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I hear what you say. But wanting to stay in a relationship after a betrayal is not enough. Two. 2 people need to be working towards a healthy relationship. Just staying because you want to will never be enough. If the person betraying does not seek to make a change you will throw away yrs on a person not ready for your love. I’m living this. A man that says he wants to stay with me and our family but has repeatedly betrayed me in the small and big ways. When I waited to see change there is none. He thinks he knows best to the point of not seeking help. Not changing and wanting me to just move on. I share this to say, stay if you want to. But please do so with eyes wide open. Words have to match actions. You never want to be with a man trying to build a life and he’s thinking of another woman. That is not living. That is a self punishing move to stay there. Wish you all peace and love. That out of this pain you all grow like a phoenix.

it makes so much sense

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So true! Thank you, good to see you God bless

Remember lads…

Time to time I love reaching old videos. Indeed impatient=frustration

Thank you - watching from Adelaide ❤

Hey Xaandria! Came back to your vids after awhile, love your messages. By the way did you watch Inside Out 2? It’s a great movie talking about mental health! Anyways God bless you!❤

This is such a good message--one that I definitely need to keep returning to.

To me common sense in this case would be to realise you are in a different country so things are done differently and then observe others. If you notice that everyone takes they trash to the bin at fast food place it's probably a custom and polite behaviour there.

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Can you have a reaction towards an Israel and Palestinian conflict that happen in Gaza? The genocide happens in Palestine? Since you’re a vocal in problems

social etiquette/customs and common sense are two different things. common sense is things logic should lead someone to figure out without seeing someone else's example to follow.

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Love you videos!

Dear loved Xandria, where is this brilliant video quality today from former days? Missing it... 😢

This is philosophical Niellist crap. It is why we are in world which seems beyond our control. Anger is NOT UNHEALTHY. It is good natural and healthy to release anger from time to time. It is unhealthy to stuff it down until it explodes in everyone's face inappropriately. Emotionally driven modulation of the voice is a very vital part of communication. To do otherwise is being false and unauthentic to both you and others. Please learn to emote authentically and wisely. ✌👌🖖👋

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I am suffering anxiety and panic attacks. I will try to apply this in my life. Thank you Xandria😊

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Right now I am a failure, im still going to try to change, but as of right now I am a failure I failed so many times, I can change in. The future but as of right now I am and have been a failure.

Thank you Xandria for sharing great content that help me see a different perspective 😊❤

On point and helpful as always makes you really think. thank you.💫⭐️

Thank you Xandria, you have so much wisdom - I really appreciate you sharing!!

Well said Xandria.✅

Hey guys i have a situation. About two days ago, i was really mean to my boyfriend. I said something spiteful to him: "I can find guys like you anywhere." He began to cry, and got hurt. Now, he has officially addressed me. He says, "I am financially stable living with you, but i don't feel stable emotionally because you tend to switch on me." Which is true. I am an avoidant in love. When he would smother me daily with love, i would retract. I am not used to it. Now that he is angry and still living me, he has become slowly detached from me: Doesn't hug me while sleeping, only gets physical in spurts. It's almost like he is breadcrumbing me. Could this be because he is protecting his Ego from getting hurt again? He did say also that he is confused with me. That he never knows how i will be. Normally when i would cuddle next to him even in his sleep, he would hug me. Now it's "I am sleeping!" and shrugs me off. I spoke to my social worker, and she said, "You guys living together is not that good. You tend to suffocate him." We have only been together 4 months, so i don't know him really when he is angry. In fact, he is a little passive-aggressive with anger, instead of expressing it, he would use tactics like ignoring and avoidance. I know this is unhealthy, but i don't want to force anyone to love me. Is there a way he will return to his old ways again? I have been ungrateful of his love and i don't know how to recover from this. It's like we are strangers living together. PS. Could him being physical in spurts mean that he is torn within his emotions? Like, "I am angry but i am trying not to be." kind of thing? Because if someone was REALLY and TRULY done, they would leave, right? But he stayed

Thank you for making me a better teacher and father! I appreciate you.

Thankyou Xandria for all your wisdom all these years ❤️❤️

always love your videos.

With robots it is much easier than with people.

I’m 64 years old , I lived with an angry man for 17 years - this is my best advice - Be careful how many children you make with him , wait productively- while waiting for your marriage to end or get better . better yourself go back to school , prepare yourself to find a good paying job , get ready to be on your own - tell him go to counseling , while I still love you , if he does not go you will wake up one day and realize you don’t love him at all - because each time they rage at you it will take away some of your love until none is left God bless you and God be with you ❤

Spot on! Thank you for sharing🙏

Okay, so how do I apply this when i get triggered by inconsiderate smokers smoking everywhere in public?

This is not true. The moment I really loved myself others attacked me as never before.

Thank you Xandria ❤

Excellent video as always. Just so you’re aware the sound cuts out from 0:27 to 0:31.

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Relationship is not like that thing what can brake for every single thing and it's not true that if sometimes the person becomed angry that he don't care about things it can be reason like he also having any emotional problem and he also struggling and if the partner is leave them alone in a bad situation it's selfish and in love people sacrifice big things and if someone love so they will hands the bad time and will still make everything alright togather. Love is not for selfish people who think only about own love is for those people who take response of each other and can be with each other even the time is hard still holding hands and standing if someone is angry or they both angry only one thing can make them fine that is love just have to understand each other from Deep. Don't give relationship tips if you don't even know a single thing about love i gusse you never did and nobody will do to you

Wow I haven’t seen you in ages. Thank you YT for showing me your video as I couldn’t recall your name and was searching for you ages ago. Glad to reconnect ❤❤

You are so cute

This was helpful, thank you! Side note - how does this video have 46 views and 3.8k likes?

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Riiiiiight. As if 99% of the time, your instincts about someone are false. My experience is that when you "get to know" an a-hole, it always turns out to be a bigger a-holes, and I wasn't born to suffer a-holes gladly. They can fuck off or I will.

It makes me wonder if my colleagues are watching this same video in regard to me.

This randomly appeared on my feed, but great timing. There is someone at work whom I utterly despise, but I've begrudgingly have to admit she's a hard worker, even if we dont get along. A lot of frustration and unsatisfaction was based sround my dislike of them, but thankfully I'm moving to another department soon.

I like this video. Thank you. Really appreciate it.

well said xandria, thank you for your videos.. Sometimes ı spend so much time for hating my colleagues

No t but my whole family and friend have cut me to y core