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Self awareness is a great tool to keep you from repeating the same mistakes. However in the big scheme of things in one generation after you die most likely nobody will remember you or anything you did.

All accurate facts are true. Not all "truths" are necessarily factual (ie. matters of philosophy). So when we begin to discuss what is true for me and what's true for you, what we're doing is saying "I experienced X and Y... Therefore Z is what's true for me." And to a certain extent that's fine. The "therefore" part is where we get hung up on what is actually true. If I say "I tried mayo on my sub and I hated it. Therefore my truth is that mayo is gross." That is subjective but also consistent with THE truth of what occurred. But when we get into Cosmic truth, it isn't so simple. "I experienced ____ as a child. Therefore ____ is true (for me) about (society, God, the Universe, etc.)" We rarely have all the info to make definitive declarations about that kind of Truth without also acknowledging that faith comes into the equation. And that's true even if we're talking science. Ultimately, certain things will end up being true or they won't. But how we feel about those things won't really matter. I guess what I'm saying is that "my truth" may not be "Truth" regardless of how I felt or experienced it. And if we're humble about that, we can start to get somewhere. I don't think our society is broadly capable of that right now.

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Physically the body will heal, but the mind is not so easily repaired once broken.

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Very insightful. Thank you for sharing.

Thank you for sharing. Our behaviour & patterning is hardwired by the age of around 7. Any change will begin by pausing and considering. We are all living through the world of our 1-7 year old, this is automatic, it is how we survived and got to know the world

choosing a girl or woman at any point in life is just choosing the person you are going to have break your heart and betray you. You are just picking your abuser.

Thank you so much this. I relate to this!! I wanted to point out 46:30 to be classic codependance! I think that Steph is trying to say that she needs to be able to freely express her authentic emotions, without worrying about someone else's inability to handle it. Craig's needing to control her emotions came through at this time stamp. <3

I love that Craig is being so vulnerable! I have the same struggles and feel very similar to him. So much love and respect for him! ❤

lol….so weird how things work in this world….i had come to this conclusion not more then a week ago…thank u for confirming. My parents don’t like this new me very much. I’m not willing to accept the blame for their eff ups any longer and they’re not happy! lol…and I don’t care

Resonated in all..thank you for sharing your healing journey's..🙏

🤝🤝 power hoooooour! Great episode

I love that you say "clusterfucking our way through it"

Powerful!! ❤

Wow wtf I thought I was the only one. Reality is starting to hit me hard.

Amen

Same man, I'm still trying to find my way at 39.

Your bo dee,is that how you pronounce it BO. DEH.

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Well said

Thank you! This deserves much more attention!

And because your Captain America

Me too man ! Still working at it at 42 .

Yeah this one resonated with me

OMG WOW Someone knows how to reverse a video.

Don't worry bro. Keep pushing yourself. It's not over till you WIN!

So good 🙏🏾 thank you so much for this

That came right on time im so done with self sabotaging ive done almost everything to convince my fiance im not good enough for him, i didn't cheat or anything i just kept telling him on arguments see? Im not good in this he refused to break up, now im having to work on myself a lot cause he said we are in this for life i love him so much i was just being a coward is so scary to love again

Not just to be in your body but to be grounded in your body.

I think he made some really good points there and I think a lot of men need to hear that that are about 40 to 50

I think your 💯 correct.

You have got give your children the opportunity to fail because it teaches them caricature and determination

My dad died when I was 10. Life happens and parents can't control everything. Death happens and your children are going to be greatly affected by it because we're greatly empathetic and connected beings, but they'll need to heal from that pain and that grief. I'd say it's more realistic to say, "Be parents you're children won't need to heal from"

Love the music but not whilst you are talking! (Your intro)

It's good to *try* give them a childhood they won't need to heal from, but to ALSO be aware that you cant control everything, and be ready to help if needed

More parents should be aware of that. You are human and WILL make mistakes, and most of all there are other factors in your child's life that don't depend entirely on you. They should know you will be here and supportive when they try and fix whatever went wrong.

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i think its more about “give your kids a childhood where they won’t have to heal from you” and yeah there will probably be things that parents do that hurts their kids, but as long as accountability is shown it can be moved on from. of course things are going to happen to your kids outside of the home, which is terrifying and in that case if you already have a strong relationship with your kids maybe the healing process will be smoother

I'm 34 and I'm still healing from stuff that happened and were done to me in my childhood. I was emotionally neglected by my parents, and you can say they were bad, abusive people for it, but uh... They weren't and aren't. They were people going through their own emotional shit when I was going through mine, and on top of that I had a little brother who lied, stole, did drugs, had a criminal record by the time he was 16 for arson and theft. I kind of fell to the wayside. I still have shit I have to heal from, and I also have a great relationship with my parents, and for all the things I had to do alone when I was young, I can find support and sympathy with them now as an adult as I heal from my childhood. That's all one can do.

Yes 🙌🏼

I don’t think this necessarily means helicopter parenting though. I would’ve been far better if my family wasn’t the biggest source of trauma.

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"And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold. But he that shall endure to the end, the same shall be saved." While we learn to view everyone around us through the lens of God's love, we have to be ready for everyone else to go right on viewing us through the lens of the world. I'm still struggling with both.

Thank you!!! 👏👏 I started pregnant trying to follow the first philosophy. I didn't account for the fact that I can't control everything. Now that I've been a mom for 9 years and I've internalized uncomfortable harms this is the message I needed to hear.

Look at you 2 being the adults you needed!😉

Married 17 years. 💯 Percent agree. It's those little everyday things, the shared smiles, the juicy gossip you heard, the spontaneous hug, the little acts of service, that cement your relationship. The moment we were intentional about being open to the other's bids, it made things a little bit more.

You forgot to peel the plastic strip that creeps the lid on until it’s opened

Theres a little strip of plastic that conects the lid to the container. You gotta rip that off around first then twist off like any regular ol container. Kinda like opening the plastic off a pack of cigarettes

Her, just realizing "You Know What" > I don't think you even Tried to *Twist* it off in the first place...