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The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast
Registrace 8. 03. 2024
Welcome to The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast, where hosts Kris Rocha and Jenn Howie explore the complexities of betrayal and offer guidance on how to recover and transform from its aftermath.
Through candid conversations and interviews with experts in the field, Kris and Jenn delve into topics such as healing from betrayal trauma, rebuilding trust, and helping individuals uncover their unique identities. Join us on this journey of self-discovery and transformation as we provide a safe and supportive space for listeners to heal, grow, and learn how to turn trauma into triumph.
If you'd like to support our podcast, you can find our Patreon here: patreon.com/TheBetrayalRecoveryTransformationPodcast
Through candid conversations and interviews with experts in the field, Kris and Jenn delve into topics such as healing from betrayal trauma, rebuilding trust, and helping individuals uncover their unique identities. Join us on this journey of self-discovery and transformation as we provide a safe and supportive space for listeners to heal, grow, and learn how to turn trauma into triumph.
If you'd like to support our podcast, you can find our Patreon here: patreon.com/TheBetrayalRecoveryTransformationPodcast
A Message for Pastors & Clergy: Supporting Betrayed Spouses Well with Nick Stumbo
On this episode of BRT, we have a special guest, Pastor Nick Stumbo. Nick is the Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries and has an extensive background in pastoral ministry. He began his ministry career at East Hills Alliance Church in Kelso, Washington, where he served as lead pastor for over a decade. Confronted with his own pornography addiction, Nick and his wife, Michelle, found hope and healing through Pure Desire’s counseling and group ministries. His public disclosure led to a revival of forgiveness and healing within his church, and he continues to lead the way in helping churches become places of healing.
Episode Description: In this episode, Kris, Jenn, and Nick share a powerful message for pastors and clergy on effectively supporting women going through betrayal trauma. Using the analogy of how a paramedic would treat a severe wound, they provide six key steps for clergy and support personnel to follow:
Key Highlights:
Assess the Severity of the Wound - Listen to Her: Nick emphasizes the importance of actively listening to the betrayed spouse, believing her reality, and displaying genuine sympathy. Show kindness and care to provide solace during her crisis.Stop the Bleeding - Focus on the immediate need, not the marriage. Avoid cause-and-effect thinking and allow her to express her emotions and needs at her own pace. Asking "permission questions" will help the clergy better understand her urgent concerns and priorities.Bandage the Wound & Stabilize the Patient - Educate Her About the Healing Process. Inform her there is a healing process, and she will not be alone. Don’t Rush Forgiveness: Understand forgiveness and avoid minimizing the situation. Guide Her in the Present: Help her focus on the "now" and provide comfort and hope. Teach the Keys to Rebuilding Trust: Discuss sincerity, ability, and durability as crucial elements of rebuilding trust.Treat for Shock - Normalize the Experience: Minimize isolation, emotional flooding, and embarrassment by providing community and helping her deal with emotions. Provide Community: Connect her with others who understand her situation and can offer support.Support the Injury - Offer Support: Provide resources, encourage her to grieve, help her establish a circle of trust, and teach the importance of healthy boundaries.If the Wound is Too Severe, Call 911 - Ask for Help: Refer her to trained professionals like CSATs, PSAPs, CCPSs, and C-SASIs for specialized support. "When in doubt, refer out!"Connect with Us:
Visit our website: Watermark CoachFollow us on Instagram: @WatermarkCoachingPure Desire Ministries: puredesire.orgThank you for listening! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review our podcast to stay updated on future episodes. 🌟
This episode's content was written and produced by Kris RochaEdited by: Dan HowieThis podcast is produced with the support of: www.purelifealliance.com
Episode Description: In this episode, Kris, Jenn, and Nick share a powerful message for pastors and clergy on effectively supporting women going through betrayal trauma. Using the analogy of how a paramedic would treat a severe wound, they provide six key steps for clergy and support personnel to follow:
Key Highlights:
Assess the Severity of the Wound - Listen to Her: Nick emphasizes the importance of actively listening to the betrayed spouse, believing her reality, and displaying genuine sympathy. Show kindness and care to provide solace during her crisis.Stop the Bleeding - Focus on the immediate need, not the marriage. Avoid cause-and-effect thinking and allow her to express her emotions and needs at her own pace. Asking "permission questions" will help the clergy better understand her urgent concerns and priorities.Bandage the Wound & Stabilize the Patient - Educate Her About the Healing Process. Inform her there is a healing process, and she will not be alone. Don’t Rush Forgiveness: Understand forgiveness and avoid minimizing the situation. Guide Her in the Present: Help her focus on the "now" and provide comfort and hope. Teach the Keys to Rebuilding Trust: Discuss sincerity, ability, and durability as crucial elements of rebuilding trust.Treat for Shock - Normalize the Experience: Minimize isolation, emotional flooding, and embarrassment by providing community and helping her deal with emotions. Provide Community: Connect her with others who understand her situation and can offer support.Support the Injury - Offer Support: Provide resources, encourage her to grieve, help her establish a circle of trust, and teach the importance of healthy boundaries.If the Wound is Too Severe, Call 911 - Ask for Help: Refer her to trained professionals like CSATs, PSAPs, CCPSs, and C-SASIs for specialized support. "When in doubt, refer out!"Connect with Us:
Visit our website: Watermark CoachFollow us on Instagram: @WatermarkCoachingPure Desire Ministries: puredesire.orgThank you for listening! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review our podcast to stay updated on future episodes. 🌟
This episode's content was written and produced by Kris RochaEdited by: Dan HowieThis podcast is produced with the support of: www.purelifealliance.com
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Understanding Trauma with Debby Flanagan
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Welcome to the 20th episode of The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast! This is a significant milestone for us, and we're thrilled to celebrate it with a special guest, Debby Flanagan. Debby is a clinician with Pure Desire Ministries, where she serves as a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional. She holds a Bachelor's degree from Corban University and has an Advanced Certification through the...
The Impact of Snooping with Dr. Jill Manning
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In this mind-shifting, insightful episode of The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast, Jenn and I had the pleasure of hosting Dr. Jill Manning. Dr. Manning is warm, caring, knowledgeable, and passionate about helping women heal. Today, she shares her expertise on a topic she's passionate about ... the impact of snooping, especially in the context of betrayal trauma. Get your notebooks ready...
The Four Phases of Healing After Betrayal with Tammy Gustafson
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Join hosts Kris Rocha and Jenn Howie for another enlightening episode of The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast. Today, we welcome back Tammy Gustafson, a renowned betrayal trauma coach, therapist, writer, and speaker. Tammy is here to delve deeper into her "Four Phases of Healing After Betrayal," sharing her expert insights and personal experiences. This episode is packed with valuable i...
Supporting a Friend Through Trauma with Adrienne Friesen
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Adrienne Friesen joins us on this episode about supporting a friend through trauma. She has been our friend for over 20 years and we can attest that she is naturally gifted at supporting and comforting friends during difficult and traumatic times in their lives. Today, she shares her wisdom and practical advice on how to be a steadfast friend during difficult times. Key Points Discussed: Active...
Story Spotlight: Author and Speaker, Tess Scott
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Join hosts Kris Rocha and Jenn Howie in this special Story Spotlight episode of The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast. Today, they are honored to feature author and speaker Tess Scott, who shares her inspiring journey of overcoming shame and replacing it with forgiveness and stepping into God's purpose for her life. About Tess Scott: Tess Scott is a hilarious Christian speaker, a "black ...
Secondary Trauma with Kris Rocha & Jenn Howie
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Grab a coffee or your favorite cup of tea and curl up with hosts Kris Rocha and Jenn Howie in this enlightening episode inspired by Dr. Jill Manning's thought-provoking Instagram post on Secondary Trauma. This conversation is a balance between depth and lightness as they explore Dr. Manning's list of secondary trauma examples. Key Highlights: Insightful Exploration: In this segment, Kris and Je...
Generational Iniquity & Breaking Strongholds with Dr. Laura Sanger
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In this POWERFUL episode of The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast, we are honored to host Dr. Laura Sanger, a dedicated scholar, prophetic intercessor, and spiritual warrior. Dr. Sanger brings a wealth of knowledge, blending her expertise in theology and clinical psychology, to delve into the profound topic of generational iniquity. Key Topics Explored: 1) Generational Iniquity: Dr. Sang...
How Grief Helps Us Heal with Hannah Wachter
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On this episode of The BRT Podcast we're joined by the remarkable Hannah Wachter-a coach, encourager, and "a warm cup of tea for your grieving heart" with over fourteen years of experience as a grief expert. Hannah has a unique, personal journey that has equipped her with a compassionate lens to guide others and walk beside them in their pain, and help them heal. Key Takeaways: 1. Transforming ...
Reclaiming Your Life After Betrayal with Tammy Gustafson
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Welcome back to another empowering episode of The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast! In this edition, we're honored to host Tammy Gustafson, a renowned betrayal trauma coach, writer, and speaker. With over 13 years of experience as a licensed professional counselor specializing in PTSD and trauma, Tammy is a fount of wisdom and healing. In this episode, she takes us on a journey of recla...
The Benefits of Betrayal Trauma Groups with Ally & Sarah
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Friends ... Jenn and I are so honored and excited to introduce you all to two incredible women, Ally and Sarah. They just happen to be two of our favorite women on the planet, and we have no doubt you'll have the same opinion of them by the end of this episode! Ally and Sarah opened their hearts and shared the experiences and benefits they realized from joining a betrayal trauma recovery group,...
Internal Family Systems Therapy & Betrayal Trauma with Jenna Riemersma
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On this amazing episode of BRT, we are honored to welcome the delightful and inspiring Jenna Riemersma! She is the founder and clinical director of The Atlanta Center for Relational Healing. Jenna, a distinguished teaching faculty member at the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP), is a beacon of wisdom in the realms of mental health and trauma recovery. As a Li...
Marriage Recovery and Pure Life Alliance Ministries with Jeremy Waldridge
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Our guest on today's podcast is the Executive Director of Pure Life Alliance Ministries, Jeremy Waldridge. Jeremy shares a little about his own story, marriage recovery, the origins of Pure Life Alliance, and what the ministry is passionate about - helping couples recover and heal from unwanted sexual behavior and betrayal trauma. From their website: "Pure Life Alliance is committed to restorin...
Navigating Conflict: A Guide to Healthy Resolution with Andrew Arthur
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On today's episode, we have the privilege of hosting Andrew Arthur, a seasoned conflict management expert, certified mediator, and CPS (Certified Co-Parent Specialist). Andrew brings more than 25 years of experience in coaching and guiding individuals through the intricate landscape of conflict. In this episode, he unravels the critical steps to healthy conflict resolution: Repair, Resolve, Rec...
Building Resilience with Dr. Steve Stephens
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We're honored to host the amazing Dr. Steve Stephens, a seasoned psychologist with over 35 years of experience and the author of an astounding 45 books! Dr. Steve is not only a renowned life coach but also a captivating speaker, university teacher, and a true expert in the art of building resilience and overcoming hardship. Join us as we embark on an enlightening conversation with Dr. Steve abo...
Trauma & Self-regulation with Eileen Fagan
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Trauma & Self-regulation with Eileen Fagan
Unveiling Your Story with Ashley Sears
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Unveiling Your Story with Ashley Sears
Very intriguing and validating esp as a Palestinian and watching present day evil take place whilst the world is under a dark spell allowing blood to spill needlessly and using inverted scriptures by mongrels whose history is of paganism and the ways of Babylon They are the amalakites and czarian bloodlines under the pretense as the “chosen” people
This is gold... and you are my tribe!! Thank you, Jesus!! I renew my mind in you!
Ah, yes! We love encountering new tribe members! Welcome to the BRT podcast, friend!
So many Christians don’t think demonic spirits can inflict them and they get deliverance just by accepting Christ. All I know is I’m a Christian and got deliverance and felt something leave me. God bless you all. 🤗❤️
Me too !!!! And then felt. Liquid warm all over my body !! I actually felt God loves me for the first time !!!! And since then I have renewed my mind and go to deliverance once a year at least even once a month at times !! It’s good to go deeper ! It’s like an onion God has revealed more to me over the past 10years !! It’s a journey for the rest of my life !!! But there was definitely one big delivery !!! But there is so much more too we can tap into !!!!
Thank you for sharing your testimony, and Praise God! I have full-body chills ...
@@marissaharris4116 YES! There's so much more! I highly recommend listening to the Blurry Creatures podcast. I've learned so incredibly much, my faith has been deepened and now we can use this platform to have guests like Laura on to help us better understand the authority we have in Christ.
@@marissaharris4116 You have found the doorway-one only found if sincerely searched for, and you have! Glory to God! There are riches in God few men (and women) have found. Go deeper still.
This means so much to me. I am on a spiritual journey and I’ve encountered a friend.
You are not alone, friend! Welcome!
Great job on this podcast. I will be sending it on to at least 4 people!
Excellent, and thank you for the encouraging words! We are grateful (see what I did there?!) :D Blessing to you!
This is so powerful yes gratitude ! I am so blessed
Yes and amen!
Agag had sons before he was killed by Samuel. His descendants lived on to do destruction.
Amazing information
I agree! She's got amazing gifts of wisdom and teaching.
I'm here from Wisconsin. I'm an avid listener of Troy Brewer. I listen to 2 of his messages each da y. I heard Laura Sanger on his program. I love her! 💖
I woke up at 1am and just found this podcast (I have been listening to Dr Laura on her CZcams for a couple of days). I realize now that I need deliverance, again. Thank you for for being a voice in my night.
We love her too, and she'll be back on 12/5/24! Thank you for saying hello. :) Welcome!
Great job on this interview!!
Thank you! She'll be back this December. We're excited!
God is moving so deeply. I can’t go before the throne without deep weeping and prayers that are so strong. I become a slobbering wreck of gratitude and get taken over in intercession sometimes and it’s so physically exhausting but so freeing and such a blessing! So much depth!
When your at the throne pray my wife ditto recieves a great healing please
@@clifdunbar7405 prayers for your wife will be lifted! God hears your needs- he knows your heart and he feels your hurt. Blessings of increased faith and peace when the enemy attacks!!! 🙏🙏🙏🙏
@@clifdunbar7405 continuing in praying that your wife receives all healing and comfort in her hour of need! 🙏🙏🙏
I was wondering why I'm always weeping now in His presence, can't even get words out.
@@soniag4516 it’s crazy- just such a deep longing for his grace, deep call to repentance personally, and constant prayer for his heart for this world. It’s so strong it’s too much to not weep- and i can’t even can it crying cuz it’s so much deeper
I love blurry creatures! 🙌🥰
ME TOO!
I need deliverence
Why not just let Dr Laura explain it???
Hello! - Because she didn't explain it during the recording. We record our Intros after we record our guest's interviews, so I thought a little background on Nephilim would be helpful for those who were unfamiliar with the term/history.
As a new listner to blurry creatures and yourselves and also being a man, im honoured to join you ladies as subscriber No 50 and look forward to hearing good advice on how to help my wife and grow in wisdom !
I’m a Blurry fan as well!
I love Blurry Creatures!
Yes! The Blurryverse is AWESOME! Welcome, friend, and thank you for your encouraging words and participation. We are grateful for you! We are honored to have you.
@@junebuggy9614 Woot! I love it! Sending you a virtual fist pump! Love us some blurry!
@@RobinIrwin-r2r Right?! It's mindblowing! What's your favorite episode so far?
Saul didn’t kille Agag but the prophet Samuel killed Agag. How could Haman be his descendant?
That’s a good question
@@davidglo78 Thats a good explanation but where’s the biblical narrative for that?
Yeah for some reason I thought that was the case. I just read Elliot’s commentary on Biblehub and he says that some of the Amalekites may have escaped and that’s why they continued to exist. I just wonder if noble women were considered “chattle”. Because it does say he spared and kept the best of Amalakites belongings.
King Agag could have already had children. Don’t you think?
@@mom2slc3yes. But dr Laura said that because Saul disobeyed, and didn’t kill Agag, Agag had descendants (Nimrod) but Samuel immediately killed Agag after the battle.
WOW GOD Thank you for your Daughter Laura- FREEDOM 🔥🔥🔥🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 in JESUS MY SAVIOR FOREVER 😭😭😭
Amen!
My husband is using porn on going. I realize l have been ignoring getting angry…. I wish l had a place to go away from him.
I'm so sorry you're in this place. You are not alone. Pursuing your own healing is a powerful move in the right direction. Feel free to send us an email at thebrtpodcast@gmail.com and I'll send you some free resources.
How do live with a spouse who verbally abuses me with curses ( completely lies about me to me!)
I don’t know but my comment seems to have disappeared. Friend, you need to get away! Please get away! Call a friend, your sister, a neighbor who would help you. You need supportive people around you You can’t even think straight under that! Let alone hear the Lord’s direction. Tell your Pastor. Make a plan but get away! Please
I’m praying for you right now!
He will not change. Most of the time they just increase in their abuse. Get out if you can or get therapy to help you get strong enough to leave.
My perspective is different. I experienced the same during our early years of marriage. I prayed fervently, poured my heart out to the Lord and drew closer to Him. He gave me a grace that I had never experienced previously. The words did not make me cry. I could ever smile. My husband didn't get the response that he was used to and even let up for a while. He got saved after 2 difficult years and our marriage lasted for 47 years until my Sweetheart and Best Friend went home to be with Jesus. As God told Paul, "My grace is sufficient." Blessings ❤️
I have been fighting in the spirit with these monsters for four years. I am also an intercessor and a gatekeeper. My only help is the Holy Spirit and the Angels. I am alone. I have also been attacked by witches and other demons. I am a human services counselor with a MA.
Get in a strong church! Maybe you are but you say you are alone.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Having Jesus, Holy Spirit, The Creatir of all - GOD! You ARE NOT ALONE! Instead, continuously confess with your mouth that you have been given power. Luke 10:19 Behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy: and nothing shall by any means hurt you. KJV Remember who you are in Christ: Psalm 139:13-16 New King James Version 13 For You formed my inward parts; You [a]covered me in my mother’s womb. 14 I will praise You, for [b]I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well. 15 My [c]frame was not hidden from You, When I was made in secret, And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. 16 Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were written, The days fashioned for me, When as yet there were none of them.
Ask Father for the RIGHT Godly connections. Don't give up. I have been alone for 7 years and Now He is sending the Right intercessors to join in agreement. Chains are breaking. Prisoners are being set free. All glory to God!
You are not alone. If you have accepted Jesus into your heart? He says HE WILL NEVER LEAVE US OR FORSAKE US!!!!
@maryedinger3721 DO NOT SPEAK "I am alone!" If you know the Lord, if you have the Holy Spirit, if you are saved - YOU ARE NOT ALONE, but you with your own words negate the very presence of Jesus Christ. You MUST NOT be double-minded! Out of your mouth, you have what you want, what you desire. Give the Holy Spirit His due respect and His rightful place. He walks before you... Instead of speaking a negative presence into your life , you must welcome the Holy Spirit daily! Reject openly verbally the presence of ALL demonic presence. Ask God's forgiveness for your lack of faith because you can not intercede when there is a lack in your spirit. Anoint yourself, your tongue, your home, and then go forth with a renewed walk. But NEVER say you are alone. The truth is that you are not. Jesus is always with you. Give Him your full attention.
What if we grew up without any believers in our family but we become believers after our children are grown? Any hope that it will be broken for our currently unbelieving adult children which I pray will accept Christ one day?
Yes there is always hope. He sovereignly moves in each generation but your prayers are powerful so keep believing and praying for your children and their children.
Yes! So much HOPE! Prayer is the most potent weapon against the plots and plans of the enemy. I want to recommend a book by Dr. Michael Heiser called The Unseen Realm. Here's a link (affiliate): amzn.to/3YKhzcp. YOU are standing in the gap and changing the course of your family's lineage, friend. You are a modern-day Esther. Keep your armor on (Ephesians 6) and keep going! Do not lose heart. <3