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Thank you very much for allowing me to join the journey to become a better version of myslef. For me. For my family. For my friends. For my work colleagues.

Your videos are great. Thank you

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All of your videos give me hope to continue to learn and change to be a safe partner I want to be. Thank you

Halfway through the book and it’s been very relieving to read that I’m not alone in my struggles. It took many many years and for me to hit rock bottom by my wife leaving recently for me to realize I don’t just have an anger problem, I am abusive. Thank you!

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Thank you for sharing your story Michael.

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This whole series has been a big help to me. Im halfway through but I come back to earlier videos like this one. You deserve a lot more views. I found the series by googling if reconciliation is possible after domestic violence. I am (or like to say WAS!) an abuser who messed up big time and I hit rock bottom - the pain really woke me up. But there is so much negativity about us and bout the fact that we can change, too many instiutions even goverment ones will say that we cant change but its not true. Your Foundation and videos offer hope and are of great help so thank you very much for this!

The concept of an equal partner is asinine. One person always takes control over the decision making process, and that should be based on who will be taking responsibility for those decisions. If it doesn't effect you, or you don't want the responsibility associated with said decision, you should not be the one making it. You also should not be keeping score because you have no clue what doing the other person's job will do to you. Respect is what everyone wants and deserves.

Michael it feels like your talking directly to me.

I like the pauses, you gave adequate time to process. That’s seriously important to me. I’m going to play this for him, he’s already apologized but he pushed me to apologize for MY actions which pissed me off bc I wasn’t even ready for his apology. Or I actually was ready for it a long time ago But I’ll play this after I apologize for hurting his feelings which is why he got physical. I need him to understand why I got defensive when he demanded my apology.

Is it stonewalling when you do so to protect yourself from name-calling, hyper-monitoring, triangulation, and physical intimidation and violence? Stone-walling is my reaction to abuse which isn’t withholding my love. It’s showing them that I have boundaries and will not be treated that way. I know how to love and if it doesn’t feel like love, I dip.

envy is never good. Thanks for the video

Thanks so much for making this behavior clear and understandable

I like the detail where you are literally infront of a Stone wall. 😊

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This channel is amazing

Feedback: the moving videos are a little difficult to focus on and follow. These topics are already difficult to hear, and a more stable, constant environment could come across as more soothing which would help listeners engage deeply vs tune out because of being too difficult to follow and too much to process vs just engaging in what is being said.

Thank you for being here. There are so few people helping the abusers. In your book you hit the nail on the head describing how an abuser feels like they are in defense of an attack, and not a hateful person abusing out of spite. It is an extremely helpful book. Im going through all the recomended reading now. If there is any way i can contribute to your cause, please let me know. Like i said, there are too few out there helping us change our paradigms, and help us objectively analyse incidents and learn to recognize patterns and early warning signs. You put in words what i only felt inside. That improved my understanding and helped me better communicate with my wife.

Never apologise if you don't truly mean it, as that's just manipulation.

Excellent summary of section 1 class , concise ， clear instructions, very well organized teaching material . This video also will serve as great section review for the participants. Thank you very , very much , Mr. Clark ！

Can you do a series for the person abused to be helpful to the abuser? Things that keep us safe but help the person that needs support. Thanks

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How I wish many can notice this channel.

Great lessons God expand you

I am really blessed by just listening to this and applying it make sense . I can see change in my marriage too. God bless you brother and everything you do.

You are the best . Putting it so well. Thanks bring more of this