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I love FRANK, HONEST

Best piece I've heard in my 8 years of sobriety, needs to be listened to over and over , there is so much to learn from it , thank you xx

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This is my favorite talk thank you frank m

Enlightening! I've listened a couple times. Made sure I had a pen and paper handy the 2nd time!

Break you down buld you up. Repeat the word simple brainwashing. But it works

10 years sober and im coming apart at the seams. no desire to get loaded whatsoever. im the type that would jump off bridge before i picked up again because it would be the same result if i did. not sure why im here but, searching i guess

It took 9 years for me to get over some stuff.God knew if i got ALL to quick i might go back out.i love that im " in the herd" as much as 1st year.gains and losses.what works, what doesn't.

Anything that starts out with the word “unpack” is worthless

Thank you for sharing!! 🙏🌞

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A relationship with God/Higher power will reveal all our shortcomings and provide a way to deal with life, people, places, things and ourselves in a healthy helpful way. Forgiveness is the key to this journey. A relationship with God is where true healing true power exists day night and holiday... Always there. spiritual sobriety emotional sobriety starts with admittance which leads to humble repentance and the narrow path of a sanctified dignified life where all the glory goes to our higher power, as we become useful vessels of grace mercy compassion and love. People places and things will let you down yes even AA will let you down however God will not. God got me to AA and AA got me to God... Thank God they didn't hang the horse thief after he sobered up. Aloha

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Very powerful.

I dare say that this letter sums up the ills of all humans, not just alcoholics. Social media and advertising have strengthened and entrenched these unhealthy dependencies. The younger generations seem to crave positive reinforcement to the point they feel they have to have it. Ex. "Using the letters of my name, describe me and what I mean to you".......we get that dopamine boost which is short lived. We mentally retreat into mild depression and low self esteem. So we make a post similar to the example I used. And we now need more of this reinforcement for us to feel good about ourselves. Yet at our core we don't really believe any of the things people are saying about us. We are dependent upon what others think about us. Can't we see how this is destroying us?

Thank you for this well produced media on an extremely important topic from an amazingly wise steward of psychology and spirituality.

This emotional sobriety letter and the references here really help to illuminate vital aspects of life experiences and how these concepts have great relevance currently. ☺️❣️👍

After going to AA for 3.5 years relapsing and trying to listen to some of those quoting the big book and talking a good talk I ended up in a treatment centre , for week upon week I had to learn to talk about my feelings . No quoting books or saying my sponsor says this or Clancy says that . Pure emotional work which set me up for a successful recovery in AA and NA . I see people many years sober in 12 step programmes for years sober who would struggle with the emotional work of group therapy .

Absolutely amazing thank you for sharing 🙏

Extremely helpful breakdown. I'm just about 60 days sober and I really needed this.

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Thank you

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Bill Wilson took LSD in 1956 and 1957 and recommended it for certain types of alcoholics. Interestingly, he had his revelation around the same time "Suddenly, I realized what the matter was. My basic flaw had always been dependence, almost absolute dependence, on people or circumstances to supply me with prestige, security, and the like. Failing to get these things according to my perfectionist dreams and specifications, I had fought for them. And when defeat came, so did my depression."

I really don’t know what to make of this. I don’t like it when parents are to blame for peoples problems. My dad was a great guy. My short-comings are not his fault. What happened to the God sized hole idea. By the way this shoulding business was put out years ago. I doubt he was the first either. People have to be somewhat pleasing to be in relationship.

Pure Gold.

Grateful to listen to this wow grateful for emotional sobriety

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I legit double checked that I hadn't accidentally changed my playback speed to half speed 😂😂

Who owns that hill

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Happy Sober day One day at time I can't do this by my self

I had to identify my alcoholism before I could find a power greater than myself like the big book says but I had to identify the alcohol problems

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Thank You I have heard lots from Frank but I truly love this talk in particular

"Being convinced, that Self, manifested in various ways was what had defeated us". Big Book

My p etdinal disappointment is not getting to hear Bill's message..... So.... My personal opinion is this is quite the scientific involvement study in the subject material... tho it seems to take so much away from simple message & personal discernment from reading or simply listening to Bill's written letter. Would've been easier(( for me )) to understand & comprehend if the study you offer were after listening to his letter in it's entirety . This process offered confused me. I don't even remember what small portion you read before your interpretation of what he offers. He said something about his fear of great depression taking over again deeper than his previous experience of it. I cannot hear Bill's message here all. I completely understand all your quotes from all the dif people offering insight into this personal recovery from source of our immaturity in relationship intimacy with Self~God ~ Then Others, incuding all dif Personal relations with institution's ~ employment all areas of living life......accountability respond~ ability rather than re~ action from source of previous limited (ineffective) unconscious past influences Us entiry unaware ......by our own means.... of why we keep finding ourselves in same experience of feeling & perceiving we sre not living in our desired state of reality~ which is contentment in our own skin in our own experience.... without something from outside ourselves ingested or acted upon to give temporary relief from the disturbing unrelenting same experience no matter what we seem to to do of our own resources to evade the irritable restless discontentment we've attempted compulsively to self medicate with all manner of substance people places things. WITH AN ALCOHOLIC THIS IS DEADLY BECAUSE OF THE PHYSICAL DEMAND FROM BODY'S CHEMICAL REACTION TO THE SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN PHENOMENON OF CRAVING CREATING DEMAND FOR MORE ALCOHOL WHICH WILL KILL A REAL ALCOHOLIC.. This cycle of dependency is lived out in all areas of our lives re; emotional sobriety or~ rather~ mature healthy emotional Recovery = contentment in relationships~ life experience no matter the circumstance. THERE ARE VICTIMS IN THIS LIFE. THERE IS OPPORTUNITY FOR DIF dif PERCEPTION ATTITUDE WITH COPING WITH THE EXPERIENCE OF BEING A VICTIM. Our words have severe powerful consequences upon others and our reality. WE NEED TO BE AS ACCOUNTABLE AS POSSIBLE FOR OUR WORDS POSSIBLE EFFECT UPON OTHERS.... OUR brothers and sisters ...... We do influence the reality of OUR WORLD Living life on God's H.P. (life's) terms. ***The only Authority on A.A. Is our Text Book 164 pages. ****This was my personal experience strength and hope only. ****

I am absolutely gobsmacked with listening to this!!! It is AMAZING 😱. Thank you for posting

This has been a real eye opener for me. Thanks Carole

This letter and Dr Berger's commentary are staples of my first 3 years of recovery. I love this

Herb K. and I have posted a video where we unpack the wisdom of Bill's letter. Check it out. vimeo.com/401519652

this hit me like a brick, im struggling in my marriage with lack of emotional health

Gravitas. That's what comes to mind with Frank M.

Paul, thank you. One hundred books in one video. Yes, yes to all that was said. I was ready this time to really hear it and own my shadow, codependencys., projections. Also what l introject and take personally - life, others BS and lack of boundaries l had, and allowing others to step on mine.

Alot of Alcoholic's are going to hell with thier false God's, Jesus Christ said I am the way the truth and the life, no man commeth unto the father but by me, I'm 20years sober from alcohol gambling, cigerates, drug's, mostly alcohol, I've only realized the bigger book of the big book the Holy Bible, pity no one told me sooner, Jesus died for your sins, ask him to forgive

Deeper fourth n fith step. Possibly with therapist. Every nook and cranny of our past. Childhood. Adolescence. Helping others is just a bandaid if we don’t take this self emotional journey. Where did these hurts come. Exactly. What deep emotional defect did I adopt about myself. God has to be trusted. Step 2 n 3. I have to find deep daily self acceptance. Self love. Then absolutely give love and direction away. Step 12.

Took Bill 20 years to realize this. He definitely wasn’t talking to Lois enough. She made an entire 12 step program to deal with EXACTLY this.

Very cool