Abandoning Your Family For Breakdancing (w/ Emma Langevin) | Sad Boyz

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Komentáře • 544

  • @amberpfister
    @amberpfister Před 3 měsíci +1433

    I'm a 46 yo female. I wasn't diagnosed with adhd til I was 38 and ONLY because my son's kindergarten teacher thought he had adhd. When I was filling out the paperwork for him, I realized I was describing myself as well. Now, at the age of 46, my son, now age 13, was diagnosed with high functioning autism. I showed the paperwork to my shrink and guess who is also autistic? It's so great to be a woman 🙄

    • @lakshmivallabh6936
      @lakshmivallabh6936 Před 3 měsíci +21

      I mean..I'd say anyone cna get Autism or ADHD or both at the same time!

    • @kells4315
      @kells4315 Před 3 měsíci +82

      Yeah we don’t talk enough about how genetic it is. I have autism/ADHD, also late diagnosed as an adult woman, and I’m very certain my mom has it too. I’m also a mom and wondering how my kids will be! (My kid is only 3). But I’m excited that either way I’ll know how to accommodate it!

    • @amberpfister
      @amberpfister Před 3 měsíci +8

      @kells4315 In our case, it was SO genetic. My son and I had a super rare genetic disorder called Infant Epilepsy. Basically, if the baby is awake, the baby is having a seizure til about 18-24 mos. Sadly, the drugs, not the disorder, cause adhd and possibly the autism. Because it's so rare, they only discovered the affected gene in 2008 and not much more has been discovered since.

    • @morningboy_
      @morningboy_ Před 3 měsíci

      @@lakshmivallabh6936anyone can, but it's more common for women who have them to be ignored and not diagnosed! they're common in both men and women but the medical system ignores women a lot

    • @tiale1994
      @tiale1994 Před 3 měsíci +31

      At least your son has a mother who will totally understand him.

  • @Swishiee
    @Swishiee Před 3 měsíci +989

    "If someone loves you, they won't make you move to Reno, Nevada." I don't think I've ever heard truer words spoken.

    • @LambowithaBanjo88
      @LambowithaBanjo88 Před 3 měsíci +18

      Living in Reno, I can also confirm this :)

    • @catabat49654
      @catabat49654 Před 3 měsíci +3

      A lot of my family is from the Reno/Lake Tahoe area. Indeed truth 🥲

    • @lolkthnxbai
      @lolkthnxbai Před 3 měsíci +1

      I have a friend who divorced her husband, she was so excited to return back home from Reno hah

    • @plushdragonteddy
      @plushdragonteddy Před 2 měsíci

      old people will, tho. they retire out to reno and then try to get every friend and member of their extended family to come to reno. never before has my family tried so hard to get people to move near them as when they lived in reno, and i will never understand this

    • @hee-heeman2426
      @hee-heeman2426 Před 2 měsíci

      Reno sucks ass man

  • @oops6876
    @oops6876 Před 3 měsíci +454

    I love how much the Jersey comes through when she says “dog”

  • @AceWolfify
    @AceWolfify Před 3 měsíci +509

    "My therapist didn't want me to get diagnosed because she had weird beliefs." Huge breakthrough for me. Huge.

    • @orangecatactually
      @orangecatactually Před 3 měsíci +1

      what are the weird beliefs tho? I don't get it

    • @AceWolfify
      @AceWolfify Před 3 měsíci +23

      @@orangecatactually Therapy is hard. There really isn't a once size fits all approach that helps everyone. Hell, a good therapist might not work for you. Finding a therapist in itself is a difficult (and sometimes demoralizing) task.
      And furthermore, therapy is for more than just neuro-divergent people. So a therapy approach that focuses away from addressing certain illnesses/condition might work better in a general population that doesn't have those things.
      But if you are neuro-divergent, knowing what you're dealing with and specific ways to handle them can be helpful. So it is "weird" that a therapist doesn't believe in diagnosis because that might be detrimental to the patient.
      Also, not all neuro-divergent people are the same. A diagnosis might be helpful or it might just make things harder in different ways. I think Alexander Avila's video "Tiktok gave me Autism" is a really good examination about this subject.

    • @Donovarkhallum
      @Donovarkhallum Před 2 měsíci

      @@AceWolfify it's not that deep. You're just being super picky with your help.

    • @amusedcuriosity3370
      @amusedcuriosity3370 Před 2 měsíci +18

      @@Donovarkhallum if help is not helpful why should you take it??? lmao

    • @updownbanana
      @updownbanana Před 2 měsíci +7

      @@Donovarkhallum seeking a therapist who will actually diagnose you with the disorder you have is not fucking "picky"

  • @tomorrowsucked4941
    @tomorrowsucked4941 Před 3 měsíci +342

    Late diagnosed neurodivergence is just a process of unlearning lifelong patterns of self-loathing

  • @raincloud_1740
    @raincloud_1740 Před 3 měsíci +552

    "it's never too late to start breakdancing" is the wildest possible conclusion to that video lmao

    • @Velvetx4cove
      @Velvetx4cove Před 3 měsíci +37

      Never too late to have kids and abandon them for your dreams 💫 🌈

    • @demetriam2408
      @demetriam2408 Před 3 měsíci +31

      ​@@Velvetx4covenever abandon your dreams!! 😺❣️❣️ Abandon your children instead 😍😍🤠🤠🏳️‍🌈

    • @Donovarkhallum
      @Donovarkhallum Před 3 měsíci

      ​@@Velvetx4cove tell me you didn't watch without telling me you didn't watch. It was a divorce . Donkey brains.

    • @Donovarkhallum
      @Donovarkhallum Před 3 měsíci

      ​@@demetriam2408 go to therapy

    • @gaymer5697
      @gaymer5697 Před 2 měsíci +6

      I bet you guyse are feeling pretty dumb right now :D.

  • @brutalbunny
    @brutalbunny Před 3 měsíci +137

    "at least he did something...my dad just died" the way i HOWLED

    • @Scrimmified
      @Scrimmified Před 3 měsíci +6

      ruby i need you to stop watching the same videos as me this is too much

    • @sunmethods
      @sunmethods Před 3 měsíci +4

      i read this before i heard it, but i was IN NO WAY prepared for the context

  • @noratsuki42
    @noratsuki42 Před 3 měsíci +701

    didn't expect this video to start with Jarvis being held at gunpoint

    • @LunisticWolf
      @LunisticWolf Před 3 měsíci +1

      It’s Emma… 😂

    • @Leyechen
      @Leyechen Před 3 měsíci +45

      0:00 for anyone wanting the timestamp! 😊

    • @firelordoregano5632
      @firelordoregano5632 Před 3 měsíci +26

      @@Leyechen tysm i was looking for the beginning 😅

    • @jbone877
      @jbone877 Před 3 měsíci +9

      Oddly enough, it's precisely what I expected

  • @lilithc99
    @lilithc99 Před 3 měsíci +117

    "i always knew i was a little freak" is the realest way to describe being autistic ever

    • @rachelppython
      @rachelppython Před 3 měsíci +5

      Frfr that was what everyone called me in middle school lol

    • @rachelppython
      @rachelppython Před 3 měsíci +5

      Didn't find out it was autism until I'd finished university

  • @Eeppydeepy
    @Eeppydeepy Před 3 měsíci +223

    Listening to Emma talk about being autistic & adhd and how people act towards you was so comforting to know that other people understand that feeling. It’s hard to describe to people who haven’t experienced it because they don’t wanna believe that people will be mean to you simply for being ‘off’

    • @breauseph
      @breauseph Před 3 měsíci +9

      Me literally having to unlearn everything my mom drilled into me about how I wasn't "representing the family well" for three decades with ketamine therapy

    • @lanceelliott2504
      @lanceelliott2504 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Sometimes people just really don't like me and I didn't get why for so long

  • @GwinMire
    @GwinMire Před 3 měsíci +153

    Gamestop worker here and yes, a good majority of my co-workers and I took autism tests at work. It is true. So genuinely true, it actually kinda hurts. We are suffering.

    • @erensalias
      @erensalias Před 3 měsíci +6

      I’m diagnosed and my coworkers did this to confirm or deny my autism suspicions about them when I worked as 2nd and Charles. Guess who was always right

    • @brighid9527
      @brighid9527 Před 3 měsíci

      Actively doing this with some of my coworkers in a grocery store

    • @Zectifin
      @Zectifin Před 2 dny

      worked at gamestop for 2 weeks. pretty sure I have autism lol.

  • @breauseph
    @breauseph Před 3 měsíci +316

    I'm a trans guy and I wasn't diagnosed with autism until right before I turned 37 a few months ago. The "you're doing it for attention" is so real - I didn't transition until I was 34 so that was most of my life (and god help, my birth family also said I was transitioning for attention 🙄). Women, nothing but solidarity. It sucks.

    • @k.a.u.4599
      @k.a.u.4599 Před 3 měsíci +19

      Ur username being breauseph is so good

    • @frogsbongs
      @frogsbongs Před 3 měsíci +49

      Being trans and trying to get diagnosed with anything else sucks, they always try to bring it back to "well you're just like that because you're trans" OR they completely ignore the fact you're trans and misgender you (at least that's my experience 😅)

    • @breauseph
      @breauseph Před 3 měsíci +41

      @@frogsbongs Seriously, there's a gender clinic in my area that's part of a hospital system, and I found out that doctors in that hospital system had just started referring all trans patients to the gender clinic for all problems. Like "I'm a podiatrist but I can't see you because you're trans, you need to go to the gender clinic." 💀 I genuinely didn't think doctors could be so dense that they don't bother to learn that a gender clinic only handles gender-affirming care. Unless trans feet are fundamentally different than cis feet? LOL

    • @breauseph
      @breauseph Před 3 měsíci

      @@k.a.u.4599 💁

    • @catboyreid
      @catboyreid Před 3 měsíci +22

      @@frogsbongsthis made me remember how i told my therapist i was having recurring nightmares and sleep paralysis and she said it was bc i’m trans :,3 where is the correlation??

  • @artgremlin2847
    @artgremlin2847 Před 3 měsíci +108

    I relate so much to emma being and undiagnosed neurodivergent child and just going “oh okay I guess i’m insane. I guess that’s my thing now.”

    • @demetriam2408
      @demetriam2408 Před 3 měsíci +9

      My autistic ass wondering why people saw me as weird and why I didn't completely understand social cues: guess I'm just insane :(

    • @rachelppython
      @rachelppython Před 3 měsíci +3

      Yeah I just figured one day my destiny would come for me and I would find out I was an alien or an android or something, cause I couldn't possibly be human with the way I didn't understand others and everybody thought I was so weird.

    • @lanceelliott2504
      @lanceelliott2504 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Me too

  • @nixiedust5010
    @nixiedust5010 Před 3 měsíci +151

    Jordan being candid about his bipolar really helps me come to terms with my recent bipolar two diagnosis. 😊🙏 Thank you guys for being so open& honest ❤

    • @skyekeating349
      @skyekeating349 Před 3 měsíci +13

      I was diagnosed with Bipolar 2 when I was 16, about 9 years ago. My psychiatrist, who I still go to, said something I still think about. He said that medication would be key to helping me. Yet while medication would get me to the finish line it couldn't make me cross it. He said I would need to cross it own, to do so I would need to find techniques that work for me to get me across the finish line every day, every hour, every second, constantly across that line. That finding those techniques was just as important as finding the correct medication. He said that's why it can be very important to see both a psychiatrist and a therapist.

    • @dormant5023
      @dormant5023 Před 3 měsíci +3

      I couldn't agree more. I was diagnosed at 16 last summer after being hospitalized twice. I felt so alone, and the meds they finally settled on (Lamictal and Lithium) terrified me. Then in one episode Jordan mentioned that he was taking Lamictal and I felt so so so much less alone and scared. I don't know a lot of bipolar content creators, so it was really comforting to see someone I look up to be so open about it.

  • @emoclowngirl
    @emoclowngirl Před 3 měsíci +189

    the fact that this is longer than her whole channels catalogue is funny as fuck😭😭

    • @AsuraTheBass
      @AsuraTheBass Před 3 měsíci +17

      Bruh LMAO, my ass had to instantly look that up

  • @businessman19
    @businessman19 Před 3 měsíci +80

    REJECTION SENSITIVE DYSPHORIA! that’s been happening to me since I was a kid and no one ever took it seriously so it feels so validating to hear a name and explanation attached to it. It’s a small thing but I really appreciate jarvis acknowledging that and I feel really happy to have a better understanding of something that’s frustrated me for so long

    • @colinouille2786
      @colinouille2786 Před 3 měsíci +6

      i am currently bursting into flames

    • @AmyAberrant
      @AmyAberrant Před 3 měsíci +1

      I got that from being constantly bullied

    • @iimmannii
      @iimmannii Před 3 měsíci

      I heard about it from this podcast as well a few years ago and it really changed my life.

    • @cosmicgamer1262
      @cosmicgamer1262 Před 3 měsíci

      53:09

  • @starboardia
    @starboardia Před 3 měsíci +66

    the experience of growing up knowing there’s something weird and different about you and everyone treating you differently but not knowing why and then finally getting an autism diagnosis is too real

  • @basil19262
    @basil19262 Před 3 měsíci +27

    When I was 18 I was also not in school bc I was so mentally unwell, and I went to a psychiatrist who told me "you don't have autism or any other diagnoses. Your parents just wish you did because it would be easier than having a child like you" I like what Jordan said about mourning your younger self who simply didn't know and suffered for it.

    • @badger6882
      @badger6882 Před 3 měsíci +20

      That is an insane thing to tell an eighteen year old. That psychiatrist should be ashamed

  • @AmazedbyGrace95
    @AmazedbyGrace95 Před 3 měsíci +50

    I love when Jordan laughs so hard he cant come back to the mic for a while, makes me so happy haha.

  • @fruitgh0st
    @fruitgh0st Před 3 měsíci +49

    i wanna express how much it meant to me when emma very casually mentioned her lips filled and moved on. so many people demean cosmetic procedures and as a trans woman that was refreshing to hear

  • @rachelbowersstories4352
    @rachelbowersstories4352 Před 3 měsíci +64

    The B-Boy dad's second video on the topic is even more wild, he just wanders off into alt right talking points, then ends it with another dance segment

    • @brightknight1965
      @brightknight1965 Před 3 měsíci +24

      I was hoping they would see that one because it’s so clear in the second video that the dad is actually a POS

    • @yaradboy
      @yaradboy Před 3 měsíci

      The breakdance scene is pretty left though. Mostly young folks.

    • @cloves2125
      @cloves2125 Před 3 měsíci +2

      while wearing a second bitcoin shirt

    • @kestrel.01
      @kestrel.01 Před 2 měsíci +4

      They missed the part where Elon comments on his video, and the guy replies with something like "thank you Elon for saving free speech and humanity. I love you."

  • @jeremygold0
    @jeremygold0 Před 3 měsíci +35

    I love how Jordan says “Woke Mub” it tickles my brain

  • @jules34678
    @jules34678 Před 3 měsíci +41

    hi. i'm an 18 year old trans guy n a big fan of u guys. i know you guys may not see this but i really relate to emma. i've always known i was weird and off and something was wrong. i started therapy at 13 and was diagnosed with ARFID, anxiety and severe social anxiety. sure my anxiety was bad, but it was due to the physical sensations of being overwhelmed and being overstimulated. people would straight up tell me to act normal (including my own family) all the time. i was put on meds, specifically SSRI and SNRI's and i've switched meds 6 times. all of them make me act quite literally like an insane person. i go through mania, depression, and what i like to call a processing stage over and over and over for years. my psychiatrist would tell me im not "manic enough" and my fast talking? getting no sleep, risky behavior, self sabotage, going back to an abusive partner, and drug abuse for during these episodes was normal teen "mood swings" and that my meds would take longer to kick in right.
    i've been told it straight up was my period, that i was just a teen , or i was just a woman. i was diagnosed with ADHD one year ago after i had a very large "shut down" episode and slept for a week straight and couldn't go to school. i straight up am having symptoms of severe bipolar disorder and somehow it always lead back to people telling me im not "trying hard enough" to get better.
    (i grew up in a home where i was told how to feel, so i was a very quiet kid, who didn't do anything unless someone told me. when i talked about my sadness it would be instantly shut down by my mom, her not wanting to accept i could feel something she didn't. i was constantly told my own brain was lying to me)
    DONT DO THIS TO UR KIDS!!! they will grow up never knowing what's truly wrong and hating themselves for not being able to act "normal" like everyone else.
    anyways this is happening all over again in college and when u are either sleeping none or sleeping 16+ hours on end your academics start to slide! i am switching meds again , and maybe going to wean off them. i know what im feeling is not right and i never have felt right. hopefully i find out what's up with my brain. im starting next at a college close to home so i can take care of myself properly. (my college sucks.)
    i'm TOO self aware, and it makes me feel hopeless at times when medical professionals don't listen and hand me a random pill. it's like they spin a wheel with me at this point and don't know what's wrong . they were messing with chemical levels in a CHILD's brain. american psychologists need to get their shit together
    anyways. hold out hope yall. hang in there 🙏😭

    • @rpodrichards
      @rpodrichards Před 3 měsíci +4

      hey dude! popping in to say that as a 25 year old trans… somebody or other i guess? i relate to this. i had an incredibly similar experience being medicated in college - i’ve settled into a cocktail that seems to keep things relatively stable though in my adult life and i’m working with a therapist who understands me really well! keep your support system as strong as you can, i fully believe we got this 🫡

    • @outtamanna
      @outtamanna Před 3 měsíci +3

      27 yr old trans guy here, this really hits close to home and I want to let you know that you're not alone ❤ you got this dude!

    • @littelcreatchure506
      @littelcreatchure506 Před 3 měsíci +3

      yeah unfortunately ssris very commonly trigger manic episodes in people w bipolar

  • @EmantheBassist
    @EmantheBassist Před 3 měsíci +23

    I really love how high alert Jarvis gets whenever Jordan mentions Jan 6 it's so funny

  • @callmelewsor
    @callmelewsor Před 3 měsíci +8

    The jump to "watch me breakdance" from talking about how you're not a deadbeat dad is giving George W Bush on the golf range "now watch this drive" energy.

  • @JakwobTheGreat
    @JakwobTheGreat Před 3 měsíci +33

    Late diagnosed autistic person here and I had a very similar experience. Meds never helped anything no one ever asked why I was the way I was. Finally have an explanation for all of the times I felt so off about social connections in my life :( I’m finally doing better

  • @tjbierle
    @tjbierle Před 3 měsíci +51

    awwww hell yeah I'm bringing out my dill pickle flavored lays chips for this

  • @damini_ab
    @damini_ab Před 3 měsíci +105

    your wife and four kids are NOT an excuse to not be breakdancing

  • @danielvasquez5860
    @danielvasquez5860 Před 3 měsíci +69

    NO FUCKING WAY THIS CROSSOVER EXISTS

  • @ESCapistEv
    @ESCapistEv Před 3 měsíci +9

    I love how at 1:06:56 Jarvis makes a joke and then less than a minute late, Jordan makes the exact same joke word for word lmao

    • @v0id_d3m0n
      @v0id_d3m0n Před 2 měsíci +1

      I relate to that honstly xD like it takes you a while to appreciate the joke and you end up arriving at it yourself xD

  • @ameliar23284
    @ameliar23284 Před 3 měsíci +36

    jordan grew up in GLOUCESTERSHIRE? stroud district??? i'm local & this has rocked me.

    • @ameliar23284
      @ameliar23284 Před 3 měsíci +16

      not anymore though mind. also moved away as soon as possible

    • @binglebop5877
      @binglebop5877 Před 3 měsíci +7

      Crimbo crumbo, it's six a bong on the ol timey wimey!

    • @blink182izawsm
      @blink182izawsm Před 2 měsíci

      No wonder he left and never looked back

    • @v0id_d3m0n
      @v0id_d3m0n Před 2 měsíci

      @@binglebop5877 am I not British enough to understand this? 😭

    • @binglebop5877
      @binglebop5877 Před 2 měsíci

      @@v0id_d3m0n bobs yer uncle

  • @SogekiRed
    @SogekiRed Před 3 měsíci +85

    Jordan's feet are so long its honestly impressive

    • @nobodysgarden9375
      @nobodysgarden9375 Před 3 měsíci +12

      I WAS NOTICING THAT TOO 😭 like holy shit I have never seen feet that big in my life it’s kinda fascinating

    • @alexhussey1308
      @alexhussey1308 Před 3 měsíci +20

      its like his arm is in his sock

    • @lanawr80
      @lanawr80 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Every time I watch that I think this! I’m like dude how do you find shoes 😱

  • @junoestro
    @junoestro Před 3 měsíci +14

    thank you jarvis for correcting the fact that that shirt is absolutely not complicated enough of a pattern for dan flashes

  • @hunterculverhouse9210
    @hunterculverhouse9210 Před 3 měsíci +2

    i relate a bonkers amount to emmas autism diagnosis process and like undiagnosed childhood and then finally being diagnosed feeling like such a relief :') i am glad you made it through it all !

  • @Calv_
    @Calv_ Před 3 měsíci +7

    This has to be one of my most favourite episodes! I hope you get Emma as a guest again in the future! The conversations were so good and really brightened my day with all the jokes too, the energy was great!

  • @silvekin
    @silvekin Před 3 měsíci +15

    Deadbeat dad qualifications:
    ✓ $2 million in divorce settlement ✓ $18k/month in child support
    ✓ Medical insurance
    ✓ Out-of-pocket medical bill payments
    ✓ $600k in college funds
    ✓ $5000 to get her set up in LA
    ✓ Co-sign lease for her apartment ✓ $2500 for her car
    ✓ $250/week allowance when she was unemployed
    ✓ Refuse to pay for "grief counseling" after a breakup

    • @tankbxy7609
      @tankbxy7609 Před 3 měsíci

      right? lmao.

    • @TelManothHexperax
      @TelManothHexperax Před 3 měsíci +6

      they say it at the begining that they know her ... the video is soo bias from here .
      he probably didnt see her a lot ( divorce + parental allienation ) BUT she lie all along in her 2 video ...
      hard to belive her after that .

    • @user-uv2cp1qd1j
      @user-uv2cp1qd1j Před 2 měsíci

      I *do* think she was exaggerating his deadbeating, but holy *shit* he makes it so hard to be on his side. What a fucking tool

    • @furbyacolyte5604
      @furbyacolyte5604 Před 2 měsíci

      ​@@TelManothHexperax she's a comedian, the video is obviously comedic, they even address its comedic nature in the episode. it's not a storytime or an expose, and the punchline of the dad's video is how clueless he is to all this--as are you.

  • @ElleTheCat
    @ElleTheCat Před 3 měsíci +1

    The discussions of mental health are so helpful to hear. I’m 18 and got diagnosed with autism ( not officially, my therapist and psychiatrist are pretty confident I have it but it’s too expensive to pursue an official diagnosis) and a chronic illness a few months ago. Before that I was diagnosed with ADHD which is accurate, but I also went through a lot of different diagnoses like bpd and panic disorder. It was nice when I finally got an explanation for what was “different” about me that feels accurate, and it’s comforting to hear that other neurodivergent people experience so many of the same things that I’ve always felt alone in. My first therapist a few years ago actually only came to the conclusion that I have adhd after I told her about how I related so much to a discussion of RSD on this podcast.

  • @he.said.teenjiejer
    @he.said.teenjiejer Před 3 měsíci +5

    whoaaa emma’s story about her therapist and her autism diagnosis really rang true to me. i’m sixteen and was diagnosed a few months ago - not as late as some people, but still later than ideal. i also dropped out of high school for autism-related reasons. when i was maybe twelve i started thinking i might be autistic and, when presented with the idea, my therapist at the time said something very similar to what emma’s therapist said. it’s honestly really saddening because if i’d been diagnosed at age twelve i can guarantee i’d still be in school and thriving with my cutsie little iep

  • @hootinrooting
    @hootinrooting Před 3 měsíci +18

    i'm canadian french and we do not claim those gatekeepers

    • @jbone877
      @jbone877 Před 3 měsíci +6

      I'm Canadian and we don't claim the French
      Jk, Quebecers are vital

    • @insertnamehere6227
      @insertnamehere6227 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Sorry for your loss 🙏🏼

  • @ShieldStop
    @ShieldStop Před 3 měsíci +2

    This was a SURREAL listen. Literally 90% of what Emma talked about dealing with is something I've personally experienced (of course I'm not famous, and I've made different choices, so some of her problems aren't shared). Especially the "I'm terrified of the look people will give me when i do something crazy," that look is something that I've experienced multiple times throughout my life and it's close to traumatized me every time. Autism makes it hard to feel like you have a space you can exist in, and trying to dig out a space where you aren't naturally welcome only ends up hurting.

  • @Jadeelmao
    @Jadeelmao Před 3 měsíci +1

    I think this is my favorite episode. Got teary multiple times. Love y’all so so much

  • @gloomble
    @gloomble Před 3 měsíci +1

    this episode makes me feel so seen, thank you ❤

  • @Elon.Emeralds
    @Elon.Emeralds Před 3 měsíci +70

    Yes, I skip to the end of the video to see if they actually ended the show with the same particular phrase. Then I can actually listen in peace.

    • @adamm6290
      @adamm6290 Před 3 měsíci +23

      If it ends with a different phrase then it isn’t part of the sad boyz canon

    • @Donovarkhallum
      @Donovarkhallum Před 3 měsíci

      No one cares

    • @succulentboi676
      @succulentboi676 Před 3 měsíci

      ​@@Donovarkhallumat least 2 people care

  • @Steepled
    @Steepled Před 3 měsíci +3

    Literally I thought I had adult ADHD, talked to a psychiatrist about it, was put on Concerta, and said to them a couple of time "I find the lower dose to be more helpful, I can't focus on a higher dose." Turns out I'm actually bipolar, and the meds were making me hypomanic. Over the course of a year, I ruined all the friendships I had made, including a 4 year relationship, based off a "diagnosis" where she had just asked me a few questions. They didn't even consider bipolar. It's wild.

  • @ricochico1144
    @ricochico1144 Před 3 měsíci +24

    Ok this is already the best episode

  • @StarSwisss
    @StarSwisss Před 29 dny

    having both bipolar depression and autism, listening to jordan and emma talk about their experiences was incredibly similar. feels good to know im not the only person that’s struggled with these things. and looking back on your life in retrospect after having a diagnosis late in life is definitely a surreal feeling. there’s a large part of me that wishes they never happened, but there is the other part that knows if they never happened, i would never have been diagnosed.

  • @win_jayden
    @win_jayden Před 3 měsíci +19

    oh god... on that screen grab of breakdancer's twitter he shouted out Elon... he's 100% a hardcore republican/libertarian

    • @MatStevens
      @MatStevens Před 3 měsíci +6

      He's basically imitating Tucker Carlson's cadence, so yeah, absolutely has to be a right-wing nut.

    • @Velvetx4cove
      @Velvetx4cove Před 3 měsíci +5

      @@MatStevens The way he talks about his daughter like he's trying to _own her in the marketplace of ideas_ 😭

  • @lilithc99
    @lilithc99 Před 3 měsíci +1

    jordan's experience with bipolar II is so relateable- i often find myself going through my snap memories and being able to now absolutely pinpoint where i was depressed and when i was hypomanic. it was so obvious to everyone else but never for me until i got treated. same with autism. everyone knew EXCEPT ME and now i have to forgive my younger self for not knowing

  • @maylucky8660
    @maylucky8660 Před 3 měsíci +8

    why does the deadbeat dad sound like jordan's impression of ben shapiro

  • @johanna-yay
    @johanna-yay Před 3 měsíci

    I really just love this podcast a lot I‘m glad it exists

  • @celo7carvalho
    @celo7carvalho Před 3 měsíci +3

    The COMEDIC TIMING of “Jacob skip ahead 3 minutes” and the Dad is SPINNING ON THE FLOOR

  • @chriscrowe11
    @chriscrowe11 Před 3 měsíci

    man i love this podcast. The conversations are alwasy so emotionally grounded when they need to be, but always with enough levity to avoid going off the deep end. Like yeah, being alive is often really hard and frustrating and scary, but we out here playing pokemon go anyway. And thats cool

  • @Agentlefox
    @Agentlefox Před 3 měsíci +8

    As an audhd NB person, it seems like it should be obvious that we shouldnt shame eachother when there are questionable decisions w/o mental health stuff. Thats the wild thing to me about a lot of the most hurtful societal things talked about. The fact that there even has to be that shield is the problem in my mind. Or is at least the key symptom of the core problem with disability stuff

  • @gsuandre5579
    @gsuandre5579 Před 2 měsíci +4

    Lol, asking your dad for medical bills when you mom got your child support money is crazy. How does your mom spend 5 millions dollar that you need to ask money to your dad still.

  • @232Gecko
    @232Gecko Před 3 měsíci

    Great video guys!

  • @ishbel1409
    @ishbel1409 Před 3 měsíci

    This was such a good video!

  • @mattwarrenAV
    @mattwarrenAV Před 3 měsíci

    Killing it with the guests lately

  • @woody_you_want
    @woody_you_want Před 3 měsíci

    I'm so glad Emma is back to content creation! She's so dope!

  • @ramseybiscuit6691
    @ramseybiscuit6691 Před 3 měsíci

    The section on getting an autism diagnosis really feels like its speaking directly to me but i struggle getting through the GPs to get referred in the first place, this gived me hope ill make it one day and join you guys in conteztualising my "weirdness" ❤️

  • @susie8799
    @susie8799 Před 3 měsíci +1

    I’m also a late diagnosed afab person. Emma’s story is like BAR FOR BAR what happened to me. They’ll literally diagnose you with anything before autism.

  • @Amy-yh8kf
    @Amy-yh8kf Před 3 měsíci

    Loved the video!

  • @lanceelliott2504
    @lanceelliott2504 Před 3 měsíci +1

    Feeling extremely called out by "when you're crazy you just kind of have to be transparent about it" that's so real

  • @Marsh._.Art49
    @Marsh._.Art49 Před 3 měsíci +2

    I am cry laughing over the “its never too late to start break dancing” 😭 im just trying to finish writing a lab report and now i cant see because of the tears

  • @IMeerkatnip
    @IMeerkatnip Před 3 měsíci

    thanks I really needed to hear this right now I've been going through it lately

  • @salvadorp9141
    @salvadorp9141 Před 3 měsíci

    ‘When you’re crazy you have to be transparent about it’ hit SO HARD. That was my entire strategy from ages like, 16 to now, (only recently got a diagnosis for BPD but I’ve been struggling with it since I was a teenager).

  • @Badusername2000
    @Badusername2000 Před 3 měsíci +5

    as someone who followed emma from before they blew up, i still find it weird to hear them speak in their normal voice, not the over exaggerated "jersey e-girl" voice

  • @Zectifin
    @Zectifin Před 2 dny

    rejection sensitive dysphoria made so much sense for me when I started hearing about it as a symptom of ADHD. I would so overreact to tiny "rejections" that when you look at later didn't mean anything.
    I remember I was at a birthday party as a kid and gave a friend an action figure as a present. When he was opening presents and he got to mine he opened it and said "oh I already have this one" and moved on. Of course he meant nothing of it, but for some reason it hurt so bad and I remember sobbing as a kid and the parents had to calm me down. Immediately the next day I felt so ashamed of it, but in the moment it hurt for no reason.
    I love that the internet has become this place where people can share their experiences and others can realize they are not alone and lots of others have these same issues.

  • @cherryquill
    @cherryquill Před 3 měsíci +2

    I have ADHD, and so does my mom and my sibling. My mom didn't finish high school because she just couldn't get through it, and she didn't know why until she realized she has a literal attention disorder and she STILL sometimes calls herself stupid for not finishing school. But when I was going through school and would forget to do assignments or entirely just Not Do them even when I did remember, my mom would get upset with me. I had no idea that I had ADHD, and I felt guilty for not doing things right, and my mom KNEW I probably had it and still blamed me for those mistakes. I was overall a good student who got along with all my teachers and actually got good grades despite my attention issues, so the times where I did fuck up sucked so much. I'm still not actually diagnosed, and because my performance in school was good my current doctor (who's mostly a good dude) didn't seem to take my description of my ADHD seriously even tho I fit a lot of the criteria. I mean, yeah I don't have a lot of the hyperactivity but I sure have a lot of attention issues and I would loooove to get some meds for that.

  • @elena_eleen
    @elena_eleen Před 2 měsíci +1

    1:18:57 jarvis and jordan bursting out into hysterical laughter gives me an insane serotonin boost every time ngl

  • @MollysFilms
    @MollysFilms Před 3 měsíci +4

    OBSESSED I LOVE EMMA SO MUCH!!

  • @adamm6290
    @adamm6290 Před 3 měsíci +6

    Another banger video from Jarvis and Johnson

  • @katieveggie11
    @katieveggie11 Před 3 měsíci +1

    I wish you all the best on finding your father Jarvis, that is huge news!

  • @hebedite4865
    @hebedite4865 Před 3 měsíci +1

    i hate how relatable emma's diagnosis story is because myself and so many potentially thousands of others have the same story about late diagnosis, our health care systems are a huge monumental failure and it's a miracle that anyone survives the struggle. I have literally the same diagnoses exactly, Autism, ADHD, and CPTSD and when my psych sent me places that offer autism assessments they were all for children and cost $1000+ out of pocket for adults, so needless to say i'm only "soft" diagnosed. .... And people online genuinely think autistic people online are all faking it to get like.... internet clout or something? like.... yeah dude autism is so good for your social status, just look how much i ~~TOTALLY~~ wasn't bullied by kids and adults as a child !

  • @mariya_tortilla
    @mariya_tortilla Před 3 měsíci +1

    Im 32 and i just got diagnosed with aut/adhd/cPTSD lately and oh my god everything makes sense lmaooo. I totally get you Emma! ive never felt so seen when she said she had to basically throw herself onto the floor to have someone listen.

  • @garioworld
    @garioworld Před 3 měsíci +17

    Unspeakably devastated Jarvis doesn't claim Florida. Go Gators :(

  • @appleciderwitch
    @appleciderwitch Před 3 měsíci

    I'm 41 and I didn't get diagnosed with ADHD until I was 38, after 2 years of COVID and man, having Jarvis talk about RSD is just SO nice because it's so hard to explain to people - RSD and emotional dysregulation is why I've been labelled "crazy" most of my life and it's hard to wrap your brain around it unless you experience it but having zero language or context for what is happening to you does a number on your brain over the years. (Also a woman) It's hard putting together that most of your personality is just shaped by this disability that everyone secretly hates you for but don't say why because even they don't know.

  • @MxSamael
    @MxSamael Před 3 měsíci +2

    Yooo, a crossover i never knew i needed

  • @AlexSheMakes
    @AlexSheMakes Před 3 měsíci +1

    I got diagnosed with adhd at 28 and it was such a relief but also such a dissapointment. Like who would i be if i wasnt as high functioning and got an early diagnosis?

  • @xriadna
    @xriadna Před 3 měsíci +3

    as someone who grew up in reno, yeah, emma spoke nothing but facts

  • @starman12122
    @starman12122 Před 3 měsíci +3

    Best thing to see on my birthday

    • @tiale1994
      @tiale1994 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Happy birthday, good health and happiness

    • @alu1582
      @alu1582 Před 2 měsíci

      Watching on my b day rn

  • @whataboutthis10
    @whataboutthis10 Před 2 měsíci +1

    I always found her lovely and down to earth, still do

  • @WeloveMineCraft100
    @WeloveMineCraft100 Před 3 měsíci +3

    OH ALL THE BESTIES YES what a delish meal this podcast episode is

  • @emerycorner
    @emerycorner Před 3 měsíci +1

    loved jordan being moved to tears by breakdance dad😂

  • @anarcoendermanismo868
    @anarcoendermanismo868 Před 3 měsíci +13

    debating the daughter i abandoned

  • @trillian7590
    @trillian7590 Před 3 měsíci +3

    Evangelion reference in the first minute? The Eva fans have been blessed today 🙌

  • @coleanagnost
    @coleanagnost Před 3 měsíci

    Feeling like I need to write an entire essay every episode to respond is half the fun

  • @emilyradocha335
    @emilyradocha335 Před 3 měsíci

    LaGrange, Illinois mentioned!

  • @lqdxoni1
    @lqdxoni1 Před 2 měsíci +8

    This girl is seeking something what I have no idea, her father brought receipts about her nonsense yet tried protecting her from masses at the same time.

  • @rabbit6546
    @rabbit6546 Před 3 měsíci +5

    The wanting to be successful as an independent creative and recognising that Creating Content(TM) on the internet is an unfortunately big part of that but being afraid of large scale attention is so fucking real like i need money so bad but the thought of strangers wanting to actually pay attention to me makes me like no thank you

  • @hamshankscps1049
    @hamshankscps1049 Před 3 měsíci +3

    Those donuts look SO FUCKING GOOD

  • @pralou_
    @pralou_ Před 3 měsíci +1

    never been so early. Enjoy today's episode guys 💛

  • @natrosenquist
    @natrosenquist Před 3 měsíci

    I might be biased because I'm slightly obsessed with Emma, but this is the best podcast yet.

  • @JhericFury
    @JhericFury Před měsícem

    I relate to the "oh, I'm not constantly afraid and depressed because I have all of the anxiety disorders which don't seem to react to therapy or drugs, it's because I'm intrinsically different to society and don't know why and that's terrifying"

  • @kimwhatmatters4085
    @kimwhatmatters4085 Před 3 měsíci +3

    Military cut off is 32but you can get a wavier especially if you apply for a job that needs a lot more bodies. More competitive stuff has younger cut offs like fighter pilots have to be 26 when joining or maybe it’s 26 once done with the training

  • @JakeFace0
    @JakeFace0 Před 3 měsíci +1

    Sad Boyz: Come for the other things also, stay for the feelings.

  • @LeonKennedySupremacy
    @LeonKennedySupremacy Před 3 měsíci

    Love this ❤️🖤

  • @rayrist4840
    @rayrist4840 Před 3 měsíci

    I need to get out of NJ this is so resonating with me

  • @AsteryaWindrunner
    @AsteryaWindrunner Před 3 měsíci

    Jarvis’s shirt is so sick I’m jealous !

  • @kir-is-here
    @kir-is-here Před 3 měsíci +3

    23:59 “it’s like getting the surgery before you know that you’re ill” well fun fact (super not fun fact) surgery is the only way you can confirm an endometriosis diagnosis!!! they can be ~pretty sure~ that you have it and treat the symptoms, but in order to get a definitive diagnosis they need to operate and literally find it in your body :))))))
    i know that it’s a minimally invasive surgery but still it’s so frustrating

  • @carlstownofficial8898
    @carlstownofficial8898 Před 3 měsíci

    Woah!.. didn’t notice until now that Jordan’s rockin a touch of gray in them/thar hills.