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❤totally get it

Such vital info. Thanks.

Thank you for this video, being listened to, feeling seen, heard, trauma appreciated and validated is something most AP’s do not fully grasp. Along with racial community with people that look like them.

Adopted at birth. It helps that you really get this and can explain it so well.

“Gave up the baby” is absolutely accurate. Why make the mom absent of responsibility? Are you kidding me? It’s not a power dynamic. Lots, in fact billions of women with zero power keep their children.

Hello, Can I suggest growing your CZcams channel?

Adoption is a good option for many. Abortion means killing the innocent. I guess there are that many uncaring women in the USA. The government could bring back childrens homes formerly known as orphanges. There needs to be more careful family planning and contraception such as vasectomy is reversible. Its better to get a vasectomy and have it reinstalled then get abortion mutilating and pulverzing the innocent and small. Abortion is gruesome never should have been invented as there was infanticide in ancient times. If you dont want the baby someone else does. Hippie communes such as the Farm in Tennessee provided sanctuary safe haven for babies and kids where their parents could pick them up when they were ready. Some families are more supportive than others. I think they should let preschool kids vote on abortion right or wrong. Don't be fooled by that woman's pleasant demeanor with a pleasant professional voice. Just because it can he hard to be adopted wondering about bio parents foster families can be coached as to how to answer this question Being adopted isnt so bad. Many people are thankful for adoption. You also have teachers who should provide foater care since they love kids and should earn extra money

Wow

This video is brilliant my younger sister is adopted and I'm a biological child, I didn't know how she felt and I still fully will never know, but the excercise with the mirror was scary, I feel so sorry for her, that migth be the cause of her gender dysphoria. How can we siblings help?

There is. Adoption is NEVER anyone's FIRST CHOICE. ADMIT IT.

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If you have a woke progressive world view that bases identify on race, then this training is for you. If you have a Biblical worldview that places identify in Christ, then you will only find a few valuable nuggets of information here, and there's very little helpful information about how to build actual character in your adopted children found in this video. It's all about race and not character.

Gross anti-adoption propaganda. It has been proven multiple times by multiple people that the strongest bonds are forged out of love. That is what makes a family. Not looking like someone, not blood, LOVE.

She sought him out and now is pushing back against him his love and also his time left here, very selfish person. No wonder both fathers are put out by her. She has a lot of work to do on herself.

I traced my birth mother in 2004,with social services it took about 16 months to get to where we found my mum and she agreed to meet the very special lady who helped me with the search. But my mum said no, I wonder if there was something about me that she realised she didn't like maybe. 2 years later I searched for birth father, found him but he found it funny, ignored me then messed about, he died recently. My adoptive parents, well, i honestly don't know why they had children. They had one naturally then adopted 4 of us, but bless them, they didn't like us, especially my poor brother and sister, I made sure I was OK. But now, they won't answer or have any contact with us and that's what is with me daily. I just want to say, if you lose hope in life and I mean hope, in everything every minute of every day, there isn't a single thing, single person or anything that can lift you. I don't think I can explain properly, but I hope no one else feels this, losing hope means you will let down everyone that is close to you. To be able to spend 5 minutes a month with someone who likes me, that I know why they like me would really be good.

I will always be an adoptee and I HATE adoption. I am so wounded and have never been able to fix myself. Adopted within first year by a parent and the mother despised me as I was fat and dark (I’m mixed race). She told everyone that the other 3 children were not adopted and that I ruined the family picture. She spoke to the other 3 children of birth parents who loved them and told me that I was a mistake and must never look. She was an alcoholic who was so abusive but loved on the 3 other pretty children that she adopted. Leaving this earth has always been on my mind. I attempted at age 20 and was brought back to life. I cried when I came out of the coma as I wanted to be dead. She died when I was 18 and I found my bio family when I was 31. The parents married and had my brothers. It’s somewhat helped me to heal but it’s also created a lot of pain as they are so fine and successful and I’m not.

Does trauma still happen to babies who were adopted at birth?

Well I’m 100% against abortion. But I am a huge fan of Sinead I grew up with her music through my mom.And even if I don’t agree with her on everything I still live by her that she was going to speak up for what she believes in, and probably sacrificed a lot of fame and commercial success in the long run.

This all makes complete sense to me ,I am an adult adootee who struggles with very severe depression and anxiety ,my birth mother was young and still living with her parents when she conceived me ,she was told from the beginning that she couldn't possibly keep me ,and she will have her baby adooted ,she was forced by her parents and coerced by the authorities and the church,this was England in 1961 . I can only imagine how upset and stressed she must have been during the pregnancy ,she has told me that she was forced to hide the fact she was pregnant ,and made to feel ashamed for becoming pregnant at 17 and unmarried ,so my birth comes from grear shame and anxiety and stress . No wonder I feel as I do . Its obvious that the emotional and physical health of the mother will directly impact the child ,how could it not do so ? The mother and baby are virtually as one .

Look, I don’t know if you’re adopted or not but you’re idea that there is no feedback from parents that are not genetically related is just completely false, and honestly dangerous because it invalidates the very important feedback that many adoptees are given. I believe that we receive feedback from our parents, but just like everything else this phase in our development is not entirely genetic and not entirely situational. My twin and I were adopted at one, and we have a ton of pre-verbal trauma. it’s not even close to the trauma. I experienced after adoption. I lost both a genetically related twin, and a non genetically related older brother to it Additionally, it is wildly dangerous to make it sound as if for an adopter to be happy they must meet their genetic parent I did that and it was a complete total catastrophe Someone needs to pull their head out of the clouds and start looking at adoptions and the real harm they cause by being romanticized in this asinine way We have brain damage , we have a lack of object and emotional permanence and a bunch of other symptoms of brain damage but instead of real treatment, people try to talk us out of symptoms with some magic they think we just don’t understand. Ugh. People. Get a BRAIN SCAN. you probably have ADHD and there’s a reason you don’t remember your childhood , and though therapist like this can be helpful in dealing with the symptoms they have about 0% efficacy in fixing brain damage. Adopted children are coming into a home at a horrific disadvantage, and the result of willful ignorance is unspeakable. If a first time adopter doesn’t have time for a parenting class specific to adoptees, then they don’t have time to be a parent The idea that children arrive at adopters homes, as if they were a flavorless piece of dough to be molded is just dehumanizing and awful.

Can you please help me my foster parents don’t know how

Where's the support for the couple who adopt??

You only have one mother. Once she is stolen or gone or leaves that's it

My twin sister and older brother (adopted 3 years before we were,) have both died by suicide after being adopted into a violent family. Because my twin and I were adopted after boding with my grandparents for a year ( bio mother also committed suicide,) I have no object or emotional permanency. This disorder has resulted in a separation from my only child (an adult,) and I am completely alone family wise. My chances of dying the same way feel overwhelming. I have become homebound since the separation; it feels a lot like someone with a mortal fear of snakes waking every day in a snake pit.

He's like a carbon copy of his father

The balls it must take to get up there let alone the prep and memorization. Love to see it you’ve earned your flowers and more👏👏👏👏

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LOOK FOR THE POSITIVES THAT CAME OUT OF IT ALL. THEY R THERE IF YOU LOOK HARD ENOUGH. MAYBE THE WHOLE XPERIENCE MADE YOU A MORE INDEPENDENT, AUTONOMOUS....SPIRITED.....STRONG BEING!

TROUBLE IS....WHEN PSYCHIATRY GET THEIR MITS ON YOU!!!!!! DRUGS LABELS.....MORE SHITE ON TOP OF SHITE. HA . KEEP YOUR SENSE OF HUMOUR....AND JUST DO YOUR OWN THING. WE ARE...IN A SENSE...IN OUR OWN LITTLE PRIVATE CLUB. DONT BE NAIVE AND THINK ITS ALL A BED OF ROSES FOR PEOPLE GROWING UP IN THEIR BIO FAM. THEY HAVE THEIR PROBS TOO. EVERYONE ON EARTH HAS UNIQUE CHALLENGES. THATS LIFE!

BE CAREFUL. THERE ARE MATURE AGED ADOPTEES WATCHING CONTENT LIKE THIS. IT CAN BE TRIGGERING. PLEASE WARN IN ADVANCE. IT IS IMPORTANT NOT TO FOCUS ON LOSSES AT THIS STAGE OF LIFE. ESP WHEN NOTHING CAN BE DONE TO CHANGE WHAT WAS. I HEARD A MAN SAY THAT ADOPTEES INCARNATE TO GET THE BIO PARENTS GENES, BUT THEY CHOOSE THEIR ADOPTIVE FAMILY AS THEY CAME INTO THIS LIFE WITH A SIMILAR VIBRATION. YES, TO THIS DAY I STILL GRAPPLE WITH ALL THOSE HEAVY EMOTIONS YOU DESCRIBED. THROUGHOUT MY LIFE I CRIED AND YELLED WITH GRIEF AND ANGER, ITS A WONDER THE GODS DIDNT HEAR ME! SO STRONG...SO REOCCURING. BUT...I SOLDIER ON. I SURVIVED MANY MANY THINGS. I AM A SURVIVOR. I AM RESILIENT. AND...I KEEP LEARNING HOW TO LOVE ME BETTER EACH DAY. CHEERS EVERYONE. EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON. CHOOSE NOT TO BE A VICTIM! WHAT I DISCOVERED WAS THAT BOTH PARTIES ( PATERNAL SIDE NEVER PURSUED ) WERE NOT INTERESTED IN HOW I FELT ABOUT THE WHOLE SITUATION. REUNION WAS A SEMI DISASTER. I NOW FOLLOW MY OWN SPIRITUAL RECONNECTION WITH SOURCE. I NO LONGER GO LOOKING FOR THAT ABANDONED/WOUNDED INFANTS NEED FOR LOVE, AFFECTION AND APPROVAL FROM OUTSIDE OF ME. IT WAS A FUTILE PATH. ALSO IN MALE PARTNERS. I AM IN A 52 YY BODY NOW. BOTH ADOPTIVE PARENTS PASSED IN 22/23. NOW IVE GOT THE REST OF WHATS LEFT OF MY LIFE TO LIVE. IM MORE INTERSETED IN HOW TO GET THRU MENOPAUSE NOW.HA.....WE ARE ALL STRONG. MOVING FORWARD! ❤️👍💕👏🏼🐘🙏

This dude is trash & knows nothing about adoptees. 🙄

lame

Good job❤

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The lady is a true legend and respected by fans and musicians alike.

Rest in peace to all the victims

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I was adopted at about a week old. When My adoptive parents brought me home to introduce me to my extended family, most of them would not touch me and that continued through my life. I was also a fair game amongst my two brothers and a couple of my male cousins for sexual molestation and aggression. They Justified this because I was adopted and I came from a questionable woman. It is surmised that my birth mother became pregnant with me during an affair with a married man. All of this has created a huge wound. I have very little self-worth and have struggled with that my whole life. Abandonment is something I just fully expect from absolutely everyone and it seems to be my reality. I am 57 years old and I am just now recognizing some of the wounds in relation to my adoption

What should i say then??? How to be supportive?

Yeaaa I'm adopted too from Colombia, yeaaa. Adopted 3 mos old

I'm 24. Finally have the space, time and environment to heal. It's only beginning to truly dawn on me. Ive never lived. My whole life has been spent purely surviing and im only now just living. This healing is terrifying. So worth it, but lonely and terrifying. To become who ive always been i must endure. Move foward. Much love brothers and sisters. Our position in this world is unique. A gift and a curse. It's time to open the gift.

As an adoptee that went to a different race and culture I can understand this dilemma that many (if not all) adoptees face. I can relate to the loss of identity that we face, even and maybe especially, once we meet our birth family. We don't belong to either world. I say all this to say, I dont like seeing all of this anti-adoption conversation. It's far from a black and white issue. We are all faced with difficulties in our lives, ours may be unique in some ways, but I am always grateful that my mother choose to give my sister and I up for adoption, rather than have abortions. I have negative feelings towards adoption, but I tread lightly on bringing these issues to light, for I dont want to dissuade those looking to adopt. I do feel honest conversations need to be had in order to possibly make adoption easier for the adoptees (if only for some).

Ok. My twin sister and I were put up for adoption My 19 year old mother , although my grandparents had had 100% custody of us, and taken care of us for an entire year (since birth,) decided she did not want us around at all, and apparently thought this would be a good way to get back at her mother. I am not making this up. We ended up in a horribly violent home My twin sister got close with my birth mother after reconnecting in our 20s It was incredibly toxic- too much to say in this post , and both of them died the same way within three months of each other about 10 years ago. The last time I saw my birth mother was at my twins funeral It did not go well The fact that anybody would simplify this subject to this degree is laughable You cannot reconnect an arm 20 years after it’s been cut off The stump scabbed over ugly or beautiful. What kind of idiot writes a book about that ?? Seriously it is so dangerous. Such high expectations put on such a uncertain result Asking someone to hinge their mental well-being on a person that has already shown that they don’t want to be responsible What is this person talking about?

I think that the much wider point in concern is the literal brain damage that goes untreated and unrecognized in adoptees. Compounding, what was already a horrible trauma