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Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT
United States
Registrace 29. 10. 2007
Todd Creager is a relationship expert based out of Huntington Beach in Orange County. He provides marriage counseling and sex therapy to couples and individuals, specializing on issues like intimacy, infidelity, toxic relationships, communication and more.
Todd offers a variety of solutions for his clients, including regular therapy, couples retreats and various workshops and programs.
Todd serves the surrounding areas including Newport Beach, Laguna Beach, Irvine, Corona del Mar, Seal Beach and Long Beach. He also provides counseling via Skype for the benefit of out of area clients. Contact Todd today at (714) 848-2288.
Todd offers a variety of solutions for his clients, including regular therapy, couples retreats and various workshops and programs.
Todd serves the surrounding areas including Newport Beach, Laguna Beach, Irvine, Corona del Mar, Seal Beach and Long Beach. He also provides counseling via Skype for the benefit of out of area clients. Contact Todd today at (714) 848-2288.
Conflict Avoidance: The Unexpected Reason Your Physical Intimacy is Suffering
Hey there! Todd Creager here, and in this video, I'm diving deep into a topic that's close to my heart: the surprising link between conflict avoidance and physical intimacy in relationships. As a couples therapist, I've seen firsthand how avoiding tough conversations can put a damper on your sex life. But don't worry - I'm here to help you understand why this happens and what you can do about it!
In this video, you'll discover:
• Why conflict avoidance is a major libido killer in long-term relationships
• How to be "healthfully selfish" to reignite your passion
• Practical tips for overcoming conflict avoidance and improving your intimate connection
I'll share personal stories, client experiences, and actionable advice to help you and your partner create a more open, honest, and passionate relationship. Whether you're struggling with intimacy or just want to keep your connection strong, this video is for you.
So, grab your partner (or watch it solo - that's okay too!), and let's make the world safer for love, one conversation at a time. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share if you find this helpful!
#RelationshipAdvice #IntimacyTips #conflictresolution
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Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT
Todd is a sex expert and therapist in Huntington Beach. He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach. (714) 848-2288.
You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at: toddcreager.com
✅ Secrets to a Sexy Marriage: toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets
✅ 10 Steps to Healing From Infidelity: toddcreager.kartra.com/page/infidelity-checklist
✅ 7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYM
✅ 7 Signs You Came From a Dysfunctional Family: toddcreager.kartra.com/page/7signs
✅ Better Sex in Midlife and beyond toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlife
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Timestamps:
0:00 - Introduction: The hidden intimacy killer
2:15 - Understanding conflict avoidance in relationships
5:30 - The science behind conflict avoidance and lowered libido
8:45 - Being "healthfully selfish" for better intimacy
12:00 - Practical questions to overcome conflict avoidance
15:30 - Personal story: How facing conflicts improved my marriage
18:00 - Conclusion: Making your relationship safer for love
In this video, you'll discover:
• Why conflict avoidance is a major libido killer in long-term relationships
• How to be "healthfully selfish" to reignite your passion
• Practical tips for overcoming conflict avoidance and improving your intimate connection
I'll share personal stories, client experiences, and actionable advice to help you and your partner create a more open, honest, and passionate relationship. Whether you're struggling with intimacy or just want to keep your connection strong, this video is for you.
So, grab your partner (or watch it solo - that's okay too!), and let's make the world safer for love, one conversation at a time. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share if you find this helpful!
#RelationshipAdvice #IntimacyTips #conflictresolution
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Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFT
Todd is a sex expert and therapist in Huntington Beach. He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach. (714) 848-2288.
You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at: toddcreager.com
✅ Secrets to a Sexy Marriage: toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets
✅ 10 Steps to Healing From Infidelity: toddcreager.kartra.com/page/infidelity-checklist
✅ 7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYM
✅ 7 Signs You Came From a Dysfunctional Family: toddcreager.kartra.com/page/7signs
✅ Better Sex in Midlife and beyond toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlife
JOIN TODD ON SOCIAL:
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✅ Facebook - RelationshipBreakthrough
✅ Instagram - todd_creager
✅ Twitter - toddcreager
✅ LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/toddcreager
✅ Pinterest: www.pinterest.com/toddcreager/
Timestamps:
0:00 - Introduction: The hidden intimacy killer
2:15 - Understanding conflict avoidance in relationships
5:30 - The science behind conflict avoidance and lowered libido
8:45 - Being "healthfully selfish" for better intimacy
12:00 - Practical questions to overcome conflict avoidance
15:30 - Personal story: How facing conflicts improved my marriage
18:00 - Conclusion: Making your relationship safer for love
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The Disarming Technique: A Powerful Tool for Conflict Resolution
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💜💜 Get Todd's FREE Guide to Great Communication and Great Relationships Here: toddcreager.com/soullift/ Welcome to another insightful video with Todd Creager! In this episode, Todd, a seasoned relationship expert, introduces "The Disarming Technique"-a powerful tool to improve communication and resolve conflicts in relationships. With his warm, friendly, and caring approach, Todd guides you thr...
Causes of a Sexless Marriage: Understanding the Underlying Factors
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💜 💜 Get Todd's Tips For Better Sex in Midlife and Beyond Using This Link: toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlife Hi everyone, Todd Creager here! In today’s video, we’re diving deep into a common issue many couples face - a sexless marriage. As a therapist specializing in couples therapy, I often encounter partners frustrated by a lack of sexual connection. In this video, I break down th...
Understanding and Addressing Low Sexual Desire
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💜 💜 Get Todd's Tips For Better Sex in Midlife and Beyond Right Here: toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlife Struggling with low libido in your relationship? Join relationship expert Todd Creager as he explores the common causes of low sexual desire and offers practical solutions to reignite the spark in your love life. With his warm and caring approach, Todd delves into both physical an...
How Trauma Can Affect Your Intimate Relationship
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💜 💜 Get Todd's FREE guide The 5 Keys to Healing From Trauma Here: toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-5-keys-to-healing-from-trauma Hi everyone, Todd Creager here! 🌟 In this video, we're diving deep into how trauma can affect your intimate relationships. Trauma can come from many sources and can profoundly impact our ability to connect and communicate with our partners. In this heartfelt discussi...
Beyond Basics: Deepening The Commitment in Your Relationship
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Creating Novelty in Relationships: Secrets to a Thriving Partnership
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Thank you. Your message helped me understand & set the foundation towards healing.
After numerous attempts. At communiction you are equàly invested id go get some supplimental because chances are she already has
I’m not a light switch…..ok leave the switch off forever. Roommates suck
Causes of a sexless marriage? Marrying the woman lol
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💜💜 Get Todd's FREE Guide to Great Communication and Great Relationships Here: toddcreager.com/soullift/
💜 💜 Get Todd's Tips For Better Sex in Midlife and Beyond Using This Link: toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlife
💜 💜 Get Todd's Tips For Better Sex in Midlife and Beyond Right Here: toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlife
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I took her back to save her life. I was not as traumatized by her cheating as that I had no choice, but to stay. I felt so trapped and devastated that I didn't eat or stop shaking for a month (on the bright side I lost 35 lbs). She insisted it was weird and she somehow the victim, not a normal affair. Now many years later after drilling down to the undeniable truth, it was a very typical affair. Now that I finally have a plausible story, my mind can rest. That's good, the bad part is knowing she was more in control of this affair relationship than her lover boy, and could have ended before it ended in crisis. I don't see her the way I use too..
Wow Frank. I do understand that. I’m glad your mind can rest now.
@@ToddCreager The hardest part was I had no choice in the matter. The affair ended with a date rape. She didn't see him again before telling me. I wanted to end our relationship, but knew she would go back to this very dangerous character. I still loved her enough to not want to see that happen.
He said he felt single when leaving for work. Give me a break!! he did it twice and one affair lasted 11 years. I won't go back even though he is a affair program.
That is totally understandable!
The best solution is to quit drinking not to reduce it. We have more capacity to stop drinking because alcohol is not our natural need. It’s easier to make a decision when you’re sober than when you’re drunk
Cheaters have no empathy, an overwhelming sense of personal entitlement, are arrogant and uncaring. That will never change so they will always cheat if they feel that they need a pick-me-up.
Cheaters do not have the same personality. They're not all evil. The horrible act is the same but pple are infinitely different.
what about sexual abuse for a man ? who was sexually abused by his mother. Does EMDR help? med has not help with getting hard . I am at a loss
So selfish.
Thankyou sir, you gave me hope.
Keep going to the top
Part of having him go plain crazy and unlocking his primal impulses is a result of speaking out just the right words. Yes, where to begin? Celestine Dessike's latest (go'ogle her) takes you by the hand if you really want to cut out all the guesswork and get him going!
Thanks Todd. I’m going to have my first EMDR session tomorrow. (I’m the betrayed, male spouse) I really hope this helps…it’s been too difficult for too long.
You are welcome Mike. I wish the best for you I have used EMDR for people in your situation a lot. I am here for you if you need me but I hope this works great for you!
When I found out, I was on a mission, I became obsessed. I didn't sleep, yet I had energy and rage fueling me. I first went to her workplace and looked for her. Everyone knew who I was and were gobsmacked. They didn't know where she or her partner was or they just lied. I knew better than to believe them. I let them know that I was looking for him and I wanted to have a talk with him. I then went to the general manager and let her know that I knew. I also said that such a situation under her roof would be bad for morale and that she should have a talk with both of them. together or individually, it didn't matter. I turned on the charm and asked her to address it at her earliest opportunity. She agreed and we shook hands and I left. All of my senses were heightened, I felt as if my blood was about to burst through my veins. I cornered the coworker who facilitated the affair for them and let her know that I would not stop and let him know that I was coming. Suddenly, I started getting multiple texts from my wife begging for me to talk to her.. alternately, she would call me in hope of reaching me. I ignored them all. I finally called my wife, she hadn't answered the phone that fast since we first started dating. She asked me where I was...I responded that I was everywhere and nowhere at once. She started to crack on the phone; I finally asked her if there was something that she had to tell me... because I was not the fool she thought I was. She was at a loss for words, a rare thing for her. I told her there's something that I have to do and before she could say anything else, I hung up. During the exchange, I was walking into her affair partner's apartment building and right up to his door. I relied on my breathing techniques I learn through meditation to center myself, clear my mind, and to fortify my purpose. I knocked, I didn't think she would be there, I don't think I would have cared. He answered, I let myself in with the coldest smile I had and surveyed the scene of the " crime " He didn't take long to start singing like a canary with me in front of him . I got up and headed for the door. Suddenly, he tried to act brave, trying to gaslight me, he was contradicting himself left and right. I let him know that I already spoke to his boss and everyone knows I will return if necessary. He stopped talking...as if trying to catch his breath. I told him to stay away from my family... namely my son or I would return. I opened the door and said, " See you around " with a smile. He didn't move. Behind the door, I could hear him cursing over and over. He resigned the next day..she quit the following day..I didn't care. That was almost twenty years ago. The worst punishment you can give someone is to leave them to their own devices.
Its simple: cheats want both. The love and support of a relationship and the excitement and validation of spontaneity with someone different.
My husband still wants to go to the church where the emotional affair partner goes. It’s killing me. He seems so happy when he gets to go because I give in to his pouting, but then I’m just getting destroyed and dreading every Sunday. The church also minimizes the situation. My faith is getting very harmed because I feel like the bad guy and that everyone is against me now. I feel so stupid that I can’t just leave. I’m attached and dependent on him. I feel like such a loser and ugly and uneducated, because I compare myself with the other woman. He most likely has undiagnosed autism which makes it even harder; he can’t see my perspective and calls me crazy and minimizes the fact that he “only took her out to lunch” with his ring off… Sorry for the rant. I just want to not hurt anymore. I wish I could build a life under the same roof and not think of any of this. I’ve asked him to please not mention the church or anybody there and let me just pretend it never happened. That plan has not gotten off the ground very well, as he gets contacted by people often and invited places by them. They’re all a trigger to me now. Does anyone have a suggestion of one or two things I can do just get up and move forward? I feel like my chest has been blown out.
Get him to undergo adequate therapy - and also seek good therapeutic help for yourself! Learn to set boundaries for him, think carefully about what is important to you, and also state the consequences that you will draw if he does not respect these boundaries. But you also have to let the consequences follow, otherwise you will make yourself untrustworthy. Tell him about your feelings calmly and without accusations. There is a channel here (Affair Recovery) that I can highly recommend to you. If the other members of your church talk to you stupidly, talk to you about your marital problems without asking and judge you or put you under pressure - put them in their place, according to the motto: "If I were looking for advice from you, I would talk to you. But I don't think you're in a position to help me." Don't let yourself get down and stand up for yourself, you should be worth it. Learn to set boundaries. Not everyone has to like you, but once you have internalized that, this insight is very liberating.
Leave him !!!! You really need to get yourself together!! Staying with him shows him he can walk all over you !!( doormat) have some self respect & go!
Sadly far too often, when it’s a male initiator (who’s not making an unreasonable amount of advances), and a female rejecting, its written off as men being too horny or always wanting sex. This really exponentiates the shame the man is feeling.
That does happen and of course, desiring to have sex with one’s partner is not only a healthy impulse but one that should be validated as much as possible. Two partners will not be the same in many areas, including their sexual desire or even what turns them on. The secret, of course, is for each person to appreciate each other’s differences and to do their best to meet each other’s needs, including that of sexual intimacy.
the problem with this video and this advice is that you are under the impression that the millions of men out there are not talking to their partners about their lack of intimacy, well most people do talk about it and nothing gets resolved, so a better video would be what to do in that instance and not in your miracle cure for one man but not his wife.
After cheating the relationship can really "work" again for the cheater. For the cheated party (except for spouses who remain married but don't actually care if their spouse cheats or not for various reasons) it "works" when s/he swallows the tough pill for the family. This, in case they have some self respect because there are people with no self respect whatsoever. Those are lost causes and no matter how much the cheater cheats they aren't leaving.
There are types and types of cheaters. The worst are the ones who are like "I am quite happy with my life with my husband/wife but I cheat for the thrill and excitement". You cannot find a worst type because they give absolutely no s**t about their partner.
Exactly! Even happy people cheat, especially men.
My husband shows no remorse!! He actually changed completely!! I’m living with a stranger 💔
Thank you for this video. There is a children's book called The Sky is Red by Tyra Juliette Schwartz that is a great way to talk with young kids about gaslighting in an age appropriate way. I found it on Amazon. It encourages children to trust their instincts and to hold onto what they know is true, even if pressured not to. Great resource for this exact topic.
Innovations. Creativity.
Narcissists don’t change because it’s an evil entity. They don’t change they just get better at hiding it.
Narcissists don’t change because it’s an evil entity. They don’t change they just get better at hiding it.
This is true psychopathic cheating is a whole other level, people that make mistakes are different and maybe able to work it out, if it’s a psychopath, run far and disappear
I do this with dinner.
He's describing "avoidant attachment"
You are a nice guy, and that’s cool to see therapists like that in the world.. 🤘🏼🖖🏼
Thank you Lorna!
Where can I see the rest of this talk please?
Dont touch sexually for 1 year before marriage. Just to see if you like each other. Our forefathers knew the truth. Over sexualized people are sick
😅😅😅
Sex is not on my mind at all …time is too precious to be spent on this activity ….😁
Ok- people are different!
I think it can make a huge difference if, as you suggest, people expand their understanding of what "sex" can include.
“The spouse that was betrayed is 100% not responsible.” One minute later: “could the betrayed spouse have created an environment where blah blah blah”. So, uh, maybe 95% then? Jesus. Lets blame and claim not to blame.
Spot on!! Women can’t accept the truth!
A non-sociopathic cheater? Hahahahahaaaaaa. Stop…dude stop, you’re killing me….hahaaaa
Thank you Todd, this video hit home for sure! A book that I found very helpful to understand past patterns 'Velvet Rage'.
I have a tip for all the therapists peddling the “marriage can be saved” crap. If you really really want to do a service to society, spend the first 5 years after infidelity focus 100% on the victim of cheating and stop this garbage about the cheater. Let them suffer horribly. Make every conversation about pain and the damage they created. Then after the 5 years is up, recommend the victim divorce the cheater. The cheater needs to feel the full, lifelong weight of their betrayal. Whoever tells you their relationship is better, is lying. I’ve seen the “get over it” marriages. They’re broken beyond repair, and they admit to openly lying to their therapists.
People have very strong feelings about this, and I totally understand. Just understand, though that I’m definitely not one of those get over it kind of therapists nor would I ever expect a victim of infidelity to just get over it. If you listen to some more of my videos, you’ll get a better sense of where I come from regarding those who betray. It’s not as simple as bad people are those that cheat. It’s just deeper and more complex than that and that truth has been experienced by me for now over four decades. But like I said before, I do understand the strong feelings.
@@ToddCreager Respectfully, I think this is an excuse machine for cheaters. For every well intentioned therapist, theres a nutjob like Esther Perel sucking up the air with her crazy, “its okay to cheat and we have to change the dynamics” garbage. I admit to conflation with the extremist view, but there used to be social consequences for this crap. If your boss found out you would lose your job, your club memberships cancelled, banks would even refuse to work with you. That was decades ago. Now its, ‘cheat, fix some stuff, blame the partner of course because its always their fault, and no one has a problem with it’. I think the cheater is wholesale the issue. It starts with a lie - “I promise to be faithful”. At some point they fail to be honest about their issues. Again, NOT the fault of the victim. Then they act on the impulse. Its all masked narcissism. My biggest issue is acting as if this behavior should be normalized or even accepted. We do too much of that now. Out country has to stop “accepting” every indecent behavior simply for the sake of fixing the unfixable. Fix the victims. Thats who needs the help. I’m not saying you’re ill intentioned or you blame the victim. But if you separate the cheating from the marriage, thats a problem. They aren’t causal. The cheating is that partners world view of their partner. They openly devalue that person. They willingly abuse trust and love. They engage in cruelty. Thats their definition of marriage. To them the victim of their actions has asked for it, wants it, deserves it, whatever. No where in there is anything worthwhile. They asked for it, got it, and in many cases are proud of it. The question I would ask is an ethical one. By encouraging couples to stay together and work through it, inevitably blaming victims at some point, though maybe not intentionally, are you in fact promoting a cultural shift where cheating is becoming normalized and more acceptable? Its a serious ethical question…
@@bobbywhitehead4204As a cheated wife, I would like to tell you that in my opinion you are sitting on a damn high horse. There is so much hatred in your words that I truly feel sorry for you. And you really don't seem to want to understand anything about the psychology of cheating, which is a shame. Because it's actually very interesting what goes on in the soul of a cheater. Cheating has always occurred, and current research indicates that cheating occurs in approximately 45% of all relationships. Of course - as always, as in all previous centuries - we can sweep everything under the carpet. Or we can do educational work. My husband and I are one of those couples that you categorically doubt exist. I don't see my husband as a bad person, but rather as a person who just felt shitty in his life for a while but couldn't talk about it. That's why he became addicted to sex and porn and went to prostitutes for years - for the dopamine kick. Despite this, he always loved me and was always afraid of losing me. And- he was always there for me! He never neglected me, spent every free minute with me, was always kind and considerate. This is of course an extremely abbreviated version of our story. With your hateful attitude, you are cheating yourself from learning something important about us humans. And the alleged consequences that cheating is said to have had in the past - when and where did that happen? It sounds like Fantasyland to me.
@@bittehiereinfugen7723lol good luck with that! I hate to say this, but a cheater will always cheat!
The cheater doesn't care they are not sorry. Never said sorry either èven while dying. Been gone 5 years now still get ptsd days. I wasn't getting my needs met he was impotent and tried blaming me he was a narcissist as well. I stayed because he cheated overseas but I rang the woman and told her she could have him. Seen he cheated. She had no idea we had a handicapped child. Selfish woman and thoughtless. She knew he was married. I didn't forgive him either. 46 years married and I wasted years because he was not easy to live with. Its absolute betrayal.
What’s rang him mean?
I can't remember the last time I kissed a woman...its been at least 25+ years
I dont care how a cheater feels after cheating on their spouse.
I broke up with my ex dec 18, 2 years ago. Just recently found out she is having a 2nd kid. I’m ok with it, I just haven’t moved past the grieving, resentful part I do feel stuck in it. I want to not be bitter, & forgive her. & also the shame of not making good decisions while receiving the revelations, & I definitely got locked into contempt in anger, I asked her to go to therapy she said we not married & we already have to go to couples therapy, after a house fire during Covid & 3 deaths, she was out drinking doing drugs & cheating living a double life. It was so distasteful but I definitely took the opportunity to dig deeper I had that ego death, but I’m stuck at the grieving part still I think.
It’s somewhat unsettling that this video is made in what looks like a bedroom, not an office. This distracts from the message.
What if my partner is struggling to break the affair? And is still holding onto our marriage?