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You just explained exactly something that I can notice about how i feel at times, but can't explain it to others. It happens instantly and hard to notice. I was asked how i feel about something by my therapist and I didn't know. Then even if I knew I wouldn't want to say it. At the same time since I didn't know the answer, other negative feelings arose too. Complicated.

I still find it hard to tell loved ones when they say unkind things. I usually just remove myself, sometimes for good.

Peggy Hi. I still find it hard saying no to people because I feel that I would hurt them by letting them down, but I am getting stronger.

23:15 very important! However , men can have weird sexual fantasies and you have to set your boundaries!!

8:14 yesss!!! You can heal completely with simple emdr therapy and learning self respect!! Your past will no longer have a stronghold on you. Talking about the shame is no solution and those conversations can make it worse, reliving the trauma over and over. You have to relabel it and replace it with positive experiences. You are in control. Your body is your temple. Turn to God is also very important with all of your worries. 🙏❤

I can hardly distinguish what you are saying, don't be afraid to speak up with a more confident voice. 🙏

What an inspirational message (as usual)! I'm a School Psychologist and have so many kids who need to hear this over and over. I will keep it in my back pocket for the right time. Thank you!

Dear Peggy, I am so sorry to hear you are still so traumatized that you use your influence and platform to put forth a political stance. You have helped me deal with my own personal issues and I am eternally grateful for that. Unfortunately, I will have to unsubscribe from your content and make no recommendations for anyone to access your site. While all women who have been abused have been secondarily abused by a system that has disbelieved and failed us, that is no reason to deny due process to any man being accused. Good luck to you and your viewers.

Thanks for coming Forward bringing this video on to better understand about it all that happened,and had to endure to get a better understanding of about all the symptoms left with depression/anxieties,ocd’s,social anxieties,humilities,shames,addictive behaviors,left with to get better understanding of what’s needed to help with it all🥵☺️

When you wake up in the morning you pray to god that to help you not to give up on your problems today. Pray this prayer everyday in the morning. And God told in god's message today that whenever you are burdened by your problems or you feel like give up then God told you to take lord's name that is 'Jesus come to my aid'. Like this Jesus told to say. And Shana kutul you also help those who are in need. Because when you help others their prayers of Thanksgiving go to you and heavens blessings fall on you. Because when you help others their blessings from heart goes on you for helping them

I Have Gratitude For Any Improved Health And Healings And Strength I Have Gratitude For Food Shelter Transportation I Have Gratitude For Receiving Help In Any Ways To Help Making Anything Easier To Accomplish I Have Gratitude For Receiving Love Or For Someone Feeling Loved I Have Gratitude Having Happiness And Joyfulness And Inspiration I Have Gratitude For Anyone Standing Up For Me I Have Gratitude For Any Support I Receive I Have Gratitude For Loved Ones Having The Same As Me like All My Gratitudes

I could relate to all your talking about, and then now having Gratitude 🙏 for being able to endure it all that happened when growing up,and getting threw it all with no help counting on God My Father begging to help me then having Gratitude 🙏for being able to stand up for myself,and leave household,and go to live by my Grand Mother’s Home,and then having Gratitude 🙏 for meeting someone to have great connection with helping me to leave the house escaping the shameful abusive situations to live with Her And Plan Our Future Marriage Together Having Gratitude 🙏 At The Time Up To The End Knowing She Was My Love Forever😥

You provide validation and empathy and education to so many. Thank you for that!

I feel this in the depths of my soul. Thank you for being vulnerable with us. Immorality, denial/ignorance, and minimizing abound, and it does hurt so deeply. I use avoidance, as much as possible, but then, when it's in my face, it hits me hard. I am not at all political, and generally very quiet, but I want to scream about the lack of morals in his worshippers. Thank you for your calm. cool. and collected approach to an issue that hurts us all (unless you're old, rich, white, and male).

I agree with all your saying,and I believe none of what happened was fair,and it was totally wrong 😘❤️

Thank you for sharing..

Thank you Peggy, so much for your advocacy and integrity. For speaking out for those who can’t yet use their voice, but feel this deep familiarity of betrayal, panic and hurt. Watching the reality of what is being allowed to happen in our world and the fact that evil is being allowed to flourish like it is no big deal, feels exactly like those mornings following an assault when you go down to breakfast and everyone is acting like your world didn’t fall apart, laughing and joking like it’s just an average day. It’s like you are living in one reality while others clearly must be inhabiting a different one. Because surely if they could see you, and acknowledge the truth of your experience, they would put a stop to it. It actually feels like there is a little madness going around, and sometimes I become unsure if that madness dwells in me or in those excusing the perpetration of abuse; either knowingly or unconsciously. That’s how crazy it truly is that we are living in this world as it is today. I send so much love and peace to your heart and I so wish that those you love, who have broken it, no matter how unintentionally, could see the truth in what you share, and stand with you.❤️

Thank you Peggy for your the video that you shared and your personal story that you shared. What you said resonated with me and brought me to tears. Not being believed. It hurts my heart that people just won't believe people like us who went through stuff. Thanks for sharing your story.

Thank you for sharing your experience and thoughts, I really appreciate this, and thank you especially for talking about how survivor experiences are sometimes minimised or dismissed. This resonated so much in me, because I have experienced this in and outside the family. What you shared about your own experience made me feel validated around this, and that feels good. I am in Europe, and totally agree with what you say about this perpetrator and how people try to find excuses for him. It is a slap in the face of so many people, isn’t it?

Scary question but so valuable! Thank you x

Thank you for sharing, brave mama of broken warrior women❤

Thanks you Peggy for your video❤️. The heartbreak you shared of not being believed and the betrayal of this and of abuse resonated deeply with me. I stand with you in voicing your truth and objecting to how far too many negate, minimise and rationalise our experiences of abuse. Your hurt and your tears touched me deeply. I'm sending you a virtual hug (and I hope that is OK (❤️)). I often find myself irritated beyond belief at why people continue to protect those perpetrators who hurt children, women and men while hurting those who have experienced awful abuse.

Your voice is so beautiful and calming even talking about heavy stuff. Thanks

I could relate to all your talking about this so you can be more accepting of what’s happening when it takes place to feel safe,and he ready to tolerate it all when it starts to accept, having trust with tolerance,and to be accepting of humility,and shame that comes with it all,and thanks for more information to get better understanding of what takes place during treatments,and what helps to get started with it all,and about lots of practicing to get better for accepting,and tolerating it all

I could relate to all your talking about as you never forget all of what happened especially because it happened daily,not being able to escape having to endure intensely causing anger also because of the humility,and shame,later afterwards causing anxieties,ocd’s,addictive behaviors,,social anxieties,etc.

You look like Mariah Carey. ❤

What if the abuse came from your husband?

What about men?

I say when put threw this type of traumas can lead to addictive behaviors being hard to get control of with self discipline

Thank you for this video, I recognized a lot of what you explained in how I react to unhealthy people. I am still struggling with self-worth issues and setting boundaries, and it is so totally easy to make me doubt myself. My first reaction when someone says I am to blame is to believe them. I have had some rather mean situations because of that. In therapy we are working on setting boundaries, and I do notice that I have become better in some situations, nevertheless, it is a real challenge for me.

Thanks, Peggy, for the video.😊 I can still find setting healthy boundaries as challenging at times. Practice certainly helps!😊 When you spoke of someone saying, 'You're too sensitive', it reminded me of how dismissive and abusive my father was towards me as a child. When I was upset or cried when he was insulting or making fun of me, which he liked to do, he negated my feelings and experience of him by using that term. For a long time, that statement had me hide my feelings, especially around him, as I internalised that I must be too sensitive. Thankfully, I know that I am not too sensitive. I'd like to think that I am a kind and caring person who has a sensitivity about her...❤

Im afraid of men but i dont wanna be anymore, i wanna be at peace with myself, i know im healing by acknowledging it, but some nights i would just cry and thinking of deleting myself. Thank you so much for your content

Actually, for me, the most challenging part has been the self-doubt, which infests every single decision, small or large, that we make. No matter how bad, having the 'proof' is a gift; that my pain isn't my fault, only my responsibility to heal

What if I didn’t always choose the least harming option? Is some of the responsibility mine then, for making it worse than it needed to be? Isn’t that ‘participating’?

Do you do any training for therapists, or even school personnel? You have so much great information to share, and an incredible gift for sharing it so genuinely. All of that is so very needed in the mental health field. Thank you!

Peggy,when will be your next Q&A talk?

I choose to live in the present and let go of worries of the future or regrets of the past. Thank you for your peaceful presence 😌

Thank you for this video. I've only recently started getting flashbacks, but I feel like i am making it all up. I know something happened but I cant remember it all vividly, just little pieces. I remember a man with lighter eyebrows bending down and saying, "this will be out little secret, okay?", and i was very scared. I also remember my lower belly hurting really bad. And, whenever a man touches me, even a doctor, I physically leap in the air. I mentioned something to my mother, and all she said was that I would remember it vividly if it happened, so she doubts something did. It is so frustrating because i know something happened, but i also feel like i am making it all up at the same time.

Hi, Miss Oliveira. I was sexually molested when I was in 6th grade by a classmate. I have never told anyone until recently when I suddenly felt immensely dirty when a boy hugged me from behind. I'm so ashamed and traumatized I can't even see my boyfriend partly undressed and we've had so many arguments about it. Also I can't tolerate sounds or smells related to sex. My boyfriend is getting disappointed that I freeze every time he brings up sex, but I can't do anything about it...

Sometimes, you can turn on a sixpence, with anxiety as it can come and go like waves , and other times, the wave is big and grips you for longer . We have to ride the waves, I think , however big or small they are .

I had to take a second to catch my breath when you said it wasn’t my fault. This shit is so ass man

My first incident happened three days after my 15th birthday, so I am never sure whether this is still childhood or not, but even if not, I hope that it is maybe ok to reply because so much of what you said resonated with me. I felt reassured hearing you say that it is not only the first trauma that has an impact, but that what followed also could have had an influence on my mental health. I have support, and my therapist also says the same things, but hearing this outside therapy feels validating, and I’d just like to thank you for that.

Yes! I just can't get past people voting for a sexual predator, who has no morals at all and feels he is entitled to do what he wants to women. The fact that anyone, especially women, support and worship him makes me sick to my stomach. This whole situation has been very disturbing to me! Thank you for talking about it.

Thanks for your very informative video!😊 I was someone who would have said that I wasn't a person who worries or was anxious. I learned during my own healing that while I'm not a worrier that sharing myself at a deep level brought up huge anxiety for me. So much so that at times I didn't recognise myself. My coping of closing down and being highly independent protected me from that. The more I have learned to stay present and connected to myself and to others the more anxious I became. I've definitely healed some of that early attachment wounding which was really tough at times. I am a planner. I am very organised. I don't feel I'm trying to control another. I haven't had someone say that to me. However, learning to recognise another's way of doing things is OK and it doesn't mean I'm wrong and that they are right and vice versa is and has been helpful for me to recognise and accept. You have me thinking now!😂😊

Mrs. Peggy I truly appreciate what you do for us here on this platform. It has helped me tremendously. Please dnt stop if possible. I thank God for you and allowing me to find your channel in 2016! 💖💛💖💖🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

Thank you so much for this content I have been struggling in the biggest way because I realize I've been living a life where I ignored what happened to me as a child when I was molested by my cousin and pretty much every boy from 4th to 6th grade who thought it was okay to squeeze my boobs every time they saw me and I've ignored it and just gone through life and just now I'm dealing with it so thank you for your guidance I appreciate it and I know I need a therapist

Thank you

it's a mind f**k

Thank You For Video About CEN Child Emotional Neglect

Thank You For bringing this video on which I can relate to happening to me alongside with being traumatized hideously,and with no help never sorry to vent but it’s truths 🙏🦋🧩🧸😘