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Episode 021: Pretending's not the answer
Tired of the fake stuff? So are we. In this raw and real episode, we talk about how pretending might feel safe, but it’s not where God wants us. We share our own struggles and how Christ calls us out of the comfort of pretending and into the freedom of being real. No more masks, no more playing it safe. We’re not slaves to sin or our old ways. We’re new creations in Christ. Tune in as we unpack what it means to drop the act and live authentically.
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What to Say When Someone is Devastated
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How to Set Boundaries
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What You Don't Know About Gossip
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What You Don't Know About Gossip
Toxic Friends Will Make YOU TOXIC
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The Real and Hard Conversations
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Keeping Your Friends While You're Engaged
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things to talk about with your friend
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Friends with the opposite sex
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The Reality of Christian - Non-Christian Relationships
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Friendship In The Bible
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Friendship In The Bible
His Life-Changing Moment With JESUS.
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Starting conversation with a stranger
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WHY DO FRIENDSHIPS END?
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questions for friends
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questions for friends
friends with benefits
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friends with benefits
difference between real friends and fake friends
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How Forgiveness Changed My Life A Real Friendship Story
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The Power of Relationships
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Does friendships matter?
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ARE friends overrated
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WHY care about friendships ( Full Episode )
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Hey Friend
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Hey Friend

Komentáře

  • @birdbath2002
    @birdbath2002 Před 5 dny

    If we don’t forgive our parents it will stand between you being able to love yourself and the good in the world. ❤

  • @GalaxyNewsRadio_
    @GalaxyNewsRadio_ Před 6 dny

    Look into the history of your book and its many versions

  • @silkee1922
    @silkee1922 Před 20 dny

    I agree.

  • @tonyolsson3880
    @tonyolsson3880 Před 27 dny

    Yeah the problem is this. If you care more about God, then God is what you will be left with. My mother cared only about God, so she ended up without her family and just had God. Family is more important then anything, no exceptions in any way.

    • @heyfriendpodcast
      @heyfriendpodcast Před 27 dny

      I hear you. The Bible teaches that loving God helps us love others better. Matthew 22:37-39 says to love God first and then love others as ourselves.

    • @tonyolsson3880
      @tonyolsson3880 Před 27 dny

      @@heyfriendpodcast yeah and thats how my mother lost her family. She only focused on God but not her family.

  • @David-fg5xv
    @David-fg5xv Před měsícem

    I need prayer for my mouth.

  • @vana.mitchell6788
    @vana.mitchell6788 Před měsícem

    What you answered ,ok plant in your garden ....

  • @vana.mitchell6788
    @vana.mitchell6788 Před měsícem

    Did he want children in his own likeness, or just most others,cause that deep for one no to really be the example, hold on,

  • @360_tours
    @360_tours Před měsícem

    Dont see a ring on his finger. Sometimes you gotta be a man and not let the words get to you.

    • @heyfriendpodcast
      @heyfriendpodcast Před 27 dny

      Well, I’m not sure what your image of being a man looks like, but for me, it’s about being the safest person for my family, friends, and anyone I care about. The Bible says we should lead with love and integrity. It’s okay to have tough conversations, but our motives and words should always be to build others up. What’s your definition of being a man?

  • @silverlinings365
    @silverlinings365 Před měsícem

    Oh and you keep going back to same old habits? Ask yourself why!! You always knows the answer!!

  • @silverlinings365
    @silverlinings365 Před měsícem

    Imagine you gossiping, the person finds out and tracked yoi down who started gossiping and the rest of your life everybody start gossiping about how much you are untrustworthy person, talking down. Or the person you gossiped about got so much stressed and passed away with cancer. Or remember God is watching, and The Creater of this earth revenges back to you!! Or promises you make to your loved one is from your mouth and so as you gossip about are from the same mouth like one foust can't have clean water and the dirty water at the same time like Bible says. You pray instead of gossiping even about simple things. Let God know, so he can handle.

    • @heyfriendpodcast
      @heyfriendpodcast Před 27 dny

      Thank you for sharing this. Gossip can really mess things up and hurt people. The Bible talks about using our words to lift each other up, not tear each other down. Let’s focus on being kind and real with each other.

  • @deeznutshahgoteem
    @deeznutshahgoteem Před měsícem

    u kinda sound like markiplier

  • @benjaminmorris2312
    @benjaminmorris2312 Před měsícem

    ???

  • @rijd2304
    @rijd2304 Před měsícem

    The meditation book called 30 Days to Overcome a Toxic Relationship by Harper Daniels helped me a lot to escape it mentally

  • @SJxMusic-ji6yy
    @SJxMusic-ji6yy Před měsícem

    Imo people take this kinda stuff and go so far into wrong with this. Theres a fine line between compassion and forgiving and simply being a pushover/enabler

    • @heyfriendpodcast
      @heyfriendpodcast Před 27 dny

      We definitely need to forgive, even when it’s hard, but it’s also important to set boundaries. Compassion doesn’t mean being a pushover.

  • @ipadaccount4676
    @ipadaccount4676 Před měsícem

    stop trying to convert me youtube

  • @minoxamine6045
    @minoxamine6045 Před 2 měsíci

    But what if the cost of msemmen is way too high ? how do you navigate the landscape of your emotional / psychological state of absolute existence ? Anyways i love the content keep it up but please next time lose the attitude It only works when everyone is on board my g peace sign please

  • @AdeyemiAkinsola
    @AdeyemiAkinsola Před 2 měsíci

    I love you Lord

  • @mikacandy5
    @mikacandy5 Před 2 měsíci

    That's wild... You know, even Steve jobs said he wouldn't give his children an ipad. It's almost as if they knew how bad this stuff is for mental health. 😊

  • @user-jd5fj3gl8h
    @user-jd5fj3gl8h Před 2 měsíci

    Either this is out of context or you’re out of context.

  • @drew8958
    @drew8958 Před 2 měsíci

    I can be friends with anyone I choose, because I don't believe in a one true God, so I don't find it offensive to my beliefs if someone believes in a God which ever one it is. Although once, someone who I worked with years ago, said I need to bring Jesus into my life or I will go to hell. I laughed and explained that we wouldn't be friends. It just wasn't going to work! All in all decent people don't behave like that in my experience do not use their "God" to intimidate and are kind, gentle souls.

  • @LightHouse_222
    @LightHouse_222 Před 2 měsíci

    No is my answer. It has been 7 months since I came back to Jesus in a full way. He has been calling me for 4 years and I have had to process 40 years of sin. Friendships led me away from him when I was 15. Now, aged 55, I will not contaminate myself with their strong pagan ways because a close friendship is like osmosis. We absorb without realizing what we absorb. We can have colleagues and we can evangelise, but a true friend walks with us. I walk with Christ. I talk daily to the Holy Ghost. I obey my Heavenly Father. My pagan friends do not respect that relationship. Let me ask this. When one gets married and there are friends who are openly against the concept of marriage and through their behaviour, comments, and actions discredit marriage. Tell me how long those friendships will last before the spouse starts saying " I do not like your friends influence on you." Is not our relationship with the Holy Trinity the most important in our life? Would we compromise or weaken that to keep a friendship or develop a friendship with a person who is not walking with God? Had I turned my back on that friend when I was 15, and stayed true to my new faith, I would not have gone down the path she led me down. Chose your friends wisely. Invite them to walk with you, but do not think you can walk two paths. You cannot. Try this. Evangelise in very conversation you have with them. They will end up breaking it off. "Too much Jesus talk" or some comment like that. They want you without God? Let them go. Pray for them.

  • @roberta4254
    @roberta4254 Před 2 měsíci

    We are not the Light Jesus is, we bear witness of the light. John 1:6-9 KJV There was a man sent from God, whose name was John. The same came for a witness, to bear witness of the Light, that all men through him might believe. He was not that Light, but was sent to bear witness of that Light. That was the true Light, which lighteth every man that cometh into the world. Read the whole Bible KJV it is considered the best translation and has past the test of time.

  • @roberta4254
    @roberta4254 Před 2 měsíci

    I highly recommend reading Malachi chapter 3:verses 16-18 and KJV Bible, read it cover to cover it is our guide for our salvation and what we need to do or not do as we grow. I have read Gods Word KJV many times and have not regretted one minute of it. Proverbs 1:10 KJV .

  • @WowSentora
    @WowSentora Před 2 měsíci

    The mere fact you ask this question should make you look at and question who you are following… because God it ain’t!!

  • @Waimapu_Wahine
    @Waimapu_Wahine Před 2 měsíci

    Othering people is the illness. You are pressed as you are judging others. Let go of judgement, it will only make you ill and narrow minded.

  • @amen5552
    @amen5552 Před 2 měsíci

    By freeing your mind from the control of the church..

  • @LBelieveinJesus
    @LBelieveinJesus Před 2 měsíci

    Of course you can but just be careful you're adding to their life and not accidentally becoming more like them if they have the same bad habits you gave up for Jesus. And genuinely befriend them don't just be their friend to get them saved. Love your neighbour and keep them in your prayers.

  • @mariahb1021
    @mariahb1021 Před 2 měsíci

    Full link?

    • @heyfriendpodcast
      @heyfriendpodcast Před 2 měsíci

      czcams.com/video/jln2H24AGtg/video.htmlsi=mde6tKDgnUC6452L

  • @crismedley1753
    @crismedley1753 Před 2 měsíci

    Well the bible says no. So as a Christian follow that.

  • @bcharlieee
    @bcharlieee Před 2 měsíci

    As a catholic i cannot comprehend this question. We are supposed to be the light in this world, not only light within the church. Thanks, Martin.

  • @erikagaleeureka5697
    @erikagaleeureka5697 Před 2 měsíci

    Absolutely! We're here to share God's love with each other and create like our Creator with others. That's why we're here. I think this question is totally valid with the shame and guilt cycle of Christianity at the forefront, but my question in response is, "Why wouldn't you want friends with differing perceptions?" We are all having the same human experience.

  • @ElffQueen1
    @ElffQueen1 Před 2 měsíci

    Sad lonely cultist 😢

  • @Goatpuncher898
    @Goatpuncher898 Před 2 měsíci

    Talk to us but the second u try converting us no more communication bc ur annoying.

  • @march31
    @march31 Před 2 měsíci

    Aren't we all sinners?

  • @TheGejuhu
    @TheGejuhu Před 2 měsíci

    3# of Bull Crap

  • @kevin-en2pi
    @kevin-en2pi Před 2 měsíci

    He was just hanging out with the fun crowd.Sometimes you have to unwind

  • @jaydubya7012
    @jaydubya7012 Před 2 měsíci

    They became ex sinners. He clearly said he came for the lost. Sinners are lost people. Yes i know, we all still sin but saved people dont walk in sin.

  • @bruhstudios1569
    @bruhstudios1569 Před 2 měsíci

    This is stupid, the term “hanging out with sinners” indicates there is a difference between sinners and non sinners, even though we all are sinners and are not all perfect.

    • @phenixorbitall3917
      @phenixorbitall3917 Před 2 měsíci

      Correct: christian = a sinner asking God for forgiveness, guidance and protection

  • @MrPojopojo
    @MrPojopojo Před 2 měsíci

    What kind of weird doomer crap is this? The world ain't secular, far from it. Your saviour didn't act above others so why do you feel guilty for being like your countrymen? Just keep to your tennants, keep them to yourself, and live.

  • @taverntimes6806
    @taverntimes6806 Před 2 měsíci

    Dude use your words. 😂😂😂

  • @LousyNine
    @LousyNine Před 2 měsíci

    Talk to and surround yourself with are very, very different things.

  • @jillianbennett380
    @jillianbennett380 Před 2 měsíci

    Yep theres a fine line. To me a lady in her 50’s where you come to be bit more selective with friends you want to spend time with, you certainly do need to be sure of your faith, spend plenty of time building yourself up, feed on the Word, find a church you can grow in and be diligent in living authentically. I can see how letting go of certain friendships has helped me be closer to God. Keep short accounts and ask the Holy Spirit to show you where you need to work on areas you’re slipping up in. Pray, pray, pray. Keep worldly friends out of your inner circle too. Don’t be seeking counsel from them on big issues…that’s when you need to seek Christian friends. ❤

  • @ClansmanK
    @ClansmanK Před 2 měsíci

    'come out from among them and be ye desperate'

  • @missykowalewski
    @missykowalewski Před 2 měsíci

    There is a big difference in involving non believers in your personal life and speaking to non believers about Jesus. If u have a cookout for family and friends that’s different than meeting someone randomly in public or someone who walked into ur church or in the line at the grocery story. Why make this confusing? That just isn’t necessary.

  • @brofessormex
    @brofessormex Před 2 měsíci

    Were bringing it back. At least us men who are sick of degeneracy. Jesus is lord. I hope he comes soon

  • @soltomoon3620
    @soltomoon3620 Před 2 měsíci

    you copied George Janko podcast background in the thumbnails?

  • @ITSSKUDDUMMY
    @ITSSKUDDUMMY Před 2 měsíci

    As long as you keep your toys to yourself and don’t insist we play with them, us atheists welcome the company as well

  • @scottwhitaker9570
    @scottwhitaker9570 Před 2 měsíci

    There is no challenge with answering this question. It's pretty clear Jesus came with a ministry. Scripture clearly tells us that the reason he hung out with these ones at the Pharisees called sinners publicans and centers. That is is because he did not come to save the righteous but those that were like them and actually that includes you and me. The reason you and I don't hang out with sinners even though we are sinners ourselves is because as a Christian, if you know what sin is then you should not mingle with it. You're not perfectly like Jesus, neither am I. So we have warning to not stand too close to the edge. Walk straight and narrow walk forward. Don't turn back like a dog and don't turn to those who continue to live in a sinful lifestyle and justify it. That you're delineation so there is no argument for one side versus what I just said

  • @asawood4726
    @asawood4726 Před 3 měsíci

    Christians are the descendants of those left behind at Yeshua's return in 66 CE. They altered the Scriptures by replacing all the Holy Names with pagan ones. This was to give the Glory to evil demons. The proof of this is that only Satan has kept the original name. Check it out.

  • @Dawnarow
    @Dawnarow Před 3 měsíci

    Having a better definition of what friendship is works^5 better than this nightmarish junkyard book that I, among countless considerate and thoughtful people (that have higher moral standards than the majority / if not all theists) have walked away from it.. I wasn't even in my teens and I kept finding major issues with it that created more dissension than it consolidated relationships. Start by having a better definition of friendship, though... then you can learn to discuss with someone that cares enough to tell you that you are wrong about some of your perspectives. Until you do, you will always see oppositions rather than opinions based on knowledge. Good friends Call your out on your neglect so it doesn't fester into ignorance. Religion is filled with ignorance, deflections and excuses... the most famous one being: "it was not meant to be" to justify a failed relationship (remaining on topic). Please, learn predictive models of reality and use the same type of logic to discern how ludicrous the propositions are. Learn to be okay with not knowing so that curiosity seeps in whenever its not too taxing. Wake up and say: "I dont know". Become a better student and a better person. You will meet the folks that "you would find in heaven"... since my message is similar to the one spoken in scripture... but heaven is here and, if you are conscious, your guilt forces you into a hell of your own making. I have a gal friend that.. longs for the afterlife because of how much guilt she has... this society considers her "npd" and nothing can help her. Praying actually messed her up even worse as she's the most devoted to religion I've ever met. The verses she uses (not misconstrued) prevent her from learning anything and no amount of careful consideration and tact can pull her out as she has always had a stunted learning curve due to religion after her dad died. I asked her if she would be moral if god didn't exist a few years ago and she said no and she would be lawless and do her worst. I told her that I have always been morally sound... she knew this deep down and she was always attracted to me trying to give me hints over the years as other men rejected her harshly (understandably so). The thing is... she had never learned empathy Because of religion and the anger she felt. Every other emotion she classified under anger or joy. Extremums became her only grasp over this subject and that is supported by scripture... It may seem subtle, but it isn't. Creating oppositions is frequent and forces the mind to think in terms of opposites rather than gradients (and nuances of grey etc). The only exception to me being moral was to accept being with her a few months ago. All she wanted was to be loved (remember that she doesn't know what that is.. she can't know since she has no empathy and emulates these = npd.. trump, if you will. That's a good example). Her prefrontal cortex has very low activity and I've had to instigate the basis of her own mind as this was the missing notion. I juggled through the abuses, lies, deceptions (most of them were intuitive and not from a will to hurt me, but a will to prevent herself from being hurt... which is completely fucked/selfish, but she knows no alternative besides, maybe, someone selling her a "win win" case). Anyways.. I thought the few months apart would let her consolidate her own mind, but I wasn't given enough time (couldn't accept some of the aggravating issues/manipulations/abuses or insults other men threw at her.. that she used against me to try to get a rise/ditch the hurt she fells when finding "opposition"). I know that talking to theists about this is like pretending you have a grip on reality that you dont so its utterly pointless, but... nobody on my side of the fence understands why I want to help the collective of humanity. As if there was something wrong in providing accurate answers and Actually bringing down heaven on earth (Not a metaphor). She is in hell and only 'learning integrity' along with a slew of other principles to attached to the "self" she's never allowed to grow will save her. I've never found much of a challenge about explaining anything, but.. pulling someone out of hell is... a treacherous journey. If she allowed me to apply one of 6 extremely well thought attempts to create perspective.. perhaps this would've helped. There were Also Very abrupt means to create a realization, but those would've made her flee (record/film an argument where nothing made sense) and demonstrate that she should trust that somehow has her best interest at heart and that everyone trusts that person to do just that. Heck, it would've empowered her, too. Kind of "using" a person (I would've taught her how to communicate properly so that it isn't "instrumental" but.. respectful. She had the "grateful" act understood, but imagine being handed a hot chocolate cup and being angry when you are hurt and look at her because she did something wrong... She was stuck in her childhood Believing she was always right and, as only means to turn it around: her angelic friend whom she always wanted to date. After 3 months a decade ago, I knew something was off. She's demonstrated being everything wrong with the society as she was just copying behaviors that seemed to "attract/win" etc. No moral values, there. That is religion. It's not a book about morality, but one about men that wanted to create unity. Mu s l ims also follow a manipulative liar (got to read that crap last year just because Iwanted to understand what the f it was all about). It is just all the issues with the bible multiplied by 500. Read the first two pages... only men taunt. And no, it wouldn't be hard to make a bigger religion than both I s la m and Chr i s ti anity combined with what I have in my mind. I do blame humanity for her pain. Nobody should have to endure seclusion like she does with completely insane coping mechanisms (lies, at best). Later, internet.