How to overcome social anxiety disorder
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@@SFY654It is recent feature of youtube.
We suffer more in our imagination than in reality
I don’t know I still think after people walk away they are talking crap behind my back
you are right..i exaggerate everything in my imagination..and then my thoughts become negative
@@NewsFortI swear I always think abt that too
Being exposed to the internet does that. The internet can best be described as a drug that incredibly exaggerates emotions and expressions.
Yeah my heart is pumping like mad in real life but thanks...
When you step outside of your comfort zone, two things happen:
1. You experience some degree of fear
2. Your comfort zone enlarges
Well said!
I just found out that I have struggles maintaining eye contact with others, I have fear of walking by people, I have fear eating infront of others, I’ve got lots more but coming to the point, are this signs of social anxiety or am I an Introvert?
It has not enlarged I'm still afraid
@@iwasher9218 Honestly, could be either or a combo of both. But I can say that pushing yourself to face awkwardness and rejection will strengthen you socially regardless of your natural disposition or fears or both.
@@TheMaskedThearpist It takes time, and repetition. Often the progress feels insignificant in the moment, but if you persist, you'll be able to look back on this time and see how you've transformed a tiny little bit at a time.
One thing i dont understand is that i am not always socially anxious, sometimes i am pretty confident and mantain eye contact but othertimes i cannot look the person in the eye
Bipolar
Got the same problem
Same its weird
Yeah it’s like 50/50
exactly the same problem with me.
We are scared to talk to people because you feel like they will think we are weird and not hang around with you, so instead of talking to them we say nothing and try to Avoid any social situations witch just makes people think we are weird and that makes them not want to be around us anyways
Social anxiety is a vicious circle
True.
This is what my son says. I wush i could help him.
But then you try to speak and guess what happens, you will be weird
Honestly sums it up perfectly. I was confident and outgoing when I was a kid, but overtime I collected traumas and internalized the negativity from them to the point that I have an extremely difficult time with even small social interactions. I locked myself away from the world but still crave respect and companionship. I'm at a loss.
@@enigmachinasclass8153 this is what happened to me! Built up trauma for about 8 years :(. This technique mentioned in the video does help me a lot tho! The problem is I’m not in a lot of social situations to practise it rn so I guess I have to seek some…which is anxiety inducing LOL
nope, social anxiety for me is just walking in the street and feeling hyper activated and aware of each walking person and feeling their glances on me. therefore I start walking faster than normal and I avoid eye contact, which makes me unaware of what’s happening around me. It feels like hallucinations to be honest
I am generally under control when I’m in a slow paced closed environment
Same bro
Yes that's it😂😂🤣😭
this happens to me
So what do we do???
Same and my brain stops working sometime during the day and then I am all like hmm, huhhh, hm hm... like I can't even think of anything to say and people notice that pretty quickly
“Maintain eye contact” triggered my fight or flight tbh
Me too 😣
Facts. I’m all set on that.
It's too hard to do when whole society is perfectionist, judgemental and mocking.
Exactly
You can do it. You got everything it takes to drag you out of there.
It’s mostly because of their insecurities
Man im stuggling through that right now😭
@@LightnessOfTheLifei hope so. i’m starting an apprenticeship soon and i get so nervous when speaking to people but i’m gonna have to try my best🫡🤞🏻
I dive into it and then I’m stressed out for the rest of the week, embarrassed, overthinking and with lots of anxiety. I’m so tired and feel beaten down.
Same here 😢
Absolutely same. Total sh7t
this is me but what i try to do is, when i worry about what others think of me for days bc i did smth “embarrassing” they have their own problems and worries in life to the point that they won’t even think of you. we feel like the center of their lives but we’re just another human being for them. bc when someone does something embarrassing infront of me, I forget about it in a few minutes.. let alone thinking about their embarrassing moment for days, bc i have my own worries and problems in life yk.
Same here, I'm scared of passing by people, talking to strangers, and maintaining eye contact. And when an awkward moment happens, I feel super embarrassed and say to myself: "did I say something wrong? Did I mess up? Was I weird?" And end up completely ruining my week
I think social anxiety is a result of self rejection, and pushing yourself to socialize more, only makes it worse. You need to love and accept yourself first , and then it won't matter who else doesn't.
Alone because of social anxiety still we fear of being alone
We fear of people judgments, we don't even think about the rest! We fear that we become fearful. So basically our biggest fear is fear itself!
Once we confront our biggest fear with open eyes we will see that nothing is there!
I’m really about to start recording myself doing stuff in public to get attention I’m getting tired of having this I’ve tried everything people tell me now it’s time I learnt to make a fool of myself and not be scared
Ain’t that the truth
As much as I'd like to step out there and face my fears, it's really not as simple. I remember being in improv theater class for the first time and I never felt so bad in my life, I was constantly sweating and I just wanted to run away and cry. Even doing small tasks gets my heart beating so fast that it hurts
Maybe because you refuse something, I think this is an ego problem, others must at all costs see us in the way we wanted to, and if poeple see us otherwise, this puts us in a huge discomfort, the worse thing is running away from those kinds of situation and not facing them because this how fear grows, it get bigger and stronger when we choose to run away from it. Next time, try to practice mentally by visualizing the worst case scenarios that could happen to you, like it is happening in real life. And let your body react, it could be in form of sweating, crying, fast heartbeat, weakness in your legs ... think of this process like a negative energy getting out of your body, and at the same time ask yourself what's the worst thing that could happen to you? Maybe for example poeple saying that you are a loser or you're good for nothing.. in this case ask yourself how is this going to harm you? What is the worst thing that could happen to you? You will find that it's just a little idea you created a long time ago whether you picked it up from your family, parents, at school , friends or from your teacher,, anyways it all begun from a simple idea that kept growing with feelings and repetitive scenarios in which you concluded this idea until it became a fear. So from now on, don't nourish it, try to face it one moment at a time, and I guarantee you, as you make more efforts to face it, as it becomes weaker & u become stronger. It happened to me and it can happen to you as well, just don't be harsh on yourself, you're not the only one , everyone of us has some kinds of fears. You're not alone. Keep fighting!
@@khadijas1579 that is amazing advice! I hope you know you helped someone today!! :)
@@vineetamadineedi1310 yeah 🙂
@@khadijas1579 this is really good advice man thank you
@@khadijas1579 everyone has a plan until they get punched on the face
I got social anxiety at 14 years old, I always feel like i am not my real self
Me at 12, and i'm almost 20 now ☠️
@@bluefire3297 now i am 17. Hope you overcome it soon
That's exactly how I feel 😢
Same, now 22 starting a new job and already got the reputation as the quiet guy again 😔
@@redzz4708 story of my life 😀
Suffer for a month for a life time relief
Yes👏
Yes ✋
That hits hard
It doesn't work. Social anxiety always comes back.
I am mbbs student whi want to be a doctor but social anxiety has left me helpless. I have to interact with 100 of people everyday. I am miserable here and want to quit my dream
I have social anxiety and let me tell you guys it's a worse nightmare and so is normal anxiety.
The problem for me is, I don’t enjoy small talk. It’s painful. It’s a chore to socialize with strangers & I end up not making sense sometimes from trying too hard to socialize
Bruh i be weirdly shaking around people and thinking they could see it and my mind always thinking that they are judging my everything and looking at me
@@dshef300 who knows bro but mine is since covid
@@aishgill6079 same here bro. Is there hope for us?
@@samuelmaina8769 sameeeeee
@@aishgill6079 sameeeeeeee
Same. Tired of that sh7t. Just wanna live a life
I have a fear of people thinking I’m weird and rejection but you broke it down now I know what to do. If I’m in a social interaction I’ll just be my weird self and if they don’t like it then oh well. Not everyone will like you, it’s just life.
Well said!
True
Youre just a girlboss this is normal
Me I forget what to even say because I’m thinking about how weird I look or sounds 😔
I lost many opportunities becuase of this mindset. i need to fix it fast, we all know deep inside its not good to live life like this forever
I have panic attacks when going outside but i manage it by not thinking i have it. What i do is just go on the way, try to relax and see what would happen.
exactly that's what I do like for example I have a family-owned restaurants and sometimes I have to do meetings I just do the meeting anyways and see how it falls I let things fall in place and I relax if that makes any sense, because I sometimes have panic attacks I've been hospitalized by a really bad panic attack so that kind of told me I have to do something about it and figure out a solution
Are urs as persistent? My panick attacks are so persistent such that I'll overcome once and get swayed a few minutes later when it shows up again
@@samuelmaina8769 keep socializing friend, it's good that you can overcome it and surely you still. Just practice mindfulness. Be positive. I have anxiety too but what you do is when you walk, think like you have a shield on you. And no one can get you. My anxiety now is not so worst, I learned to take care of myself. God words can really help. The very first time that I read a bible verse was the start of fighting my social anxiety. Though, going outside for me was very very hard and feel embarrassed, thinking I was weird. I have realized that I wasn't, when you let those things rule on you, you can't be in peace. Dust it off. And meditated on Gods words. That is the work of the enemy. Don't let that things live on you. It's a trick. The enemy comes to mind. They want us to be in fear, remember that we are the creation of God and we are called for him. Those enemies, if you're battling in those minds. Do not fight it. Give it to God. He will give you peace if you let God rules over it. No one is greater than his love and peace. God's promises is true. Have faith and you are called to live and to love.
Philippians 4:6-7 (NKJV)
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus."
I want to share this if those thoughts battling you. Say this: I take that thought captive, In Jesus Name! And pray that God help you. It's powerful.
@@lee_ashh This is an awesome reply. I'll surely put it into practice. Thanks
It's like a fear of a pool, the only way to get over the fear is to expose yourself to it. Makes sense, still easy said than done.
I don't think so,I was afraid of the pool but it took me 3-4 times to jump to learn how to swim,I am afraid of people and I haven talk to them 1000thousand times and still struggling, it takes more than a fear it is a phobia like a fear of water or the ocean it is a nightmare
Eye contact hacks:
-Sunglasses
-if you're have poor vision: dip your glasses mid nose. Everyone's a blur and blurs are less scary than people
Good to know.
Bruh I’ve done the sunglasses 😭 I guess we should conquer fears!
Just confront your fear…
I prefer a helmet
I suffered from social anxiety my whole life and lately I realized how many opportunities I missed because of this. I'm now working on going out of my comfort zone. It's really hard but I want to get rid of social anxiety. Right now it's just ruining my life!
In other words, join improv class! Or a theater group! I used to be unbelievably shy I would barely talk infront of anyone, and I am going into only my third year in theatre, my friend says that in the best way I'm like a whole new person, it has really changed my life and built my confidence in every aspect possible
When I ran social anxiety group therapy, I’d include a section on improv. Improv skills are just such a great way to listen to someone else, stay connected, and build a conversation together 🙌🏽
I've been in theatre, and I still have anxiety
I don’t know about shyness having anything to do with social anxiety. It just sounds fictional to me
Easier said then done. Ik how I get out in public so I stay home and avoid even putting myself in the situations again.
Same brother
my social anxiety keeps getting worse and worse. after corona i started to just be in a room whole day for 2 years of my life, and now when i go out and talk to people. i get anxious. nervous. scared. not that they are dangerous for me or anything. im just afraid how i am being presented to them, im afraid what they might think of me, now i know i shouldnt care about what everyone might think about me. but i cant help it. whenever im out in public in a lot of people. i feel like im doing something wrong. and i get nervous and at that moment all i need is a mirror, a full whole body mirror to see myself and tell myself that no ur not doing anything wrong, ur just looking exactly how others are. iv been dealing with this for years, and i thought it will go away but its not.
Exactly same
Same
A really good trick I use to not get nervous in public is to make a point not to look at anyone. Not just in the eyes, I mean don't look at them in general. It's amazing how well it works, and it makes you realize how often you look at people lol.
(This only applies to going into stores and out around strangers. I don't mean in an actual social setting like going out with friends)
Or just be weird!Who wants to be normal it’s so boring lol.Your never alone God is with you always!He accepts you when people reject you!🙂
Thank you 😢
I have a lot of trouble initiating conversations or asking questions in person. This is perfect, thank you
Glad it was helpful!
The thing is I’ve exposed myself to social situations my entire life and always feel weird and fearful 😂 it’s not working
Same!
I can't even take a walk in the park in peace
Exposure therapy Is great, necessary even. But sooner or later, you have to work on your trauma. That's the hard work.
Problem is that I’ve been already rejected by everyone I have ever met
And now I am alone and hopeless
If you read this, I hope that you don’t experience what I’ve experienced
The same I've been experiencing. And it's horrible. Because people hardly understand us.
hope you're doing better
I hope you and everyone else who is suffering with social anxiety gets out of it and becomes a confident person
Bro, you have God don't forgot that (if you are religious). And even if they all gone. These people don't deserve you. Create a new circle of friends. People that deserve you. (btw I have thisf ear too)
@@yousyousf5247 شكرن آنا مسلم بس احس إني ما استحق الأسم مسلم لاني وقفت اصلي هل ايام
I didn't know I had social anxiety until recently I thought the physical pain and shortness of breath was somewhat normal
I have social anxiety whether it is for a phone call,video call or face to face. This causes me to stammer and it is a real problem for job interviews. I don't know what to do.
medicine helps but beware of side effects. Everytime i take meds I'm normal around others but the med gives another random problem. Last time welbutrin made me sweat alot doing like anything. Fun
@@amandaham7571 im really on the fence with getting back on meds because of possible side effects
@@myflymkultra268 well just keep trying to find things that make a difference for you. I think deep breathing helps to a degree.
Don’t take meds they gave me some and it made my anxiety worse now it comes with chest pain and shortness of breath DO NOT TAKE MEDS
Your medicine is just to start believing in yourself. Start small and keep compounding it every day. Confidence and fear can’t dwell in the same place. So once your conference grows, anxiety will start vanishing.
It would be nice if there was an easy way to do this. My social anxiety is pretty severe. Just last night I was hanging out with some fairly new friends from work, with the intention of stepping outside of my comfort zone. I find myself attempting to do this often and in other ways too, such as working at a local bar. Unfortunately, my fear of being alone combines with, anxiety and a very strong belief that I’m weird. This creates an avalanche of crushing emotions, which ends up making me feel trapped in my own mind. The worse part is, I am acting strange because of the overwhelming turbulence I feel inside.
Did you find some solutions
At least you have a job.
Sounds so complicated but eventually i got over my anxiety by putting myself in awkward situations and seeing if the experience repeated itself
huh. im gonna try that actually. 🤔 i was thinking the other day "maybe its just a coincidence that every single experience i had was bad/awkward, or maybe i was just around the wrong people" maybe if i put myself out there again, ill end up realizing its not so much of a pattern and if it is then i know for sure i need to work on myself.
i also need to normalize awkward experiences so that i dont always overthink them. overthinking it makes me insecure and im tired of feeling insecure. im not rlly looking to be super confident as of right now, im just looking for a solution on how to stop being nervous all the time.
Being alone is not bad at all, infact it's amazing.
Feeling lonely tho..
I had social anxiety because I also feared someone could hurt me, I had a childhood where a lot of violence happened.
I have overcome my anxiety with exposing myself to situations I feared (such as talking to people on the phone, buying groceries or talking in front of an audience).
Luckily I had a professional which whom I could talk about it and who would help me develop the right mindset to keep going.
I pushed myself, but not too far. I exposed myself to small situations that were uncomfortable for me and went step by step for the bigger ones.
During that time I realized that if I don't feel good in general I fail more often. And it took me longer to recover and to get ready for the next try if I was judging myself for not being successful.
So I tried to put my wellbeing first and comforted myself when I couldn't expose myself to these situations. I treated myself like I was ill or had a heartbreak, took my time to get the power to try again. Also I started to be compassionate with myself and cheered myself up, especially when I failed.
It took me about 3 years to overcome it, but I had not the best circumstances. I have PTSD and had a toxic mother who would do more the opposite of supporting me. In therapy it was too much about her, I could not focus on my development as much as I wanted to.
But I still did it.
The last step for me was to accept that a certain amout of fear is normal.
Many people don't like phone calls (especially with strangers) or don't feel comfortable talking to an audience.
And fear can protect us from danger as well. Living completely without fear is a wish I had to give up. It is normal and it's okay to be afraid sometimes.
It's important to realize that most people are feeling the same way as you, and are just trying to get by as well.
Its interesting how most people with social anxiety aren't actually weird, they are very normal people, except we tell ourselves we are weird, and this actually leads to weird and anxiety-related behaviours and habits.
Social situations put me into fight/flight mode. This can last for days. I will wake up after a social event literally trembling. This has been happening for a year. I've always had anxiety, but never this severe.
What truly scared me was my anxiety physically manifesting as muscle twitches on my face during my final grade presentation. I wasn't even allowed to keep my mask on and the whole time I was aware of my face, and still had to carry on. I gave up on my grades because the fear was getting too much to handle. So I said the wrong things, knowing that I was saying the wrong things and got out of the room quick. It was unbearable and definitely not something I wanna do again. I've done so many class presentations before this one, mostly failures. Funny part is, no amount of exposure therapy helps you get over new situations
It's not as simple as that. 😢 Sometimes what we passed through is way more than this. We really want to be free and socialize like others but something inside of you will hinder that and make you nervous and weird ALWAYS.
This is why even with several anxiety disorders, including social, I still try my hardest to go out. I’m not always successful, and it’s risky because I’ll often have noneplieptic seizures and freak people out. But I do try.
Steps (if I understand correctly)
1. Identify automatic thought (I'm weird)
2. Entertain the thought being true to identify the 'meaning of the thought' and eventually a core belief
3. Expose self to situations where alternate and more adaptive beliefs can be developed in a healthy manner.
Yup, that's a good starting place. For more details on how to do exposure therapy check out this video: czcams.com/video/D0pxEmdHlqs/video.html. For more on social anxiety disorder check out this one: czcams.com/video/VdoSgPRe_gw/video.html.
JUST LISTENING TO THIS I FELT MY CHEST PUPMING HARDER AND A TRONG BLOOD RUSH TO MY HEART
This is actually the best advice ever, if you truly are looking to heal
Ok so I actually started to open up more to my friends about my fear of rejection instead of bottling all up, looking stoic from the outside but panicking on the inside. so what happened was, they felt uncomfortable, not knowing how to react and suggesting me therapy and later distanced themselves from me like not texting as frequently as usually. and my fear of rejection was like "see? told ya no one really likes you"
I am not even scared of what people will think of me, I don't particularly care. What I am scared of is how unpredictable, vitriolic and cruel people can be in groups and it feels like too much of a risk to expose myself to that.
The thing is I can make new connections and do all this stuff over and over again, but I end up feeling the same.
i literally cosplay in my head that i’m someone else and act just like her. it helps and works
Not a bad idea at all 😂
My social anxiety is so much svere that from past three years i have not saw even my neighbours.i don't have any friends.i am studying online from 3 years.i was happy with all this but now i can not even talk to my mom dad.its killing me from inside 💔🙂🚶
What course you're studying from online? Asking because I want to apply too
@@Riyaaaa__621 class 9th,10th and currently 11th.
@@fatima013 ohh
I do have some social skills (now), but i still feel that people are judging me. I can say "good morning" and ask for something in a restaurant, but i can't make friends because i'm afraid that if i open up myself for people they won't like me
Same wanna be friends
I can do a lot more than that the only thing is if i’m trying to make friends w somebody i just end up not speaking to them bc i feel like they think i’m wack
I'm like this too...how to overcome this 🗿 It's so frustrating
My mind went blank when I get social anxiety. I'm talented and I can't do anything because of social anxiety 😢
I couldn't even speak the first statement the patient here stated almost so normally, without having my heart sprinting like crazy, a very uneasy physical and nervous sensation throughout my body and my voice uncontrollably cracking or not coming outta my throat, like I do unfathomably or hysterically whenever I have to communicate or interact with legit anybody...
Plus, no matter how hard I have tried, it doesn't go away a whit!!
I really need riddance from my sitch..
Whenever i get into a social situation
I tend to almost throw up, my vision gets blurry and I start to have difficulty breathing
That's how exactly what I thought to do but, just couldn't do it right now because I am most of the time not aware of what is happening, and always try to hurry up replying someone, lots of times I mess up while replying and also I fumble while speaking so so many times people ask me what I just said and I have to repeat what I just spoke. I reply them then realise that I shouldn't or I wasn't supposed to say this or that. And in most of the situations I consider this as a blunder, because I found that my replies and actually good! And also my insecurities like I walk really and my face is asymmetric, I wear glasses and they look a bit odd(not like others...).
Thanks so much, this makes sense and im gonna try it. there's not one time i realized i was avoiding uncomfortable situation most of the time
Yea but what can I do when everyday I'm having to repeat the same level of difficulty it seems like I'm not making any progress
I know I’m weird and I’m proud of it 😊
Well I imagine myself in these situations indeed where I feel "weird or embarrassed " and I still panic and my heart beats louder just imagining myself there. Yeah that's how bad it's
Same problem with me
SAMEER
Please more of this content!!! You are awesome 👏 greetings from Bulgaria 🇧🇬
I have a social anxiety too and always scared or cry every time when there's a lot of people around me 😢💔
You just explained exactly my problem. Thank you, you are the best.
Thank God I thought I was the only 1 🙄😭💯 I started exercising outside and I always have a intense fear people are watching me or keeping tabs on me following me so I don't stay out that long 😆🤷🏾♀️
But doing these things makes me stress a lot so I go back and shut myself
This helped a lot. Thank you.👍🏾
nah.. i have exposed my self for most of my life... doing public speaking, teaching, being in many meetings try voicing out my opinion.. but still i struggle with social anxiety.. i still struggle to say anything during social setting or in meetings... i freeze even though i have tried to calm myself.. people sense my akwardness n they ran away from me n avoid being with me....
I had social anxiety not only because of fear of being rejected and shame but afraid of getting arrested for being creepy when threatened, especially in dating life.
And second, I suffered social anxiety due to traumas from family-related issues and issues from autism-related violence for two decades
Im introvert and it's impossible to overcome social anxiety, i do anything . But it's impossible 😢
I think if I had social anxiety this quick, bold rundown of cbt would be hard to take in and know what to do with
I do that i expose myself but i still struggle and have no friends
So pretty much like learning how to swim; just dunk yourself in water and start swimming. You’ll feel like you’re drowning at times but as long as you’re not too far in the deep end, you’ll be fine. So practice until you can swim in the deep end with no problems. In other words, learn, practice, and repeat until mastery.
i am now going to go outside and overcome my social anxiety
I'm not sure if this works because I'm naturally a shy introverted person who had been working front desk face to face hotel job for over 6+years, I hated it so much I quit and it has not helped. I still feel anxiety and nervousness. It sucks.
My friend once said to me: "If anyone in the world thinks they are lowest, they should know there is another person who is more lowest to them... That's you"
By hearing this, I just broken down.. It's been 10 years he told this... But I can't forget this! Still now it makes me feel pain inside!
Whole comment section is full of my type of people, im not alone 😅thats a good thing
I got out of this, and then got right back into it
I am a huge believer in keeping things ridiculously simple, therefore imma share my ridiculously simple yet powerful tips/hacks I’ve used to overcome many obstacles.
Well first of all guys n gals we need to break down what anxiety is. I have struggled from different anxieties my whole life until the start of Covid. Long story short i discovered by accident that anxiety is a psychologically related problem which has physical symptoms. I see most people in the comments have confidence and self belief issues. And that’s what causes your anxiety folks.
Sit down, plan out how you gonna start building up your confidence and self belief because where focus goes energy flows, so if you keep focusing on your anxiety that’s all you gonna get. You don’t know how? Read psychology books. Stoicism is great.
Don’t forget, doctors are nothing more than meds salesman, even when they from it themselves bc they don’t know better.
Wish y’all good luck folks
For me is that i keep looking people in the eyes, and im just lazy 100%
That was really helpful. Thank you :)
i did this, for more than a decade. when you have social anxiety and still have to go to school or work, you don't have a choice to not get into these situations. All it did for me is that I hated myself more because of the many embarassing situations i got into. Before anyone says that i'm too soft, I'm not afraid of physical conflicts, I've been in a few. It's the smalls things for exmpl going to a shop and when you want to say what you want your brain goes empty. Stuff like that.
this guy literally gave the exact responses i was thinking of lol
I started feeling this fear/ anxiety when I was 17, after 9 years trying to overcome this fear, nothing has changed. I'm tired and thinking about giving up my social life, my brother is my only one friend...
Yooooo ....I didn't expect this at all. I heard a clip and searched and found this short. That clicked a whole lot in my head. Strange.
I got severe social anxiety but I push my limits and try to break barriers by intentionally putting myself into conversations with people and groups, but I still get avoided. That discourages me a lot and adds to my anxiety.
Seems like people don't like my company😢
I suffer from social anxiety all my life, especially since teenage years. Now I'm 32. Good news, it doesn't get worse over ages, maybe slightly improves in some situations, but it is not cured either. It just stays where it is.
thank you doctor.
Embrace and laugh at your differences, it makes you unique, for people to like.
Yes, absolutely, it's so major to do exposure therapy. Not only that but by building your own confidence, you won't be afraid anymore
Gotta face it, not avoid it. Btw, my name is Audrey and i’ve been called Oddity as a nickname before, what a coincidence. 😂
Thanks!
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It's so hard. The people I know and care about know next to nothing about me. Something just won't let me talk or put myself in situations where I can actually say anything or try and 8mprove. I don't know how to improve when my mind won't let me
i for some reason feel nauseous whenever im in a crowded space:(
I feel like it’s made it worse for me. Like presentations. They never got easier. I would always feel like a complete failure after. And I never feel proud after social situations, but I’m used to it by now
It's too hard to face that time when we thought we look weird 😣
I have been dealing with social anxiety from a quite young age and the only thing that helps is putting yourself out there and to face more situations. Have someone who has your back. My teacher always used to tell me that it is not that I am not confident but rather that i am hesitant to speak my real voice. It is like having a fear that you won't fit in
To be honest for me, I don’t think I have social anxiety. I’m good enough at talking with people but the only problem now is that I don’t got any friends and I’m afraid that “will u be my friend” or starting a conversation is the only thing I’m afraid of now
yeah it helps to expose yourself to social situations, but the moment I stop it comes back very quickly.
I.... Really really thank you... Thank you so much ive been so much stressed thanks so much 🥺
Ok. Gonna put myself in this presentation situation.