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What is rumination? What is regret? with Julia Samuel
This is a highlight from our October 2023 talk 'Grief School with Julia Samuel: Regret + Rumination' as part of our mini-fest on The Shadow Side of Grief.
Regret is one of the most painful and complicated aspects of grief. How would we do things differently? What words do we wish we’d had the courage to share? What would we erase from the past? We can spend years of our lives going around and around what should have, could have, would have been, becoming prisoners to our own thoughts in the process.
In this session, Julia offers support and guidance for anyone whose experience of grief has been dominated by regret and rumination. With her usual wisdom and compassion, Julia will help you to understand why some people experience deep feelings of regret after a bereavement and how it is possible to make peace with the past.
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Relationship with place + grieving for home with Marchelle Farrell
zhlédnutí 47Před 16 hodinami
This is a highlight from our October 2023 online talk 'Grief in the Wild: Finding Refuge in Nature'. In this session, we heard from people who found sanctuary in the natural world and how the wisdom they found there has shaped their lives. Marchelle Farrell is a therapist, writer and amateur gardener whose recently published book Uprooting: From the Caribbean to the Countryside - Finding Home i...
The Symbolism of Trees in Death + Grief with Hollie Starling, author of The Bleeding Tree
zhlédnutí 53Před 21 hodinou
This is a highlight from our October 2023 online talk 'Grief in the Wild: Finding Refuge in Nature'. In this session, we heard from people who found sanctuary in the natural world and how the wisdom they found there has shaped their lives. Hollie Starling is a writer, folklorist and hobby taxidermist from the north east of England. She became interested in mourning rituals and folklore customs ...
''The way someone's life ends is not their entire life.'' John Niven on his brother Gary
zhlédnutí 79Před dnem
TRIGGER WARNING - This talk involves discussion of suicide. If you or someone you know needs to talk - visit Samaritans (UK) czcams.com/users/samaritans This is a highlight from our talk 'Grief in the Dark: Bereaved by Suicide' as featured during our October 28 2023 mini-fest 'The Shadow Side of Death'. Grieving for someone who has taken their own life often involves challenging and complex emo...
Bereavement by Suicide is a Trauma - Tara J Lal's research
zhlédnutí 83Před dnem
TRIGGER WARNING - This talk involves discussion of suicide. If you or someone you know needs to talk - visit Samaritans (UK) czcams.com/users/samaritans This is a highlight from our talk 'Grief in the Dark: Bereaved by Suicide' as featured during our October 28 2023 mini-fest 'The Shadow Side of Death'. Grieving for someone who has taken their own life often involves challenging and complex emo...
When Words are Not Enough - Book Launch 2022
zhlédnutí 67Před 14 dny
This originally aired in October 2022 as a Good Grief Festival event. We were delighted to formally launch When Words Are Not Enough: Creative Responses to Grief, a book by Jane Harris and Jimmy Edmonds. Everyone grieves for someone at some point in their lives. But how do we deal with the silence that often surrounds grief? How do we find ways to express painful feelings when words are not eno...
Chidren, Grief and Creativity
zhlédnutí 65Před 21 dnem
This discussion was held on 2 May 2022 as part of Dying Matters Awareness week. Do children grieve differently from adults? What are the best ways to support children through a bereavement? How can creativity and Art Therapy help children express and process their thoughts and feelings? Join psychotherapist Julia Samuel MBE, Art Therapist Victoria Tolchard, animator and widower Gary Andrews, an...
Henry Marsh on confronting mortality - 'You have to count your blessings'
zhlédnutí 66Před měsícem
In June 2023, Henry Marsh CBE joined Good Grief Festival for a talk entitled 'My Journey from Doctor to Patient' celebrating his latest book 'And Finally: Matters of Life and Death.' This book explores Marsh's transition from doctor to patient after his diagnosis with advanced prostate cancer, now in remission. This is an excerpt. Marsh was for many years the senior consultant neurosurgeon at S...
How families respond to traumatic loss - with Julia Samuel
zhlédnutí 141Před měsícem
This is an excerpt from 'Coping with Grief After a Sudden Death' with author and psychotherapist Julia Samuel MBE, which originally aired at a Good Grief Festival event in March 2021. Julia explains how sudden losses affect entire family systems, and reminds us that every person within a family may have their own way of responding and grieving. Here Julia shares steps we can take - with our fam...
'I don't want to make you sad' - The myth behind end of life conversations with Kathryn Mannix
zhlédnutí 118Před měsícem
This is an excerpt from 'How to Have Life Changing Conversations About The End of Life' which originally aired at Good Grief Festival in May 2023, with author and palliative medicine doctor Dr Kathryn Mannix and psychotherapist and author Julia Samuel MBE, who cover how to feel prepared for conversations about death, dying and grief. Many of us are scared to face mortality or talk to our loved ...
TABOO: GRIEVING DEATHS BY SUICIDE, ALCOHOL AND ADDICTION - WITH BLAKE MORRISON
zhlédnutí 134Před měsícem
Trigger warning - discussion of suicide. Are deaths by suicide, alcoholism and other addictions more taboo to talk about? Here poet, novelist and journalist Blake Morrison discusses navigating the deaths of his siblings and the impact of addiction within his family system. Blake's memoir 'Two Sisters' is a remarkable and heart-breaking account of his sister and half-sister, who died in recent y...
'DEATH AS AN ABSURDITY' - KAT LISTER ON APPROACHING GRIEF WITH HUMOUR
zhlédnutí 96Před měsícem
What do you think - Is there a place for humour in grief? In March 2023, we explored this questions with writer and editor Kat Lister in 2023. In conversation with The Guardian's Sali Hughes, Kat shared how she still jokes with her husband and other ways her dead-pan humor has appeared in her grief. Kat's memoir explores her grief after Pat, her husband of 5 years, died of brain cancer when Kat...
GRIEVING CREATIVELY - JIMMY EDMOND'S BOOK 'RELEASED'
zhlédnutí 98Před 3 měsíci
In 2021, Jane Harris joined Good Grief's Dr Lesel Dawson for a conversation about creative grieving. Here she speaks about 'Released' - a book of photographs, writings and poems conceived and produced by her husband Jimmy in the months immediately following their son Josh’s death. Jane is a psychotherapist and filmmaker. Jane and her husband Jimmy run The Good Grief Project. It was created foll...
GRIEVING CREATIVELY - RETREATS WITH THE GOOD GRIEF PROJECT
zhlédnutí 85Před 3 měsíci
Jane Harris is a psychotherapist and filmmaker and co-founder of The Good Grief Project, created with her husband Jimmy following the death of their son, Josh. The Good Grief Project helps others find a creative expression of grief through photography, film and creative writing. In 2021, Jane Harris joined Good Grief's Dr Lesel Dawson for a conversation about creative grieving. Here she speaks ...
The Pandemic Papers: Rachel Clarke on Fear, Courage + Crisis in the NHS
zhlédnutí 237Před 4 měsíci
This online event originally took place in March 2021 as part of Good Grief Festival. Rachel Clarke is an author and palliative care doctor who firmly believes that there is a good way to approach end of life care. Her 2020 book, Dear Life: A Doctor’s Story of Love and Loss, drew on her experiences of having spent many years working with people confronting death and her first book, Your Life in...
When Language Fails: Grieving Creatively
zhlédnutí 232Před 4 měsíci
When Language Fails: Grieving Creatively
Full Film: Lost Property: The Unfinished Business of Grief
zhlédnutí 676Před 6 měsíci
Full Film: Lost Property: The Unfinished Business of Grief
Clip: Lost Property: The Unfinished Business of Grief
zhlédnutí 182Před 6 měsíci
Clip: Lost Property: The Unfinished Business of Grief
Ethical wills and the morals you lived by, with Joan Bakewell
zhlédnutí 123Před 6 měsíci
Ethical wills and the morals you lived by, with Joan Bakewell
'World Distancing' - Feeling separate from the world during grief, with Dr Allan Køster
zhlédnutí 324Před 7 měsíci
'World Distancing' - Feeling separate from the world during grief, with Dr Allan Køster
Grief Support Guide - Finding the Bereavement Support that is Right for You
zhlédnutí 287Před 7 měsíci
Grief Support Guide - Finding the Bereavement Support that is Right for You
Julia Samuel: How the Family System Responds to Loss
zhlédnutí 264Před 7 měsíci
Julia Samuel: How the Family System Responds to Loss
'It's normal to drop out': Katherine May on the power of 'Wintering' in grief
zhlédnutí 693Před 7 měsíci
'It's normal to drop out': Katherine May on the power of 'Wintering' in grief
'We don't control grief' and other parralels between nature + loss with therapist Marchelle Farrell
zhlédnutí 183Před 7 měsíci
'We don't control grief' and other parralels between nature loss with therapist Marchelle Farrell
Talking About Suicide - Moving Away From Fear, Taboo and Shame
zhlédnutí 184Před 7 měsíci
Talking About Suicide - Moving Away From Fear, Taboo and Shame
Attachment to Suffering in Grief - with Julia Samuel + Charlene Lam
zhlédnutí 223Před 7 měsíci
Attachment to Suffering in Grief - with Julia Samuel Charlene Lam
Heartbreak 101: Understanding Relationship Grief, with Julia Samuel
zhlédnutí 1KPřed 8 měsíci
Heartbreak 101: Understanding Relationship Grief, with Julia Samuel
A Roadmap for Grieving the End of a Relationship - with Antonio Pascual-Leone
zhlédnutí 848Před 8 měsíci
A Roadmap for Grieving the End of a Relationship - with Antonio Pascual-Leone
Poorna Bell on Finding Strength After Suicide
zhlédnutí 347Před 8 měsíci
Poorna Bell on Finding Strength After Suicide
Talking About and Planning for the End of Life in South Asian Communities (UK)
zhlédnutí 270Před 8 měsíci
Talking About and Planning for the End of Life in South Asian Communities (UK)

Komentáře

  • @lynnwhitchelo
    @lynnwhitchelo Před dnem

    There's a lot to learn from this journey but it mAkes you stronger more resilient

  • @learnPhotoCompositionNow

    Very helpful, thx.

  • @pippenlapue9643
    @pippenlapue9643 Před 4 dny

    Julia Samuel is incredible. Sooo insightful. Her words are sooo healing for me.

  • @dianecursons1604
    @dianecursons1604 Před 9 dny

    I'm so impressed that Raynor & Moth had the gumption to undertake further challenging walks in Iceland and Scotland.

  • @jamesmonahan1870
    @jamesmonahan1870 Před 10 dny

    RUBY (❤)2006

  • @krismills4393
    @krismills4393 Před 20 dny

    I have just lost my husband suddenly. It's just been 5days and my emotions are on a roller coaster. I feel like I'm falling down a hole.

  • @AmyPatel-mp3yj
    @AmyPatel-mp3yj Před měsícem

    This was very helpful, thank you for sharing :)

  • @cheyennesorrentino671
    @cheyennesorrentino671 Před měsícem

  • @margaretmaeda2548
    @margaretmaeda2548 Před měsícem

    Julia's description of what grief is and what it isn't rings so true.

  • @karenharvey2549
    @karenharvey2549 Před měsícem

    This is very wise advise. Thank you.

  • @poloburr
    @poloburr Před měsícem

    In the fall of 2022, My lil lady felt ill, We did the hospital trips, Followed up, Followed doctors advice, Followed up. On the morning of December 13th, 2022, While I was getting dressed for work, I discovered My lil lady, Unalive in my bed. I’ve faced hard times before, However nothing like this.

  • @phyllisjackson4322
    @phyllisjackson4322 Před měsícem

    Rubbish

  • @shirellebarnor7902
    @shirellebarnor7902 Před měsícem

    Bless this man

  • @caroledrury1411
    @caroledrury1411 Před měsícem

    I was living in Vermont and still am where my partner and I built our own house together. One day law officers came to my door and told me Joe was dead. I collapsed. They picked me up and brought me in to my house , our house. The shock was so severe I didn’t even feel alive more like floating. Joe had also been the main source of income so there was the extra blow of eventually how was I to survive on my own.

  • @mariapopova5027
    @mariapopova5027 Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you. I feel the same way.

  • @AnneG.315
    @AnneG.315 Před 2 měsíci

    Do you have a video about alienated parents and grandparents? It’s heartbreaking and we have that loss of control, connection, shame. There’s so little information. Thank you

  • @AngelicAnalicia
    @AngelicAnalicia Před 2 měsíci

    My common law husband was murdered in front of me. His mother blames me and this funeral. Has definitely divided many.

  • @cynicalcely6015
    @cynicalcely6015 Před 2 měsíci

    "Trippled as a result of the VACCINE" not a fake flu...!!!

    • @LolaSmollz126
      @LolaSmollz126 Před měsícem

      My oldest sister passed suddenly of cardiac arrest on January 2nd 2024. Just one week after her 4th booster. We fought like cats and dogs over this topic and begged her not to. I’m the only nurse in my family and the only one that never received it. I’m so devastated and angry and sad and I wish I was wrong about her cause of death.

  • @joannbenson1383
    @joannbenson1383 Před 3 měsíci

    Did he just say “we-ness” ?

  • @GeaVox
    @GeaVox Před 3 měsíci

    Best book I read in YEARS! Thank you @Raynor Winn

  • @Thatsbannanas-d8c
    @Thatsbannanas-d8c Před 3 měsíci

    Life is a flawed design. I’m not a fan. It’s just to painful. Pain, pain, pain.

    • @Ali08
      @Ali08 Před 2 měsíci

      It sure is. Most people believe life is what we all make it. And there is truth to it. But reality is tough and does not make sense despite living in a world where it is based on sensing. It is mind boggling how humans deal with life. 😮‍💨

  • @vedrakuca
    @vedrakuca Před 3 měsíci

    Pleas help I have morning sickness every morning I have to vomit. I can't accept that my husband is gone

  • @fliu5282
    @fliu5282 Před 3 měsíci

    Wow Amazing. Thank you Julia Samuel. Today is 87th day of my mom's passing unexpectedly at the hospital. I am now more understanding of grief and memory. Words can not express my pain and guilt. Only thru your video I can move one step forward toward healing.

  • @upstatenewyork
    @upstatenewyork Před 3 měsíci

    Julia is great. The host not so much and she would have had a better video if she hadn’t included herself into the presentation but let Julia be the focus.

  • @normabeamish6456
    @normabeamish6456 Před 4 měsíci

    What a lovely lady x

  • @susannec659
    @susannec659 Před 4 měsíci

    20:05. Whenever you're in your body your cortisol levels go down. As😂 opposed to jumping out of your skin or being beside yourself et cetera.

  • @thomasraven
    @thomasraven Před 4 měsíci

    Thank you for this video. Your channel could use more content regarding grief as the result of losing a pet. Pets occupy unique places in our lives and they're often more highly integrated into our day to day lives than most of the people we know. Losing my best friend of the last 17 years has been one of the most devastating experiences I've had in my life. It's time for our culture as a whole to take this loss more seriously.

  • @sweetyogajustine
    @sweetyogajustine Před 4 měsíci

    It would of been really helpful to hear this 32 years ago when my Dad died suddenly through elective death.

  • @lenasutter1619
    @lenasutter1619 Před 4 měsíci

    Thank you for sharing this.

  • @Mac-ku3xu
    @Mac-ku3xu Před 4 měsíci

    This woman has lied about everything. A fraud, working for very dark forces.

  • @debracurboy5844
    @debracurboy5844 Před 4 měsíci

    How do I get through this pain of losing my Mark? 4 months ago and I don't know what to do ❤

  • @analinedutoit8163
    @analinedutoit8163 Před 5 měsíci

    I lost my husband a month ago😢we came back from a wonderful holiday. He wasn’t ill- it was completely unexpected. He was only 52. We’ve been married 24yrs. 2 beautiful children. My daughter it getting married in 3months. My son found his dad. It’s really difficult parenting alone. Feels like the world is swallowing me alive😭💔

    • @normabeamish6456
      @normabeamish6456 Před 4 měsíci

      In the last 3 yrs so many unexplained sudden deaths, very strange.

    • @audreya9859
      @audreya9859 Před 3 měsíci

      That is heartbreaking I am so sorry. My son found his Dad he was 54 years old and it was unexpected they think it was his heart. We are devastated. We met when I was 26 we had 27 years together and I don't know how to keep going. We just had his funeral yesterday and it's hitting me he really isn't coming back. My son can barely talk and I don't know how to help my kids get through this. He was such a special one of a kind person just way too young. I feel your heartache.

  • @serpadre87
    @serpadre87 Před 5 měsíci

    In November I lost my girlfriend of more than 14 years to sepsis… she was just 38 and it looked just like a flu. In fact, she got the flu and then got infected by a strep A bacteria that caused the sepsis. It took her away from me in just a few days, now I'm devastated… I took her to the hospital twice, she was checked by 2 different doctors and neither of them diagnosed sepsis. A few hours after the second visit we had to go back to the hospital, now with clear symptoms of pneumonia. But then it was too late…

  • @ry491
    @ry491 Před 5 měsíci

    I feel that if my pain and guilt diminishes and I become happy and content again , it would mean that my love has lessened . I never want that to happen even if I have to suffer like this for the rest of my life . My wife died of cancer nearly three years ago but I suffer the same pain constantly . There is so much I want to say to her . If I could only tell her one more time that I adore her . She gave me the last 56 years of her life . I often feel I can no longer live without her . I just carry on for my son and granddaughter . The house remains the same as that terrible day she left it for the last time to go into hospital . I still have all her personal things and her car . Rest in contentment and peace my darling Janet . I hope one day we can spend eternity together .x

    • @matheldas
      @matheldas Před 5 měsíci

      I am so sorry for your loss

    • @ry491
      @ry491 Před 5 měsíci

      @@matheldas Thank you. I appreciate that.

    • @ThomasPrimeCCR
      @ThomasPrimeCCR Před 9 dny

      I'm really sorry to hear that, I only got 5 years with my beautiful wife before cancer took her away and I feel exactly the same, Tina said she wanted me to be happy again but I can't see how without her here.

  • @rachelwesterman1223
    @rachelwesterman1223 Před 5 měsíci

    I don't know if my partners death is sudden or not. He was ill with heart problems for a long time and he was in hospital awaiting an operation. On the Friday things seemed to be going well, by Sunday a blood clot travelled to his bowel, on the Wednesday they told me nothing could be done and by Friday he was dead. He was on such strong painkillers that there was no time to say goodbye. I know that was better for him but I wish we had been able to have those conversations. I hope he knew how much I loved him.

  • @Smith11Tear
    @Smith11Tear Před 5 měsíci

    Thank you for the video. Where can I find visualisation exercise when feeling stuck or numb after loss?

  • @patriciamolloy6298
    @patriciamolloy6298 Před 5 měsíci

    Extremely powerful and helpful .thank you

  • @syamprakash3986
    @syamprakash3986 Před 5 měsíci

    Help me

    • @Vndhead
      @Vndhead Před 5 měsíci

      Hi. Just saw your post. Sounds like what I would say. I’m sorry you are struggling. I’ve only found similar stories to mine online. It has really really helped me knowing other people have gone through what I have and what they have done and how they feel. Helps me feel not so alone and I do see I am not the only person in the world with devastating loss.

  • @alejandroalejandro1368
    @alejandroalejandro1368 Před 5 měsíci

    This is my life . My Partner of almost 23 yrs died all of a sudden . He was a type 2 diabetic. He was also a recovering alcoholic . He had been doing so well in outpatient. He was cut by a Rusty nail. He took it out and we thought ,Ok. All good! The following day his foot was in pain . His breathing was becoming more shallow . When The paramedics got here They took his blood Sugar . It was 400 .. They tried calling me in the middle of the night . I was a sleep . I called them Back when I woke up. Instead of they telling me ok . Travis is ready to be Picked up.. the tone was More like .. Hello , My name is “ Dr. So and so “ we have been trying to get of hold of you , unfortunately Travis went into cardiac arrest .. “I’m sorry we’ve done Everything we can” my heart sunk ..

  • @user-po7ij2lb3v
    @user-po7ij2lb3v Před 5 měsíci

    Thank you Lesel and David. David's great work amplified with a great interview. This has been really helpful to me. Thanks again, Ean

  • @klarafialova7101
    @klarafialova7101 Před 6 měsíci

    Thank you ♥️💔

  • @gilly3927
    @gilly3927 Před 6 měsíci

    So much I'm struck by. I'm an introvert that's developed useful extroverted qualities. I'm a very funny, successful high functioning anxiety riddled, contained mess, who feels misunderstood, because my authenticity is clouded by who I think others want me to be. You know, in a nutshell. Others think i've got it made. What I tell them is "the grass might look greener it still needs mowing" eeesh...ain't it a game huh?

  • @bryanpetheram5176
    @bryanpetheram5176 Před 6 měsíci

    Very helpful. Thank you.

  • @marlenesmithies7234
    @marlenesmithies7234 Před 6 měsíci

    I feel guilty that I did not protect my son in hospital and made sure that his care was better. He was treated as no one, not important. My son was moved 7 times in 10 days and was never on the appropriate ward. All the time they kept telling me “He is not our patient he is an outlier.” His care was not appropriate for his needs. I just wish that I had pushed more. I was a nurse and knew the care and compassion on the various wards was not good enough and often non existent. I feel so guilty that I didn’t protect him more in his last few days.,

    • @karenanndean
      @karenanndean Před 6 měsíci

      Hindsight is an Exact science. Blaming yourself is Natural inevitable and stupid and wrong.

    • @pippenlapue9643
      @pippenlapue9643 Před 4 dny

      You are repeating my story. My daughter 37. Was moved to every floor, every ward. I lived in hospital for 4 months 24/7. I was afraid of leaving her alone. I saw the horrors that happen at night. I believe she could have been healed of what she had. But so much damage had been done to her body that my daughter did not want to live in how she was left. Our Medical system in California is a corrupt, greedy, unethical industry. My understanding is that a reckoning is coming that will shake up the medical industry. Unfortunately to late for my daughter.

  • @marlenesmithies7234
    @marlenesmithies7234 Před 6 měsíci

    Does this also apply to the death of an older child. My son has just dies aged 41. It was sudden and not expected

  • @klarafialova7101
    @klarafialova7101 Před 6 měsíci

    Thank you ♥️💔

  • @wambuialice957
    @wambuialice957 Před 6 měsíci

    Oh God, I never knew I could survive my kid brother's suicide. The pain is still sometimes unbearable but people like you are helping in ways you will never know

  • @dawndid5972
    @dawndid5972 Před 6 měsíci

    ❤ thank you ❤ both

  • @user-vn9sh6hv8r
    @user-vn9sh6hv8r Před 7 měsíci

    How can we watch the full videos of these talks please? Will you upload them to yt at a later date? Thank you 🙏

  • @hazelcarterauthor
    @hazelcarterauthor Před 7 měsíci

    I learned so much from this - even though my own bereavement was due to motor neurone disease killing my husband. Not sudden, but very difficult to witness. The statement about the level of loss being equal to the level of love really hit me, and explains why I feel the way I do 4.5 years after my lovely husbands death. Thank you.