept. Can be awkward for them I suppose. ❤😂❤
My naturally blond hair turned platinum which is great, it means I'm done with expensive highlights but folk have to put in their tuppence don't they, my sister-in-law told me that I should go to the hairdressers and chop off my long hair into a nice Bob! Noooo thanks, at 68 I am perfectly happy with the comfort of not having to even think about my hair. 😊
When I let my hair go grey. I was surprised by all the compliments I got from strangers, women. It was so affirming. I'm sorry not everyone gets that. We have to remember to compliment when we have the urge to tell someone what they should do
Oh, the freedom to finally get rid of those pesky monthly’s. I’m now 80. I went through my menopause years ago. Ladies, you will be so happy when it’s all over. It’s well worth all the stress of menopause (the hot flashes, forgetfulness, and mood changes) to enjoy stressless years ahead. Blessings to all of you. ❤
thankyou oh so much xxx big loves and blessings back! xx
Oh to hear this has made my night. Thank you lovely Babs. Wendy talked about the tunnel and your message is like the light at the end of it. I’m 56 and all over the shop. Pushing through without HRT and feeling like I lost myself in the midst of it all. I sometimes wonder if I will ever have a night’s sleep again. You have given me hope xx
I’m coming off HRT and everything hurts - aches and pains and stiffness especially when getting up from rest or sleep - I hope that passes and I begin to feel ok again 😢
Lovely Wendy, thank you for that episode❤. 56 now, monthlies gone for 6 years now. Gained about 25 kg of weight. I wish i was as slim as at the times i thought i was chubby😂. Energy still not as it was before, but sometimes it glimpses through and i enjoy those hours. I Love your silber hair, it makes your face shine. For me you are the silver fairy ❤. Last year i went from long dyed brown hair to really short and silver and i never regretted. Love your videos and chats ❤. Take good care ❣️
Congrats on being 80. Wow, going to be 71 and surprised I lived this long. ❤👍🙏
I’m 75. Menopause was the best thing that ever happened to me.
LOL! I'm there with you. Just turned 72, retired and looking for a new journey. Its ok to think of life as multiple journeys rather just one, right?
@@angelinaaihara2977yes!
I went into menopause at age 54,.......and yes, what a relief!!!😊
I had my menopause at 54 without any side effects! It of course meant no more awful periods 🎉 so Yes, it was the best thing that happened to me too ☺️
@@ExLibris-AlysIs the 50s the norm? 😳 I didn't know I was in menopause until I stopped getting periods! 😂 Like mid-40s. Horrible menstrual cramps for decades, late bloomer (I was going into 8th-grade when I finally got my period at 13). I think I heard that people with rough periods have good menopause.
Hi Wendy! I’m a breast cancer survivor who went into menopause due to treatment at 49. I’m 68 now and I can tell you my energy level started to return after maybe 5 years, and it keeps getting better! I’m grateful every day to be in good health and enjoying life!
Is the norm in one's 50s? I think I was mid-40s when I got my last period. I never experienced what some women describe as a lot of hot flashes and the like. The only change was irregular periods and sudden very heavy flow that happened unpredictably, but even that was not for long. I had been a vegetarian for many years (still am) and consumed a li5 of soy. I think that did it. The whole hormone replacement therapy and all the things women do when it should be a natural progression.
I'm 48 and 1/2 way through my chemo treatment for Breast Cancer as well. Mine is an estrogen loving cancer so I'm "forced" into menopause too. Thank you for sharing your story! xx
I hope my energy levels return. I'm 54.
As an older person (77) my advice would be to ask your parents and other older family members about their lives. They are the keepers of your family's stories and once they are gone the stories fade into the past. I often of things I wished I had asked my mother. My great-great-grandmother was a Native American but I don't know anything about her, not even her tribe. We often take others for granted when we are young.
Hi Jane. I'm also now in pre-menopause, slowly getting grey hair (and I love them since they are sparkling like diamonds). I would love to turn to someone older in my family but sadly there is nobody I could turn to. What you describe is how it should be and I'd love to have some wonderful woman in my family to ask about it. Makes me a bit sad but I'm a pioneer anyway. So I'll be good on my own :) What I love however in the pre-menopause situation is the fact that it doesn't matter what others think about my appearance. Of course I'm not walking around like catweazle in female form 😂but I very much enjoy myself no matter what. The peace of not having that teenage mixture of hormones in my body is indeed very relaxing 🤣
Jane! Such an interesting thing to point out. I am in my early 60's and doing quite an extensive family tree. I cannot tell you how many times I have sat with comforting memories of my grandmother telling me stories but also the twang of regret that I didn't spend more of my youth colleting the stories of my family.
You are so correct about this. Knowing what I know now at almost 71, I wish I had asked my Grandparents and parents about so many more things. ❤️
The best part of post menopausal is not having to wear menstruation pads but now I
approaching my nineties I'm back to wearing sensitive bladder pads. Love to all xxx
I’m looking at everyone’s comments and I’m overwhelmed with joy, joy, joy. Women talking, sharing their stories, and just being genuine with each other. Gives me all the feels. I love being female, with all the hills and valleys, and Wendy, thank you for providing a safe space to share. I’m 53 and am in menopause. I find it fascinating that considering women spent a good 3rd of our life (if we are fortunate) in menopause/post menopause it’s so hush hush, so rarely talked about. I’m so pleased Wendy opened this convo.
me too dear soul. xxxxx and thankyou too for being here xx
Hello Wendy, I am a breast cancer survivor, I was diagnosed at 45, and the chemotherapy sent me straight into a drug induced menopause. The hot flash’s or flush’s I I called them were horrendous, and lasted quite some years, as I had 6 years of treatment. It brought up great sadness and emotions as I couldn’t have children , although we did adopt 3 children, even so the menopause brought back the pain of all those years trying. I do think that so many didn’t make it, including my Mum and Dad who both died way too early from having cancer. So I know I am so lucky to still be here 19 years later, with my grey hair, a big enormous arm, due to lymphedema, a result from the cancer treatments, but I have a deep appreciation for my life, for nature and my creativity. I am now facing getting older and each day is so precious, I love it! ❤
As an adoptee, I want to thank you for being an adoptive mother. You ladies who adopt are truly the best moms out there. :)
❤
@@theMermaidRhonda Thank you, that is such a lovely thing to say. Best wishes to you. X
Thanks for your positive attitude. I'm going through radiation starting tomorrow. It is helpful to know it will get better. 👩🎨
@@2create101ArtistJSC Sorry, only just seen your comment, I hope it is all going well for you… love and hugs ❤️❤️❤️
I noticed that I have followed quite a few women in their late 40s to late 60s on YT. I think I am becoming less scared of aging - though it is still there to some extent - but following women around my age who are doing creative, life-affirming things makes me realize that I continue to have lots to look forward to. I let my hair go gray when I was 46 going on 47 because I had moved into an apartment that was a bit out of my range for a new job. I had to ask for help, and it seemed wrong to ask for help to pay for my hair treatments - and it was becoming obvious that I would need to go every 3-4 weeks to keep up the charade. Of course, I do miss my brunette hair in lots of ways but not that much when I really think about it. I so appreciate you sharing your journey and normalizing talking about aging with its ups and downs. I turned 50 in January 2020 - so I knew something big was happening because I was watching global news - but it wasn't in Ohio (that we knew of). Anyway - something about turning 50 changed me. I no longer had patience for unkind "friends" or shallow relationships. I no longer had time to chase people who didn't make me a priority, and I let go of toxic friends. I have fewer folks to hang out with, but everyday I realize that I enjoy my own company, and I have been quite busy supporting my daughter as she steps into adulthood.
Yes, I went through the same and with the friend thing. I seem to fly solo now, and I like it for my creativity. I need and enjoy my alone time. Take care.
Someone once said “today is the youngest you’ll be for the rest of your life” that really made me think. However old you may feel, you’ll be older tomorrow, so make the most of today.
I have no one else to talk to, apart from Madge, my rescue greyhound , but she sleeps for most of the day, so I talk out loud to myself all the time! I have had hot flushes for the past 16 years! I have never taken anything for the menopause. The nurse seems to think that I am still going through the menopause, at almost 67 years young in November?! My hair went white some time ago now, and I have not had my hair coloured for about 17 years - I just let it go grey, and then it went white very quickly, which I was pleased about, as I just leave it alone. That drawing you did of the beautiful girl's head and hair, is soooo beautiful. I love the fact that you love glittery lights, and that you put your Christmas tree up once at the Equinox! It is so lovely to have happy things around us, and Christmas decs and twinkly lights do that for me too, even though I am alone with my dog for Christmas. I put my decs up earlier every year, and maybe I shall follow your lead, lovely Wendy, and put my Christmas tree in my sitting room in November (my Birthday month) and decorate it, to cheer me up! I keep a journal every day, and write it up when I go to bed at night. I really find that it helps me, and is like having someone to talk to about my day. I only go out to walk Madge, and to take the rubbish out, due to my severe anxiety, but I am trying hard to walk a little further towards the village every day (which is only a mile away, but I have not made it there yet) but I get this feeling that I have to turn around, and get back home to my safe place. I take Madge out about 4/5 times for walks though during the day, as I have no garden here, only a little front area, where we can sit out in the sun/shade if we want to, and I have put lots of plants in pots in it, and a few trees. So I make my home my sanctuary, and always say hallow house, when I get back through my front door, and tell the house how much I love it! xxx
I’m 71. I experienced hot flashes of varying levels for 30 years. Come to find out that in 2005 I was diagnosed with Hashimotos an autoimmune disease ( antibodies attack my thyroid) that causes hypothyroidism, low functioning thyroid. This condition also causes hot flashes. I didn’t find out the hypothyroidism was a cause for hot flashes until I was in my 60’s. Consider getting lab work to determine if this is an issue for you. I hope not. Came back to edit and support your courage to walk with anxiety. It’s a win every time you walk. It’s not destination, it’s the courage to move. You are a warrior!
@@Fiawordweaver Thank you for your message Fiawordweaver. I suddenly had muscles feel as if they had been pulled, and this went on for about 3 months, moving around my body? I shall ask the doctor about Hashimotos, and wonder if the muscle things could be due to something like this? I am still getting the hot flushes. Just had to have a back tooth removed, and I had a gum infection in there - it has taken 3 weeks for the pain to ease, and I have been in a lot of pain! I had to get a friend to take me to the dentist, and this was the first time I had been out in 4 years! xxx
@@jillychandler the most difficult task is being your own advocate when you’re not feeling well. I don’t have answers but I do validate what your body and emotions are struggling with. I had a complete panel of labs done to make sure I didn’t have several autoimmune diseases going on because I have chronic fatigue syndrome for the last 3 years. I have to remind myself on a moment to moment basis frequently that I am safe. No one can hurt me anymore to keep my anxiety managed. Our words we speak to ourselves are powerful. That swing either way. Feeding our fear with anxiety flooding or calming ourselves with breathing and reminding ourselves we are safe. In my 40’s I couldn’t even describe my feelings of panic without going into a panic attack. I send you a comforting hug.
@@Fiawordweaver Thank you so much for your kind words. xxx
Thank you for your channel. I’m 71, abuse survivor. Writing poetry to release pain. Empowered by menopausal freedom. I also tinker with redesigning jewelry with spirit animals to heighten my empowerment. The jewelry represents more art form than adornment. I created my signature hair style by shaving my head except a curly tuff on my left side, beret style. It’s a grey black swirl. The style emerged from my 2018, craniotomy. My benign brain tumor was removed, leaving half my head shaven. I loved the look and extended the shave around my head. I appreciate all the story sharing your channel creates from sisterhood. This is a safe place to enjoy your content, to be heard and hear from others. ❤❤❤
Hi Wendy, I'm 34 and I guess it's all ahead of me. I don't have a family and due to childhood trauma have decided not to have children. The thoughts of growing old do scare me, it's great to see women like yourself enjoying life and aging naturally, thank you for sharing with us ❤️
take reassurance dear soul and as one commentor above said,,,, life begins after menopause!! isn't that a joyful thought! x much love x
I had children at the age of 40 and 42. They were a second marriage choice to go through, and it was more fun than having my children in my twenties.
Never say never. Now, at the age of 63, grandchildren are even more fun. They give the best hugs!!!
Due to my mental health issues, depression etc I am not sure I can give a child a healthy life and care it needs. I want to break the trauma cycle. I suppose my dream in life is to have a family of my own, perhaps it will be a family with animals... lets see :)@@debbiehopper5288
I’m from the U.S. My hair is white ( so says my precious granddaughters) and past my shoulders. I am delighted to say I have compliments about my hair now. It takes courage to go against what society dictates women should do. Especially the beauty industry. Hair color generates billions.
yay! and so true.... 'beauty' industry indeed! xxx
hey suze!I have REALLY THICK wavy hair that is turning strawbrerry blonde w/white bits.It's down past my waist ,I refuse to cut it(turns into a fluffy helmet if I go too short!)But I am a Leo also so I just concider it my mane!And i dont give a damn who dosn't like it!Do what makes you happy!
@@wendi4418 after seeing your gorgeous hair I’ve decided to stop cutting my hair!❤️☺️
I call the 3 stages of my life the bud, the flower and the elderflower. Loving being an elderflower! No periods and past the hot flushes. I’m wiser and more confident. The best is yet to come!
FLASHES.
@@lemurianchickin the UK we call them flushes 😊.
@@sarawilliams7453 🚽 🧻 💩🤣
@@lemurianchick British women have hot FLUSHES!!
Oh I love that. Bud, flower and elderflower . Even the appearance of the elderflower fits.
Dear Wendy:
Watching your videos is my favorite time of the week.
I feel so comfy and happy... Like meeting a lifetime friend🤍🤍
You have a beautiful soul, so rare in this messy world!!
Keep spreading your magic and happiness, beautiful fairy
🥰🧚🏻♀️
Tons of love 🤍💋
Anen
I have been on an amazing art journey and it has been truly a blessing to me. I just turned 81. Turing 80 I thought would be the pentacle of life. I am so excited now watching the next generation of my grandkids as the experiece the joys of life. 81 is just a number. Focus on the end of tunnel. Your fairies are so amazing. I have identified with thei emotional expressions. You have a very unique talent.
Hi Wendy, part of my depression and low energy was due to low thyroid hormone levels and low vitamin d. Anyone with low energy, please have these levels tested. Congratulations on your new home!
And then what? Take a drug? I don't want to take meds.
There are natural solutions and knowledge is power
65, and filled with positive energy. Went the "homeopathic" path way, so no synthetic hormones.. Post menopause @45. Went completely white @57. Keep physically and spiritually fit... Doing anything creative is the key. Thank you for your awesome work... Have a great week. 😇🥰
Good afternoon Wendy! I am 67 post menapausal and I have more energy than when I was in my teens. I have let my hair gray naturally sunce my late 50's. Turning gray took me awhile to get used to. But now I am more confident than ever. I believe turning 60 made me feel good in my own skin and not caring what someone else might think about me and my life. I am content and not married. I have a wonderful guy that has been by my side for 37 years! Love your drawings. Great news on your house.😊❤
I turned 40 a few days ago and it was so hard for me. I was dreading it for months prior. I felt like it was an execution date approaching. It helped my spirit to hear you say you had a hard time with it as well.
My plan was to get in my van and drive out west (America) and camp until my birthday past and then come back home after it was over. But my lovely husband insisted he had a plan for us and he ended up making it my most favorite birthday. He rented a nice hotel and bought a couples painting kit online for us to paint together. (My husband does not have an artistic bone in his body and it looked more like he was scrubbing a dish than painting, but that made me love the thoughtful gesture so much more) No matter what difficulty we face it’s the one ones who love us and walk beside us through the tunnel that make life grand.
Such a sweet gift for your husband to create such a memorable and happy birthday for you 🤗
I had one of those birthdays, I swear I cried for a month 😂, when I turned 30 of all things!!! Birthdays haven’t been so scary since, I’m turning 55 this December, and so grateful to be here for it 🎉❤🎉
Hi Wendy, Thanks for talking about this. I am post menopausal and nearly 60 and glad to be still here after dealing with health issues. I am much more patient and accepting . I stopped dyeing my hair in my 50s and love spending more time creating art and bothering less about what other people think of me. It is quite liberating, isnt it ?
many onward healing hugs xxx and yes, so true is absolutely is!! xx
I send you much love ❤
Oh yes! I stopped dying my hair about 5 years ago at age 63, wish I'd have done it much sooner. OMG it is SO wonderful not to deal with or care about that anymore and I always get compliments on my hair. If someone doesn't like how I look as I age naturally without work done on my face and body, then they can just walk on by.
Amen to that sister. It gets better but even for things that don't quite out how we want, we don't waste our energies on needless things which are what can wear an ol body down. Patience tolerance has replaced the anxieties that were not needed in the first place.
I am still processing my sixties but at the same time I don't worry about it. It's a waste of time and energy.
I loved it when I could finally let my hair go naturally white/grey. SO much less hassle. The sleep-broken nights and hot flashes were the biggest challenge for me. The flashes still occur on occasion. Otherwise, yes, energy returned, and was so glad not to have to deal with that visitor every month. 😉 I think creativity is a great fountain of youth, whether you are painting or writing or coaching other creatives. As I sign my newsletters, "Keep writing. Keep creating."
it's the sleep deprivation and dry eyes that are doing me in
Congratulations on your new in-between home.
I agree with everything you said. I will be turning 60 during first of year. Im greatful for another year. I am post menopause and have never taken hormone replacements etc. Just growing older greatfully. I pay more attention to nutrition these days but I don't fret on it. I don't wear make up I dress as I please and I'm not bothered by what people think. I accept that somedays I have more energy and some days none. Im ok with all of growing older and it feels like I'm really living for me the first time in my life. Im happy even with the aches and pains and a few health issues Im alive and Im greatful. I spend most days in my little artroom with my furbabies, dinner with my hubby and sleep with the moon and rise with the day light and greatful for a little bit cooler days. I don't stress about what life throws at us and accept it for what happens happens. I washed my hands of politics for good and leaving it up to the younger generation. Im tired, I just want to paint and thats what I do. I really enjoy your insightful videos. Its nice to see you at your art table again. Best wishes on a smooth move. Hire people because you can only do what you can do. Moving is a stressful job but an exciting one and the finally settling in part is a great reward. Much love.
I loved reading your comment. I am doing these things you mentioned also. I am 54 and my goal is just to let things be without worry. I am working on this a lot. I love to read novels, paint and bake. I also washed my hand of politics. When COVID happened his changed my whole view on politics and I am done with it. I do not even want to hear others talking about it. If they do I leave the room.
I am 70 and feel better than at 50, maybe 40. Also am on a very clean diet with regular exercise and doing art! A college friend said she thought I am more flexible than she has ever seen me. I do Qigong, Tai Chi and more.
Fabulous!!! My Dad was still riding his bike everywhere, going to Yoga, and to the gym daily into his 70’s! Fantastic way to build up some energy if you’re able, at any age!! ❤
I just turned 45, and i'm struggling with it a bit. I see changes in my face, and thinning hair and it's weird lol But i'm letting my hair go, and not dying it anymore and trying to embrace. But it is hard. Peri-Menopause is really something. Some days I feel crazy lol and some days I know exactly who I am and it's a powerful thing. What a ride.
I love your videos. They inspire me and calm me.
Much Love.
it is definitely a journey of letting go and getting used to things... x i do feel you xxx The crazy does end and lessen a LOT!!! Big loves xxx
I’m 45 and notice a “change” at 38. I was perimenopausal and now I feel like I’m approaching menopause..my periods are ending and feeling less depressed…the fatigue comes and goes now…I’ve gained weight but now I’m slowly feeling hopeful again. ❤️🙏🏻 Yea, please talk about this topic because I feel many of us are so confused about these horrible symptoms and definitely more about the mental health during menopause.
Watching your videos just makes my heart happy. I have been in menopause for 15 years. I had uterine cancer at 37 and have everything taken. I never had any children. I still have hot flashes, nite sweats, insomnia but I opted not to have hormone replacement therapy. This is definitely a roller coaster and every day is a challenge but we get through it! 💕 to everyone that watches this channel.
Same here, no kids, uterine cancer at 45 led to a hysterectomy.
I've decided not to do hormone replacement either, but I do take estrovin over the counter.
I'm 40, and I started to get gray hairs when I was 16 years old. I haven't dyed my hair in 10 years because I'm too lazy to do it, and also I like my ~60% gray hair. This was a few weeks ago, but a 30-year-old glanced at me and commented to her boyfriend, "I'm seeing more people dye their hair gray lately." and I missed my chance to say to her "nope, this all natural". I enjoyed my 30s, but I'm looking forward to my 40s.
I'm am 67yr old this year. I have always dreamed of your life in a fairy house with the freedom to do the earthy things, like walks and gardens and such. Thank you for sharing with us. I can live vicariously through you. Lol. I could be free to sew as much as I wanted. But, alas, my life comes with pain and disability so thank you for sharing your precious life with us. 😊
Now 49 but peri-menopausel for last 10 yrs due to other medical issues. The last 5 of peri were really bad but so glad I was able to get my hysterectomy last month that alleviated 90% of my "suffering symptoms." I am looking forward to learning my new post-menopausal life. I've been grey since my 20's and was so happy to get to my 40's - which is when I feel my life really got to be it's absolute best. I'm more happy 40+ then I ever felt as a teenager or younger adult. So glad your willing to talk about things that affect so many of us that others want to avoid. Love your talent and sharing nature and just love you. Thanks for all you do!
I'm 64 and my energy is still up and down. I am afraid of taking hormones, so I have learned to manage the reality of energy levels each new day.
I'm a son from the 70s... Grey hair, not so in shape anymore... But I don't feel old, nor older... I just got a bit more experience than the souls around me. But I still feel the same, I still enjoy life the same way, I still feel alive, I feel the energy inside my veins... And my art continues to grow! I refuse to change who am I... No matter how long I will stay in this realm, my true essence will continue to exist!
Thank you for talking about this topic. I’m 54 and had no periods for 18 months so I guess I’m post menopausal. I think I’ve suffered every symptom going. Brain fog, weight gain, joint pain, anxiety, clumsiness, hot flushes, night sweats. I find myself bursting into tears for no reason. I’m hoping this will ease in time. Please let it ease 🙏🏻
I did my thesis on menopause and realised that a majority of information around menopause and perimenopause is the physical symptoms (vasomotor symptoms) however, not much gets mentioned around the psychological or emotional turmoil that women have to go through. Well done using your creating and art for your therapy. Oh, and when you are through the tunnel your energy will increase and you will have a different sense of self, better than before 🙂
Yes, the grief.
I talk to myself ALL the time. I'm my best listener.
Hi Wendy, I’m in hospital recovering from a hysterectomy at 46 and been going through menopausal symptoms for a while now. Just wanted to say as I lay here not feeling great, thank you 🙏 Your bravery to share your life, art and feelings with all of us, you are teaching me to be ok with my feelings and to just let things flow. Thank you so much for giving me a safe relaxing place to land and recover.
Iam so thrilled you and James have a new home, can’t wait to see if it’s the one with the glass room/studio down stairs.
Thank you again and all the best with the upheaval of moving and have fun making it your own home as much as possible.
Love and peace from Marnie in Aus🫶🫶🫶
Well wishes for a quick recovery, and abundant health in the years ahead!
Hi there! I had a total hysterectomy at age 47. I went through really tough menopause symptoms for 7 months and then it was all GONE! Not a one of those symptoms came back and I'm on no hormone therapy or any kind of treatment for post menopause, never was. I'm now 68 and SO grateful I went through months of symptoms like my doctor said I would, instead of YEARS of symptoms like she said I would have normally. I had to get a hysterectomy because of extremely heavy periods and clots coming out of me each month, and fibroids. I have to say, having that surgery was one of the best things I ever had done. No more PMS, no more periods! For me it was wonderful once I got past the instant menopause symptoms. So hang in there, it WILL get better even though at times you think it won't, it WILL! Sending you strength, hugs and love ❤
Why did you get it removed? I heard that a lot of these operations are unnecessary.
I attended a menopause workshop today, lead by an NHS nurse. I am not going through the menopause as such but the subject interests me. She advised to take four things...magnesium, vitamin d, omega 3 and as much fibre as you can. Menopause is so misunderstood which is crazy. Great video 👏
Hi @donna-elisabeth!
I am not of the medical profession. But I have used magnesium which I found reduces anxiety but it can make your excrement go soft. Maybe it is why the nurse suggested to eat fiber. But you have to know that fiber have only mechanical properties and actually reduces the capacity of your body to absorb vitamins and minerals. As for vitamin d, you can be in trouble if you absorb to much of it, 15 minutes of sunshine is all that is requiered so that your body produces enough of it for the day. I don't know much about omega 3.
I'll recommend you to check with your own physician if you're not already receiving all these nutrients through your food.
What you can do to regulate your mood is to go for walks outside, you can help other which will help you feel that you are contrbuting to something good and will reduce your sense of self-importance.
Watch movies that makes you laugh.
You can watch the chanel : the School of life: czcams.com/video/s2AUI-7GRJc/video.html
it is a philosophical channel that will help you put your life into perspective.
Have a good day...
Talk to myself always, the best conversations ever! Thank You for sharing! You are so beautiful inside and out.
I am 67. Post menopausal. Energy - ha! I let my hair go gray at 59. It looks very pretty - with my blue eyes and fair coloring. One piece of advice - stay physically active. I have gradually lost a sense of balance, don't now how common that is. Calling it sitting too much and not moving enough. The older I get the happier I become. Finally got comfortable 'in my own skin.' I am kinder and more caring towards others, but not so much in tune with the latest fashions whether it be clothing or latest decorating design for your home. I am content to stay home, knit, garden, spend time with friends and loved ones, read and keep learning new things of interest. Hugs to everyone who is going through any hormonal changes. It does get better!
I just turned 67. And I agree with everything you said. But staying physically is the key. Stay true to yourself. Loves
See if there is a yoga group close to you. No pressure and it really helps improve balance. Cheers!
Wendy,I am proud and grateful to be part of your tribe. Your "Wendy Waffles" have helped me negotiate many bumpy paths. Thank you for being here. Melx
You are a delight to watch and listen too - I’m 77 and have been where you are now - it’s really a process that ends - life if good❤️❤️
Xxx awww, lovely!! xxx thankyou
'A creative branch of my tree' I love that saying!
Hi Wendy ! I went through perimenopause in my 40's. It was tough emotionally. I handled the hot flushes and had few sleepless nights, and alot of forgetfulness! I even left my husband (we got back together a few years later!!) so, yes, it was something to go through. I learned quite abit about myself at that time. I am in my mid 60's now and still learning! I've gone grey since my 40's, it never bothered me though. All I can say is life goes by so fast!! Let us enjoy each moment doing things that make us happy! Keep your light shining too, so we can see as we follow along! Hugs from Canada!!
Wendy ❤…57 next month….peri menopause and menopause were not easy for me…a few years of terrible insomnia…the physical symptoms were not as hard as the emotional difficulties….AWFUL empty lonliness, terrible panic attacks and anxiety. I was teaching and didn’t have much time to look after myself. Honestly…menopause has changed me…I don’t feel the same….in same ways better…and in some ways not. It is nice to read and hear from women in the same stage of life.❤
I agree, I am 54 and yes some ways better, however, I do not have the energy I had which I do miss.
I might be going through pre-hot flashes. Some nights we’d be going to bed with a ceiling fan running, ac on, and 2 small fans on our night tables and I’d still be burning up!
Aloha Wendy - My mother went 'grey' rather young, so in 1st grade I was teased about being adopted. Her hair came in white. So did mine, it started arriving when I was 30. When it comes in, mixed with the original color, there's compliments for how it is evenly distributed and how much people pay for that sort of hair treatment. I dyed it plum rose 30 years ago. It stuck to the white, so that was much fun. I'm always ahead of trends. haha Thanks for sharing your life adventure. Much love to your house hunting. Peace and well-being to all of us. Eliza
I am 57 and am period free for 2 years so im in full menopause. Hot flashes still come but not as often. Energy level gets a bit better but dosnt come back fully. Sleep gets a bit better
congratualtions!! and thankyou xxxx
somehow you found me, and I am quite pleased that you did, I find you to be a lovely girl whose company I very much enjoy.
sending love 🙏🏽❤️
Dear Wendy, WOO-HOO to your new home! You and James persevered through such a roller coaster! Kudos for hanging in with trust. I’m as happy for you as I was for myself when I found my house!❤❤❤ Re: aging. Menopause is a distant memory as I’m 69 and it’s marvelous. Energy-wise I had a year to recover from a devastating back pain-all gone now-but have yet to spring back to my best self. Food affects me mightily, and my stamina is affected by things like sugar, wine, and gluten…so I do my best to eat well. What all my cronies (haha) and I agree is we can still do a LOT, as long as we pace ourselves. I stopped coloring my hair 20 years ago and what a savings! Also hair is so much glossier. Thank you Wendy, you’re such a sweet soul. 😊
Lovely drawing. I think it's great to talk about things that are not always talked about. It's like having a girl chat😊 Oh and your hair is beautiful. Gray, bed hair, you look just fine and wonderful.
“In my life I have found two things of priceless worth - learning and loving. Nothing else - not fame, not power, not achievement for its own sake - can possible have the same lasting value. For when your life is over, if you can say 'I have learned' and 'I have loved,' you will also be able to say 'I have been happy.”
― Arthur C. Clarke, Rama II
“You are enough” is something I will try to remember.
When it comes to my art, I feel pretty confident, but when it comes to my day job, I feel the imposter syndrome. My day job is accounting/financial analysis, I have a degree in it, but I always feel like I don’t know anything in this field 😩
It’s so funny for me to be years younger than you and thinking: ‘oh honey, been there, done that.’ - Yepp, hit the stuff super early. Still hot flushing, everything else has resolved. You’ll be fine! ✌️😄
Hey love! I'm a 27 year old female artist and I want to thank you for putting yourself out there and creating content. I don't see as many women (older than 25) creating and sharing their artistic endeavors and this gives me hope for my life! Thank you for setting a great example of us women staying true to who we are and not just disappearing into the woodwork as we age.
Hello Wendy. I'm in my 50s as well, and my doctor says I'm post-menopausal now. I've recently separated from my husband, who has been stifling my creativity since I met him almost five years ago. I shouldn't have let that happen, but I'm really looking forward to getting settled into my new home and finding me again. My energy levels have been up and down over the years...mostly down lately because of stress, but I've decided to be gentle with myself. Take a nap when I feel I need one or walk my pup when I'm feeling low. The autumn weather was beautiful today, a bit rainy with all the colorful leaves in contrast to the dark blue grey sky. My favorite season really. Thank you for bringing your whimsical personality to the internet. You are a joy and an inspiration to watch. 🤍
Hi Wendy,
I'm 56 and well into post menopause & I've got my energy levels back but lack off sleep sometimes because of pain in my joints depletes me.
I struggle with anxiety sometimes & going over things that have happened but I try to just wash over it & I'm getting better at that.
I'm in a much better place now I'm older, more patience & don't care about grey hair or what people think of me, I'm definitely happier.
As you say its a process we go through & we will get there but we have to take the journey.
I look forward to seeing your new home,
Much love,
🥰 x
I'm so glad that we are talking about menopause. My lovely mom is very uncomfortable talking about it and everyone else cuts me off for different topics. I'm 53 and have had very few symptoms until now. I am feeling a great lack of motivation. I don't feel depressed, just tired and blah.
@@winterwoodcottage3657 yes a lot of people won’t talk about it but it’s part of life, I lost my dear mum in July & she talked about it having been a nurse but couldn’t always remember all the journey of it. My partner is happy to talk about it, so very lucky there 😊
I'm in my 60's. And yes it is challenging at times, adjusting to the new image of myself. But I'm glad I made it and am here to see the new me! Take care.
Thank you Wendy. I’m post menopausal yet a breast cancer survivor who’s on meds that keep me in a crazy menopausal state. I’m also a 3rd grade teacher who’s dealing with teaching/student/parent challenges. Thank you so much for what you said at the start of this video. I’m going to quote you and put it on my desk. ♥️ It’ll help keep me in a balanced, healthy place.
gosh, soft healing loves xxxx and hat off to your teacher self too! xxx Bless you so much xxxx
Big Blessings to You Patricia. 💛🌻🤗
Always have a chat with the ppl upstairs, oh I mean myself 🙊😊 I think it helps me keep grounded and somewhat sane...
I enjoy just being...
I am enough.
I am worthy.
I turned 54 November 1st. Like a lot of women I'm dealing with fibroids while going through my premenopause/menopause journey. I've gotten a clean bill of health for my lady bits and bone density. I'm currently getting Lupron injections that are helping shrink my fibroids. I've never been a morning person who jumps out of bed rushing around to get the day started. I'm more leisurely about my mornings. Even more so with menopause. There are times when I ask my husband to let me know of plans the day before so I can prepare by taking a melatonin gummy and getting in bed early for hopes of a good nights sleep. Then I give myself enough time to have a leisure morning. All part of self care. Energy does return🤗
It's amazing how the mind tends to go back to things in the past during this time in life. Things that you think are in the past pop into your head out of no where taking up space in your thoughts. It's quite frustrating. And why do people think I care what they think about my hair! LOL! I've never really been into my hair. I'm going grey and loving it! I was going to cut it all off but decided to chopped off the sides and back leaving the top to grow long.
After having horrendous cycles that left me anemic and exhausted and had to have iron infusions, I'm relieved it's over. The hot flashes and insomnia aren't fun, but I know it's temporary. I am grateful to be aging and I'm wholeheartedly looking forward to what's ahead. In many ways I feel like I'm just getting started.
I’m 59 and I love my white hair It’s nice to have the pleasure of doing things at a different pace I think we take more time to enjoy the simple thing that now mean so much ❤
52 yrs young here, menopause for me has been a rollercoaster. Peri was depression, not knowing who I was or why I was on this planet. Things I loved to do didn't bring me joy anymore and I felt like I was in a fog most days. Now I am in pre-menopause I guess, and I've found new creativity, new zest most days. Still have some depressing days, low energy and I just want to sleep. But the energy days are like I am in my twenties again...the highs are high and the lows are low. The menstrual part is like a jack in the box for lack of better terms and I am so ready for it to just be GONE! 😂
I have not dyed my hair in 3 years now and I watch the tinsel as I call it start to shine more and more like glitter randomly pop up. I am hoping that the thinning changes and starts to grow back. I don't care if it grows back all silver...just be there!
I used to be an extrovert when younger but as I've grown older I've become more of an introvert. And surprisingly, I don't mind it. I enjoy being with myself as I've learned a lot about me during the alone times. (I am married, however, I work from home)
I myself used to worry about how others view me, and I still do occasionally, but I am learning to release those worries and realize that others opinions of me are their business not mine.
At the end of the day, their thoughts of me, do not inhibit my growth or my journey.
There is a sense of freedom when you look at it that way.
And isn't that what menopause for women is really?
The release of the burdens that we had to endure, to shed the past parts of us that no longer suit our needs for the rest of our journey, to reach the other side of this shedding to our feminine freedom?
I like to look at it that way, as it keeps my mind focused on the other side of all this shedding chaos lol
I thank you for talking about menopause, some of us have no one to talk to about it and it's such a relief knowing that we aren't alone in this journey.
Blessings to you!
I had to have a total hysterectomy 4 years ago and went into instant surgical menopause. I had all the symptoms all the time instantly. And I could not take anything for comfort due to being a breast cancer survivor.
It was pure hell - body, mind, and spirit. Now 4 years later at 55, I'm finally feeling human again lol (although I'm still hot all the time)
Thanks for always sharing the real bits of life ❤
Wendy you really are glowing. The excitement of moving is clearly energising you. I'm also 53 but my menopause journey started at 47. I still find my energy levels a challenge but i am getting better at pacing myself. I try to remember, like you said, that life is a journey and now that my children have left home i am embracing a new time. It's not always easy but l am learning to be me and like who i am ❤
Finding this video within the same week I decided to let my (very grey) hair grow natural at 47 is the sign I needed to know I'm making the right choice. Thank you for always shining you bright light and magical wisdom our way, Wendy. ✨
Dearest Wendy, I adore you and your gentle approach to art, to aging to life in general. Growing old with grace is a challenge...I am 14 years into menapause...no longer a pause...haha...menastop I guess. I find I am still so lovingly in tune with our moon cycles and feel the energies of each phase without the physical, but still very aware of the emotional pull of the tides. I sleep quite well now and yes, my energy did return. I have an auto immune disease so am tender with my energy always. Thank you for your kind ways and the reminders to be kind to myself as my body sometimes lets go...lol...recent broken tooth and now I have a crown...Queen that I am! Many blessings to you as you create your new home.
ah thankyou xxx and many blessings to you and your new Queen Crown!! xx Love that!! x
It’s so reassuring to read all these comments- it’s certainly not talked about enough , I’m 55 and abruptly started the menopause after having cancer treatment age 43, and feel like I have been going through it all twice , as I reached the age where it would have started more naturally.... but now realising that many woman go through it for years.... I wish I’d been kinder to myself earlier on , now finally feel like I can relax more into the process, and there are glimmers of silvery light through the difficult times ....💕💕
I am 72 now & when I went through menapause I had very little energy & it was a very busy time in my life. Your energy will probably return but its a bit different but in a good way. I found after all the emotional, physical & mental challenges I had, when it was well over I found a brand new beautiful freedom in everything. It all ended in my 50's & started in my late 30's. I have silver hair & I love it...I love this time in my life so much. Enjoy the journey, it's all part of being a woman. ❤
gosh , thankyou so much for sharing this, such beautiful, wise words, biggest loves xxxxx
Hello friend! 61 (nearly 62) and I am not focused on hair, wrinkles....it's the hot flashes for the past 10+ years that are slightly miserable. But I keep my light shining and my art projects when my wicked arthritis allows me. I do push the boundaries of my body, but my overwhelming love for color and art is my driving force in a Happy Spirit and Soul. x's lj in the US, NM
Love you talking about ageing. I'm not 74 n I had energy to throw away till I hit 70 n got arthritis! I can totally understand the ENERGY PROBLEM! I have to do everything when I get a burst then sit when it wears off! I feel such empathy with you and all my friends on here. God bless n carry on it needs to be talked about. We women understand in what is still largely mans world , and, bless how can they empathise. I used to long for a coffee just made for me by my late hubby, but, he never understood those little things that mean so much when your moods n energy levels are all over the place. Ps he was kind but he just didn't get it! Xxxx
First time caller, longtime listener here! 😂 I'm almost exactly 10 years behind you and I'm so glad for your big sister energy!
I'm 26 years old and I'm already getting gray hairs and personally, I'm exited about them! When my hair actively get's gray I want to grow my hair long just like yours Wendy!
Dont forget that the tunnel doesnt have to be dark and forbiding. Through some mental paint on the ceiling and paint some stars and make them sparkle. ❤
I had a surgical menopause at 44. It was difficult hormonalwise for a year and then it was over.
At 50 i got sick and also had a severe burnout. My energy never returned.
My menopause happened almost un- noticed. Only when my periods had stopped for over 6 months I realised "hmmm.." & I was delighted. I didn't have children by choice. Now 3 years on, I started intermittant fasting and am back to my perfect weight, I also began yoga, stretching ( just at home ) and swimming. I feel so good. I take bone broth to keep my joints supple. Psychologically, I am in the process of letting go and simplifying, clearing out clothing and household items. Realising I am happier with a lot less and simple stuff. I don't buy clothing or impulse shop now, not bothered about what others think. I let go of people who suck my energy and I meditate now. Just need to downsize my home now to cottage. Looking forward to being older, wiser, simpler and happier 😊
I resonate with this post. I’m trying to stop the impulse buying. Clothes especially. But, have improved in that aspect of my life.
I’ve talked to myself while doing projects for YEARS! And I love your hair. Just enjoy who you are as you age.
I am 48 and am a few years post menopausal. My energy has mostly returned but I do still have some days of low energy. Most of my energy levels have leveled out, though. Thank goodness because I tended to have crushing fatigue a few days a week! I struggle with sleep issues on and off yet, some anxiety, and occasionally hot flashes with anxiety. I really find Kari Anne Wright videos on YT to be helpful. She talks a lot about symptoms that I didn’t even know were menopause related. Have a great week!
I put happy little twinkle lights in my craft area …. It makes me happy. I’m 63 and the change does zap your energy. Brain fog is probably the worst for me. I have a real problem with anxiety.
So happy you have found a home for new memories and adventures!! You and I are around the same age and I appreciate you embracing this moment in life ❤ We need more appreciation and love for mature generations 🎉
I went through menopause at 53. I was DX with RR MS at 50.
Which was horrible to be honest . So glad that over .
I also started going grey & I also fought it also lol but mid last year I made the decision that it is time to start embracing my crone side , so I’ve started transitioning into my silver hair tones , but I’ll still be enjoying my bright Purple fringe , I’m 58 now 😏 but as far as I am concerned Lol I am 18 till I die , think young stay young , I’m just waiting for my body to catch up ha ha ha
I've just came upon your channel and I am so happy that I did. I am 71 and I find you to be adorable . I am a widow , I love painting, gardening and learning. Thank you for this channel...I'm looking forward to watching your journeys , Maria in the southern USA
Not only are you enough. You are worth it. Repeat after me, not only am I enough, I'm worth it. I have great value. Say it again. Say it again. If you aren't crying, say it more. Love and light.
totes true xx love love
when I went through menopause I rode my bicylce 8 miles to work 4 days a week. Was on my feet as a nurse for 8 hrs and then rode my bike home. I have always had hot flashes w my menstrual cycle. I drank rubios red teas. Ate more veges no oil or cheeses. Less wine. I slept well as I was tired. We built a house, raised the kids and worked so guess I didnt have time to think or even feel all the symptoms that some have.
Mayb I was lucky. But exercise I really think saved me. Now I am older & my energy is low. Grr. Congratulations on your new living situation.
Your drawings are beautiful, 💕 congratulations on your new house, I'm 63 and post menopausal, still get hot flashes , every now and then , energy level is low . Best to you .
Hindsight is a wonderful thing! We would all have done things differently if we had the chance to go back. It is all about the experience of life. Having bi-polar for the past 36 years, having a hysterectomy at 49. Losing my parents and brother within 20 months during that time and ALSO breaking the same ankle TWICE in a 6 month period WITHIN that same time line, made me a much stronger person. I am now EXACTLY who and where I want to be at age 72. I just hope that I don't "pop off" any time soon! 😂 So many things to look forward to, despite such troubles in the world! We are ALL together in this!
Video editing does taking hours and days, so you’re not alone. I do everything on my iPhone. A lot of people do 🤔I think it’s called outsourcing, they pay somebody to do their editing, thumbnails, etc. I started my channel October 2017 to share my weight loss, Type 2 Diabetes Reversal. 😊
I so look forward to my time with you. Thank you for sharing your life with us.
I’m 69 and totally post menopause
I suppose I started early 50s but really didn’t know I was in it as I was caring for my husband of 34 years who was dying of pancreatic cancer
After his passing I really noticed the 20+ a day/ night hot flashes
My energy never really changed
What bothered me tge most was brain fog and
Not being able to get my words out it was a 3 + year process - we all survive it and come out a beautiful crone❤
Great video! I’m 61 and went through all the ups and down. I’ve evened out and probably am the happiest I’ve ever been. I live a quiet life. Simple life. Maybe that’s part of it. 💕
Yay! You're moving in!!! 🎉 So happy for you both! ❤ Hope to see a loooot of the new home videos 😉 As for energy level: for the last 8 years my energy level has been extremely low (I'm 45 now). And I'm learning every single day now to navigate this. Huge challenge. But! Watching your videos immensely helps me to restore balance 😍 and not to judge myself too harshly 😉 And - you haven't not changed a bit! You're still that lovely giggling girl with warm and smiley eyes 🥰 Softest autumnal hugs 💞🍂
Letting my natural silvery gray grow 😊♥️
I have never been so tired as the last 15 years when peri menopause and menopause started. I take hormone replacement as my mood had turned very angry 😫 the weight gain is no fun either.
...I will be celebrating my 65th Birthday soon...I feel bless...another year extended to embrace life and all its blessings.
...my grays began to grow out a year ago..I was in “awe”....another chapter of life...another part of me to explore.
...I too have restless nights...so I get up.. find something do..I even garden under the moon..in my pajamas....all is well..
my children grown and moved on..my husband still loves and adores me..and
my grandchildren call me abuelita☺
..as an artist..the quiet hours our manna from heaven..
I learned long ago....”vanity..vanity..is like chasing the wind”.....
💜
I loved the menopause. No more periods! So liberating 😃
24:17 As you say, growing older is something we have no need to be afraid of. It is also, at least for me, something that we have no need to even think about! It happens all by itself! ((smile)) I find it enough to simply observe it.
Hi Wendy, I'm almost 59 and have been post menopause for a couple of years. I found perimenopause the worst !! well it was for me. I had to take iron pills as I was so exhausted and had to take naps. Most woman I talk to who are my age or 5 - 10 years older find they just can't expect so much from themselves or their bodies anymore. The energy and drive is just not the same as it was for me even 10 years ago. Making money seems less important and I'm not prepared to wear myself out for the sake of it, like I would have done in the past. I had a bath and body business for almost 10 years and used to think nothing of working day and night 'creating'. These days I am only doing what I enjoy (even though I still work part time for financial reasons ). Energy levels is a funny old thing. When I was having my babies and had toddlers I remember being constantly exhausted. I had more energy in my 30's, 40's and very early 50's and as I have asthma, only average energy these days. I hope this helps. Blessings to you ~ Linda
I just turned 56 this month, yes, I'm an October baby. LOL I am in menopause and in a way it is good where you don't have to deal with the menstrual cycles but it is challenging to deal with symptoms of menopause like the hot flushes. I am embracing the growing older but wish I had more energy. I think being who I am and as you say, I am enough, and taking care of yourself helps to accept growing old part. It is a journey we are going through and still learning. Thanks for this talk Wendy. Keeping the light shining bright. ❤