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Brilliant man, and brilliant book

Excellent Interview ❤

0:09 intro 2:03 traits 3:13 what it hides 4:05 spectrum 12:57 abuse/tactics 13:55 gaslighting 15:15 withholding 15:50 betrayal duties 16:43 who’s susceptible 20:28 can’t change 22:55 victim blaming 24:02 parents 25:02 children 30:17 trauma bond 30:41 childhood TB 35:08 what you love about them 36:29 adults with narc parents 42:08 friends 45:15 long term effects

Awesome Break down: many thoughts came to mind as I listened, Thank you much

"My Family"? Where is "Palestinians Don't Count"?

I was a boarding housemistress and was aware of all of this. I did it for 5 years and realised that boarding school is a really bad choice. And not only for the children in the school but also for the children of the house mistress who are neglected while you spend all your time with the children in your house. It is child abuse and it should be stopped. Parents should not have the choice to do this. It not only damages the person themselves but also the whole of society that they end in positions of power over.

Grass is always greener on the other side it seems.

Your parents did you the biggest favour of your life. You endured difficulties that made you a flexible, resourceful, and adaptable person. Be thankful. I looked at death in the face 7 times by the time I was 11. And now I'm just a silly old bugger on the pension. You are an ingrate! So, enough of all the "poor me" bullshit, already!!!

Given that the reality of cruising is that you spend 90% or more of your time NOT sailing - in other words in port, in a marina, or otherwise at anchor - there should be plenty of opportunity for children to 'get off the boat'. And there are plenty of other families who manage this balance reasonably well. Whatever went wrong in Suzanne's life it's nothing inherent in the cruising lifestyle - just the way her parents seem to have gone about it.

The last half, especially the last quarter, are simply phenomenal. Thank you so much, you saved my life

STOP MOVING YOUR HEAD

I think Dr. Ramani's soothing voice is making that Lady fall asleep,, her eyes blinking, nodding off,,,, i recognize this, because i do this... No insult, just noticing,,, she just needs more sleep 😴❤

SHE IS DOPE!

You nail it again Dr Ramani. You are saving my life. I am healing from a narcissistic relationship but can take it back to my mother and heal that as well with your guidance. You are so wise

We're moving further away from our natural selves....we dont have the communities we used to....so we're shocked and ill prepared for motherhood. Its not surprising that new mums can feel this way...but its been look like this for a long time now. 😢

My childhood image of relationships was so warped that when I saw the movie "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest" I seriously couldn't understand why people were mad at Jack Nicholson's character. I thought he was just behaving normally, then they put him in an insane asylum! Needless to say, I went on to marry a narc for 20 years.. Now, I live with a cat. Safer that way.

Dr. Rama I you just keep getting better!

I thought it was about changing client perception.

Your name matches with a serial character

Dr Ramani is a genius!

This is an excellent book, thoroughly enjoyed the sobering reality of how mental health can be traced to not only genetic but to social circumstances behond a patients control. Risk assessments made by the author were always carried out honestly with compassion and empathy and narrated with humour.

Yes. How to heal is where I’m at. I’m truly enlightened about the situation through your podcasts. I really need to embrace the healing process.

I wish there was a cure for what I experienced but there's nothing but time.

I was a professional excuse maker. Recovering people pleaser 😮😅❤

Thanks very much 👍👍

@8:21

This is great

I am 61 and after a lifetime of narcissistic abuse as the designated scapegoat- family, " friends ", colleagues, bosses, social groups, partners- my body has broken down. I dont expect to survive to 70 and I dont want to.

I'll never stop saying it. Doctor Ramani has been extremely helpful for me. I will be forever Thankful for her. I pray more and more therapists/Doctors out there become more educated on this.

31:45 them children out here just attaching for the hell of it haha

And when it gets really bad is when you came from abuse and marry abuse, and then God forbid you get sick. This scenario was insurmountably destructive to me my sons and to me so much so that it is a miracle any of us made it out alive.

This interview is very healing ❤ Thank you for your honesty.

What clear introduction. Thank you. 😊

Yes, I thought your mother was a narcissist and your father as well.

I absolutely hated your parents

the relationship between the therapist and THE CLIENT, interesting business language within psychology. There is no a individual, human being, NO, is a CLIENT

I was sent to boarding school in a well known public school from 13 to 18 abd it was the best 5 years if my life. I became a nhs surgeon and i have empathy formist of my patients and the ones i dont. I try! I couldnt tbank my parents enough and i got on well with them now.

Great!!!

Excellent presentation well explained very important 👏🏻

This guy Kamm is legit evil.

Her parents are grade A morons

Thank you Melody. I am surprised that I have never heard of you. I like your straight forwardness and honesty. Hypervigilent...spot on.

Thank you for this 🚺💜💫

I live with one I have a health condition so I cant leave. Shes also is bipolar. Constant fighting arguing tries to shame me in front of people. It's unbearable. If I ask her opinion, if she likes a hairstyle that I show her that I would like to get, her reply is always negative. Her reply was "keep it long, If you get that short style hair cut it would make you look fatter. Just very nasty person.

Best video so far. Thank u very very much

Zdrada to zdrada,to ja sie udowadnia a nie przyczyne czy wieksza lub mniejsza wine,nie chcesz zdradzac to sie rozwiedz zanim Ci to przyjdzie do glowy😂

Yes, we are hypervigilant.

I’ve suffered from dissociation for as long as I can remember. I never knew what was wrong with me, I just know that I would, and do, often just kind of disappear and shut down all emotion. I am 60 years old and basically just now learning about dissociation 😢

My kid is now an “adult”, but I can still relate & appreciate this book. I gave copies to a couple new moms I know , as it would feel like gatekeeping not to 📖 🪱 💚

I just finished Wavewalker. It was amazingly written and while I did not grow up sailing around the world, I did find parallels of having such selfish parents. Ones in which had plenty of time and money for what they wanted and little money for the basics of my necessities. As an adult, their behavior was deplorable so I felt like I was taking the journey through your lens and mine simultaneously. Well-done.