AITA for refusing to tell my partner what I want for dinner (React Court)
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- čas přidán 5. 09. 2024
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I wanted to mix up my content a little bit and I figured, what better way to use my unique brand of judgemental gaze than to read the top posts on one of the most entertaining subreddits out there: r/AmITheAsshole? Check it out!
"I can't believe I'm stunlocked by the first sentence." And there it is ladies and gentlemen, my absolute favorite NLism making it's glorious return with this series.
I’m a personal fan of “I’m going to become the Joker” and “MMMmmm”
When was this? Timestamp please lmfao
This was my first time encountering it and it DESTROYED me
I’ll be honest, sometimes I pull a Ben and steal that joke
If people think that is a NLism, I don't know what to say.
"The youngest son is a redditor. You should've stopped at 7"
I'm dying here.
all time NL line in my book
So gold
There is also the possibility that the youngest kid isn't even a redditor. But an NL fan that knows about it from the court react videos.
the real asshole in that situation was the one who brought REDDIT into the family drama
@@craftchunks then complaining about it on reddit
I broke my [2F] biscuit [1day] on the stairs, AITA?
NL really said "The rumors of React Court's demise have been greatly exaggerated" then hit us with one banger episode and dipped.
I never comment but this IMO AITA is your greatest content ever. It's the NLSS banter segments but with unlimited prompts. Long time fan; love the work over the years. Keep it up King!
Second
+2
Source? Dude just trust *Myles*!
Actual facts.
This, and the super AI adventure thing
I don’t think NL realizes how good this content is. Make it weekly again please
I think he knows. He’s got the analytics.
this
It gets old quick. It's best when across a bit of time.
It's so good that: I who doesn't even watch NL occasionally searches his channel to see if a new React Court is out.
@@yuriviolence Kinda. It's not even his fault tho, listening to a bunch of redditor's personal problems gets to you eventually
I feel like the housesitting one wasn't really an asshole thing to do, it's just that OP happens to be an asshole.
Agreed. And even then judging a guys character by the way he types is pretty fucked anyways.
Exactly my thinking, misguided offer but not asshole event, BUT the individual is, separate from that, generally a pompous asshole
No, asshole confirmed. In the way he is writing it seems that he has some money. To not even offer some money for DOG sitting for three freaking weeks is crazy. It would be different if it was just house sitting. Because then the question could have been like “hey, our house is empty for three weeks and if you feel like it you can live there” and that would been okay without pay of course. But with the dog involved and the difference in economics between the persons OP is a verified asshole.
I'd have been stoked tbh. Three weeks to go live in solitude in the woods and do some introspection? Sign me up. Besides that, I'm always down to help my friends out if I can, payment or not.
I know not everyone shares that attitude though, and if my friend asked to be paid I'd gladly throw some cash their way.
I think neither person really did anything wrong, it was just a breakdown of communication.
Yeah, if they just phrased it as "my BnB will be empty for a few weeks if you wanted some getaway time, you'd just have to watch the dog" and maybe throw them some % of the kennel costs then they come out fine. Framing it as a housesitting honor and then expecting them to be ecstatic is like, the worst possible way to say it.
“ They love their house so much they want to have intercourse with the air intakes.” Sent me.
Houssy?
@@GijsInc Beautiful Bed & Brussy
This got me laughing so hard.
B&B core people who think their lifestyle is somehow holy actually make me wanna vom in my mouth
@@zoom3184 +2
Glad to see the honorable Judge Egg returned to his court. His mighty gavel will reign karmic justice upon us all.
Order in the court, justice shall now be swiftly delivered.
Thanks to the tips given by Tyler, all of the criminals were arrested. React Court was committed to an asylum and was released in February 2022.
Is this true?
@@asdfnewguy7029 Many people are saying it
parking lots
Your welcome lol
@@reginaldmeta2762 true, true, that's true. truing
AITA for letting several months pass since the last React Court
Nta your channel your rules
Everyone sucks here tbh. The viewers for not watching this golden content. The Egg for paying out the doubters when the believers are believing this hard.
Nah YTA. How can you let your preference to create react court content trump their right to binge react court content?
If that first one was presented to the friend with the shitty life as, "Hey, we're going out of town. Do you want to stay in our house for a few weeks? Get away from mom and bro?" it would be a different reaction.
Late to the party here but that's what sends me. NL is taking about how if they don't pay the friend they have to do something back, but offering a friend a place to crash for a couple weeks when she hates her current living situation seems like a favour to me. It's fine to say no but I'd find it weird if a friend asked me to pay them for letting them crash at my place when they needed it. It all depends on how far away from everything the house is in the end i guess.
The adoptive parent wedding is like a Greek tragedy
LMAO it is
They made the prophecy come true in trying to prevent it
"my judgement for this one is just grow up" is my new favorite NL quote
Yay it's back!
The revenge porn one: the first sentence I was already like "Nah just break up."
Then it got worse.
The king of normal human behavior has returned, setting the doomsday clock back another minute, let us rejoice
"I love seeing all this red asshole flare"
Pretty sure that's just hemorrhoids
The bit about having a C section one day after your 21st birthday to maximize the benefit from daddy warbucks absolutely sent me
Reddit is so insufferable the moment children come into play. Good too see NL rip them
I am sure it is because they are teens themselves so they have to hate little kids. That is what i tell myself to keep calm
@@MinimumOverdrive1 it’s honestly not. The childfree subreddit is one of the most toxic subs I’ve ever seen; it actually infuriates me to go on it.
@@abeautifulswansong it’s full of people who would kick puppies if they personally didn’t have a culturally ingrained belief they were cute
Its because the majority of redditors are self-righteous delusional people who lack real world experience, even though they hand out advice like street preachers, and therefore stand no chance of procreating. We hate what we can't have.
Feels so good, even though the comments on reddit hurt so much and make me wanna punch the screen, NL calms me down with his sanity and decent human skills
The replies to the "paying for grandchildren" one are absolutely agonizing. Godspeed NL for making it through
I'm so fucking tilted at those "yta" comments holy shit
I was seething as he scrolled through them.
The conflict fuels me
damn that was... I almost jumped out of my chair lol
Thank above he never went into the one about the adoption, or the comments of the off-subreddit update from the same redditor. People were as vicious and malicious as I've ever seen then, completely deranged. Highly upvoted threads saying that OP is the worst person in existence, should be miserable forever, hopefully is infertile. Like, fuck.
All I can think of with that one particularly angry "People that get more because they have kids PISS ME OFF" comment is that he must be a shell of a man ever since that 7 hour flight from JFK to London to see his dear Buckingham Palace and try to make the guards laugh.
For the meal planning one, I would be pretty exhausted by the idea of having to plan out exactly what I'm going to eat on each day, but I'm fine if I can like... "here's 4 things I'd like to have as dinners over the course of the next week, lets get those ingredients, and I'll make sure they get used in a reasonable time" so I can still be flexible about what days I feel like cooking vs not, and what days I feel like cooking meals that might require more time/effort. The problem to me though is OP in that thread never tried to seek a middle ground, and just saw it as an all or nothing scenario and choose to break communication instead of working it out together.
If the way he's phrasing it is literal, yeah, doing legitimate charts would get exhausting but given the rest of his post it sounds like he's just a manchild that didn't grow past cooking mac n cheeses so the idea of planning what you're going to do with the meat that will go bad in 3-4 days sounds like "making spreadsheets."
Also can you imagine being 30 years old, moving in with your SO and then them being like "No, I refuse to plan out any meals or make shopping lists, how about we don't plan out anything and when it comes to meal time, we'll just do our own thing." It's like you're skipping the step of being a couple and going straight to failing marriage levels of intimacy.
@@TheInfectous Definitely a fair point, lol
Dude's attitude definitely sucks.
That's exactly where I'm at! It's possible but I honestly kinda doubt she wants him to take that much part in exactly what to have and when. She probably just wants to do like what we do, agree before the shopping is done on a collection of meals that could be had during the week, buy the ingredients and improvise as the week goes on. Sometimes because of short dates and stuff you can't always have the exact meal you want every day, but you need some idea of what to eat to just be able to buy stuff.
That's what I was feeling. I got the sense that the gf was going a little hard on the food planning and OP didnt want do anything at all and there was no compromise or working together to figure something out.
@@TheInfectous why is it bad to not want to do something after having been incessently pressed about it for what could potentially be decades? its literally like rape lol
I think the 8 children story is funny. I'm with NL that the amount paid would be interesting. If covers child expenses it seems like fair game but if it was way more than that her dad is basically just giving away her inheritance to her siblings.
Rich people problems.
I agree with NL too, each of these kids seem to have been old enough to understand the decision of having a kid and chose to, to receive cash. He wasn't required to, but did it out of love, then was pressured by the other kids to do it. When he didn't budge, they decided to get a kid. Imo even though it's a sweet deal, the other ducks in the line were the assholes here. Not the OP or the daughter trying to be a snitch.
The food planning one killed me, it’s the bare minimum of compromise in a relationship lol
Faxxx it pissed me off so much lol he's 34 and an actual child
I don't know why it still surprises me that reddit is primarily man-children with barely functional social skills but it gets me every time
@@connorchristian6231 explain how its his fault that he doesnt want to do something and then expresses his boundary
@@SchnookieC youre just being a weirdo. he expressed an extremely normal boundary (he could be autistic, have 1 limb, have trauma around excel sheets etc.)
@@zzz-gw2xb explain how he's not acting like a child he's getting unbearably upset that his gf wants to plan meals, he won't even compromise a little bit it's very childish along with the way he expressed himself
Any time there's a relationship post in one of these I just think "YTA because you went to reddit instead of just talking to your SO" lmao
Just listen to NL’s AITA while driving. It’s a perfect content to listen to and I never look at my phone at red lights again.
But beware that his biker hate rant may strike any moment, blinding your senses and causing you to smash the biker nearest to you
Yeah, better be careful. The redlight might magically come to life and hit your car.
The adoption stuff always pisses me off because its so clearly written by someone who's not adopted and in fact doesn't get adoption at all.
> says she considers her animals her kids
you are morally obligated to make her life harder, actually
Yeah I fucking love pets, and they should be treated with love and taken care of. But calling them your kids is so fucking cringey.
I consider my pets to be family members but would never call them my kids.
React Court is the best series on youtube, many people are saying this
There goes my plan to have Ted Bundy officiate my wedding.
I mean you still can. NL’s dad just won’t come
Your wedding, your rules
NTA
if ted bundy pays for the wedding ted bundy gets to decide
@@huckthatdish who wants to have a wedding if NL’s dad won’t come
i almost thought the rumors were true, but thankfully they were greatly exaggerated
I can understand someone being upset that their partner is framing their relationship as them paying everything for the other, even as a joke, and making them pay for everything for like a few days as a response is petty but fine, you'll probably laugh about it in a year or two.
but 4 months? that's insane, you have to be dedicated to being petty and upsetting your girlfriend to keep it going that long. Have the argument already, christ.
That is what bothers me. I'm just very easily triggered by passive aggressive behaviour and that dude kept it up for 4 months. Just talk, lay your cards on the table and take it from there.
These people are so fucking weird, it makes me grateful to have a nice, normal partner
(I'm late but) tbf what does it say about her perception of their 50/50 financial situation that he "could" keep it up that long. It took until he said something petty in public that made her feel socially awkward, that it finally hit her something was off about how he felt about her words. She totally disregarded his emotions and didn't care to discuss it with him. I'm on NL's side throughout this. Their situation shouldn't have even been a thing, but man, I'd rather keep them in the sitcom of our minds. That was hilarious.
@@0Rookie0 probably could have talked about it ages ago tho
AITA might be the most toxic sub to exist on reddit, but damn if it doesn't provide some surprisingly funny stuff. Like the poop knife.
The biscuit story is the opposite of the video of the boy who keeps spilling his juice but never gets mad
I have never not been paid to take care of someone's animals when they're out of town. Even my mom pays me with either cash or buy buying me groceries even if I tell her I can just adjust my schedule to hang out at her place while she's gone and that she doesn't need to pay me
As someone who does weekly dinner planning (it's much easier when you cook for multiple people), if you feel limited by the choice of recipes, you need to find more recipes. Just because you plan it in advance doesn't mean the list of things you know how to cook is suddenly evaporated. The only way it can be limiting is realizing that you're not really craving the last option and the vegetables you bought are starting to go bad. The only reason we do it tbh is I dont like going to the store and like to maximize the amount of time I'm able to relax at home.
"I bet his kids would give him high marks on the father of the year survey" and this is why you're no allowed to accept gifts from someone in another company when you work for basically any corporate company. "It's not a bribe, it's a gift. You don't need to do me any favors, you get it either way. But now you're suddenly thinking better of me for it and that benefits me, but this is totally not shady"
Parents give their kids conditional money all the time. Tuition, gas, food, helping buy a car or house, etc.
This would be like paying ones kids tuition and then the other kid expecting a $75,000 lump sum because "You're like, totally forcing your own personal values on my by not just giving me money for no reason!".
It really is pretty simple. If you want to achieve some specific goal (home-ownership, degree, kids, etc) here is some financial help. Otherwise, you can receive nothing unless you need specific help. Why would I give you money to help achieve a goal that you have no ambition to reach?
A lot of these need an appropriate frame of reference to understand where the OP was coming from. The last one for instance. My parents raised me for 18 years and genuinely believed I was dumb, lazy, uninspired and unthankful. They told me constantly. I totally said things similar to the OP and never apologized because why would I? They never apologized to me.
They even implied something like that by saying she constantly called him names and was constantly bringing it up. She sounds like one of those mildly verbally abusive parents who doesn't understand why their kids snap at them. He felt accomplished that her put-downs amounted to nothing and that he did well enough in school with a job. She definitely thinks going to school is the most important thing and it definitely wasn't her idea for him to get a job while still in school. She didn't like it and acted out little by little. All speculation but it seems pretty cut and dry. I don't think he was just some kid who didn't want to eat mom's dinner that she cooked after a long day at work.
Edit: A word
The trophy boyfriend story took a hard turn at the very end there.
I was on his side when he was just kind of bitter about her telling everyone she's handling the finances, but he didn't have to show her up like that. No matter how hilarious it was.
For four months! That woman must be some kind of crazy to not have broken up with him yet. It’s one thing to be upset if your partner brushes off your discomfort, it’s a whole ‘nother thing to be an asshole in retaliation.
Nah, the fact that it took 4 months for her to complain/notice is even funnier. That was an epic troll. Hopefully they made up.
@@caliwagg1898 If it bothered her for the 4 months, maybe she should've said something about it. Like he did about making herself look better at his expense by telling lies about their financial situation not being cool?
"Going to the supermarket every other day is a chore" NL: ANGER
You felt what all parents feel when their child gets hurt in a funny way. Fear, then empathy, then humor. Usually in that order, but if it was obviously more embarrassing than painful, then sometimes you get hit by the humor first.
It seems like a really interesting synthesis of emotions
Yo the redditors who went on rants about the $ for kids are nuts. Literally just making things up in their own head cannon and I can’t. Good lord. He gave very little info but all of a sudden people are talking about how Emma is infertile and he’s forcing his kids to get pregnant young. He doesn’t mention numbers but people go on about how he’s practically paying them a salary and poor Emma is going to starve to death because she doesn’t want kids. He has already dedicated his life to providing them way more than others- EVERYTHING all the way to 21. Maybe I just have good relationships with my siblings, but if my parents decided to help them because they had kids, I wouldn’t scream injustice. It doesn’t make my life any harder because they are getting help. Tf is up with that. All those replies just came across so sweaty and greedy.
Man I had to skip the last two aitas they literally made my skin crawl of how can people be so out of touch, childfree people on reddit are almost as cringe as the I'm so smart cuz I'm an atheist crowd, acting like childfree poeple are second class citizens, and the last guy had a mental breakdown cuz they were poking fun at a family dinner that his gf is a sugar mama cuz she paid for one vacation, and thousands of people same as op read the poking fun situation as a humiliation in front of her family, literally spaghetti pouring out of their pockets.
When I saw the return of React Court the pogs started falling from the sky; I held my hands out to catch as much of the pog-rain as possible and thank the lord above for this kind gesture.
The meal planning one is basically my 2 braincells attacking eachother
Man the entitlement on that daughter. "You're supporting the others till they turn 42!" "Well I'm actually supporting my grandkids till they turn 21 and the parents just happen to have to raise their kids." "BuT i HaVe FuR bAbIeS!"
And reddit. Jesus. You'd think they didn't pay out a dime till a baby popped out. All the kids got free education and all expenses paid till they were 21. That's not nothing.
15 year olds and advice. Jesus.
Shout out to u/926dr for apparently looking at a women take a seat on a bus and basing his entire personality on how that is objectively wrong.
As a 20yr old in a miserable living situation, I LOVE when my friend asks me to dog sit, I refused payment but they did insist on paying me regardless. I would be happy either way and personally wouldn't take offense to not being paid but offering to pay your house sitter is the generally accepted thing to do. YTA on the first
It’s mostly the way they wrote that garbage of a post that screams asshole
@@hickspaced2963 Oh yeah, they make love to their house
@@samottenbreit1988 yeah if I was in that situation and IF I wanted to get out of my house AND IF I could keep job hunting/surviving/etc sure but there are a lot of ifs there that make it kinda dickish to assume
What makes them the AH is that they think they are the one doing their friend a favor by *letting* them house sit and watch the dog. I've fed my friends pets before while they are away, for no pay. But it was understood that *I* was doing *them* a favor.
Also if I'm financially comfortable and I'm asking a friend who's down on their luck to do something like that.. I'm gonna take the opportunity to throw some money their way, if they want it.
Generally I wouldn't mind but if I was unemployed and I'd need to spend gas money that I didn't have driving 26 acres, yeah I think I'd rather stay in my shitty house to possibly find a job and get out permanently sooner rather than a 3 week break.
I feel that the big problem everyone has for story 1 was the use of the term house sit, had they said something like:
"I'm going on vacation for a few weeks so if you'd like you can stay at my place without worrying about paying any rent, all you need to do for me is feed my dog."
Had OP phrased it like that (essentially what the situation actually is) not 1 person would call OP an asshole. NTA
Wrong.
Rent is cringe, bnbs cost money because it comes with all sorts of maintenance, food, luxuries etc. The house sitter is also going to do some basic upkeep, feed the dog plus for insurance purposes having someone in there looking after the place while you’re gone means you won’t be liable for any disasters that could be prevented by a house sitter. There’s more than enough there to toss a few bones the house sitter’s way.
I don't think the OP of the first one is an Asshole because of that request. I think they are an asshole, and therefore they made the request in an Asshole way.
It's not that the request itself make them the AH, they're an AH because they're acting like they're doing the friend a favor when really they're trying to get the friend to do *them* a favor.
No it depends on the situation. These things need a give-and-take. If it was their retired aunt and uncle who were in town for a few weeks for a relaxing holiday it makes sense to make a deal that they look after the house and get somewhere nice to chill for free.
Their friend in their 20s needs a job, not a holiday home. if you want them to look after your BnB you'd better be offering to pay lol otherwise it's just a waste of their tim
YES!!! THE RETURN!!!
The invasion of privacy one is up there in the most insane prompts in React Court History. I was rolling through the entire thing. Love the content NL
THE RETURN OF THE KING 👑
I was actually thinking about this series the other day! Very pleased to see it return.
Many people are saying this.
Just to give SOME context to the first story.
I’m 25, live with my parents (by choice, they don’t mind and I just save a bunch of money not paying mortgage/rent). I watch a lot of my friends animals when they go out of town. Now I would NEVER do it for free, however the money I do get usually just goes to things that come up during the week. Whether that’s having to by more food or whatever. I do see it as a vacation where I can just get away and have alone time. But if the person I was helping said “my house is so beautiful will you do it for free?” I’d tell them to sit and spin 😂😂😂
Yeah, but your friends don’t make an actual living off of having people pay to stay in their house. I think OP talks like an asshole but I don’t think this is an asshole thing to do.
I have housesat for friends and never asked for payment. Idk it’s just a normal friendship thing to me. If it’s someone I don’t know I’d charge but for a friend I would never accept money. And if I needed something they’d return the favor. I haven’t really heard of anyone charging their friends for something so simple so the replies were eye opening for me lol.
I appreciate NL going off on people who use their phones at red lights, shit pisses me off.
That adoption one is so hard to judge. You can’t put a kid up for adoption, especially with how bad the system is, then just want a relationship like nothing ever happened. The bio dad should’ve absolutely recommended for her to offer to the adoptive dad, and for her to treat her bio parents like they’re better when they left her is wrong as well. That being said, the adoptive parents really screwed up and were acting childish, but they did raise her through college, so I’m not sure I could blame them given the circumstances.
Bruh, you can't deny someone the ability to meet their biological family because you're afraid they'll like their bio parents.
They were exerting control over her life for selfish reasons (it might have been different if they were worried the bio parents would be a bad influence). A parent should want their child to flourish and have all the opportunities they can for a rich and fulfilling life, but they put themselves first.
Some people adopt as a good deed towards a child in need. They clearly adopted a child in the same way someone would adopt a goldfish, you exist to fill a need in my life.
@@spencechan that’s why I said they were acting childish and screwed up. And yeah, go ahead and throw 23 years of parenting while working and attending college under the bus because apparently you know for a fact they are bad parents because you read a few sentences written by someone who’s biased against them. I’m not saying they had the right to take that relationship from her, but I am saying that the biological parents don’t get to just decide they love someone they threw to the curb because there’s no emotional consequences for doing so. She has a right to be angry, but dropping the people who raised you your whole life and asking your bio dad, who left you as a baby to walk you down the aisle is pretty screwed up.
@@spencechan You absolutely can deny a child the ability to meet their biological parents, at least until they are 18. As a parent you have final say on every adult that child spends time with, and you are under no obligation to let any adult spend time with your child even if it's an adopted child. Their justification of being afraid the kid would like the bio parents more is a bad one, but it underscores the real issue which is that a child needs a stable home life and introducing your child to two strangers and saying 'hey btw here are your real mom and dad' is basically the opposite of stability. It opens up so many potential issues. What if you're having a fight with your teenage child over something and they run off to their bio parents who have a different opinion on the issue? How can you trust the bio parents to do the right thing and defer to your judgement as a parent? You can't, because you don't even know them.
My mom kicked my dad out of our lives when I was 5 for being a drunk and abusive loser with no job. She prevented him from having any contact with me hard as he tried. Neither of them pursued anything through the courts, my dad because he didn't want to pay for child support and my mom because she didn't want to be forced to have him in our lives. Anyway when I turned 18 she gave me the letters he had sent over the years that she had kept from me and told me it was my choice to see him. I did, it was interesting and a worth while expereice and we keep in touch to this day, but seeing the type of person he is I am grateful that my mom decided to keep him away from us while I was growing up.
It really does depend upon your circumstance. Parents who just don't feel like having a kid need to get fucked. Parents who can't feed their kid, yeah, I get that.
@@xfan420bush9 Parents don't own their children. Children are not property. Do what's best for the child.
Trophy boyfriend is the rare case of Your The Asshole but based
before even watching the video I'm a 911 dispatcher and had a call last night and a couple got into an argument that ended with one getting hit in the head with a hammer because one of the people wanted to go to burger king while the other wanted to go to a "real restaurant"
In case you need a judgement, the one who used the hammer is definitely the asshole. Burger King not being a real restautant is a bit hyperbolic and I can see how someone could get slightly upset at either end of the issue, but the hammer thing points towards the possibility that there might be other issues in the relationship.
If the React Court audio was ripped and posted as a podcast, I’d eat that shit up so fast
I had no idea how this video could be over 100 minutes long, until it got to the point where someone wasn't paying attention at a red light. Now I understand
These videos are my moral compass, I'm so happy they made it back so I can confidently start arguments with strangers in the grocery store again and show them this video when they boo me
I think even NL would kinda steer you away from that. You make it sound like you're not thinking critically for yourself with the way you phrased that. Also. Man. Why would you want to lengthen your grocery shopping time like that?
@@enderoctanus i think you misunderstood, it was a joke
@@Blaurot I do feel kind of dumb.
If a war criminal made am i the asshole and NL said "not the asshole you guys are just making too big of a deal those people are already dead why jail a guy and ruin his life" i would become a revolutionary
I've noticed that NL often likes to hit em with the "Only a sith deals in absolutes"
Believe it or not, but there are people out there that see food as literally a chore - it has to be done or else you die. I'm one of those people.
I can understand, to a degree, the meal planning one, but the guy is wayyyyy too far up his own ass to just simply let her know "hey, i like these various foods, feel free to think up some meals that you'd think i'd enjoy. if i don't end up liking one here or there, no biggie, pb&j's work."
I don't really have a drive or interest in planning out foods, as food is simply just that to me - food.
I'm pescatarian, and my wife and daughter have no hang-ups as far as food goes. She usually just buys things to whatever she plans and I'll roll with it.
The guy is definitely an asshole for blowing up about it - communication is key, and he clearly is, as NL puts, stuck in a child-like mindset about it all.
Honestly I feel like both are pricks in that situation. Neither wanting to adapt to each other at all is just a recipe for disaster, but they've only lived together for half a year, so I'd expect things to change.
The way NL just ends up getting hung up on his own bias and painting the guy as a child, but not her as planning far too much with someone that obviously doesn't care, is just insane to me.
My ex and I just used to wing it half the time, the other half of the time she'd come up with something, plan for it, we'd cook and eat it together and that's that. No need to plan like a week in advance.
i agree with you i see food only as a chore.
It would be so easy for him to just let her plan stuff and maybe run him through the plan before they buy groceries. Then he doesn't have to think about it himself, and he won't be subjected to food he doesn't like.
Assuming the gf isn't also an asshole, she'd probably be willing to come up with the ideas herself since its basically for her sole benefit, so she should have no problem with it. If he's seriously so opposed to having a predetermined plan (one that he's "approved") then he needs to think about why he's incapable of making/sticking to decisions or perhaps re-examine his relationship with eating. Specifically I'm thinking this would be a polar opposite of chore-eating and he's just impulsively following a craving for every meal.
Also they could probably compromise with maybe 4 pre-planned meals per week? They could even freeze leftovers so there's a good selection of food if they want to do something else, and then it's also more cost-efficient and timesaving for both of them.
For people saying they're both assholes because they refuse to compromise, you don't get to compromise with a planner by not planning. Even all the solutions people come up with are "plan most meals of the week." Yeah, that's the normal thing to do, no duh. But to get mad at someone who wants to have some sort of schedule or forward thinking is just idiotic, even if you can't be bothered. When they say "do you want to make chicken on Friday" just go "sure, no problem." Not that hard
Food isn't so much a chore for me, but I don't ever have cravings, and my favorite meals are just meals I am particularly fond of the taste of. If I'm asked what I want for dinner, my brain freezes with choice paralysis, because there are hundreds of things we could have and no reason visible to me to pick one over another. So my method for grocery shopping has always been to just get the basics. Bread, meat and cheese for sandwiches, flexible vegetables for sides, and so on. So that when it is time to eat my choices are constrained by the food available to me and I can just pick something in the moment.
If my girlfriend wanted to plan out a big thing, that's fine with me, but I'm not really going to have useful input. Whatever she wants to do is fine. So I can kind of see where this guy is coming from. Though I also have a history with bullshit related to this, as growing up my mother loved to insist that someone else choose where we were going out to dinner despite us all knowing that none of us were very picky, and she had all kinds of considerations. So because she didn't want the "responsibility" of picking, but she wanted the control of being in charge, we got to play this stupid game where we would all come up with ideas only for her to shut them down until we finally arrived at the place she had wanted to go all along but refused to take the initiative to offer up.
I'm very heated over the dad supporting his kids with kids. He was totally in the right and his daughter is a whiney child
@Cornelia Sure, there's incentive. So what? He wants to help raise his grandkids financially then so be it
@@peterhobo It's not like he's giving them a bit extra though, from his own list it seems like he's giving them a couple grand minimum a month just to have kids. Financial incentive to have grandkids is pressure and it's no wonder most his kids had kids early even if they didn't necessarily want them.
Topping it off, as a comment shown but not read said, when the father passes its going to be hilarious watching the actually spoiled children who gave him grandkids tear through the inheritance because they can't live without their dad spoiling them.
It comes down to the amount of money. If they are making money by having kids, that's a bad idea. If they are just covering the cost needed to have a child, probably a really good idea. Why would you let that money sit for decades just to be eaten by inheritance tax? Give it to the grandkids while you can still enjoy your time with them
I'm a bit confused on the sugar daddy one. Isn't his policy, simply put, that he supports his children and grandchildren until they're 21? I don't see a problem with this.
Same.
Yes, but actually no. He's apparently supporting his grandchildren by supporting their family unit, which includes the parents. In effect, his immediate children (with children of their own) are being supported well beyond the age of 21.
I hated that one complaining about meal planning... but I also saw myself in there. Like, I have an absolutely irrational hatred of mundane plans. "What's your plan for the day?" sets me off internally. I know it's irrational though, so I try to keep a lid on it. I think that's what really separates the assholes. You can't control your weird ticks, but maybe having a calm conversation about them isn't out of the question.
Honestly the whole planning stuff seem weird because I am used to just going "Okay what is in the fridge? Oh there is chicken let's eat that". The idea of planning a week ahead for what exactly you will eat just sounds like making it into a chore. Like you can just buy a bunch of the basic that you know you will eat, and use it as needed.
I understand why some people would plan it, but I don't understand why anyone would push their preference on others.
It sounds like the boyfriend is a manchild who can't make a decision on what to eat until literally right before he eats it, so you can't really blame the girlfriend for getting desperate and trying to plan stuff ahead of time.
@@XijpX Just because someone doesn't like thinking about what to eat too far ahead of time does not make them a "man child". It is a very reasonable stance to not know until the day off or to think about what to make with what you currently have.
@@Temperans sounds like you may also be a man child haha
@@XijpX Can't come up with an actual counter so you attack me. Ironic that you are the person calling others man child with those school yard tactics.
The girlfriend gave a reaosn for this. By planning ahead, you can get the grocery shopping out of the way in one go. Maybe a good compromise for them to land on would be: plan 3 or 4 days ahead.
Ryan going off about looking at the phone during a red light. I agree, only time I do it is when I am double checking the GPS.
I agree, but looking at your phone while at a red light is legal where I live, so I won't judge people for doing it
@@emil.soderholm legally right can be morally wrong and since I don't work in law enforcement I'll judge literally everyone who willingly reduces their awareness while commandeering a vehicle in the public place.
Idk why but there's something incredibly cathartic in the way that NL says "shit pisses me off"
I love AITA content. It's soooooo good. I love hearing Northernlion's judgements combined with his witty anecdotes.
I really wonder what that grandpa does to earn enough to pay 8 children + their kids a full salary.
fr trying to work out that in my brain. like i understand up to their childrens tuition, but assuming all 8 went to college thats a shit ton of money
Hey redittors, if you think having kids makes your life so easy and loved by everyone, why don't you do yourself a favor and have a kid or two so that you can get in on all those great benefits?
Also in this specific case, it's cool for parents to support their kids who do things that they love, like giving them grandkids.
I quit playing games a while ago to focus on startung a business but i still watch the react court streems because theyre just so good
“tHe rUmOrS oF rEaCt cOuRt aRe gReAtLy eXaGeRaTeD” >:((((( I’m onto you egg man
For anyone curious about the update for the adopted parents wedding story, I would recommend not looking it up cause its just really upsetting. I was originally gonna agree that the AP's are the asshole but after reading that update and the comments section, it becomes apparent that OP is just an apathetic monster who should never have been adopted in the first place.
Your comment had the opposite effect on me, and I had to look it up for myself. I can confirm you were right. op is a f** monster.
This is concerning because the original story seemed clear cut that the adoptive parents were in the wrong. I can’t imagine what vile things OP did/said to come out a fucking monster in the end
I really gotta know. I usually don't watch stuff like this because almost every post where OP isn't an asshole it's usually because they left out some important detail.
@@dat1weirdkyd She decided to permanently cut off her adoptive parents and will never let them have contact with her future children.
@@SpencerLemay Honestly I dont think that's necessarily being an apathetic monster, OP must've felt extremely betrayed by the actions of the adoptive parents, and this is their retaliation for being denied contact with their biological parents. While the adoptive parents did take care of OP, they seem like assholes for holding it over OP's head. It's sort of the AP's own fault too, they were obsessive over trying to prevent "OP liking their biological parents more" and then pulled the woe is me card instead of reflecting and admitting they shouldn't have done that. Their lack of self-reflection makes me think they had it coming, even though they'll probably try to shift the blame.
That second story is wild to me, because I could not imagine using my child as a tool of spite against my ex. If they were like "Hey I know it's short notice, but I need you to keep our child for the weekend because I have to fly out of the state" I would jump at the chance to spend more time with them. And I love the reply that was like "You should've gone to court to get full custody" Because it's like 1) She doesn't want the kid for a weekend, what makes you think she wants him full time and 2) Courts don't look fondly on parents who don't actively want to spend more time with their children.
On Friday I was listening to isaac vids while cleaning the house. In one ep you were talking about react court and I was pogging thinking it'd be uploaded in a few days. Saw the date was from 5 months ago a few mins later, got so annoyed I got my hopes up, switched to a different isaac video entirely. Then in like an hour you went live with react court and, well, pogs resumed. Ty egg
Most of my meal planning friends either grew up rurally or below the poverty line. Or they’re super into fitness and want to plan out their macros. But for a lot of people planning groceries is about ensuring food security and budgeting. Choosing whatever on the spur of the moment, unless you set a per-meal budget, isn’t always viable.
Taking her food does make him a massive arsehole.
When he said “I’m in my… early to mid 30’s…” I cackled
the adoptive parents ARE the mvps
Sounds like the old man is just paying for his grandkids the same way he did his kids because he wants to and he can.
Fuck yes more react court inject this right into my veins
You gotta love the deep cut from New York that is Massapequa. The egg knows all, it was foolish of me to assume he wouldn’t know a random town on Long Island.
Holy hell he brought back the wheat thin bit. I remember dying over that!! Want the wheat thins? Go get em.
With the paying for the kids thing, yes, dude is spoiling his kids, yes he is financially encouraging them to procreate, and it is pretty weird that he is doing all that, but the daughter is still the asshole because she's the one demanding money for nothing anyway.
If anything, she's the most spoiled one of them all because she's seemingly in a completely financially secure situation and still going "daddy pays for the lifestyle of all my siblings, why don't *I* get my lifestyle payed for too?"
I feel like a normal person in her situation would be like "no thanks I don't need the money I'm good with what I have;" the Succession comparison is not off base.
I would say he ended up in a weird situation with the first daughter who got pregnant young, and he’s doing the best he can to be fair given the situation.
i felt like i was taking crazy pills reading through the replies there. like, "hey dad, you paid for more than half of my life up until this point, and you even pay for your grandkids to go to school and college, but you won't pay for me and my husband and our cats to go to costa rica? unfair!!" what the hell is wrong with this lady? OP's whole deal is paying for his kids and grandkids to **start their lives on the right foot** not bankrolling them into adulthood if they're already financially stable and don't actually **need** the help. it's a totally consistent and **extremely** generous system that he's got going and i really don't feel any sympathy at all for her wanting to milk it even further.
@@vcostello712 " OP's whole deal is paying for his kids and grandkids to *start their lives on the right foot* not bankrolling them into adulthood"
That's definitely his intention and I think OP from that post is trying his best to make his family happy/fulfilled, but his actions are 100% bankrolling his kids into adulthood. His older kids (in their mid/late 30s) are still having all expenses (food/rent/medical bills/car payments/etc.) paid for and one of his sons has 6 kids of his own that the OP admitted couldn't be financially supported without him.
OP kept mentioning that the cost of raising children is high (which is true) but he's going above and beyond and has no idea what that cost is. Later in that thread, he admitted that one of his granddaughters spends $500 a week on video games and he sees that as completely normal.
He's extremely generous and that generosity is causing/has caused his kids and grandkids to become very spoiled, as can be seen with the lady who wants vacation money
@@laurelkeeper I agree, I feel like people always look at these in the most cynical and non-empathetic manner.
@@jiv3o275 I don't think that is what is happening from my understanding. It sounds to me like he is paying for his grandkids' food and such, and then giving the grandkids an allowance on top of it. I don't think he intends the parents to use the money meant for their children on themselves.
"I love seeing red asshole flare"
-NL 2022
When people feel they have very little control over their life it can become incredibly important to at least be able to choose what they want to eat on a day by day basis. I can see why someone with that mindset would be annoyed with someone trying to force them to meal plan, especially if there is no pressing financial or health related reason to do so.
Oh man, my eyes literally lit up when I saw this new react court episode. Thank you Mr Lion
Love these videos!
50:00 I haven’t heard the whole post yet but I’d just like to say I struggle with planning meals too, and I have never been able to follow a plan. Maybe I’ll follow it for a day, but usually even the first day I’m like “Nah, I feel like eating something else”. People ask me sometimes what we should get for lunch the day after and almost always I’m unable to give an answer.
My adhd is probably not pulling me any favours in this matter either.
The red light tangent was a whole aita within an aita
i love NL going on a tangent about optimising financial support from a parent. Great vid
The meal one is the worsts because I just like to know things and knowing what I’ll be having to eat is something pretty simple
This is my first NL video (except for his vid with Ludwig) but I can already tell that this man is incredibly based
Any other topic: regular, reasonable man
Food: Approach, Ye Mortal, And Be Judged
one day this egg is gunna read about someone who eats frozen pizzas raw and just show up at their house three days later and scream at their door until he's arrested
You know when kids are like "I have to pee!" 10 minutes into a 5 hour long drive?
That 34 year old man child sounds exactly like that. "I don't know what I want unless I'm hungry" has that same energy. Grow up man.
First story: NTA if they had worded their offer a little better “Hey mate, we usually shut down our Airbnb for the week(s) whenever we go away, never really felt the need to get a house sitter. Was wondering if you wanted to get away from your place for a little and house sit for us. Can’t offer you much as far as funds, maybe $100 to get Uber eats twice over the period so long as you just feed the dog each morning and night. If not, not a biggie, well just get the pup into a kennel for the time we’re away and we’ll catch up with you when we get back, let us know :P”
When egg said “okay, I’ll invite my dad to my wedding in stead of Ted bundy”
The one where the dad is paying all the grandkids until they're 21 is pretty nuts. Love it but I can't imagine being so lucky. Not sure what the solution is for the child free daughter. If he pays for the dog then the other siblings may be like what about my pets? And I'm sure the dad is wondering what if she decides she doesn't want to stay child free?
I think the biggest problem is that the money is going to more than just the kids. It seems like the dad's intention was to support every family member until they were 21 not the kids so long as they kept having kids.
I had a different take on the meal planning one. NL basically came from the premise that the guy gets hungry, decides he wants some specific thing, and nothing else will do, so they have to get delivery or last minute grocery store run. Then that's a YTA.
But my take was the guy just doesn't care. Like, ok, I'm hungry, if you want to cook, I'll eat anything, or else I can just raid the fridge. From that perspective, NAH.
Ok, never mind. I got to the point in the video where the guy takes her meal-planned groceries and uses them for improv meals. That ain't nice, YTA.
yknow when you're in like 2nd grade and you learn what slavery was for the first time and you're like "wow that was just the societal norm, i wonder how i would have felt if i was alive back then." at least the first guy has the luxury to know he would absolutely partake.
i’m someone who has always been indecisive, especially about food. not able to really decide until i’m hungry. but i also don’t get a lot of choice granted i don’t give myself time for breakfast and eat school lunch lol. that said… there’s no need to be such an asshole about wanting to plan. idk that i’d want to do a full daily list either, or schedule it out day by day, but…. making a grocery list? that’s the most normal thing ever my dude wtf is annoying about making a grocery list.
there’s literally so much room for compromise here and he just won’t… you could decide on five dinner meals for the weak and then pick which one you want to make that day, you could try to leave some days free… OP on this was so childish for no reason
I've watched all of these at least 5 times each. God tier content.