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Kait also has to stop saying she settled for JJ. JJ is super handsome, kind, intelligent, funny. He’s a 10/10. Many people dream of finding a man like that! She hit the jackpot. She didn’t have to settle for anything. It just seems wrong or ungrateful to phrase it that way and use the word “settling”.

Soo good !

I really liked Jessica Chung. She was so honest and I really felt like I could relate to her troubled past. I come from a broken family and had the same messages relayed to me about the excitement of lust and chance encounters. I was also always drawn to bad guys and had difficulty developing attraction to good guys. I’m relieved to hear that sometimes it can take months if we are not programmed that way. Thank you Jess 🙏! This gave me hope!

Difficult topic, laced with shame and secrecy....I appreciate that Riley Kehoe's firm stance on this, coming out of real Spirit-led struggle, in minute 31 she introduced Scriptures that really speak to the heart of this. Of the three speakers, she presents the most mature position. Thank you JJ for tactfully challenging the Brene Brown shame narrative, it is not done often enough in Christian discussions.

She’s a born again “virgin” 🙄

Um, this is some of the worst advice I’ve heard about dating/marriage. It’s a horrible idea settle for someone or have someone settle for you. Life and relationships are enough work as it is. And the person who “settled” will always think they could’ve done better. This becomes a problem when it comes to things like wanting to resolve conflicts and avoid infidelity.

Feel super bad for her husband, she settled for him and will never let him forget it. Don't simp for these women bros.

No he means that’s the brides husband and the brides bestie Hope that helped

Swingers

that’s his daughter

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THAT'S NOT HER HUSBAND?!?! 😮😮

Don’t you mean dancing with the love of your life and your wife?

God does beautiful things 😊

And in answering your prayers, God ignored those of the 6 year olds dying of leukemia.

Is that NIKADIWA

Praise the Lord 🎉🎉🎉🎉congratulations ❤

Fuuuu After rejecting like 25 women the one I like is stuck on her ex

Recent viewer to your YT channel and from the videos I've seen I am mostly in agreement with the majority of your content, I want to thank you for being a refreshing voice in how to date within a sound biblical framework. This however is the first video that gives me serious concern on your platform. I think others on this thread have commented more eloquently to the same concerns I share. I admire your work within HOD, but this message needs as one commenter stated, other voices that open up your presentation of this topic. I recommend to anyone reading this to listen and read Dr. Christopher Yuan and encourage HOD to reach out to him for an interview. Please hear me that I speak this not from a place of judgement, but from a heart of concern as to what we are rightly discerning and communication to other believers and the world at large.

Personality, and emotional health are everything.

if he's a man he can't but that's no different than all other men.

Thank you That honest appology & Empathy Touched my hearts the the guys in my dsting experiances who hurt me. I felt the Holy Spirit in you Touch the Lives of many others. 🙏🙏🌸

sure, why not? in god's eyes we're all gay losers unless we acknowledge how totally awesome he is and thank him for burning in hell for 3 days for us.

I like your testimony of how you both prayed the same prayer. So cool. I’m still watching the video but my question is what if you’re trying to live your best single life and it’s not working? I tried to travel, build friendships, start new businesses, and grow closer to God and it has been like God is slowing me down and giving me limitations in my singleness. I get upset that im not reaching all the single goals and living my best life like so many people talk about. im just thankful for the small wins and Gods presence in this time. I think I’m the type of person who absorbs way too much so I don’t typically watch videos like this because I get overwhelmed by all the perspectives and ideals. i don’t need to fight my limitations and I just need to live fully however that looks like. Even if I can’t eat at cafes by myself. I think I need to focus on the heart of surrendering in my singleness . Thanks again for sharing the prayer and the insights about distractions and blinders. It’s a good thing to pray and remember, to not awaken love until it is time. It’s also good to be reminded to be humble in being led to the right person and patient for the ignition and clarity as well.

Hi JJ, may the Lord bless you from Santo Domingo, Dominican Republic! Thanks for sharing this episode, I really like it.

Loved the principle of leaving them better than you found them. How honorable!

Great info!

Chivalry is dead and women killed it.

the chick at the beginning basically admitted that women are entitled narcissists who are on dating sites to feed their egos by putting people at the buffet down (because they expect a 5 star restaurant). you're judged by your actions not your beliefs or self-given labels; if you feel good about rejecting people for superficial reasons you're a shallow piece of crap.

Can someone help me find the original talk they mention??

Great episode Kait & JJ! 🙌

Ugh, I’ve all but quit telling ANY one if I’m dating anyone b/c suddenly in their mind I’m in a relationship and must inform them if and when we are not dating anymore. My advice is yes go on dates as much as you’re comfortable with and as often as you want and just don’t tell your Christian friends who think it’ll your dating someone that means your basically engaged lol. 🤦🏼‍♀️ and no I’m not talking about sleeping around.

This is so encourging. I matched with someone on Hinge, and initially wasn't attracted to him, but he was bold in his approach. Many dates later, we are together. And I'm so happy I said yes to the date!!

It’s crazy how if the roles were reversed the internet would go off at him! I think some things should be left unsaid period. No one wants to go into marriage thinking they didn’t find their spouse attractive. As a woman we already have our own insecurities and for your husband to point out that they weren’t attracted to you initially would hurt you 100%, no matter how secure you are. This should be the same for roles reversed, definitely a double standard.

Thank you guys!!

I see Jesus in you.

This is so good... ❤🥰

Is thus for real? I am getting signs that I'm supposed to be with a certain man.

"What you're signing up for as a husband and a father is you are the priest, the pastor, and the provider for your family." I would ask you to reconsider the theological implications of this statement. Both men and women are called the priesthood of believers. To elevate one gender as priest, pastor, and provider in the partnership of marriage veers dangerously towards placing a mediator between wives and God. Instead, I would suggest encouraging single men to show women spiritual initiative and partnership, rather than "spiritual leadership." Especially, as that phrase never actually makes an appearance in scripture.

Let’s gooooo!! SOO good, JJ!! Thanks for sharing vulnerably your own experiences too!! Seinfeld example and Self-denial vs self-fulfillment 🔥👏

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Saying “I’m a Christian who struggles with (fill in the blank)” is vastly different than saying “I’m a (fill in the blank) Christian”. You guys are really twisting language to make this work. I’m halfway in and haven’t heard a single reference to the Bible, which should be our our guide in these matters. Watched through and on such a hot topic, you quoted the Webster dictionary and referenced feelings, but failed to reference the ultimate authority, the Bible. Jj said something like another Christian’s holiness and walk with Jesus is their business. That isn’t what I read in Matthew. I read that we are to take care of our own issues, but we are also to hold one another accountable. Agreed that being “gay” or “same-sex attracted” isn’t a sin in and of itself, until there is list or action, but why would we identify ourselves as our sin, like a badge of honor?!! Remember: “Matthew 7:3-5 New International Version 3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”

What if, you meet a girl at a conference, you hit it off. I get her number, tell her I’m into her.. she has a positive response, I end up spending some time with her dropping her off at the airport, our conversations are super solid in person. Then we start texting a bit, then later couple months the road she ends up moving into town, my flesh totally thought that was a God thing 😂… then I ask her out and she friendzones ya boy 😅😅😂 I still like this girl and I see her all the time at church. I don’t want to be pushy if she’s not into me but it seemed like she was and maybe felt like I was too direct… because I was pretty direct 😂 What would you do in this situation!?

JJ was onto something a bit after 12 minute mark. We don’t identify as “drunk Christian” or “angry Christian”.. or I’d add “wife-beating Christian”, or “thief / liar Christian”. You get the point. Our identify should be in Christ, to hear anyone identify themselves as their sexual preference (or any sin) + Christian is odd. The entire lgbtqia2s+ faster-than-ever-growing movement is a tool of the devil to keep people separated from God. It really is the only sun I can think of that is so widely celebrated and that a person actually proudly identifies themself by. That’s the power it has over people is they have allowed it to become their identity. Look even closer at the slippery slope of the lgbt community and movement, where we are today, encouraging and allowing kids as young as 7/8 to choose their genders and to mutilate them in the name of this new identity, and in that change a direct denial of the way God created then. We have an identity crisis in this world, ruled by a spirit of confusion and hyper-sexuality.

JJ looking Swoll!

Wow, as someone who has been listening for well over a year on Apple Podcasts, I never realized how small the Chanel was, keep up the good work, if if the numbers aren’t crazy, the impact is still there