Kat Eleftheriou
Kat Eleftheriou
  • 161
  • 110 580
The Self Fulfilling Prophecy of the Avoidant
If you like my thoughts and insights follow me on my socials below for more!
To be clear, I am not a therapist! I am just very interested in and passionate about self-awareness and personal growth :)
Book a 1:1 session â˜•ïžđŸ’»đŸŒż → katerinaeleftheriou.com/
Read my articles or support my content on Substack đŸ‘©đŸ»â€đŸ’» → katerinaeleftheriou.substack.com/
Find me at:
Instagram: @kat.eleftheriou
Tiktok: @kat.eleftheriou
zhlédnutí: 2 414

Video

The Potential You See in Others Is the Potential You Wish Others Would See in You
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 236Pƙed 21 dnem
If you like my thoughts and insights follow me on my socials below for more! To be clear, I am not a therapist! I am just very interested in and passionate about self-awareness and personal growth :) Book a 1:1 session â˜•ïžđŸ’»đŸŒż → katerinaeleftheriou.com/ Read my articles or support my content on Substack đŸ‘©đŸ»â€đŸ’» → katerinaeleftheriou.substack.com/ Find me at: Instagram: @kat.eleftheriou Tiktok: @kat.e...
Avoidance Is a Sign That There's Something About Yourself You Don't Want to See
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 1,3KPƙed měsĂ­cem
If you like my thoughts and insights follow me on my socials below for more! To be clear, I am not a therapist! I am just very interested in and passionate about self-awareness and personal growth :) Book a 1:1 session â˜•ïžđŸ’»đŸŒż → katerinaeleftheriou.com/ Read my articles or support my content on Substack đŸ‘©đŸ»â€đŸ’» → katerinaeleftheriou.substack.com/ Find me at: Instagram: @kat.eleftheriou Tiktok: @kat.e...
When You Expect to Hear "No", You'll Stop Asking For What You Want
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 752Pƙed měsĂ­cem
If you like my thoughts and insights follow me on my socials below for more! To be clear, I am not a therapist! I am just very interested in and passionate about self-awareness and personal growth :) Book a 1:1 session â˜•ïžđŸ’»đŸŒż → katerinaeleftheriou.com/ Read my articles or support my content on Substack đŸ‘©đŸ»â€đŸ’» → katerinaeleftheriou.substack.com/ Find me at: Instagram: @kat.eleftheriou Tiktok: @kat.e...
This Is Exactly What You Wanted
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 926Pƙed měsĂ­cem
If you like my thoughts and insights follow me on my socials below for more! To be clear, I am not a therapist! I am just very interested in and passionate about self-awareness and personal growth :) Book a 1:1 session â˜•ïžđŸ’»đŸŒż → katerinaeleftheriou.com/ Read my articles or support my content on Substack đŸ‘©đŸ»â€đŸ’» → katerinaeleftheriou.substack.com/ Find me at: Instagram: @kat.eleftheriou Tiktok: @kat.e...
You Exist Outside of Your Own Head
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 644Pƙed měsĂ­cem
If you like my thoughts and insights follow me on my socials below for more! To be clear, I am not a therapist! I am just very interested in and passionate about self-awareness and personal growth :) Book a 1:1 session â˜•ïžđŸ’»đŸŒż → katerinaeleftheriou.com/ Read my articles or support my content on Substack đŸ‘©đŸ»â€đŸ’» → katerinaeleftheriou.substack.com/ Find me at: Instagram: @kat.eleftheriou Tiktok: @kat.e...
Making It Easy for People to Have Access to You Isn’t an Act of Kindness
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 832Pƙed 2 měsĂ­ci
Making It Easy for People to Have Access to You Isn’t an Act of Kindness
If You Don't Decide on Something, Something Will Be Decided for You
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 729Pƙed 2 měsĂ­ci
If You Don't Decide on Something, Something Will Be Decided for You
Rest Is a Requirement
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 307Pƙed 2 měsĂ­ci
Rest Is a Requirement
For Those Who Feel Behind In Life
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 861Pƙed 2 měsĂ­ci
For Those Who Feel Behind In Life
Failure Only Exists If You Believe It Does
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 237Pƙed 2 měsĂ­ci
Failure Only Exists If You Believe It Does
We Show People How We Believe We Deserve to be Treated
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 256Pƙed 3 měsĂ­ci
We Show People How We Believe We Deserve to be Treated
Do You Just Want Them to Disprove the Negative Beliefs You Have About Yourself?
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 485Pƙed 3 měsĂ­ci
Do You Just Want Them to Disprove the Negative Beliefs You Have About Yourself?
How Self-Sabotage Is Tied to the Fear of Abandonment
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 1,2KPƙed 3 měsĂ­ci
How Self-Sabotage Is Tied to the Fear of Abandonment
Risk Losing Them
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 1,4KPƙed 3 měsĂ­ci
Risk Losing Them
Show Yourself Examples of What You Want to Achieve
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 1,2KPƙed 3 měsĂ­ci
Show Yourself Examples of What You Want to Achieve
The Struggling Artist Trope Is Ruining Your Creativity (and Life)
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 252Pƙed 4 měsĂ­ci
The Struggling Artist Trope Is Ruining Your Creativity (and Life)
You Have to Accept Before You Can Redirect
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 1,6KPƙed 4 měsĂ­ci
You Have to Accept Before You Can Redirect
Constantly Doubting Yourself Is an Act of Disrespect
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 1,3KPƙed 4 měsĂ­ci
Constantly Doubting Yourself Is an Act of Disrespect
Aim for Bad
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 400Pƙed 4 měsĂ­ci
Aim for Bad
Don't Make Your Identity Sacred
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 361Pƙed 4 měsĂ­ci
Don't Make Your Identity Sacred
Maybe It's Difficult Because It's Right For You, Not Because It's Wrong For You
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 2,4KPƙed 4 měsĂ­ci
Maybe It's Difficult Because It's Right For You, Not Because It's Wrong For You
Start Being "Undesirable"
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 2,5KPƙed 4 měsĂ­ci
Start Being "Undesirable"
The Main Thing That Improved My Creativity
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 254Pƙed 4 měsĂ­ci
The Main Thing That Improved My Creativity
Don’t Fall In Love With Your Potential Projected on to Them
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 702Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci
Don’t Fall In Love With Your Potential Projected on to Them
Let Go of People Who Turn You Into Someone You Don’t Want to Be
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 1,2KPƙed 5 měsĂ­ci
Let Go of People Who Turn You Into Someone You Don’t Want to Be
It’s Supposed to Be “Boring”
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 2,7KPƙed 5 měsĂ­ci
It’s Supposed to Be “Boring”
Are You Turning People Into Projects Because You Lack Direction?
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 1,8KPƙed 5 měsĂ­ci
Are You Turning People Into Projects Because You Lack Direction?
The Difference Between Intuition and Overthinking
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 611Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci
The Difference Between Intuition and Overthinking
How to Recognize Your Intuition and Implement It
zhlĂ©dnutĂ­ 421Pƙed 5 měsĂ­ci
How to Recognize Your Intuition and Implement It

Komentáƙe

  • @charmedprince
    @charmedprince Pƙed 3 hodinami

    I want Joni Mitchell's Both Sides Now playing throughout this entire episode. đŸ˜žđŸ˜¶â€đŸŒ«ïžâ˜ïžâ˜ïž

  • @AdvaS
    @AdvaS Pƙed 19 hodinami

    This is the hardest battle of my life atm. Thank you so much for sharing your experience on this topic, it helps me a lot❀

  • @chazdomingo475
    @chazdomingo475 Pƙed 3 dny

    I do this uncontrollably when I start to feel close to someone. I'm alone. Lol

  • @Vlad_the_Impaler
    @Vlad_the_Impaler Pƙed 3 dny

    It is not just attachment style it is more of relating style. Not just to people but to important things and situations too.

  • @victoriairra2332
    @victoriairra2332 Pƙed 3 dny

    Really appreciate this conversation and how you flowed with it effectively. I really like the key points you made, Awareness of Attachment Style Instilling Change And If Not Willing to Change, It Will Continue. I think you explained attachment style well, I picked up on attachment style from my parent and now in my mid 20s I am currently working on breaking out of it. Examples that have been given for me are present in my workplace. Very difficult conversation to come up with however you delivered eloquently. Thank you for sharing this space.

  • @mylaisms7908
    @mylaisms7908 Pƙed 3 dny

    Thank you for your words. You did a great job and have given me lots to consider ❀

  • @elaela1147
    @elaela1147 Pƙed 3 dny

    It is calming, thank you

  • @philhob4317
    @philhob4317 Pƙed 3 dny

    I always thought it was more in the direction of fear of rejection. But actually fear of disappointment makes a lot of sense

  • @rustyscrapper
    @rustyscrapper Pƙed 3 dny

    I feel like i avoid people because they leave me no alternative. I will start out trying to logically argue a situation, then i try reasoning, i try bargaining, i try setting boundaries, i try explaining using gigantic paragraphs in detail what it is they are doing that is upsetting me, repeat myself 15 times, give warning after warning, increasingly stern warnings, last warnings, THEN it escalates to ok i have exhausted every alternative and you wont stop.....you are cut from my life. Get out of my sight and dont come back. This causes the person to throw a tantrum like a 5 year old. And then they declare war on me and smash every button i have, press on every wound, while i am trying frantically to get them out of my life, cutting every tie, burning the bridge, and setting the ground on fire aeound me to keep them out and they just wont leave. And i am like ok i gave you a million warnings, i set the boundaries, your not capable of respecting them, we talked about it 5 times, i laid out the consequences, you didnt listen, your gone. Get out of my house NOW. And then they wont leave and keep fighting with me.

    • @barbeh_
      @barbeh_ Pƙed 3 dny

      I feel like if you are expressing your viewpoint, putting up boundaries, and explaining... then you are not avoidant and these people are just not respectful to YOU. You abandon them because they do not respect you. That's good, that's the final "boundary" you can put on someone- no energy from you unless they change. A true avoidant cannot express these feelings as it is painful/disappointing/act of shame. Hope this helps you.

  • @rustyscrapper
    @rustyscrapper Pƙed 3 dny

    People stomp on my wounds as hard as they can as soon as they figure out what they are which triggers my avoidant and i banish them from. My life because they refuse to stop picking my scabs and rubbing dirt in them.

  • @divinefeminine5943
    @divinefeminine5943 Pƙed 4 dny

    I'm so glad i stumbled upon your channel. All of these videos have been so helpful to me & my circumstances - where I've found myself & getting unstuck. Thank you so much. Lots of love & good vibes sent your way. ❀

  • @divinefeminine5943
    @divinefeminine5943 Pƙed 4 dny

    This popping up on my timeline was so timely.

  • @donovanpe6697
    @donovanpe6697 Pƙed 5 dny

    Great point on the being an adult part

  • @weizhewong3587
    @weizhewong3587 Pƙed 5 dny

    That's is a really solid advice! Thank you

  • @sumaiatabassum00
    @sumaiatabassum00 Pƙed 5 dny

    ❀

  • @maccabro7
    @maccabro7 Pƙed 5 dny

    well explained, thank you for this insight

  • @Jaieteaki
    @Jaieteaki Pƙed 9 dny

    ❀

  • @Jaieteaki
    @Jaieteaki Pƙed 9 dny

    ❀

  • @Jaieteaki
    @Jaieteaki Pƙed 9 dny

    Loving the short format videos 🎉

  • @Jaieteaki
    @Jaieteaki Pƙed 9 dny

    ❀

  • @Jaieteaki
    @Jaieteaki Pƙed 9 dny

    ❀

  • @Jaieteaki
    @Jaieteaki Pƙed 9 dny

    ❀

  • @aura27113
    @aura27113 Pƙed 23 dny

    wow

  • @indigoziona
    @indigoziona Pƙed 26 dny

    I literally had a friendship I was really unhappy in and thought "but abandoning them would feel like abandoning myself" 😳 Every now and again I need a reminder like this, thank you.

    • @kat.eleftheriou
      @kat.eleftheriou Pƙed 19 dny

      Wow yes! And when you don't abandon them (even though you know it's no longer aligned) you end up abandoning yourself.

  • @yubdailee
    @yubdailee Pƙed 27 dny

    I listened to you while driving and the amount of times I was like "yes, that's me, damn" while hitting the wheel is insane. I have to think about it now for the rest of the day 🌚

    • @kat.eleftheriou
      @kat.eleftheriou Pƙed 19 dny

      That's so funny! I'm glad this episode spoke to you :)

  • @m1sfit_l0v3
    @m1sfit_l0v3 Pƙed 27 dny

    this was very pertinent for me. thank you <3

  • @kaytlynngantner1111
    @kaytlynngantner1111 Pƙed 27 dny

    The amount of times I said “I knowww” out loud while listening to this is alarming đŸ„Č

  • @amberv4223
    @amberv4223 Pƙed 28 dny

    Thank you wow so helpful ❀

  • @numinousluminary41
    @numinousluminary41 Pƙed 28 dny

    Powerful! Thankyou for this.

  • @katherinedobias7499
    @katherinedobias7499 Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    when it comes to relationships, what would be some things we would avoid about ourselves? I think having some examples would help me reflect better cause I cant' get to the answer on my own.

    • @kat.eleftheriou
      @kat.eleftheriou Pƙed 19 dny

      Maybe it's your own emotional unavailability that you're trying to avoid. Maybe it's your fear of vulnerability. Maybe it's that you don't feel ready or worthy to accept a relationship.

  • @redblueiris
    @redblueiris Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    ...so who's supposed to give you permission to pursue your creative fiction writing? I hereby give you permission 🙃. But maybe you idealized the fiction writing as a substitute for an emotional deficit and it's not what you really want.

    • @kat.eleftheriou
      @kat.eleftheriou Pƙed měsĂ­cem

      I think I've had to let myself do it without any sort of expectation of what it HAS to look like. I always get hung up on expectations and appearances which tends to hold me back from just doing the things I enjoy doing.

  • @mclaren911
    @mclaren911 Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    Do you have any journal prompts to see what we're avoiding about ourselves?

    • @kat.eleftheriou
      @kat.eleftheriou Pƙed měsĂ­cem

      Not specifically, but I would say to first start by noticing what you feel the most resistance toward and explore that deeper.

  • @_ZiXin_
    @_ZiXin_ Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    i wish you’re a close friend of mine cus I think you’re really insightful and I appreciate your videos

    • @kat.eleftheriou
      @kat.eleftheriou Pƙed měsĂ­cem

      I'm really glad that what I say resonates with you :)

  • @Cherrypopppp
    @Cherrypopppp Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    Precisely how do you expect it ?

    • @kat.eleftheriou
      @kat.eleftheriou Pƙed měsĂ­cem

      When you go into any new situation with a no at the forefront of your mind

  • @Cherrypopppp
    @Cherrypopppp Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    Yes ma’am

  • @eesynopsis7393
    @eesynopsis7393 Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    So appreciate your content

  • @kcs88888
    @kcs88888 Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    Needed this exactly

  • @ALex_siLva5
    @ALex_siLva5 Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    Thanks for the advice.

  • @charmedprince
    @charmedprince Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    This is the height , the peak of "the process"

  • @2moges
    @2moges Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    thank you. graduating in like 3 days and looking for jobs so im freaking tf out

  • @LeoNie-ci9ie
    @LeoNie-ci9ie Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    Your channel is golddd

  • @dbrydon5121
    @dbrydon5121 Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    Or it’s an iterative cycle?! A journey that you’ve never seen before (exactly) but you have really (repeated behaviours). Outcome? Goal? Target? I suspect it’s a balance between what you want and where you e been. I mean, we can’t even prove we have free will. Should we not just ride the wave? Figure out on the fly, every bump in the wave using experience we gain on the way. My end goal has shifted so many times but the stepping stones of hindsight are regularly an ah-ha moment. I agree with trust the process. It’s a balancing act, depressed is the need for deep rest as an example. Do you wonder if the focus on the goal creates the fear and the pain and the struggle? I wonder if letting go of trying to control the process of path creation relieves you of the pain?

    • @kat.eleftheriou
      @kat.eleftheriou Pƙed měsĂ­cem

      Letting go is vital in being able to enjoy the moment, but it's also the most terrifying thing to do. You have to risk the potential of things going badly in order to truly indulge in all the good.

    • @dbrydon5121
      @dbrydon5121 Pƙed měsĂ­cem

      @@kat.eleftheriou here’s hoping for the bad to happen. Life is suffering after all. We create our own suffering anyway, just ask the celebrities that ‘have it all’ but still suffer. I have a thought experiment that wonders what AI will do once it becomes sentient. My guess is that it chooses to experience pain and discomfort. The Yin Yang of living. Without one you can’t have the other, our bodies and brains literally create the physical changes that balance us out. Cold shower first and you’ll have a rush of endorphins after, eat a load of chocolate icecream and you’ll feel good at first then terrible later. Thoughts?

  • @ice-ds1nk
    @ice-ds1nk Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    thank you for this,this is exactly what i wanted and i am exactly where i'm supposed to be!

  • @AdvaS
    @AdvaS Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    Ma'am have we been living the same life?? I relate to literally every topic you talk about! Thank you for creating this content and sharing your experiences, it's super helpful and appreciatedđŸŒč

    • @kat.eleftheriou
      @kat.eleftheriou Pƙed měsĂ­cem

      You're welcome! I'm so glad what I say and what I have experienced resonates with you :)

  • @MadieattackDaddy
    @MadieattackDaddy Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    thank you💞

  • @ALex_siLva5
    @ALex_siLva5 Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    ❀❀❀

  • @Xoximilco777
    @Xoximilco777 Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    Starting anything.

  • @Xoximilco777
    @Xoximilco777 Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    Your words keep me going. So insightful.

  • @raffacasting
    @raffacasting Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    It sounds like the message Chris Bale constatly shares. To get down to the Body so one can feel life force flowing. We are a very heady society.

    • @kat.eleftheriou
      @kat.eleftheriou Pƙed měsĂ­cem

      Definitely. I can admit that I tend to live in my head and have to actively ground myself in the physical world when I notice myself floating away and losing touch with my human experience.

  • @timmysmith9991
    @timmysmith9991 Pƙed měsĂ­cem

    Kat you are so awesome