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We see this every day with Joe Biden.

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How old is this video? 20 yeard old or more probably. Im curious.

It’s frustrating for them. It’s even worse if someone is trying to pull them out of their fantasy world. If they’re calm, and don’t remember you, be a kind stranger. If they like your blue dress and you’re wearing orange pants, say thank you. There can be nothing more distressing to be made to feel you MUST remember something you don’t. I’m 78, should I ever develop dementia, and I’m sitting quietly in my corner, living the picnic my parents had for me, or the horse I broke, or that tiny little baby I had…for crissakes, leave me there and quit harassing me!!! My world would most likely be better than the reality of a nursing home.

Listening is a skill so many of us don’t use… she said she wanted to get out of here….the carer assumes out of wheelchair into bed but no she wants outside which I immediately heard….and she said she wants a rake…think it through there are many rakes she could hold with supervision or a kids sand rake…I’m autistic and accused often of being verbally aggressive and it’s largely to do with NOT BEING LISTENED TO!!!!

That is no way to live!

Nobody is this nice to patients. Maybe some very lucky in a few places. Most nursing homes are run by nasty criminals not fit to wipe a dog's ass. Rude and neglectful at best and hateful and cruel at their worst especially in big cities. They don't care at all and certainly aren't going to take a mouthy patient outside.

Well, she did say she wanted to go out. Frustration will be so heightened the staffing ratio aren't right and that'll never happen as profits will go down, oh what will we have to look forward to euthanasia I suppose 🙄

I am the 4th daughter and have 1younger brother. Our two oldest sisters live together and both have been diagnosed with alzheimers and dementia. The second d oldest has had the most extreme change in behavior. She is constantly yelling and treating me badly when I try to help out. I live 1000 miles away from them . I have spent time trying to help out only to have her throw me out of her home. I have not spoken with them since last October, it kills me because we used to talk several times a week for hours on end. I just can't the the abuse, I feel like I am failing as their sister but I don't know what else to do, instead of being a good thing for them, I sèmto trigger her anger. What do I do? How do I tell her how much I love her and hate what is happening? My third sister and my brother care for them as my brother has moved in and sister 3 lives a hour away so they have more contact than I do.

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2:19 ooh she's all nice with the gentlemen! hahaa

God bless this staff of caregivers ❤❤❤❤😂😂

She responds better to a male caregiver. This is a good start.

I hope and pray that the people caring for these vulnerable folks are kind to them. I pray for all the care workers in the world to have patience, a loving heart , and that they are understanding that these folks don't have long in this world. Seeing her made me sad. I pray in Jesus name for all our elderly.

I always took my residents outside for a walk even when they were bedridden. They loved it 💜

My aunt is also becoming angry and is hitting people. Its horrible to see a person you know is gone, but sitting in front you still

As a retired nurse after nearly 40 years, I’ve seen 2 distinct types of people react when they develop dementia. One type is this one in the vignette. The other type are withdrawn, depressed affect. I think it really depends on the person they always were in life. It might be helpful to ask family members more about who and what were they and try to engage them in something they would like. Tony seemed able to just ask her if she’s up for it snd she jumps then to yes. Adults even ones with dementia don’t like to be told what to do. Long ago we’re they a child. A modicum of respect for their autonomy can also diffuse a tense situation.

Sadly, imagine this happening to you anytime over 100 years ago?! You'd be burned at the stake!😮

I understand what the video is portraying but I can't help but feel for the gal who the woman barked at and said she didn't like. I guess if it were me, that would really hurt. Actually, I've been on the receiving end of such behavior and even though I know it's not about me, it's still very tough to deal with. Not that there's anything that can be done to change it.

She doesn't seem bad at all; just pissed off that she is vulnerable and having to rely on others especially in a wheelchair. I'd be cussing too.

Its miserable getting old and then confined after a life of freedom,hats off to the people who try and help old folks,,i hope in a few more years im not a burden to these people

Antipsychotics make people aggressive.

What a lovely lady

If only every care home had time for this, it can be so aggrivating to be trapped inside with the stale air

Its hard for me to understand that a nice calm beautiful soul could turn into some of those banshees you see in nursing homes... I still maintain if your relative is aggressive they should not qualify for a stay at a nursing home

As a nurse, who has worked both nursing homes and hospitals, this is sadly very familiar. Not everyone who gets dementia turns into a miserable person, some are sweet as can be. This type of behavior wears terribly on loved ones and care givers alike. If the REAL person inside this cranky old lady could see herself, she'd be horrified, I'm sure.

I work in a tearoom. One day a group of elderly people and their carers came in for tea and cake. They were having a lovely time. As they were leaving, one elderly lady said to her carer...My mum would love this place, we will have to come one day. Her carer turned and said in a loud voice..you can't do that. Your mum is dead. I was speechless. The woman's face dropped and her smile disappeared. I just wanted to hug her and shout at the carer. It was brutal.

Why not give her a scotch and water? When my dad went through this process he once asked me for a beer. My father had not been a big beer drinker, preferring scotch and bourbon, but I figured what's the harm? I left the hospital, walked a block, got a single bottle of Michelob or maybe Heineken. Back in his room I showed him the bottle and opened it in front of him, handed him the bottle, and he took one long draft. I watched his Adam's apple bob up and down as he swallowed. When he'd finished, he handed the bottle back to me and said one word: "Good.". He forgot to ask me for the bottle again. That was the old man's last draught of beer, and even now I am honored to have been there to be part of that moment. 25 years later, and here I sit, tears freely flowing, remembering.😢

That no one i know

She just wants to go and that's it!

The feeling of being powerless and not having the ability to help yourself has to be the worst feeling. May God help us all in our old age! Blessings to this lady and all caretakers. Is very sad.

Very sorry to hear 😞. Wishing her well. Thinking of all of you.

So much pain and difficulty in early life doesn't come out until later in life. Some people feel a person's energy and may not trust so they get frustrated easier. Other people that may come around they trust and feel the p erson has genuine care and concern.

I am a hospice nurse and I go through this with dementia and Alzheimer's patients

The old woman makes sense actually. Her family dumped her and she wants to go home and I don’t blame her at all.

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Dhes exactly loke my mother. Nasty yo females polite to males. Both eith and without dementia. Hobe this woman only male caregivers spare the females this lashing .

Id like a scotch and water

Nothing wrong with her except boredom

If she wants a rake, I'd give her a rake (as long as she didn't try to hit me with it, lol). Let a person feel useful if that's what they want. When they are coherent, they probably feel like they are being a burden on people, so it seems like it would help if they can feel useful and be able to contribute. When I'm older, I hope I don't become verbally abusive or aggressive. I'm usually able to keep my mouth and my attitude to myself, but I fear it may not last when I'm older.

Cursing? Oh no, we can't have that lol. If someone is forced to live in an institutional setting, it in effect becomes their home. Let them speak as they like, and have at least some degree of daily agency. I've always lived alone and would never be able to deal with a situation like this. Better to check out some other way.

Take her for a walk in her chair. Change the scenery. They dont want to talk, movement is better. I've had a mother with this and chit chat is not helpful. I did let her help me in the yard and sit in a lounge chair while I cut the grass. She seemed fine with that. Outside is always better when weather permits. Put up bird feeders. But she was not nasty like this woman.

Well, I guess it would depend on your younger years-if you grew up cussing like a sailor, haha, i don't think it would be significant of anything if you still slipped up and did that if provoked in later years. :)

Th8s behavior is horrible. My aunt acted like this to my cousin and was very violent physically too. My cousin stopped seeing her because of this.

I'm sixty. Heaven help me if I turned out like that, twenty years from now. May the Good Lord please rather take me...

I worked in elder care for 13 years and always tried to put myself in their place. I found it did not take much effort on my part to make their days better.

Bless the caregivers. They deal with stuff all day, every day.

This lady was pretty much on top of things. She didn’t want those girls helping. She wanted big strong Tony. He took good care of meeting her needs. I think I would want Tony too.

God bless the lady

I’ve been a nurse for 32 years. And if these people knew how they were acting at this age they would be so heartbroken. I have a special love for the aged. They need a lot of love and understanding