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Self Therapy & Internal Family Systems (IFS)
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This channel promotes Self Therapy utilizing Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) and Mindfulness Practices. We promote self-leadership and self-love. All Parts are welcome! Dive deep into your Self Therapy practice today!
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How to Balance High Vibes and Deeper Emotions: An IFS Perspective
How to Balance High Vibes and Deeper Emotions: An IFS Perspective
Welcome back to the channel! I'm Conor, and today I'm diving into a thoughtful question from one of you. Though the question was publicly posted, I'll keep the name private.
The question is about finding balance on "down days." How do we cheer ourselves up with positive affirmations or self-care without ignoring the parts of us that feel anxious, sad, or lonely? There's a part of the questioner that just wants to "raise their vibration" and avoid ruminating on negative feelings. But is this approach inadvertently keeping those feelings in exile?
In this video, I'll explore this from an Internal Family Systems (IFS) perspective. We'll look at the concept of Self-energy, the calm, curious, and compassionate state at the core of our being, and how it interacts with the various parts of our system. I'll discuss the balance between engaging with high-vibe parts that help us feel good and the importance of listening to and integrating the parts of us that are struggling.
It's not about choosing one side over the other but about understanding the value of both and finding harmony within. We'll also touch on the concept of polarization, where parts are at odds and need our Self-energy to mediate and bring them together.
Whether you're familiar with IFS or new to the model, this video offers insights into creating more peace and spaciousness in your internal world, allowing all parts to be seen, heard, and valued.
If you have a question, feel free to ask! I'm looking forward to seeing you in the next video.
🔔 Don't forget to subscribe for more insightful content on IFS and self-leadership.
Helpful Links:
- Self-Leadership Coaching Training: www.internalfamilysystems.org/training
- IFS Sessions: www.internalfamilysystems.org/offers/zztcbqEv/checkout
- Self-Led IFS Program: www.internalfamilysystems.org/get-started
- Video on Seven Questions to Ask: czcams.com/video/Bd3oiHc_v3g/video.html
Connect with Me:
- Website: internalfamilysystems.org
- Email: conor@internalfamilysystems.org
- Instagram: conor.love
Welcome back to the channel! I'm Conor, and today I'm diving into a thoughtful question from one of you. Though the question was publicly posted, I'll keep the name private.
The question is about finding balance on "down days." How do we cheer ourselves up with positive affirmations or self-care without ignoring the parts of us that feel anxious, sad, or lonely? There's a part of the questioner that just wants to "raise their vibration" and avoid ruminating on negative feelings. But is this approach inadvertently keeping those feelings in exile?
In this video, I'll explore this from an Internal Family Systems (IFS) perspective. We'll look at the concept of Self-energy, the calm, curious, and compassionate state at the core of our being, and how it interacts with the various parts of our system. I'll discuss the balance between engaging with high-vibe parts that help us feel good and the importance of listening to and integrating the parts of us that are struggling.
It's not about choosing one side over the other but about understanding the value of both and finding harmony within. We'll also touch on the concept of polarization, where parts are at odds and need our Self-energy to mediate and bring them together.
Whether you're familiar with IFS or new to the model, this video offers insights into creating more peace and spaciousness in your internal world, allowing all parts to be seen, heard, and valued.
If you have a question, feel free to ask! I'm looking forward to seeing you in the next video.
🔔 Don't forget to subscribe for more insightful content on IFS and self-leadership.
Helpful Links:
- Self-Leadership Coaching Training: www.internalfamilysystems.org/training
- IFS Sessions: www.internalfamilysystems.org/offers/zztcbqEv/checkout
- Self-Led IFS Program: www.internalfamilysystems.org/get-started
- Video on Seven Questions to Ask: czcams.com/video/Bd3oiHc_v3g/video.html
Connect with Me:
- Website: internalfamilysystems.org
- Email: conor@internalfamilysystems.org
- Instagram: conor.love
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Is IFS Dangerous To Do On Your Own?
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Welcome back to the channel! I'm Conor, an IFS-trained coach with a decade of experience in this transformative work. In today's video, we're diving into a crucial question: "Is IFS dangerous to do on your own?" While any therapeutic modality can carry risks, the key lies in self-responsibility and knowing your limits. I believe that if you're not ready to fully take responsibility for your saf...
Always Tired? Try These IFS Tricks
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Title: Understanding Sleep from an IFS Perspective | Conor McMillen Description: Welcome back! In today's video, we're diving into the crucial topic of sleep from an Internal Family Systems (IFS) perspective. I'm Conor McMillen, an IFS-trained life coach, and I'm thrilled to have you here. In this video, we'll explore: What you can do when you're feeling really tired from an IFS perspective. Ho...
You're Not Doing IFS Wrong! How to Understand Your Parts Without Judgement
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Are you struggling with Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy and feeling like you can't see or communicate with your parts? You're not alone! In today's video, I address common concerns and misconceptions about IFS practice. Key Takeaways: -You're not doing anything wrong if you can't visualize your parts. -Each person's IFS experience is unique, and there's no "right" way it should look. -Sel...
IFS Step You May Have Missed - Feel With Your Parts
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Welcome back to the channel! I'm Conor McMillen, an IFS-trained life coach, and today we're diving into a powerful concept: the distinction between feeling your feelings and feeling with your feelings. This approach, rooted in Internal Family Systems (IFS), can transform how you navigate and heal your emotional experiences. In this video, we explore: The difference between being overwhelmed by ...
Processing Regret with Internal Family Systems + Coaching Perspective
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In this video, we explore how regret can be a powerful catalyst for growth and self-leadership. Discover how to transform regret from a source of pain into a source of clarity and improvement. I share my own experiences with regret, blending coaching techniques and Internal Family Systems (IFS) to offer practical insights. Learn how to bring compassion to yourself and your parts, and how to int...
Imposter Syndrome! Undestanding With Internal Family Systems Model
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Understanding Imposter Syndrome through IFS | Conor McMillen Welcome back to the channel! I'm Conor McMillen, an IFS-trained life coach with over 10 years of experience. If you're new here, welcome! My goal is to help you empower yourself to become your own IFS guru, practitioner, and therapist. In this video, we'll explore imposter syndrome from the perspective of Internal Family Systems (IFS)...
My 3 Essential IFS Book Recommendations
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3 Essential IFS Books to Deepen Your Understanding | Conor McMillen, Life Coach Description: Welcome back to the channel! I'm Conor McMillen, an IFS trained life coach with a decade of experience. In today's video, I share three transformative books that will deepen your understanding of Internal Family Systems (IFS). Whether you're new to IFS or an experienced practitioner, these books offer i...
Understanding Perfectionist Part - Internal Family Systems
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FREE IFS GUIDED MEDITATION: www.conormcmillen.com/opt-in Welcome to our channel! If you're new here, I'm Conor, an IFS-trained life coach. Today, we delve into the realm of the perfectionist part many of us recognize within ourselves. Whether it's constantly active or shows up only in certain areas, understanding your perfectionist part can lead to significant personal growth and integration wi...
How to Help Your Worthless Part Internal Family Systems
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🌿 Discovering Compassion Within: A Key to Healing 🌿 Hello friends, it’s Conor here! In my journey as an IFS-trained life coach, one theme consistently emerges in sessions: feelings of worthlessness. Many express thoughts like "I am worthless," "I am not good enough," or "I hate myself." Did you know? Our minds are comprised of various parts that work tirelessly to protect us from such painful f...
How to increase Self Energy using IFS || Calm Curious Compassionate
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Creating Safety || Slow Parts || Urgent Parts || IFS THERAPY
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In IFS, we never go faster than the slowest part. But how do you pay attention parts that need to slow down? What do you do with parts that feel urgency? In this video we explore slow vs urgent parts and how to establish a consistent space of safety in your internal family systems therapy work. For more information on IFS Therapy please visit internalfamilysystems.org/
2 Reactions When We Ignore Parts || Internal Family Systems Therapy
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What happens when we ignore our parts? They either retreat or explode. Learning to be aware of our parts when they are attempting to communicate with us a skill worth learning. We may be able to avoid "losing ourselves" and / or "losing control". For more information on IFS Therapy please visit internalfamilysystems.org/
How To Practice IFS On Your Own || 'Drop-Ins'
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What If Your Bad Habit Was Healthy?! Internal Family System
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Everyone's Most COMMON Part || Internal Family Systems Therapy
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Why Being CURIOUS Brings You Closer To Your TRUE SELF || Internal Family Systems Therapy
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Firefighters Explained + Exercises || Internal Family Systems Therapy
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Why Self Leadership Is Hard || No. 1 Reason
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Understanding Parts: Internal Family Systems
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Understanding Parts: Internal Family Systems
What are the 6 F's of IFS? Internal Family Systems Therapy
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What are the 6 F's of IFS? Internal Family Systems Therapy
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What are the 8 C's of IFS? Internal Family Systems Therapy
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Absolutely AMAZING way of explaining this. Will use these ideas with clients thank you!!
Could you please explain the “phenomena” of pursuing/being attracted to an (unavailable) partner, in order to not feel alone (abandonment trauma) The self sabotage is awful What parts are in play here?
Succinct and helpful summary. Thank you
Thanks I was doing this intuitively. Great to have a framework.
Yay you answered my question! 😁 this was a very helpful and detailed response. Thank you ❤️
I have at least a couple of parts whose overriding concern is to prevent me from feeling difficult emotions. I find them very difficult to access and communicate with. Numbing, dissociation. Any tips on how to be with them and help them relax?
Thank you for making these videos!
Such a great question and response ❤️
I’ve tried quite a few IFS meditations and this is the best I’ve found. Soothing voice, gentle, non judgmental
Loved the video!
Why do I feel like a teenager looking for direction and love and support.
This is mind-blowing!
hey do you recommend a career as a therapist in order to do this type of work or can coaching as a somatic experiencing practitioner be just as good? Can you please share your journey towards this career path and how you leaned toward coaching vs becoming a therapist? I’m struggling to choose a path to do this work! thank you for your videos
Love this!
So clear, explained really well. Thank you
Thank you for posting this! I’ve had this thought in the past, but asking myself that question now, “is there any part that has reservations about our safety while doing this work” and no one spoke up. What a comforting feeling. I couldn’t say the same a few years ago.
I have a question about when you're having a "down day"... how do we find a balance between cheering ourselves up (using tactics like positive affirmations, or self care to feel better) versus really listening to the parts who feel anxious/sad/lonely etc. For me there is a strong part that just wants to "raise my vibration" and feels it's pointless to ruminate. but am I just keeping those negative feelings in exile? thank you :)
Thank uou that was great
thank you for putting this up
Thank you for this!
This is really good. Thank you 😊
for the self therapy, it is better to read "no bad parts" of the official one that is for therapist "IFS 2nd edition" ?
I love your video. Thank you for explaining very easily. One request to you please make a playlist of your video or number them for beginners like me. . Ifs was introduced to me around 4years back . I try my self.
Whew...I'm sobbing and feeling it's a connecting sobbing. Thank you for this very thoughtful and sensitive meditation! It gave me the guidance I needed to get into that inner space where I can connect with my emotions and at the same time enough room to not get distracted by it. I can't say at the moment how it might have a long term effect but I could give me that physical and emotional touch I longed for for so long and later in my life forgot I long for (hope that makes sense)...because I kept telling my emotional being that no one can fill that void and give me what I didn't get enough as a child even if someone tried. So I tried to appease that part in me and the longing got less (or less present). Turns out someone can give me just that and that someone is me. Thank you.
1. Journal during the day so that your parts feel heard
Beautiful Conor!! Thank You!
I'm listening to you and I suddenly start to cry when you talked about being kicked out of the tribe. I had a traumatic event happen to me which kicked me out of the tribe; my family and what they deemed worthy. I felt from that point on, when I was moving in my life's purpose, that I would be annihilated. I always jump to the worse case scenario, as tho it were true. But you just put it together for me by talking about the fear of death. Thank you so much. (I am enjoying your evolution here on CZcams. You are a gem.)
Thank you for posting this ❤ invaluable information
I have tried IFS a few times with a lot of success. Parts show up and are extremely ready to share. This time, I went in curious about why I have this block. This time the part was steaming mad. Enraged really. It couldn't get past the anger. So I will probably attempt it again. I'm guessing that by showing compassion each time I drop in, it will eventually let me know specifics about what happened and why I can't seem to move forward..
Thank you so much for posting on this topic. I get tired a lot and get down about it but ifs is definitely helping.
I have a very loud part that believes that nothing ever helps. This video is superhelpful so I am taking the time to say. Hopefully I can help that part soften a bit by showing proof of something useful. Thank you Conor!
Highly insightfull, as usual. Thank you 😊
I get IFS, and I can resonate somewhat with the concept. However, I am missing something in trying to apply it. I'm not sure what it is, but I fo feel uncomfortable asking myself questions in my head as if I am talking to a different person. Ok, I feel silly. Maybe that's it, or I'm not smart enough to understand this modality.😊
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What an incredible video and spoken with such clarity and no fluff. Thank you 🙏
Your message is so compassionate and validating. It’s a reminder that there is no one way to “do it right” within the IFS framework.
Thank you for this information. I have been struggling with this ..😊🙏
I’ll try n keep this brief - and be careful with the words n wording as I’m AWARE. FOR Me MYSELF - ‘I’m not sure ‘if - when ‘processing - i’m (my brain) is coming from [what we call] a dissociated/ fragment state or not 🤷🏻♂️🧐. Context: Lot of tr*uma - early - but we all Know it’s what happens INSIDE as a ‘result of what Had - Hadn’t - or and ‘what ‘Hasn’t happened *since. I’m not sure if I could get past the protectors ‘Survival - as felt senses , or ideas [managers are protectors too] let alone get to exiles. I need something like affirmation resonance. There is an awarenes though - sort of of the linear timeline. Context: Gaslit ( mental ab*se) for decades - which of course you don’t even Know that you don’t Even know. And it sucks.
I experience parts through feeling. Usually in my heart.
Hey, that’s really great to hear. Really loved this video! I’ve been mostly unsuccessful with my ability to talk to parts so this is great to hear. I’ve mapped out quite a few of of my part and I’ve managed to name them, and I’ve also been successful in getting to see how a couple of my protector parts are kind of causing this blankness (one I cal the Fog). They seem to be worried that I wont be able to handle repressed trauma memories so they make it so that I don’t end up in dialogue with my parts. Just before I came on here I had a bit of a breakthrough with talking to my parts. Your videos are really helping me, sir. Thank YOU!
Very interesting - thanks
This is absolutely wonderful. Thank you
My parts like that idea
Olá. Parabéns pelos seus vídeos acerca do modelo de IFS. Além de claros e muito úteis ajudam psicólogos como eu cuja experiência ainda é pouco. Muito grata mesmo pelos seus vídeos. Espero que possa fazer mais para ajudar todos aqueles que são apaixonados por este modelo mas ainda necessitam de praticar mais. Grata.
Excellent
Awesome recommendations.. much thanks 🙏
Such a good video. Thank you for making this. I can only watch 1 of your videos at a time because you always seem to activate parts in me and I get overwhelmed (in a good way). Talking to a part that did something I regret sounds really scary. I also acted in a blacked out state during this incident so how would I talk to a part I can’t remember the actions of?
I've been doing your program and have been discovering so many amazing levels to myself. Naming exiles and protector/managers parts has been like putting humpty dumpty back together. Maybe there is a happier ending to old HD. I'm on Day 23. Love the "regret" video. There's great value contained in our experiences when channeled properly. Thanks!
thank you ❤