Why You Can't Figure Out What to Do With Your Life
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- čas přidán 8. 12. 2011
- This is from an old project that has changed directions, but too many friends have insisted I still make it publicly available. If you feel it does some good--pass it along! @msnoziskova www.whitneynoziskova.com
This link is for follow-up video that response to a question I got in the comments: • Q&A Response: Figuring...
What i do with my life is sitting in my room thinking for hours trying to figure out what the hell to do with my life. It has been driving me insane! I can't seem to identify my goals. I also have a very poor social life and not many friends. And im soo jealous of other people's lifes. I already know that sitting here won't help me and I just want to change things SO bad but I don't even know what the hell I want. I just DON'T KNOW. I am getting more and more depressed.
+Abdelraouf Tria no doubt.
+Abdelraouf Tria I failed college 2 times by now and now I am on the 3rd time... I don;t know what to do with my life, I tried everything that there is to try the thing is that every small bump in the road makes me come crushing down like a meteor on earth...
gaby161290 I feel you.
I'm thinking of becoming a truck driver and just giving up on life.
becoming a truck driver is giving up on life? lol...
Im still thinking what to do with my life.. I don't either work or go to school now..
I get bored easily. Doesn't matter what I do with my life. I eventually get bored.
Same here.
same here ...i dont know how to get rid of it.
videoaks007 If you're like me, you get bored easily because life can be boring in general. My solution was to travel. I saw how close people came to death in their lives (though that experience was not the plan) no food sometimes and no social security etc. Gave me a new perspective. Of course, travel afar is not something we can all do, but there are alternatives like volunteering down the local hospital. Think of the most alien way of life accessible to you... after experience, you'll see things differently, perhaps you'll invent something to help people; perhaps seeing your life from outside, you'll see the obstacles to success that when right in front of you, were too close to get your head around.
there is nothing exciting in my life and yes I get bored easily,yes what just said is entirely true
i got bored watching this.
I've watched nearly every video on "finding your purpose," "finding your calling," etc. and this was the ONLY ONE I found that was practical, realistic, and blunt. It also made me feel a lot better since I've had a wide variety of work experiences and people try to make me feel bad about my "lack of stability" and not finding a "real career." I suppose now it's just a matter of reflecting on my past experience and analyzing my likes and dislikes. I will continue to give new opportunities a try and ask more questions. This video was very helpful and motivational for me! Thank you so much.
+Davina Etwaroo It was a great vid, especially the part about talking to other people in the industries/roles you may be interested in. I have definitely been spending too much time behind Google trying to find the answers. Actually what you find is most people feel good about being consulted with.
finding what you want to do in life is easy. the problem is when your passion isn't paying the bills and may never pay the bills. then you have to figure out a plan b aka what is something that I don't want to do with my life that I can do the rest of my life. If an actor never gets that big break and are not good enough, then what do they do? see what im getting at? same with artist, writers, singers, dancers, ect ect our plan b is something we are forced to do for money despite not wanting to do it.
great advice.
*****
exactly!
well said. thank you
why does she look happy while saying this
I stopped around the 3 minute mark. I can't figure out what to do with my life not because I do not have enough exposure or information, but because I have such a cornucopia of ideas that I could feast my all the days of my life and still become an expert at none.
I want to start a CZcams talk show but can't narrow it down to a single topic
I started and stopped blogging
I started (and failed) at a digital marketing company
I tried (and failed) at affiliate marketing
Sold insurance, did hair, made jewelry, finished a degree, and still I have no frigging clue what I want to do for more than 2 minutes at a time. So for the last 2 years I have done nothing. It feels weird. I'm stagnate, but also afraid of jumping into something new that will eventually fail, as have so many of my past projects.
+WebDeva7 same here
it took me 3 months to make some shelves in my room for my bike that took me another 8 months to buy and 3 to ride.... I am lost....
Sorry but this apply to young people only, i'm 32 and i had 43 jobs in the last 12 years ranging from factory workers, sales, hospitality, logistic, outdoor, indoor, office, manual jobs....her's the truth: some people just don't enjoy work! they will never find what doesn't exist, the best option is to find a job that require the least amount of effort, basically getting pay to do nothing (yes there are such jobs if you look for it an example is night security guard in hotels)
I’ve had a few well-paying jobs and I do Security in the hood now. I work with the police, making it exciting. Many people do not realize the different levels of security work. I treat it as a career. If you get into management, salary positions pay very well. There is cyber-security, investigative security, personal body guard security, insurance security, tactical security contracts abroad, or working for Home Land Security. I’ve got a a degree in Criminal Justice and my prospects are limitless. A night security guard is a good way to get your foot in the door. It also leaves your day open for training, school, & networking.
This is so true.
I thought i was going to be a fashion designer since i was a kid coz i like fashion, i asked a designer if i can intern for him part time for free. Ofcourse he said yes, i spent 3 months there and i just didn't think it is something that i wanna do my whole life, i thought there was something that i am more into than designing. After 3 month i told the designer that i was trying to find out if i really like designing and i stopped going there and pursued something else that i felt like i was into again. Still searching but it is worth it.
You don't want to go to college to be a doctor and graduate and end up having the shittiest days of your life working with all that stress even tho the pay can be good.
Happiness is everything, money is just paper sometimes.
The happiest people do what they love, be good at it and find a way to make a living doing it. They don't do things for the money.
Thanks for this ♡
Money kills love.
Am almost 25, and I still have no idea what I want to do with my life. Everybody I know is in college and is about to graduate and everyone thinks am a loser because I don't have a college degree.
Start taking Jobs....IN A FIELD You "Like!"
Get any Job...and try it out. You can always quit. Get experience at something...make it in a field or industry that you are interested in.
I was almost the same way but I'm glad I stayed busy as crap during those years. I mean I just took this job when I graduated from HS at 17 and it was called an electrician with the Air National Guard which immediately led me to the United States Air Force for many years. I was too busy building a career to think about much else. Everyone is different though with different goals and weaknesses. I am not totally happy with what I do now because of burn out but I have a back up plan. Truly, this video sums it up very nicely exactly how the major part of the real world works when it comes to not having a degree, not being lazy, not having an attitude about this video production, and taking your life in your own hands and getting the skills, contacts, etc, on your side so at least to be on a payroll somewhere and eat. There's more to it than that of course but it starts with a spark inside of you. And it helps to talk to someone at a technical school, college, university, career guidance counselor in HS, but someone who gives a crap. Some do and some don't. Find one. Ask around. No one should continue to be uncomfortable with their situation in the greatest nation on the planet. Ever!
Sadly, this was not of any help, it only made me really frustrated. :/
***** well there is some truth in the comment. People watch these videos and expect to get an answer on what they should and want to do with their life. But i think the only person that can answer this question is yourself. Imagina what you would do if money would not matter and then get (if possible a good) education or a job in that field. I love language learning and i want to travel the world so i study chinese. I love the decision i made a year ago but i am just 19 years old so my opinion is not very sophisticated. But i read almost all books from Brian Tracy and he was a great help!
*****
I did take some steps into the right direction :-)
Bobby Watson
What? What are you referring to?
Bobby Watson
I see you're having fun trolling and being rude. Have nice day.
Bobby Watson
I'm not trolling.
Great advice, this is the point: Stop thinking start doing.
You say to go out into the world and talk to the people that work in the industries that interest me...where would I do that then? Its not like I can just walk into a shop and ask to see the manager and then ask for a list of pro's and con's regarding his/her job, so where do I talk to all these wonderful, friendly and helpful people???
Thank you. Simply thank you. This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear. Reassurance. I think we already know the answers sometimes but it's nice to hear it from others. So thank you. You've helped me more than you know.
Why are you struggling to figure out what to do with your life? That's a GOOD thing! You're thinking! You're not being a sheep(a follower) who's under public influence or in the want to "FIT IN". Success is not measured by Wealth, Social Class or Materialism but rather finding inner peace within yourself. Know Thy Self. Whatever draws to you POSITIVELY, chase after it. Life is a a College/University itself as we continue to GROW and LEARN everyday by our experiences. Remember, before you plan on going after a certain goal. It's important to know yourself. It's ok take your time. Don't let the media or society define WHO you are. This planet is for everyone to enjoy. One Love!
I think it's a shame that we feel that we HAVE TO do something with our lives. Wouldn't it be great to just have the complete freedom to just live your life?
Asking questions and seeing what it's really like makes so much sense for me. Sitting by myself in my room trying to decide what I want to do without any real life experience or information is impossible.
Hi! nice video quite a lots of common sense. Ok I am 47yrs old, I lived on 3 different continents, 5 different countries, I had 4 different jobs and... I still don't know what I wish to do when I will be a grown up...
It is not just my life that matters. It is what happens after my life that matters.
Not helpful for people like me who are in their 30s, went to college, have had a myriad of jobs (including all the jobs that I once thought were my dream job, so I went and tried them out for a few years) and I feel even more lost in my mid 30s than I felt in my early 20s. Because after tons of experience in various industries, fields, countless mentors, therapy, self-help books, starting 3 businesses, freelancing, you name it and I've done it... this whole "you haven't lived enough" is good food for thought for very young people, but not for regular mortals tbh
Im 42 had all the experience in many industries talked to people in all different industries, and I still don't know what I need to do. So in my experience what you saying is invalid.
I’m 42 and I may need to do some more asking perhaps. Still nothing seems to be a good fit.
Thank you, Whitney! This video really helped me. I was in the middle of an existential crisis and, as simple as your message was, and it's something that I've known subconsciously, it really helped to hear someone else say it; get out there and get some experience! You're great, thank you :)
Instead of just interviewing people about things you want to do, i think the better way is to try things you might be interested in directly, the only downside is that it takes time.
I think this is really valuable information. The fact that some of us freeze up and stop seeking information, new experiences, talking to people (in such a digital world) is so true in my case.
goosebumps !! this is real.
I call bullshit. Why would i ever get paid for doing something I like?
I agree 100% with this video, only for some people they need to find out what it is before they go exploring. That can be very difficult if nothing is attractive.
Lots of good advice in your video, thanks for the help!
I guess I know what I wanted to become but the truth is I found that I'm horrible at it. So now I am lost and there is nothing else I can do.
You often have to compromise between the 9-5 job and what you really wanna do. Not many jobs are peoples true passions
Thanks for talking about the thing nobody ever talks about! It was inspiring.
Thanks for this nice talk. I have needed to hear something like this since a long time ago. You have got me thinking in more open way for my future and present. Have a great day for you and everybody :)
"you don't have enough information"
Subscribed. People think they can figure out thier life purpose in 5 min. This is worse than not knowing your purpose. Expose yourself to the point that it's just become obvious to you. Be patient and healthy.
Thanks Whitney.Good job getting your point across.I agree with you.Not enough information and that happens by not taking action, just thinking and hoping something will come to mind that is absolutely certain to work for you.Its the "absolute certainty" party that keeps you in your head without taking action.Like you said, you have to get in the real world and take some action trying things out.You wont find that certainty, one way or the other until you take action.
Great video, thanks for this! Made me to really think about my life and what do I want from it.
I think I have had near on 40 jobs in my life! LOL , my conclusion the hard way is that I need to own my own business or be self employed ..which I have done . I get bored easy too ..so now I do a combination of things, companion care, I do errands and help people with things like shopping and cooking, I pet sit and walk dogs and I make soy candles ! Just have fun , no rules that every one has to be punch in punch out 9 to 5 ..and you can do more than one thing ! Life is short !
great video, I definetly feel I was sheltered and didn't try things. I've narrowed a few things but not 100% about those career paths even after talking with them, super skeptical.
I just got up and wrote "what do I want" on my whiteboard. Then I wrote "what do I want to create?" following that thought, I decided I will still cut hair here in town bc I love it and I get to talk to cool people; on my free time I will do more photography for now bc it gets me outside. I love nature and I love to add my two sense in here and there so maybe I will be an editor.....
This video is very very helpful! It is true that most of us do not know what activities or things will make our life more meaningful!
I agree with Whitney where she says 'Ask Questions'!! There are lot of things that we can learn about by asking questions! if the answers are appealing, then why not go that path??
For me, life is all about surviving! If u have survived for a day, a min, its ur achievement! The human race had moved so forward because our forefathers survived. While you are surviving, you should do all those things dat pleases you! There may b many things that can give u happiness! Do not stop exploring!!
Thanks Whitney for this! Lets start asking Questions, Let us explore
This is me: I went and studied graphic design (as my parents wished) after matriculating in 1998, and now I find myself, at 37 years old, stuck in a small town, with only the skill sets in a field I'm not really that interested in. No idea what else I really want to do as I've been doing design for 13 years now. Feel trapped, with no way out 😔
Something I needed to hear. Great Video, Thanks!
I like your basic approach. It is true what you suggest and if those who do not know where to start or how to start, this should help guide them some. But don't stop there. To find your calling then a person will need many insightful tools. This is a very good basic kickstart. And Whitney, you seem to have a wonderful soul and I like your sincerety. Super job!
I like playing football and drums I am quite good at both, I dont like speaking to mass groups of people. I dont like doing mathematical activities. I have been watching other peoples life and seeing how they are loving life when I am in search of mine. I listen to motivation videos but not know how to act apon it. I am not lonely I have many friends, I am 14 years old I speak Spanish and English. (I was born in Argentina and have lived their for a bit but I now live in the UK).
I'm not in school but I do work at Starbucks. Sometimes it drives me crazy and other days it's really awesome. Just gotta find balance. I plan on volunteering and then joining the peace corps within a year or two. I'm not depressed anymore, I'm just not doing anything interesting to the common human. Haha.! Hopefully you all find something!
I am looking to switch my major from exercise science to art, liberal studies or communications. Who should I shadow?
Thank you. I am going to pass this on to my children. God bless
There is no solution because there is no problem.
excellent video its pretty much sums up alot of my current situation.
My college shut down, I know have a $10,000 debt I can't pay and my job that I've had for a year and a half fired me for someone else they can pay less. I've lost my love for that career and have no idea what to do with my life anymore. I've known what I've wanted for my entire life since I was 8, and now I'm so lost.
That's horrible I hope everything works out , although everything will get better it'll take time but some day you'll be with a family of your own in a nice house with a nice car and you'll be happy and look back at these struggles and realise it was all worth it x
This is so helpful. Thank you so much!
She makes soo much sense. Thumbs up
Thanks for the advice Witney
Thank you so much for this. I've just recently graduated university and still have no idea what I want to do. A lot of what you said described be perfectly, and I do recognize the shame I have about 'not knowing'. I definitely need to get out there more, so thank you for making me feel like I"m 'normal'.
Good video. You explained this from heart.
Im already 25, but still I dont like what im doing now. my ambition is to become an artist. but my family dont want it, instead of helping me to encourage me but, I felt descouragement, today i endrolled to my course which I dont like, I dont have a passion on it...I pursuing it just to have a college degree but still so hard to accept coz its none of my plan to take this course,, thats why until now, I cant find things which makes me happy which I could apply my passion on it.,,so hard thats why everthing that I done,which makes me force to do that, and I felt depress,
How does one network or find the right people to speak to in industries of interest?
I for one dont have the best social life with friends in the industries im considering...although I communicate among peers & roommates at my campus.
Any help would be appreciated :)
Great insight. Thank you!
Real problem is my passion won't support my family, so l need to create another dream which definitely earn myself enough money, but what do l do if I don't like It? I want to find reasons to make it interesting for me so that l don't have to be all frustrated whenever l do it.
Yes!! I feel the same. I am so torn between living a comfortable life with wife and kids or doing the job I love but not being able to provide!!
+Piemelon Trump Most of us do both. :-)
This was very good advice, thanks
I am 16 and I am from London. I am currently picking my A-levels for Sixth Form but I really don't know what I what to study in University. I have a couple of ideas but I'm finding it hard to stop being so indecisive. Can you give some advice on how to pick what I want to major in?
I'm literally an incoming senior in high school and this is so accurate for me
4:54 What makes you think they are going to like their job as much as you want to like your job. They probably don't.
Where do I start looking to begin my journey
This helped a bit im stressing out and getting depressed each day thinking abt what my career should be. At least this will get me started on something usefull thanks.
LOVE THIS!
I really dot know what to do with my life now, I mean I am a college graduate, passed the board exam. but right after reaching for my goal I felt empty. I really don't know what I want, and its frustrating.
What if you simply refuse to take part in any livelihood that directly or indirectly assists the machine involved in killing the Earth?
If you like doing a lot of different things, sometimes the mastery part comes when/if you can put all those things together... Glad this prompted you to investigate what some of your options are!
Thank you for your Vlog this makes sense!
Whitney you are a very kind woman
This video only talks about what to do with my life. This video does not talk about what I should do AFTER my life.
I'm kind of uneasy about taking a job just for the experience because I feel I could be lying in the interview about my objectives. I mean, if I say "I dunno, I'm just figuring it out", I don't think I'm gonna get hired. Also, I'm not very comfortable with lying. The job I'm talking about in particular is not my favourite thing to do, but I've never experimented with it in a work place.
What should I do if I am 50 years old with no money and no job?
Save time and play at 1.5 speed
Hi Whitney,
I'm 23 y.o. now. I'll hopefully graduate from a master's degree from computer science and I've worked in software engineering company for a year as well. Then I've quit my job and went for a masters degree (in a field that turned out to be something that I still don't like again). I feel like it is too late to change my career path and even when I find the courage to change it, like you've said, I fear it will appear to be different "in the trenches" and I might still hate it and regret my decision in the end. How do I go about figuring that out? When I look at my "goals" in life, it is just to live a peaceful, mediocre life just like the middle-class retirees! I sound like a slacker but I'm good at programming. I just don't like my job anymore, not one bit....
What should I do? Thanks in advance.
get a Gov. Job.
It's never too late, guess what, I've got a degree and degree dont have dates.
Hi, in your opinion im confuse what I should do. Honestly i have an idea of what I want to do which is to own my business one day but I've been told by family members to go with a career that is more profitable or guarantees a job and higher pay such as Accounting. so I'm debating whether to go for a career that has a high pay and profitable (Accounting) v.s. what I am truly passionate about which is owning my own business one day. so please let me know if you have any tip to help me decide.
Well money's nice to have, but it doesn't take away the frustration of being trapped in a job which doesn't interest you merely for the sake of making money. The people telling you to get a steady job are worried that your business might not take off, but how will you know unless you try it?
Very helpful. Thanks
Hi I watched this video a while ago and I have been interviewing people about their jobs... I have found nothing that seems for me though. I actually thought about interviewing people about their jobs but I never put it into action until I watched your videos. I'm turning 17 and I still have many doubts in my mind. Should I go to university/college? What is my passion? I don't know what to do...
Great video with great common sence advice.
Thankyou Whitney :)
Hi Abdessalam!
Thank you for your question! I had to think for a bit before I came back with a response.
First -- What makes these "problems of life" problems? Because they make you afraid? Question if you are loved or if the world has love to offer humanity?
Identify what is making your problem a problem. Then, how you can resolve this within yourself? What action will take you closer to where you'd like to be? Do you need to find courage where you are now looking for "the easy way?
Hi Nick,
Yes, you are definitely normal! The few people who really really know exactly what they want to do are the far more abnormal! Glad it helped!
I already did this and I am getting no where. Its great advise but to be honest it SUPER sucks when you already been through college and you have these questions and your area is saturated or there is no opportunities near you or after like 10 years you dont have an answer. Especially the fact that every company wants a 10 year up the ass credentialed individual.
I want to point out it's not true in my case what you say. No disrespect.
I am 45yo. I have travelled to 125 countries, lived in 14. I have had so many jobs, it's not funny. I've worked in all areas from painting statues to customer service to teaching English to working in hospitality to working in travel to working for government to design to IT to acting to working in sales and the list goes on. I kid you not.
At 45 I still have no idea what I want in life. It's not because of a lack of travel or Information or ignorance, it's the opposite for me. I also speak 7 languages and have two nationalities.
I disagree with you on your theory.
Thank you for posting this video.
Hello. It is safe to say that I am one struggling to figure out what to do with my life.
AWWW Thank you so much Whitney. I just wanted to say two things. Firstly this video has been super useful to me and secondly you are fucking gorgeous :)
Really i am so frustrate with my life i am useless guy everytime i opt different courses to pursue career accordingly but didn't get proper exposure in those fields. Now don't know what to do with my life i have spent huge part of my life by doing such courses but get nothing. Still i am in back to square one.
How do you know the people you might happen to talk to aren't biased or glossing things over? Saying web research isn't worth much is like saying you can't learn from a textbook; you can learn plenty, just not all the unspoken stuff. I'd start with a site like "Occupational Outlook Handbook" (BLS gov) that describes all sorts of careers and what's needed to get them. You first have to narrow down what you seek and the Internet is ideal for that.
I'm a 23 y/o firefighter,(been it for 5 years) I enjoy my job but I don't feel it fulfilling, I feel there's something bigger I could achieve. I have a generous spectrum of things I enjoy and don´t know if thats the reason I feel I could acomplish something WAY bigger. As I see it I´m stuck because I can´t figure out if I should develop my brain dedicating to science (phisics) or to arts (also I´m a musician)... becoming a pilot, or other pleasures like photography or entertainment or what!!? help?
aligatorsandcrickets You are sorrrta the opposite of me, in what u wrote.. I just recently studied science, I do some music but I wouldn't say I'm a musician (not there just yet), and I do freelance work as a photographer. I also studied culinary 5 years ago but it didn't pay much for all that hard, tiring work and which lead me to studying science. [I THINK I wanna do food science... but what if i get bored of that? IDK.] I mostly want something stable other than these side projects.
U at least have a good job as a firefighter, the music and the photography can be side projects if u wanna start there... buy a DSLR and take one photography class at a community college. A canon 70D is good to start lol. ugh, I'm just ranting, my LIFE is a rant.. and its late, goodnight.
Thanks a lot!
Thnx for this video
This is made to make people even more confused .. sublime mind control on first class. . And the title is the bait. She never really answers the question. She only creates fear and making things for the worse .
Love, peace and harmony to all
I know what to do but cant find the door.
same here...
Thanks !!
I've almost finished 4 year college as software enigneer. Soon I am starting college to become a pilot. But I really just dont know if Im gonna like it for long. Also I want to make a difference..
Joyce A-deg-bo-Yega does not know what she wants to do with her life.
I hope that helps! Let me know if it does...or if there's anything more I can address to help! All my best!
Great! Kudos to you for taking action--that's 9/10 of the battle (but alas, doesn't prevent it from sometimes being a looong battle).
"Passion" is such a heavy word... let's drop it and start thinking about what sounds like plain old fun... as in, someone suggests to you an afterschool activity-- (whale watching, beta testing a new technology, researching trilobites) what would make your eyes light up and say without hesitation, "oh MY gosh, that sounds like **so much fun**!!"
Just posted a new video answering your question!
I fail at every thing
hai.. i just wanna say thank you for your sharing.