I have loss of hearing and the music is covering up his speech. He is one of my favorite speakers. I'll have to listen to it again to hopefully get the message.
Try to ignore the loud background music, folks- the message is exceptionally good (at least it was for me). We all want to improve ourselves....REALLY improve ourselves, and there's a thousand people on CZcams with suggestions how to do it. Speaking for myself, the messages from Gelong Thubten have been the catalyst for real, positive, and sustained personal change. One example is provided in this video, and it's an approach I had never tried. Using meditation and Gelong's suggested ways to incorporate compassion I have actually been able to identify and correct certain personality disorders that have caused a variety of problems for the last few decades. This is real stuff.....cannot say the methods he suggests can work for anyone, but these have definitely helped me in very important ways.
Good to hear...I’m grieving my brothers death and having anxiety attacks constantly about the mess he left behind for me to take care of...my whole body hurts. I feel like I can’t breathe. My chest aches. I am listening to this hoping to find a new way of dealing with things, but didn’t really get much from this. I will continue to listen to his stuff though. I like him and I’ve been listening to his book, which makes me think he understands where I’m at.
@@Lulu-gg2zq You are stressed very much. Do some basic guided meditation. That will help you to recover from this sudden panic attacks. What he is telling I think you will need some more time to process it. You will be able to do this gradually, may take a little bit of time. May God bless you.
No, i did not come for the music, i am able to find that somewhere else. I came for the advises Gelong Thubten is coming with, and it is so hard to focus on that because of the disturbing music.
This has been life changing. I'm new to mindfulness. The mini- mindful moments you've taught have helped so much. It's helped me from the mild irritation of sitting in traffic. Later, I felt a panic attack building and did the mini mindfulness immediately and it helped. Soon after, at home, another attack began building. The mini session worked again. AsI started calming down, I stepped out of it and began to compassionately observe it. I was terrified but accepted that as well. I can't say I made friends with my panic. Yet. More like strangers nodding in passing but that's HUGE. A big difference from the normal cycle. It's been hours and I haven't felt another about to start. And I've got a peace & relaxation going on I wouldn't change for anything.
Gelong Thubten thank you for your compassionate message. I have challenges with difficult emotions that take hours or days to dissolve. Other times they subside quickly. One particular issue plagued me off and on most of my life surrounding my relationship with my father. He'd passed away a couple of years before from Alzheimers. During a group meditation course I took 4 years ago, another woman in our group spoke about her challenging relationship with her father where she sensed his spiritual presence with attitude of just staying with it without falling into it. When she spoke, my reaction was very strong. For the last part of our meeting I just cried. Afterward, I sat with those feelings. An image of my father as a 5 year old boy came to me (I'd been that same age when he'd first begun physically and verbally lashing out at me). For the entire day that image was with me...he looked so innocent and he mirrored the pain I was feeling. I immediately recognized his suffering was my suffering. Not *like* my suffering, but the *same* experience simultaneously. We became one in my mind's eye. It was completely consuming...I began to feel like I might never recover my strength. After hours passed, my feelings became deep sadness mixed with compassion for us both. This experience was incredibly strong. Finally I slept. When I woke up, the feelings were still right there with me. They weren't as acute, but were front and center nonetheless. I just stayed with it all day without turning away. I thought about Rose, the woman in my meditation group. I wondered if her experience was like mine. The sense I had was that it was very strong for her as well because she said it eventually brought her to genuine forgiveness. With this thought, I envisioned forgiving my father in earnest for the rest of the day. My physical and emotional being felt very fragile. The next day was a Monday but I stayed out. I went walking slowly for a couple of blocks, then it felt better. So I ended up walking further. Then I ate and bathed in salts and applied honey to my hair and skin. It all seemed very healing. But I wasn't the same as before. My feeling was there was no going back to who I'd been before. I realized I'd constructed a figurative prison around my heart as a kind of self-protection or survival mechanism. But I didn't have that any longer because it wasn't who I was any more. Since then, I integrated this experience, it seems. A couple of times, I've reflected on the experience and I didn't push that away either. But those times, I forgave a little more each time. Maybe it will come up again. It seems to be a reminder to feel love and compassion in my heart for all who suffer. I'm a long time meditator...over 50 years. I think of this experience almost every day to arouse love and compassion for all. This experience came about a couple of months after taking my bodhisattva vow. In my heart, there's no turning back. Nor would I choose to. Love and appreciation to all beings 🙏🌅💙
I’m so blessed to have the chance to hear all your lectures-I’ve been learning and practicing meditation and mindfulness for years and so when listening and understanding your full of kindness and compassion I feel like being showered with love and compassion for myself and I share with my family and friends 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️😊😊😊thank you
love this man. His insights and his tenderness of heart is so profound. Embracing the all of our discomforts is an amazing practice and i'm so thankful for this lesson here. :)
This is amazing idk if I'm just in my feelings because my rising sign is in cancer or if I actually am feeling this but I will definitely keep doing this and have an update and I'm giving it to my children as well Thank U much love😘😘
I really liked the message, and he is such an insightful communicator. However, the music was extremely distracting and actually sounded cheesy and smarmy. I hope that the video makers realize this because it will impact his image as a credible practitioner and will be a turn-off to a number of people.
Actually it's not the music which is disturbing but it's our reaction to that background music which is disturbing. We are developing aversion to that music. We do not like music during this talk. And that dislike is our aversion for this music. In meditation we learn to accept the things as they are. We do not resist what is happening in the very moment. The things we resist,they persist. As human beings,we are evolved as having two types of reactions. 1. The thing or situation or person which is discomforting or painful, we try to run away from it. We dislike it and try to get rid of it. This is our aversion from the situation. 2. The thing or situation or person which is pleasurable, we like it and try to grasp it. We crave for it. So, aversion and grasping ultimately lead to pain and suffering. In meditation we learn to accept whatever is happening in the moment. With this acceptance we see the reality as it is. When you accept the moment,it will never bother you.
I understand that aversion is also attachment.... it's like raag dwesh, Indian terms, ....if something pleases us, we like it, it's imperative that there's opposite of it too.... reason or root being the same. Please correct me if i misunderstand.
Great video. I can't believe that people are focussing on the music. Ha ha! Btw, is there an actual term for this (embracing paint to transcend it)? Just wondering if there's a technical word.
Dear #gelongthubten how to make friend, have compassion with something is within us and invisible? I know how to do when I have a clear picture about someone. But when it's ourselves, how to send this compassion to a feeling of discomfort? To ourselves?
learn to bring awareness to your body and after time your unconscious will show you the answer because you conciously and repetively asked for understanding. Awareness and Understanding are the key point here.
The awareness dawns in and as you, that your real state is prior to the identification that you are making of Being the discomfort. That what you truly Are is Free Awareness or Consciousness Itself. This doesn't come from making friends with something or from sending compassion to it, but of Realizing, through the meditation your true state of Being Awareness already. In other words it is not something you need to seek but something you need to understand and Realize.
So sad and irritating with this totally unnecessary Muzak !!! I cannot hear what this wise man is trying to come across with.....so annoyed.....talking about discomfort
Please... stop talking about oxytocin and cortisol. Stick to what you know. Leave medicine to doctors. Buddhism does not need to appeal to "science" for legitimacy.
@@gpop1257 Yes, I understand. But too many people in the "spiritual" field seem to be doing that in order to shore up their "science" creds. It's not necessarily. Spirituality does not need the approval and validation of science.
Octavus5 Ah well I guess we’ll have to agree to disagree 😊 I don’t see it as seeking approval or validation. I think it’s simply the case that science has finally caught up and is now able to explain how and why these things work. Understanding the science has really helped me in as much as I haven’t given up on meditation. Without it I think I would have.
@@gpop1257 But the thing is that spiritual insight doesn't rely on oxytocin, cortisol or whatnot. Those things do not matter. If doctors could prescribe a drug that mimics meditative states, that wouldn't be very helpful because it's not the state per se that we're looking for. It's the INSIGHT that we want. And that requires "practice."
I never get tired of listening to his messages🙏
Love this man, his incredible wisdom and his profound insights.
Oh wow! In 15 minutes I learned so much more than in years of expensive therapy. Thank you so much! I’m so grateful
I have loss of hearing and the music is covering up his speech. He is one of my favorite speakers. I'll have to listen to it again to hopefully get the message.
Try to ignore the loud background music, folks- the message is exceptionally good (at least it was for me). We all want to improve ourselves....REALLY improve ourselves, and there's a thousand people on CZcams with suggestions how to do it. Speaking for myself, the messages from Gelong Thubten have been the catalyst for real, positive, and sustained personal change. One example is provided in this video, and it's an approach I had never tried. Using meditation and Gelong's suggested ways to incorporate compassion I have actually been able to identify and correct certain personality disorders that have caused a variety of problems for the last few decades. This is real stuff.....cannot say the methods he suggests can work for anyone, but these have definitely helped me in very important ways.
Good to hear...I’m grieving my brothers death and having anxiety attacks constantly about the mess he left behind for me to take care of...my whole body hurts. I feel like I can’t breathe. My chest aches. I am listening to this hoping to find a new way of dealing with things, but didn’t really get much from this. I will continue to listen to his stuff though. I like him and I’ve been listening to his book, which makes me think he understands where I’m at.
@@Lulu-gg2zq You are stressed very much. Do some basic guided meditation. That will help you to recover from this sudden panic attacks. What he is telling I think you will need some more time to process it. You will be able to do this gradually, may take a little bit of time. May God bless you.
Incredibly inspiring video, Thubten has a gift for lucidity. Thank you.
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Compassion for ourselves is most important. Then we can have compassion for others.
I get a great feeling every time I listen to you I feel great! Thank you so much 💕❤️❤️
Me to
I feel the same also ❤️❤️
This is a life transforming lesson. Thank you.
Thubten, thank you. You have helped me once again. This time with the loss of my mother. 🙏💖you
absolute eye-opening words
Beautiful understanding and message, coming from experience and journey. Makes all the sense, and so needed in this world. Thankyou.
Thank you Soulvana for bringing to us this incredible message.
These are pearls of wisdom .. thank you
I love listening this monk. so soothing and comforting!
No, i did not come for the music, i am able to find that somewhere else. I came for the advises Gelong Thubten is coming with, and it is so hard to focus on that because of the disturbing music.
Then you missed 90% of hes teaching, If you even cant listen to a video with some background piano without losing focus
Loud background music. It was a real test of my equanimity.
I. Love this and all
This has been life changing. I'm new to mindfulness. The mini- mindful moments you've taught have helped so much. It's helped me from the mild irritation of sitting in traffic. Later, I felt a panic attack building and did the mini mindfulness immediately and it helped. Soon after, at home, another attack began building. The mini session worked again. AsI started calming down, I stepped out of it and began to compassionately observe it. I was terrified but accepted that as well. I can't say I made friends with my panic. Yet. More like strangers nodding in passing but that's HUGE. A big difference from the normal cycle. It's been hours and I haven't felt another about to start. And I've got a peace & relaxation going on I wouldn't change for anything.
Thank you so much🙏🙏🙏
This is so beautiful and it got me teary abit. Thank you for sharing with us!!
Powerful message. Is there any way to mute the music?
I have found your information amazing . And the music relaxing ,thank you
Thank you! 🙏
Gelong Thubten thank you for your compassionate message.
I have challenges with difficult emotions that take hours or days to dissolve.
Other times they subside quickly.
One particular issue plagued me off and on most of my life surrounding my relationship with my father. He'd passed away a couple of years before from Alzheimers.
During a group meditation course I took 4 years ago, another woman in our group spoke about her challenging relationship with her father where she sensed his spiritual presence with attitude of just staying with it without falling into it.
When she spoke, my reaction was very strong. For the last part of our meeting I just cried. Afterward, I sat with those feelings.
An image of my father as a 5 year old boy came to me (I'd been that same age when he'd first begun physically and verbally lashing out at me).
For the entire day that image was with me...he looked so innocent and he mirrored the pain I was feeling. I immediately recognized his suffering was my suffering. Not *like* my suffering, but the *same* experience simultaneously.
We became one in my mind's eye.
It was completely consuming...I began to feel like I might never recover my strength.
After hours passed, my feelings became deep sadness mixed with compassion for us both.
This experience was incredibly strong.
Finally I slept. When I woke up, the feelings were still right there with me. They weren't as acute, but were front and center nonetheless. I just stayed with it all day without turning away. I thought about Rose, the woman in my meditation group. I wondered if her experience was like mine. The sense I had was that it was very strong for her as well because she said it eventually brought her to genuine forgiveness.
With this thought, I envisioned forgiving my father in earnest for the rest of the day.
My physical and emotional being felt very fragile. The next day was a Monday but I stayed out. I went walking slowly for a couple of blocks, then it felt better. So I ended up walking further. Then I ate and bathed in salts and applied honey to my hair and skin.
It all seemed very healing. But I wasn't the same as before. My feeling was there was no going back to who I'd been before.
I realized I'd constructed a figurative prison around my heart as a kind of self-protection or survival mechanism.
But I didn't have that any longer because it wasn't who I was any more.
Since then, I integrated this experience, it seems.
A couple of times, I've reflected on the experience and I didn't push that away either. But those times, I forgave a little more each time. Maybe it will come up again.
It seems to be a reminder to feel love and compassion in my heart for all who suffer.
I'm a long time meditator...over 50 years.
I think of this experience almost every day to arouse love and compassion for all.
This experience came about a couple of months after taking my bodhisattva vow.
In my heart, there's no turning back.
Nor would I choose to.
Love and appreciation to all beings 🙏🌅💙
I just found this guy. so happy I did ❤
Revisiting after 2 years. I still find this teaching highly refreshing. Thanks. Gelong Thubten
I’m so blessed to have the chance to hear all your lectures-I’ve been learning and practicing meditation and mindfulness for years and so when listening and understanding your full of kindness and compassion I feel like being showered with love and compassion for myself and I share with my family and friends 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️😊😊😊thank you
love this man. His insights and his tenderness of heart is so profound. Embracing the all of our discomforts is an amazing practice and i'm so thankful for this lesson here. :)
Wise advice
Wow profound! Thank you
Love this talk I can resonate with this so much . Thankyou ❤️
I love the music along with the talk. Thank you
Thank you from Canada❤
Thank you! What a help!
This is what I need to hear today!Thank you dear sir,much love&light😇
Aversion and attachment ... chemistry changes, oxytocin ... Many things I got to know. Thanks
Thank you for sharing 🙏
Thank you so much 🙏🏻 ❤️
This is amazing idk if I'm just in my feelings because my rising sign is in cancer or if I actually am feeling this but I will definitely keep doing this and have an update and I'm giving it to my children as well Thank U much love😘😘
Thank you very much for this clip, I sent this clip to many friends of mine😊🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Amazing talk! 🙏
Excellent video 👌🏼 thank you.
I agree about the piano music in the background.....distracting.
The music is so disturbing that it takes your attention away from what s being said
Quit moaning
Yeah really annoying background music. This type of teaching doesn't need background music.
You’ve just heard the teaching, stop complaining for once!
@@DoodleDoo that sound infuse this with a new age touch and lose authenticity when associated with new age content,
Thank you...
wonderful inspirational talk as always, but please lose the extremely distracting music track, please!
I love the music
It's a great wise speech. I advise everyone should search Gabor Mate on his talks as well you won't regret it.
I love you and love your talks BUT the music , which is higher than your voice , is very disturbing🥴
Amazing
Love from Bhutan
Outstanding summary of learning to create a loving and compassionate relationship with pain.
The music at the end way TOO LOUD and startling.
I really liked the message, and he is such an insightful communicator. However, the music was extremely distracting and actually sounded cheesy and smarmy. I hope that the video makers realize this because it will impact his image as a credible practitioner and will be a turn-off to a number of people.
How to move closer to our feelings ? How to nurture my anxiety?
sadly, I can't listen to this because the completely unnecessary, distracting background music.
It is..
Might work if it was way lower in volume..
literaly exactly what i came here to say. makes it cheezy too. this dudes awsome and a very good comunicator though
rosemary crosland exactly my thoughts
Why on earth is it even necessary with music......his words are enough
Actually it's not the music which is disturbing but it's our reaction to that background music which is disturbing. We are developing aversion to that music. We do not like music during this talk. And that dislike is our aversion for this music. In meditation we learn to accept the things as they are. We do not resist what is happening in the very moment. The things we resist,they persist. As human beings,we are evolved as having two types of reactions.
1. The thing or situation or person which is discomforting or painful, we try to run away from it. We dislike it and try to get rid of it. This is our aversion from the situation.
2. The thing or situation or person which is pleasurable, we like it and try to grasp it. We crave for it.
So, aversion and grasping ultimately lead to pain and suffering. In meditation we learn to accept whatever is happening in the moment. With this acceptance we see the reality as it is. When you accept the moment,it will never bother you.
I understand that aversion is also attachment.... it's like raag dwesh, Indian terms, ....if something pleases us, we like it, it's imperative that there's opposite of it too.... reason or root being the same. Please correct me if i misunderstand.
The Piano music doesn't help the message for me and I think his voice has been deepened a few tones?
So true😍😍😍😍😍😍thank you
Can’t listen with that music
Thanks, no background music necessary though!
Great video. I can't believe that people are focussing on the music. Ha ha! Btw, is there an actual term for this (embracing paint to transcend it)? Just wondering if there's a technical word.
The background music is louder than your voice
Music was so annoying that I stopped watching the video.
That your mind is annoyed. He is trying to explain this to you but you got no patience. Mind will either give attention to the music or his teaching
Why the music is sooo loud! It takes away from the wonderful teachings
Yes
just his voice please...repost without music
WHY do they add this distracting and pointless music? It makes it impossible for me to listen.
Dump the music - impossible to listen
Dear #gelongthubten how to make friend, have compassion with something is within us and invisible? I know how to do when I have a clear picture about someone. But when it's ourselves, how to send this compassion to a feeling of discomfort? To ourselves?
learn to bring awareness to your body and after time your unconscious will show you the answer because you conciously and repetively asked for understanding. Awareness and Understanding are the key point here.
The awareness dawns in and as you, that your real state is prior to the identification that you are making of Being the discomfort. That what you truly Are is Free Awareness or Consciousness Itself. This doesn't come from making friends with something or from sending compassion to it, but of Realizing, through the meditation your true state of Being Awareness already. In other words it is not something you need to seek but something you need to understand and Realize.
the music
Please remove the background music.
I like Gelong Thubten but don't need that misplaced melodramatic music.
you are pushing away displeasure lol
The loud music is distracting and competes with the message... How I wish I could turn that music off!
I prefer to concentrate on your words than the music on background
Would you please get rid of the music!
Very comforting and inspiring instruction.
Me ! to i love Gelong Thubten but the music do not belong there
Why this monk isn't a lama?
You did not come here for music, do you. Focus on what he says instead of music
It's worth mentioning for future videos... The "emotive" vibe of the music is totally of and distracting
We could just get the video without the piano music you know
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Music is awful.
the music ruined it
Back ground music is distractingly loud. Takes away from his message.
Turn music off ffs
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Stop adding the music.
Why in the hell shall we listen to this shitty music instead of just to the voice of Gelon Thubten. It is so distracting,
So sad and irritating with this totally unnecessary Muzak !!! I cannot hear what this wise man is trying to come across with.....so annoyed.....talking about discomfort
Pls take out the music. It’s very distracting
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His trauma made him a better person
Please... stop talking about oxytocin and cortisol. Stick to what you know. Leave medicine to doctors. Buddhism does not need to appeal to "science" for legitimacy.
He’s not appealing to science, he’s just incorporating interesting and very relevant biological facts.
@@gpop1257 Yes, I understand. But too many people in the "spiritual" field seem to be doing that in order to shore up their "science" creds. It's not necessarily. Spirituality does not need the approval and validation of science.
Octavus5 Ah well I guess we’ll have to agree to disagree 😊 I don’t see it as seeking approval or validation. I think it’s simply the case that science has finally caught up and is now able to explain how and why these things work. Understanding the science has really helped me in as much as I haven’t given up on meditation. Without it I think I would have.
@@gpop1257 But the thing is that spiritual insight doesn't rely on oxytocin, cortisol or whatnot. Those things do not matter. If doctors could prescribe a drug that mimics meditative states, that wouldn't be very helpful because it's not the state per se that we're looking for. It's the INSIGHT that we want. And that requires "practice."
Music is awful.
What about also bringing a balley dancer to dance with clown as a visuel background to the music.
Bakwas music