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Honestly shocked! That looks surprisingly good! Gonna put that one away in my noodle for later... (Sewing right now, hopefully not gonna have a throw it out the window moment, but of course, we'll find out)

what a beautiful goth joi goddess ( Gothdess ;-)

Great vlog!

whoo Hoo I love Bernadette Peters so much!

I have the strongest suspicion that you are anything but “stupid”. little bit distracted maybe, setting off to see one of your fav performers, as one would be. anyway, just had to stop the vid a moment to say that. 👍🏼✌🏼🖖🏼

Thanks for sharing your nose job story. I'm 63 and lopsided in the boobs... I'm still trying to convince the doctors to trim a bit off the left boob to reduce the stress on my back and left shoulder... wish me luck as I'm poor and in the USA.

My dad changes his surname too back in 1987. I am hungarian so he was called: Sandor Zoltan Balassy. The first 2 names are first names, but you can also use as surnames. So my dad left "Balassy" away and became "Sandor Zoltan". I became "Eva Zoltan". Then i married, got a new name after my husband, i SHORTENED my name "Zoltan Eva" to ZOE (In hungary you say surnames first...) Then i attached my husband's name to it and became "Szilagyi Zoe", or as you say it in the west: "Zoe Szilagyi"- which is my artist name now since years, i use this as a painter too.

Just suscribed, i love your style you are a REAL inspiration! I am already 58, an alternative female painter from Hungary- growin' up in Germany, lived for 1 year in the USA / Colorado- i am tattoo faced, pierced, with DIY dreads, i'll have soon one eyeball tattooed too. I decorate and make lots of clothings for myself and i LOVE DIY ! I like to find unique people online we need more and more nowdays!

With the bathroom thing for me it’s not about ppl judging me but about the fact that hundreds of ppl have sat on that toilet seat and it’s so unhygienic I’d rather go in bushes lol

So cute and cool, love it! :) really happy to hear you will be making a second one from the remains, the "sister" dress of the one you are wearing now! I hope you will make a video and show us that one too! I love your sewing tips, so punk & perfect! Going to fire mine up tomorrow and make something wild too! :)

It came out so so good. 🫶

Cute dress! It gives me ideas on what to do with a few older pieces I no longer wear. I find draping and pinning on a dresmakers mannekin easier then draping and pinning on myself. My back won't let me us a sewing machine so I gave it up back in 2005; and now I hand sew everything. So worth the time to make clothes that fit my own personality.

Buying a singer and learning to sew on your own is so iconic honestly

sounds like they had caught the scent of blood at some point and the trouble with that is that bullies never let up once they have. my Mrs had a very similar school experience as yours and that’s the only logical explanation she’s been able to settle on.

Nice boots! Many years ago I had a pair of 1920s logger boots that had about 1000 lace holes per boot. Took forever to lace them up but the feeling once you managed it was incredible! Felt like you could seriously go tromping through the wilderness and climb trees, go figure. Anyway, hope you’re enjoying your birthday kicks. 👍🏼✌🏼🖖🏼

thank you for sharing your weirdness. 🥰 👍🏼✌🏼🖖🏼

You could be a model.

I get you

I'm old and I take a pee,then all the other women holding it in start peeing, letting me drown out their sounds🤣🤣🤣

I dig your videos

lmao the bathroom thing yeah, i was just so socially anxious when i did that. hearing you talk about it reminded me how irrational it is. though that’s how anxiety disorders work, you know it’s irrational you just cannot stop. it gets better though 😊

I’m a 60 yo straight man with no desire to ever wear makeup of any sort and I just watched this whole video and found it quite interesting. I have no idea what that says about me but I don’t really care and I’m sure no one else does. happy to have watched BM be BM. 👍🏼✌🏼🖖🏼

Social media has given everyone an unrestricted megaphone, but most people lack the confidence to shout through it. So instead of saying actual things that make others think, but might judge them on, these middle-classists ask questions. carefully crafted to give the impression that their lives are so supreme that the only worries they have are whether the Autumn-term sock colour at St. Barnaby's will be Burnt Umber, Russet or Startled Fawn.

As one of those bald, (late) middle-aged men I can only apologise for the pathetic state of bald, middle-aged men these days. Most of them are narrow-minded, self-satisfied AND self-hating wankers who’ve responded to the existential angst of a worthless life and looming mortality by being aggressive- largely abusive - arseholes. Avoid, ignore and forget is almost always the best plan. 👍🏼✌🏼🖖🏼

1. Nth generation Capitalist drones. Massively over-programmed to consume come hell or high water and shit-scared to look stupid by being different. 2. Shit-scared to be looked down upon for having “nasty” sounding body functions. 3. Was an Android guy forever until I _seriously_ tried an iPhone three years ago: it’s just better. Better software, better interface, better Support, better security etc etc. I’d never go back. And mine is a 12 btw, no issues using it 3 years on. I will admit though, much more freedom to do as you please on Android, if you’re into that for whatever reason. 4. No, their parents Did Not teach them right and wrong and are generally shit-scared to do anything to curb or correct their behaviour. So they’re undisciplined little shits who are used to doing whatever TF they want. PS. Have fun in London, try Joy King Lau if you like Chinese. PPS. Winge or not, still fun to listen to you have at it. 👍🏼✌🏼🖖🏼

as a teenager, i do not understand teenagers (and people who steal for no good reason (especially "for fun") are the worst, like i get stealing if you're desperate, but it isn't a cool thing to do)

at one of the high schools i went to, the girls would immediately turn the hand dryers on before they’d go into the stall to do their business. like i understand wanting noise if you’re about to nuke the toilet, but they’d do it for everything, it was so weird 🥴

1) It may be that they're afraid of social consequences for expressing themselves, but hopefully it's because they choose another way to express themselves and just want their clothing to blend in rather than stick out. 2) This probably isn't most of the people you're talking about, but I'm a non-passing trans woman and every time I have to use a public restroom I have to make a choice between humiliating myself or risking making others uncomfortable, both of which I hate doing. So in practice I only use gendered public restrooms if it's an emergency. 3) The iPhone business model is built in part on peer pressure: when two iPhones message each other, the messages come up in a different color and have more features than when an iPhone and Android message each other. Some people are really bothered by this, so they judge people who use Android. 4) Teens steal a lot because they want to rebel against authority but have enough empathy to know which crimes will hurt someone directly and which won't. Also, they're usually broke. I think hanging out in odd places has just always been a teenager thing; I know I did it as a kid but I don't really know why.

If I had extra hours in London I would go shopping for vintage and/or antique pins & jewelry... I like the touch that older crafted pieces add to my outfits. I hope your show is a good one.

I wish I could change my name but you can't really do that in Greece

I will never stop being alternative and normalacy is a contrivence

😊 rather charming tbh. 👍🏼🖖🏼✌🏼

I started dying my hair at 11.. from my natural mousey blonde to black and dressing metal/goth.. since then my hair has been every colour apart from green including an offensive bleach blonde. Later I went through a very dark period in my life (an abusive relationship that spanned 13 years in total, it was a slow burn with a explosive last several years.) during that time I went back to black hair and only wearing unflattering black clothes to hide my overweight and self conscious body. And honestly the thought of wearing anything other than black brought so much anxiety (still does but less). So I ditched my ex and cut my hair that was down to my butt, bleached it once more. I dyed it pink for about a year while the natural was growing through. After 19 years I finally can see my natural hair and I'm actually loving what I thought I always hated. I did it for curiosity and really my hair needs a break after all this time 😂. As for clothes. Well I'm in the process of throwing out all and I mean all of the old frumpy clothes I wear just to cover myself up. And I'm changing my style from goth/metal to what suits me and who I am now and what I've always been but didn't know how to express. And that's a witchy/hippy vibe.. so still a lot of black there but I got a lot of colourful things to compliment it too.. long flowy lacy heaven. So.. in short I could never change to a trend setter but I've definitely changed my style. But my change was more about finding my self 10 years later than everyone else did😂 P.S I stopped wearing makeup after I finished school for the DV reasons mentioned above and never went back.. only times I've put corpse paint on during that time or since was for gigs

Seriously, the disdain you have for the "trend followers" as you call them literally radiates from your body language and the words you use in this video... You're obviously calling them trend followers because it's your way of referring to them as mindless sheep who blindly follow the herd and you saying this allows you to feel superior to them in the process. It's also delivered in a passive-aggressive tone which signals there's some bitterness towards this group of people. I would say something bad happened in your past and you now associate this group of people as the root-cause of that bad thing that happened to you. If I had to guess, it was probably something to do with bullying? Also, your need to convince us you're a local celebrity is quite frankly off the scale. How you lean forward then point towards yourself with both hands and also say phrases like "I'm not exaggerating" and "I really, really am" shows a dire need for us to believe you. People who are actual celebrities or important figure-heads don't behave like this because these thoughts don't even enter their mind, let alone the need to broadcast it because it's already assumed by the celebrity that everyone already knows this. This tells me you have a dire need to feel important/relevant which you obviously haven't achieved yet, because like I said, people with high status you claim to have don't need to broadcast it like you just did. I could go on but I'll end there. BTW, I hope this doesn't come across as an attack on you because you do seem like a genuinely nice person. I just found you so interesting - not because of the way you look but how you blatantly tell on yourself without actually telling on yourself if you know what I mean.

Yes, as someone who dresses conventionally and socially acceptable I do wonder on occasion. I say the words socially acceptable because my appearance does not cause arguments with my loved ones, and I do not receive negative attention from strangers. I have friends who play with glamour as a sort of lifestyle if I am articulating it correctly. I have a friend who is somewhat gothic but also into Victorian fashion and designs her own clothes. I find alternative fashions somewhat interesting, they can be transformative and exciting. Though I do think alternative looks require a time and financial commitment to maintain. I think I would find it challenging to find something I would stick with as well. Though I do find the conventional fashions today to be a bit frumpy, bland, plain, not overly exciting. I do long for something creative, unique, something with drama, but do not how. I have so much to consider, such as my profession which most clients trust the professional business-casual look. I think people who dress alternatively are absolutely fabulous and I admire their commitment and willingness to be brave and explore the wonderful world of alternative fashion.

I stopped dressing alternativer because my priorities changed. I want to wear comfortable clothing that is easy to move around in, and i want to spend very little time on my appearence because i dont feel like my reflection in the mirror is as important to me anymore. But sometimes i wish i still wanted to dress like that, just to signal to other people that i KNOW that i am a Weird person. Because now i look normal but am still weird, but other weird people is but off by my looks (they believe i am mean or "popular"), while the normal people is put off by my lack of understanding for advanced social rules.

i assume the trend follower girls also put a lot effort in it. they also need good taste to put it together well and many times theny also need a nicer body to look good in those cloths or to be able to find pretty ones (like you have less options if you are xl+). all the not alternative girls are just one category - trend follower? the whole thing sounded a bit immature honestly. i don't consider myself a trend follower, i simply buy what i like and what fits me well. i found some brands/designers with simple, comfy and elegant stuff and i tend to shop there. maybe in the future i will make some stuff myself because many times i can't find what i want exactly. you can also wear whatever you want. it's natural if our taste changes. mine also changed. we should feel comfortable in our cloths and you can still express yourself

While I appreciate the normal aesthetic I just can't dress that way because my clothes give me so much happiness. I love getting dressed in my silly clothes and to take the silliness away would just take away such a simple and easy joy from my life when this world is so hard.

I'm a 51 year-old woman. I haven't followed trends in a while. One thing for sure: I don't wear much make-up (mascara and lipstick,.that's all). I never did. I stopped dyeing my hair 2 years ago, and I wear my salt and pepper mane...I refuse to cut it short. I wear it proudly like a wavy-curly shag. I look after it and love it. It's my pride and joy against what many women my age or hairdressers say. I have clothes that are 15 years old that I keep because I still wear them. I gravitate towards timeless casual. I wouldn't go back to flare jeans or cropped tops nowadays. In a nutshell, wear what you want to wear if you're happy with it. I've been a jeans and trainers lover (I wear vintage Reebok freestyle in baby blue) and that's what I want to wear.

Ooo! I found another genuinely different person! People like you (and me) make the world go round and enjoy doing so and are really interesting. I love finding people like you!

ouch! was shuffling down a beach when I was 10 or 12, drove a stick through my foot, entered between my big toe and the toe beside it and came out the sole of my foot about half way to my heel. very painful. and the damn stick was about 18 inches long so my father had to whittle off the bit sticking out between my toes before we drove to the hospital. don’t think eye drops would have helped. 😅 videos about your tattoos? love to hear the stories behind them, if you’re game. 👍🏼🖖🏼✌🏼

okay, okay, there’s your like! weirdo! 😉 👍🏼🖖🏼✌🏼

yup, gotta admit, that is one beautiful nose. I’ve always thought people’s noses tell you a lot about them: yours says “love what you see or sod off”. like someone said, could listen to you ramble on all night, no idea why. 👍🏼🖖🏼✌🏼

I occasionaly get a set of conventional generic clothes for thihgs like applying for benefits... I wear them only for such occasions as I am never comfortable in them... And yes most of them are pieces from thrift stores; but the occasional Walmart tank top has snuck in to use as underwear in the coldest part of winter.

I do a little of both. If I had to take a crack at describing my "normal" style it would be... punk rock street bike racer? I also haven't had a natural hair color since freshman yr of high school. Sometimes I just can't be bothered. Last time I went out to a bar with some coworkers. I was off, and most of my clothes were in the wash. So I showed up in red Dickies shorts, a white tee, and slip on shoes. I pulled my hair back and was wearing a hat as well. So you couldn't see my hair was amethyst purple. I have never heard "I have never seen you looking so normal" so much.

Im so glad i went to school in ireland irish girls are less dramatic... im not saying i didnt get bullied but it tends to be when everyone was tense .. like right before exams. And they all apologized later. I think they had more emotional intelligence and realized they were acting out because they were stressed or something was weird at home. US and UK schools seem way bitchier. Oh i did get slagged for being a lesbian a lot (im bi) so their gaydar was half right lol.

I’m not “alternative” and I’m certainly not a trend-setter so a lot of the “dress like this or that” stuff blows right by me. tbh I’m still the hillbilly I was when I was a kid, just 50 years older and now I wear mostly army surplus instead of fur vests and logger boots. like the man said in the movie though “I do like your vibe”, so yeah I can appreciate another person’s aesthetic even though I wouldn’t be caught dead trying it myself. I think a lot of people want to dress the way they feel inside and more power to them. 👍🏼🖖🏼✌🏼

Do you know what I think is REALLY interesting .. when someone mixed generic with alternative ..like just slightly 'off' THAT is so interesting. Neither here nor there but inbetween ..like a fashion liminal space.

i would love to dress crazy and different but actually, im just too lazy and i would need to buy new clothes and stuff (which i never do, two thirds of my closet are stuff from people i know / second hand) and i just dont have the money to do that. and i fear that i wouldnt dare to wear them

I am a 52 year old goth