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Wow yes! And when you don't abandon them (even though you know it's no longer aligned) you end up abandoning yourself.

That's so funny! I'm glad this episode spoke to you :)

I'm glad it was helpful!

Haha I love that!

I'm glad! :)

You're welcome!

Maybe it's your own emotional unavailability that you're trying to avoid. Maybe it's your fear of vulnerability. Maybe it's that you don't feel ready or worthy to accept a relationship.

I think I've had to let myself do it without any sort of expectation of what it HAS to look like. I always get hung up on expectations and appearances which tends to hold me back from just doing the things I enjoy doing.

Not specifically, but I would say to first start by noticing what you feel the most resistance toward and explore that deeper.

I'm really glad that what I say resonates with you :)

When you go into any new situation with a no at the forefront of your mind

I'm glad :)

You're welcome!

I hope this helped!

Thank you!

Letting go is vital in being able to enjoy the moment, but it's also the most terrifying thing to do. You have to risk the potential of things going badly in order to truly indulge in all the good.

@@kat.eleftheriou here’s hoping for the bad to happen. Life is suffering after all. We create our own suffering anyway, just ask the celebrities that ‘have it all’ but still suffer. I have a thought experiment that wonders what AI will do once it becomes sentient. My guess is that it chooses to experience pain and discomfort. The Yin Yang of living. Without one you can’t have the other, our bodies and brains literally create the physical changes that balance us out. Cold shower first and you’ll have a rush of endorphins after, eat a load of chocolate icecream and you’ll feel good at first then terrible later. Thoughts?

You're welcome! I'm so glad what I say and what I have experienced resonates with you :)

You're welcome 😊

I'm glad to hear that!

Definitely. I can admit that I tend to live in my head and have to actively ground myself in the physical world when I notice myself floating away and losing touch with my human experience.

I’m so glad!

Yes, the better we care for ourselves the better we are able to care for those in our lives.

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Glad you think so!

What if the feeling you desire is to be loved and cared for by others? Should you not seek that out? Should you only seek out the feeling of being unloved? While you shouldn't let surface level feelings guide your every decision, there also isn't anything wrong with wanting a desired experience in this life. This isn't black and white and it doesn't always have to be hustle and grind. You're allowed to feel good. It's okay to feel okay. Yes, sometimes we have to do uncomfortable things in the moment to secure more comfort for ourselves in the future, but that's exactly what I'm talking about in this video. The initial expectation of what you wanted might not at all be what you need in order to experience the kind of life you want to live.

Know that everything is within reach. Allow the Universe to take care of you. Open up to the abundance that the Universe has. Nothing doesn't exist. Everything you think is there in the Universe, you just let the Universe lead the way there. You only have to act.

Show yourself abundance, even in small ways throughout your life.

You’re welcome!

You’d be surprised how many unplanned and unexpected things happen even when you visualize the entire plan in your head beforehand

I’m glad this was helpful!

I won’t!

Glad you like them!

It definitely didn’t happen over night, but everyone’s timing is different and valid.

LMAO yeah

I’m sorry 😂

Comments like these are very disheartening because they immediately reveal that you've probably never heard or read anything else I've shared online. I will outwardly say in almost all of my work to not shame ourselves because what we struggle with is often conditioned into us or completely out of our control, but that accountability is important as an act of KINDNESS (as I say in the video) toward ourselves because it is. It's disheartening that you've made a judgment on my work outside of the context of everything I've created. Also, I don't position myself as a coach or guru. I'm just a person who shares her experiences and lessons online in the hope of forming a supportive community among others like me who relate to the way I've experienced the world. And ironically in your attempts to emphasize not self-shaming you've commented something that has a very deep undertone of shame to it. I hope you can recognize this hypocrisy and use it as a point of reflection for yourself.

@@kat.eleftheriou maybe your other content is valuable, I might check it out. I just don’t like the onus on “individual choices” when most of us are run by subconscious patterning and economic choices we are born into. If I am evicted and made homeless because I can’t afford the ever increasing rent, where can I exercise my agency in that scenario? Do I choose to put my frown upside down and look at sleeping on the streets as a new challenge! Doesn’t that sound absurd? This is an extreme example but not really as it’s happening to more and more people and almost happened to me last year. Subconscious patterning and economic realities cannot be overcome without emotional and material support. Does that mean I think we are all doomed and should give up? No way, but to not contend with the realities of this world and emphasise personal choices as the path to freedom is not empathic, irresponsible and not based in reality. And I’m really exhausted by online people/coaches/gurus/influencers monetising the cure for human suffering behind a pay wall. If you are confident in your convictions and your ability to help people suffering so much, that you charge for your expertise or insight then be prepared for respectful criticism. I am harsh but still respectful to online creators selling cures or answers. People are suffering and vulnerable and are desperate to cope in this cruel world and I don’t like people preying upon them. Maybe that’s not what you are doing consciously or on purpose but the road to hell is paved with good intentions. Maybe you are helpful to others and that’s great, I just offered alternate online creators that aren’t selling anything if people don’t resonate with you or you trigger shame in others. I don’t think my comment was hypocritical, I think giving shame back to who it belongs to is powerful. To give shame back to abusers, to give the shame back inhumane landlords, to give shame back to predatory people selling courses and e-books and sessions selling the “answers” (maybe this is not you, but the bare bones of what you were saying was in my opinion very reminiscent of people that are). I’m glad that you are trying to help people, but in case you aren’t I offered alternatives - Gabor Mate, Heidi Priebe, Patrick Teahan and Daniel Mackler. All very thoughtful insightful people that help in understanding your own psyche and behaviour. Heidi has great and has very wonderfully communicated tools that she isn’t selling. I’m allowed to be critical and skeptical of people online. All the best and I hope you engage critically and not delete this comment

@@atesah I literally say in the episode that there are many instances where you aren’t able to make the choices you want to make and are forced into circumstances that aren’t aligned with you. I think all voices can be beneficial when discussing topics like these. Some study it, some experience it. It’s all helpful when it’s coming from a place of authenticity and genuine intention.