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Absolutely AMAZING way of explaining this. Will use these ideas with clients thank you!!

Could you please explain the “phenomena” of pursuing/being attracted to an (unavailable) partner, in order to not feel alone (abandonment trauma) The self sabotage is awful What parts are in play here?

Succinct and helpful summary. Thank you

Thanks I was doing this intuitively. Great to have a framework.

Yay you answered my question! 😁 this was a very helpful and detailed response. Thank you ❤️

I have at least a couple of parts whose overriding concern is to prevent me from feeling difficult emotions. I find them very difficult to access and communicate with. Numbing, dissociation. Any tips on how to be with them and help them relax?

Thank you for making these videos!

Such a great question and response ❤️

I’ve tried quite a few IFS meditations and this is the best I’ve found. Soothing voice, gentle, non judgmental

Loved the video!

Why do I feel like a teenager looking for direction and love and support.

This is mind-blowing!

hey do you recommend a career as a therapist in order to do this type of work or can coaching as a somatic experiencing practitioner be just as good? Can you please share your journey towards this career path and how you leaned toward coaching vs becoming a therapist? I’m struggling to choose a path to do this work! thank you for your videos

Love this!

So clear, explained really well. Thank you

Thank you for posting this! I’ve had this thought in the past, but asking myself that question now, “is there any part that has reservations about our safety while doing this work” and no one spoke up. What a comforting feeling. I couldn’t say the same a few years ago.

I have a question about when you're having a "down day"... how do we find a balance between cheering ourselves up (using tactics like positive affirmations, or self care to feel better) versus really listening to the parts who feel anxious/sad/lonely etc. For me there is a strong part that just wants to "raise my vibration" and feels it's pointless to ruminate. but am I just keeping those negative feelings in exile? thank you :)

Thank uou that was great

thank you for putting this up

Thank you for this!

This is really good. Thank you 😊

for the self therapy, it is better to read "no bad parts" of the official one that is for therapist "IFS 2nd edition" ?

I love your video. Thank you for explaining very easily. One request to you please make a playlist of your video or number them for beginners like me. . Ifs was introduced to me around 4years back . I try my self.

Whew...I'm sobbing and feeling it's a connecting sobbing. Thank you for this very thoughtful and sensitive meditation! It gave me the guidance I needed to get into that inner space where I can connect with my emotions and at the same time enough room to not get distracted by it. I can't say at the moment how it might have a long term effect but I could give me that physical and emotional touch I longed for for so long and later in my life forgot I long for (hope that makes sense)...because I kept telling my emotional being that no one can fill that void and give me what I didn't get enough as a child even if someone tried. So I tried to appease that part in me and the longing got less (or less present). Turns out someone can give me just that and that someone is me. Thank you.

1. Journal during the day so that your parts feel heard

Beautiful Conor!! Thank You!

I'm listening to you and I suddenly start to cry when you talked about being kicked out of the tribe. I had a traumatic event happen to me which kicked me out of the tribe; my family and what they deemed worthy. I felt from that point on, when I was moving in my life's purpose, that I would be annihilated. I always jump to the worse case scenario, as tho it were true. But you just put it together for me by talking about the fear of death. Thank you so much. (I am enjoying your evolution here on CZcams. You are a gem.)

Thank you for posting this ❤ invaluable information

I have tried IFS a few times with a lot of success. Parts show up and are extremely ready to share. This time, I went in curious about why I have this block. This time the part was steaming mad. Enraged really. It couldn't get past the anger. So I will probably attempt it again. I'm guessing that by showing compassion each time I drop in, it will eventually let me know specifics about what happened and why I can't seem to move forward..

Thank you so much for posting on this topic. I get tired a lot and get down about it but ifs is definitely helping.

I have a very loud part that believes that nothing ever helps. This video is superhelpful so I am taking the time to say. Hopefully I can help that part soften a bit by showing proof of something useful. Thank you Conor!

Highly insightfull, as usual. Thank you 😊

I get IFS, and I can resonate somewhat with the concept. However, I am missing something in trying to apply it. I'm not sure what it is, but I fo feel uncomfortable asking myself questions in my head as if I am talking to a different person. Ok, I feel silly. Maybe that's it, or I'm not smart enough to understand this modality.😊

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What an incredible video and spoken with such clarity and no fluff. Thank you 🙏

Your message is so compassionate and validating. It’s a reminder that there is no one way to “do it right” within the IFS framework.

Thank you for this information. I have been struggling with this ..😊🙏

I’ll try n keep this brief - and be careful with the words n wording as I’m AWARE. FOR Me MYSELF - ‘I’m not sure ‘if - when ‘processing - i’m (my brain) is coming from [what we call] a dissociated/ fragment state or not 🤷🏻‍♂️🧐. Context: Lot of tr*uma - early - but we all Know it’s what happens INSIDE as a ‘result of what Had - Hadn’t - or and ‘what ‘Hasn’t happened *since. I’m not sure if I could get past the protectors ‘Survival - as felt senses , or ideas [managers are protectors too] let alone get to exiles. I need something like affirmation resonance. There is an awarenes though - sort of of the linear timeline. Context: Gaslit ( mental ab*se) for decades - which of course you don’t even Know that you don’t Even know. And it sucks.

I experience parts through feeling. Usually in my heart.

Hey, that’s really great to hear. Really loved this video! I’ve been mostly unsuccessful with my ability to talk to parts so this is great to hear. I’ve mapped out quite a few of of my part and I’ve managed to name them, and I’ve also been successful in getting to see how a couple of my protector parts are kind of causing this blankness (one I cal the Fog). They seem to be worried that I wont be able to handle repressed trauma memories so they make it so that I don’t end up in dialogue with my parts. Just before I came on here I had a bit of a breakthrough with talking to my parts. Your videos are really helping me, sir. Thank YOU!

Very interesting - thanks

This is absolutely wonderful. Thank you

My parts like that idea

Olá. Parabéns pelos seus vídeos acerca do modelo de IFS. Além de claros e muito úteis ajudam psicólogos como eu cuja experiência ainda é pouco. Muito grata mesmo pelos seus vídeos. Espero que possa fazer mais para ajudar todos aqueles que são apaixonados por este modelo mas ainda necessitam de praticar mais. Grata.

Excellent

Awesome recommendations.. much thanks 🙏

Such a good video. Thank you for making this. I can only watch 1 of your videos at a time because you always seem to activate parts in me and I get overwhelmed (in a good way). Talking to a part that did something I regret sounds really scary. I also acted in a blacked out state during this incident so how would I talk to a part I can’t remember the actions of?

I've been doing your program and have been discovering so many amazing levels to myself. Naming exiles and protector/managers parts has been like putting humpty dumpty back together. Maybe there is a happier ending to old HD. I'm on Day 23. Love the "regret" video. There's great value contained in our experiences when channeled properly. Thanks!

thank you ❤