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Brilliant, THANKYOU Dr. Neufeld, mother&teacher from Egypt.

Attachment and counter-will! The two concepts that revolutionized my parenting style.

Where can we see the rest of the podcast / conversation?

Can't find words to express how much I value this content you're sharing for free; the goodwill, the experience & the humility driving it, and just how much potential for compassion, strength and common good it offers. It breeds good, for all of us, together. Thank you all from the other side of the globe.

Thank you!

Thank you very much, very informative, very significant insights.

I disagree, the sole thing that made our generation parenting so difficult is loss of communities around. We spent far too much time with our kids and it is exhausting. I spent all my childhood playing in the street, spending weekends at grandparents with my cousins. Now I have to compensate that to my children by playing with them etc. Nightmare

The Bible says that after the existence of sin we are not born perfect, but condemned by sin and hence this aggression in children and adults. The more people reject God and wade in various sins, the aggression and many other problems will increase. Returning to God and his principles of life can only remove these problems, but the tendency to evil will only be removed when God recreates us as perfect, and this will only happen at the resurrection........ "Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity. In sin did my mother conceive me." Psalms 51;7 "For I know that in me, that is, in my flesh, dwells no good thing. For desire is present with me, but I don't find it doing that which is good." Romans 7;18

Yes, natural, intuitive and instinctive.. also, "choice of words/ vocabulary" that we chose to use/ listen.❤❤❤❤❤

Thank you !

Dr Neufeld is absolutely spot on!

Thank you Dr. Neufeld! Thank you for putting the emphasis on the protection, support and nourishment our children need instead of focusing on results prematurely 拔苗助长. May we remember we are nature - with each meal we eat, each drink of water, each breath and the beating of our hearts, may we remember we are integrally connected to the world we have collectively devastated in so many ways and take up our responsibilities to heal

I like the concept but feel like it might be missing the other half of the story. In other words, is one always supposed to be dependent on the others? Is the Alpha always tied to their dependents? In marriage, if one spouse is dependent on the other but the other doesn't have the same level of reciprocity, it seems to me that could be highly problematic. Likewise for parent-child relationships. To use your example of fruit being dependent on the tree, does the fruit not fall off the tree and become its own tree, no longer being dependent on its parent tree?

Found this to be very healing on a personal level thank you

I cannot wait for this conversation ❤

Deeply resonates with my felt experience growing up and my own inner knowing. Thank you for putting words to this deep deep truth and naturalness. Could listen to you for days....

This is such an inspiring talk. I will highly recommend this to other families and friends.

You're a god send 🙏

Very insightful!!!! 🙏

This is definitely a wake up call for me, everything you talked about is the way I feel.. frustrating and lashing out.

So much wisdom, thank you for sharing this.

Genius ! Thank you , Dr Neufeld.

such invaluable information!!!

At t=10:50 is the concentrated wisdom: "you can't get to independence without going through dependence ... and some dependencies are forever"

At t=8:49 there a true piece of wisdom: "[lets] take care of the needs and not the demands"

Thank you for sharing this

Okay? So where’s the solutions, examples and scenarios? I feel like he’s using a lot of words and concepts but not explaining how or what the issues are. Everyone raves about this guy for learning how to parent but I have watched so much of his stuff on youtube and feel like I haven’t learned anything practical that I can apply, just concepts that I don’t know how to put into practice,

40:00 "I couldn't teach him; he didn't love me": Socrates. Oh what a profound quote. One could spend their entire life not grasping it's significance.

i've unfortunately missed signing up for this webinar series.. would there be an option to watch the videos by purchasing or watching them on the neufeld institute website? This work is so important!

Incredible!! Wish I could just absorb the wisdom!

Thank you for bringing to my attention to this book, it is now on my list "to read". To my dismay, a colleague of mine convinced her daughter to sleep train her 6 months old infant. She is 7 months old and is now refusing food, she had no issues before. As a midwife interested in attachment, my first thought was that the connection and trust between this infant/ mother had been damaged and that was the infant'response to it (if no other physical reasons). I just wondered how it could be since rationnal thinking is not yet developped at that age. In view of what you talked about, it sheds light on this behaviour.

Hello. I went to your website and clicked all the links as I am trying to purchase the Mandarin translation of “Rest, Play, Grow”, but came up with nothing. A direct link in reply to this comment would be very much appreciated.

Where can i find the rest of the conference ? Thank you indeed it is very helpful and truly insightful ! I enjoyed watching this for few days now to get the information stick . 😊

Please put here or in the description box the links for this workshop.

Wrap your clothes around the baby (the smell stays with them) 25:24 Sing in the house so the baby can hear you close 25:40 Utilise all senses. Must have a sense of connection before going to sleep (they must sense that you’re the Alpha) 26:50 Create the village - make times for others to hold and care for and bond with the baby 27:28 (before 5 months of age the baby doesn’t have ‘stranger protest’ and can transfer attachment with others) Shyness - shows that you have to create a bigger ‘village’ for their personality to show 30:10 (bring school teacher into the village)

What do you do when your 16 year old autistic son is still so dependent on you, but outwardly looks like he can care for himself so that others and even myself wonder if he’s just manipulating me? And on top of that is having anger outbursts and aggression towards me? Is he just having a very bad attitude like people tell me (and say I’m enabling him and I should send him to live with his dad) or do I continue to let him live with me and thus how to make him more independent at 16? And not be aggressive with me

Its too disjointed to understand.. Just honest feedback.

Thank you, this is an excellent perspective. Useful and transformative.

Amazing lecture! I don’t get why so few people actually watched it. People should watch it.

When my twins were very young (2-3 years old) my husband would travel for work a lot and they were constantly panicked. We ended up making a picture book for the kids called “We love Daddy!” full of photos and stories of them together, and I sewed a very simple “Daddy Doll” for the kids. They slept with it every single night for years! I love hearing the science behind why these strategies worked so well.

Thank you for this great appetizer for this wonderful enlightening conference! I loved ALL sessions! And I look forward to the next conference - as well as to Deborah’s book on food and relationship and gathering to eat… Maria from Germany

I will pay the fee to watch the full conference but why was there no advanced notice on this 'Neufeldmedia' CZcams channel about this conference? I had no idea that this had taken place. I will know better for next year.

The Croods' sleep pile seems like a good move, doesn't it?

🌳🤘🏼🌳🤘🏼Your empathy tree rocks! Your peach tree reference makes empathy to understand. Thank you! 💙💛💙💛

Thank you Mr. Neufeld! I feel so priviliged to have your wisdom guiding me as both a mother and a teacher. Just breaks my heart to see so little of you mention in my school, society, country...here in Spain the paradigms favour peer orientation and the results are devastating...

I am so glad that siblings were brought up. I actually thought that the moderator addressed (from her own parenting experience) the question more clearly than Neufeld did. He seemed to impose a hierarchical relationship between older & younger siblings. But the moderator explained that the horizontal plane of social relationships actually made itself felt in the family unit, so the parent had to bring the focus back to them as the consistently safe attachment, and to step back from the sibling dynamic. Very clear example & explanation that was then picked up by Neufeld. 👏🏽 to both

The Most Loving I have listened to, ever! What a Beautiful Soul you are, who can put words, on this, in a simple way, everone could be able to understand. I Feel, the difference directly today, and thats a Miracle, cause life, can shut this down in all of us, not only children. I have worked like this all life, comes naturally when it works well in us. And brings Happy Feelings in All, when its natural daily. We need Caring Good People around, Always. And in all work with human beings being humane :) So much missing today, in schools pre-schools, youngsters educations, and old age homes in my country, too often. This is what all young persons need to Feel, its comes Natural, when we are natural and direct between us all. Whitout building good relations, we cannot give this naturally. So Beautiful to listen, when someone set words, to all one has done all life, and to have this as an inner driving force to Share all this, is so Important to us all <3 Thank You so much!