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I'm not sure we need medication, we need acceptance. Surely medication is about getting people to act and think in ways that conform to our toxic western culture. There are more and more diagnoses because it's harder and harder to fit in and meet societal expectations.

Parenting with AHDH is so hard, especially when you're not diagnosed or newly diagnosed. When you start to understand how AHDH impacts you and your parenting style you begin to have a bit more compassion for yourself and learn methods and tips that work for you instead of trying things that don't work for someone with a unique brain ❤😊

A new perspective would blend better with the future of the evolutionary process. A hyper driven need to search out better and more productive ways to view and live better. It’s not about perfection in doing the samething better. It’s about searching out new and innovative ways. A work around if you might say.

For me it is really complicated. I had absence epilepsy from the age of 2 to the age of 11-12. Now it is possible that I would have developed a lot of these symptoms without the epilepsy but Ican't differenciate the symptoms from medical side effects and I feel like my whole self only started developping after getting freed of my epilepsy and the medication. But that was after the age of 12. After that I had everything on that list, now I don't know what to tell the doctor's

I watched something this week about ND people’s processing styles. Many ADHD people have what’s known as Verbal Processing styles. So we don’t forget we tend to either repeat what someone has said before they have finished or blurt out something that will make us remember what is being said. It’s how many of us learn and retain information and to an NT it just looks like interrupting or talking over them. Taking over people or interrupting is actually a compliment from an ND to an NT as it actually means we are engaged and really interested in what they are saying

thanks for this Diane. it is very recent for us parents, I feel relief that I can finally name/describe the difficulty my child has. I feel the freedom to say properly what it is rather than try to work with usual strategies for ASD that don't work for him, thank you very much for what you shared in this interview!! ❤❤❤❤

And being 'locked in' my head doesn't help me starting new projects, even art that l love

The best way I can explain my ADHD habit of interrupting is to say that when ideas come to me they carry a kind of tremendous explosive energy and I can't just sit and patiently wait for the right moment to express them. It's like trying to suppress an orgasm. It is sad that it often makes people view me as rude and irritating, but on the other hand, I don't actually mind when people interrupt me. I actually crave intense, lively, chaotic, passionate conversations with people, and I feel like conventions of politeness just get in the way.

Congratulations 🎉👏🎉

I was diagnosed with Inattentive 13hours ago. I'm 50. This explains a lot!

Charity: "What are you're housing needs?" Me: "I don't know what you mean.." Charity: "You need to tell me what your expectations are." Me: "I just need a room with a bed and somewhere to plug in my laptop and phone" Charity: "Okay, you need to apply for a private residence this weekend. Will you do that?" Me: "Um, okay.. (Well now I can't do that)"

Meditation is great for adhd i speak on experience

Mine cripples me most days, i have ptsd too and its hell. I do have loop ear plugs that help dampen it but for me its not just eating its everything! I work in a free play arcade which you'd think would be hell but where its so many loud sounds its strangely better but when I leave I have to adjust slowly to the difference or i cant handle the low ambience with trigger noises. I praise headspace too! But boy howdy do i wish that there was a cure!!!! 😭

can i get contact info for the man featured in this video?

Great topic and tools. I have improved on this a lot over the years by asking more questions, and focusing more on listening and trying to respond to the other person more (basically putting myself second) but my partner gets annoyed with me sometimes still for 'broadcasting'... When I'm wrapped up talking about something to a friend, when I remember that I have only been talking about myself, I make a point of asking them something about their life, or even saying, sorry I've been talking all about me so far, what about you?! It's a constant effort though, when I relax and feel really myself, it jumps back in, or I jump back in! 😅

wow you are all so horribly transphobic. i feel so badly for the countless transwomen and transmen that you have tried to push back into the closet. fucking aweful.

Thanks. I appreciate🌬️🌤️🕊️.

Great interview! That bit about untreated ADHD making us more susceptible to dementia I had never heard. That's unsettling.

I believe myself and daughter are autistic with pda & adhd. However, i think the “cant not wont” needs more nuance. Autism is a spectrum and in my own experience PDA is as well. There are days when I can but wont. There are situations where its really REALLY difficult but I can if the stakes are high enough. But if i comply, the burden of masking, and the repressed rage, and the ultimate burnout, and the ableist expectations are increasing at at unsustainable pace.

I see Carol is an ABA trainer. Much of the autistic community is pretty opposed to the ABA. I wonder if she still trains in ABA , or how Carol views the overarching viewpoint of the autistic community's view of ABA.

Way to go!

I've found it super helpful to set a rule for myself: ask 3 questions before I let myself 'relate' to the information I've just received. It's helping. Sometimes I forget and go off in a tangent, or blurt out whatever my brain has reacted with. But I've found that if I come back after that and ask my three questions, people are more aware that I listened and that I care. Don't be afraid to revisit what someone said, even if you say something inappropriate in response initially.

Yeah I can't imagine the worst thing than being genetically or neurologically driven to be a cheat. Yeah I need a job sir I need to make some money sir could you give me a chance sure show up tomorrow at 8:00 HELL NO I'M NOT A SLAVE I OUGHT TO BE THE BOSS. What do you do on a job site when you pull a co-worker up like that and you're going to be gone from this job if this concrete pour doesn't go good and this guy won't do what has agreed to do to receive the money. These people are not welcome anywhere that you expect to say something like excuse me could I get through here or anything like that they're just vile to deal with. I like the pervasive demand for autonomy idea you just autonom over there.

I HATE IT!!! IT’S SO ANNOYING AND IT’S LIKE WANTING TO CHOP YOUR EARS OFF AND CLOSE YOUR EYES!! -someone with moderate Misophonia since 9, and has visual triggers.

Only a psychiatrist can prescribe ADHD medication. My nurse practitioner said he/she could not.

Everyone has a level of ADHD. Some are bad enough to need medication. Over 25% of people in prison have a serious problem.

I have lvl 1 austim and adhd. I interrupt all the time. Sometimes i dont even know i make faces while someone is talkin

A republican or democrat yells, no issue. A soldier yells, no issue. An officer yells, no issue. A judge yells, no issue. An autistic person so much as raises their voice, everyone loses their damn minds.

Thanks a lot ❤

What percentage of people have severe mental illnesses?

I was a presenter for IOOV (In Our Own Voice) in Albuquerque, NM. It is a good program. It is difficult to find mental health resources in Albuquerque as well. I am glad you are talking about autism. My autism was hidden by my mental health problems. I was in the mental health system since age 15 but wasn't diagnosed with autism until age 47.

Looks cool!

So what works is what should be 'normal' ie respect & consideration & healthy, kind, self-responsible communication like NVC (also known as Compassionate Communication). Saying PDAers need authenticity & to figure out their needs is something that all folk need!! .. I am autistic &may be PDA but to me the whole thing is feeling ridiculous, that the required accomodations ought to be standard. Eg asking how someone feels is not an accommodation! That's basic!! And 'normal', healthy people need /should have autonomy! And just about everyone be better to stop talking in format of stating orders,"demands", instructions.. why should you say to your child "I" "want" "you" to make your bed every day.. grrrrrr!! And Yes, hassling and placing demands often causes reactions.. & why not?? This whole thing called PDA seems to me a communication & being-controlled & yes pressured/expectations/ you-are-less-than-me issue ..and we are all equal as souls. It's hard to find the words.. I'm feeling infuriated listening to this. Why is cooperation not the norm with children? How about explaining a few things that improve one's living conditions, generally, for everyone, and why, esp as autistic Beings generally really value comprehending why for everything, and to ask the child /person what do they think /feel about it? How would they best get these necessary activities complete? Wouldn't everyone do better with some autonomy and less intrusive /directive management styles?? Yes absolutely, 'spoons' get used up. Isss "everything a spectrum"?? What lousy communication to just say "Take out the garbage"! Yes, indeed, absolutely, if you really can't manage to do something it doesn't matter how big the reward is, a big reward just makes the situation feel worse. Big sigh. Glad folks are taking this seriously as I'm finding it hard to do that & even with autism I can see why NTs can find it hard to comprehend. Feels to me like more personal research is required, for me anyway, & most people don't have the time (I've chronic health issues & physical injuries, so have more time than most tho difficulty with executive functions & keeping consistent focus, often wuzzy mind, plus lack of social interaction & practical support doesn't help.. more hugs pleeeease!!) Interesting about school, demands & expectations..(&bullying) ~ wow, how much is changing nowadays, that's great - I left school in 1987! Aged 18. In UK , went to a free' school, government run. Some time out then got to University but then got ill & eventually dropped out. 30 years later 2017 diagnosed autistic & adhd & dyscalculia & cptsd & a sleep disorder dspd.. which all had resulted in high anxiety & confusing difficulties & burnout. Some fight but mostly flight & freeze & a lot of fawn & meltdowns, with subtle resistance & discreet disobedience. I guess i was lucky to be only child of single mother who wasn't well & was lax on discipline. But I wanted to be helpful & did things to help without being asked. It made sense. Why would she need to 'tell' me? - I could see what needed doing. And we were a team (mostly) So many labels. I'm not against them, can be useful short-hand for what is experienced, but it can seem crazy ~ I'm me! And I'm fine if you treat me with respect & consideration & don't make a big deal out of my quirks & "eccentric" ~ to me logical~ ways of doing things. My elderly aunt tells me, as if it is a negative thing, "you've got an answer for everything".. yes, because I think about everything carefully, I can't seem to help doing that, & is why decisions take so long and I get so tired

I don't just want autonomy and control, I want someone to do it with that I trust.

My 26 year old adult has PDA. I've known since investigating 10 years ago and being in Canada folks had no idea what I was talking about :( Being our youngest of 3 we had to change our parenting style 100 per cent. It is difficult to always watch our language in asking him to do anything. We must change the way we verbally present things to him. He works off and on only...when he needs new instruments. He masks to others as a musician. Our young man is amazing and overcomes so many obstacles in each and every day.

Just because you are offered anti-anxiety medicine doesn't mean that you have to take it. Doctors have been trying to give me addictive medications for over 30 years. You can refuse to take it.

I would love to go to the fairy forest! When I was little, my older sister would entertain me with stories of fairies that she made up, and I actually believed her, haha. She's a very good storyteller. 🌼

Congratulations!

That must be expensive.

My ADHD never lets me finish these videos, sadly.

Autism crime. (Optimum prime)

We have diagnosis of ADHD and Social Pragmatic Communication Disorder amd suspicion of ODD, but i think this makes more sense. Not trying to say i know better than doctors, but i know HIM better than they do.

It would be a great idea if it was being done for all the right reasons and not to just throw more pharmaceuticals at people, like most mental health services do in communities across the US. It looks like CZcams wants to keep deleting my comments, I wonder why? Oh, I know, because CZcams DOESN'T LIKE THE TRUTH.

It would be a great idea if it was being done for all the right reasons and not to just throw more pharmaceuticals at people, like most mental health services do in communities across the US. If more and more people are chronically anxious in the United States of Narcissists, it's only because of the economy, clearly we all have good reason to be anxious if no one wants to pay us a living wage and we're drowned in student loan debt, unless we are part of the "we have more money so we pay less taxes" crowd 🙄

What I struggle with most is not writing an essay to convey a small peice of information and knowing where to draw the line, and what doesn't need to be included.

I have ADHD but not reduced the whole problem to dopamin regulation. The problem is more complex.

The easiest, most effective, and most ethical solution for dealing with a PDAer is to grant to them and respect the autonomy they demand. Beating around the bush as suggested is as infantilizing as it is infantile. Yes, a "honey-do" list is unreasonably difficult for me to comply with. However, approaching me with something like "My parents are visiting next week and I'm anxious about x, y, and z" puts me in to monotropic problem solver mode. Speaking for just myself, obviously.

I finally see I’m not broken. Thank you

I couldn't stop staring at the right side of her face

"role play"? If I tell my kindergartener to use the toilet he won't. But If I tell him he's a cute puppy and I'm a vet, give him a pretend shot, and have him sit for observation, he'll sit on the toilet for 10 minutes. Are you SURE this can't be part of ADHD?