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We work together and she never talks in the work chat. Never responds to anyone or sends emojis. She ended it last week and I’ve been a ghost. No contact whatsoever. Today she’s making jokes and adding emojis to everything. This isn’t her at all. I went Zero Dark Thirty.

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I did this for months, we got closer and closer, even sharing a bed again and being affectionate, but still saying they aren’t ready for a relationship and then found they were chatting to and pursuing others guys on line. So I ended the friendship

Soooo true!!! I am exactly in this situation! He wants us to be friends but I definitely know it is because he needs to process all the hurt, he needs time to restart the relationship.. I still feel that he has feelings for me but as Clay says it is the high intensity of the emotions that puts us apart... If this person means the world to you, you will be patient and wait enough time and work meanwhile to be connected and to restart the relationship. Nowadays I think people are so into immediate gratification and saving their ego that they are unwilling to make any sacrifices for their significant other....

Went no contact for 6 weeks then asked if he was ok he then said I was dead to him and swore so can’t see how to communicate now

How do I even get in contact when I’m blocked everywhere???

I have a child with a dismissive avoidant and I doubt she's changed enough to be a good partner for anyone.

Well they basically say got together due to trauma but i feel that's a big cop out 3 years together It was all due to trauma Sure 😅

My ex was with me for 8 months. Broke it off with me and I was replaced within a week. It is day 14 and I think he has moved in with her. 14 days in a row he has slept over at her place. I know this because I live 2 blocks away :/ and I pass her place to go to work and back home it’s so sad

its typically both, but if one party doesnt want to adjust and make some changes it wont work.

Be yourself but I think you still play it cool a bit. Don't seem needy and don't chase.

They moved really fast basically picked up right where we left off ..and posting like crazy on Facebook . We never needed to . We were happy . Plus met him 3 weeks after us .

I've been in no contact for a month. I don't want to contact her. I miss things about her but someone bailing on me let's me know they never cared. F-k her. F-k that.

Horrible advice

Ex reached out, says she loves me still and cant stop thinking about me. Took all responsability for the downfall of the relationship... we talked for a couple of days, flirted, even spoke about intimate things we had in the past, then she told me she wants me but cant right now because she is in a new relationship. That relationship is obviously doomed, she feels disconected with the new person. (In her words) Then told me we shouldnt talk at the moment. Does she need time to end things with the other person? What can i do? NC and let things work themselves out?

My ex and I were together for 4 years, he breaks up with me out of the blue. Dates another girl within 1.5 weeks, claims she’s the one. Am I done for? I have been grieving for many weeks, and he seems to be doing so fine and happy.

I spent a ton of time researching and finally came to the conclusion that I push healthy (available) men away with my neediness and attract emotionally unavailable men that I then spend all my time trying to catch because I’ve been conditioned since birth to chase after my mom and dads love 😢. Turns out he is a narcissist and she is emotionally shut down and oblivious. I’ve stopped dating to work on my trauma and the sht I’ve unpacked is bonkers. Turns out I have borderline personality disorder. Yay. A few years ago I just thought my family (including me) just had general dysfunction. To see it all play out all over again before my CLEAR eyes is so surreal I can’t even explain it. If you’re reading this and relate to a dysfunctional family- your parents might also be emotionally unavailable, which means either you are too or you’re like me and anxiously attached (fearful of abandonment).

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No no and no!

This is some next level nonsense!

After she met with her friends She has totally changed 😢

He started dating an old friend from his hometown within a month of our break up. She lives 3 hours away. I always thought he has an odd attachment to his "glory days." Idk what to think.

I agree. Needs to watch the whole picture.

Really needed this today. My ex that I was hoping to rekindle with just told me that he's moving in with his current girlfriend, so now I know I was just a rebound I feel crushed. Time to stop watching the get your ex back videos and start watching the revenge body workout videos lol

Be present and connect in the moment. Remember you have more in common with them than things different than us. Got it

If someone doesn’t confirm meeting or a call after a few weeks of ‘cave time’, either it screams insecure or just don’t care. It’s painful to believe either perspective and feel the lowest priority when an intimate relationship is one of the most important aspects of being ALIVE

My ex was ignoring all of my attempts to reach out. After a year of alternating no contact with reach out texts and basically not talking (only 1 response to a text) I finally just showed up at his house when I was in his part of town. He was willing to talk and even answered a text that I sent 2 weeks later. It's slow but at least there's progress When I saw him I asked if it would have been better if I'd shown up at his house sooner and he said yes. This is why you can't just try 1 thing, you need to hit the problem from different angles because you can't read their mind. If they still have feelings they may be wanting or needing something that you aren't giving and they don't want to ask for it In my case I was the dumper but he was pulling away and fading out and that's why I left and then he didn't want to talk about things afterwards. He's "broken up" with me post breakup twice now lol

We met in college but dated for 6.5 years. We hadnt seen each other in 7 years but have been hanging out with his friends for a month now and he invited me to see his parents while they were in town visiting and he surprised them with my visit

It just feels strange like your not together anymore If they cant communicate the reasons why they are pulling away And one of the reasons they left you was lack of communication Just seems very silly to me To be all oh hey notice you pulled away This could also make them annoyed. And lash out.

True if people have low self-esteem they don't have to be friends

So here's how I see it: Doesn't matter whether you blocked them or they blocked you Doesn't matter whether it was your fault or theirs or both The block happened for a reason and it should stay active If you notice that they unblocked you, use the opportunity to block them right back and keep it that way

In my opinion your ex dont want you anymore and there is nothing you can do when she ignore you

He started letting me down repeatedly ,not hearing me when i said my time matters. I had to let him go when he called me insecure for having standards . I could not allow him to have so much control over my resources. The wrong person will drop out of your life ,the right person will show they care.

Everyone else says it works you're the only one that says keep trying. I'm so confused about all of this 😅

lol i did all the things you said to do in the video, she wouldnt hear me until i left her alone for 30 days lol

you're wrong, no contact is good, especially if the other person aaks for the space.

is it crazy that i already knew what he was going to say just by looking at him

It hurts either way

He keeps saying we are over he has no feelings towards me, yet I’m not implying anything . I don’t push or anything we have had 4 interactions and he had came on to me , obviously I accepted bc I miss him but I’m just going on his wave but then keep getting told whoa whoa we ain’t anything we are over .. so I’m confused wtf I’m doing wrong

Mine said he wanted to make peace with me , that just meant him saying let’s make peace … nothing else .. oh wait just repeatedly telling me we are over and our story is done .. very confusing I thought making peace woulda came along with some words after being blocked for 6 months

(FACTS OVA FEELINGS). The Idea Tha Eu Got To Love Urself First To Find Someone Who Loves Eu Is WRONG Not Only it is Not TUU it Causes Peephole Extreme Pain and Causes Them to Approach Self-love From a Totally Wrong Angle

At what stage am I? she actually broke up with me yesterday and after some beg to at least be friends (that I regret) she been talking to me but she everytime that she wakes up she wakes up really cold and dry then after talking to her for a while later she is acting normally with me as if she was my friend but she is not flirty nor she says she misses us and stuff, she simply acts like a friend but suddenly later she is being dry and cold again, days ago she even asked us to be friends because things were not working but I insisted to continue one last time and she agreed but then when we broke up instead of wanting to be friends she just wanted to end everything and erase me from her life, even though I am ashamed of begging, that's where I am rn... so in which stage am I?

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What if you were the dumper? I did regret it at first and tried to fix it at first but she refused. She recently asked me if I spoke to her sister which I did at the time. Asked for her advise (my ex got furious even if I had just a sentence long conversation with anyone she knows). Do I ignore her?

Had a good break up didn't speak for 3 days they reached out Spoke everyday for 2 months Then felt communication was getting low Stopped communication feels like another break up 😂 Ouch

Amazing advice

Why my ex avoidant did not go to non contact phase? Everyday he txt me telling about his daily rouyine!!!!! I asked him to block me he said he cannot he loves me as a friend and trust me and told me i am his bestie forever ! What does he want im lost

What is the meaning of life? The answer is 42.

BS. So many things, alignment? Connection? Science, too many variables.

been 13 months since she left me. I tried nc, I wrote her after 2 months, I reached out so many times, even last month, but now I'm just drained, I just feel empty and I'm just trying my hardest to move on. I don't want to hear anything anymore about her, I'm tired of it, not speaking about her anymore even. I just feel so lost in life rn.