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I would never do that to another women. I would never agree to be a secret second wife knowing that the man is already married. That's just disgusting. Ladies have some respect for yourself and for other women.

Quran does not says it is ok required to let your other wife know. Just treat them both justly and devivde time among them fairly and take care of them equally. The wife's permision is also not necessary to marry another woman, in the quran.

You are all SO NAIVE 😱 and the men are keeping you naive. Wake up

All this is sickening honestly, it is just am excuse to have sex like animals

Those sisters can do mutah. It’s also allowed in Islam.

These men with secret wives are always finding a moment to humiliate and distress the first wives as they don’t know why it’s happening to them! I would say that the rejection and harshness that comes to dwell with the first wife for ever and ever is so damaging that I think can’t be treated in this life at least!

You sisters said that the man does not have to tell his wife. This is FALSE. He doesn't need her permission, however the Prophet pbuh said that MARRIAGES MUST BE PUBLICIZED FOR MANY LOGICAL AND PRACTICAL AND SOCIAL REASONS. So, if marriages must be publicized then OBVIOUSLY THE WIFE WOULD KNOW AND SHOULD KNOW. if the community knows! Also, a secret marriage entails lying all the time, hidden children (which is haram because kids could grow up and mistakenly marry their siblings not knowing that they even have those siblings). All of these sheikhs that hide this obvious knowledge for the sake of men's secret pleasures will be accountable to Allah. They are ruining lives and families by enabling lying.

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This is completely mental, psychological abuse on sisters! Sisters never marry an individual, marry a family, if his family doesn’t come with him to ask for your hand in marriage, if his 1st wife doesn’t even want to meet you it’s a red flag 🚩! Do not do it! Stop going into a marriage being ok that his 1st doesn’t agree to meet you or phone you, that right there already told you his home isn’t stable! Stop being desperate!!

If they did it to their first wife, what stops them from doing it to you? No-thing!

Ive been seeing my parenter for a few years niw and we disscussing me being his second wife,i wasnt ready but now i am. He said he doesnt have to tell her as we both in different countries & I agree I dont want drama n we been seeing each other for years I dont want to be his gf so im ready to settle down. His agreed to give me my rights as his been doing.

I just don't believe this should even be allowed. This why i see as a Christian the bible is against Polegamy because its nothing but problems. All I see is that men misused the religion to have multiple sex partners. The women involved dont seem to get along. Its no difference then a man with a mistress. Again whete do women benefit? They don't. God is not the author of confusion.

I think in islam u r allowed to lie to ur wife to spare her feelings. Saying he loves her when he doesn't etc.. but doing a secret marriage will psychology harm the sisters and if the women r broken the children will be broken. The men need to have foresight and do it in a way that's best for the ummah.

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It has nothing to do with been a revert, a man that is marring a sister as a secret is not willing to lose his first wife, you have been made a secret because you are easy to get rid off no one know about you that’s all, nothing to do with been a revert.

Whoever accepts to be a secret second wife deserves whatever happens later, give your self some respect by not accepting to be a secret in the first place.

Welcome to Islam. You beautiful Muslim women deserve better. You are being used for sex. I am sorry if that offends you but it is 100% sex only. He does not care about you or his first wife. If he loved his first wife he would not cheat on her. And YES! This is cheating. Don't you see that? Your religion makes cheating and adultery "halal". Open your eyes. OPEN YOUR EYES WOMEN. You are being manipulated by men. OPEN YOUR EYES!!! HE CAN MARRY ANOTHER WOMAN BEHIND YOUR BACK!! YOUR RELIGION ALLOWS CHEATING AND LYING!!!! Women you deserve better.

In the west second wives have zero rights !

Read the surah from the top ! cant just pull things out of context

He humiliated his first wife in front of his friends and family , that is emotional abuse

The first sister has every right to exercise her right for divorce if she finds out about a secret marriage. The husband has every right to divorce the second wife in order to retain the first , sorry second wives that is the risk you take and chances are that if he has had you sexually for some time he really got what he wanted from you and you will be the one to go .

It’s natural for sisters to get manipulated by men…that’s why they aren’t supposed to marry without a wali. I blame the wali’s a lot because they don’t protect the women as their job requires them to. If the sister’s wali is a random imam of a random masjid, he should treat her like he would treat his own daughter by taking time to find out exactly what she is and isn’t okay with and he should explain to her what she is getting into so she enters the situation with eyes wide open.

Please let Brother Gabriel finish his views because we're left with half story. Would be beneficial knowing the other part of his view point

Coming towards Judgment Day, more women than men. How many women are going to be left UNMARRIED? What are our sister's going to do?

Marrige shouldnt be secret dear my dear sister

Women accusing polygamy for their estranged marriage but I have seen many more failed monogamous marriage than polygamy

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Its the foundations of the many wives....which is wrong in the first place...one or all of the wife must be hurt...no other way round.

The sister in dark brown hijab is right in everything she said…and then these 2 men justifying the WRONG of secret second wife …May Allah protect us from these kind of men who justify their wrongs Sisters ! Never get justified for wrong acts!! Allah has given right to speak. Always speak like the last sister in niqab from the audience. And oh allah!!! This Ali guy doesn’t allow sisters to speak!! Himself Speaks a lot but doesn’t listen, doesn’t let others talk May Allah bless those 2 other men who remained silent or talked less instead of not speaking good

I am going through the iddah after being a second secret wife. I knew what I was signing up for in terms of not approaching the first wife and also remaining secret. We had quite a few discussions and saw a sheikh in advance. Marriage is halal and the first marriage and my marriage are separate. However, how my husband handled each marriage was within his responsibility. Because if he wanted to tell her eventually he could. She does not accept polygamy where as I am an older woman, I have adult children, I can no longer have children and due to very abusive past conditions in a previous marriage, I am not ready for a full time marriage. I accept polygamous marriage and if I was a first wife, I would be open to a second wife as long as how we are treated is sunnah. Equal, fair and just. My husband was very aware it was unfair to me in many ways and also to withhold knowledge from his other wife was unfair to her. After he began to suffer from anxiety we had a discussion and decided to mutually divorce. The purpose was for us to get closer to Allah SWT and as a revert I learned so much. My husbands intention to marry me were to protect me from the many men who were trying to take advantage of me as a new revert. I have learned so much about Islam and I am glad I had him for as long as I did. He showed me how I should be treated. May Allah reward him for helping me to be more steadfast in my religion.

Lets talk about the real 700lb Gorilla in the room. Part of the reason things like this are happening is because there is a desparity in numbers male to female and its getting worse. There are so many excess women. Many muslim men dont want a second wife because they rather have a second car or house or more money or whatever.

honestly i cant fiish the whole video it's too disappointing and upsetting, that there are men like this , using up the loopholes to swindle women out of their rights and happiness. May Allah deal with these men harshly and swiftly, i have no respect for them

i was just in the same situation, i married a man i just met in secret, only with a person who married us off and 2 witnesses. i was hesitated at first but the emotional takes me away, he convinced me that this is okay and we should not wait in order to save us from doing haram, which i agree. next day after nikah i found out that he has a legitimate wive and 4 children, PLUS another wife that i assume he also marry secretly. i definitely regret my decision and regret for being hasty and not questioning things through,i definitely asked about it but he gaves unclear replies and i was too in love to realize it . although in the beginning i made him promised that this is the best way in his knowledge (secret nikah) and that he doesnt have bad intentions in this i'm still worried if our nikah was valid or not. i admit that i am not a knowledgeable person in islam . i'm still disappointed, but during our few days together i grew proper feelings towards him and couldn't be angry of the things that in a normal circumstances would set me on fire. before you judge, yes i know i was stupid and careless about an important manner. when i confront him about the fact that he was hindering an important information he said he thought that i would accept. now he's left, back to his family in different country, we plan on getting divorce once i finish my next period. i would like to know if anyone in this comment can tell me was my nikah a valid one? because he was kinda lying to me.do we committed zina?

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I agree with you that this is about dishonesty not Haram. Dishonestly is a harmful virus on relationships. Like some viruses it could kill the relationships but in some cases even if the virus does not kill you it can still leave you damaged very badly.

Sister Allah has never instituted divorce, divorce is not allowed in Islam, it's cultural. The Christians that are not allowed to get divorced are the Catholic. It's not across the board in Christianity. Salaam Alaikum !

Thank you for your honesty. What your saying is sadly too common of an experiences for soo many women. May Allah bless you and your kids with all that your hearts desire. ❤

If she don’t want u to get another wife and u know you’ll want another wife don’t marry her

Muslim women are also responsible for their own deen in front of Allah. Women need to learn their deen and the laws of Islam. Dont act like this doesnt come from Islam just because u refuse to accept it. U shouldnt pick from Islam which part u like n which part u dont like. It's the husbands' right if he is able to marry up to 4. So muslim women must accept this n stop rejecting this n then act shocked n betrayed when their husbands take their right. And u talked that these sisters were desperate enough by marrying someone else's husbands. Better to marry as a second wife than to be single and be exposed to haram. Stop being selfish. They wanna be in halal relationship to protect themselves from haram n to get the same right as they deserve to be protected n cared for n loved by men in halal. This is not being desperate this is their right. All muslim women need to stop acting like they r not muslims. Seek knowledge n accept ur deen.

You're talking about red flags.? You are red flags from head to toe. You have problems with femininity, submissiveness, allegiance, loyalty. It's the same thing with you over and over again. And then after years, when you get it and you're 45, you're angry again at men who don't want you anymore because you didn't want them in your youth.

Alhamdullilah I am blessed with a great business and family. Alhamdullilah I can potentially get a second and a third. But genuinely, I don't think I have enough imaan to be fair, I would rather focus on working on my current family then take on another blessing of a second wife. It's a responsibility as they have rights. I genuinely don't think I can be fair therefore for me just a Layman Alhamdullilah for what I have.

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SoubhanaLlah this is very sad to hear stories like this. May Allah protect all the sisters from men whose intentions are wrong. This is terrible if even our men who have deen, are not able to respect rights of others and manipulate sisters. If our own brother's don't respect us so who is gonna respect us and protect us then ? May Allah guide us all.

Asalamuwalaikum wa rahmatullah beautiful sisters. JazakAllahu khayrun for your efforts. Know that you touch hearts in a way only Allah swt knows subhanAllah I’m a revert of 6 years alhamdullilah. Alhamdullilah I’m in the in-between stage where I’m still finding myself. My mum passed revolt and my family have disowned me by the Mercy of Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى, He سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى knows what we don’t. Alhamdullilah I watch your podcasts to find sisters who I can relate to. You both bring uniqueness mashaAllah. Sister Aisha mashaAllah I see the nur in your face that I hope to attain barakAllahu feek, sister Amina, mashaAllah I see your raw truth and your vulnerabilities but your strength is admirable. I hope you’re both doing ok, please don’t stop your efforts InshaAllah Ta’Allah May الله سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى grant you both succeed in Dunya that’s beneficial to your Akhirah. آمين يا رب العالمين السَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ ٱللَّهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ

Yes , and if polgny happens is because it is the will of Allah it is written for whatever reason Allah knows best so don't hide let it be known the moment they want to go into it , communicate to their wife about it.Give her a chance to adjust to it all, and really work with her with a good Patience and love.

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I have been a victim of secret marriage, my husband was lying and deceving me for four years until I found out he had a second wife with a child in his country, this has traumatized me and impacted my childrens life. Was extremely hurtful and I won't wish this even to my enemy. I call this the ultimate betrayal. I've moved on with my life and realized that Allah had a better plan for me indeed. Sisters if you don't want your future husband to have another wife then be open with him and mention this in the Nikhah contract.