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I want Joni Mitchell's Both Sides Now playing throughout this entire episode. 😞😶‍🌫️☁️☁️

This is the hardest battle of my life atm. Thank you so much for sharing your experience on this topic, it helps me a lot❤

I do this uncontrollably when I start to feel close to someone. I'm alone. Lol

It is not just attachment style it is more of relating style. Not just to people but to important things and situations too.

Really appreciate this conversation and how you flowed with it effectively. I really like the key points you made, Awareness of Attachment Style Instilling Change And If Not Willing to Change, It Will Continue. I think you explained attachment style well, I picked up on attachment style from my parent and now in my mid 20s I am currently working on breaking out of it. Examples that have been given for me are present in my workplace. Very difficult conversation to come up with however you delivered eloquently. Thank you for sharing this space.

Thank you for your words. You did a great job and have given me lots to consider ❤️

It is calming, thank you

I always thought it was more in the direction of fear of rejection. But actually fear of disappointment makes a lot of sense

I feel like i avoid people because they leave me no alternative. I will start out trying to logically argue a situation, then i try reasoning, i try bargaining, i try setting boundaries, i try explaining using gigantic paragraphs in detail what it is they are doing that is upsetting me, repeat myself 15 times, give warning after warning, increasingly stern warnings, last warnings, THEN it escalates to ok i have exhausted every alternative and you wont stop.....you are cut from my life. Get out of my sight and dont come back. This causes the person to throw a tantrum like a 5 year old. And then they declare war on me and smash every button i have, press on every wound, while i am trying frantically to get them out of my life, cutting every tie, burning the bridge, and setting the ground on fire aeound me to keep them out and they just wont leave. And i am like ok i gave you a million warnings, i set the boundaries, your not capable of respecting them, we talked about it 5 times, i laid out the consequences, you didnt listen, your gone. Get out of my house NOW. And then they wont leave and keep fighting with me.

People stomp on my wounds as hard as they can as soon as they figure out what they are which triggers my avoidant and i banish them from. My life because they refuse to stop picking my scabs and rubbing dirt in them.

I'm so glad i stumbled upon your channel. All of these videos have been so helpful to me & my circumstances - where I've found myself & getting unstuck. Thank you so much. Lots of love & good vibes sent your way. ❤

This popping up on my timeline was so timely.

Great point on the being an adult part

That's is a really solid advice! Thank you

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well explained, thank you for this insight

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Loving the short format videos 🎉

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wow

I literally had a friendship I was really unhappy in and thought "but abandoning them would feel like abandoning myself" 😳 Every now and again I need a reminder like this, thank you.

I listened to you while driving and the amount of times I was like "yes, that's me, damn" while hitting the wheel is insane. I have to think about it now for the rest of the day 🌚

this was very pertinent for me. thank you <3

The amount of times I said “I knowww” out loud while listening to this is alarming 🥲

Thank you wow so helpful ❤

Powerful! Thankyou for this.

when it comes to relationships, what would be some things we would avoid about ourselves? I think having some examples would help me reflect better cause I cant' get to the answer on my own.

...so who's supposed to give you permission to pursue your creative fiction writing? I hereby give you permission 🙃. But maybe you idealized the fiction writing as a substitute for an emotional deficit and it's not what you really want.

Do you have any journal prompts to see what we're avoiding about ourselves?

i wish you’re a close friend of mine cus I think you’re really insightful and I appreciate your videos

Precisely how do you expect it ?

Yes ma’am

So appreciate your content

Needed this exactly

Thanks for the advice.

This is the height , the peak of "the process"

thank you. graduating in like 3 days and looking for jobs so im freaking tf out

Your channel is golddd

Or it’s an iterative cycle?! A journey that you’ve never seen before (exactly) but you have really (repeated behaviours). Outcome? Goal? Target? I suspect it’s a balance between what you want and where you e been. I mean, we can’t even prove we have free will. Should we not just ride the wave? Figure out on the fly, every bump in the wave using experience we gain on the way. My end goal has shifted so many times but the stepping stones of hindsight are regularly an ah-ha moment. I agree with trust the process. It’s a balancing act, depressed is the need for deep rest as an example. Do you wonder if the focus on the goal creates the fear and the pain and the struggle? I wonder if letting go of trying to control the process of path creation relieves you of the pain?

thank you for this,this is exactly what i wanted and i am exactly where i'm supposed to be!

Ma'am have we been living the same life?? I relate to literally every topic you talk about! Thank you for creating this content and sharing your experiences, it's super helpful and appreciated🌹

thank you💞

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Starting anything.

Your words keep me going. So insightful.

It sounds like the message Chris Bale constatly shares. To get down to the Body so one can feel life force flowing. We are a very heady society.

Kat you are so awesome