A Day In The Life Of A Funeral Director and Planner
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- čas přidán 18. 06. 2014
- Planning a funeral for a loved one is a great responsibility.
In this short documentary you will see a behind the scenes look of a funeral home and what really is involved in funeral planning for a family, being a Funeral Director or Conductor on the day of the funeral service, and finally internment of the deceased.
Melissa Laird, a Funeral Planner, also sometimes known as a Funeral Director, shows how arranging and planning a funeral is very time sensitive and an onerous responsibility, which sometimes requires her to become a mediator, advisor, confidant and consultant to the families she serves.
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shes so calm and elegant
I met a 22 year old woman who developed a liking for me. We spent some time together and then she went back home to Wisconsin. We wrote back and forth and then one day, I received her letter from San Antonio Texas. She surprised me by confessing that she had enrolled in the mortuary science school there. She asked me if I had any vacation days left because she would be happy to show me around the city.
I was so shocked that she was studying to be a funeral embalmer and director, I never wrote her back.
I went to school with a young man who's Dad was in the funeral business as a business owner he followed in his Dad's footsteps and became a funeral home owner and he loves his work
Caitlin , who has a channel called Ask a Mortician is a great place to find alternative ways to celebrate the life of a loved one who has died. These expensive caskets and flowers are not needed. Embalming is also not really good for the environment and not necessary depending on the celebration you want to have. Home funerals are a great alternative. Tobin Brothers offers to take care of everything for you which is just what we do not need. Caitlin explains what can be done legally by the family and how we can take care of our own dead with some help from the funeral home, Check out her channel!
loooove Caitlin !
YES
Ironically I’m here because CZcams noticed I’ve watched a lot of Caitlin’s videos lately
Caitlin does her own thing, making people feel it's quite alright to spend 200 dollars maximum to get their family members tucked away in a minimalistic no fuzz manner,,
She may be minimalistic funeral Queen, but I can tell you, she gave advice to SAVE money to give your pet a decent wake and farewell and home euthanasia 😂
Damián Lucero agreed about Caitlin in that her movement to normalize death is needed, but i picked up that she is anti-funeral home in some ways. My opinion is that she can be pro-alternative without being anti-funeral industry. Most of the families i have served in my 25 plus year career want as little to do with the body as possible-they appreciate that a “traditional” funeral home will take care of all of the “heavy lifting” when it comes to body prep and disposition. And just because something isnt “needed” does that make it a crime to offer it? High priced caskets are not needed any more than high priced clothes, cars, jewelry, homes, etc are needed. But some families want them and in many cases demand them. I do not align with funeral directors who push high priced choices on families, but it would be a bad business practice not to offer items that cover the entire price/quality spectrum.
As a very young child, I had become terrified of death and the idea of death. I dont know why or what caused it, but it would keep me up at night. With time I came to peace with death, and losing people to death and how natural it is in life although difficult. It's strange sometimes to think how something that used to terrify me is now something I'm very understanding and educated on, and want to go into the business of being a funeral director. I think it would suit me, understanding the pain and fear of death and how devastating it is
Same here. I'm 15, and I'd be more than happy to care and look after the bereaved people.
This is probably the best guide ever
Thank you, Tobin Brothers, for this excellent collection of educational videos. I will share them with my funeral celebrancy students which I am sure they will enjoy as an excellent resource.
A friend had a part-time job after retirement driving for a funeral livery. He had to drive the hearse at a funeral for a reputed Mafia "person." As he brought the hearse (coach if you're politically correct) to the side door of the funeral home, he was approached by a man who flashed a badge. He was an plainclothes cop. He directed him to the office where he had he put on a bulletproof vest. The cop said they're prepared for "anything." He replied, "hell, I'm driving the hearse. The guy in the back sure isn't a target." True story.
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Love this video series!
I mean no disrespect, but we need to acknowledge this is actually a sales video. It's selling the idea of a "traditional" funeral: embalming, cosmetic presentation of the body at a viewing, fancy casket, elaborate floral arrangements, cemetery burial with a bagpiper, and a reception where catered food is proffered at the virtuous standard for your guests. The funeral home makes a profit on all aspects of this kind of funeral. Cremation, the less-costy option, is not mentioned at all. The videographer is smart: he knows an image conveys his client's agenda more than verbiage. He frequently shows us a handsome wooden casket and all the trimmings of an elaborate funeral. The whole video is meant to instruct us about a "proper" funeral, implying the more costly, the more "correct."
Have you seen any of Caitlin's videos? Her channel is called Ask a Mortician and she covers the entire industry. She is a licensed mortician in California; She also has a website called The Order of the Good Death. She is not your average mortician. I highly recommend you check her out.
xjAlbert Lay off. We are all going to go through this. I want to learn more about it.
Direct cremation, is not mentioned .... or shown in this video for good reason,, because it would show a dead person stuffed into a cardboard box... then shoved into a machine, then crushing of bones, ah.... and ofcourse the plastic lunchbox for the remains,,, who would want to overspend... a direct cremation can be just as touching.... or?
Yeah, but it’s a business that I don’t know much about except it’s very costly .
Delilah Rainelle it can be costly. However i’ve arranged a cremation arrangement that was at a higher mortuary price point than many burials. It depends on the choice of services chosen, choice of funeral home, choice of casket, urn, and burial location. I’ve also arranged direct cremations where there was such a small connection to the physical remains that we had to call next of kin so many times over a year to pick them up that i felt i was harrassing them. One family never came back at all and i had to bring the urn to the coroner.
a job I am looking into getting in .. glad I got to see this video
tabs loves to vlog sameee ive always been interested in the medical field
Me too
MONEY MONEY MONEY..But first you gotta put in 3 years of schooling..Then you gotta go through the whole process of embalming..Easier said than done love.
@@georgeedward1691 please don't disparage my profession like that, we are definitely not all about money especially those who still work for small family owned homes. I would not trade my work for anything. As for embalming, if you're in Australia you'd know embalming is not commonplace as other parts of the world like USA and UK. Embalming is only ever done with full consent of the family when they are to be interned in a crypt or repatriation overseas mainly
@@georgeedward1691 Most funeral homes are owned by families and/or are small businesses. Yes, The death industry does cost a lot of money and I hate that it does, but morticians can be underpaid and often work long hours. Funerals cost lots of money because caskets, flowers, labor costs, embalming, mortuary cosmetics, they all cost lots of money. I personally want a natural burial but that is the traditional funeral.
Beautiful and hard heartbreaking .
Nice lady she must work very hard at her job.
Wow. The services described on this video would cost tens of thousands of dollars. Definitely for the elite.
I’m on my way to becoming a licensed Funeral Director. I’m eager to start doing my part.
Some people want a simple cremation. Some prefer to be buried. Some families want a tribute, to celebrate a persons life with their family and friends. I do feel a service, is part of the ritual of mourning and does provide the grieving with peace, comfort and closure. Each person should help their family understand what their wishes are. Whether a burial or a cremation, I do believe in having a service. I believe every life matters and should be respectfully memorialized.
Great presentation Love the U K Tony U S
I try to avoid funerals as much as possible because not only do I find the concept of death upsetting, but I also can’t stand the sound of bagpipes, especially when they’re playing “Amazing Grace” on them
I have been interested in getting a job at a funeral home as an assistant. Any suggestions?
You gotta go through schooling first. It's not like working at your local Wallmart. Stupid fucking question..Use google to do a bit of research on it..SMH
In Australia and New Zealand you don't have to go to any "school". It's an extensive on-the-job training. So... not a stupid question at all. Different countries, different ways. @@georgeedward1691
I was thinking about getting into a mortuary science program....do you have any suggestions?
If you are serious about it, go work at a funeral home first for about 6 months and then go to a mortuary school. I'm going into the profession myself and the director himself told me to do the above.
The Struggle If you could get accepted at a Funeral Service certificate program at a technical school before actually having worked at a funeral home, would that be problematic? Could just start from the bottom after the schooling, no? The reason is that I'd be moving to a different province to even hope to be able to find a job in this industry, and I would want to start studying asap. One could look for an entry job at a funeral home while studying no?
a day in the life of a first call driver
Unfortunately a vast.majority of funeral homes are owned and operated by a major corporation despite their appearance to be owned and operated locally by independent directors.... Sad! The ethics of their sales techniques frequently are what most people would consider unethical... that's about as low as you can get in life, taking unfair advantage of people when they're unballanced by the passing of a loved one. For their sake they'd better pray that the Lord God in Heaven has an interesting sense of humor when it's their time to meet him! I was going to enter into the funeral industry but I certsinly can't be a part of some.of the things that frequently go on and happen there in these places.... Most people would consider it beyond shameful to know what happens, if you're intimately familiar with all the things that frequently occur in such places...
Don't know where you are but here in Australia (where this video was filmed) only 33% of funeral homes are owned by the "major corporations" you speak of - not a "vast majority". The rest are privately owned/run. We have extremely strict laws here for funerals and cremations. I'm not in the funeral industry I'm just commenting on your post.
I couldn’t do it, but at least you don’t get mouthy customers... much.
Money, money, money... MONEY!
Don’t feel sorry for a funeral home director. It’s a business. A necessary business and don’t believe it when they tell you they do it out of the goodness of their hearts. Just see how much they care when they find you have no money.
Just saying.
I'm considering a career as a funeral attendant, and I have compassion and empathy to want to help provide a good service to the deceased and their families. For me personally, it would be an honour to work in this type of industry.