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Thanks ladies! I’ve tried to read this book for 2.5 years, didn’t get past chapter 4. Now I check in after every chapter, it helps so much💕💕

I am very excited about reading this book, Thank you for these podcasts.

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Cary, your story is so touching. I hope many are able to hear your experience. There is so much to digest from your adoption experience, especially into adulthood. Thank you for sharing! No one should be allowed to withhold information from adoptees, if a Birthparent chooses to relinquish, in my opinion. This opinion is coming from a birthmother. "Closed adoption" should no longer exist in any form (for adoptees). It is ludicrous that records and information are STILL withheld in any way for adoptees. I was truly clueless about the impact of adoption when I was pregnant and relinquished my child. Coming from an evangelical background, and having minimal exposure to the adoption triad, I had a fantasy version in my mind of how adoption impacted adoptees. I relinquished my daughter in 1991. I was involved in an open adoption. Regardless, my experience with adoption has been extremely painful.

Excellent interview ladies! Chris, wow! What an amazing story to tell! Thank you for opening your heart up to share your truth.

This interviews make me cringe, you don’t let the guest speak interrupting through

Thankyou Cary! You are such an inspiration and wonderfully positive role model for anyone involved in the complexities of Adoption.

I want to go to Vegas and meet this guy one day.

I enjoyed hearing your story. I relate to the joy of finding other artists on both sides of my birth family. One of my friends walked by and commented "that looks like your style"... when I had a painting by my cousin pulled up on my computer. Such a surreal feeling.

Simone’s sharing of her experiences was so incredibly moving. Thank you so much.

Thankyou for sharing. I wonder if you have listened to any of Edith Egers ( Auschwitz survivor) podcasts? " Trauma has no hierarchy" I think you may find very inspiring 😊

I am also a Multi-generational trauma breaker!!!

Thank you for this wonderful podcast Sarah and Louise~ Wow Lorah...I can so relate to this! My adoptive parents never got help or acknowledged that they even had trauma! Adoptive dad was also adopted, but did not find out until his adoptive mother passed away. He never ever talked with me about being adopted. He also drank to numb out. My adoptive mother also suffered trauma in childhood, I believe. She also had my brother, who was biological, then she had cervical cancer and had to have a hysterectomy. That is also trauma that was never dealt with. By the time I came a long, I was functioning in this family in survival mode. Trying to survive!

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Due to a recent law change you can now get your original birth certificate in Louisiana. Just received mine. I was also adopted in New Orleans in 1966.

What an interview! Thank you for sharing, Simone. When you talked about finding your foster mother, I was so moved. Also, smoking the bees is staying with me as a pertinent analogy for what is done to us. That and the shock of knowing that they routinely sedated us as babies during the ‘handover.’

I came here to comment on each chapter! I am a 57 year old adult adoptee. am getting so much out of you ladies discussing each chapter. I believe there is trauma for each of the triad of adoption: Birth mother, baby and adoptive mother also. I believe I got stuck in the anger stage of grief! Also, in regards to puppies, they also are effected by their environment and definitely experience grief. It was so interesting. When we got a new dog 6 years ago, we visited the gal and picked out our puppy when she was 3 weeks old. This allowed me to observe the environment where the puppies were being kept. This lady had them in like a gated in playpen area. I noticed the puppies were all piled up next to the wall or next to the side of the gate. When we brought our dog home she would crawl under things and put her back up against the wall or under a cabinet she would smash herself under a cabinet trying to duplicate the environment that she was in with her brothers and sisters. The gal we got the puppy from also had four kids and she was running a daycare so there were kids - little kids, very little kids around our puppy all the time. We got our puppy in April and went on vacation in July and there were small children camped next to us and I'll tell you what our dog wanted nothing to do with us! She wanted to be near those children because I think she remembered her first family. OMG!!! I had so many stomach issues as a child!!! I was very compliant. I was sneaky as I got older, so I felt like different people. I was the party girl, I was the good girl. I stole candy at school, I went to church. So confusing!!! Excellent podcast!!

Bless you Lenore and thank you for sharing your story. In 1999 I too saw a Psychiatrist and was told that my concerns had nothing to do with adoption! I wonder if there are any Psychiatrists in practice now who are also adopted and tell a different story?

In this video you mention that in some other video you talk about how different cultures deal with the care of children whose mothers can’t look after them differently - I think it is called kinship adoption. Do you mind sharing with me which episode that is? ❤

Do you have the link to Ryan’s video?

Future Social Worker here, non traditional BSW Student, and 25 years as a search angel for adoptees and birthparents fighting for adoptee rights and researcher of the "Baby Scoop" era.

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Okay ladies, I too LOVE to investigate!!! 😅

I absolutely adore music and always have! When I was a child, I always went to sleep to the radio. Music is very therapeutic for me still! I also discovered tarot and oracle cards 10 years ago! They are wonderful healing tools for me also!

I need to dig into The Primal Wound deeper because I have always had this deep seated “guilt” that makes me feel like I’m stuck in quick sand and can’t move! It’s the weirdest feeling! I’m really struggling with that feeling now! Wow!! It’s so wild to see you ladies talking about very particular odities that describe ME!!!

I loved my birthday every year…HOWEVER…I never ever liked transitions. For example, I remember always feeling very sad when ever the school year ended. Even as an adult, I was teaching school and I would get very sad and depressed at the end of the school year. I have thought a lot about this. I think endings or transitions are difficult for me and bring up many feelings.

Hi Sarah and Louise! I started listening to this episode on Spotify. I came here because I have so many comments! 😅 I’m 57 and am just more reading The Primal Wound. I think we are ready for the truth and to move forward in healing when we reach our fifties. I was VERY secretive!!! I did all sorts of things like smoking cigarettes, pot, alcohol with my friends. Around my parents, I was the ultimate people pleaser. Self Southing behaviors: OMG!!! I type on my legs, I rocked back and forth on my hands and knees in bed when I was very young, I also rock in a rocking chair. I have always bit my index finger when angry. I’ve done it my whole life and I’m now 57. I’ve observed myself in the moment and I believe it may stem from covering emotions. Not feeling like I can be my true authentic self or not feel free to FEEL my authentic emotions.

Wow! Talk about a wild and crazy ride, probably the most interesting guest you have interviewed so far. She is delightfully eccentric. Adoption did not effect her at all, Lol OMG

Thankyou Ed, how refreshing to hear your interesting story that gives another perspective with your thoughts, feelings and life as an adoptee. So good to hear your positivity. Bless you.

😃Wonderful!

Wow. Amazing, interesting video about Danielle and her story. It’s like she’s talking about my childhood as an adoptee. So many similarities. I was adopted as well and had a connection with Kate myself about this adoption thing more than 10 years ago. Long story and very private to me. Thanks for uploading this video. Maybe I should try to reach out to Danielle.

Wonderful podcast Jeff! It ticked so many boxes and I loved the humour you shared with us all 😊 so pleased you had great Adoptive parents.

thanks. Sixties Scoop Metis here. My birth mother had five children taken over the years. I found cousins who were also scooped. Family history of trauma and marginalization.

What an inspiration you are Rudy! Thankyou for sharing your motto " never give up" best advice ever.....

Oh Ken, I can't wait to read your book! Your Podcast is amazing and so helpful for me as an Adoptive parent who got no help whatsoever from post adoption social workers over the years! I have learned so much from your life story and you have given me hope for us all for the future ❤

So good.

Very interesting to hear your stories and thoughts❤ Thanks! I want to recommend a beautiful documentary about being adopted from Colombia and searching for one's roots in Colombia: czcams.com/video/XgZVXYlIdGY/video.html&ab_channel=CampfireStories ❣

Outstanding. Informative and insightful. Its validating to discover there are more of us in the trenches, fighting to inform anyone who will listen, to the ugly truths about adoption, the secrets and lies, and so often, abuse. Definitely will share this amongst my fellow #cribmates.

Any podcasts on selling of kids in PEI to Us

Oh Greg, what an amazing man you are. Thank you for sharing and helping so many people understand the complexities of Adoption. I wish all the very best always ❤

My mother gave me a name that no one in her family has any idea where it came from. Family names are a big deal in my maternal family but my name is not a family name. No one knows why and she's not around to explain herself.

How can we watch the film? Thank you x

Lorah is such a great conversationalist.

What a lovely man

Danielle's story is amazing. She definitely has Kate Mulgrew's smile! The podcast is great and I'm glad that adoptees can connect with one another through this podcast.

Truly excellent interview and much appreciated. Thank you :) No one has been able to properly explain why the phrase ‘coming out of the fog’ is so offensive! To me, it is a perfect description of how it feels to gradually become aware of the magnitude of our experience, so I use it without apology.

Monica, I was born in Washington State and was in foster care my first 14 months of my life due to brain surgery at birth. I would LOVE to find out where I was placed in that first year and four months! OH YES!!! Monica, I was not raised catholic, BUT my parents partied then "mom" and I were at church on Sunday and staying a virgin was crammed down my throat so much along with, "You don't want to end up like your mother pregnant at 16!" This was trauma and I had no idea! This traumatized me so much and shamed me that ON MY WEDDING NIGHT I felt so worthless and guilty even though I was not longer a virgin! Just so F'd up!!! OH YES AGAIN! After my dad died, my mom made my brother, (biological) who lived with her, her husband and grunt, I call it. He was her worker. Thank you for all the information and unique perspective from that of an adoptee and birth mother. I really enjoyed hearing your story!

Wow Haley! I have si much respect for you speaking your truth on your show! I look forward to telling my adoption story on this show and that has already crossed my mind! "What if I offend so and so. What if this person were to ever listen." It is very difficult as I have struggled my whole entire adult life to speak MY truth! It has to be done in all honesty for me to heal. And quite frankly, nobody else in my adoptive or biological family ever thinks about what they say, they just say it! Ohhhhhhhhh....adoption is so so complicated!!!

Hi Sarah and Louise! This is such an interesting conversation about redacted information. I don't even remember what information I first received when I got my non-identifying info. My next step is reaching out to the hospital where I was born to get my records pertaining to my emergency brain surgery I had at birth. Joe Soll, an adoptee advocate out of New York has advised me to get my doctor to write directly to the records department of the hospital I was born at asking for my hospital records. This should be interesting! I am very nervous to ask my doc to do this. This is so dumb ... this information belongs to ME!!!

So validating! Talking about taking your time with healing and being able to take small steps because you can only take in so much at a time. That is what I am feeling right now! Social media is an advantage for people wanting to connect with other adoptees as an aid to healing. Adoptee guilt is HUGE and I am still working through it. I have finally stopped apologizing for everything in my marriage! It took a long time though!!! Excellent interview ladies! I really enjoyed it!