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Call me old fashioned but this is sensible and not surprising. Refer to the NLP meta model violations for a big list of absolutist and other brain limps. AND suggested gentle replies.

There's so much Understanding and Knowledge here ....

Very good!

Excellent information brother thank you. This is why psychological flexibility is one of the hallmarks of good mental health.

I've noticed that in certain pessimistic types, "always never nothing everything" on and on it goes. It's a telltale sign.

Very insightful.. thank you.

People who are perfectionists, have OCD, etc. are most likely that way because of some sort of childhood trauma or unreachable expectations. Therefore,they're already prone to depression.

Thank you Mark, for a very interesting video. I used to follow a number of people on Twitter, most of who like me are concerned about the destruction of the environment. However the absolutism of the language used by many of them, amounted to saying that we may as well give up, as the planet was doomed. This was having a negative effect on me, making me moody and more absolutist myself. I found the easiest solution was to cease using Twitter for the moment. The trashing of the planet is a serious problem, but despair is not the way to fix it. Scientists have mapped out a path for us to solve the environmental problems brought about capitalism, it simply requires the political will to enact the changes. (A major problem, is a generation of political leaders who either deny there is a problem, for example the Republicans, or those that think a small amount of tinkering with Capitalism will be sufficient, when what is needed is major reforms) We have got through serious problems before without despairing, for example my parent's generation survived the second world war without giving up hope. Having a positive mindset, even in the face of great problems, is a sign of a healthy mind.

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Right. So, as a therapist, what do you do with this information? How do you create a shift in the use / misuse of language? Pointing the absolutist language to the client is a first step. Might you explore paradoxical approaches for resistance? Can you provide examples?

I am a therapist and truly appreciate your psychoeducation. I also appreciate when you pepper your narratives with a paradoxical approach. Thank you.

Thank you, Mark!

Depression and anxiety is just a negative imaginary feeling and thought. Don't worry about it because your positive thought and an exercise can change it. Just laugh and take care of yourself and you will be happy and fit forever 😂.

Client. What about myself?

You are one beacon of hope, light and optimism

I'm an adopted child. Eventhough my adoptive family is nice to me, I still feel I don't have a family. Specially during reunions. And in school coz I'm using my biological parent's surname. It's so painful and hard to answer questions like "why is your surname different?" My adoptive family is quite well-known. And I can't feel that I really belong to them coz everyone knows my surname is different. That makes me feel alone and shy to talk to anyone. Coz I want to avoid questions about my real family. I feel like I don't have a right. I need to avoid conflicts because I know they look down at me coz my real parents abandoned me. It's hard

Do you mind linking the video with Emily that you referenced?

I struggle so hard with this. God help me.

This is greatly appreciated, especially as a graduate student/someone coming into the field to help build upon the resources I have.

I can't speak for myself here, but I'm pretty sure there are people out there in the world that overcome their inferiority complex and gain confidence only to have people tell them they have a superiority complex. They're not even trying to have a superiority complex either, yet people say it any to put them down. This is why it's important to think for yourself.

Ancient as me 😂😂😂😂😂

Thank you so much for these videos. I have not only used them effectively on clients but also on my self. It actually reinforces a lot of the concepts I've learned years ago. Thank you so much.

Thank you so much .. stay healthy Sir

& stay well & good yourself sir!👍🙏✨

Thank you for these rich contents, have a mesmerizing day! :)

That was a great explanation, thanks, Mark. Not complicating explanations is something for me to look at. Being comfortable with not knowing. Nice!☺

Just what i needed to prepare for a client I'm seeing. I've noticed myself unconsciously trying to fill the meaning vacuum with them, so thank you for helping me stand back and see what's happening! ❤

18:30 minus reminding the person of successes and their competence Thank you for saying that 🙏

True. However, if we don`t expect from other people, our connection with those people will never reach depths... Expectation is ingrained in our relationship interactions...And I think it is almost impossible to exclude.

I am a therapist and have been learning more about paradoxical therapy. In this extreme social climate, it is proving to be effective for a number of clients. I would really enjoy if you made more videos on this topic. Thank you for all you do.

I hope this helps.

Excellent sir...

Thank you ! Very informative and helpful

I told her that i was not haveing the directions with her

Useful and instructive. Thank you!

Thank so much. Cleear and precise

this is awesome!

Wow I am Sandy… I need to learn to switch off 😅

Very helpful advice for overthinkers!

Why don't you just get Hannibal lector to narrate this people are grieving!?

So many thoughts ... This was written two years ago, so the chances of you reading this are low. But by putting this down at least I can probably remember these thoughts better. There was and is such a high (no pun) level of drug addiction and other types of addiction in my family. I think almost everyone in my family is a drinker or a user of some sort. My dad was 40 years older and went into 'spin dry' when I was a teen. With many members of my family it didn't last ... I think that's statistically true for most addictions, people have to go through treatment several times before it sticks. Perhaps it works faster and sticks better when combined with NLP, hypnosis and other forms of emotional regulation. Perhaps those distinctions are the things that mean a person can more easily say (and mean) "I WAS an addict." I am trying to imagine relatives having used these techniques along with abstaining from the substance. I have relatives for whom I would love to use the tools to help them quit, but I am not sure if it would work. I have a niece who has asked me to hypnotize her, I am willing, but after she asks and I say I can try she 'disappears' ... Her fears and self-sabotage are too great to even try. Perhaps after your next training opens I will gain insights to help me overcome such issues.

Great!! I just love how you make things easy to understand!!

This was soo informative,.. thanks a lot sir ,.. please make video on fear of death of oneself or loved ones while sleeping,.. today I got to know this is something many ppl is going through ,.. I thought only I was the one who feels this ,.. you r literally saving lives

I had never thought about that, wow! Thanks for sharing.

Yes! Ambiguity-tolerance is very helpful in dealing with others, especially those who we want to engage with.

You are SO precise in every word you use. Watching you is a life saviour experience, without even a jot of exaggeration. ❤

PRECISELY! I am always asking my psychiatrist "can we stop this tape that plays 24/7 in my head?" I can't stop it, even during sleep!!! Oh, my God, I am exhausted...😮

So very helpful and you used excessive worry, my most debilitating habit as the example. Thank you 🙏