Maybe just don’t be a jerk…
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- čas přidán 14. 10. 2024
- I’m really not here to debate the origins of autism. Believe whatever you want. All I’m here for of to show you we are human beings, and to treat us as such.
👉We are not less than you.
👉We are not sub human.
We are not robots devoid of emotion.
👉We are not rude.
👉We are not stubborn.
👉We are not any other negative trait you want to put on us.
Can we be rude? Sure, being rude is a human trait. Can we be stubborn? Sure, being stubborn is a human trait. We are not immune to the crappy traits humans have, cause we are human.
I’m not asking you to be nice to us. I’m just asking you to not be awful. Is it so difficult to see someone you don’t like and just keep walking? Not make faces, not make comments, not embarrass them. Just let them live their lives the way they want to.
It’s really not that hard.
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As a likely AuDHD mom with a likely PDA and ADHD kid, I so so so feel this. My child's behaviors aren't the fault of my "bad" parenting, they're not because they're a "bad" kid. We're struggling to find out how to best live in a Neurotypical world and it's freaking hard! Be kind to each other. It's better for everyone.
I played too many video games in the womb
Changeling, mute, Kanner's syndrome, Heller's disease, Asperger's, misfit, oddity, savant, shepherd, genius, witch, artist, specialist... Autistic people have been labeled all kinds of things throughout history. In many ways, years past were less overwhelming for the senses, and food was less processed & adulterated. Challenges that cause behavioral issues were more limited and autism friendly occupations were more prevalent.
Some of this is probably correct but I’m not sure all of it is. And I’d bet it’s shifted back and forth over time, too. Here are a few examples of where I think things may have changed across time, and where your comment may be at times inaccurate.
1. The food was less processed and adulterated, yes. But there was also far less variety, so if you were lucky enough for what you had to work for you, you were all good. But if you weren’t, then you probably would’ve experienced various things that we don’t think about today, like institutionalization, being locked behind closed doors so no one ever knew you existed, being killed or just left abandoned somewhere out in nature for whatever would ultimately befall you, or getting sick and dying of something that your condition caused you.
2. In decades past, but kind of beyond what people today think about or know about, institutionalization was very much a big thing and it happened to a lot of people who just didn’t quite fit in. You’d get locked up in an institution, and you don’t have to look very hard to learn what that meant back in the 1800s to maybe around 1950-1970 or so. Many of them had mass graves on site because once someone was institutionalized in those days, that was it - their families would abandon them as if they’d never existed - it was the institution’s problem for the rest of that person’s life.
3. I grew up in the 70s and 80s, and I remember hearing all the time about people who had “that one relative” that they kept locked up in the basement. It wasn’t considered abusive and wasn’t frowned upon back then, either. It’s just how some people dealt with having someone in their family who “wasn’t fit for the public” but also wasn’t institutionalized, often because there wasn’t a facility nearby or that they knew about.
4. I’m not sure there were more autism-friendly occupations back then, either. It’s more that occupations just weren’t as necessary back then. Even in my day growing up in the 70s, plenty of people only had one breadwinner in their household and nobody else worked. Having a handicapped child or family member who couldn’t work didn’t matter because they wouldn’t have been working anyway because it just wasn’t necessary. This allowed plenty of people who wouldn’t have been able to hold down a job to survive without issue, because it was entirely feasible to just live with your family without them risking bankruptcy as a result. This is really just another example of how toxic our society has become over the last several decades. Every piece of new technology is supposed to bring about this panacea of productivity and give us all this extra free time, but that’s the opposite of what actually happens. Every piece of technology actually robs us of time as well as money because now we’re being expected to do the work of 10 people, when in years past, we wouldn’t even have been expected to be employed at all. Heck, in the case of women, they were actually looked down upon if they tried to work for a living.
Anyway, not coming here to chant about “you’re wrong!”, I just wanted to make sure that that historical reality isn’t lost sight of, because I think it provides important additional perspective on what we deal with today and will help prevent people from taking for granted what else is actually possible that we’ve forgotten how to consider today.
It's amazing how human brains insist in latching to the smallest crumb of control at anything unpredictable, I guess 😅 those ambiental narratives have some people on a firm grip, and I blame the wording used in describing those of us in the whole spectrum.
Even I had a hard time accepting my dx several years ago because the whole wording about the spectrum was ✨Scary✨, until I met people like me and had amazing experiences alongside the bitter ones, but with much improved communication. Which is why I lament this insistence on assigning ambient factors very much, because I can imagine they're not really ready for the grief that would follow if they accepted it's a lifelong condition. (Even though knowledge really improves our lives across the whole spectrum.)
(This is why I really appreciate memes about autism by autistic people, for example, it takes the edge of this somber tone cast on our experiences. ♥️)
Tl;dr: for the general public, it's hard to accept that autism is a lifelong condition that is part of the human experience because it's full of scares, and they'd rather believe it's ambiental because it gives them control.
(I cackled at the end of the video 🤣)
Always and forever the Bear!
Autism has always existed. It's a brain thing. I think the reason the myth that various external things, like vaccines causing it, perpetuate is because some children start out presenting as 'normal' but then their brain reaches a certain point in development and suddenly, they just Change. Its scary for the parents and theg often think they've failed, that it was something they did or failed to do, but it's not. It's just how their kid is. I have a niece who, at the age of 5, just when she was about to start school, in a matter of weeks, when from a bright, happy singing and dancing child to mute and uncommunicative, needing to be drugged every night so she and her parents could actually sleep. That was not caused by vaccines or diet or any crap like that. Her mother, also my niece, believes it's due to her and her partner's higher than average IQ, because it's not uncommon for the children of such couples to have autism. I don't know if that's true, but it wouldn't surprise me.
All I do know, is that just like Lafy Gaga says..... baby, you were Born this way.
The end😂
I think there is an aspect you're missing here.
You can clearly function just fine. You have a life. You're going to be alright in the world, make connections, have friends. And good for you. I'm glad you have that life.
Have you ever met autistic people who CAN'T have that life? Because they exist. One of my last bosses was mother to nonverbal autistic twins who tended to cause themselves harm by doing things like kicking and punching holes in the walls of her house, breaking both the house and their limbs.
The State was kindly subsidizing her household, and she had 3 helpers on top of herself and her husband to look after her children. And she was dreading what puberty was going to do to her little girls because they were girls and there was going to be a lot of blood and no understanding.
She was afraid of what was going to happen to her, herself, as the kids got bigger because sometimes they attacked, scratched, and bit her and her help, and with growth was coming more strength.
She loves her children. She wanted all her life to be a mother. And she was working as hard as she could to give her daughters the best life possible. But last I saw of her, she was thinking the best thing she could do would be to put them in a group home with other people to look after them and visit them when she could. And having to make that choice between putting them in a home or continuing to struggle as things got worse and worse was breaking her heart.
That's the autism that needs a cure, not that we're ever going to find one. Those girls are not living happy, fulfilled lives, despite how much their mother would give them the world if she could.
I'm pretty sure it's the lacorice my mother ate during pregnancy😬
It's not the rabbit, the licorice is evil, eww🤢
(irony folks 😉)
Who gets the rabbits😅?
5k ! ❤
So many bs opinions on autism.