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I'm not quite trans, but also I'm not quite cis. I don't know what i am, what i do know is that i like being masculine AND feminine. In BOTH aspects. Clothes and mannerisms. I can dress androgynously, even _like_ the other side, and have confused faceapp _multiple_ times (not sure if people irl. Two people called me by the "opposite" pronouns once but that may be because they were thinking of someone else - that happens. The first was a stranger as I passed by, the second was someone i used to do volunteer work for; both switched gears after that), but i also _like_ playing around with the clothes assigned to my agab (before I thought i may be trans and after i realized it doesnt have to be so cut and dry). There's things i will never touch, though, and other things that i can only feel comfortable in if i pull it in the opposite direction somehow. My mannerisms, it's funny. When i talk in my own language, my voice is a certain way, my normal voice, but when i switch languages (even just CODE switching), I immediately change pitches to appear more androgynous. Ever since i was little, my favorite characters were gnc ones from my agab. I loved _all_ toys marketed for boys, and also all toys for girls. I liked traditionally feminine _and_ masculine stuff, while rejecting certain aspects entirely. I'm comfortable in my own skin now, no longer feeling any form of dysphoria after i talked things through with my sister (who told me i didn't _have_ to be binary trans), but even then, my dysphoria before that point was temporary (if only i could _temporarily_ remove this aspect of myself and then reattach it whenever i pleased). I'm a bit less visibly queer than i was last year or the year before (the ex of a friend's father asked my friend if i was queer immediately after meeting me for the first time), but i hope I'm visible enough to anyone in the know. But either way, all that complicates things when i think about transness and how it applies to me, or how transitioning applies to me or if i even should. I know i used to sigh, wanting to look like specific trans people, but now it's like. Sometimes i wish I'd started from the _opposite_ direction and transitioned to my current self, which sounds illogical. I just wish i could share the joy of those trans people i currently follow, but the idea of acting _more_ like my agab is bothersome too. So yk, it's just a mess all around. Think I'm better off keeping my gender: queer. Not genderqueer, just queer. Ghnnnhgh. It's all so complicated.

being a trans guy (2 weeks on T!) and also fem, shit's weird out here. i just want to be seen as a dude with long hair, like a metal head 😅. i also really like the look of feminine clothing, but wearing it and getting misgendered sucks. i get that i look like a girl, but oh well. so many men's clothes is just really boring. idk, it just sucks that (from a cishetro perspective) men aren't given the same freedom in clothing that women are.

Oh you're PRETTY. Um... Hello!!! :D

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i have been able to pass as male but wearing femme clothes became more satisfying after that. So yea as a trans guy I want dresses to be androgynous

Not the mannerisms! You're probably right, but this shit sucks. I wouldn't say that my mannerisms are extremely feminine in any way, but I still have no idea, how they might be perceived once I come out.

I've been figuring out lately that I'm non-binary, and clothes are a very stressful thing to figure out. Also doesn't help that I'm a pretty unusual size and shape.

Howdy how’s the past?

do you have to be trans to play this world? I just wanna ride on the pill 😭😭

thank you so much for this, i hope the algorithm connects more trans ppl!

and on the first topic, many cis people explore what undergarments suit them through their whole lives! Trans ppl have nothing to be self conscious of.. As everyone lives, we wear out undergarments and eventually get new ones! And it's definitely worth thinking about what would be most comfortable for you! That's so normal!!!!!!!!! *Crunch* thats the sound of me destroying the hyper-self-analyzing we all get tricked into by transphobic discourse. Its gone now :3

Long comment, but a lot of good in it! Just discovered your channel, and it's great! I've actually wanted to support more LGBTQIA+ content creators, so this is a golden opportunity, with great advice to boot! In regards to the actual video itself (awesome one, acting on your advice on trying out more new stuff soon!), as a cisgender man, I think the recognition varies. I can say for myself, however, that it's more of a "they're trans? Okay, so what? Still a person, transgender or not." It's important normalization, but that doesn't take away how strong, inspiring, and beautiful trans people are. It takes a massive strength of character to accept something life altering like a different gender, and then face the onslaught of abuse to embrace who you truly are. Although not the same, I had a similar experience when I deconstructed my previous beliefs in Christianity (don't become a Christian, I beg of you, you don't deserve one ounce of its torment). It was hard accepting the evidence that god doesn't exist was incredibly painful and life changing. I still had to work on my critical thinking skills and break a lot of the habits instilled in me from a young age. I can reasonably imagine that discovering your real gender in a culture that seeks to shackle you to false and damaging beliefs while suppressing reality is a similar experience, if not connected (I'm glad to help destroy patriarchy, you all deserve the best lives possible). Given the similarities of experience, I think I might be able to offer some advice. Whether or not it's good or applicable, that's where you come in and assess it. Think for yourself, after all, and don't let people tell you to believe anything without evidence. Here's the advice that may apply to the person reading this: Embrace reality, even when it's hard. If you're trans, then you're trans. Your brain looks like your gender as opposed to your body's biological sex, and that's 100% natural. It doesn't matter what your community around you thinks, reality doesn't conform to anyone biases, including your own. I'm not saying this to deny your identity, I'm saying this to affirm your gender identity. Just because you have a different gender doesn't make you a monster or a twisted vile creature, it just means you're different, and guess what? Biodiversity and other forms of diversity keeps entire species and cultures alive and healthy. It's not just good for you to accept and embrace your true gender, but good for everyone else too! Don't let lies crush your inner beauty, and don't hesitate to question everything. Same applies if you're attracted to the same gender or sex as your own, that's great! Don't deny it, don't waste your time denying yourself the happiness you deserve. I spent too much time myself denying myself happiness and I don't want you to do the same mistake. You're still capable of having beautiful, loving relationships regardless of who you are or who you're attracted to. It makes you more beautiful and someone to respect and look up to. Change is difficult, but it'll get easier the more you conform to your true self and reality itself. Don't expect this necessary road, however it looks for you, to be walked through over night. Just make sure you have good reason to believe it is the right road to walk. We've faced enough damaging lies as is. Whatever the reality is, it's what we do with the reality we face together that counts. If you see any flaws with what I'm saying, poke as many holes as you want! Let's find the truth together and stop harmful misinformation in its tracks for a better tomorrow.

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH everything is so hard

I'm a straight heterosexual guy but I have watched so many of these sorts of videos in an attempt to understand people that google seems to think I am every sexuality under the sun.

3:31 HOLLY MOLLY LIBRARIAN FAN?! HIT ME UP!! (im just glad to see a nother random candle man fan :v)

This video made feel validated in a way no video has before. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

i feel like i got lucky because i was AMAB but i have a very feminine frame. so i did slightly better at the all-in approach.

the website isn't working for me :(

I get that you're probably just busy with college, but where did you go scribbs?

As a (still closeted) femboy, thanks

5:44 "I shouldn't be inside me, that seems like a good way to die" -scribbs

I'm not trans(maybe), so I have no idea about how dysphoria and this stuff works. Tysm for explaining

scribbs :( come back hun D:

Excellent video You are valid❤

Grateful for all my women friends who gave me clothes to experiment with and figure out my styles I feel comfortable with.

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3:10 - yep, me too

I really appreciate this video, it's always so insightful to see other's experiences with transitiong <3 Right now, i'm also in the nightmare phase i guess, only outed to my close friends and since I'm nonbinary just overall confused with how I should approach style alltogether :') Too scared to wear stuff that i'd get discriminated for but really uncomfortable with how I'm treated and how I dress now soo, anyone got any advice maybe?

Obsessed with your art style. Super cute.

I’m a guy with a beard who has been misgendered as a butch woman before

I’m really happy this is being discussed. Even before coming out as nonbinary I wasn’t sure exactly if there was a right way for someone to transition I moreso went off of how friends went about it. What I find unfortunate is even though I identify how I do and have explored my fashion more freely I still keep being referred to as my birth sex. Friends and family know what I am but I’ve noticed customer service like cashiers or waiters are incredibly reliant on gendered language (particularly the older crowd). Right now I feel there’s no point in correcting them since I never see them again after it but it’s still frustrating

He'll yeah

For more ftm spectum people I recommend getting period underwear, especially if you still have parents buying stuff for you. Period Underwear can look similar to a pair of tighter boxers (plus they are a lifesaver for my clothing on my actual period.)

so, lets say, for the sake of the argument, that im a quirked up trans girl. and, let's also say, hypothetically, that i'm busting it down, queer style…

Saving this in case my cousins or siblings come out to me as trans.

it absolutely is

As a trans man I personally look like a 12 yr old boy when I’m actually afab 16 yr old 😭 sometimes they even confuse me and my brother as twins 👯😭

I've been living 18 years and I just recently realized how I look, I've always ignored my looks to an extreme level and hated going shopping because girls have soooooo much variety in clothing but men's clothes are soooooooooo uniform. Still cis tho (not really haha)

Your video is so helpful and educational Thank you

thank you ❤

Thank you, I appreciate this a lot. I'm transmasc nonbinary, but I've been so scared to explore things like clothing. A guide like this is SUPER helpful.

13:07 that is actually a piece of exercise equipment, they sleep inside small rooms rather than out in the middle of a hallway

My trial by fire phase is rather than everything all at once: I haven't worn feminine clothing outside, but will do makeup and nail polish. The nail polish especially nobody really cares about, but I've down makeup hidden by glasses longer than even that. I wear glasses so eye makeup in particular is my go to because most people don't even notice I have the makeup on, especially in the sun as my glasses tint. Only thing I'd like to change is getting glasses frames that're more feminine as that would probably help with a more feminine face. Aside from that I feel like I need to get more clothes that aren't dresses and skirts, but just tops with pants that women would wear more often, but someone wouldn't question a man in, so I'm being more androgenous, but also occasionally passing at the same time. Mannerisms for me too are very difficult as I have an amalgamation of masc and fem mannerisms. I have my "with da boizzzz" moments, then morph into my "shopping with the girls talkin' about clothes" moments. There's plenty of things friends pointed out like how I walk, certain things I do, and talking like in the last sentence about the boiz and shopping.

my cheap walmart high waist panties are definetely not kinky or sexy

I’m so glad I’m not trans. I don’t mean that in a bad way. My friend is trans, and I thought being a closeted bisexual was difficult. I have so much respect for trans people because of what they go through on a daily basis. Not being able to present yourself as you are? Now THAT’S tough.

People say I act or talk like a guy. It’s interesting how women how a certain way of speaking

kept trying to wipe away that smudge under the exclamation point... well played

Do you have any specific clothing recommendations? I'm non binary, and recently started passing as male and female as more of a 50/50 thing (which has changed since shaving my hair but I might be just focusing too much on the pronouns that bother me more), so I started getting feminine dysphoria, but because I wear masculine clothes so frequently due to how easy it is to find comfortable masculine clothing I cannot for the life of me figure out how to woman. Not that I want to a lot of the time anyway, but still. And trans women always have the best fashion senses, I'm not sure why but it's true trust /pos /hj

This taught me more about transfeminine perspectives, thanks :-) I will keep in mind the struggle about clothes with my transfem friends. I think I had it easier because I was already dressing masculine as a perceived woman before I came out as trans. I hope we get to a point where people perceived as male can dress in full fem without getting looks or speculation about their identity soon.

I started wearing women's clothing since day 1 when I became trans, I never saw it as a fetishistic thing. And I became trans like, 3 and a half years before I started hormones. I was, and still am, very confident in myself. I passed well before I started HRT. Started growing my hair out n' stuff. I may be really hecking tall, but I still think I did, and do, pass good.