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I know that I need to work on better communication in relationships and this just absolutely is what I needed to hear and practice! Thank you so much. I have a guy friend- who I used to date about 5 years ago who is always 17:07 hot and cold with me. So we stay friends. But through the years- he has made passes at me. Asked to kiss me…it always catches me off guard and I never know what to say. When I tried to get clarity, he makes it seem like he doesn’t want anything serious with me, but values our friendship. He has many woman as friends also and I am pretty sure he does the same to them. I’m thinking of ending this friendship with him because it’s confusing to me. I’d love your advice.

learning that you are not responsible for someone's feelings or behaviors is incredibly freeing. It is not your 'job' to get someone to like you or get someone to behave a certain way towards you if they do not want to. Additionally someone else's behavior or feelings are not a reflection over your value as an individual. Typically someone's behavior and feelings regarding romantic relationships have so much less to do with you and so much more to do with them and it is not worth the mental space in your day to focus on what's lacking in you when you are a whole and complete person without the need to appease someone else or seek validation from outside sources.

Text pals are fun, and Talking on phone is great, but meeting in person for a date is the only way this works.

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Even when I specified this on my profile, guys still persisted in mindless messaging. Finally withdrew from online dating altogether! (Maybe they don’t even read profiles)

Good points! Has chivalry gone out of style?🎉

What a disgusting video, you didn't say anything about the title! 😂 How to tell if a guy is thinking about you, even you haven't heard from him? FO!

Excellent content 💖 way too many women are sadly wasting away their precious lifeforce unnecessarily

333 likes and this is the 33 comment. 🙏🌷🩵🌷🩵🌷🙏

Don't need to get even with bread crumber not worth it it will happen to them eventually when least expect it

I just go internally and say what am I putting off from me to attract such guys an start making a change to attract better guys to me.

I don't agree not always some guys just want to see how far they can push an what u will tolerate an some are just plain assholes

Love your video

Thank YOU!❤

Just tell such man, ‘I regret I’ve met you’.

The fundamental problem with cheating isn't the sex, it's the disrespect you display toward your committed partner in the form of deception, dishonesty and betrayal. Cheaters are morally weak, selfish and cowardly: they simultaneously lack the courage to: (1) fully commit to the person they are cheating with, and (2) confess the truth of their affair to the person they say they are committed to. They are destroyers who want to have their cake and eat it too, but end up with neither. Above all, remember folks: once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater.

Jack, Im interested in getting together as a group. Your video was great!

What a timely upload. Recently met someone online, LD and it was really good initially, then came the in and out behaviour. I felt confused and it did undermine my self esteem so I took action last week and expressed my boundaries. I haven't heard from him since but I won't back down and accept that behaviour. I did take my power back as I know that over time it is more destructive. I want someone who can commit and give me the authentic relationship I deserve 💯

Out of nowhere, your video popped into my suggestion after about an year. It's been a long time and I was very happy to listen to this video. As always...one of the best teachings ever! Thank you ever so much for your very valuable work! Have a great day Jack! ❤

Thank you Jack. You have so helped me. I Keep playing your videos.. you've made me realise so much. Bless you

30 seconds into the video and you hit the nail in the head 😂

Jack. Your advice is wonderfully heart centered & practical. Being in our authenticity is supremely vital. It starts with self respect & conveying your truth to another. Sadly some women go with the flow of affairs hoping a fairly tale will emerge. It never does and we end up more emotionally defragmented & lost. Say no to unavailable partners from the start. It's a dead end with your heart sitting at the bottom of a pit.

I just recently did this. Told him exactly what I want from him. Since then I'm getting the good morning texts and I good morning back but that is it. So now after 3 days of this do I say hey just wondering if you have decided what you want in regards to us? Scared of the result might be but the constant in and out hurts to much and that is what I told him. He needs to make a decision or I'll have to.

Thank you! Inaction is an action. Some people are too scared to take risks with love and those people will miss out. I personally don't understand how someone would be okay with the fantasy of potentially being with someone rather than trying to see if they can make it a reality. I get that they could be scared of the worst case scenario, but to me the worst case is living with regret and wondering about what could have been. "It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all" is a famous quote for a reason. It makes more sense to me to take the risk and find out what's there than to live with a fantasy that will never come true due to someone's inaction.

Wow ❤ thank you so much 🙏🏽

YOU ARE SO RIGHT❤

I just did this and I’m so glad this popped up to clarify it even more. Thank you. When you do it this way that you are suggesting, you come from a different place. I’ve worked hard to have peace and I just want to add to what I’ve created and to also add value to someone else that invests and want that too. Wishy washy messes with you head and heart! Ty

Jack......you are amazing....i cannot put in to words how every word that you say is so valuable, it makes sense and albeit hurtful acknowledging truth you are like a big pair of arms around all of us , guiding us through this minefield of love and relationships....Thank you!❤

woow! thank u sooo much🙏🏼 u truly have a great gift to help me understand my situationship better in a way that i can move foward in my life with no regrets🫂 I am so greatful for your kind words🌈😇💐🧡

Wise counseling ... I've been through enough to hear what you are saying is true and good advise.

This helped me so much, thank you

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As foolish getting involved with someone who was already in a relationship sounds, I have finally walked away from an 8 year affair. Yes… this happens to men too. It’s hard and painful but she was never going to commit to a real relationship with me. I would be keen to look at getting together in a group as this journey is hard when you have no one to share your pain and grief with. Thank you… your words make sense and help to ground me.

Thank you for brining me out of my head. A dose of reality and a different perspective is sobering.

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That's sweet of you to make this video and share your insights. But I am so bored with the communication inadequacy, the immaturity, and the games. It's just too much work for a woman. In the old days, men would just go for what they wanted. Nowadays, they are so afraid of everything, they are way too deep in their feminine energy, and I am not the type to step into the masculine to compensate. There are just too many guys now who don't seem to know what a man is supposed to do. If you sit and wait for a woman to reach out and facilitate and initiate, think about it, who is in the lead? My opinion, guys. You have fun. Take care. ;)

Great thoughts. Ty for sharing! Luv that hat! 😊

This is really good!

Clickbait. I’m clickbait lol I’m clicking off. Nice tutorial 👎

I know I matter. I’m just wondering if he is thinking of me like I’m thinking of him. Is he pining? You offered to show us how to tell. This is clickbate. Stumbled into a lecture. Tf.

This is beautifully said!

Jack, you are brilliant in this vid as always! No one has ever helped me more thru their videos (or even in person) than you, even tho we’ve never met. You are amazing at what you do. Your “is this a zero or a one” has been my most go-to technique across multiple areas of life. Makes decision making so easy, no fuss. Truly love your wisdom and ability to share and connect thru the ether. Much gratitude 🙏🏼

You're good!

Thanks for the video. Exactly what I needed. I have this guy friend who (we weren't able to meet in 1,5 years because he worked in another continent) suddenly was searching for physical contact and intimacy when he finally visited me. He acted like we were a couple inside the house, but not outside. I know he really likes my personality and cares about me, but I never thought he's attracted to me. He has strong dyslexia , is quite a workaholic and uni student and struggles answering people in time. ESPECIALLY people he likes, since he wants to give them a beautiful thoughtful message. After 3/4 days staying with me he texted me when he flew and arrived to the neighbor country for work. Then I only received a reply 2,5 weeks later where he felt super guilty not writing me earlier but also telling me that he's miserable with pain, can only sleep and is waiting for surgery in a month. I expected to hear from him after surgery, but 4 months later there was still no reply (and my voice message not even opened). Since I at the very least wanted to keep him as a friend and know if he ghosted me I decided to reach out again. He answered after a week super happy that I wrote him again. He said he was extremely stressed with uni exams and projects, that he can't stop thinking about me and is just to incompetent to answer me. He asked about me and how he's looking forward to the stress being over soon. I'm a bit confused about his behavior/where we stand, so I want to ask him next time. I just was afraid it's too early (I'm somewhat inexperienced), since I guess people date before they become a couple.. but usually they are not already friends before I think?